Therapist Breaks Down Love is Blind’s Marshall & Jackie | A Story About Self-Sabotage

[@Crynki09]

When Vanessa said “the people wanna know what’s next for Josh and Jackie” I was like, what people?!

[@LiviBurke]

Exactly! No one asked for it

[@MoonBunny69]

No frfr. He'll I'm more interested in Marshall coming back for a 2nd chance

[@tracidevette7]

Vanessa cares, we don't

[@newmanos1200]

No people lol Vanessa grilled Marshall and didnt ask the real question to Jackelina because these two women have the same mentality and they both bombed HARD this season .

[@mikelee4721]

Agreed the people ain’t care

[@laurensanchez8063]

I would like for them to do one season of love is blind for ages 35-50. I’m curious to see the dynamic if it is an older group. I wonder if the games and immaturity would be a factor.

[@StephAnya]

I would love this!

[@Grace_Zandile97]

I agree

[@QT1nnakno]

I was thinking the same thing. No cougar narrative tho!

[@javanjunkindahouse6625]

@Denise thanks for the tips! Want to check those out Ha ha my name is deniece too

[@AdrienneBMFT]

Agreed. Brett and Tiffany were in their mid-thirties and they had little to no drama on the show…that we saw

[@shar.jayceli]

Your breakdown of Vanessa and Nick's lack of compassion towards Marshall was so spot on. Not only did he have to deal with Jackie, but he was then re-traumatized at the reunion. Very unfair to him

[@ccleavemebe4790]

Marshall is a bad guy and very hateful himself. They uncovered brute tweets he was making about women and he went on an apology tour on TikTok last week . He was controlling and bashing black women and praising Latin women (which Jackie is) , Jackie did everything to him that he accused millions of bw of doing

[@chupamelo69]

​@@ccleavemebe4790 didn't he date a girl after Jackie who was black? That's very confusing.

[@sarab3417]

@@ccleavemebe4790 when he was a teen? What does it have to do with his dynamic with Jackie? Even if he did still feel that way about black women? Although his current gf is black…

[@aquarius-woman5364]

​@@ccleavemebe4790 They always turn to black women when their preferences reject them. Jackie was his karma. She did him good.

[@PaganSkye]

What. He was an absolute jewel. He cooked for her he cleaned he was kind. She wanted a bad boy not the real deal like him and why is it all about race where it comes to a interracial couple Are we still in the 19th century this is ridiculous let ppl love who they love. 😂would date him in a heartbeat he’s kind caring and not to mention very good looking.

[@annab0511]

And yet no one asked Jackie why she even auditioned for the show if she didn’t want marriage…..they really dropped the ball at the reunion to get the right questions answered

[@kameryn2918]

She said she didn’t want to get married? She gets worse every day lol

[@mehoo8]

She needed the line of questioning that Shake got

[@manifestingcafe]

I’d definitely love a video about Micah’s friend Shelby. The fact that she single-handedly ended a lot of Micah’s relationships is very concerning

[@honestlysis]

Right!! She was SO happy when Micah walked away crying. I'm like what type of friend are you?! It didn't feel protective, it felt like she secretly had feelings for her! Lol (But I could be reaching lol)

[@jackystar5099]

She didn't like Paul because he said he didn't care what she thought/said. You can see it in her face and since then she made up her mind.

[@perdybirdie]

Agree that would he an amazing one especially since a lot of women may have shady friends in their lives and being in denial like Micah

[@BabaJaga]

Yesss!!!

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

THANK YOU. To me she comes across as the friend that has either had a lot of personal relationship trauma or watched Micah go through a lot of relationship trauma. She loves Micah but the way she treated Paul and didn't even attempt to get to know him before making a conclusion really bothered me. It's like a toxic overprotective nature.

[@RoyalRumBull]

I would love to see a breakdown of Brett and Tiffany -All the GREEN flags and subtle compatibility qualities that are EASY to miss but KEY to their success 💚

[@darkshines81]

AGREED. I loved how their were able to communicate and actually LISTEN to one another. Like when she speaks about her feelings of being overwhelmed or when they have this talk about money

[@perdybirdie]

Agree

[@bilquisoyekan5480]

Omg!!!! In sync with the “ derogatory term” statement. That girl try to put him in the darkest light possible….. and then to say” I’m not even gonna say the word”

[@rachelbaker960]

Vanessa drove me CRAZY in the Reunion. Thank you so much for vocalising it!

[@Grace_Zandile97]

it's worth exploring Marshall's feelings towards Jackie, especially since he viewed her as a "project". This sheds light on Marshall's motivations for staying in the relationship, even after receiving warnings from Jackie. It may be helpful to understand why Marshall was drawn to the idea of "fixing" Jackie and what this meant for their dynamic .

[@WilliamsPinch]

Yeah. I’m really surprised she didn’t explore any of that.

[@christlivesevangelism9824]

He corrected himself after he said that

[@WilliamsPinch]

@@christlivesevangelism9824 he talks pretty extensively about saving and fixing people on the podcast interview. He meant what he said.

[@MamaMilkBubbles]

People try fixing other people to fill a void within themselves. I hope Marshall gets the healing he needs and meets someone who deserves his heart.

[@GG-kn2se]

Well she did say she was having a hard time because do her family. He probably just thought he’d wait it out and it’d be like it was in the pods. Made sense

[@kireikay]

I’m so glad you spoke on Vanessa cuz yea she was a mean girl towards him. Jackie didn’t wanna face the consequences of her actions just like Micah. I don’t think Marshall is perfect but he did not deserve that!

[@mayarandolph8788]

Which was wild! I wonder if she would have acted the same if Jackie was a darker complexion cuz she paid Tiffany dust. Actually it was worse than that she was openly insulting to Tiffany (with her "joke" about secret cameras).

[@KiaLD]

Fellow therapist here and I too took early notes. When they first released cast photos on IG, I noticed Jackie’s quote said she was there to find her daddy…joke or not, my note was questioning her intentions

[@heyjavonnejay]

Oooh this is good!

[@goodnessifebigh4080]

YES!! Her and Josh had the most unserious quotes, they didn’t sound mature at all, it felt like something a late teens early 20 somethings would say.

[@machinegunkimmy]

This is a great point!

[@reactivitytvxrevive]

Other fellow therapist here! Agreed, we have a new video posted on this!

[@unicornL]

That's the one.

[@brandi7464]

I was cringing every single time she mentioned them having babies. Isn’t that like a known thing that that can be a sensitive topic for people & that we shouldn’t ask about it? I’ve had 1 friend who had a miscarriage who shared how uncomfortable & sad it was for her to have people ask about having babies while she was going through it & I’ve never asked people about it again (unless they bring it up first). I feel like Vanessa should know that.

[@CasualCritic3]

She literally went couple by couple!!!!!

[@InThisEssayIWill...]

Yes! My sister had a miscarriage, it was such a difficult situation they had NOT been trying, her youngest was not quite 2 and she had a lot of trouble conceiving her. They just hadn't gotten around to getting a vasectomy yet.. they were shocked and really worried about the financial and emotional strain (not to mention the geriatric pregnancy) but they had just gotten over the shock and were adjusting to the excitement (hey at least they hadn't gotten rid of all the baby stuff yet!) When she lost it. There's pain but also relief, and SO. MUCH. GUILT and SHAME. We as a society have decided it's just best not to ask, some people missed the memo.

[@kherise]

I get your point and also felt that she was overly insistent, but to be fair lots of persons were mentioning(inside the capsules) that they couldn’t wait to start having children and such. And afterwards no one is into that- is kind of weird to say the least.

[@CasualCritic3]

@@kherise well ok but how many of thought that we'll be married and having kind by the age of 25, when we were teens? Doesn't mean anyone is entitled to publicly ask us about where we're at on that.

[@kherise]

@@CasualCritic3 you obviously didn’t get my point. And I also stated that I found her overtly insistent. But the question was ok. It’s normal to just ask and they are grown people. Most of them weren’t even in their twenties anymore. And btw for myself, I didn’t once thought I will be married with kids by 25 when I was in my teen years 🥴I guess it could be a culture thing

[@mirkabeskydova1303]

Can you do one for Micha and Irena. I think they should get their own episode.

[@nitsusanu]

I think they should get their own show lol. Those two are painfully fascinating

[@katienelson9654]

Agree! Thank you! Would love a breakdown.

[@EljaKaramelja]

Me too!!!

[@candaceuncontained4455]

I'm so glad you called out Vanessa. I thought the way she hounds them about having kids, especially Brett and Tiffany was so horrible. I hurt for Tiffany when that happened.

[@lovenakabba9185]

I hope the individuals in this show watch this and look internally because this is a free session right here lol

[@haxellprincesss]

Marshal actually came out and said he was mad at Josh because Josh told another girl in the pods the same line he told Jackie about leaving it it ain’t her

[@shakiramarie5055]

I find what Josh said to Jackie as a big red flag.

[@keyonnawilliams4182]

Yep and that’s the woman he got engaged too. She left him after they met which is why it was never shown.

[@Umar____]

Woooow really? Thats shadyyyyyy

[@daughterofyah6209]

@@shakiramarie5055 right it gave me “I’ll kill myself if you do…” vibes but just me personally. We all grown so if you go that’s on you not me

[@shakiramarie5055]

@daughterofyah6209 Exactly!!!!! That's not love. That's manipulation.

[@MsTreefox]

Jackie had mentioned in the pods that she was raised "hard." She goes out of her way to hide when she's crying or sad. Her "sad" feelings seemed to translate into anger and shutting down. When we're raised in an environment where showing feelings or vulnerability is unacceptable, you shut down your feelings instead of showing them. I think she felt seen and validated by Marshall because he's great at creating a safe space for her to be vulnerable and supported. However, we go back to what we're familiar with. She was probably really uncomfortable with having someone support her because she wasn't used to it. I know from experience I had a hard time being ok with someone comforting me because I always wondered when they would "leave me" or not wanting to get "dependent" on someone's support because I told myself it was weak to need or want it. I hope she and Marshall find happiness; whatever that looks like for them.

[@khayaaa5285]

literally!!!

[@damonestephens8722]

Naw fuck that. Marshall I wish the best. Her not at all.

[@sierrahultgren945]

I relate

[@leratomoloi3113]

That's still not an excuse to treat people like yeah okay? Let's not excuse people for acting antagonistic and mean to other people, please. I've met people who've been through some traumatic things from their childhood and upbringing who could've turned out as horrible adults to others but instead CHOOSE to be kind and have so much humility and compassion. Myself included. So I beg! Not just you but other people who think the same way as you to STOP making excuses for people who've had past traumas to test people so horribly! Because it's not okay AT All. I hate that for real. We're all accountable for our actions and they kind of people we choose to become especially towards others. Ad much as what Jackie went through or still is going through is hurtful, so is the way she's treating Marshall and She's very much AWARE of it.

[@wildthangmini]

Honestly the nail in the coffin for me on Jackie was that in the reunion she says she and josh didn’t start dating or whatever until after her and Marshall broke it off but in the break up scene she literally tells Marshall that she JUST met with Josh. Like girl, get your story straight

[@enchantechan]

She was talking about at the party possibly

[@regularity2556]

​@@enchantechan if it was at the party, she wouldn't have said it like that, cause Marshall was also at the party, and would've seen her talking to Josh. The party was like 10 ppl

[@itamaryhop]

"Meeting with" is not the same as dating. She could have had one meeting with Josh, then broken up with Marshall and then officially got together with Josh.

[@smallberrystyle4607]

i think she was specifically saying the coffee shop scene was after she and marshall broke it off, not that she hadnt seen him at all prior. Regardless, she was shitty

[@BMarie-hr2md]

Marshall dodged a HUGH cluster phuck by not being with that disaster. He's too much of a man for her. I hope he finds a wonderful woman ❤

[@leratomoloi3113]

Lol literally!! I love it❤❤

[@MissPYT78]

On Jackie and Marshall I think she skipped the reunion because she knew she was wrong. Didn’t want to take questions and have to defend herself. Proud people show up ready to shine.

[@spknword]

Whew 😮‍💨 your counseling insight is spot-on and golden! Thank you for sharing and teaching!

[@StephAnya]

Aw ♥️ Thank you for watching!

[@JudgeJeana]

I hope Marshall recovers and learns from that and that he finds what he is looking for. He will be a great husband one day. 😊

[@Lonelyeco]

Shucks, I need me a Marshall.

[@leratomoloi3113]

Sure will. Very great guy indeed❤

[@meganchristinadunn]

This has been SO HARD to wait for. 😅😂Your content is the best!!!! Thank you for the thoughtfulness and wisdom you apply to these videos. I have learned so much from you! ❤

[@artxlife7236]

I really loved this season too bc I felt like the couples that did make it to Yes are all really strong. Jackie and Micah were way too immature for this show and it showed. The older contestants really do seem better-suited and I hope we see more of that in future seasons! Seems like the men really stepped it up this season too compared to past seasons.

[@neuman_adventures]

Yesss, I would love to watch one for Kwame and Chelsea next. For the reunion, when Nick was asking the question to Kwame, "Are you surprised by some of the reactions out there from people who are shocked and surprised that you didn't say no..." and then Chelsea answers assuming that question was for her and made it about women's empowerment. Do you think that question Nick asked was for Chelsea or Kwame? Because I think that question was for Kwame and it's another incident where Chelsea is showing that she is delusional about Kwame and she can't read the room. Thank you for the analysis on Marshal and JB.

[@montanalloyd7269]

I hope she does Chelsea and Kwame too. I saw on KZbin someone said they felt Chelsea was fetishising Kwame and I'm curious if she feels that way too.

[@xoxDCMxox]

PLEASE do a full video on Nick and Vanessa!

[@leratomoloi3113]

Please!! Those two really bother honestly. Especially Vanessa!!

[@Loreee__]

You validated my thoughts about Jackie. No matter her excuses for her behavior, her actions spoke volumes. At least Irena took accountability, but she did not, at least from what we have seen.

[@rainbowyahi]

Tacky Jackie should be her name. Your characterization of Jackie as being tacky for kissing Josh on camera was so spot on. She was also tacky when she told him on that same date that hearing his voice at Chelsea’s party made her nip hard. Like, gross 🤮 keeping the ring was also tacky.

[@kherise]

She was also very tacky when in first day of honeymoon, Marshal asked her if she wanted to wait to get intimate and she was ( apparently ) even annoyed by the question … to me that says a lot about her too

[@godsgrace2277]

@14:00 when you delve into holding onto someone based on their first appearance and not their reality is exactly what I just went through. I broke off a relationship TODAY once I let go of the memory of the past and accepted who he really was. Thank you for blessing me with this timely validation!

[@mrsroseyp109]

Felt like I waited forever for this but you did not disappoint…as always I agree with everything you said…now please cover Zack, Irina and Bliss next

[@luizalouyoga]

You addressed everything that made my stomach churn on this season. It’s truly hard to see people being cruel and not being properly confronted about it later. Jackie was disgusting. Acted incredibly cruelly towards someone who was very kind and loving, especially, with her. And Vanessa really isn’t the proper host. She’s truly mean. She did that to Cole on the previous season and now to Paul and (to the viewers desperation) to Marshall. It was hard to watch and it ends up ruining the fun. You’re very intelligent and well articulate. Amazing job! ♥️👏🏼

[@thetubenewsandentertainmen713]

he was just too weak man

[@leandrapf]

I appreciate the time, effort, and knowledge you share with us. These videos are wonderful. Dropping knowledge! And that roller coaster analogy… on point. So helpful, thank you ❤️

[@ericalewis8447]

I’d like to nominate Steph Anya to be the new host/ therapist for Love Is Blind!! How do we get this network on the phone to let them know that the Lachey’s are fired?! 😂

[@holaolgaaa]

Could you make a video about self sabotage and how to work on it?😊

[@shilohisrael1259]

I would like to see more videos regarding how to be your best self in a relationship so that the relationship flourishes. The line between no one else can make you happy and the things your partner could do to make you happy (if this makes any sense)

[@ItzelMedina]

Omg YES!!! 🙌🏻

[@oldfrenchho5801]

I am learning sooooo much from your Love is Blind videos. About myself and others! So glad I found your channel.

[@StephAnya]

So glad to have you here!

[@lauc91]

I'd love to see videos about dinamics in friendships. How to overcome distance, how to recognize whether this was "healthy" distance and when it might be just drop off. Is it necessary to have one best friend? Several friends? A group of friends? Something like that

[@Jennessssy]

Ugh I’m soooo thankful you mentioned your thoughts on Vanessa and Nick. I very much so thought the same exact things. It just seemed so malicious on Vanessa’s part and I feel like Nick was just there and wasn’t adding anything into the reunion. Part of me gives Vanessa grace because maybe she was told to do that to get the heat off of Josh and Jackie due to all the death threats they were getting but, she didn’t have to make Marshall not feel heard or look bad. The reunion felt like I was watching a season of love and hip hop and not something that’s focused on really connecting with people. It was kinda tacky and not really well put together in my opinion.

[@Rosyandguildy]

Vanessa is SUCH a girls girl, if you realize she basically only backs the women on the show. As in girls supporting girls to the extreme sport level and i agree that she cared more for the drama than the actual couples, especially this season so we get really poor questions asked, basement level journalism. Furthermore asking about babies when they were clearly uncomfortable? yeesh a tad tacky, and as the host of a dating/ marriage show she has to know that that is a sensitive topic

[@evelibertone4188]

I am a therapist too and I love your insights and perspective on many topics. I particularly like your take on Love is Blind as I got totally into the show! Thanks!

[@rachaeljackson3759]

I’m so late to this season lol but thank you for addressing Nick and Vanessa. I was literally yelling at the tv the whole time Vanessa was poorly conducting that reunion interview.

[@monchiquita25]

I was listening to this while winding down from day and your voice and words are so calming. Thank you! I can see a lot of my younger self Jackie and it kinda hurt to see that but glad ive worked thru it. Now i see myself in your comment that when someone tells you who they are to not try and love them thru it. Really struggling with that at moment. And the way you described it was so spot on! Thank you for your thoughtful explanations. I learn so much from your channel! Youre a blessing!!

[@neenaa5368]

Thanks for sharing! If I may ask, how did you work through it?

[@bilquisoyekan5480]

YES the Mexico trip gave it away… and the fact that Marshal said’ I have ran away in the past, but I’m not doing that this time’….. I knew Jackie was gonna sabotage things to see if that was true

[@desia97ann]

When Jackie said she's never had her feelings reciprocated but it seemed the other way around. I think she saw the type of partner Marshall was and she has it in her mind that that is the type of partner that she is

[@Mlum191]

When Jackie said that Bret is good looking, Marshall says: “I told you” hahah

[@digthewarmth]

Amazing review! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I've been hearing people call Jackie a villain, and i didn’t get it, cause she just seemed like a sad girl to me in watching the beginning of the season. So it was great to get a recap of her behavior and hear from a therapist. She really switched to behaving like a cruel person when she didn't want to admit she wasn't ready for marriage.

[@torikoame]

Would love your take on the more popular seasons of “Are You The One?”! They never disclose the matchmaking criteria so hearing a therapists thoughts-especially since *spoiler alert* only one matched couple stayed together after 9 seasons-would be so interesting! (Seasons 8, 6, & 4)

[@lilsleepy1553]

Honestly, When you talked about how we can sit and wait for the person that we met originally to come back during a relationship when they have basically stopped trying really resonated with me. I always felt like if I could be supportive then they would be that person they portrayed themselves as so I've burned myself in the past by holding onto that instead of recognizing that they are showing me who they are. Thank you for talking about this because it's really enlightened me to how I go about the dating process.

[@milah253]

Finally!!! I was waiting for your videos on this season!!! So excited to watch ALL of them!!!!

[@ThatGingerHannah]

I really hope Jackie gets some therapy and works through her issues. I’m currently in therapy (been at it for almost 3 years) after being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and been working on a lot of personal issues that I’ve had with people in my personal life and have seen so much improvement over time with how I handle situations now. Therapy is awesome!

[@antbanks415]

I hope she gets karma

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

I absolutely love your Love Is Blind breakdowns because not only do I learn a lot but I also feel validated in my own takes cuz they match 😂.

[@PaganSkye]

Your a really good therapist I have learned so much about myself just from watching you

[@juliaperrinez8409]

I wonder if Vanessa is more sympathetic toward Jackie and Josh because she sees similarities in how her and Nicks relationship began

[@theclosetandco]

Marshall explained he was hurt cause Josh was his friend and shared the same sentiment towards another cast member Monica. So Marshall felt slighted.

[@mayarandolph8788]

And Josh got engaged to Monica too...she's the one that broke it off 😭

[@edbrown5956]

I really like your breakdown on this! You pointed out things others I've watched hadn't. Thanks for the longer video length also. Nice to relax and not need keep changing videos every 10 mins.

[@mylovelydream8828]

Your such an amazing therapist with great insight 👏 👏 well done! You really put everything in perspective and I think your delivery is so non-judgmental and non bias.

[@jennifermoore9267]

Yeah I felt like Jackie was becoming on that line of toxic and emotionally abusive. Of course we don't see everything so Marshall could have came at her with similar ways. But what was shown on the show, seemed like it could become abusive down the line.

[@kristinotten8802]

Thank you so much! You are my favorite therapist covering LIB. Love your perspective. (From one therapist to another!) :)

[@crystalmonroe2621]

I hope you do all the other couples from this season as well, I love when you do these kind of videos 😍

[@Taildawg]

I love the rollercoaster analogy, makes so much sense.

[@lakeyshajackson2097]

I totally agree with everything you said especially regarding how Vanessa handled the interview. She was supporting Jackie in her wrongdoing while villainizing Marshall when he wasn't even at fault. Infuriating.

[@islandQueen246]

Oh Stephanie, I am R E A D Y for your breakdown!! I was wondering if you were gonna do one to this season’s :)

[@StephAnya]

Can’t wait to chat with you soon! Bring a snack. It’s a long one!

[@islandQueen246]

@@StephAnya girl, I was agreeing with you so much as I watched! (I’m a therapist too :) ). You were so so solid in your assessment and I agreed with so much of what you said. Jackie tired me the HECK OUT!! Marshall did NOT deserve the way this relationship went and ended AT ALL, and the reunion didn’t help it at all, between the video from the couple and the way Vanessa treated Marshall? S T U P S E !! Foolishness!! Vanessa was so distasteful in more than one instance! Marshall isn’t perfect - none of us is, but I really don’t get the Marshall hate. That man is one of the most emotionally intelligent, gracious, and honourable persons I’ve seen on TV, especially as a Black Man. & as for the past tweets people have been coming at him for - that was like a decade ago; so very much can change in that time frame. It’s been an interesting circumstance of seeing how differently people can assess and interpret things for sure when it comes to how people view and feel about him. Thank youuu for your thoughts and insights sis! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@EmbracingElevation]

YES! Yes! Totally agree on all pts., especially Vanessa (Nick). That Zoom interview was so "Team Jackie." Yeah, why are they the hosts? They bring no insight or value. Keep yall beautiful selves behind the scenes ad Exec Prod. #StephAnyahostLIB

[@MrsV777]

💯 spot on, in all of your assessments! Especially the part about Vanessa giving a terrible interview and not aiding in providing any closure for Marshall. Nothing was resolved for him, no clarity at all.

[@muskadawi6559]

I discovered you through your Vanity Fair KZbin review of TV & film couples & have loved your ever since. I would love to see more content like that (reviewing relationship dynamics in media).

[@tsholofelomoholane4856]

Thank you Steph Anya for this video. I have a question. I feel like the phrase 'I take full accountability' was used like a crutch by the people being called out. What do you think accountability looks like? Did you believe everybody that used it in the reunion?

[@carlasofia5048]

Powerful question! Noticed that too and would like to hear about it

[@shescalledirina]

Great question! Commenting so it gets pushed to the top.

[@OyayoTheStorm]

Ooh! 👀

[@TopShelfJustin]

This is a great break down of their relationship. From a man’s perspective, he loved her much more than she loved him, and that is often a killer of relationships.

[@talitam.8414]

As always your videos are so interesting and illuminating. I like your perspective on the hosts too, especially Vanessa. Please do Chelsea and Kwame next!

[@oksanaml9279]

Most insightful, detailed, and fair analysis Ive seen yet. Thank you and more please! 🎉🎉🎉

[@mayarandolph8788]

You need to watch Jessie Woo... Cuz this is cute, but we are ignoring so many racial undertones in their interaction

[@oksanaml9279]

@@mayarandolph8788 I'm a fan of Jessie Woo!

[@chelseawilliams8588]

I just LOVE when I get a notification that you’ve posted. Your perspective is so balanced and insightful!!

[@jessicatorres2386]

I was not expecting the content to this video being so informational. As someone who self sabotages I really enjoyed your rollercoaster analogy. Liked and subscribed. Thank you for your content

[@mjnotmaryjanee]

i love your break downs steph!! i am a self-certified psychologist & love when my inner thoughts are externalized and articulated by you! it feels like confirmation lol. you're making me want to watch season 3 now just to watch your recaps

[@raisaferreras8517]

I love your insight on these kinds of videos. I learn a lot from you!

[@StephAnya]

So happy to hear that!

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

8:06 I never noticed Brett’s expressions through the whole conversation lol… Brett is one of those people that tries to stay out of the mix and hold his expressions and I don’t know why it’s so funny to me

[@mikelee4721]

Steph I loved ur breakdown. Especially ur comments on Vanessa. I felt the same way watching the reunion.

[@DrianaD]

You made me think when you mentioned she needed him to be mean and apologize to feel safe because it felt like that familiar disfunction. I find as the “fixer” in relationships that I have to get raw and revert back to actions I see as toxic to give myself a place to say “I’m sorry” from. It gets exhausting when the other person is always wrong and I never get opportunities for growth or correction. Your comment made me rethink that pattern. Love your commentary!

[@heidilehman9009]

Yeeeesss PLEASE do a video about Chelsea and Keame!!!! I agree about Nick and especially Vanessa!!! They need to find someone better!!!!

[@archercandy6122]

I feel like the people in the show should have to watch this, lol. It's such an amazing lesson not just for them but for anyone who faces experiences like this. Love it. Tysm.

[@chongyang8509]

I'd love to see you breakdown the couples on the Netflix show "The Ultimatum", also hosted by Nick and Vanessa. Your videos are so eye opening and help me reflect on myself and my own relationship! ❤

[@elizabethchavez1345]

I've been waiting for your dissection of this season. Such great and refreshing observations.

[@rudomakoni1474]

I love your videos Steph! Was waiting for your take on LIB4❤

[@Grace_Zandile97]

I appreciate her input as therapist and viewing them as humans with emotions and not just drama and entertainment

[@jackystar5099]

I felt she kept that ring as a trophy. There's no other reason I could see for keeping it and it definitely came off disrespectful but so did lots of stuff she said/did.

[@juliac2687]

She kept it, because she knew he was going to give it to his second option. And she was like “you wanna propose again, you buy it this time”. And I guess he didn’t want to 😂😂

[@mayaslifeonearth]

Love your breakdowns and insight!!! It’s so enjoyable to listen to and see what you pick up on and how you weave the connections of everything. I’d love to see Kwame & Chelsea and also Irina, Zach, Bliss… and Micah/Irina and Tiffany and Brett… For other content I think it would be interesting to hear a video about the struggles of moving on from a relationship even when you are the one who decided to end it. The guilt and doubt that can come with it and any tips for moving on. Another video … how to approach dating in these modern times when you’re in your mid to late 30s. Another interesting breakdown video would be other shows or movies with a focus on dynamics, like White Lotus 🤩

[@addo-ajjalani9046]

Your breakdown is so healthy and on point

[@sufiheart]

They need a host like the one from the 90 day fiance reunion shows. She's so so professional, asks great questions, isn't overly emotional.

[@LiveWithChi]

I tried giving love is blind a chance twice but i just couldn't bring myself to watch it. so i watch your reviews and breakdowns instead because they're so insightful and educational. i'm not sure if you've already done so, but it would be amazing to see you do breakdowns on love is blind: japan. from what i've read, it's very different compared to the US one - less drama and contestants are more respectful and supportive of each other.

[@parissinclair6513]

I would love to see a video of you analyzing Tom and Shiv's relationship from Succession!

[@Out_on_a_Limb_Life]

That's a great suggestion!

[@Kayayoutube713]

Thank you so much for putting in the work for this video, learned so much!

[@tmarie_dance]

Thank you for talking about this....I have same feelings about Vanessa and Nick. I usually skip the Reunion part because the hosts are so insensitive 😪

[@fashion498]

I have been waiting for yo to review LIB 4! I would love to see you break down each couple from this season!

[@heg_egg]

I choose to watch your videos for my lunch break. Thanks for the awesome insights and entertaining content!

[@jenben5alive458]

I have been patiently waiting for your videos on this! Love your knowledge and perspectives Steph. 🙏 🤍

[@lexibewatchin]

such great commentary!! i’m really looking forward to your Chelsea and Kwame video because his interviews after he moved in with her had me raising an eyebrow lol

[@Waunderlust-lp3zz]

I dnt watch the shows but I stumbled across the topic from Facebook and wanted to see what was all the fuss about. I did not intend to watch your video and have it break down the triggers in my last situation but knowing the triggers and doing exactly what you said Marshall did just reinforced my own thoughts of course of navigating that situation. In my own saying “sometimes you gotta break your heart to save your soul”. You did a great job of analyzing and breaking down this couple. Ole boy will find someone to reciprocate pouring into him like he do her and he’ll be better off

[@stacy2766]

Great breakdown and to the point. Agreed with all points

[@bilquisoyekan5480]

YES!!!I was waiting to hear you on Jackie, Marshall

[@bellabeebeauty2645]

I would love a review on the resurfacing tweets he spoke about wanting a Latina and his views on black women

[@mayarandolph8788]

Exactly! I was a bit disappointed because she never talked about colorism or anti-blackness and they played a huge role in their dynamic (and even how Vanessa approached Jackie). If Jackie acted the same way, but was darker or unambiguously Black, there would be more backlash against her by production and the show. Colorism doesn't just impact the Black community but how pocs are treated by white establishments. I say this as a social work PhD student and I cannot ignore the racial/cultural context of "successful" Black men wanting to be attached to non-black or light skinned pocs as a status marker That also probably plays into why she is so okay with being trash and lacks self awareness.

[@bellabeebeauty2645]

@@mayarandolph8788 everything you said was so true and now that I think about it, it may be the reason him and Tiffany didn’t work. They always want something “spicy “ and different but it all comes down to when your preference don’t prefer you and that’s what Marshall got

[@christina5112]

I'm learning psychology now, so it would be interesting to see your process of diagnosis about personality types, attachment types, and how that shows up in social interactions. I really liked your video about Stranger Things and You... Succession, MAID, and Yellowstone would be good options!

[@esthercorvil4482]

Real talk! I’ve been waiting for your commentary since the finale aired

[@FreeTheTrolls]

I would love to see a therapist “breakdown”, Vanessa Lachey’s reactions on the reunion. Something is up with her.

[@Kissey-M]

Yes. I definitely had an analogy of what Vanessa Lachey was doing on the reunion bc she was DEFINITELY on one.

[@MaryGrace484]

I love your insights. You actually telling me what i have to work on myself and throughout my entire relationship. Detailed and very specific point. You mentioned many things that i saw but not other ppls didn’t notice. I love how you noticed jackies candy metaphor, am not gonna talk bout Josh😤, and yes, marshal i love the how he reacts when they meat first time. You can literally feel the peace when he says “Heyyyy” i love that man. I want a man like him. True he is not perfect he might need things to work on but that a man who is STABLE for ME. ❤ n i love you 😁

[@naturallove6615]

Yes Marshall dodge a huge bullet with Jackie!!!!! I loved Marshall he’s so sweet and kind and fine has his own style, he is his own person. Jackie didn’t know what to do with him because she used to men like the other guy, men that give out the bare minimum