9 EARLY Signs A Relationship WILL Fail

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how much does it cost to speak with you You give good advice but I need steps You give steps to watch out for but steps to bring up the issue without creating an issue. my husband who died 2yrs ago was difficult to speak with and we always argued when I wanted to talk. I want a healthy love relationship. I see red flags but who do I bring it up. I have been praying for several weeks to give me words of wisdom. Sir help me grow bcuz if this does not work I still need to know how to bring up flags I do not like.

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[@JemyM]

Bad communication will kill every relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely, communication is definitely key!

[@mmommo10]

yes and my new date is not really communicating.....;(

[@estelalopez3563]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks and reassurance is important

[@Portia620]

Communication can harm a relationship too! Be honest or Andrews your feelings and wow people can hear it different perspectives are important too.

[@msdemeanour]

Don't be trying to fix a man while he's breaking you in the process. Protect your soul from parasites. 💌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@ReRe-hi8ze]

You nailed it🎤💣

[@ivancandita6892]

Same goes for woman

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[@heeybombshell1455]

“Do not confuse two people staying together with success…Longevity doesn’t equal success.” Damn that hits so hard 💯

[@sonjibrown4146]

It definitely does!!! 💯💯

[@tiadavis5120]

Facts

[@ysmithriley]

@Bombshell Mom TRUTH! I had envied my brother for many years because he had a HAPPY MARRIAGE which I desperately yearned for...UNTIL HE DIDN'T‼️

[@Mr.actor.1]

it is like a coin, the way you observe it, is totally difference from the way others sees it.

[@evettashuler4490]

True That!!!

[@davannisj.donaldson5539]

9 EARLY signs that a relationship will fail: 1. Sexual incompatibility 2. Too soon (having sex) 3. Not able to talk to each other 4. One sided relationship 5. You can’t be yourself around them 6. The balance of energy is off in the relationship (Masculine & Feminine energy) 7. Fighting and disrespect 8. Lack of healing and lack of trust 9. Bad timing 10. Lack of connection (bonus)

[@FinalCurtainCall]

I recently removed myself from someone because of No. 5 . I still don't look back and have no regrets because I kept telling myself If I can't be myself around him, this won't work. ✌️

[@lisawentworth6831]

I think number 2 was temper. People having sex too soon can be an issue, but it not a deal breaker and make relationships doomed

[@schawnettarobinson8584]

So true ❤❤❤

[@spud4079]

#4 is about to be the reason she's gonna lose me.

[@linettelow]

Thank you.🫶🫶

[@fosterjanine5112]

You will never be GOOD ENOUGH for the WRONG person because they are not good enough for themselves. Besides you can't make someone happy if they are not happy inside.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

RIGHT!!!!

[@Faustinembeh_backup]

😂😂😂😂so true you will never be good enough for the wrong person

[@mmommo10]

my new date is labeling ME stubborn (as well as himself) for us not communicating, twice he assumed I said something negative when I know I did not, he's telling friends where I am/am not, he never texts or calls, we get along, but, we really don't talk, very strange.

[@Portia620]

Truths!

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

"You can get physically naked, but can you get emotionally naked or vulnerable??" 🙌🏽🖤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙌

[@joygiftwilson286]

🔥🔥🔥

[@paniq_fnite]

Amen. 💍❤️❤️💯

[@deelightful6124]

Now THAT’S the question

[@sandramccall5888]

This Is Powerful

[@leslieweir7051]

" friendship " and "respect" should be the basis of every relationship, if u can not be each other's friend then the relationship won't last, people let the outside world effect their relationship with their partner at times...people need to remember to fight together not apart....

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that!

[@Realness4sho]

Absolutely darling 🌸

[@annawilthew5438]

Thank you

[@shesdeitria1182]

I agree

[@casperinsight3524]

Good point 💥 people need to fight for each other not against each other

[@georgia6127]

Sexual incompatibility = Disconnect = disappointment and frustration= resentment and anger= lack of desire= apathy= relationship failure.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@danadane5497]

Yes lord

[@alexgarrison4729]

Wow this hit home

[@sebrinaleepayne-biscardi5411]

Many of us are Christians on this channel, so sex probably would NOT really be a concern.

[@cordeaniaknox4158]

@@sebrinaleepayne-biscardi5411 You’d be surprised at how many of us Christians still have sex before marriage knowing what the Bible says. It’s definitely needed.

[@lmcshortness1]

I just ended a relationship like what hes describing. All my ex did was take take take not giving anything. Best decision. I made. Thank you Stephan!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@mickyeuro81]

*text him or whatsapp him ,he will make your rationship blossom again from California USA is a good adviser*

[@mickyeuro81]

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[@prettyme3150]

Some guys have no shame. I can't give a dime to any guy🙄 I can't stand them

[@worldsmostmisunderstood8258]

Glad you got out, I find a lot of women are staying put in bad relationships, just like our ancestors who couldn't do better.

[@courtneyshiels6918]

" I am not coaching you to tolerate any damn person" 🤣😂🤣😂 get it Stephen ❤💪👑

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@jennaarmbruster2169]

This REALLY hit me hard.

[@shaystewart6909]

Thiiiis

[@Lynnejordan1218]

Great sex doesn't mean two people are meant for destiny together

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@ecerizer]

But it plays a big role tho

[@rosettemarshall3024]

@@ecerizer it should not

[@lexicon4u]

Doesn't hurt though!

[@Portia620]

Truths !! Great sx can be taught!!

[@kokoalaska9888]

Also don’t relie on chemistry alone. Focus on compatibility! I thought I found my husband with a guy because we had 6 hour phone conversations. Turns out this guy was an alcoholic and drug taker looking for a life vest( me). Think about a man that fits your lifestyle AND is financially stable.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Wooooooowwww

[@ilanittal2807]

👏

[@ritaodriscoll2093]

Amen. Same happened to me, 2 hour phone calls and he turned out to be a covert narc. I was the life vest also. 3 weeks after putting his name on the title of my house I got my first 10 day silent treatment

[@kokoalaska9888]

@@ritaodriscoll2093 WOW! That’s horrible. So sorry to hear that. I hope you got your affairs back in check and left that dust bucket.🙁

[@zeal4god402]

This video helped bring insights as to why God is against fornication and sexual immorality. Being patient, not rushing, and just enjoying learning about the person could prevent soooooooo much issues

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing!

[@aminah761]

Facts

[@sunshine9426]

Points after POINTS! U R JUST KEEPING IT REAL! ALL PRAISES GOES 2 GOD ALMIGHTY WHEN YOU ASK 4 HIS DIRECTIONS ON ANYTHING U DO! AMEN! 😍😂🌞

[@joygiftwilson286]

True

[@Amatullah.574]

Yes. God created us and knows what's best for us. We just don't listen.

[@kimallnaturelle]

I knew I was sexually compatible with my boyfriend without having sex. His mere touch affected me and mine his. So attraction and interest was mutual. We spoke about our expectation (timing, our libidos, our goal in marriage for sexual intimacy) and philosophy of sex (service, connection or selfish pleasure) and that matched.

[@paulokello5981]

That sounds awesome, no fornication but honest communication and emotional and spiritual connection

[@nadirajansen9762]

How long after dating did you started to talk about sex with your partner?

[@-uniqueamari]

Update?

[@Sandra-jc2fs]

Yes please, how long til you started talking openly about sex?

[@Jules-zn2bo]

Yes! Got divorced after 19 years of fake smiles

[@catherinebroadnax4089]

This describes my marriage to a T. Been married 14 years, currently separated for almost a year. Trying to get the courage to file for a divorce. Change is difficult, but I'm working to get stronger emotionally.

[@Beautyforashes613_]

Don’t rush. Take your time.. it took me 4 years being separated to file

[@NattyGeek78]

@@Beautyforashes613_ wow. What was the final tipping point? I know someone who’s wife after saying 2 years ago, I’m done, telling the kids in April and just last month told the guy she wanted him back, wasn’t ready to throw the marriage away. So he went back to see if there is something with salvaging. Is it really that much of a see-saw.

[@prettykittea6299]

My heart and prayers go out to you be strong and courageous and when you feel it’s to hard to stand kneel 💪🏾♥️💯🙏🏾😇

[@jessicamorales2555]

God loves us, and he is always by our side. Stephan has a video about how to listen to God , you might want to look for it. All my best wishes of courage and healing to you.

[@honestinspiration]

@Catherine Broadnax I'm hoping you find something within your heart to stay and try working it out, whether that is counseling or just getting reacquainted with your partner. That is, assuming there's no domestic violence or cheating. Divorce is no joke, especially if kids are involved. Good luck!

[@williamanderson7647]

Physically naked vs. Emotionally naked! That's what I've been missing my whole life. Whenever I'd open up I'd hear it back via a disagreement or a mutual friend. Not ok.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@zionurbanwear]

I've heard many people mention meeting people at the wrong time and that's why the relationship didn't work. We also have to discuss not entertaining the right person because you were not in the right space at that time. The attraction could be so strong but because the person had goals or healing to do & didn't want to mess it up.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@zionurbanwear]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks We all appreciate you & your ministry

[@toniwilson8212]

So true Chase DePrize

[@hoodhippychick]

This happened to me and I was not ready - it was devastating. I believe the best thing to do is be friends first.

[@chefnic4763]

I wish I had this info early in life. It would have saved me from alot of PAIN. I'm healed and in a loving marriage now, but the road was rocky getting here for sure!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙏

[@decklensworld1755]

Omg, that’s so true. I unfortunately was way too masculine in my marriage and began to resent him. It wasn’t his fault, he was never taught how to be masculine. I’ve now learned how to be more feminine and look for men that are masculine.

[@Whitashley1]

I was looking for this comment. I was with my daughter's father off and on and had to break it off. I was the masculine one, sexual incompatibility, and I realized we had nothing in common. I also felt restricted in the relationship.

[@raquelwegesa7224]

Mine was too feminine, just broke up yesterday coz I don't think it's a space we can co-exist in. It hurts but I'll be fine.

[@marlobx7442]

@@raquelwegesa7224 wow that's deep

[@BBlongstroke1]

Also not being equally yoked or not putting God first in that relationship.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@nursetosha5675]

yes..

[@tmc8398]

This is number 1 . I know personally.

[@ka8155]

This is key!!!! Being unequally yoked is the worst

[@marytaylor9504]

KA So Right!!!!

[@siyasanga_makie]

The second topic was really painful. That feeling of being so misunderstood by your partner and them not wanting to hear you out. I was vulnerable once and opened up about a past trauma that he used against me when we had an argument. Being alone is really better than being stuck in such a relationship. I don’t know how I went through 2 years of it.

[@judithfloyd6693]

Try 32 years of marriage with a partner not hearing what your saying. Not even interested in what you have to say.

[@mreemzo9099]

THIS MAN IS A GURU, MAY LORD KEEP GIVING U WISDOM MY BROTHER.

[@1010divajap]

Nobody is a guru. This man makes a ton of sense and is excellent. I wish people wouldn't see an "expert" as a guru or somebody "enlightened'. That leads to blind listening.

[@nyemanuel]

I truly feel the root of WHY deep relationships aren’t working amongst individuals is….LACK OF TRUST. We don’t trust one another. We’re scared to even be vulnerable to that level because it’s assumed that we will get hurt. This is for men to women and women to men. We hear the promotion for lack of trust in music especially, which is fueling this behavior. Females are for the “bag”. Males are for the “sex”. It may even stem back to the way some of us were raised, mother/father relationships. When we can truly get into relationships with pure hearts and intentions. Truly healed & healthy and not bringing along all this “baggage”. We’d be able to be our true self, able to communicate and just….LIVE & LOVE w/o all these hang ups. Thanks Stephan for this message. It was needed.

[@palamirtammarimuthu1752]

Chemistry is very very exciting......alas, it's fleeting..... don't trust it.....✔️🤓 compatibility is preferable..... good friendship 👍🏼

[@wendyzelaya182]

Welp goodbye I won’t date until 15 years, ima be healing in the meantime

[@rayveti]

Problem these days is people getting into situations and entanglements without doing the innerwork. Wasting time, effort, energy, resources with someone who is not relationship ready can take us off-track from meeting the right person for us. #believe #energybalance #wearyourcrown

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

[@ezzylafaith1100]

This is so true ! I think this is where all my mistakes coming from.

[@kriselvis4890]

That masculine feminine energy balance is so real

[@Eevanova]

Bad timing... It's so sad. 6 months later he comes and says "I have changed, I got new job, I want to be with you!" But you already moved on...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it isn't an easy situation but you need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@tiffanyyo5046]

I’ve been second guessing my relationship of almost 10 years lately. The signs apply. Sent him the communication video, he won’t watch it. Your videos are showing me that I waisted 10 years. Bread winner, paid everything, tried to push him for better. I can’t do this anymore. But he’s gonna be homeless when I leave.

[@mtaylor4523]

My ex-boyfriend was a narcissistic. He was a pretty box of emptiness.

[@uhsaywhat]

The struggle of getting someone to be emotionally naked is what can cause sexual intimacy issues as well. I can’t connect to you if we can’t understand each other. A person can feel used by a person they are with!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@nikkyjackson6500]

Absolutely 💯

[@DQUEEN85-s6m]

“ You don’t lose a good man.You loses man who is not good for you.” - Steve Harvey

[@Portia620]

Amen!!! Let the bad apples fall! God got us!! It’s better to find out in the beginning to light down the road and sometimes bad things happening in a relationship in the beginning the best thing that can happen because you see how somebody can handle adversity, we men cannot handle adversity neither can weak women.!!!

[@staceynelson6762]

No successful longterm relationship has poor communication GREAT POINT 💯💯and nice shirt.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 thank you I appreciate your feedback!

[@AnastasiaPS777]

Love the T shirt !

[@fayewearing581]

It's the PHYSICAL NAKEDNESS vs SPIRITUAL/EMOTIONAL NAKEDNESS 4ME! I've traveled the roads Stephan spoke on. I'm over 50 now and my tolerance to repeat mistakes such as these is NEGATIVE ZERO. Thank you, Stephan.

[@vincentdamilola3790]

At 52 , l feel you deeply. A woman has been in my life for over 15 years without emotional connection whatsoever. It drains me. I am in the military and lonely she has never complemented me as expected. Thinking on moving on. Grateful for your submission.

[@gwenzozodlams2307]

Totally I agree with ;if its 1 sided it wont last,whether dating or married,such a relationship drains you emotionally.

[@ShottaSlim1]

I’ve been broken & tryin to rebuild. I found a lady & she was great however she wouldn’t take accountability, hid me on social media, told her friends about the bad in our relationship so now they don’t respect me, made excuses for not reciprocating , very one sided, asked me to open up & when I did would be nonchalant when I expressed my concerns. During our last situation she was literally texting as I’m speaking my concerns!! Thanks for the video and help

[@jessicamorales2555]

Stephan is like wine. Becoming better and better each day, with each talk. Thank you a bunch!!!

[@MaxPowerProfile]

Stephan, you HAVE TO make a full video about connection. What is it? How to know if you have connection with someone? Give us some concrete examples

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@MyzTykle]

I will agree!!!!! Super great idea!!!!! I myself would love to know!

[@CazKing43]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I would also like to learn more about that too

[@frahelis_betzaida8466]

I agree yesss please .

[@rebekam9362]

I agree!

[@trackstr1]

Just got out of a 3+ years. It was a mutual agreement to split and I've been trying to figure out the weak links in the relationship's foundation. Your videos have really been helping. Thanks for the content!

[@LP-ur7cx]

I wasn’t really ready for all the truth this guy is dropping on me, by watching his channel. Callin me out for sure. Having a mirror put in front of you hurts sometimes. Growth hurts. 🖤

[@foodforthought2374]

In my experience, people deny that there is an issue (in their court) and gaslight the issues over into your court. Nothing will be repaired until it’s first acknowledged that it even exists. Not “owning” your behaviors (or lack there of) will not make them go away. That is the same mentality that says “ My car is making a weird noise so I will just turn the radio up louder” … and the problem gets worse until your stranded somewhere broken down.

[@brittd555]

You hit the nail on the head with the balance of energy! Been with my husband 9 years and I’m more masculine and he’s more feminine and I’m tired and have started to resent him!!!

[@equitablehealthcare-drnatashak]

Please go to counseling. Pull back on the masculine energy. He accommodated you since he loves you.

[@angelamccann2340]

Same for me. Almost 10 years. I’ve become resentful. I do all the work. He’s more feminine totally.

[@katinaserghis536]

preach Stephan 🙏🏽 this described every aspect of my marriage, all these things were present in the beginning and ultimately brought it to an end. I hung on for 24 years, and I mean hung on, endured/tolerated because I was miserable and was trauma bonded not in love or connected with him. I awakened after my dark night of the soul. Much happier single, healing and doing the inner work to make the relationship with myself the most important one. If the right man comes along I want to be ready to receive him with God's blessing. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@gld927]

I hung in 15 years

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌 ❤ and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you!

[@Mekia-hr8qh]

24 years for me also. I can relate

[@nyemanuel]

You told your story and it was as if “I” was speaking. Hung in for 15 years too long. Newly DIVORCED…and I finally feel free! May God bless all of us on our new paths of mental freedom , protection and emotional healing.

[@TheShanieB]

Still hangin...😒🤦🏾‍♀️😢

[@ameliyalorraine3959]

I love this guy , his videos are long but i love it because he gets to the point he explains everything…. He’s dedicated to explaining life and situations in relationships

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@Allwin.28]

Sex was great but his loyalty is with someone else. Too late to have discovered we're incompatible still.. Can't force it to work. Thanks for the informative vids.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback and pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@tprucha]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you I am sarah my husband controlled th is account. Your words are so true and intuitive. I am a step mom and always put everyone before me. This helps me to change this dynamic!!! I was strong and single no kids great career. I wish to grow and regain my self and strength.

[@niahtanksley6782]

Thank you for these pointers! When you started talking about “bad communication” that really hit me because when I met my boyfriend everything was glitter and gold but now communication on his side is failing really bad. For example I could tell him that I’m having a bad day and he’ll blankly stop texting/calling for hours and just start talking about other stuff which makes it seem like he doesn’t care about what I got going on but more focused on himself.

[@neyosega4330]

Glad I’m learning all this stuff before my first relationship, great video!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@jenng5925]

I’m glad you are too. Dating life has been hectic! Wish I had this advice earlier

[@RhondaR4]

Stephan is an angel from GOD.❤️

[@bremd2018]

Yes, you’ll be ahead of the game!

[@lizabethfebo1635]

Lucky you

[@acelestin]

Wow. Every single point made reflects in my marriage. I'm unhappy and don't know how to leave. He's a great guy but we are not friends and wouldn't even be friends outside of marriage.

[@user-friendly36]

When I see that they aren't giving, it isn't going to work. When I catch you lieing to me more than once it's becoming a habit, when you talk down to me, or about me, when your given the opportunity to defend me in any way and don't, these are all deal breakers for me now. Friendships or relationships. I simply walk away. No explanation needed, your behavior is why.

[@thisvetwantsyoutoknow]

Wow! You just gave insight into my last relationship without even knowing me. This was painful to hear but needed. Thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@sacampbr1]

OMG, OMG, OMG!!! I feel like an inexperienced person soaking up all this life changing info! You surely know how to break a situation down…….. I definitely know now how and what I need to do to have an amazing and deep relationship going forward. Thank you again!!! Your video is making changes in people’s sexual lives for sure… 💯💯💯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help!

[@Mekia-hr8qh]

This video was so awesome. I desire a partner that is open and transparent such as myself. Why? Because if I’m in a relationship with someone it has to be a relationship built on purpose therefore I want to know everything about that person without being judgmental. I want my next partner to feel comfortable enough with me to be vulnerable because we are trying to build. I feel if you have grown and healed from past situations it’s no reason not to be open with the person you are building with. I love ❤️ deep videos like this because so many people are very shallow when it comes with being open and transparent. As women we have to be gentle enough that a man feels comfortable with sharing himself with us verbally.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@janjacksonauthor]

The Key - The Catch. At the end of the day you both have to truly like each other.

[@NovaMarie8]

I love that you brought up when you have a feeling of energy of judgement from someone! Thanks for all you do 🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@AlitaWibert-x5i]

@@MeetStephanSpeaksp 😢😢ppl

[@yolandamccarthy8446]

Just wanted to put out there how gifted you (Stephan) are in the area of human psychology & the psychology of relationships.. God has truly given you the gift of sight. It’s just amazing how clearly you can see so many things that most people miss every single time. All of your videos/message make sense & are extremely enlightening. You’re so on point. Thank you 🙏🏽 for all that you’re doing trying to help people understand relationship dynamics & for helping people gain a better understanding of themselves. The information that you’re providing can help people learn how to form strong relationships & remain together for the long haul. 💪🏾 ♥️ 💯

[@toptenasia645]

I wish i would have seen this before i got into my last relationship that lasted 1.3 years. The signs were there. 1. We couldn’t talk to each other about issues or he’d start crying. 2. We were sexually incompatible. I am a bit into bondage and he was not. 3. He acted like it was too much if i asked him for some snacks. 4. He only focused on superficial things. He would constantly talk about the girls and how i should dress. 5. My gut feeling saying break up 6. He would flip out if i asked for his phone. 7. Our visions for the future did not match.

[@Allasondra]

Oh yea I wouldn’t even sweat it.

[@Carolyn100000]

"One sided relationships ", and something within you that needs healing. Wow

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@kekeletsokoena2893]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! You nailed it there. Lack of good communication is a receipt for disaster! Fighting & Disrespect - HELL NO!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@mswiseone12]

Amen! I just left my 22 year marriage because we didn't talk and I was walking on eggshells constantly.

[@mswiseone12]

@Dunamis Farmers no thank you. He is a terrible narcissist. God delivered me from a horrible place after 22 years. I am not going to rebuke his blessing by going back or going to someone to do something to bring us back together.

[@belindacrutchfield9259]

Two people with a matual understanding...and connection is this best..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@winonamurray9518]

Dang relationships are so hard. It's like a complex math problem.

[@babyshsrk6977]

A complex math problem is solvable. Some relationships will never have a solution, other than termination.

[@jessyh.6112]

I agree!!! it's like no correct formula exist in order to make relationship successful

[@janetferguson1864]

I yearn for more simpler times. Back before dating coaches ever existed.

[@mickeysammy5169]

No- nothing like math. They always have a solution. Some people are NOT fixable, therefore should NEVER be in relationships. He give strong, sound advice to help us steer clear from these toxic people!!

[@kellyparadis1039]

I am not good at math or relationships so I stay single.

[@t.s.5206]

An entire college-course can be done from this video! AWESOME AMAZING OUTPUT & ADVICE! love it, Stephan, thank you so much.

[@faithamcneill9069]

Also not being an active listener hurts relationship too

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@TheMeanGirlz]

Also being unattractive (like you) hurts a relationship too.

[@TheMeanGirlz]

🤮

[@keligsp8962]

I wish I knew Stephan before I got married. Divorced now but I won't make the same mistake twice! Thank You Stephan!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, but I'm glad you are now on a path to healing 🙌❤

[@codishaa]

Longevity does NOT equal success. Great point.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@latashaalexander5440]

Allow people to be who they are without judgment .

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely!

[@Soul_2Soul]

EVERYTHING u say I have literally said in my relationship. I am leaving a 28 year (been with him since I was 15) relationship right now because there is no balance. I give and he takes. It's unhealthy. I don't regret it because I learned so much but at some point u have to choose yourself over someone who doesn't pour into ur cup as much as u do. LOVE URSELF! The right person will come to u. It'll hurt like hell... but it will hurt less than staying in an unbalanced union.. U r stronger than u know! Sending love and light to anyone and everyone who may need healing or strength. When he/she shows u who they r... BELIEVE THEM! (stop make excuses for them) LOVE URSELF AND HEAL URSELF! You got this 💪❤

[@apriljanefajardo7250]

You've been so helpful. Exactly one month now when he ghosted me (since i asked him what's his plans for us and still he got nothing to say,he ghosted me instead) in the first week of break up was a struggle and a survival week for me. Even before we're on and off and most of the time didn't understand each other's point of view. Since before, I overlooked all the redflags because I truly love the guy but in the process I lost myself and didn't have the focus of what I really need in my life. Letting go of more than 10 years in a relationship is too painful,but with your talks Sir Stephan, I am learning to appreciate the brighter side of it. Indeed,break up is also a blessing. Please continue inspiring people and helping us understand for things we barely see in a relationship. Great thing in my first week of heartbreak, I was able to find your talks here in youtube. Hope not to reach him back over and over again, Big help!🙌🏻

[@fromaqueensperspective]

This video is amazing! I love the way you dive deep. I was in a long distance relationship that it was one sided he was disrespectful I addressed it and it kept happening! I had been by single for about 11 years and I knew what I wanted and I knew what my boundaries were. I ended it I realized It’s not worth it to putting oneself through these things when a person knows they deserve better! I’m so grateful I walked away with my integrity and hope for the future! And you are correct those red flags you ignore in the beginning they will tear you apart in the end! Thank Stephan

[@ginam.4990]

Every single sign is spot on....no matter the order. All are 100% accurate... especially that core connection. If that is there, the rest can and will work out. Would love a video on that connection standpoint and what eventually happens, in any marriage/ relationship, when it was never there.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@melissamcgee4226]

Feelings of compassion connects people

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@ninaomar8971]

I felt at times i had to lower my energy in order for the man to feel comfortable. I literally let my light die out ,,,

[@alangodfrey3598]

My ex refused to meet me half way in the relationship she said can't change who she is so we parted ways

[@qk5574]

I haven’t watched yet but I liked the video because we needed one of these.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you ❤️

[@honeybunn_deluxxe]

Same

[@AnjelSpeaks]

Im halfway through this video and these gold nuggets of wisdom is making my spiritual baby leap. 🤣 👏👏👏 "Time is not the decider of learning each other. Effort and a willingness to talk is the decider of learning each other." ~Stephan Speaks 🔥 I couldn't agree more. 💯

[@belleveHER]

Love it! Especially the sexual compatibility. No need to have sex with the person to know if you're sexually compatible. Just having a sex appeal about one self and it revealing itself energetically is enough to know if you are aligned with someone in such way

[@nicoleoneal5115]

I agree I agree I agree,

[@ayana4601]

Wow Stephan- you really opened my eyes up WIDE AS EVER- now I see clearer that we were doomed to fail no matter what. So much that you mentioned was present from day one to year 15, he dumped me and he cancelled our wedding for the 3rd time. I was delusional I was wanting to hold on to hope but the fact is that we were not compatible- barely ever on the same page. I accepted ALL a of his flaws n indiscretions, because of love/ now I realize that I should not have overlooked those things. He did as well - his constant thing to say was “ I love you BUT”.. he always ran off for days / ignored my calls for days whenever we started a “TALK” - he hated talking and was allergic to it so much that he literally hid from me for days. Clearly I was dumb.. he obviously had “somewhere” to hide and it wasn’t with me. I don’t blame him I blame me.. I just wish he had the balls to walk away year one.. instead of pussyfooting n playing because he loves the idea of having women around him to boost his ego.. I got hurt and emotionally destroyed in the process. I’m just reaching the surface for air since this was recent and I’m gna be just fine.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@suriyamohd]

This video was made for me. Thank you. May I add... Also, trust your intuition, if you don't get the feeling from the beginning, it's just not meant for you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always important to listen to your intuition thank you for sharing!

[@marypowell3236]

If its not good I let them go straight away. Bad comments, no equal give and take, Red flags and other stuff. Don't allow anyone to devalue you 💖🌈take care out there guys 😊❤️🌈

[@lmarie3834]

Hopefully people HEAR what you are saying before wasting 28 yrs in a bad relationship, like me. The hardest part (after dealing with the inevitable betrayal I endured) was trying to find myself again!

[@trishm3002]

What steps did you take to find yourself again?

[@lmarie3834]

@@trishm3002 , I sat in my feelings for a long time, did shadow work, positive reinforcement hypnosis (sleep) videos, found my worth, held my ground and most importantly… discovered and implemented boundaries!

[@donnabrown7239]

Married 45 years and you are 💯 correct it has to have a deep connection

[@JemH1986]

Wow your so right on this stuff! This definitely sounded like my dating years when I was younger. I waited 8 years until I found my True Love. Actually he found me and I didn’t really know what was going on lol! He had his eye on me. We’ve been together for over a year now. The 8 years of not dating was worth the wait! ❤️🙏🏻

[@joanagain007]

You're so right, I just love listening to you, you're my coach! Thanks coach!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@octobersnubia7966]

You caught me I’m one of the ones in a relationship seeing if this applies to me lol. Please keep doing what you are doing I’ve been following you since my divorce 5 years ago and you have helped me to look into myself and see who and what I want in my relationship. Thank you

[@laurenceum2657]

You are a gift, you are a Gift, and you are A GIFT!! THANK YOU!!

[@rhemamensah6582]

I love the writing on your shirt Sir … ALPHA MAN OF GOD 🔥

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@Pinkcandy777]

Having a good friendship 1st is the substance x

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯 Yes!

[@Pinkcandy777]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks still 18 months the friendship is deepening am so happy. We do gardening together and have said we really really love each other. I think God is building us both. He's 37 I'm 57 lol. I know it's a lengthy friendship but it's definitely fulfilling. We r close its very pure and beautiful. The mother of his son was murdered sadly. He repented of his sins several yra ago. IV 🐝 been saved 33 years. My divorce of a 25 yr abusive marriage is now almost finalized. We r healing we really love and care for each other.

[@ezsand0077]

I agree that sexual incompatibility leads to resentment in long run

[@DeeDe730]

My my U got it on point at the 1st one…….it’s important. Didn’t have an sexual relationship until I got married, but, Thank U for the opening… we R communicating and getting prepared to experience newness together☺️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@lindalav1477]

Unfortunately, even though the signs are there, it's hard to let a 15 yr relationship go, especially when all of your single friends are saying that there really isn't anything better out there these days.

[@EciMajic]

Hey Stephan. We met in LA in 2019 at the Self Love Summit. I was the volunteer (I actually paid for a VIP ticket, but chose to volunteer instead when asked) helping with the meet and greet and your book signing that obviously didn't know anything about your work. Even though I was wearing your merch lol. Just want to let you know that I've been reading your books and watching your videos a lot, and I really like your teaching. It's very down-to-earth and realistic.

[@nadyalu3022]

All the signs i needed to know that my relationship was failing!! But i learnt from these mistakes..

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@monicadehek5484]

Communication must include mutual compression. You could have a million conversations with someone and still not be understood.

[@monicadehek5484]

Comprehension lol

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, communication is definitely key!

[@Abbzylilmc99]

Absolutely love this. Thank you for sharing. As someone who just got out of an unhealthy relationship a few months ago I feel like this is something I need to hear 💜

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@MinstrelKI]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks hey Steve I bro up with a relationship because the lady never communicates and each time I express myself to her she make me feel like an absolute terrible person to the point I started believing that I wasn’t good enough, I’ve never abused her verbally or emotionally, each time there’s a fight I have initiate we settling she does nothing and never says anything . I got frustrated and left. What do you this is? Is there something I am not getting right ? This is the first time I am experiencing this in my relationship. Thank you

[@Pinkcandy777]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks is it a sin to want to feel a bit dominated in sex?

[@heathernichole8982]

Me and mine starting going deeper conversationally within the first 3-4 days 🖤💜

[@anon6056]

This is all really important advice! I think this is the second or third time I've come back around to re-watch. And I understand it more at this time in my journey! Thank you Stephan for helping us all in our journey! Some of these signs do apply to me. And I'm working on myself. I'm glad that I can grow with the man I'm with and he likes me more as I be more myself :)

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@anon6056]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you 😊

[@warrorscorpio2594]

Man.... wish you were around 18years ago.Thought I could heal/fix him through loving him but now I find I'm a cold hearted resentful jerk.He doesnt deserve to be treated like this....but let me just say I wasn't like that in the beginning I broke my self and now feeling lost in my marriage as I'm healing self and trying to better my self for my kids😕

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

[@daniib.7619]

Thank you for another fantastic video, Stephan. I appreciate the time and effort that you pour into your content.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@lgarcia4628]

Some people know they are not compatible but because they have been together for so long, they settle instead of taking the time to heal and seeing if there is something better for them.

[@officialjpyro84]

So much confirmation. No love lost between them & I, but I've made the right decision. Shalom salute 💪🏿 - jp

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad you found it helpful

[@officialjpyro84]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Always 🙏🏿

[@officialjpyro84]

@@promisev8459 I'm good, but thank though.

[@officialjpyro84]

@@promisev8459 I'm not in a relationship. What he spoke about was spot on where I am in life now. I make after all 🤣😂😭. Have a great evening.