How To Know If You Should Keep Trying With Him...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray you receive the man who wants to love you, not use you ❤️ Get your copy of "The Man God Has For You" here 👉 www.themangodhasforyou.com 👈 it is absolutely worth it!

[@panda22187]

Hi I ordered your books it says download but do I get the book its self in the mail? Bc I have no room to download anything lol

[@A.I.0001]

Love your video! I wish most men had your attitude. I love having a family but not the husband I wanted. Hardest part is that 3 children are involved and holding me back from breaking their happiness.

[@shar-imani]

You are an amazing blessing. I’ve never been a KZbin watcher, but I’m online every night now learning from you. Praise God for Leaders like yourself🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@idaleecorchado7902]

You no you worth it💋

[@doz6521]

Felt like this video was for me. This was so helpful. I'm having some trouble breaking away because he doesn't want to break it up. At the same time he doesn't want to change. And it's a non-negotiable. The "biological clock" is real, and I was single for so many years before this relationship.

[@chefnic4763]

I'm happily married now but the road here with my man was a rollercoaster to say the least. My now husband and I dated on and off for years. We loved each other so much, but it was toxic because we both had so much growing and healing to do. We had to separately deal with our issues. Fast forward years later, we reunited and are able to truly love and appreciate one another. Being equally yolked really makes a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be afraid to walk away. Don't be afraid to do the work and don't settle ladies. God has great things for you! ❤

[@leticiajae4646]

Thank you 🙏🏻 I needed to hear that 🥰

[@chefnic4763]

@@leticiajae4646 ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@r-erin2go380]

This is great to see. Thank you for telling.

[@chefnic4763]

@@r-erin2go380 ❤

[@missa7562]

When the pain outweighs the pleasure it’s time to move on.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@elizabethbabilonia7046]

LOVE LOVE THIS, THANKS FOR SHARING.

[@zee_lolaj7382]

Mmmmm A WHOLE Verse right here

[@mrs.sullivan5614]

🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳✊🏿🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳He is so knowledgeable. I really enjoy listening to him. He have made me look at myself and others at a different perspective. I already took his advise for eating plant base food. Excited to see my results. Thank you Stephan for sharing your knowledge to all of the ladies who doesn't have men in there life to touch the really care about female hormonal attachment to men.🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳✊🏿🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳🕳

[@lalaisfabulous3868]

This

[@denisesmith8657]

Actions speak louder than words. You’ll know if he’s worth it by his effort and actions toward you. Even if you feel a connection with him, if there is no effort towards you, he’s just not that interested in you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback

[@jayc5756]

True

[@metro3372]

I'm not sure if i agree with this one. Because it could be a cause of Right Man Wrong Time

[@denisesmith8657]

@@metro3372 Good point. Definitely something to consider.

[@LoveWithin]

I agree the actions let you know, even if it's the wrong time. If it's the wrong time, move on until you or the other person is in a better space.

[@patriciascorner4686]

Yeah, attachment can keep a person stuck in a bad relationship

[@missindie4199]

💯💯

[@daniellemason8481]

So true

[@EdjeMr1975]

This is wy im Single, No drama, No Pain, I love myself, im happy with myself, i have a job, My own house, few good friends, and i love my Fam, life is wonderful

[@namugerwashamim1159]

But its Godly to love, yes you need your space I did too, but am sure I will still find love and Start again.

[@againstallodds404]

Same here

[@emiliarichard5445]

Lucky you im miserable in my relationship.

[@OkJess0404]

Good for you! But oh my WOW! 😅👀

[@miamiller9435]

You can have a good job and all the money in the world but it not nothing if you don't have someone to share it with.

[@EllieM_Travels]

A man asked me out 7 years ago and I told him I still had a lot of healing to do before I could even think about dating. He said he did too. We agreed to keep it a friendship and support each other’s efforts in healing ourselves, and now 7 years later we’re both much stronger and in a committed relationship.

[@demetriaphillips4110]

So true . Don’t date a man with potential. I use to not look at what the man is now and look at potential. The relationships never worked .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@kimberlycasimir5310]

When someone tells you how they feel listen and move accordingly .

[@DatDyme980]

Amen! or slap yourself in the end...

[@jayc5756]

Facts!

[@jayc5756]

@@DatDyme980 Lol

[@DatDyme980]

@@jayc5756 #Realtalk tho! 😁

[@jayc5756]

@@DatDyme980 😁

[@rubycubez1103]

Throughout the yrs, I've learned once my intuition starts really going off, it's time to move on.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

always important to listen to your intuition

[@lauraannfields3790]

I can't stay. My peace is threatened. He wants a submissive woman. I'm a compromising woman. He's right. I'm always wrong. I took the ring off.

[@lauraannfields3790]

He says you need to do. He never asks. Moved on.

[@jayc5756]

Thats good

[@jayc5756]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Facts!

[@paolaallende3856]

“you cant make it work if your working by yourself” 🗣🗣🗣🗣

[@emeraldj1634]

I had to leave a guy because he said he was no longer attracted to me since I gained a few pounds over the years due to certain medications i take. I started my weight loss journey but I guess the weight wasn't falling off fast enough for him. He always brought up my weight . I realized I deserve better

[@cjafgjdsgjsadgsdagas]

Sorry that happened to you . You are beautiful and deserve nothing but the best. ❤️

[@emeraldj1634]

@@cjafgjdsgjsadgsdagas thank you 🙂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@emeraldj1634]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you Stephan I'm still in the healing process taking it day by day.

[@elizabethmarrerocreates]

Wow what a jerk and you're so beautiful

[@thisismystone9658]

And God does not disappoint. He truly gives you the information that you need.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right! Thank you for sharing!

[@joannamarie3861]

I found out in the beginning of May that my fiance of 4 1/2 years cheated...I wasn't looking for it and I didn't expect because he was safe and we had 2 children together who he took to cheat on my birthday weekend! I wasn't looking everything cane to me...he stopped talking to her for 1 day and she gave me everything about the affair screen shots photos smh....now he acts like he cares fir me!

[@thisismystone9658]

@@joannamarie3861 I am sorry you had to go through that experience..

[@thisismystone9658]

What did you do next?

[@LadyYella]

Amen sis🙌

[@AdventuresWithBrie]

I won't date a man again because of his potential or if he still needs healing/isn't completely over his last relationship; no matter how I feel about the guy.

[@angelafayesims1563]

Amen Sis🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌!!!

[@jayc5756]

Good!

[@ButterCookie1984]

That's good stuff! That it is dating intelligently.

[@chiomahilda]

This is a valid reason. If he knows what he wants, he will come for you. Being indecisive is a turn off and waste of time for ladies

[@latoyaredman8137]

So much truth. Intuition does not lie. We lie to ourselves.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always important to listen to your intuition

[@chinwe2507]

What is intuition?

[@chinwe2507]

Does we all have it?

[@Candie4JC]

“But you’re dealing with new crap.” That’s a whole sermon right there.

[@skyfall1481]

Once I realised my goals were being derailed due to the confusion and anxiety this guy bought my life. I finally understood being single is the best course of action. It hurts and it’s hard...but everything is in the beginning. Back to work.

[@jorgeramos5495]

I want to refer you to the same person that helped me brought back my lover

[@jorgeramos5495]

What sap him 😊🎀

[@jorgeramos5495]

+ 2 3 4 8 1 5 9 1 5 8 9 1 5 🎀🎀😊

[@positiveenergyonlyasmr2943]

100% of the time you already see the signs of the relationship, they are pushed aside and covered up as something else. Open your eyes and be very upfront and real with yourself.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing!

[@karijaye52]

Truth! I had to heal totally and step out on faith. If I hadn't healed, I wouldn't be with my other half, I would've entered a relationship half broken. I couldn't heal without God as my guide! I had to heal from within, I had to start listening to ME and not the audience!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Healing is definitely key! I'm glad to hear that, thank you for your sharing.

[@justmissyperiod2051]

Nice Kari

[@justmissyperiod2051]

@@ericjohnson964 im awesome thanks for asking

[@justmissyperiod2051]

@@ericjohnson964 well why not Eric

[@8crazybutterflies]

I'm in the middle of this video crying. I needed this. Thank you.

[@deirdrecook409]

Me too im sad because i truly love him but watching this videos im truly in love with the wrong man

[@kathleensueoka3599]

Me too BUT love yourself first and set and maintain clear strong boundaries

[@carolineshehab2696]

He created the demons in my head: I forgave him for living a double life, stood by and helped him through difficulties. Yet & still, spoke to him numerously on how his negative behavior was killing the trust : carrying his cell on him most of the time while at home - said, he needed to look things up and reading / videos while in the bathroom, never picked up incoming calls from any friends / family members while I was present - he claimed, he wasn't comfortable talking with others around, the most he could have me around was 3 days without becoming fidgety & distant- blamed it on insufficient space since,residing in a studio apt., sometimes, feeling uncomfortable because he felt obligated in entertaining me, ugh. Said, he loved me but found this so hard to understand his conduct. The less I understood, the more I questioned until he resulted in becoming verbally abusive then, physically...that killed it! Talking to himself and when I left, he'd imagine me present and hold conversations...so he said...😪😱😭 For me, fear took the place of love so, I ghosted him until present. Man needs psychological help and I pray that one day he'll seek it in order to heal.

[@ummesalma9223]

Me as 16 watching this ; Me : man you are going to save my future ❤️❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙌 that is awesome to hear

[@jayc5756]

@@jartustevens9831 👍

[@greengoddessof75]

Listen to him please!!!!!

[@cammyTalksLife]

I definitely agree . If it’s not time to be in a relationship then work on yourself first. If no one wants to hold accountability for negative behavior. Then it’s time to leave. Happy Sunday and be blessed.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@moomoo0670]

Lord I wish you were around yrs ago because I wouldn't have made all the mistakes I have made in relationships.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏❤

[@WillBlindYouWithLight]

Frt

[@soulflmind]

Living through those mistakes teach us💖sometime more than once. Blessings ✨

[@chinwe2507]

I know right. Wish I heard all things year’s ago. I would have made good choices

[@itzmari21]

Wow . I’m only 19 and went thru all of this . God as I enter my 20’s please help and guide me so that I will not to make the same choices .

[@strive09]

Once a women gets tired of the bs is time to move on, we need to get comfortable being alone without any man toxic, or genuine good for us. We need to love ourselves, appreciate ourself, know our self worth, its ok to be alone or to stand alone , it makes us stronger in the end, I always call myself a lioness because I am a strong will person who is certain of who she is women we need to be lioness know what we want know what we truly deserve in life 😀💪

[@tiararobinson2679]

These things are true but isn’t it also correct that God sent woman and man to love each other and to help each other grow? I just feel that it’a also an okay standard to be in love. Yes I’m under this post because I am having issues but I want to keep strong, but I also feel love is a beautiful thing.

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

You sound like a strong, independent woman. I don't know why you viewed this video, but I hope you're happy in the solitude of loving yourself.

[@WanjiruMuya]

For me i don't like to keep on giving more and more chances until i hate him😬

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯

[@ferlesha1405]

I know exactly what you mean. I know.

[@yvenettejean4263]

💯💯 exactly how I’m feeling

[@jayc5756]

💯

[@jo9882]

Omg I got to that point I’m so disgusted with him now.

[@1962BlessedMe]

I asked the hard questions and I did let him go. It was harder than I thought but done. I love that statement, " Love does not keep you where you do not belong." Posting that one. Wow!!!

[@Bee_licious92]

This came right on time. I'm currently going through this exact situation and needed to hear this. This also lets me know what I need to do from here moving forward. Thanks Stephan

[@emiliarichard5445]

Me tooo same situation hard to.let go hes great in some thingd and horrible and some

[@kourtney101]

relationship success is also contingent on each partner's ability to make room for each other. It's delightful to acquiesce to one another's preferences & it shows you care. ❤

[@Itsmiimiibaby]

Omg. I told him that I made room for him but he couldn’t do the same. He even told me that he was trying to see if I could fit in his life and then he would make room. He didn’t make time only if I made a big deal. I should NOT HAVE TO BEG FOR YOUR TIME OR ANYTHING.

[@sarahmitchell8185]

I’m writing a book about this. Focus on your own wants and needs, and then you will see he’s barely lifting a finger. Idk, I learned from experience that the low effort is real.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@terriwhalen7988]

Amen, facing ourselves is one of the most important and hardest things we do, and if we don't allow God to lead the healing process, it will not work. It all begins with ourselves!

[@callmekells802]

The truth hurts so much. Thank you for being so honest .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@jenniferhanson6467]

I've subscribed and put the notification on for all videos and my KZbin algorithm keeps bringing up new suggestions and I've been praying over my situation with a nice enough but immature, all over the place Christian man. I've been pouring into him/the situation and getting frustrated and I realized that I'm in a season to stay single, heal and pour into myself to level up to the next level.. LEVELS, plural. This video spoke to me and I believe is nudged from God to save me. So thank you Stephan and God truly bless you. I'm going to buy your book about the man God has for me, reiterate.. GOD , the man GOD has for me and not my broken understanding and unhealed heart. Amen.

[@elizabethbabilonia7046]

@Stephan, WHAT I LOVE MOST IS THAT YOU KEEP IT REAL AND MOST OF THE TIME WE DON'T WANT TO ADMIT AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR WRONGS. ITS A EVERY DAY BATTLE, BUT WE NEED TO PRAY ON IT AND LET GOD DO HIS WORK.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

[@annettelozano5232]

LOOOOVE THE LAST POINT! GOD'S WISDOM CAN BE DIFFICULT AT TIMES, BUT HEARING THROUGH THE SPIRIT OFTEN GIVES A CLEAR CUT DIRECTION. THANK YOU, STEPHAN FOR EMPHASIZING THAT ONE!

[@mishakhooks]

Attachments are difficult to break out of😳

[@rhodacampbell]

I was struggling to follow through with the decision I needed to make because I needed to untangle my thoughts. Your video helped to set out my thoughts clearly and set down my standards… now I’m taking my energy and attention to raising my vibration again. Thank you for taking the time to share what you think.

[@stephaniecyrus9761]

Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between your heart and your intuition. Both what you to be happy. May see the same situation differently.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Yes, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best.

[@lauraraneri4250]

No way, I'd rather be alone than with someone who brings me down!!! 💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely isn't an easy situation, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@angelafayesims1563]

Omg...Stephan🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤😊😊😊💪💪💪🙏🙏🙏!!! Everything you spoke of & described in this video made me rejoice!!! Why!?! Because I just ended a toxic attachment 5mths ago with all the (unequally yoked attitudes, behaviors, lack of communication, etc...); & am so grateful God answered my prayers!!!😊❤😊❤🙏 I know better what God desires for me & I won't settle for anything less...EVER!!!💃💃💃💃 Met a gentleman 3weeks ago...& he is pursuing me in a way that is different than I've ever experienced😊😊😊😊!?! God still answers prayers & gives us the desires of our hearts!!!May this message help those who can't see & hear!!!❤❤❤ God Bless You & your channel, Stephan!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@moniqueb3917]

If someone show you how they are believe it. Great tips

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@rhondnn1]

Hi 👋👋 you have been a true man who wants to help women thank you my brother 🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@elizabethbabilonia7046]

@Stephan I'M SO GUILTY OF THIS AND ONCE AGAIN I'M NOT LISTENING TO THE SIGNS AND MY INTUITION. THIS HIT HOME AND I NEED TO LISTEN. POINT BLANK!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Listening to your intuition is definitely key!

[@Nancy22102]

Me too

[@elizabethbabilonia7046]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks YES SIR! I APPRECIATE YOU!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

@@elizabethbabilonia7046 ❤🙂 Thank you

[@leighadannett1528]

Your videos make me feel like you’re directly speaking to me😭 really hits home, thank you 🙏🏽

[@karenlewis9314]

Excellent you are on point. You gave excellent points for healing. Two can't walk together unless they agree. Love doesn't keep you where you do not belong. A lot of people stay out of fear because they don't want to be alone. Women have to know their self worth.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!

[@issahugues4474]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@JamaicaLove876]

Great video. I agree that fear cannot allow you to attach to someone who is not invested into making an effort in the relationship. If there is a toxic environment that would be a reason to let it go, as it will eventually drain you and erode your spirit. Self-assessment is key, facing your own issues, and making peace with past mistakes. If both partners are pouring into each other wholeheartedly with a genuine connection that is the only recipe for a successful outcome. Thank you,as always.

[@djpotpourre10]

You are preaching today Stephan!! I’m hot off a relationship where I fell for the potential and I fought for him to do and be better and heal, but he was happy being where he was and went back to one of his baby mamas who accepted that. You broke it down! No more settling because I won’t go through the hard parts and I still have healing to do! 💕

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Good morning hard too find a good man who ‘s really going too luv seriously n sacrifice that ‘s going too make you happy n also willing too take the burnden off you n willing too simple things first of all send you roses , car repairs , bill paid ,get away weekend , also put your first n communications that ‘s important !

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Goodmorning real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals! A real good man will put god first in his life n also put you properity , help with bills , keep gas in your car n repairs , take you work on his off days n send you roses . A real good man will work too bones make should everything good at home !

[@rashawntaylor4316]

I take this seriously what is say from the bottom of my heart !

[@Yelloowwwwreddd]

That is not Love tho, real love means you accept every bit of them and not wanting them to keep changing.

[@annekajordan6952]

If true love is not there and you are not bringing out the best in each other, not elevating each other, not inspiring each other- basically not living out your purpose together, then yes that is likely a sign that there is no connection there and therefore not worth staying in the relationship. That’s why we have to consult with God, but better to do that BEFORE actually getting in the relationship to clarify whether they are even the right one in the first place.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always consult with God. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@annekajordan6952]

You’re welcome. All your points are on point 👌❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

Anneka!!!!!!!! Speak Queen, say it LOUDER!!!! Consult with God and STAY OFF YOUR BACK!!!!

[@tileewitcher1201]

I'm really torn on whether I should move on or keep trying 💔

[@ashestoglory2319]

I'm in the same boat. 🤦‍♀️

[@DatDyme980]

If it helps, examine if you're the only one fighting. Best to you sis and all in that situation. Been there. 👍🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I hope this video was helpful to you.

[@Itsjoyyyeee]

If its draining you, Then you should move on. Unless if thats what you want till you grow old together.

[@glorious_glo]

I’m in the same situation. Lord Give me strength.

[@ldsrealestate2]

Thank you for confirming my past relationship decisions. I guess the search and the healing continues.❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through! 🙏

[@kimmariano1843]

Im so attached with the person who i knew from the start is not right for me. And finally im moving on.. this is such a good reinforcement to my decision. Thank you Stephan you give me so much clarity.

[@tamarasaxon9232]

Was he a great guy?

[@phyllisscantland6627]

I’ve been asking God and I don’t think it’s the right relationship. He’s trying so hard to make it work and I feel badly for that. But I’m not healed enough for anyone and neither is he.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you both heal all that you have been through! 🙏

[@annecavanaugh3585]

I've been a people pleasing "fixer" my entire life.The last man I dated came on super strong then backed away off. I cut him loose in less than 2 months...shorty thereafter along came Mr. Right 👍 so glad I didn't waste time trying to "fix" Mr. Wrong! It was watching videos like yours that helped me see clearly. Thank you for sharing your insight😍

[@kairosunltd130]

I remember it took me a while many moons ago to finally get clarity even after the relationship had ended but I'm glad I finally listened to the Most High and my intuition. On a better path indeed! Healthier emotionally, and mentally. Peace is a virtue and total dependence on Yahweh is priceless!!!!!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯💯💯❤❤❤❤❤

[@emiliahanley]

Oh God! Can I say it was the law of attraction that brought this video to me? Thank you!!! ❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️ You're a blessing! 😘

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@stephieaesthetics]

The homebody situation was a great example. I had to deal with the same situation. From time to time I wanted to spend time outside the house with him and when I mentioned it to him, he said he's not that way. If I wanted to go to the beach it was a no, dinner no, family gatherings no. Amongst other issues, he was just too laid back. The relationship wasn't progressing because I always felt like I was forcing him to do things with me when there are men who get happy to spend time outdoors with their significant other. I spoke to God many times and nothing changed so the relationship wasn't worth it anymore. For now I'm just focusing on myself.

[@carpediem7694]

So damn true. No incentive for a man to become better, if you give him all the benefits before reaching his full potential. Had to learn it the hard way 😞

[@jessahirano]

I want to say thank you so much because I have been watching your videos, it helps me a lot in my self-improvement and healing journey. And my favourite part is everytime you remind us (believers) to have faith and rely on God. I hope God continues to bless you and your family. 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you, I appreciate your support!

[@palesam3335]

I lost an amazing man almost 2 months ago. I broke up with him. He did everything right! Just didn’t really make time and I spoke to him multiple times about it. He’d promise to see me but it was always empty promises and I finally lost it and broke up with him angrily. Ever since, he’s not picking up my phone, reads my texts and never gets back to me. I feel so empty. He was more like my best friend. I wake up everyday missing him. There’s not a day that passes without me thinking of him and I just think he’s moved on. I’m hopeless, very sad, nothing excites me. It’s so dark.

[@tawandathechosenvessel6186]

Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and his righteousness all these things will be added to me. God, I love you. Thank you for this video to hear what the Spirit is saying to church. The opportunity to connect with God and humanity of life everyday challenges.

[@nomorevictims120]

I left because the marriage was toxic and one sided. I was always walking on eggshells. I really left because it was starting to cause our son who I found out had autism earlier this year anxiety.

[@sweetreinny7026]

Oh no That poor boy Children go through a lot when the home is shaking. Be advised that it doesn't matter what happens think about the kids first. Don't let it be too late. I pray that God heals your son who is suffering from what he doesn't know anything about.

[@emiliarichard5445]

Same situation my son has autism too we always argiring and my kids are in the middle of it i need to leave sooner tban.later buy i dont know where to start i hsve no.job place to go ny family is faraway i dont know what to do.im.lost for 12 yrs now

[@adaofcharles1217]

"Love does not keep you in the wrong place." Apt!

[@sharoneh8929]

AMEN✅💯❗

[@jacquelineburson9714]

I definitely agree with writing a letter. It provides a tangible source of reference.

[@amati7940]

Fantastic. Ex left me 6 months ago, now he’s come back but he hasn’t fully healed. I love him and he me, but he’s not where I’m at and can’t provide me with what I want or need from a relationship. He needs to grow. Thank you for bringing me some clarity.

[@donna2693]

❤️ this...spot on with the potential thing....we need to start basing of the reality....we set ourselves up to fail with our own expectations and them not living up to their potential....date what is front of you, not behind you or Infront of you base of the here and now and you won't be disappointed or in fantasy land.... personally I'm remaining single, cause anyone I meet, makes remaining single the more attractive option.....xo

[@donna2693]

Love life no thanx....took me long enough to get him out of my life and i certaintly don't want him back 😂....xo

[@laurenthornton3126]

OMG this literally gave me so much clarity. I about to go to sleep, but clicked on the video anyway and I’m SO glad I did. Thank you so much.

[@brownshugakale2410]

Moving forward can only happen when the individual is emotionally mature and open minded. But above all else for me, if God is truly his head - then we are good. Seek godly counsel, engage in therapy for spiritual growth, and stay clear of bad company. They corrupt good habits. Life is too short to be in constant strife with anybody we say we love. And let love be without hypocrisy ! Romans 12:9. Too many ppl throw the word Love around and true love is treating your spouse the way you'd wanna be treated. Period. Character, conduct, & conversation also give clarity in evaluation. It takes two to make it right.

[@2008LadyLaura]

Amen!!! In addition surface change is not enough. There has to be respect, reciprocity, selflessness, communication. A behavior change may be temporary. Easy come easy go....a lot of woman think they cant do better because they feel "safe". Safe may come with possessiveness and control being misconstrued as being love. People move to fast. Real love shouldn't be hard. What does he do for the relationship? Is he just there? What does he do for you? How does he treat his loved ones? A lot of people are one way in public and another in private. Take your time and if someone pressures you then they aren't patient and love is patient love is kind.

[@brownshugakale2410]

@@2008LadyLaura you summed that up really well..the part that grabbed my attention "how does he treat his loved ones" ... Ppl wear the mask, men and women 🎭. Two-faced & that's when you know it won't work 'cause that's insight into some deeply rooted issues. That alone will cause you to question "what about this is positive and true love". The answer is simple, NONE. Double-minded, unstable & will try to undermine anyone who calls them out on it like you're crazy. NPD at it's finest. Sad, but once we stop believing their lies - we can acknowledge the truth. We deserve the love we give.

[@angelafayesims1563]

Very Well Stated❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏!!! Dr. Charles Stanley!!!😍🙌😊🙏

[@brownshugakale2410]

@@angelafayesims1563 I love Dr Stanley's devotionals. Helped me through many dark and difficult times of my relationship 🙌🏾. Blessings to you 🤗🙏🏽

[@angelafayesims1563]

@@brownshugakale2410 ... Amen & Amen❤❤🙌🙌😊😊💃💃💪💪😍😍🙏🙏!!! Me too.

[@carenmaslowsky8408]

So POWERFUL and well spoken! Attachment vs love after many years into it can be a hard thing to back up and face.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Yes, it definitely isn't an easy situation.

[@seanj11421]

People should realize, his message goes both ways. It’s almost impossible to believe that men are going through this and we face these issues as well.

[@leilashlosser9384]

You make so much sense. I’m out. I’m looking for someone who has the same goals as me

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

[@thisismystone9658]

Haha. It's true. His truth can mean to be cruel sometimes especially if it's not what we want.

[@foxy007cleopatra]

Accountability is everything 🤞🏽

[@xbubbles10x]

This was eerily on time for me! Was just considering these things this morning, and funny enough the biggest issue is the homebody example that you used! Thank you for this Stephan 🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@olympiapelgone9686]

yes i didnt want to be alone for whole time.thats why i pray for myself to find a guy for me.

[@charlottebrowen2778]

Preach brother 🙌 not having quantity, no more quality 💯 real talk, Houston.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you

[@johnettarodriguez4544]

Gmorning Stephen Speaks may God continue to bless and keep you Sir now and forever thank u 🙏🏿 for caring and sharing and helping us to understand more about love ❤️ and relationship oh how I love 💕 Jesus God bless u Sir

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

thank you ❤ I appreciate that

[@thameshasebro2678]

I must admit you have shown me the work I need to do to heal from any insecurities or past trauma. I have learned to become more feminine and understanding. The man in my life praises me and see me as his prize, thanks to you I'm happy of the woman I'm becoming. 🤗🌹

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@rebekahgreig2844]

I love the idea of expressing oneself through a letter. I'm going to do that.

[@heavenlygrandma9992]

He is a people pleaser and they hurt the ones they are closest to and I'm tired of being hurt.

[@kortiniamartin9682]

It's funny, it just wrote a pros and cons list on a guy to determine if I wanted to back track. And the cons outweigh the pros, so I blocked his number. I was really considering going back . Then he said something in a text and I made that list and that list just made me realize how toxic he was to me mentally and I am in the middle of fasting as well, so I definitely know god had a majority say in my action! Cuz I have never in my life wrote a list about any man....I normally just go off how I feel, the connection and attraction, but that wasn't enough for me..... I no longer trust him, I never listened to what he say to begin with, so i definitely know i would not let him lead me so it's a no go... God I am still waiting the devil tried to trip me up I'm blessed and I have no time for a man who wants to dim my light! I need God to see me..... and hear me not turn from me. Smh

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You got this, trust in God and he will never forsake you. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏

[@kortiniamartin9682]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you for your words of encouragement and please stay prayed up for me and I shall stay prayed up for you as well to reach more people and more success, friends in christ😇🙏💪

[@leticiajae4646]

I'd like to thank you Stephan and show my appreciation for your videos and the time you take to share your advice. For a while now I've been listening to you and such a comfort to hear you speak what is in my heart for how I believe a relationship looks and feels like. At times I felt my standards were too high and that I am such a minority in how I live my life...but you don't make me feel so alone there! So thank you again🙏🏻During my time of listening to you I engaged in a 6 month relationship. I have done much work on myself, much deep healing and thought I had healed enough to attract a healthy man. Can one heal ego? And the destructive behaviours that one has when they drop into ego? Along with multiple addictions? He says he wants to heal, to grow, to change, but 6 months in I'm still suffering waiting for his healing with very little effort and action shown on his behalf. By staying, supporting him and pouring my love into him, I have given him no incentive to change. A large dose of reality for me by you! Watching your videos helps me when I doubt myself or miss the man that is not good for me. You help me stay clear, stay strong and continue to focus on my growth, my healing, my connection to God/Divine consciousness and my purpose. Thank you so very much. Without doubt there are so many more people who feel the gratitude I feel for your messages and teachings. I trust you know the powerful effect you are having on people's lives in such a positive and healing way. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏻💚

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@leticiajae4646]

Very welcome@@MeetStephanSpeaks Would you be interested in making a video on the topic of ego? And if you feel or have witnessed people healing from reacting out of their ego, rather than being able to have those much needed emotionally mature conversations in a relationship. Or is it just their separation from spirituality and God that causes the ego to have complete control over them? Thank you Stephan :) xo

[@priscillajones7105]

Stephan you are always right on time with your topics! 💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@jildyseduards]

I hate that you are so on point in this video but you helped me realize that I need to let this go...Thank you for this. Greetings from Suriname🇸🇷

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help, thank you for watching, and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@csstudio3648]

Truth bombs here!!! Really needed to hear this today! Thank you. Love your channel.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@janisdunbarakasugarlips5621]

You are probably proud of me Wow she came back with a book like this

[@Toocoolnessa]

Wow my eyes are finally open, thank you and may God bless you 🙏🏽

[@beckyanna7287]

Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.

[@beckyanna7287]

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[@lennyladd3253]

I did everything went my way open my self to be vulnerable, but was not good enough he alway's give me breadcrumb's😥

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!

[@jujubee90275]

I love your spirit Stephan. And your laugh is so AMAZING

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you

[@ramonajohnson2738]

Stephan 🙌, Excellent topic, thank you! Alot of us really need to watch this... The breakdown and examples you shared has made things much clearer. For those struggling on what to do, "Stay or Go".. Is something we've all toyed with because of lack of insite or what have you. Stephan thank you for being honest, showing your humor, being real and true to who you are as a Relationship Coach. It's very much appreciated. Ty and Godbless 🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response! May God bless you as well!

[@moenlightening]

Your locs look great. The last date I went on, the man had locs, unkept locs and looked as if he just got out of bed. Now if his hair was done, clothes ironed and actually fit it could've worked out. Unfortunately, he is a 44 year old that dresses like he's 24. Some men forget that they need to maintain their appearance, the same way women do.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@freshmanjeans]

And they get offended even if u offer to help do their hair

[@freshmanjeans]

Some get offended too when you try to show and teach them how to dress

[@virglow]

I have been distracting myself from healing. He has a lot of healing to do too.

[@rosemariecalumpangtapis6296]

I will just leave him or alone if not in the same page, I value the man in the same page we have peace in our presence listening or talking in his coaching about the greatness of relationship

[@LIDYAEIL]

Thank you Stephan for pouring into us so much!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

my pleasure ❤

[@1970anfield]

Wow this hit a spot. I haven't healed yet. And I'm hoping he will. I wanna help him when I'm not even helping myself. Im a counselor but I need to hear this over and over again. I love him cos he's loyal, a man of integrity, principle. But he's hurt from past relationships so he closes up and I can't get thru. I get the bare minimum and felt like I'm ok with the bare minimum cos I don't wanna lose him. We were ok at the start but then the negative stuff came in and then I too became negative. Double whammy. We both aren't leaving. Still chatting twice a day (LDR) , calling each other twice a week. Small talk, sometimes serious, but not teasing and fun anymore. Maybe we're both feeling for each other. I don't wanna give up yet

[@1970anfield]

I meant to say maybe we both just feel sorry for each other.

[@virtuouswomanthelordfirst538]

You never fail to educate Stephan. I’m in congruence with all the highlighted reasons and you have hit the nail on the head. Continue doing Jesus’s work as a true defined man of God! I love all your books and they are so powerful!🙌🏾💯🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@dawnmarie4864]

You are so right...sad but true I felt this..and I did love him but I had to let him go

[@wordscanchangetheworld9335]

I've been working so much on myself and healing, & I've realized that I've been waiting 10 & 1/2 years for a proposal, he says he's going to do it. Kept saying he was saving for a ring 5 years ago, said repeatedly he has the $ for the ring & that he could propose tomorrow, that feels like a slap.. then he messes up, I leave the relationship & he lures me back with apologizes & saying I deserve to be proposed to, and I fall for him again due to "deferred hope" we now live together & I've felt like nothing but a " financial helper" for him. I don't keep bringing it up, bc he says that if I talk about it, I'm either pressuring him or not patient or not supposed to know when.. or he gets frustrated. I'm tired of giving & getting breadcrumbs in return, & like you said " I stay out of hope or the potential..I just want to leave and not waste another 10 years

[@geegeeperry7823]

There are many words of encouragement that we can give…but 10 and a half years is a very long time of feeling anything less than loved and appreciated so I would rather send you some love instead!!! A heart for every year you stayed 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10 💖💝💞💕🖤🤍🖤🤍💖💝

[@_Gracefullyyours]

I can relate to you I am going through the same thing ☹️ and yes 10 years

[@wordscanchangetheworld9335]

@@geegeeperry7823 awww I really love & appreciate this ❤️

[@wordscanchangetheworld9335]

@@_Gracefullyyours I don't wish this emotional and mental abuse on anyone.. this one sided love that asks of you & gives nothing in return.. so if you have taken some blows to the heart like me.. my hope is freedom and the courage to be able to walk away from anything that or anyone that gives us anything less than we have invested! I understand and us woman have to stick together ❤️

[@richelleforcer3170]

Girl,same here. Do what you need to for you. Remember that no one is going to do for you like God and you can do for you. People care about what's best and comfortable for them.

[@jennifermartin5120]

Some people stay in toxic relationships for their kids, not having the money to leave or feeling wrong to leave a marriage. Can you do a video on this?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@vmaye3772]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks yes please do a video like that

[@emiliarichard5445]

Please do we need help on tbat subject im in that situation right now 12 yrs later and i cannot leave and i have my son who has autism and im staying because of him and my 12 year old daughter. I need help soo badly.

[@3pministry-passionatelypur475]

We’ve all heard him but we don’t like what we hear, so true 🤦🏽‍♀️