Therapist Breaks Down Love is Blind UK | Did Sam really have a "villain edit?"

[@holisticmaya]

I really wanted you to talk about the gazillion times Sam says to Nicole during the reveal « trust me », « just trust me », « I need you to trust me »😅😅

[@tomandjennacali1879]

Yeah that was soooo obvious. Men who can’t be emotionally deep or mature do that all the time! It’s all about him he doesn’t even care there’s another person there

[@ABC-gt4rd]

it was so bad to watch

[@cvpete]

​@@tomandjennacali1879 So very much this.

[@egcarswell]

It was weird, I'm surprised Dr. Steph didn't mention that. Super concerning, the tone he used was especially terrifying.

[@airuniverse10]

Soooo cringe omg 🥴🥴🥴

[@stephaniejohnson8994]

I think the men's reaction (or lack thereof) to Nicole accepting Sam's proposal spoke volumes about his character and how the rest of the men viewed him. For the other guys, when they came back with the happy news, there was cheering and hugs and congratulations all around. With Sam, he got a few half hearted hugs and a "Cheers mate". Then when Sam started going on and on about how happy he was, the guys went to make sure Beniah was ok. And an even bigger contrast was how the men reacted when Beniah showed up in Greece, they were all absolutely overjoyed and practically tackled him and it was so sweet to see.

[@busyizzyyyy]

i started paying such close attention to how the guys treated him. Sam gave me the ick immediately, and it was kind of hilarious watching him give all the guys the ick too 😂

[@cniknik9863]

I noticed that's how it usually is. Like with Josh from season 4, the men did not like him. The women tend to form cliques and talk about who they don't like. While the men just don't engage. They half heartedly listen to what he says with a hidden eye roll.

[@pixierainbow7]

That reveal was so painful to watch, from the "oh my you're amazingly...what color are your eyes? boring brown." His superficiality was not evil editing, there's too many moments for it to be oh the editors twisted my words when it came outta his own mouth. He's constantly fishing for compliments and also victimizing himself as the "nice guy always finish last"

[@ngweso]

The fact that his cast mates clocked it too told me all I needed to know. He could be a good guy who knows, but what he definitely is is a really bad actor

[@cvpete]

​@@ngwesoLol. So so bad.

[@cvpete]

I bet if it'd been Cat or Jas whose eyes are also brown he'd not have said that.

[@cvpete]

I don't care what anyone else thinks....

[@lyra2282]

I think it's also important to note that Sam's talking about Nicole initiating sex with him was his way of sexually shaming her. Whether it was conscious or not, it was an attempt to drive her perceived value lower in the eyes of Beniah and the audience, and to get one up over Beniah. I think Beniah's laughing reaction to this was pitch perfect.

[@ipanemagirl8375]

Yes! I love how he just laughed and then said that this was disrespectful no matter if it was true or not

[@Lilly_92]

You are so right! ☺It made me very uncomfortable to watch and I couldn´t put my finger on why, but now that you wrote it, it is so obvious to me that this is sexually shaming! 🙏

[@laurenrogers125]

His "I think I love you" was so cringe. The secondhand embarrassment was nearly unbearable 😅

[@ginakingdom722]

😅😅 I was alone in my room looking around for the hidden cameras 😅😂😂😂 😢 😭

[@MsTreefox]

😂😂😂

[@mandyleepie12]

​@@ginakingdom722Haha best comment I read in a while. 😅📷🎥📹

[@angelacleveland3860]

Right I was like wow

[@liyans1]

to me, the fact that he calls himself a 'boy' and he's looking for a 'girl' shows his immaturity and the fact that he doesnt see himself as a grown man

[@KL-Lady]

I think he’s trying to make himself seem harmless

[@michaelgoddard3541]

Also modelling himself on Hugh Grant and almost literally quoting Nottting Hill

[@mochalily3735]

@@michaelgoddard3541I’m so glad someone else caught that!! I haven’t seen enough people talk about that lol. He was absolutely quoting Hugh Grant 😂

[@AJ-ff2os]

He even called himself a big kid. That was a red flag for me.

[@liyans1]

@@AJ-ff2os yup, he’s coming across as a man baby with Peter Pan syndrome and mommy issues just desperate for someone to soothe his inner emotional turmoil. He appears to be Self centred, emotionally immature, massively insecure with attachment issues, absolutely lacking in self awareness and either knowingly or unknowingly manipulative to top it all. Yikes, what a disaster!

[@fefeandthebadone]

I think Sam used a lot of cliche movie lines, especially his "I'm just a boy looking for a girl" corny lines. Jasmine saw right through it but it worked on Nicole unfortunately.

[@tanyac9910]

Yep - right out of "Notting Hill".

[@debbiepurkiss355]

@@tanyac9910I thought this but no one has seemed to make the link 🤣 soooooo cheesy 🤮

[@senaawl]

Exactly, he kept acting like he was in a movie!

[@cvpete]

I wondered if Jasmine's job in mental health might have been a big part of her ability to smell his BS and Nicole's trauma from her past relationship was why she was more willing to believe in the fairytale of it and almost gaslight herself.

[@DBox3591]

⁠Nicole didn’t deny wanting to be, as Sam said, PHYSICAL with him. That can encompass a simple kiss, not necessarily full blown sex. And we know he didn’t kiss her in the reveal like all the other couples did. More importantly, Sam told Benaiah that Nicole wanted to SLEEP with him! Why didn’t he use the same word he used with Nicole? Because he wanted to hurt Ben and create controversy regarding Nicole’s honor.

[@efghd2624]

Unfortunately, that Rick and Morty quote always applies to guys like him: He's a predator that pretends to be prey

[@cvpete]

Wow! Really great take! What episode of R&M is this!

[@ginakingdom722]

And now I see why Sam made me think of that last dude I tried with 🤔 covert narcissist

[@hammer6198]

And women will give him a chance every time! 😂

[@TC-wk8vq]

@@cvpeteseason 3 episode 5 The Whirly Dirly Conspiracy. Rick is screaming an amazing dialogue at Jerry for being a victim. Towards the middle of the episode.

[@etherealgalaxies6]

​@@TC-wk8vqwowww another R & M fan like myself; that is my second fav episode. My number one is Total Rickall!

[@OiOBlinkingOwl]

I'm surprised at myself. I'm realizing that the drama doesn't appeal to me anymore. I don't want it to be messy. I just want these damn fools to be happy.

[@StephAnya]

Like pleaseeee! 5 couples riding off into the sunset would be a dream

[@dethebare3865]

I think that Sam bases his sense of self worth of based off of being romantically desired by attractive women. The more attractive the woman, the higher is self worth. When he was rejected it hurt his self worth, causing him to love bomb and act out of a place of desperation and scarcity. It gets to a point when he says "I just want to be loved" he means "I just want to be loved by a socially desirable woman." He has to talk about himself and get them to fall in love with him in order to feel worthy. What he needs is self love and therapy. Then maybe he can take accountability. Thank you Steph Anya for your content. The reality tv insight is always fun to watch and helps me be a better partner and person myself.

[@QueenyKay]

He was just desperate to be on the show. I don't even think he was really looking for love. When Nicole told him that she didn't wanna go to Greece and just focus on their relationship, he flipped and didn't take it well because he wouldn't have the notoriety he was looking for.

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

You bodied this. I know men like this… too many of them. Luckily, like Jasmine, I’ve grown enough to clock it and will never their their issues drag me again, but I feel like you hit the nail on the head. It was so crazy to me “people always think ‘Oh Sam, you can get any girl you want’” - that’s a wildly insecure and self-unaware statement. Confidence is quiet and personally, I know that generally speaking, I have never and probably will never have trouble finding a partner (most women won’t) but would never in a million years say that to a prospective partner. Or anyone lol it’s just obvious issue after obvious issue that he’s insecure and either being gaslit by hanging around yes-men or refuses to address reality, either way, good for Jasmine and I’ve still got mixed feelings about Nicole and her failure to see the red flags…. As much as I’d love to believe she truly learned and went to Beniah because she wanted *him*, and not as a backup plan for herself, as a fellow divorced woman, if she hasn’t learned enough to be put off the same way Jasmine was by the crazy things he said, that’s concerning.

[@dangelocox1715]

​@@QueenyKayI think wanting to be on the show could possibly be a byproduct of wanting to feel worthy. If you constantly seek validation that you're worthy, the opportunity to be validated by not only one woman, but an entire audience would seem like a tremendous opportunity, don't you think?

[@laurie8857]

​@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye I think she liked Beniah more but he wasn't able to be open with her about his feelings at the time, so I think that gave Sam's intensity more space to be perceived well. She went for the one saying the things she wanted the other one to be saying..

[@wanjanjama]

@@laurie8857 Exactly! Sam gave her the reassurance she needed at the time, and it affected her judgement.

[@islabee94]

Can't wait for this!!! He was so rancid to me, genuinely one of the fakest, slimiest men Ive ever seen on Reality TV and that's saying something. I also hate how they glossed over some of his truly vile comments at the reunion. He literally said "beggars can't be choosers" after Jasmine dumped him before proposing to Nicole the very next day. There were so many worse and more damning moments than just him wondering whether Nicole was a bigger woman or not.

[@WilliamsPinch]

Whew. You just said it all. I feel validated by this comment lol.

[@QueenyKay]

Sam and Cat had the same excuse. Apparently they say offensive things when they are nervous. That's what they've repeated over and over and over to justify their horrible behavior. Plus the "I'm adopted" for Cat. And "I was bullied" for Sam.

[@islabee94]

​@@QueenyKay Yeah, Cat is awful too, and it was very annoying how she was let off the hook at the reunion. They don't say offensive things when they're nervous, what happens is that the mask slips when they think no one is looking and their true self comes to the forefront. We saw this with Cat saying Ollie wouldn't want Demi (insinuating it was because of her appearance) or with Sam saying "Yeah I told her she was the one ladida blabla that whole thing" when telling the other guys about his proposal. They are both fake, superficial and cruel, but one is a tad better at hiding it. Also the adoption thing? Clearly an excuse for Cat to get away with bullying Freddy. I was bullied for years in high school and have never treated someone I loved like the two of them do. Always beware of a sob story, manipulative people looove to use them to get away with their bad behaviour.

[@QueenyKay]

@@islabee94 Yeah. I didn't say I believe their lame excuse. I just repeated the stupid excuse they came up with to justify their behavior. They shouldn't have been left off the hook this easily.

[@treashboutan7714]

Him and the guy from love is blind who was using eye drops to cry

[@smirbelbirbel]

23:10 AND IT WAS A LIE! The only thing Nicole confirmed was that she attempted to "be physical". And during the reunion, Sam admitted that he lied. That just adds a whole layer of grime.

[@zeezy17]

Right! The reunion was such a tell to the fact it’s not all villain edits . This man straight up lied in front of the cameras to humiliate Nicole

[@mariperez8337]

I wouldn’t be surprised if she asked if he was the type of guy who wants to sleep together on the first night and he said no and when it went sour he twisted it to be she WANTED to sleep with him instead of asking a question

[@MiracleMags]

The way Matt Willis even said something like “WHY BRING IT UP?!?!” Like you could see he and Emma were genuinely upset at that behavior and they’re just the hosts. Plus, when the chill friend in the group has an outburst to call you out, you KNOW you’ve fucked up.

[@nicoleh1680]

You explain everything so well! I picked up All Sam's nonsense. His excessive concern on having His needs met no matter who is on the other side of that wall. It was so nice to see Jasmine also pick up on what he was saying. And equally sad to see Nicole fall for it. He's just so needy, but he doesn't have anything to offer.

[@dianaa2948]

I’ve never watched love is blind before uk version and I was ultimately surprised at the level of maturity and vulnerability of some of contestants. It was so refreshing to see! Absolutely loved that☺️

[@madgiemadgie9128]

It’s the first time the UK has had Love is Blind.

[@terrijones693]

I have been waiting for this!!! Your professional perspective is top tier!

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you, Terri!! It’s good to see your name again!

[@meganking5504]

Would love your thoughts on Jasmine and her mother's dynamic in a future video!

[@ABC-gt4rd]

oh yeah, that was heavy!

[@dianas.5351]

Oh yes, please! I think this would be valuable for so many people.

[@annamargarettalcantara7550]

Jasmine’s respect for her mom is so amazing to see. Her mom tries to be too meddlesome and uses “I’m protective” as cover for boundary breaking. Jasmine’s level of maturity is so refreshing! She is able to put her mom in place without being disrespectful.

[@Celinah]

​@annamargarettalcantara7550her mom și fucked up and controlling. Not a healthy relationship

[@MissHunnii]

Cant wait for this too!

[@HirakoKuyo]

I love how diplomatic the title is and then you very professionally tear him a new one.

[@nenjaboots]

Also here for the healthy connections! Can we get a reality show that specifically aims for that, lol? My dream would be for them to have couples therapists who work with them throughout to help repair ruptures, clarify when couples are misaligned, etc. I was happy to see more healthy communication from this show than from other seasons I’ve seen.

[@StephAnya]

I would LOVE that!

[@OctPumpkin22]

Love on the spectrum actually does this!! It’s amazing! And there’s a lot to learn from even if you’re neurotypical

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

that would actually be amazing !! what a great idea

[@alnsubuga]

I think having more people in their 30’s was such a good move for the UK series precisely for this reason. People tend to have had more lived experiences and know themselves a bit better.

[@cvpete]

I'd highly recommend UK Married at First Sight first couple of seasons before everything became reality high production drama.

[@effiesackey1401]

This is the best love is blind.I prefer this to the American one. The maturity and genuineness of the contestants and their families was truly remarkable.

[@Splat-25]

I'd love to hear her take on why that is tbh. I'm a Brit and I have to agree. I consume a lot of American media and notice a stark difference between the maturity and emotional maturity between the 2 countries... genuinely curious if it's a real difference.

[@Galactic_rats]

I think it’s because it’s the first series. Look at MAFS the early uk seasons were genuine people but over time it’s now wanna be influencers and people who have had minor acting roles looking for there break. Which has ruined it imo.

[@izzehhhhh]

it's because most everyone was over 30 with a few late 20s as an exception. much more emotional maturity and mentally ready (hopefully) to find a partner for marriage. much of the US cast is mid twenties and are obsessed with the idea of marriage, when they barely know themselves enough to make a marriage successful.

[@NickyM_0]

@@Galactic_rats Also, they were older ie 30s and professionals, as opposed to 20s.

[@Splat-25]

@Galactic_rats very good point. It's possibly attracting the wrong types. But we watch all of the US seasons here so I doubt the UK contestants didn't know about the show..

[@cvpete]

I loved the relationships between the 'pod squads' themselves too. After the toxicity of the Micha Irina season of US it was so refreshing. Like Ollie's birthday, Demi's love for all the girls (even after Cat's nonsense) and the wsy they console eachother after bad dates. 10/10 UK. Felt very proud to be English 😂😂😂

[@butterbeantv]

Your assessment of Sam was 💯. You talked about so many points that others have not been able to express, and I think it is important to have this information out there. Hopefully, this experience will make Sam a better person.

[@sydneyvictoria1902]

YAY!! When I finished the season, I immediately looked on this channel to see if you posted a video on it! My prayers have been answered 😭🙌🏻

[@selcatron]

I know it probably feels annoying to remind us to like, comment and subscribe but- I am more likely to comment with someone who I think has a horrible take and I realized that is depriving my favorite channels of deserved engagement. I have been working on that myself and the reminders make a difference at least for me to make sure I do all of the important engagement-y things to help your channel. Love your videos so much!

[@StephAnya]

Aw I really appreciate you!!

[@regularity2556]

Looking forward to your Beniah video. Hes my favorite from the season, love him and Nicole

[@gattolechat]

I can really admire how you approach these situations with such empathy and grace. I absolutely love watching your analyses, even as someone who doesn't watch the show, and am excited to see the rest of them come out!

[@Heychula]

I definitely thought yikessss when he came out and asked what she thought of him. That was the end to any potential chemistry for them 😬

[@katrinechristensen3429]

I need a video about Freddie! Truly the most amazing and wholesome person I’ve ever seen on TV

[@catherlytica]

Sam assumes the same severe insecurities in the women (that HE has) and "reassures" them for everything HE needs reassuring about. Everything he says is... literally... for himself😭 Great video again! Helped me so much with insight for my next analysis on Sam❤

[@marianazaragoza5559]

The biggest reason I've would ever consider going on a reality show of any kind would be for the chance to get my actions and interactions psychoanalyzed by Steph, I feel it would be such a revealing experience that would lead to such high quality introspection. 😭💖

[@arielatiti]

Sorry for the spanish: pero no me pierdo un video tuyo, estaba pensando que ojala sacaras de esta temporada, aprendo MUCHISIMO!

[@lupe1808]

I loved this season it was so much more wholesome and fresh feeling . I agree Sam gave off very insecure energy. I kind of felt bad for him until he started trying to make it seem like he was the one who called off the engagement . It was very icky in my opinion. I hope he gets some help overcoming his insecurities.

[@amyspeers8012]

My husband and really enjoyed this season. We also felt the ages of the people made a difference. And…we both said some the things you said about Sam! We agree it was NOT a bad edit.

[@ararhanaa]

I actually really want you to know how much i appreciate you and your channel, i started watching your videos about a year ago and i truly feel like it helped me improve my skills in seeing patterns (in others and in myself) and paying attention to details that are very informative. Thank you for all the work you put into this ❤

[@Out_on_a_Limb_Life]

I'm so happy to see you doing these videos of LIB UK! I loved all the vids about the US series and now as a Brit I was super psyched to see the series come to the UK. I felt sorry for Sam at the reunion - no-one deserves the bashing the internet hands out when someone is perceived as a villain - but you've reminded of so many details of why I disliked him throughout the show that I'd forgotten. He's a very insecure man who comes across as very self absorbed. Nicole had a very lucky escape! I was a bit staggered when she chose him in the first place, but Ben definately blew it in that one episode when Nicole was trying to find out how he felt about her. Very happy he got his second chance!

[@cvpete]

Didn't feel sorry for him(although I get what you mean, like these are real people not characters) but as a fellow Brit was equally stoked! How did you feel about Emma and Matt as hosts?

[@Out_on_a_Limb_Life]

@@cvpete I like them & much prefer them to the US hosts, tbh.

[@makaylaloveless8058]

Never waited before the premiere of a video but that is just how excited I am!😃

[@xaymaradelmarr]

i love the way your mind works. You are clear, you are positive, you tie it back to the information you know or researched. I love shows like this because it is entertaining and you can learn something from it. & i love to dig deeper, thank you for your videos!💗

[@julieblack5200]

Yay i am so excited for this 🎉 i look more forward to your breakdowns then i do with watching the actual show lol

[@Meisa64]

Loved this review. I felt that he definitely needed to love himself a lot more. He seemed very into himself more than the person he was trying to find. I agree, I hope he takes this opportunity to look within himself.

[@lunar8949]

7:41 is so funny to me, cuz your aunty came all the way out 🤣🤣🤣. Thanks for the video, it was amazing as always 🙌🏾

[@Stormy575]

Also just want to point out that when Sam was talking to Nicole he kept daying that she wanted to "be physical" with him. That could mean anything. It was only with Benaiah that he said "sleep with". I think he was twisting the narrative to make it look different than it was.

[@anneplemons]

Nailed this one!! (As usual) literally so excited when you cover these, I wait for them for months 😂 Jasmine had such good intuition about him!

[@WilliamsPinch]

You’re back in the pop-culture bubble! Your Love Is Blind analyses were truly missed. 🫶🏼

[@StephAnya]

It's good to be back! Thanks for being patient♥️

[@ginakingdom722]

​@StephAnya I'm checking the page every day this week because I need to see the couple breakdowns for this season

[@TheWeezieW]

Bravo! Thanks for this video and I'm SO LOOKING FORWARD TO MORE! Hopefully, you'll do Freddie and Catherine? I felt like this was BY FAR (due to edits?) one of THE BEST SEASONS OF LOVE IS BLIND! Blessings.

[@biancavasileva9803]

To the question of why closure needs to happen in "the real world", my assumption would be that it's very heavily producer influenced/pushed, because they know it will lead to more drama and viewership.

[@diymama8657]

What I was going to say 😅

[@ashleyw.6702]

They need to meet in person for closure... and for the drama, Dr. Anya!😆🤣

[@StephAnya]

Exactly. 😭

[@QueenyKay]

Nah. You need closure when there is love. This was manipulation and Nicole now that she saw it with her own eyes doesn't need more of it in her life. She is happy with her husband. Sam needs to be left in the past. I hate that they bring his name every time they talk about Nicole and Ben's story.

[@KellyGuenther]

Highly recommend LIB Japan and Norway just for your enjoyment. The cultural differences in their values and approach are really interesting. They also have a broader age group of contestants.

[@MallyRandom]

Do you mean Sweden? I don’t think we have one in Norway yet 😅

[@etherealgalaxies6]

​@@MallyRandomyes she meant Sweden. A Norway would be awesome though.

[@lcicada]

Also Germany 🇩🇪 ❤

[@nikkistephens427]

As someone who works with women who experienced domestic abuse, I was more interested in what made Nicole choose Sam EVEN AFTER she got the rundown from Jasmine. He was so self-absorbed and insecure. It was super interesting to me how she framed those statement as "reassurance" rather than seeing their lack of authenticity. She had the intuition, but she chose not to listen to it. This was definitely a good example of a relationship that could have ended up as very abusive

[@PaperMario64]

I personally think she’s a very nurturing person and he’s so whiny and needy that she felt protective of him and chose him because out of sympathy.

[@TheDeelishus1]

I can’t wait for your take on Demi

[@no.6377]

Something that irked me was when he saw Nicole and said something along the lines of " _I_ think she's attractive, and I don't care what anyone else thinks"....implying that other people wouldn't??? That in combination with his 'joke' about her having "boring brown" eyes was just skin crawling. The worst was when he kept going on about "nice guys like me finish last". Ew. Just no. He was so self obssessed😥😥

[@chloeamedee341]

As soon as I started watching this season I prayed you’d make videos about it! Whoohooo😄 I can’t wait for the rest.

[@Kirastar244]

The fact that Jasmine is a mental health nurse and clocked Sam spoke volumes.

[@AS-zz2ke]

I just... he talked about himself SO MUCH. He didn't care about the women across from him at all, just that he'd be able to "claim" one. And even though he only talked about himself, he said a whole lot of nothing. I hate people who take up so much conversation time and yet don't reveal anything real about themselves. His answers almost seemed rehearsed.

[@dgthebee]

His anger after Jasmine dumped him seemed like acting right? Performative. I think it wasn’t true rejection from hurt it was rather just embarrassment.

[@cvpete]

So right re just talking so much nothing. Do you remember the part where Jasmine asked him to describe what he'd want his legacy to be looking as an old man. My word.

[@AS-zz2ke]

@cvpete Thought that was the biggest red flag! The question was obviously meant to coax some sort of cherished memory out of him but he used it to gloat and to be pompous? So freaking weird.

[@byebicycle]

You should definitely check out Love is Blind Japan. I think you'll really enjoy that one.

[@Anna-bo5dk]

i loved that one

[@DonnaGene-z7s]

Sam comes across as someone who very much centers himself and his feelings in dating and his relationships. I wonder if many of us would come to that realization as well if we were in this broadcasted situation. I hope to be more mindful of that moving forward, and to be consistent with it because this show and seeing Sam really taught me about what that can look like.

[@ginasl]

I loved the way you explained and unfolded everything. There is no mystery that we all cringed Sam and there were so many things he said that I was in shock but couldnt really give a proper explanation behind that and why he cannot be trusted,but I loved how you explained everything and compared to others people behaviour inside the show.Super clear and respectdul video.Loved it!

[@Crystal0139]

I love this season also and I’m so glad you’re going to be doing breakdowns! So excited for it. Also I agree with everything you said about Sam

[@prettygirl_danie]

(my first time catching you live btw 🤩) Really enjoyed this breakdown and looking forward to the rest individual as well as possible couple videos if that's what's in store.

[@yes_sir2035]

i’ve been patiently waiting for you to review this season!!! on an unrelated note you look stunnninnnggg Steph!

[@Lilly_92]

I am so much looking forward to more videos about Love is Blind UK 😍 Thank you for your work! It´s entertaining and helpful at the same time! 🙏

[@josephineolivares9360]

Thank you for this video! Looking forward to seeing more of these kind of breakdowns.

[@jessiegant1154]

This video has actually made me a better therapist. Thank you SO MUCH for helping me word narcissism

[@Chelzinha97]

I always love yours “love is blind” videos, but this one in particular was my fav! Anxious 4 the ones you’ll talk about each couple. If you’re open to watch editions from outside USA, I recommend so badly the brazilian version, is also soooo goood!!!

[@christineadams3454]

You absolutely hit the nail on the head here . Of the many videos I’ve watched reviewing LIB UK, this is by far my favorite. Nailed it on Sam. Thank you!

[@asterionismo]

ty for the video!! I always look forward to hearing your thoughts on media :) very insightful as always (side note: your earrings are soo cute)

[@manuelakuchta7093]

This was one of the best breakdowns ever! ❤ Please don't wait too long to post and analyze other LIB UK cast members.

[@CelinaQ]

I love the The Love is Blind seasons from countries other than the US. They show a bit of the cultural differences and similarities in romantic relationships. I've watched Japan, the UK, and Sweden and highly recommend them. Would love to hear your takes on those seasons as well, Steph. 🙂

[@IceIceIfe]

Absolutely love your break downs Steph! You make watching love is blind even more enjoyable and a teachable moment. Lots of love from London xx

[@LinaRoberts101]

I loved this season too!!! But I do need to know your thoughts on the fact that at the reunion Nicole said that Sam lied about trying to sleep with him and he just passively apologized. To me it makes it even worst that he lied about that while trying to throw her under the bus 😢

[@egcarswell]

So glad you're back to posting vids on LIB! 🙌🏾😁 Sam was definitely the kind of person that ruins the experiment for everyone--unhealed to the max, insecure, self-absorbed, superficial, not ready for healthy love by any means. I was relieved when Nicole came to her senses and hit bricks✌🏾.

[@ec8751]

It was so interesting to see Jasmin listening to her gut, a good think to learn I think! Also Thanks for putting into word the feelings we had watching Sam, such a cool way to better understand our own gut feeling!

[@HesebelSuarez]

14:32 not Sam and and Ben literally being the red and green flags😂 accurate

[@julia_studies]

Hi! Love your videos! I recently watched Unreal on Netflix-it’s a tv show about the producers of a bachelor-coded reality show. As someone that would never sit down to watch reality tv but loves your and Kennie’s video breakdowns, I would love to hear your takes on the show!

[@ninjad2074]

Thank you so much for breaking things down, you actually help me to repair things in my own relationship wth these analysis episodes 🙈. So, you mentioned to add an opinion in the comments about "closure". I think, perhaps, it's uncertainty. When they reach a point in their fast-tracked fantasy that is more - coming down from the clouds - realistic, they may question if they've made the right decision or not. It seems more like they want to see if that door, or window, is still open with previous connections they've made (a safety net, maybe). That's just my opinion, because I agree with you, the closure should be done and overwith in the pods. They made the decision to be ***engaged to be married*** to someone else and commit to that. I'm just not entirely sure that some individuals on the experiment are taking it very seriously, as you said it is reality so take from it what you will lol this is also why I find the show so captivating in the first place. Those couples that actually make it through everything- cameras in your private lives following you every bloody where, work, distance, temptations, planning the happiest day of their lives in one month... I find that so brave.

[@evangelinem.8989]

I love both the connections and the drama. Although, I wish we could have seen more about the other contestants, especially the friendships that sprouted in the lounges, aside from the drama

[@wanjanjama]

I loved the points you brought up! I picked up on those things as well. There's something about the way he presented himself on the show that to me, reminded me of Sam from The Bachelorette (Jenn's season). They hyperfocused on one element and what the women could do for them, and when confronted with the rejection, went on to say things that showcased their hurt and abandonment issues, and performative self-reflection presently. It also emphasized that they wanted love from anyone, and they didn't really know the people they had professed their "love" to. There are a lot of parallels that can be drawn from their behaviors on the show, during filming and now (during the reunions - for The Bachelorette, I'm referencing the men-tell-all episode).

[@alyssacaitlyn1]

I love your videos on this series. I was not going to watch the UK version because I don’t have easy access to Netflix anymore. But once I saw you post this, I found a way to watch the show and binged it JUST so I could watch your video on it 😂❤

[@StephAnya]

🥹 aw I appreciate you so much for that

[@Jaquelines_journey]

Definitely as a whole loved this season too. Thank you for doing this! The part where she’s nodding no as she said yes was so crazy to me. Sam definitely came off insecure and like a grown 15yr trying to act like a man. We forget majority of men mature a lot later than women.

[@cvpete]

I'm in it for the love connections too. This UK season was gorgeous for the most part felt like season 1 US. I was getting Hamilton vibes throughout!

[@nevswain478]

What i learned from the enchange between beniah and sam is that beniah is EXTREMLY secure. I don't think i would have reacted as well as Benniah in that situation.. I would definitely have questioned nicole on that issue.

[@cassyvjlee5925]

And in the reunion it turned out the Sam lied about the whole thing. Benniah’s security is sexy, just super attractive

[@nevswain478]

@@cassyvjlee5925 tbh the reunion didn't show that to me. all it showed was Sam was over it and decided it would be better to take the fall than fight every detail.. i wouldn't put it past Nicole to have asked to have sex and him turn her down. That's the person she seems to be. Hence why she chose Sam.. I would never have been her second choice the way ben allowed..

[@janeenerbaneener]

I've been waiting for you to dissect LIB UK. Definitely nailed it/Sam, as expected. I really appreciate your perspective!

[@jumoretti1984]

Loved the review! Perfectly assertive as always!!! And poor Sam! 🥺

[@Ilovethetea]

Love the professional shade ☂️

[@glabella2331]

Wonderful video! I feel more compassion and understanding for the participants after watching your vids.

[@NiMimu]

Wow!....what an analysis!.... the breakdown and detail are are super insightful. Thank you!

[@QueenyKay]

Sam took this experiment as a game. I'm not even sure he was looking for love. I will make a bold statement and say he was looking for fame. Nicole said that after Benaiah spoke to her about Sam she still had doubts about his intentions so she told him she didn't wanna go to Greece but instead focus on their relationship outside of the cameras and Sam didn't take it kindly. That tells me everything I need to know about his intentions.

[@ddc1986]

I really love your take with these style shows. Thank you for this content

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching ♥️

[@Neo-wy2oc]

My excitement!!!! Was hoping you’d make these for UK!!!!!

[@stacy2766]

Totally love the UK version. Agreed with all your points.

[@chiomaagu8184]

As a fellow clinician I utterly enjoy your analysis of this show

[@rachelherrmann2011]

I can’t wait to see you do the couples!!

[@Mari_PL]

So excited for the next episode!!

[@Saure55]

Love your name, it means crowned one. Great assessment of Sam. I agree. I would love for you to break down Benaiah. I think so many people run or shut down when something so great happens to them. It’s that trauma response.

[@joandawkins112]

Thank you for your insight. I agree with your perspective. When I watch other therapist breakdowns that blame the edit I can’t get pass the fact that these are words that came out of Sam gob as the British would say.

[@Kakarott2023]

Pls pls pls so love is blind mexico! Its is even wilder😮

[@observer5864]

Sam was awful... but it will be psychologically painful for him to truly acknowledge that

[@erikal1593]

Your hair is gorgeous!!

[@andianderson3017]

I think they often need an in person conversation for closure because they just did not have enough time. Most people do not work on that short of a time line, no matter how much they want to. So these people are proposing before they’re really capable of full commitment and they’re seeing their life flash in front of their eyes at committing not because they didn’t see the person, but because they did it so darn fast. It makes sense to me. Jasmine was a rare bird who was capable of the commitment she made when she made it.

[@markkunath8440]

Sam seemed like a puppy who has been mistreated. Wants to be loved 😍 but really insecure about what they have to bring to the relationship. Jasmine is really cool - Bobby is her man ❤️

[@no.6377]

Ah yes, that's why he 'jokingly' called Nicole's eyes "boring brown", kept referring to himself as a "boy" and kept on going with his woe is me act.

[@libbyt3550]

yesss have been waiting for this video !!!

[@cristinalee3138]

Girl they’re in the pods for 10 DAYS