9 Questions To ASK A MAN Before You Marry Him

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@jennifermartin4505]

Also finding out if your partner has an addiction issue

[@applesnicolle5144]

@Viera M / Your joking right? Lol it’s other way around! Good luck finding a cerebral or intellectual black dude like this here Stephen! His kind is the 10% black elite.

[@cynthiasmith1583]

A Gree. Ask. Before marriage

[@winkbyme8480]

Great questions to ask....taking notes

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@@jennifermartin4505 Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.

[@MandyJRoss]

The 9 Questions To Ask A Man BEFORE You Marry Him❤ What are your sexual and emotional expectations and desires? What is his vision of success? Who will be a bigger priority, me or your Mother? What is his relationship with money? How will we handle conflict? Do you want kids and how many? How does he view his and your role in this marriage? What are the top three things he needs to be happy and satisfied in this relationship? What are the deal breakers? (Ex: physical changes, emotional, living situation, other external family situations, substances, beliefs, etc) PS: If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.❤

[@kim_jeffriestherealtor5169]

❤ thank you

[@kourtney101]

Thanks 💯 😊 🙏🏿

[@ChildofYAH]

We've been over all of these topics already and I know without a doubt he's the one. He's my soulmate. 110%. We've been talking for about 10 months now and never even had sex yet. I've been celibate for over a year after leaving my cheating ex-fiancé. He's been celibate for over 3 years after a tough breakup. He's very mature, confident, masculine, sweet, thoughtful, intelligent, wise, emotional, empathetic, he doesn't watch p**n or masturbate, I could go on and on. We share the same beliefs and we can talk about pretty much anything without offending each other, especially race since he's a WM and I'm a BW. We know each other's sexual desires and talk about them all the time. We're waiting until after marriage (which is the best decision ever bc it's building up our sexual energy). We both disagree on premarital sex since we're both serious about the Bible and obeying God. We talk on the phone for at least 8 hours a day then work and focus on bettering ourselves when we aren't talking. He chooses me over both of his parents, so I'd say he's the one.

[@Beautiful_Days9249]

Thank you, and same to you!

[@mattieboris1804]

Ditto 🙏

[@ravenbrinkley664]

I kid you not...me and my boyfriend spend 4 hours discussing each and every one of these questions. I kept asking him if he wanted to stop or take a break but he said "We are just having a heart to heart learning more about our wants together." Good God I think I found the one ladies and gentlemen.

[@MarieAmicalola]

Glad to see it ❤

[@sarahbarnes3605]

I mentioned we need to talk about marriage everytime he gets upset... not a good sign..

[@kourtney101]

I truly hope everyone receives the best person who brings his (or her) soul peace and the delights of a healthy, pleasurable and successful marriage 🙏🏿

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙏

[@kittah1111]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿☺️

[@a.m.thomas9366]

For me, it would be my Prince 🤴, but why the hell is he moving so slow ?

[@brendab2323]

You an me both Sis'ta. 🙏

[@T_Nice]

Thank you so much and I hope that you receive the same as well!🙏🏽

[@Empresslore]

Going in-depth with all these questions you've listed (which my pastor wrote for me as a suggestion in premarital counseling class) in 2019 December just weeks to our wedding with my then-fiancé made us realize that we had both been scared of having these discussions, examining our relationship and finding out just how incompatible and unequally-yoked we were.One of the hardest things I've had to do was call each and every guest to cancel the wedding 2 weeks to the day (my mom helped me a lot with this) . Years later am still eternally grateful we broke up and set each other free, we were both hurt like hell but it was clear that we had completely different needs and expectations going in . Better a broken engagement than proceeding blindly or with doubts.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏

[@Empresslore]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you for the work that you do🙏. I learn a lot from your videos.

[@zeal4god402]

Excellent decision

[@Green_Godess]

That's so brave of you. I hope you both found the love that you need.

[@Empresslore]

@@Green_Godess yes we both moved on and found love 😊 infact he became a dad last year, he told me on Facebook and I sent them a crotcheted baby blanket 🤗

[@jamiejackson1780]

THIS WAS THOROUGH!!! -Intimacy -Credit -Conflict Resolution -Children -Money Management -Attention Needed 😍 -Physical fitness expectations … WOO, this was LOADED!

[@MrsMoore1]

So darn good!!!! My God, I wish I knew this back when! Now- I KNOW better and will DO better.🙏🏾

[@jamiejackson1780]

@@MrsMoore1 SAME here 😩 BETTER LATE THAN NEVER FOR SURE though 🙌🏾 #ReadyToLevelUp 👑✨

[@babslekaradas8555]

All those things are talked trough and we are on the same page, still i think he's not the one bc of his actions

[@levelsuponlevels]

I was married for 20 years before my divorce. I met an amazing man and we are talking about marriage. These questions are great and we will be talking about this this weekend 😁 😊 Update: He was surprised at the questions and the conversation went well, it brought us closer and he gave me a key to his house and said I should come over anytime, even if he's out of town for work.. I took it as a sign that he is serious about our marriage talks😉

[@sylviemorgan9770]

Am truly happy for you,all the best for you both.

[@vicnanziri4617]

Wow! I know this may be late but i'm happy for you dear. It was obvious that all went well with these kind of questions to someone looking for a wife,these were loaded! Men don't hear much of these questions from their potential wives so you scored 💯

[@levelsuponlevels]

@@vicnanziri4617 Thank you and the credit issue is an issue. I am strategic in spending and he is not. I see red flags unfortunately, but it is great I got the answers up front. I think he is to far ahead in age to be this irresponsible with funds.

[@vicnanziri4617]

@@levelsuponlevels Well,I think you can help him improve where you see red flags if you love him and if he's willing to change cause women grow their men.Unless if they're many red flags that you can't tolerate, otherwise I wish you the best dear.

[@timandquentece8761]

@@vicnanziri4617 sounds like a project and in these areas you should be more aligned

[@Shtameka]

I am the mother that understand that the wife feelings matters most. I have four sons and I do my best to set healthy boundaries because that is what I would want my husband to do for me.

[@bev513jean9]

My fiancé and I both have previously discussed these questions, we have been doing marriage counseling since March of last year. We previously lost a baby. All of this has brought us closer together, made us stronger, we’ve become intimate in many ways besides sexual and we have a better understanding of each other.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏

[@hv2328]

❤

[@KJay-fk3kw]

And when you ask him, make sure your are able to answer the questions as well...Great Advice!!

[@TheSunshinefee]

A lot of mothers see their sons as their emotional husbands. what they lack in their romantic life, they want to get it from their sons. and when the son is wealthy, doing well in life, the anger grows cause the mother wanted to have that kind of lifestyle and feels she should be living that life with that kind of man

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@khanofkhansapparels2760]

You are an amazing work of art, prestine and priceless . God personally baked the mould when he made you. Your presence leaves me in awe. I am In love with your style, your walk, the way you talk, your smile. You have the cutest lips in the planet. Your hair Doo may be amusing to others but to me they are the fresher, you last boy friend might have took you for granted. but you sure gonna make him regret it. I am overwhelmed by emotions and consumed by the memories of being with you. Your touch, your stear. They assure me. Your love is all over me, standing with me, moving me, enveloping me, and loving you.... loving you is all I desire to be #Youinmylifeforever.. *******************†********** From the stables of the love preacher here are some of our new book to strengthen your love life for men & women. Click the link or copy and paste in your browser to access this knowledge packs ********††*******$*********** His Secret Obsession This book has helped thousands of women improve their relationships. Click here or copy to browser to access and buy : www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Unlocking His Desire This book has gives you the key to any man's heart. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/338274/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ _____________________________________________ The Relationship Rewrite Method: The Relationship Rewrite Method presents a revolutionary approach to fixing relationships, because it works across the full spectrum of troubles, from the man who goes cold after a bad fight, all the way to the full-scale, catastrophic breakup. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Love = Psychology (Coaching for Men) Picking up women isn't rocket science... it's pure psychology. The LOV_EX coaching shows how to conquer the heart of a woman step by step by using psychological techniques. The methods of the system are based on fundamental psychology but all knowledge and tricks get conveyed in an easily understandable way. It does not contain any complex technical terms and uses simple English. www.digistore24.com/redir/381952/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ This coaching forms a direct bridge between advanced psychological knowledge and classic pickup coachings. Click here to buy it

[@chriskaina04]

If he's wealthy WHY CANT HE take care BOTH?? ...please I want to understand this view...diff if struggling or big family .. or is there a difference??

[@erikacervantes4489]

I've always said, "My man's family will always be his family, BUT once married, I will be his PRIMARY family." I think once you're married, one of the main things men sign up for is that they're vowing to make their wife their new priority and they don't realize that sometimes. He should ALWAYS have respect for his family. His family, however, need to understand that they no longer come first. The wife does. As long as his parents, siblings etc respect him and his wife without having any input in their relationship, there shouldn't have to be situatuons where he has to pick and choose between them.

[@khanofkhansapparels2760]

You are an amazing work of art, prestine and priceless . God personally baked the mould when he made you. Your presence leaves me in awe. I am In love with your style, your walk, the way you talk, your smile. You have the cutest lips in the planet. Your hair Doo may be amusing to others but to me they are the fresher, you last boy friend might have took you for granted. but you sure gonna make him regret it. I am overwhelmed by emotions and consumed by the memories of being with you. Your touch, your stear. They assure me. Your love is all over me, standing with me, moving me, enveloping me, and loving you.... loving you is all I desire to be #Youinmylifeforever.. *******************†********** From the stables of the love preacher here are some of our new book to strengthen your love life for men & women. Click the link or copy and paste in your browser to access this knowledge packs ********††*******$*********** His Secret Obsession This book has helped thousands of women improve their relationships. Click here or copy to browser to access and buy : www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Unlocking His Desire This book has gives you the key to any man's heart. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/338274/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ _____________________________________________ The Relationship Rewrite Method: The Relationship Rewrite Method presents a revolutionary approach to fixing relationships, because it works across the full spectrum of troubles, from the man who goes cold after a bad fight, all the way to the full-scale, catastrophic breakup. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Love = Psychology (Coaching for Men) Picking up women isn't rocket science... it's pure psychology. The LOV_EX coaching shows how to conquer the heart of a woman step by step by using psychological techniques. The methods of the system are based on fundamental psychology but all knowledge and tricks get conveyed in an easily understandable way. It does not contain any complex technical terms and uses simple English. www.digistore24.com/redir/381952/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ This coaching forms a direct bridge between advanced psychological knowledge and classic pickup coachings. Click here to buy it

[@ifinditinteresting.8709]

THIS

[@hirschiegirl]

Thank you so much for your guidance! When my boyfriend proposed, I saw it as the opportunity to open the discussion and he saw it as “you either do or you don’t.” Needless to say, we didn’t get married.

[@blackcatstandinonaroof]

as a man, it sounds like steph is describing a mature man and i watch these videos to learn grow and of course have an image of what i want to become, a good husband and father

[@blackcatstandinonaroof]

any other guys here?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that and I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@enaalexis92]

This video was very profound and made me think what would my answers be if a man asked me these questions. It’s times like these you have to look in the mirror and be honest 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@kyliegturnquest3197]

Very important questions.

[@MsChristylove]

I do not know why this handsome young man knows what he knows BUT he is always right on the money!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@beewest5704]

My friend is getting engaged soon to her on & off bf. He cheated on her multiple times, then ghosted her to move in with another woman. When the woman broke up with him he came back to my friend. She is the kindest most giving person & she deserves the best. I'm so scared for her to marry someone who has shown her he is not ready. Thanks for this video. Coming from someone else she might be more receptive to really thinking this through.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best!

[@k9trainer215]

What made me realize that it was definitely time for a divorce was sitting on church and Pastor says " You have to be intimate with God before you can be intimate with someone else" That was a true wake up call. It had always stuck in my head! I preach it to myself all day!

[@zeal4god402]

When both people peacefully ask candid questions with candid responses and both ace the test, they will keep graduating together

[@jabproductions4056]

True

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that ❤

[@shantewilliams7684]

I'm so glad you touched on the mental and emotional factors involved in order for Women to maintain that sexual desire and energy towards her Man, there is just simply not enough discussion about it and she is often looked at as the villian for not giving him any, when doesn't even realize the mental and emotional disconnect that caused her to shut down.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@DrKadosh_A_Fruitful_Woman]

Wow. That’s VITAL. As woman myself, I feel this! Thanks Stephan

[@moiponelindiwe6021]

My biggest deal-breaker was a family member moving in, any family member, which i communicated before we got married. Guess what he forced it and went against my wishes ,drove home came back with his niece and i left the marriage.2 years now i have no regrets i still feel the same way i am not moving in with anybody whether his family or mine.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@WarriorQueen1962]

Great information MOG!!! I didn’t ask any questions. I just divorced him in October 2021 after a little over two years being married. God was real gracious to me. He shielded and protected me from abuse. He made a way out for me and I’m forever grateful!!!🙏🏽❤️. I will not make the same mistake twice. Thank you again for the information! God bless you!!! 🙏🏽❤️😇

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌 ❤

[@lyalyakim9898]

I asked many questions: about roles, finances, goals, loyalty etc. and it didn't help. He's been sexting his ex since day 1 and cheated on me multiple times. I caught him a little over two years of being married. He lied and hid so much because he wanted to get me no matter what...

[@sandragreen5146]

Another important one...Talk about Alcohol! What is your relationship with alcohol? Do you struggle with self control? Have you ever experience alcoholism in your home, in a parent family member, or friend? If yes, has this left you with deep wounds? How do you expect me to treat / use alcohol?

[@jaxpax2566]

And weed

[@lala_d334]

The mother question was a good one! Fortunately I love my man's mother and there's a lot of qualities in her such as the way she loves and is so caring and selfless, that I see in him. She and I have a great relationship! Honestly if he put her first, I'd probably be right there with him to help if needed. However, I have friends who are not so lucky in this case and HATE their man's mother😬. That disconnect does affect their relationships. One thing I will say is it was my goal to develop a relationship with my man's parents. And they noticed and appreciated that and welcomed me with open arms. My friends did not even attempt that with their man's mother's. Call it old school but I'm a strong believer you marry the whole family, not just the man and vice versa. The relationship with family is just as important.

[@rachaeldevans-pyatt6942]

Another thing to ask is about sickness and health. I knew a lot of people I’ve cared for over the years that were married and the minute things would take a turn for the worst dealing with their health they would immediately be put into a long term care facility while their spouse would remarry someone healthier with full functioning bodies. Would someone stay loyal and dedicated to loving you and caring for you through sickness and health?

[@j-may]

Interesting…the weight gain thing really IS a thing. For example, my exhusband is and always has been mildly obese. I have always been very skinny. After the birth of our daughter I carried 40 extra pounds, which still put me in normal weight BUT heavier than HE expected. I would have never thought to ask him a question about my weight and it making him lose attraction because of his own weight issues. I was stunned and very hurt. I lost the weight but ALSO lost respect for him.

[@jamiejackson1780]

There’s definitely a DOUBLE-STANDARD in regards to physique when it comes to what’s “acceptable/attractive”. I would have said, “Hey Babe, let’s lose weight together!” LOL Just for the SHOCK-VALUE @ the mere thought of you suggesting, mentioning, or addressing the fact that he was indeed a bit over the average weight standard for his height as well… One eye-opening quote that I have embraced is “women marry, hoping he will change & men marry, hoping she’ll never change” 🤨 THIS QUOTE MADE THINGS CLEARER FOR ME… Forgive him, for you though 💕👑

[@j-may]

@@jamiejackson1780 I agree except I never expected him to change and his weight never bothered me. Personally I take personal inventory of my heart and body and I don’t need any person to micromanage me …so this is how I lost respect for him. Losing weight together did not appeal to me because I stick with my appearance and knew that the 40 pounds was temporary - while HIS weight was constant (due to actual laziness). I have forgiven him. This podcast simply reminded me that this question (about weight) is valid and due to my lifetime (I was 36 when I had our daughter) of physical fitness and healthy eating…I thought he would understand. I was wrong😂

[@jamiejackson1780]

@@j-may He was certainly IMMATURE for that! I used to tease my ex and ask “do you want a fine Wife or lots of children? 😅” (jokingly) SHINE ON QUEEN 🥰👑✨

[@j-may]

@@jamiejackson1780 thanks and I do💎…I feel like that was a karmic fated relationship which was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening…so I send him love in my prayers. Dark knights of the soul will make you or break you and this Queen is made👑.

[@alee550]

My guy is thick but if he ever loses weight and gets ripped and muscular I am out of here I like Dad bods! that's non-negotiable for me

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

Every single question you mentioned are so vital! I don’t understand why couples don’t feel like they need to go into this level of depth when it comes to someone they want to spend the rest of their lives. Having been married and divorced and maturing I will ask even more questions now and have open dialogues before we even commit to be in a relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@leeaudrycarter4626]

So I should ask these questions in a first date?

[@ericajanellelifecoaching]

@@leeaudrycarter4626 might be a bit scary on a first date but if you feel like he’s a viable candidate, why not? I’d rather ask early than get emotionally invested with someone who wouldn’t be on the same page.

[@shellytravels]

M

[@KarmenMartz]

I'm 40. I was married for 15 years. Divorced and took a break for 5 years. Was in my last relationship for a year and a half. A lot of the questions Stephan points out are things that I wished I would have asked in the beginning stages of my last relationship. He had a very dysfunctional relationship with his mom/no boundaries. So everything was always my fault. Her son did nothing wrong. Ever. Toxic. 🏃🏃🏃 He was the type of just "chill and let things happen". No goals, no aspirations. Thank God I found my backbone and kicked him OUT.

[@nkn_111]

I think it's very important to discuss religious or spiritual views. If expectations surrounding religion are not aligned, or your partner is not willing to respect your practices, that will be a major deal breaker in a marriage.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@kbpoetry2463]

Excellent advice. I wish I had heard it 20 years ago because I did marry the wrong person and we divorced after our son’s high school graduation.and 19 years of marriage. Couples and Possible Marital Partners PLEASE PLEASE LISTEN and take Stephan’s advice SERIOUSLY 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽.

[@a.m.thomas9366]

SO YOU DIDN'T WANT TO GIVE THE MAN SEX CUZ YOU HAVE DONE IT ALL BEFORE MARRIAGE, RIGHT ?

[@theone8327]

Just because yall divorced don't mean you married the wrong person.. a 19 year relationship is very significant..

[@kbpoetry2463]

@@a.m.thomas9366 Not at all. It was quite the opposite.

[@VivianWynter]

@@theone8327 that’s exactly what that means. Her right person will be with her forever. The others gtg

[@adamany8105]

Same here. My marriage lasted 23 years until my son’s (my youngest) high school graduation. We could have gotten through all this with a little work, had she honestly tried. My ex waited until our youngest became an adult. Very intentional and contrived. Although it takes 2 to tango, and there was no justification for divorce in our case, expecting a man to read his wife’s mind for the part that bothered her, was a but too much in the expectation department. If you set your spouse up for failure (especially without looking in your own mirror) you will set yourself up for disappointment (excuse) 100% of the time. Sad, but true…

[@InstructorRidgeway]

Great points, thank you. Wanted to add a point, "STEP CHILDREN" need to discuss relationship interactions, discipline, interactions with the other parent.

[@MsTachi]

Yesss!

[@8mmel]

You should go viral. If i had these pieces of advice 11 years ago i wouldnt have married the man i am currently married to

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@lifeupgradescoaching5560]

I love how up front you are! Finally, a coach that just gets to the point

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@Cudagirl1970]

Amen to the topic about the mother in law in the marriage! Thanks for including this topic! It was definitely an issue in our marriage...His mom depended on her son to bail her out of her bad decisions..and he always did, even to his physical detriment.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@gabriellablue7347]

Such an amazing video. My husband passed away two years ago, and since then I’ve met a guy who I’m in a serious relationship with. These are definitely things I’m going to bring up when the time is right, before taking the next step. Thanks so much ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@mommyorganics6603]

Wow the mother priority is definitely hit home. Everything you said 💯. It was 12 years of pain because I didn’t have this advice prior. Thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@mommyorganics6603]

Thank you kind sir! The Lord is definitely healing every part of it. Jesus is repairing my relationship day by day! 😊

[@sandramudd4968]

May God bless you Stephan! In every way! You are a godsend answering the hard questions, providing solutions and clarity to the confusing situations, fostering much needed healing, and giving clarity where we confuse ourselves and read into things or don't trust ourselves. I'm thankful for your knowledge and guidance. Thanks for keeping it real!!! Just to clarify, I'm not talking about just this video. I'm responding to all the educational videos from you I've watched. You're a fenominal coach and teacher. Thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

[@NeNe-lf1ow]

I’m divorced & just started back trying to date & dating during a pandemic has been the hardest thing ever because men are way more sneakier & liars than before the pandemic I ask men the whole expectations thing & it be all a trap just to get in good & then they switch up a week later lack of communication & consistency & are my biggest pet peeves I don’t think men want to date they just want relations but hopefully I’m proven wrong this was an awesome video definitely took in every word…thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@NeNe-lf1ow]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes indeed I am being patient because I am not trying to settle for less I will be purchasing your book ❤️

[@msniki7103]

Your books and youtube channel are helping me a ton. I'm going through a breakup and am applying your advice, THANK YOU!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@LA-iz4io]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks your topic on why he keeps coming back gave me the courage to end my 30 years narc bondage. Thank you & God bless u👑🙏

[@beefaye18]

Me too...ooh weee.....its rough....but Im doin the wrk 👍

[@Battleofsanity]

Tony Sykes is good too

[@fanny3796]

@Lara Albert 22years of a narc 4me

[@seashell1037]

U are right about the mother thing. Horrible jealous moms make your marriage so divided when the spouse doesn’t see it, or sees it but is unable to stand up to her

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus should be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Why do we not have these conversations? Marriage is one of the most important relationships we will have. Having honest conversations about our needs and expectations before we enter into it will create lasting relationships. Thanks Stephan as always.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Taisha12001]

I think a lot of people are afraid of either scaring that person off or finding out they are not as compatible as they thought they were.

[@janeyjenjen5972]

Also, some people simply don't wanna burst their bubble or ruin the fairy tale because they're talking about practical stuff. This is indeed so refreshing. We really need to change our mindsets on how we approach marriage and normalize these kinds of conversations.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

@@Taisha12001 true

[@ChristianaSenibo]

@@janeyjenjen5972 absolutely

[@realrachelleakuffo]

I think we avoid these conversations because we ASSUME the other person is like us in terms of expectations and skip over it because we're happy OR we avoid it because we're scared we won't like the answers that could end the relationship. It's an active choice we make.

[@VivianWynter]

Even if you don’t like it.. so what? Not talking about it doesn’t make the differences in values go away. Trust me. If you’re walking around on egg shells bc they can’t handle real conversations… get you a real man. Anyone else is simply a little boy who grew in age each year. But, not maturity. Def not the husband type either way!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It really helps when we embrace asking these questions.

[@reeseyanceyms.rayiamwhoiam100]

These questions should be asked before you get seriously involved with anyone. I believe the mistake I made was not asking these questions when I knew I was starting to see things could be more. These questions should never go being not asked nor not answered. This is just from what I have experienced and have seen others go through. As always Stephan, I appreciate you and all that you give us. Keep up the awesome work! 💯💪🏽

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@julie1393]

This is a great one, a lot of these questions should be asked before starting a relationship, especially if you're dating with the intentions of marriage and you're doing this later in life. Why waste time in a relationship with someone you're not compatible with?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace asking these questions.

[@Paola-01]

Unfortunately I married the wrong person 💔 We divorced a couple years ago. Now reading your books and listening to your videos 🙌🏻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌 ❤

[@lilys8632]

I wish I heard what you are talking about 28 years ago before I got married. I've been married for 28 years and together 30 years.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@katharinetaylor9561]

Wise and wonderful points made Stephan!From my own experience I would add when discussing financials to include looking at your future partners bank and credit card statements. Sounds invasive but if there’s nothing to hide there’s nothing to hide. I met a man dated him for three years we got married we had kids and he was not the person that he showed me initially. I would suggest if you want to avoid that happening, to look at their credit card and bank statements before you marry them because what they’re purchasing and what they’re buying and what they’re doing before they’re married is who they are and they will continue to do all of that while you’re married. And some people are really good at lying and telling you want you want to hear.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@LaTashaChante]

I literally just wrote everything down. Thank you so much for this! I haven’t thought to ask some of these questions, nor have I asked them to myself. It’s been my homework for some time to write these things out anyway. What an awesome headstart! 2Then the Lord answered me and said: “Write the vision And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it. 3For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry. 4“Behold the proud, His soul is not upright in him; But the just shall live by his faith. Habakkuk 2:2-4

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@khanofkhansapparels2760]

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[@MsTachi]

Thank you. I needed to read your exact comment.

[@DrKadosh_A_Fruitful_Woman]

WOW! That VIEW of success… has just saved my butt (get me?). Can’t thank you enough! Love how sincere and genuine your videos are. All the way in South Africa 🇿🇦. We appreciate VALUE you! 👑

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏

[@fosterjanine5112]

Yes it's very important you have to know about their history, occupation, likes and interests and know their flaws and imperfections. To get to know a person better become friends to know if they are willing to be committed so you can move on to a relationship.

[@tinker2217]

This is a great list. My brother was thinking of getting married. I had to explain to him that being married is MORE than ooh she's fine and we're gonna get to live with each other and have sex everyday. There are some real issues that need to be discussed first. So much to cover, You could even do a part 2!! Love this.

[@khanofkhansapparels2760]

You are an amazing work of art, prestine and priceless . God personally baked the mould when he made you. Your presence leaves me in awe. I am In love with your style, your walk, the way you talk, your smile. You have the cutest lips in the planet. Your hair Doo may be amusing to others but to me they are the fresher, you last boy friend might have took you for granted. but you sure gonna make him regret it. I am overwhelmed by emotions and consumed by the memories of being with you. Your touch, your stear. They assure me. Your love is all over me, standing with me, moving me, enveloping me, and loving you.... loving you is all I desire to be #Youinmylifeforever.. *******************†********** From the stables of the love preacher here are some of our new book to strengthen your love life for men & women. Click the link or copy and paste in your browser to access this knowledge packs ********††*******$*********** His Secret Obsession This book has helped thousands of women improve their relationships. Click here or copy to browser to access and buy : www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Unlocking His Desire This book has gives you the key to any man's heart. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/338274/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ _____________________________________________ The Relationship Rewrite Method: The Relationship Rewrite Method presents a revolutionary approach to fixing relationships, because it works across the full spectrum of troubles, from the man who goes cold after a bad fight, all the way to the full-scale, catastrophic breakup. Click here to buy it www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ www.digistore24.com/redir/384216/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ __________________________________________________ Love = Psychology (Coaching for Men) Picking up women isn't rocket science... it's pure psychology. The LOV_EX coaching shows how to conquer the heart of a woman step by step by using psychological techniques. The methods of the system are based on fundamental psychology but all knowledge and tricks get conveyed in an easily understandable way. It does not contain any complex technical terms and uses simple English. www.digistore24.com/redir/381952/thebestmeditation4thisyear/ This coaching forms a direct bridge between advanced psychological knowledge and classic pickup coachings. Click here to buy it

[@sallyjrwjrw6766]

Too many men think that a wife is just a permanent girlfriend that you openly promise never to cheat on. It's so much more than that!

[@biancamirambeau8882]

This video explains why I am getting divorced we didn’t have this conversation I was young and he n experienced

[@Deeneyes]

The perspective of seeing him or anyone for that matter, as an unfinished product, is important. When I see anyone as an unfinished product, I tend to want to help them. That can be dangerous in a relationship and triple dangerous in a relationship where the person doesn't want to helped. That's a good question for me to ask myself in the future. Thank you for mentioning what "came to you" in that moment.

[@feliciamoore2149]

This video hit the ball out of the park. I feel when the time is right, I'll be set up for success and not failure. Great questions, Mr. Labossiere.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@bluefan651]

I am definitely taking notes. I'm glad that I know myself better now, enough to admit that I accept we are fluid. I was married young, lasted almost 8 years and although we DID have pre-marital counseling, I see that we both looked through rose colored glasses at the world. I will take your advice. You are wise beyond your years. Thank you and God Bless you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@nathalia4869]

About the debt part, it is indeed very tricky. My ex husband was not honest about the amount of debt he had, and that put so much financial struggle into our marriage. With time he even got himself more and more debts, so much that we end up divorcing, it was financially impossible to me to be sustaining the house and the relationship like that, specially because my income was very low. I wish i had seen all this before and avoided the marriage in the first place. I still havent recovered financially from it, and its been 3 years already. Man and women should really think about what caused their SO to have that amount of debt in the first place, maybe its not a good reason, and the person could pile other debts on top of the old ones.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@nathalia4869]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you 🙏🙏

[@leahnoid6216]

Teach, Preach, Speak, Inform, Equip and Empower Exactly what you are doing Sir!! These are the profound essentials that you are proclaiming that all need to embrace! I absolutely love you dear Brother, continue to allow God to use you. Everyone, this is awesome and keep communication open and honest about EVERYTHING... Can't go wrong, but it will keep you on the right relationship path... I agree, Sex is 85 to 90% of the relationship. Builds intimacy continually, not just momentous pleasures.. God bless you all, stay safe and be well, eat healthy too Brothers and Sisters.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@Lisa7gee]

The last one was gold! Yes u can’t expect for someone to feel the same way after u let urself go…turn off!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@annekajordan6952]

I like these questions & I think they are great questions to ask to confirm that you are both on the same page. I also think you should ask questions around spiritual values to confirm whether you both are equally yoked & that you are both in alignment with each other with certain beliefs if the goal is going to be marriage ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@annekajordan6952]

❤️

[@longlivedabosslady7420]

I’ve been married twice, to the first one if we had this, I would still be there. The second- he was a complete narcissist I’m dating now and the gent has never been married but from this I know he’s not ready neither I’m I. I don’t need another failed attempt…. Thank You continue making these videos it’s very empowering….

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@sandragreen5146]

This only works if both people understand this and put into practice.

[@lmbarnes3]

#2 so important.#3 he can't be head if he prioritizes his mom. He is married to his mom not you. #4 if he is poor with money. Number 1 reason for divorce. To run sma household like a business as leader he has to manage the business. finance.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@willramafu2909]

I get stunned each time! You are a blessing in this season of my life.Thank you sooooo much

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@kesa1588]

the debt part hit me hard… i’ve got a lot of credit card debt ☹️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

[@irasemasantiago5043]

Excellent advice that I will use to pass onto my daughter, so that she will not do the same mistakes like I did. Thank you !

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad it was helpful 🙏

[@dianaiulia963]

Dayum! I was starting with sex questions and thinking maybe my attitude is wrong. So I guess it's not bad to be direct! It was actually saving my time, to be honest. 🙂

[@danielledenuve9943]

So true, thank you for your honesty. A lot of times one partner not honest about expectations. People sometimes settle ‘biological clock’ . Or, they figure they’ll change after marriage. A no no, A lot of men lie in order to get what they want❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@mar.v2878]

Whew! When you mentioned mothers yes sir! Please do a video on this because honey lol. Not everyone like their baby being in love or married! Hope you are having a good day!

[@mar.v2878]

A mother and add sister! You better say that lol

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@mar.v2878]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re the best❤️

[@bonnebiere4731]

Yessss!!! I walked away from a guy who put his sister infront of us. He wanted to buy a house with his sister. I asked him where will he put his wife and kids? He said we can buy a house together after I was finished with school. I told him I'll have a lot of student's loan debt and will not be able to buy one for awhile, in addition he would have to gain alot of equity in his first house or double his salary to buy another. He claimed he promised her before he met me and that I should see him as a man who keep his word. So he went and bought his house with her and I went and bought mine and walked away. That was the final red flag 🚩 of many. Best decision I ever made.

[@lightlydark416]

When it comes to his mother..if I married that man she birthed and raised and sacrificed for, HE IS A GOOD MAN. AND I NEED TO THANK HIS MOTHER. Her needs are my needs for her.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

[@deed3999]

Stephan is soo right with all these points .. married a few years ago, went for counselling, did the questions, didn't follow my intuition nor get honest answers as far as all these questions are concerned Now considering divorce cuz having all these issues about faithfulness, sex relationship with money, priorities as far as family is concerned,..the kids and I in all always come last after mother, inlaws , and even his own comfort Foundation is very important. Shouldn't have married him in the 1st place Learning my lessons the hardway

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@deed3999]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks amen,thanks, grateful

[@abigalestoll]

It's important for me to ask these questions because when I'm entering into marriage, I must know exactly what I'm getting into. I felt deep down in my spirit that there are certain questions to be asked before entering a relationship or marriage but I couldn't pick up on all of it. Thank you so much for making it clear to me on the questions that I should ask.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@roselyneoduor802]

Today, I have seen what messed my life 😭😭. Thanks God for Stephen a million times 🙏🏿

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@shells1889]

I’ve been with my partner 2 years we will be married in just a few months. From the beginning we had the sex talk. I love to explore, he’s more reserved, but he can satisfy so I was ok with letting certain expectations go. We have an amazing sex life , on average 14 times a week! Yes I said it twice a day 🎉 and may I add we are both 50😆

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

[@CarolineGold]

Amazing ....🙂

[@topkat8268]

Oh you are so 100% right on the money, which is why l am still single after 3 engagements. I saw my future , from the mother in law from hell, to an alcohol & emotional abuse problem, I'm glad l didn't marry any if these men, but now I'm alone

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

[@nottobetold5285]

The Love for a person mother And their mate is on two different levels and should never be compared. The love your mother has and give you is totally different. From your mates love that love you in and outside the bed room. Your mate/ spouse can be replace yet your mother will always be your mother. Its not to be compared.

[@chriskaina04]

Not many UNDERSTAND ...GET IT.

[@brendadavenport9712]

Your 3rd question for marriage was addressed very much correct. For a women to question the relationship of a son/mother, is correct to a point. For my views, a son should take care of his family 1st, but the wife should view her husband/family 1st, now just as she value her mother/father, so does that husband with his mother/father, now as for the mother-in-law, she should respect her son's choice in marriage and should not put her son in such a poor petty position with is wife nor should his wife do the very same thing. Myself, I would not let my mother run my house over my wife, nor should my wife dictate how or when I should do/ or not do for mother. Like you said, they both have to respect each other's position with the son/wife because most son's will not reject their wife to not help/do for her mother/father, so be the same with him and his mother. Thank you for addressing this issue 🙏 🦉💜🥰

[@sandragreen5146]

This was so helpful😊i don't even have a man yet but i want to prepare myself so when i meet my future husband these will be the 9 question ill have waiting for him lol! You are awesome God bless🙏❤️🙏

[@rebeccahenson6989]

It's good you openly spoke of God, Spouse, Kids, etc. Way too many couples speak in their wedding vows the words, "What God has joined together, let No Man put us under". But We changed those words in our vows to say, "what God has joined together let NO 'ONE' put us under"! Which means we chose our life's partner to be above EVERYONE but God.... So many divorces happen because one or both of the parties involved loose sight of these words they promised to each other on their wedding day. Our spouses absolutely MUST be first in our marriage...right under God and BEFORE our Kids. Kids ARE No. 2! If there are problems like addiction, then honor your vows with your spouse by both getting professional help together. Don't let your love for your children take presidence over your life's partner you are promised to. You made that promise to God and to your spouse. You do an outstanding job of explaining what we need to know before deciding to marry. I wish I knew all this before my first marriage failed. This time all these issues will be addressed first and foremost before vows are to be spoken. I am now gratefully in a serious mature, long-distance committed relationship, which is perhaps headed toward a marriage one day....IF the important things you say are going to be resolved to both of our liking. And YES, 'Sex' IS essential. It literally destroyed my first marriage. 35+ yrs of a sexless, loveless, non-intimate marriage just to 'honor' my vows is absolutely insane! It's no wonder some people cheat. (I didn't but suffered greatly.) Thank you so much for your insight amd God bless you always....

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@v1ct0ro40]

Yes. That’s a very intelligent comment.

[@ShekinahWorshipCo]

Also, your messages are mostly geared towards young people. Us seniors are getting in & out of relationships & situationships as well. Speak on it. We may be older, but that may carry more baggage than the young ppl have.

[@christinebaker6263]

I am 72 starting a new relationship and .....

[@chriscristah9178]

Stephan, when is a good time to ask these questions? Can’t imagine waiting till engagement and dating for years just to be surprised and break up realizing time was wasted.

[@TheyNeedJesus1]

I've watched this video a few times lol. I've never been married and if I ever do, I want to enter into it eyes wide open. I am 100 percent convinced not enough pertinent discussions are had between each party. I want to marry someone whole and healthy in every way possible as I want to offer the same for him. I'll fool around and pull out this video on one of our dates for a Q and A session! 😆😆

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

[@charlotteclark6061]

...Good idea! 💜

[@charlotteclark6061]

I like the idea of discussing what u see in him & see what he thinks of what u see as a good fit for you. I think a man should not prioritize his Mother over his woman or wife. My friend prioritizes his kids... Minors, & possibly the grown ones, over me & denies it. I REALLY resent him for it, but he still denies it! I wouldn't mind moving over for his Mother if she isnt being Evil, on purpose!

[@Thi-Nguyen]

It’s not just about prioritizing his MOTHER, but family in general. My husband puts his sister and her husband above “us” time, and me as a whole.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@Thi-Nguyen]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I brought it up again a few days ago, and he’s finally starting to get it. I kind of did the same to him a couple times first. I think experiencing it himself helped my stubborn mule to finally understand where I was coming from. 😏

[@patriotliberty3070]

Wow it's like you're reading my brain and know exactly what I'm dealing with...I spit my coffee out when you addressed the mom issue🤣🤣. This one guy was 43, living with his parents in the basement(no seperate entry but tried to justify it as living on his own🤦‍♀️), then had the audacity to get pissed at all his previous ex gfs cause they didn't want to be with a man that literally told them "my mom is my best friend. She will ALWAYS come first before anyone else".I was speechless. Just the fact he couldn't grasp why a real woman would find all of these attributes to be a major turn off and run like hell. He was actually upset and blamed them like they did something wrong. That's Bates motel kinda crap..so creepy!!!! He kept pursuing me despite me telling him I wasn't interested especially in him. Thankfully he lived 3k miles away. I've just ignored him. So far so good but just wow. That was insane! You're videos are pure fire! So good💪🔥❤️! God Bless you bro!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@imperfectillustration6261]

@Stephan Speaks, these are excellent questions. Can you do a video on questions to ask when it’s a blended family situation?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@sandragreen5146]

I very much needed this information, because i know it's a huge step to get married and I'm happy with the 9 questions.I will also share this with my unmarried friends.Thank you and God bless🌹

[@lisapayne2352]

Yep! My last marriage ended because my husband had no backbone to his mother. He allowed her negative influence to ruin our marriage. She was toxic. He bowed down to everything she said & she would give me negative criticism on Facebook, publicly. It was horrible. I was like deuces! Because I lost all respect for him.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@lisapayne2352]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan! Yes, I have healed. It’s been 3yrs. I’m continuing to work on my self, my career, my health, focus on my faith & family & allow the universe/God to bring the right person to me. I refuse to be on dating apps. Keep up your amazing grind! It is helping so many, including me! 🙏💕

[@dncprncss]

The video gives sage advice. Would love to see a video on what questions a man needs to ask a potential wife.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’ll be doing that version on my men’s channel

[@Taisha12001]

I've always said that a person need to pray for sexual compatibility with their future spouse in addition to all the other qualities you want.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right, thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@horschiday9449]

Very true 🙌🙌

[@allisonmontano1345]

Yes totally agree I have actually prayed for this

[@marshajarrett2599]

Thanks for sharing your wealth of knowledge with us about relationships. I look forward to watch more videos from u. I'm now a subscriber👍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Welcome aboard and don't forget to click the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video

[@marrrialee]

So good. Thank you for these very important points!! Everyone needs to ask these questions to prevent getting divorced! It should be a part of our education system but sadly it’s not. We have to learn the hard way and keep watching videos and reading books/articles to educate ourselves.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@sonyacurti]

If it's a 2nd marriage in your 50's the kids question changes to a blended family question.

[@mariaismajlgeci8964]

You are very correct when it comes to sexual expectations and desires. I'm demisexual and many people confuses that with not being sexual. In fact, I'm super sexual, but only when there's emotional, mental and romantic connection. Also, I need commitment. So this topic is extremely important to being discussed during dating, before even entering a relationship. I made this mistake of not talking about sex before entering a relationship and it was pretty messy. I won't do the same mistake again.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@cringeproof100]

Honey that means you are normal. People that don’t want to wait until marriage are the weird ones. Don’t worry ❤️

[@janicesherriod8311]

This was very helpful for me. Because a lot of things that was talked-about are things I ask. But sometimes it's hard to talk to some men about being ture to there feelings. Just talk about everything so you both will get to know each other.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@theramiam155]

YESSS..!!! The mother 🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣 It’s very real….. 9 years happily divorced but the mother was 95💯 the issue…. 🤪

[@JamaicaLove876]

Yes agree that clearly defined roles and expectations in all areas of the relationship from the kitchen to the bedroom definitely makes a big difference in terms of being in alignment. When you are aligned with meeting their needs and share common ideas/beliefs then that helps to minimize conflict. The main thing is to have open communication where you know beforehand what are the non-negotiables as that typically doesn't change & what are the areas of flexibility. Exploring intimacy on all levels is essential as one affects the other. Establishing clear boundaries is key in all areas and recognizing when their is a mismatch. Mismatching on the key essential things will create discontent & strife it would be better to acknowledge that and part ways. Really, the couple should establish their vision together as a family unit and how they see their lives progressing over time. The whole concept is to see if they can function in harmony on one accord. Excellent video, great questions. Blessings & peace to u.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback and may blessing and peace be upon you as well ❤ 🙏

[@JamaicaLove876]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Always my pleasure to share, great content. ❤ 🙏

[@JamaicaLove876]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I forgot to mention that the woman should also ask the man about his spirituality and how important that will be to their daily lives as they also have to be on the same page with their spiritual beliefs systems & even their spiritual environment in the home. If they are not in alignment that will create a great divide in the home..

[@carmenthomas2619]

Nice information to share ...Thanks for sharing your thoughts, good conversation to both talk about together

[@steph_steph876]

❤'d those tips. I am not married I hold the view that pre-marital counseling is important for those couples entering marriage. Alot really comes to the surface.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Cannonejones]

The MOTHER QUESTION is SOOOOO important! Stephan you are ON POINT with this one. I experienced this exact issue in my first marriage to my late husband (I was married young at 21) it was ROUGH first 4/5 yrs because of her! She never liked any of her daughter in laws but I got the worst of it since I took her BABY BOY 😩 but he eventually got a hold of the situation (wGods help) but I constantly felt like I was trying to steer a huge boat between the two of them… and not SHIP WRECK!

[@lisasylvester4055]

The last question about fitness needs to be more age based.... (considering til death do you part) because as people age, things in the body change...not just weight. wrinkles, sagging, body parts stop working correctly, health issues come up, etc.... so, while in the early years this bears a lot of weight, the rest of the deeper issues need to be in place because if it's truly til death do you part, this falls by the wayside...

[@tammysilver2288]

No, the mother question is absolutely correct to know before hand. Thank you for leaving it in.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@Ifeoma999]

Profundity video! 💜 True indeed, because LOVE isn't enough...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️