Kenneth & Brittany What Changed? | Therapist Breaks Down Love is Blind 6

[@Rash17]

He basically ghosted her in person.

[@tunzlunz]

😂😂😂

[@DanieB322]

Lmaooooo

[@mslickablelips]

😂😂😂

[@panamarubia1283]

Yup…imagine getting ghosted In 4D!😮

[@biancamichelle11]

😭😭😭

[@alyshalight9762]

Kenneth wasn't just 'not emotionally attuned,' he was completely checked out. I hate that some men do that; just completely detach and withdraw so the woman can break up with them. They will literally do everything possible to avoid looking like the bad guy at all costs.

[@chaneestatengamble2259]

THAT PART

[@katherynepacheco]

FOREALLLL

[@SAN_E7]

My ex. I wasn’t having it and waited for him to do it.

[@annah995]

I also think it makes it so much more horrible because you feel like your emotions don't reach anyone. I HATE this so much.

[@louibeans]

I hear you, but can we maybe not make this a gendered thing, because it's not just men who do that. Some people do that, and it sucks when they do.

[@jadhabbouche6057]

She dodged a bullet here. He did her a favour. She deserves so much better. He needs to marry his phone.

[@Foreverdensword]

Pretty much Look how he looks.He need to be humble

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

@@Foreverdensword That's terrible. Kenneth is an attractive man. The issue is that he is gay, so Brittany was never going to fill his actual need. Perhaps LIB needs a LGBT version?

[@Seen_not_heard]

@@Foreverdenswordhe’s actually attractive. His behavior isn’t.

[@Seen_not_heard]

@@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460 we have to stop disrespecting the gay community like this.

[@CassTeaElle]

People need to chill about the phone thing. He literally didn't have access to a phone that entire time and needed to catch up with some work emails. It shouldn't be that big of a deal.

[@loxsochic22]

Did you notice how excited Kenneth was to see Clay and AD interacting? He was more "turned on" by their display of love and affection than he was about his own relationship.

[@HirakoKuyo]

Yesss! That was exactly my thoughts too, he looked more excited then ever in that moment. Poor brit

[@FieryMaQ]

Facts!!!!

[@sneakykamon]

He even said it was turning him on and I was like “brooo TMI!” 😂

[@msKita43]

​@@sneakykamon time stamp it lol

[@rebecaherrera7641]

yeah that was weird af

[@guadalupeestrada410]

Brittany is so much more beautiful than just her looks. She was so gracious in a genuinely heartbreaking situation. I wish her the world.

[@FieryMaQ]

Yeah he didn’t deserve her at all. Wish they didn’t hit it off in the pods lol. She could have spent her time elsewhere with someone that would have appreciated her.

[@k.ambriz9789]

@@FieryMaQso true, both of you. Even if she didn’t connect with anyone else she wouldn’t have gotten her hopes up for someone who wasn’t going to make an effort.

[@MrStevo411]

Yeeessssss

[@MissTReviews]

Same. 💯

[@shreddbunnie]

She'll meet a nice chocolate who will actually be into her .. his loss

[@dfromtheblock1537]

I’m convinced that the show needs occasional appearances from a therapist/ dating Coach to guide the way and truly tap into conversations that matters.

[@cctaina]

Agree

[@TheDanielle20009]

I completely agree.. I don't think the producers will do that though because they know the disfunction drives the drama and viewership

[@styleprecious_]

I totally agree ,TOo hot to handle brought in dating coaches to guide the casts through workshops which was good for the casts while they were dating and it made realize their mistakes and fears while dating and it didn't affect the drama at all

[@BrookeSayles]

I feel like it would make the show even more interesting because we get to hear from the professionals.

[@ttp9576]

Based on what Clay said on the the proposal I got the impression they do see therapist during the pods. But I think they def should bring that to the audience.

[@zoeziebee]

I think you hit the nail on the head. Kenneth liked the fantasy of what Britney was, but that didn’t translate into the real world. I really feel for Britney, she seems like a sweet person

[@angelofsugarpops]

Kenneth saying he was smothering her with affection on the boat, when he wouldn't even hold her hand, staring into space while she grasping at him. He really flipped a switch after the AD conversation.

[@Eddybaby01]

Yeah he was weird and wasted her time. She was actually genuine and was truly trying to connect.

[@ItzNoorYboory]

@@Eddybaby01I don’t think it was because of AD what’s so ever but I do agree he was looking for a way out .. he liked the fantasy of Brittany but it didn’t come thru in the real world

[@ericaj4494]

​@@Eddybaby01I don't like how he went about it but if your white spouse has a very white woman response to a genuine question a black woman had brought up about raising brown babies and reality hits you in the face she not ready for that then it's a chop. He should've just broke it off when he felt different, instead he turned into an ass/coward.

[@sharalhall5911]

I DO think it was the convo with AD. On the boat he’s looking like he’s wishing it was a Black woman. He was soooioo checked out.

[@vicg3206]

The AD conversation brought him out of his fantasy and back into reality. He then realized he didn’t want a life with a white woman. Period.

[@paolamarmorato6197]

My favorite part of LIB is watching your videos ❤

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you ♥️

[@jena.5952]

SAAAAAAME!!!

[@Tarynbreann]

Same!!

[@omoelepo]

I only watch LIB so I can watch your videos!

[@tammyhaywood1650]

Same!!

[@Michaela_Huber]

I was so sad for Brit when he got his phone back. Completely disconnected from her. He seemed so emotionless in their breakup! I was so excited to hear you dissect it

[@RenayOpish]

Apparently it wasn’t like that- they had broken up off camera on the flight back to the states- they both came out with interviews about it🤷‍♀️. I can’t wait for the reunion…

[@javanjunkindahouse6625]

@@RenayOpishreally? Than why on earth did she move things into drawers etc? I’m not surprised that production would want to film a break up but dang the whole moving in thing for real ugh

[@RenayOpish]

@javanjunkkindahouse6625 I know! Out of the pods podcast was where I heard it, I think.

[@iamthechangemaker]

To him the issue of her skin color was too big of a deal. I wonder how we'd be acting if the shoe was on the other foot and she broke up with him because of his skin tone.

[@tinyking11]

@@janedoe707Facts!! That’s when I knew it wasn’t going to last. 🤧

[@malvavisco10]

I think waking you up while sleeping (if there is NO emergency like the house on fire) is a precursor to worse violence. It shows they have no respect for that person’s health, well-being, or physical boundaries

[@mcs0519]

I thought that was one of the worst things I’ve heard on this show this season 😖 so inconsiderate good sleep is so important!

[@sooo9250]

100% you would never do this to a person let alone a person you love/ care about unless there was an emergency.

[@malvavisco10]

@@mcs0519 definitely; it’s so hard to get back to sleep when you’re jarred awake like that… especially if you deal with insomnia

[@aerythdeluna]

😂😂😂 n

[@chicquie5471]

I'm glad other people perceived it too because that's so coercive to me! You're half asleep, tired, disoriented and supposed to consent to s*x??

[@jazzybray-r4v]

When he told her this is not going to work. Gimme a hug so you know it's no beef She standing there hurt and he just in his phone unmoved

[@ropuma1]

Exactly 😢

[@islabee94]

It was genuinely hard to watch. Painful even

[@elkanahleonty7447]

That's cuz he's gay. I don't know how people didn't see that. That man is gay

[@bondwoman44]

@@elkanahleonty7447 I really can't see it!

[@pixierainbow7]

He was so dismissive after the conversation with AD. Britney was being so honest but he was def gaslighting her into thinking she was the only one who was seeing the relationship as it was. He was all talk and time showed his lack of emotions and concern for her and prioritizing the relationship and commitment. The boat scene was so painful to watch since he was like a block of ice

[@asterionismo]

I genuinely hadnt realized Kenneth was gaslighting her in that last conversation and hearing you dissect his words so clearly was rlly helpful since I can be more aware of behaviours to watch out for 😭😭 thank you !!

[@marielle4314]

I felt the same way, thank you for putting it into words!

[@jzhou3704]

Same! From just the first watch, I thought it felt like a reasonable conversation even though Kenneth’s conclusion to end their relationship felt abrupt. Then I head to KZbin for my favorite LIB analyses videos and have to re-evaluate how easily I can get gaslighted LOL

[@kaheaisaac1]

Right!

[@antoniao7439]

Same here. I interpreted it as her politely saying she wasn’t physically attracted to him and he trying to exit with his head up high.

[@annacopeland2641]

Clay and AD next! They where such a common couple to me, just a cycle that’s I see really often

[@StephRaina]

Agreed! Waaaaaaay too often. Breaks my heart 😔

[@Mrs_K2M]

I cried so hard for both of them.. and also many of us who desire love and finding your person while working through all the past trauma and insecurity..

[@chaneestatengamble2259]

@@Mrs_K2MWholehearted facts

[@RaeDaisy]

Anyone: how’s your day Clay: my dad cheated on my mom Anyone: beautiful day today Clay: yeah my dad cheated on my mind on beautiful days

[@shachede6828]

AD: I choose player and ballers, I ignore red flags, chooses clay. Tells clay even though his father cheated on his mom repeatedly for 25 years there was beauty in the relationship. 😂😂😂😂 clown behavior

[@lolaneptune7593]

What I found most interesting was that Kenneth actually put his phone down in their final conversation. He was attentive when it was time to break things off .

[@AdeleKakwandi]

It was staged apparently. I've heard people say they broke up previously but were asked to do it on camera again

[@elin_]

​@@AdeleKakwandi woah.. yikes

[@k.ambriz9789]

@@AdeleKakwandire-injuring people for entertainment value? Gross.

[@Dauerglotzer123]

​@user-rv9hp6bo3y can't believe he chose to come accross like that the second time around (in disbelieving him way)

[@AdeleKakwandi]

@@Dauerglotzer123 I think that's probably why he came off as un-emotional because he was checked out already

[@Tiredolelady]

The last lecture that Kenneth gave Brittany had my head spinning. I had no idea what he even said.

[@verda_renee]

Sadly, I think a lot of men who are deep in the Black Church view wives as accessories, something you just need to have as a man of God because the Bible says that's the way. They don't view being a husband as something they need to really work at and grow in emotionally. To them, wives have all these duties and requirements for how to serve them and the family, but they as husbands just need to "lead" and exist. He seemed completely emotionally cut off from her, but I've seen that often in religious men claiming they want marriage. It's unfortunate, but didn't really surprise me at all. Emotional labor is for wives only according to a lot of churchy teachings.

[@elin_]

Just one of the many reasons to dislike organized religion.

[@benatural1306]

I couldn’t agree more!

[@deewaye]

@@elin_but that is like saying one more reason not to work in corporate America or participate in any other institution. PEOPLE are people, and make individual choices that don’t reflect a whole community. Nothing to do with religion as a whole.

[@mydcunited]

That is all churches tbh. Its why women are choosing divorce. They want to be seen and treated with the same respect as a man aka a human. Its sad its 2024 and we are still battling this.

[@stop.juststop]

Interesting. Im an atheist, but my wife is a Christian and we spend a lot of time reading Christian literature. I haven’t found what you said about the “churchy teachings” to be very accurate. I know a few offensive verses about women in the church, but most intelligent individuals would chalk that up to the times. Black church must be significantly different. The ones I visited growing up certainly didn’t have a time limit to their services.

[@erinnmjones]

There’s a part of me that thinks Kenneth wasn’t attracted to Brittany from the reveal and had been thinking of a way out. I think that conversation with AD gave him the perfect opportunity to shut down

[@MJ31579]

His tone changed after they met the other couples. Before that he was still into her.

[@mermaidtingzzz]

@@MJ31579 Kenneth saw a friend when that reveal happened. Nothing came genuinely to him when it came to interacting with her. To me he was always going thru the motions his facade just rapidly fell apart in each episode. I was honestly surprised the producers gave them any screen time. I’m assuming that mainly happened only because they made it just past the honeymoons.

[@suzanne26slinger]

Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.

[@ITSMN]

I agree with you! Like Kenneth is whole man. I get that what AD could have said may have put some doubt in him but come on now! He can think for himself…

[@Collden]

I don’t get why noone sees that it was Brittany that was not physically attracted to him?! Kenneth felt genuinely attracted to Brittany. Brittany just tried to laugh everything off and set their relationship into friendship mode since the first time they saw each other. Eventually Kenneth felt rejected and closed down. Brittany’s half hearted attempts of adding some kind physical parts to the relationships just felt empty when I saw it so clearly at the reveal that she was not physically attracted. But I feel like I am the only one in the world to see this which usually means I am wrong. But can’t shake the feeling of what I see :)

[@kntayloe880]

I think there’s another issue for Kenneth. And he may never publicly acknowledge it

[@frenchiehorn4339]

💅🏽(and thats all imma say lol)

[@Isthisjoebiden]

He's the same bm. A narcissist through and through

[@gmarie3082]

Yep…🌈

[@adriellecustodio3285]

😂

[@allyu274]

Very much giving sassy vibes

[@samanthaleigh805]

Kenneth seems so immature.

[@MissTReviews]

He is.

[@jackie8357]

he tried hard to make us think he was a considerate person then with oh you're not attracted to me because you said no when you were asleep 🙄 - I didn't do anything wrong ,victim playing - very manipulative

[@lulsaalty]

i can’t believe he’s a principal!

[@panamarubia1283]

@@rebeccalaff853yeah, nahh. I have a 24 year old son who runs circles around this man child. My son is so mature I have to remind him that he’s only 24 and not 42!!😂

[@serebart]

Brittany didn’t make a fool of herself but Ken sure did. Shame on him.

[@ShockingDidYouKnowTikTok]

I’m sorry, but the way he treated her and dismissed everything she was saying was disgusting. Not to mention he left her crying and upset. That is really nasty of him. He wanted an excuse to break things off and her talking to him about her feelings was his way out?

[@aathenaiz6151]

i knew the relationship was doomed when she said that she wants to be submissive and he got weirdly excited. of course he wasn't going to cook, of course he wasn’t going to care of her, he just wanted a good christian girl to do everything for him.

[@AdeleKakwandi]

No man wants to marry some zoo animal he has to tame with a whip and a chair lol of course he was excited

[@ClarinetsForever223]

I fully agree with your analysis! Brittany tried so hard to stay with him and see it through and it seemed like he just wasn't "there."

[@AfuaYmani]

You were spot on. LIB needs to include you in their reunions

[@miabarnett2452]

One outside convo was all it took for him to tap out?? He wasn’t that into her in the first place. That was absolutely devastating 😢

[@mcs0519]

Right! The he was eyeing and admiring AD and Clay’s relationship it’s like he had FOMO

[@biancamichelle11]

@@mcs0519He probably wants Clay. 👀

[@SymphonieJ]

Their final conversation was extremely triggering for me coming from a past relationship where I experienced someone consistently gaslighting me - I’m grateful she got out then before marrying him!

[@iris5491]

Exactly!

[@tonyetteconley]

Me too! Whew girl

[@courtneythames5718]

I was once in a relationship where the man completely checked out months before we broke up. When I saw what Brittany was going through, as bad as it sounds, I'm glad their relationship got snuffed out quick so she can focus on healing. Being in that space for long can kill your psyche.

[@joydaniel4984]

Repeating the phrase "For you" is wild smh. Performative romantic gestures is the new slick red flag during this sassy man apocalypse.❤ Great commentary

[@jassyyb7765]

Ken was giving DL from the first moment. I was beating my self up for judging him but… I don’t feel so bad now. Feel so bad for Britt.

[@kasiahroy2082]

His cousin confirmed it.

[@rhianna871]

He immediately seemed DL to me. It’s his voice, mannerisms and the phrases that he says. Straight men do not talk with their hands as much and they don’t use phrases like “it’s giving”. Another giveaway was how excited he was about her wanting to wait. I understand that some people don’t want have relations too soon, but his reaction was like a relief. It was obvious to me.

[@caramelldyme]

I definitely feel he’s not into women

[@latishareaves2028]

Girl... I was thinking the same thing!!!! He was too busy being on Jack'd and Grindr.

[@OMG_Yoshee]

I agreed

[@tammyhaywood1650]

I felt that after A.D. spoke with him about raising black children...that got Kenneth thinking and worrying about what the people in his circle might think about him marrying a white woman. It got in his head so he shut her down in a cold manner. At first i was so impressed with how well he treated her...like a gentleman should. My heart hurt for Jessica. She seemed like such a sweet young woman!

[@yatal.1501]

Nothing wrong with raising mixed children. I thought us as a humankind were more evolved in this situation. I wonder why he has such strong reservations ????

[@Ashley-yy3de]

@@yatal.1501 agreed. AD was doing wayyyy too much. It would make anyone uncomfortable. It was unnecessary considering the show is about falling in love without seeing the other person

[@MJ-up4ei]

Perhaps because the narrative of the skin color matters more rather than if you’re a decent person and this is my opinion. I have noticed lately everything comes with an agenda. At the end of the day we’ll never know the actual why. Britt was honestly one of my favs.

[@free_duh7066]

Exactly this!!! I remember watching this and cringing. AD knew what she was doing.

[@yara-um6tx]

@@Ashley-yy3dewhat if she matched with Metthew? Would she have walked away as soon as she saw he was white? Strange for her to have said all those things

[@jasminegunn6577]

So much of their relationship I felt was colored by their religion. When I’ve been in spaces with really Christian/traditional people women tend to get the short end of the stick. That first night home when he said of course you have to cook I saw that as his expectation for a traditional relationship so to him it seemed like a no brained. Meanwhile Brittany and women are expected to handle most household and emotional labor. To me he was acting in the role he expected to have and she just got a glimpse of how that role sucks for women. That’s why I was soooo turned off by their conversations in the pods, everything was about how they aligned religiously but not who they were as individuals and what they needed beyond the roles their religion sets. When a woman says I want to be submissive my first thought is always, “do you really, do you really know what that entails?”

[@aathenaiz6151]

the moment she said she wanted to be submissive she opened pandora's box

[@Word-Smithy]

He tried to portray himself as a leader in the pods but all we saw in the real world was a petulant little boy. That woman deserves so much better. She has the patience of a saint.

[@lilliawright3771]

I found it so strange when she said “he identifies as black” as well but I saw a teacher explain that they are taught to be very careful with titles and their students. I think that was where she was coming from but I don’t think it needs to be used when it comes to race, more so gender roles, sexuality, etc.

[@Bris838]

Well is the same as saying he identifies as a man, is a fact

[@cherrysIushie]

@@Bris838did you not read the last sentence?

[@yatal.1501]

I believe that she used it because many mixed race people only call themselves black although they might be 1/2 of something else.

[@jtabal100]

Yes she’s just being very careful with her words . She’s a teacher and it’s probably trained to do this .

[@free_duh7066]

Anyone else catch AD ask him how he felt about a white woman (Brit) raising his black kids??? How tacky of her. Why can't the focus be on raising good humans??

[@blaqmermaiid]

Extra buttery popcorn 🍿 for this one!

[@StephAnya]

😋

[@edgekushed2551]

PERFORMATIVE. = KENNETH.

[@sinegugudube4956]

Well broken down about this couple, I felt like no one touched on how Kenneth switched up and Brittany was left feeling like she was asking for too much.

[@MR-yg5il]

I watch Love is Blind just to see your analysis! I’ve learned so much from you and often implement what not to do in my relationship. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤️ We appreciate you!

[@StephAnya]

I love that you’re able to implement it ♥️ That makes me so happy!

[@Chikou14219]

Same, I'm learning sooooo much about my tendencies and how I may be unaware of how I might interact with partners

[@issa2110]

I think the interracial aspect was a possible out for him for prospective in the show…a family member (which has been proven) came out to say he is not attracted to women, that he is gay and that he went on the show for notoriety and possible opportunities. Either way he wasted and manipulated this woman and her possible experience

[@colourcoco]

I def get those vibes tbh

[@blynbb]

This

[@franklingee1267]

I just commented the same thing before reading this I was wondering if anyone felt the same way SHE IS EFEN HOTTT in every way he has to be gay he wasent even giving her a real kiss more like a grandma kiss, I would of eaten her alive such a waste to have him given that chance to have her and just blow it on some closeted gay dude

[@jamilcollins932]

I soooo thought the same!

[@issa2110]

@@jamilcollins932 yeah you can find a lot of interviews too he was doing a year ago, he tried to get big on TikTok and kept reaching out to do interviews in various places his cousin also said he went on the show to “try and please his family” so maybe they do not accept his lifestyle which is a shame

[@victoriaadams5096]

I totally agree with your assessment that it was the conversation with AD which changed his attitude towards Britt. I also found it disappointing how he then withdrew without explanation and then took the cowardly way out by making it seem like she was the one who lost interest in him. I love your videos. So clear and intelligently produced. ❤

[@PNWmorganite]

Yes!

[@juliarosetwamley]

YES been so excited for you to analyze this season!

[@yajairacruz-guardo1255]

I agree! And immediately thought the same after watching that scene. The convo between Kenneth and AD caused a shift in his relationship with Brittany. She dodged a bullet by not continuing with someone who is inconsistent, inconsiderate and values other people’s opinions yet identifies with being spiritual.

[@reginaadu9917]

Give me a hug so you know it is no beef 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️whattttttt!!!!?😩

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

lol! That was the craziest bit to me too, what a thing to say 🥴

[@shali7471]

That little smile when they break up says the most to me

[@earphbound720]

I peeped this as well. He just needed an out.

[@RatAttack1111]

I was DYING for this video. Steph always gets it right.

[@latishamoody]

I heard that Brittany and Kenneth broke up when the cameras weren’t there so to avoid the $50k fine they had to re-do their breakup on camera. I mean that scene would maybe be interpreted differently but still all good analysis! I love these videos it’s really helpful even in my relationship! Please keep doing these videos 🥹

[@tatiana3611]

I’m a fellow therapist and enjoy your content. I had similar feelings about the AD convo. He seemed to completely do a 180 after that. I think Kenneth thinks he’s much more emotionally mature than he actually is. Instead of having a convo with Brittany about his concerns, he went cold and self sabotaged. And I agree with you that he took the easy way out by letting her be the one with the issues. He clearly needs to engage in some healing work or else these issues will continue, whether it’s about race or something else. I think he’s so focused on meeting the other person’s needs and likely has shame about having his own needs that he just shuts down instead of working through them. I think that speaks to you saying how agreeable he was.

[@edgekushed2551]

With the rumors about kenneth being on the DL, him being happy about her wanting to wait, says so much now. Hes just glad that wasnt on the table or had to be an obstacle. I did like kenneth in the beginning, but if the rumors are true, i felt that. I could see his disconnect and his desire was to simply look good on tv.

[@aathenaiz6151]

what rumours?

[@teedee643]

“If” when I saw this and the one AD was with… chile there was no “if’s” and possibly only “dl” on the show…

[@ReggieT]

@@aathenaiz6151rumors of him being gay.

[@AD-lg4vl]

I thought those were more just insults of people trying to attack him and bring down his character, less so of rumors. And I think this video clearly illustrates, he doesn't need the help of rumors. While Steph thoughtfully does not say this outright, I think his actions and behavior point to him being a bad person - which you could not throw a stick at this season and not hit someone who's bad practically - basically all the men on for clout ( minus Johnny) and some women having serious issues with emotional regulation and not being able to self reflect and take accountability for their character and behaviors. I did hear a rumor that Kenneth was in a relationship as well with someone while this was all happening - that he says "babe" when he calls someone after the break up with Brit. Does anyone else hear it?

[@Melikabiga]

@@teedee643what is DL

[@apitt272]

Love your breakdowns of the couple.. always food for thought.

[@honeyluxx2479]

Kenneth was very performative.

[@lashaiagbor259]

Dry af

[@sneakykamon]

I’ve been saying since the DR episodes that Kenneth’s energy shifted since the convo in AD. I rewatched that convo right after he broke up with Brittany and it seemed like AD was not only doing most of the talking, she was also putting words in his mouth. I’m playing devil’s advocate here, but he never really got to say what he was concerned with the entire time. All he said was “my boys are gonna be like ‘yo Ken, that’s…’” and AD just said “life’s gonna life.” Hers was an easy assumption to make considering the circumstances but he never got to express what was really concerning him. That’s my take anyway. Honestly? Between her conversations with Kenneth and Sarah Ann, and what she ultimately said about “nothing was gonna stop her from marrying Clay” in the finale, I really don’t like AD anymore. She needs a good (or better) therapist and to learn to mind her business.

[@butchrodak2840]

I'm happy we're back to evaluating them as couples instead of individually. Love these breakdowns!

[@iluvpink4102]

Kenneth did her a favor as Brittaney deserved so much better. God is faithful and will provide her with the man she deserves and who will be worthy of her. Kenneth wasn’t even close.

[@maloneaqua]

My wife really thinks Kenneth is gay. Especially after the phone call he made on the way out the door.

[@Madinaash]

He def is lol when ad and clay were kissing Kenneth was locked in on clay

[@evelynshmevelyn00]

this! I was wondering if maybe he’s queer because of the “Black male” thing

[@aliceandappetizers]

@@MadinaashI’m sorry but this made me giggle 😂😂😂 “locked in on clay” is crazy 🤣

[@akosuakavinsky]

It was alleged that his cousin came out with the news that HE IS GAY. And then I understood his actions.

[@adeleisnamedafterme]

If he’s not at all attracted to a beautiful woman like Brittany he must be gay.

[@AD-lg4vl]

I have watched a few of your videos now, and have to say I love them. Thank you thank you thank you for validating exactly how I felt Kenneth was treating Brittany. Specifically how he was projecting back on to her and gaslighting her feelings; diminishing the validity of her comments, dismissing ANY responsibility for any of his actions, and ultimately saying it's her fault. I think she showed an unbelievable amount of grace and patience for Kenneth, and was thoughtful in how she expressed her emotions, and to see him dismiss and ignore things and shut them down hurt to see, and I don't feel like anyone else I've seen has talked about this and addressed it, so thank you because I wanted some validation as well if anyone could see what I saw. Yes, the phone is a bit disrespectful and a way to distance and avoid, but it's too obvious, and MANY MANY Gen Z and Millennials behave this way in relationships, so I'm a little surprised to see so many people latch onto how "awful" it is, when they likely do it themselves. There were so many deeper issues you expressed here from Kenneth's side, so again thank you for articulating them and giving context so concretely. For my interest in watching reality dating shows (while, yes, some of it is still for some drama), I am interested in the way people communicate and form relationships, to compare what I see in my own life and the real world. While not an MFT, I have a BA in Psych and have always been interested in studying people's lives/stories/TV from a psychological perspective . NGL a lot of podcasts/YT/reaction videos are just not contributing anything new/funny/insightful/interesting, and I scroll right on- so it's honestly been a bit of a comfort to find your channel with your experience breaking down these ideas. Again, love your content, keep it coming, can't wait to dive in more and for your insights on the finale as well!

[@Sj3video]

I actively look forward to your analysis! You're amazing!

[@alejandralugo1365]

I actually starting watching the show because of you and I have learned a lot from your LIB breakdown videos

[@StephAnya]

That makes me really happy ♥️

[@franceskaalmena7926]

Thank you for making this video!! I truly appreciate and enjoyed your commentary because the reunion did not talk about this relationship as much as I would've liked. This relationship infuriated me the most and I thought I was a bit crazy because no one addressed all these things I also saw. Great video my love!!

[@Aly3z]

You're back! I have been waiting on your take! I agree with your thoughts on Kenneth - He tried to be someone he's not and it backfired. I'm just sad that Brittany was caught in the cross hairs

[@edgekushed2551]

Out of all the videos i saw about love is blind today, this is by far my favourite, i would double like and subscribe again if I could. You make me want to pursue being a therapist, or atleast self teach and u teach me so much with your videos. I have learnt so much about myself and my people around me because of your videos. Anyway, kenneth, no thnx. Gaslighter extraordinaire.

[@Bornearth75]

Kenneth has a lot of growing to do. He’s immature and unsure of himself. Brittany was too good for him. He’s weak. I found it inappropriate for AD to doubt Brittany’s ability to raise her own children. Two loving parents with good ideals, morals, and ethics is what children need. He was weak if he was swayed so easily. 🙄 Kenneth was my least favorite person on the show paired with my favorite person on the show. Tragic

[@soul-deeplevel-up6179]

Inappropriate to discuss the nuances of a white woman raising children of African descent in America? Wow. That marriage pair has one of the highest divorce rates and the children of those unions often have a LOT of trauma. There are enough accounts of the LIVED experiences of biracial kids with white mothers to understand why it’s a valid concern. It’s not something “good values and morals” and “two loving parents” can just negate. Love does NOT conquer all. It’s that naïveté that underpins a lot of failed relationships. She said what he should have been thinking of. If he hadn’t, then that’s a reflection of his own immaturity. Also, the IR aspect of their relationship was really a cop out. He wanted out, like many of the men on the show, but had to find a decent excuse to not be “villainized”.

[@a.b.2405]

Exactly. It’s weird she’ll question if Brittany would be able to raise her own children!

[@suzanne26slinger]

Sarah Ann and Britney must have enjoyed ad's wedding if she wasn't so focused on other people's relationships she would have noticed her man doesn't want her.

[@Mr.Murasakino]

​​@@soul-deeplevel-up6179 bro genuinely looked like a flip switched after what AD said. I don't think her intentions were bad or to discorage him to date a white woman either and even if they were its still his fault for being easily swayed. When it comes to being black in America there is going to be some hurtles regardless whether you are half white and especially if you are fully black so yeah there were going to be challenges Brittany would had to over come but that would still be off concern if she was black herself (even more so). AD shouldn't have doubted her mother raising abilities when she doesn't even really know her.

[@darbydaze6611]

Your intro song lives rent free in my head + I welcome it✨

[@abbigailgutierrez6880]

They were my favorite in the pods. Immediately I was confused and I fell asleep in the part with AD and so I was soooooo confused. And then very disappointed. I also felt if this is the way he handles things - by completely checking out- it will be an issue always with other areas. I’m so sad for Brittany. She is one of the nicest most sane innocent girls I’ve seen on this show so that was disappointing.

[@jerrseyy1088]

Kenneth is gay. I believe. He reminds me so much of an ex who YEARS later admitted to struggling with his sexuality and that’s why he was soooo emotionally distant. Made big promises but never followed through because he just couldn’t see himself long term with a woman.

[@honourthymother958]

I really love your take as a therapist. You make perfect sense. What I learned from you about Kenneth’s behavior & some foreshadowing events is when he wasn’t expanding on more of his feelings towards her wanting to wait til marriage with intimacy. He was just agreeing with her instead of really diving into the importance for him. That was very interesting and telling

[@antoniao7439]

I interpreted that last convo as her politely saying she wasn’t physically attracted to him and him trying to exit with his head up high. He said something about having faith that what’s meant for him is out there. That kind of wording sounded like someone managing getting rejected

[@jesscook]

That's what I initially thought as well

[@gprime9575]

Damn you are good! Great evaluation of the show in this this couple.

[@rachelrogers7517]

When he broke off their engagement like that, I was screaming at the TV like Tyra “WE WERE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!” I loved them in the pods and knew as soon as AD planted that seed of doubt in his head that there would be an issue. This is why AD needed to keep her opinions to herself and I really want to know why she felt the need to even ask him. If they don’t talk about that at the reunion, I’m gonna be pissed.

[@jelissia2582]

I need you to re watch the video. Ad never planted a seed of doubt in his head. She was coming from good intentions & was very concerned. Like did you even hear what the therapist said in the video? Even the therapist agreed that what Ad said was just her being genuine concern.

[@jelissia2582]

Anything he did is his actions alone. He decided to make those type of actions

[@fin4008]

If your relationship can’t withstand outside comments you’re already doomed to begin w so let’s def not put it all on AD that’s just childish even tho I agree AD is nosey

[@tazzy4624]

Its peak misogyny and delusion for you to be putting the blame on Kenneth not wanting to be with jessica on Ad. No man that truly desires a woman which wasnt the case for them is going to allow outside opinions or statements to affect their relationship. He wasnt attracted to her and was looking for a way out

[@danaslitlist1]

I knew as soon as I watched this season that I NEEDED you to talk about these couples; especially Kenneth and Brittany! Thank you! For Brittany asking about Kenneth's race I kind of understand if she was trying to gauge any topics that she felt they might need to discuss when it comes to interracial dating? At least that's what I immediately thought. But yeah for a show that is about falling in love blindly, I've noticed so many people have been giving way too much. I felt that Brittany asking about Kenneth's race was different than Clay trying to figure out if AD was his type physically!

[@emilyk3825]

Yea I couldn’t believe that “Well I’ll be f*cking at 2am, so if you want to cool, if not idk what to tell you…” 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@k.ambriz9789]

What a dick move. Indefensible.

[@milivaro]

I think this was a cover to say hey I tried but you didn’t want to. Either because he’s hiding something about his sexuality or something else.

[@mermaidtingzzz]

Exactly! The woman had to be up at 5 AM and he woke up at her up at 1:30 AM and we’re supposed to think that’s a reasonable time to initiate intimacy??? He chose the time when she wouldn’t want that type of attention on purpose. people do that all the time, where they do things at an inconvenient time or way just so you can say no and later they can say “well at least I tried” that way they skirt blame.

[@breannagladney646]

You are giving me the breakdowns that I have been needing for this show, I’ve watched other videos on love is blind, but it doesn’t compare to how you break things down psychologically, but each of these couples, and for that, I appreciate you!😊

[@DaryaZarya]

Your Love is Blind videos are my favs!

[@mmpBT31]

I have learned a lot from your videos. I have not watched one LIB episode but diligently watch your reviews and other illuminating videos. You are fabulous, Steph Anya. Keep up the good work!

[@BIG055]

I feel so validated in my view that their relationship was based shared values and trauma, but it never seemed like they liked just talking with each other on day to day stuff.

[@LeandroVelez7]

Thank you! That’s exactly my issue with this show: everyone seems to be pursuing a fantasy.

[@lilo-y-stitch3460]

@19:29 I don't believe his conversation with A.D. had anything to do with his decision. She just brought up a relevant fact: Britney will be raising black children. I think he already knew he may not be able to make it work, when he first saw Brittney. However, unfortunately he opted to sell her a facade and drop the relationship as soon as he detected "a problem". Brittney only tried to have a reasonable conversation and he turned it into an argument and acted like it was something they couldn't come back from. All decisions made were totally on Kenneth amd had nothing to do with any of the women. HE made those choices, and Brittney suffered for it 😑🙄😮‍💨

[@vibinwithu]

In DR when they were on the boat I got the feeling that he was in his head regarding the racial difference. He acted like someone who was afraid to touch her in fear of some type of backlash. meaning if I touch her she may claim assault later. It’s just the feeling I got from him especially seeing that he never dated outside his race. AD gave him things to think about that he may not have considered prior. Stuff got real and he didn’t know how to communicate his fears effectively

[@rogueally]

kenneth pissed me off so bad. so rude and inconsiderate. just nasty behavior. brittney deserves SO much better.

[@sierraaltringer8430]

I love watching you analyze these relationships and I feel like I'm learning so much! Me and my s/I are going to watch your video on Chelsea and Jimmy to identify and interrupt patterns I see in myself when watching Chelsea! Thank you for your videos! Not only are they interesting, and entertaining, but they are truly something I feel we can learn from!

[@maloneaqua]

I’ve also seen the opposite happen where both people don’t feel very religious and don’t think it’s a “deal breaker” but then that faith is at issue when it’s time for raising kids, choosing schools or medical decision and funeral/burial decisions

[@AishaisReal]

I agree with you 100%. I was thinking the same thing when I was watching the show.

[@justme.11]

1) I've noticed that no one is mentioning that these people live in a region of the U.S. that is more racially fueled than other parts. They are in a less tolerant place racially and spiritually so them being interracial in a Carolina would play out much differently than it would in, say, New York City or a place where black/white history is less at play. Either way, as a black woman who's been in an interracial relationship, it wouldn't cross my mind to distance myself from my partner. I'd be distancing myself from the people or places that have a problem with us. 2) It's indisputable that there's gaslighting and part of me is glad to have such a clear example for people to refer to. It brings a massive amount of awareness to what it is. On the other hand, I really wish the woman in this situation didn't go through this. I hope she clearly sees that she wasn't the problem and his behavior wasn't because of her. That said, it feels like she confused race and gender but I think she's onto something unknowingly. She brings up the question of why can't we culturally identify in the same way that we can with gender and sexuality? Physical features seem to be concrete but how you're culturally raised can vary wildly. As a kid, I couldn't relate to my black family and classmates. Quite frankly, I found them all to be threatening since my household was abusive and only my black classmates bullied me. Things I loved like reading and musicals always starred and were written by white people. That was the culture most in my psyche. I made associations from that and developed internalized racism; meaning I didn't want to identify as black because I also didn't want to identify as an enslaved, abusive, bully as my life had taught me black people were supposed to be. I've always known that racial identity could feel like a cage. I didn't want to be caged. If we're willing, we can have conversations about this and why Brittany (?) worded this man's identity as she did.

[@mckinleys899]

Please do a breakdown of all the couples or individuals that made it out of the pods! Dying for more of a break down of Chelsea and jimmy and AD and clay!! And the rest as well!!

[@musicallyinclined9180]

I think that asking about ethnicity could also be about Culture! Doesn’t have to be about looks or color. Brittany also didn’t strike me as caring about looks. She was more on faith and I could see how culture could fit into that as well discussion

[@skip2mylu-stories]

You hit the nail on the head! Great breakdown and you got a new subscriber from me. Can't wait to hear more. Thanks!

[@mollyboo7555]

I saw the shift once AD,spoke with him.

[@MusicBeautyFood]

I totally agree that the conversation with AD made him pause and contemplate his decision.

[@ToyinShonoiki]

Kenneth gave me zesty vibes as soon as he opened his mouth! I just wish he wouldn't waste Brittneys time! She really liked him and was doing everything to connect with him! He was putting up a wall in every direction! I hope he finds himself and builds the courage to come out and stop playing with peoples feelings! Hope Brittany understands she is Good Woman and did nothing wrong!

[@racheljohnson4287]

Your analysis is spot on! I observed all of these things as well!

[@easyveganfoodie]

I have been waiting for this one!!

[@Elena-pc7fy]

The best part of watching LIB is watching your videos afterwards lol! I like when you do videos on the couples individually. Can’t wait to see the Chelsea and Jimmy break down

[@stephh1228]

I’m ready for you to do a vid on Jeramey and Laura! I’m going to click on it so fast once I see it uploaded 😂

[@RuthSchap]

Good analysis on narcistic disorder. The need to be admired is in all of us, even though it is a narcistic trait. Some men never grow up and continue to want to appear the good guy and shift the blame. What wasn't mentioned is that Kenneth is surrounded by young adolescents in his occupation and even though he might set a standard at work, he is "influenced" by their lack of maturity and behavior.

[@victoriaennis200]

Jess revealed on a podcast that they had broken up off camera but the producers wanted it to be filmed so they had to run this conversation back and maybe he was using blunt words and synthesizing that "you felt that" for the re-run vs. his actual words in the breakup. This may add to why it felt inauthentic/he was disconnected on his phone (even though that was still clearly an issue).

[@NiksKoko]

I know since that scene of them breaking up, I believe it came out That the producers had them do that scene to show the break up. Because the breakup actually happened like a few days beforehand off camera

[@annah995]

If he is really gay, I kind of feel for him (living in an christian, probably gay-unfriendly environment and trying to make himself fit in), although it would be still so unfair for Brittany. If he is not gay, he is just not nice. The way he treated her was bad. Doesn't matter if he didn't find her attractive after seeing her or the AD conversation changed his minds. I would go crazy if i would try to speak with someone who is my partner about my emotions and he is like teflon. Also I think Brittany would have been a great partner for someone else and I am positive she will find someone who values her.

[@dawntaylor8749]

Agreed, Doctor! I noticed the same thing, when AD brought up Black children, that definitely weighed on his mind. Especially since a Black woman brought it up. There was no doubt in my mind.

[@AlishaLorencc]

I am really upset that he tried to make it seem like it was her and IT WAS HIM. He was not interested anymore and he detached and would not admit it. He also didn’t really like her that much and it showed during the break up. His “friend” on the phone is who he wants to date.

[@Nerdish913]

Yes you’re so right. Brittany is very strong she should be proud of how she handled things. He just sat his big ass down blaming her the whole time