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[@megandean5435]

Hello Stephanie and Sisters. This woman and community have truly opened my eyes to truth, health and freedom. I am off work through various methods, it is the best thing I could have done as a black woman. Thank you.

[@StephaniePerry]

I'm so glad to hear it megan. Take your time. 💗

[@RS-cz4rq]

Family and work stress caused me to have a heart attack at age 43, even though I didn't have any of the classic risk factors. I stopped working and was told by my parents that God let me get sick so I could care for them. Now that they've passed and my son is grown, everyone wants to know what I do all day. I do as little as possible!

[@rayebaldwin9086]

😵‍💫 Sheesh! After all that you been through they still want you to work to the bone! 😞

[@cynthiakhan5483]

You are my shero!

[@juliebrinkley4064]

I realized being on the hamster wheel all these yrs. I missed out on a lot. Bc I was consumed. And I was in dire need for self care. And the need to start resting & getting to know myself & start enjoying family & friends.😮

[@Afrovazi]

I am that black woman, in my 30s, moved to diaspora as an adult ( France) and currently at a crisis point where am tired of living for other people, fed up of doing a programmed life that is not even enough. This is me venturing into entrepreneurship and the KZbin space to finally do the things I have desired to do for a long time. Am here to stay for the nuggets, thank you for the encouragement.

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

Same here 30 with the same experience ❤

[@Afrovazi]

@@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara the realization hits hard but it's never too late 💪🏾❤️.

[@bridgetteswenson52]

I was just thinking about this and what you said before about purpose. Thanks for the video!

[@againstthegraingolf301]

Congrats!! I feel exactly where you’re coming from. As a 34 y/o who just quit my “dream job” to pursue my passion for LIVING and traveling and just existing on this beautiful rock, it is SO UNIMAGINABLY freeing to be at this point in my life. Hubby is retired and wants me to be able to live a life of leisure, not stress and upkeeping other folks standards. We can do WHATEVER we want to do! It’s great to have a support system, but when your family thinks you’re crazy and you only have one person on your side, you can still make your dreams happen. Stay strong and live a beautiful life of your choosing sis! Bless!

[@Afrovazi]

@@againstthegraingolf301 thank you for this, it means a lot to get such kind of encouragement. Best wishes in your new adventure 🎉 God bless you too.

[@grannie5304]

Yes. People get addicted to relying on you for everything. And once you've decided that you've had enough, you're called selfish when these folks are literally sucking the life out of you.

[@applejackzo]

100%

[@arielhenry4539]

Black women have the weight of the world on our shoulders. NO MORE. Time to put ourselves first.

[@applejackzo]

Yup!!

[@queenbee4350]

In the words of Dolly Parton in the movie Straight Talk, get off the cross, someone needs the wood.

[@LindseyDean-hp7qg]

And they're looking to see if BW are gonna survive the abuse but they need a permanent underclass.

[@livvylivinlife]

Reminds me of this quote: “The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” -Alan Watts Your hair looks beautiful btw Stephanie! 😍

[@BokMediaLife]

Her hair is literally always on point 🙌

[@saramatthews7159]

I love Alan Watts!

[@NOLA-le7rl]

Reminds me of this quote, The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away. If you don't know what that is, ask God. Most of us are miserable in jobs is because of societal expectations and going with the flow and not against the grain. 1 Peter 4:10 KZbin is good but don't let this take the place of the Bible. "First" seek the kingdom.... ask yourself who are you following. Let you tube be a supplement not the source ❤️

[@ahnraemenkhera7451]

@Livvybynature. I’m with you! Every being born has its own special invitation to Life and its own “purpose” for being here in its time! It is homo sapien, the talking primate which came up with the presumption of playing God in other people’s heads. It is that species’ propensities of greed, ambition, & of commercializing everything & everyone that have implanted the idea that the ant colony should be its model. Therefore, we all “must serve” some human schematic of enriching kings & queens (& their ilk)-or else “Life” has no “meaning” as compared always against those who’ve made themselves entitled to comfort & ease, or against their billions of minions they trot-out to give service medals & “big props” & other gestures of thanks to. See? Live up to Bob/Betsy here, they will be promoting. Implanting complete foolishness of reward-seeking into very young heads! So the cycle perpetuates: greed, ambition, falling-short, being unrewarded unappreciated unacknowledged & never grasping “why.” But still determined to keep making that ant colony happen! All they offer is drudgery, but we nobodies ought to just be grateful! So grateful. THAT’s our “purpose” in the eyes of most & ever has been-singing praises through pain in lands not our own. It’s a ridiculous business & is scarcely worthy of being called “living!” Let alone living with purpose. I say, let us JOIN Stephanie’s ethos & live unto US alone-just as everyone else standing on our backs has been doing, expects to always keep doing-until we walk away or drop, evidently, based on almost all of history. I see Stephanie Perry’s channel & program as its own social movement OUT of the grind of subconsciously-imposed & subconsciously-endured oppression. That means, nobody even has to “think” about it-it just IS. I hope we all find our own hidden pathways OUT into bliss. Bliss & ecstasy ARE living & purposes, too. Other species seem to have discovered this. Each day they live seems relatively happy & fulfilling to them-NOT building colonies. Stephanie’s hair is a Crown well-earned in my book! She looks regal!! And well-rested, too! Just a stunning & very statuesque lady! I’d be envious, but I’m too old for that kind of stupidity & I was raised not to even bother when I was very young. “God gives Everyone something,” was a drilled-in phrase at home. Enjoy their presence, their presents, & your own most of all. Stephanie is our Gift! We are ours to each other! Blessings to All. 🪷🌸🌷

[@gracebayclt5511]

I love when you say ‘Bop around the world as a nomad’. It makes me smile.

[@patriciawilliams1375]

I want to live my dreams too I'm going on 73 and I'm thinking about a lot of things

[@aminawadudTLI]

I was fortunate to "work" (and be hugely successful and accomplished..) at something I love for more than 50 years. from studying to get the PhD to university professor, global advocacy. published author, trailblazer.. Because I LOVED it, I had trouble separating out what was done from obligation. So, although I retired early (in my 50's) I continued to DO all the same things but as an independent. Now. I really don't want to DO anything. To literally just stop and smell the roses. I just got residency in the SEAsian country of my choice after 5 years. I am building a house where I wont have to pay rent for the rest of my life. Yeah, I think rose smelling might just BE the thing. Thanks for what you do.

[@allisonrowe3683]

I so needed to hear this today. I'm 55 years old and I don't want to jump through anymore hoops.

[@PressedApples]

I've griped to my therapist a few times now that once I began approaching 30, my "purpose" had shifted, causing what feels like a loss of direction. And I've said to her "I don't have the desire to be excellent, I just want to be!" I'm struggling to find what it even is I'm interested in. This video is right on time! I have never truly given myself the time and space to know me. Thank you!

[@kathebernard8307]

Same!

[@applejackzo]

That exact sentiment hit me a few weeks before I turned 29 in January. I’ve arrived for excellence in EVERYTHING, but I’m tired now 😅

[@alightforyourpath]

Same here! If you even ask me what I like or what I want to do, I honestly couldn't tell you

[@okayDei.n]

I personally think everyone has a calling, but it depends on how you want to live your life is your calling. For me, whatever God wants is my calling.

[@JoyfulOne468]

The Bible says love your neighbor as you love yourself so obviously Jesus wanted us to take care of ourselves first! I'm glad I'm finally free from that mentality of putting myself last. So thankful for your videos.

[@sixtyblackmystictraveler]

Fill your cup FIRST. WHEN your cup overflows THEN you share from that overflow. Thank you for being one of my life teachers and for so much more ❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@sabrinamadison8769]

I am already on the way out. I got plan A and plan B. Stephanie I can't never say thank you enough.

[@StephaniePerry]

💗💗 Live your dreams, Sabrina!

[@mammajamma4397]

Humanity can s u c k it. I'm here to love myself and be content with my existence. I've always felt this way, but I've never been brave enough to truly live that way because I've always been fighting my fear of poverty. Still fighting that fear but I'm working on it lol

[@OracleGoddessQueen]

I think we are here for a purpose. To have fun and enjoy life. Do it, teach it, model it for the rest of the world who are living in misery…🎉🎉🎉

[@RespectfullyNikki]

Message received! My purpose is just to live out my days doing what I want and what I get to do to keep myself in a joyful grateful place. I left the states over a year ago for Thailand with my 2 kids for ease and safety and no one here asks about your “purpose” or your work. I am claiming to be interviewed by Stephanie, Roshida and Adailia this year. ❤

[@smileyatthebeach3452]

Stephanie!!! I have said before...where is the merch?? "I don't care about your PURPOSE. How your dreams doin?"😍🤩, the mug, the tshirt, the tote bag

[@SAGITTARIUS312]

YESSSSSSS❗️❗️❗️🙏🏾

[@StephaniePerry]

But who gone maaaake ittt?? 😆 I'll get on it ASAP. 💗

[@smileyatthebeach3452]

Yayyy!!​@@StephaniePerry

[@denisechilds2391]

Yes I need a hoodie, like right now, a tee shirt, coffee mug, water bottle, hat, suitcase, tote bag, ....the WHOLE Line!!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰...Don't care about your PURPOSE Denise, How your dreams doin 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰, Sounds perfect

[@denisechilds2391]

@@StephaniePerry yaaaay!!!! Thank you!!!!!

[@debbiec9526]

Love this. Just BE.

[@jp6846]

"You don't get this glowing skin by being consumed" I know that's right!

[@fdoctor79]

Yes, I am all about putting God and me first above all else. Traveling graces! Tfs

[@denisechilds2391]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Do As little as possible, a life of rest and ease🌸🩷🌸, yes Stephanie indeed😊

[@Collageartist69]

I believe you should do what you want to do. We are only on this earth for a very limited time. We should be first. Absolutely. If you don't love yourself, who will.

[@LolaSunshine3535]

I receive this message but this HAIR is gorg!

[@latonyachester1035]

Her hair is everything!! I couldn’t hear her because I was too obsessed with her hair 😂

[@holisticnutritioness]

Yuuuuuup. Her hair is always on point. I'll give you a pass if you have holes in your shoes, but not if your hair is jacked up. She always changes it up, too.

[@TamikoRWhite]

Had to watch did video again because it's so inspirational. Stephanie Perry, you are such an icon to so many black women who are now the new face of black female global travelers. From Europe to Asia, to Latin America to even many parts of North Africa and the Middle East are EVERYWHERE! I saw a video of a black woman who bought a home in Sicily and another who moved to France. Many of us black women are walking off the PLANTATION OF PAIN, POVERTY, AND STRUGGLE LOVE THANK YOU😊

[@breezluize3282]

Pursuing and living our dreams is our true purpose.

[@kysadaniels3388]

Stephanie, thank you for reminding us to skip the script!

[@melodymganga6935]

My name is Melody Mganga I am a 63 soon to be 64-year-old veteran of the United States Navy. I am 50% disabled and I also collect disability. I’m looking to leave the United States. I would love to go to Costa Rica if you have any advice or any help or know anyone that could host me I would love it. Please get back!

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

Hey girl I’m 31 and used to be in the navy. I’m 100% disabled and looking to move to Costa Rica . Also why aren’t you 100? I’m less than half your age and only did 5 years you better go for 100

[@kemi1486]

Melody I’ve been researching and Costa Rica’s neighboring country Panama is also a great country for veterans to qualify for the Pensionada visa/residency. The cost to qualify for residency seems very affordable at about $1000/monthly. Maybe also give Panama a look.

[@StephaniePerry]

I'm guessing your 50% disability money is enough to live on in Costa Rica. Check out the cost of living calculators at numbeo.com and theearthawaits.com . And go for a visit to see if the money goes as far as you need it to.

[@workingtwiceashard]

@easiersaidwithmeg is there any way to get in touch with you? I'm also a Navy veteran and in the process of working to increase my rating.

[@MT-yx5cu]

​@@workingtwiceashardlook into secondary conditions

[@ms.rivera7898]

Hey there. I love your videos. I lived in South Korea and China, teaching. I had a nice, cushy college teaching job when I lived in China. I stayed for 4 years. I then taught at an International school, which was crazy busy and not really my style. I am now back in the US helping foster homes. I was doing case management social work for the past year and a half. It was crazy work for such low pay. I like my job now, because it’s a lot more relaxed, slow-paced, and much less drama. I love having free time, taking walks, cooking, planning my weekends, reading. I am not meant to be killing myself at some job.

[@harmonious.balance]

I'm a first-timer to your channel and I like what I'm hearing. I think the disconnect lies in the notion that purpose involves what society considers to have honorable impact. While the fight for equity, justice, etc is honorable, we were not created to only know fight and struggle. Nor are only supposed to experience joy on the margins of our lives. I agree that we can design our lives and pursue multiple purposes/intentions throughout our lifetimes. I think it's perfectly fine to start the quest to understanding who we are individually by asking the question, "what is my purpose?" But we need to understand that freedom and joy are indicative of purpose. Our dreams and purposes are very much connected. Dreams are not frivolous. We've been trained to foreclose on our dreams for some other priority. And I believe it is past time to experience God's love for us through ease, abundance, peace and joy.

[@LindseyDean-hp7qg]

You're doing great darling! The most important is that you seem genuine and happy with your life choices. Being single is definitely not a death sentence quite the contrary, it can be a blessing in disguise. Everybody doesn't have the same path in life. Can't say the same for all those BW haters and their pickmes out there!

[@janeenharrison1953]

Hi Stephanie, your crown is Gorgeous!! Thanks for always thinking of us respectively, safe time in South Africa.

[@yourdreamstrategist]

I’ve been on a journey to receive this. It’s definitely an unlearning! The first time I started to let this sink in, I closed the nonprofit I started because I realized I was doing it out of obligation rather than love. It was freeing and an act of self care and self love to let go. Letting go of workaholism and choosing lifestyle freedom and work life balance are the next huge stores in this journey. It feels like I’m going in the right direction because I feel so much less pressure and stress and so much more joy as I let this sink in. Yes I love when you talk about this!!!

[@bentmch1]

Hello from NICARAGUA.

[@StephaniePerry]

Hi! How are things in Nicaragua?

[@suzzetteswearing7654]

Ready to live my dreams, I'm embracing Ease❤

[@nicoletteanderson594]

Stephanie, the slice of your life you have taken out for your videos has helmed me tremendously. I will be leaving my job next month debt free and ready to live with ease. Yes, I’m gonna do me and hopefully get the glow you have. Bless you Stephanie!!

[@dinkinishoconnor3432]

Overseer. The idea that we can be our own overseer is so chilling and sooooo real. I’ve been actively deprogramming from the “have to” mindset for a while now, but it’s easy to get tangled right back up in it especially if you’re surrounded by likeminded people. That being said, I am grateful for this reminder, Sis, and recognize some sisters just aren’t ready for this kinda gospel, so the best thing to do is focus on my own emancipation 🙏🏿

[@Anniesgranddaughter]

I watched this yesterday and I woke up this morning thinking about this. I have never heard anyone say live your dreams not your purpose. Stephanie you spoke to my soul. 😢

[@LetsTalkLaw365]

I had to learn the hard way over serving everyone. I took a huge trip across the country and IT WOKE ME UP!! Great vid sister!!!

[@jjamerican93]

I really like your content, Stephanie, because you stress the importance of simply enjoying life with more ease. It is not an idea I come across in most places, so it’s really refreshing to hear it in this community. Thank you! 😊

[@StephaniePerry]

We're spreading the good news of embracing ease. 💗

[@tenderoni2997]

YES FROOO!!! 🥰🥰

[@a.r.tavares1322]

Yes everything!!! The hair, the skin, the smile! She's beautiful.

[@StephaniePerry]

💗✨✨@@a.r.tavares1322

[@missjones8123]

​She is very beautiful her bone structure is amazing ​@@a.r.tavares1322

[@k.8297]

I LOVE when you talk about EMBRACING EASE! I love to hear it!

[@intheglow5532]

I like that… “a slice of my life is focused on ____” but there is a full 360degrees of life.

[@AuntiePerspective]

Thank you Stephanie! I think we have been conditioned to think "purpose" equals hard labor. Not recognizing the ebb and flow our lives are to have. I believe in right now purpose because it can and will change as we move through life. Your right now purpose is helping black women realize there is another way to live.🏖 You've shown us we don't have to live to the detriment of our health. Right now my purpose is to care for an aging parent. It's stressful and not how I envisioned this stage of her life or mine. But it is what it is. I would like your and maybe Roshida's take on what women can do when they want/need to take a sabbatical but can't.

[@RubyHayes775]

Oh my! Love that royalty hair! I'm living my dreams and am snowbirding every year!

[@StephaniePerry]

That's great Ruby. You know I'm team #boycottwinter Where do you snowbird to?

[@RubyHayes775]

@@StephaniePerry Hi Stephanie. This year, I spent the month of February in Egypt. Next year, Kenya and Tanzania!

[@rosecoloredglasses67329]

Congratulations on your published work!!!!! WOOP WOOP!!!

[@JourneyWithUsMoveToAfrica]

Right! I’m not saving anyone else. I need to save myself and be A1 for my children and husband. I am not a human sacrifice.

[@kahluaqueen]

Man just when I think there must be something with me for having this thinking 😆 What purpose (most the time it’s you guessed it; WORK) just do whatever and stop “working hard” work but DO NOT work hard 😎 People run here there and everywhere going crazy. You a savage Steph! Tell ‘em!

[@StephaniePerry]

Right! Hard work is definitely NOT our purpose. 💗

[@annsettles224]

Replay while visiting Jamaica

[@WarmRegardsQ]

This video came right on time 🙌🏾

[@EH-pj8vm]

You’re speaking my lay💗. Thank you for creating this platform 💐💐💐

[@AmoraNoir]

Thank you for this amazing perspective, Stephanie. I am so happy to be following Black, female KZbinrs who are taking control of their happiness and constructing it to where they are the first priority! You are doing life-changing work (without any expense to your overall health), and that is the new life's dream that I want for us!

[@BlackandBlessed100]

I definitely found your channel at the right time because I financially and emotionally took care of family friends before myself In 2022 i said never again… I’m all about me I had some family and friends that did me real dirty and I’m slowly climbing back up into a safe space financially and emotionally I’m looking for the tools to accomplish my goals Thank you for your channel

[@MsFabDee]

Love your hair!! And thank you for this reminder. Super timely ✅

[@CIUITIS]

Ordering the book now from Toronto with love!

[@benatural1306]

Appreciate the follow-up, I sent that short to everyone in the village! Thank you!

[@workingtwiceashard]

This video is refreshing, as I've recently been slipping back into the "What's my purpose?" brain loop. And the book cover is gorgeous 😍

[@dama_shares]

Thank You!!!

[@BokMediaLife]

As always thank you for this and all of your other videos. You candor, delivery and support of black women living full and healthy lives is always refreshing. As a fellow traveler, author and more recently, KZbinr, I would love an opportunity to virtually interview you. Your message resonates deeply with me and I would love to share you (as I do your videos) with others. Thank you again for continuing to let us in to some of your life.

[@actionvj]

This was great!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@t.taylor1611]

Thank you for sharing

[@Hello_Pri]

Thanks for this message ❤

[@mirendacan1]

Preach!

[@lifewithsistuhspice9029]

You are right!

[@venuskirby8243]

I love to share ❤❤❤❤❤❤ good stuff!

[@AcademicLifeDrCrystal]

Awesome ❤

[@shellibass6599]

Love your hair Really love the cover of your book

[@jessicaberry87]

Okay...I needed this message. ❤ Thank you! 😊

[@BlackGirlMe]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!❤

[@shirlebryant9427]

We missed this video. Thanks for sharing

[@MichelleBernardfitness]

Beautiful message. Thank you.

[@kayjay2947]

Oh-kaaaayyy! I needed this today. Thank you.

[@sowsweetdeborahallen7256]

Keep it Real Stephanie ❤I love your lessons ❤

[@ericadinerotv]

I love this!! ❤

[@stacia1525]

Stephanie, you are so inspiring!

[@lunablu3921]

Hi Stephanie, thank you for this timely video. ❤

[@agelessbeautee5.04]

…..excellent, informative & on time video!!!!!

[@justlovely9511]

Love it!

[@tanisha7592]

It depends on how you define the word purpose. I always thought of purpose as your values and interest in one. Your purpose is who you are at your core and drive you. It can be whatever you want it to be. I think your purpose can be your dreams. It is what matter to you.

[@zaidagrace2263]

Thank you

[@pameladesimone9762]

Thank you for keeping it real- I unlearned

[@diaryofanislandgirl]

Subscribed 🎉

[@s-MiLey]

Great advice Stephanie, and your hair is so gorgeous!!!

[@holisticnutritioness]

Is there a "Love" button? Loved this!

[@user-ou5ox4sv9m]

Hi Stephanie!

[@dadstradedforchildsupport9475]

Omgness … I love her hair!!!!

[@idarabassey7455]

Boy, I needed to hear this...really re-evaluating how much energy I've been expending trying to help people heal who do not want to do the work...smh

[@AliciaOgburn-yv6cu]

Beautiful ❤❤

[@angelaash1775]

Hello from Nevada!

[@virtualcreativecollaborations]

♥️ Beautiful Blessings

[@Tephiffany]

I've been leaning toward this lifestyle for a few years now this video is additional confirmation! I'll make sure to share it with all my other sistas!

[@cheryl9390]

Yes 🙌🏽 ❤ 🙌🏽 girl

[@lerhondagreats485]

Thank you @Stephanie Perry for this reminder. This community gave me my wings and I am FLYING. Free! I am heading to South Africa next week to connect with Ashley Cleveland who I learned about through Exodus Summit. You and Roshida are doing great work. Thank you so much.

[@denisechilds2391]

Hey Stephanie 😊

[@millions2nette]

Wow! Such gorgeous hair. Great. idea to have your life on hold, til 65!

[@hybridinfodesk409]

Purpose to serve Yah, all else will be added...

[@moniku4866]

Do you see a lot of house sitting opportunities for people who don't like pets?

[@missjones8123]

Let me know if you find out because I AM NOT A PET PERSON! Plus I'm terrified of dogs!

[@yolandaingram7378]

I have fulfilled my professional purpose. I am ready to live my DREAMS! ❤

[@missjones8123]

Mahn i needed this because i dont feel i have a purpose or its lost somewhere in space lol