Her Boyfriend Left For A YOUNGER WOMAN! I Steve Harvey

[@MyWayWendy]

"Never assume that someone likes you by their sweetness, Sometimes you're just an option when they're bored" Quotes.

[@aliciastewart3037]

PREACH!

[@cprissy]

ouch but true.

[@zzzroxyzzz]

12 years though, that's a long time to be bored.

[@UrbanAfricano93]

Facts

[@Kim-427]

Here it is! You may know why you’re with someone. You don’t always know why they’re with you. That’s why it’s important to get to know people. And good sex has nothing to do with longevity. That’s why you have to know why they’re there and what’s the intent.

[@magdabadrena2836]

Four months into dating my husband I asked him what his intentions were. I was 23 and he was 28. And I was willing to walk away if his intentions weren’t marriage. We spoke. Six months later he asked me to marry him and we have been married 39 years. He is a spectacular husband and father and I couldn’t ask for more.

[@9to5MillionaireMindset]

Being intentional matters!

[@travguru8]

Exactly. Too many women waste their youth waiting around on a man to decide if "he " wants to get married. There is a timeline and expiration date on everything. If you're dating someone and there's no conversation about taking things to the next level after 6 months, keep it movin. This poor lady was basically hanging around for 12 years for nothing, probably could've met a man when she was younger and gotten married to someone else, sad.

[@angelahall7147]

Congratulations 🎉❤🎉

[@PatriciaGrady-tl5qh]

That's awesome you are a great example for young women. ❤💯🙏

[@normathompson5743]

CONGRATULATIONS 🎊

[@esau5530]

I used to work with a girl, her boyfriend didn’t respect her, treated her like a doormat, he had a bad temper, screamed at her, she was my kids age and she asked my advice what should she do, because he promised her marriage and he keeps making excuses, I told her to leave him, for one the way he treats her. I told her she will find the right guy and she did, he’s a teacher and she is a teacher assistant, god fearing man and she’s a real nice girl, they got married after 8 months.

[@Simz199x]

Thank you for guiding her 💛✨

[@GoldenLady1007]

He left, let him stay gone. The fact that he had the audacity to ask to come back tells the story. She doesn't need a man, she needs a therapist to help her love herself. 💛

[@centenoj85]

Doesn't matter the age of a person. Some people don't know how to set boundaries in their relationship. She wasted 12 years of her life.

[@finally97]

It's not about loving herself. It's about setting boundaries. She can absolutely love herself and still not know how to set and maintain boundaries. Accepting unwanted behavior does not equal not loving yourself. That's a myth.

[@GoldenLady1007]

@finally97 I disagree. IMHO, when you love YOU, certain behavior is simply unacceptable. Period. Self-love, a serious sense of self-worth sets the boundaries. I am 61 years old and I don't know a lot. However, I do know a little. I know, for me, because of how much I love and respect ME, certain behaviors are unacceptable. This is from my own experience and seeing other people over the years. May you and anyone else reading this ALWAYS be blessed with good health, happiness, love, peace and prosperity. ✨️😊💛

[@carolynlockett8756]

This generation of women want coins. Of course he wanted back because he couldn't afford to foot the bill. He came back to money up and left again. He doesn't like her at all. She's just a place holder for him.

[@kimadiggs237]

Exactly!😢

[@nothgir]

💯 My wife certainly asked me 3 mos into dating, “What are we doing?” She held me accountable and protected her time. She still doesn’t like wasting time, money, and anything.

[@johnballard6725]

Women have to take more responsibility for their physical and emotional safety by setting boundaries and if they are not respected she should show the guy the door.

[@kornaxon3522]

'Listen' to actions, not to words.

[@TheGoodnews7238]

Never double back.. NEVER!!

[@JoyceMarshall-g6h]

Exactly

[@MelchizedekRemnent1]

DO NOT SLEEP WITH THEM BEFORE MARRIAGE YOU'LL FIND OUT HIS INTENTIONS FASTER

[@PartyOf8Please]

Amen!!

[@OneWomanMan888]

How can she find out his intentions if she allowed him to.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

…and take some accountability as well 😬😂

[@elizafelz]

Very true

[@PamBeesly9545]

@@hawaiianrussian1047 yall love throwing out that word when it’s not needed. Vocabulary is like 5 words and one of them is accountability but never applied to yourselves. Men 😂

[@yezmirsheppard-halika6892]

And this sister is BEAUTIFUL! She deserves better. I wish her well.

[@msblessedIAM]

Dont allow him back, people will onlybdo what you allow. 12 years and he didnt marry you. Move on Queen, You deserve better. 12 yrs hes's not planning to marry you

[@lastdragonx]

@@msblessedIAM she aint no queen. She washed up.

[@msblessedIAM]

@@lastdragonx She definitely A Queen.

[@lastdragonx]

@@msblessedIAM Lol queen of what? Getting played?

[@MelchizedekRemnent1]

A man wont stay unless he wants to PERIOD!

[@OneWomanMan888]

If you allowed him to have it, he will be back for more.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

Maybe she gave him a reason to leave and not settle 🤷🏽‍♂️😏😬😂

[@teresaevans4840]

Absolutely!!!!

[@defenderofdecency7218]

12 years? Wow. Hope the 53 year old woman heeds to Steve's advice and makes changes in moving forward with her love life. Good luck

[@tamitatangoto5134]

If you ask me she gave him her BEST YEAR'S. MY best years of my entire life so far was my 40s. I looked the best ever, I felt the best ever. I tell you she gave that away to him and when he felt like she was starting to get old he left her for someone younger. If they had at least been married it might have been a little bit harder for him to walk away, MAYBE.😮

[@defenderofdecency7218]

​@@tamitatangoto5134 Yeah, you are right. I feel sad for her. She looked good for a 53 years old woman though. Guess Blacks don't crack (don't age/wrinkle as fast) as the saying goes. Anyhow, I hope she finds a man who would treat her better.

[@Roda45Crossfit]

I see fear, doubt and low self esteem…love yourself more than you romanticize the idea of being in love. Make room for the one who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.

[@arlenelovelace18]

I am in a new dating relationship with a chivalrous man. He makes sure I am not walking close to the street, opening car doors, building doors, always having me enter first, etc… and I make sure to acknowledge this. A soft stroke of my hand against his cheek, a sugar smack on the lips, a smile, a wink, a squeeze of his hand, a blown kiss or I tell him how sweet he is. It is so simple to express gratitude to him for who he is and how he treats me. After a few toads, I think I’ve finally found my Prince. Ladies, if you have a gem like this, please express your appreciation. For the ladies still looking; don’t give up, chivalry is not dead, but it is a rare gem. He and I are both 63 yrs old, but we act like teenagers. And for the younger ladies with kids at home, it’s never too late to teach your sons this gift, and never too late to teach your daughters to expect it and appreciate it.

[@msblessedIAM]

Social media will ruin your relationship / marriage.

[@UrbanAfricano93]

No it won't

[@TraciGoodskyP]

Sure do frfr uughhh 😢

[@koolsmoothfan]

preach, and jealous friends lol

[@redgurl60]

Don't ever let someone occupy that much of your time without getting what you want out of the deal.

[@MerelynMontheith]

Women we need to value our selves people will treat you the way you allowed them to.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

…huh? We live in the generation with the most conceited ass women walking round whatchu talking about ? You mean women need to take accountability and stop blaming every other adult but themselves 😬😂

[@Qvotes]

I remember I told my partner (cause we've been good friends before we got attracted to each other) that we'll date temporarily for a year to see if our feelings are fleeting; if there are differences too great to say it won't work then after that, we decide if we'll continue or not. Bless his heart, it wasn't even on 10th month, he proposed.

[@PurePosey44]

Don’t wait on him! Move on with your life! Why are you allowing him to decide for you how your life is going to go??!!

[@flutterbyenthusia]

That's what I did. I told my (then) boyfriend "if we are not engaged in one year from now, I'm moving out of this town." I had moved TO the town for school, met him, and didn't like the town or the school, but I loved HIM. 1 year later we were married. We've been married 13 years now, and will always be.

[@johnballard6725]

You did right but could have said we get engaged in 6 months or we are through?

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

I have no desire at 47 to be a girlfriend at this age

[@BlessedToATee]

Whew Chile, Tell me about it!

[@kfmeighty9]

How about a 54 year old living in a house but sleeping in different rooms for 10 years with a man as a girlfriend and step mom of his kid.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

40+ year old women who are seeking serious relationships are not desirable for marriage and motherhood for virtually ALL good quality men!!

[@fashion1198]

😂 because you know every man. I am African American and got married to a black Cardiologist at the age of 44. Oh and let me add that I was a single mom to a young adult. Btw this woman never said she wanted to get married. A lot of women are opting out of marriage and dating all together. And before I sign off stats show that you all don’t marry women at any age hence the reason most women in our community no matter the socioeconomic status have babies out of wedlock…I forgot to add moms of biracial kids are quickly joining this group…….

[@darnellrhodes6174]

@@fashion1198 You speaking as though old middle aged women have leverage when it comes to relationships with men. WRONG 😑 old women are broken, tainted, many come with baggage, damage, drama and trauma from failed relationships and life experiences. So, good quality men aren’t checking for those women anyway!!

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

I AINT SLEEPING WITH NOBODY BEFORE MARRIAGE BEEN THERE DONE THAT COME CORRECT OR DONT COME AT ALL

[@tjaspire]

Right. If you're not sleeping with him, ain't no "girlfriend of 12 years." He'll make his mind up REAL quick if wants to be with you, or just waste your time.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

Unfortunately, many women give their virginity/wombs away prior to marriage and expect good quality men to accept that!! Nope!! 👎🏾

[@johnballard6725]

You are right!

[@OneWomanMan888]

If the man wants you, he will do what a man suppose to do, married to you and you should have grown up kids by now.

[@teresakelton8286]

Run! Don’t take him back!

[@haitiqueen0119]

The honest truth is majority dont want anything serious in this era so dont be so quick to blame yourself for failed relationships. The fact that dating apps and social media is easily accessible makes relationships more of a challenge to grow and puts even more people at risk of catching STIs. Dating in this generation has become very risky, be careful all!

[@bradleycampbell245]

She needs to hold herself accountable and let that man go. 12 years of being a girlfriend while not having any requirements is insane

[@thewise2443]

I needed this… don’t even get me started on this ! Some guys just want you for convenience, let him go !!

[@INeverLoseAlvin]

Poor woman nobody should go through that

[@johnballard6725]

She should have set a boundary after 1 year - we get engaged in 6 months or we are done.

[@zinachristie8052]

Amen if a man loves you. Great answer!

[@ChantelWhitley-rs3uu]

The first lady in the red blouse and the weave is a beautiful dark lady I hope you find someone who is genuine..

[@lisaanneaster3095]

He didn't marry you in 12 years??? You should have left LOOOOOOOONG ago

[@travguru8]

Thank you! She should've been left if after 6 months or a year, they weren't married. Wasted over a decade of her life!!

[@EdelweisSusie]

I hope the first woman moved on from that dimwit who kept her stuck for 12 years. I made the same mistake ie just let the relationship drift without any ‘requirements’ or boundaries and when I did finally ask what what was going on with him he abandoned me (I think he went back to his wife for financial reasons). 4 years of my life I can’t get back and my trust in men destroyed, all because I was too scared to voice my concerns.

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

20. 30. But after 40. NO TIME TO WASTE!! ❤

[@shan9479]

I just received an engagement ring 1 year and 0 days in my current relationship.

[@HAMZAPINE]

I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

[@Somusicais]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@DamsonIdris-rh6sx]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@Somusicais]

Is he on instagram?

[@AnneRodrigo-fz6ks]

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

[@AfkAliaga]

Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?

[@MaryRodgers-v4d]

If a man leaves you for a younger woman after 12 years. He is a man you do not want. I do not believe she took him back. He was going to leave again. Steve was just being nice. He could tell her what he really thought. He was just there for the convenience. I hope she find someone. We must respect ourselves. ❤❤

[@realmommee8093]

Hope she’s in better place. She seems so sweet and pitiful at same time. Love self first.

[@TheRichardMorse]

She was with him for 12 years and they never got married says it all

[@MelchizedekRemnent1]

My ex husband promised me a to go on a Cruize Ship. My So called Best Friend stole him away from me and now they broke up he been through a bunch of woman since I been staying by myself. Heck with men. Im Happy

[@Apocol]

Should of paid a visit to your “friend “

[@reahleneroberts7791]

She wasn’t no friend only why hanging around with you let have him she see gonna do same to her

[@kimhunter2532]

Your so-called Best Friend did you a favor.

[@kimhunter2532]

53? I was dumb like that. Then I smartened up. Wake up ladies

[@billspike2723]

Why didn't you to depend the cruise

[@tiffanywarfield9375]

"What 53 yr old woman needs a boyfriend?" 😮😢

[@tyecampbell1762]

Some people dont want to get married and age has nothing to do with it!

[@OneWomanMan888]

​@@tyecampbell1762Did you watch the video.

[@shema02]

@@OneWomanMan888 😂😂

[@tiffanywarfield9375]

@@tyecampbell1762 I posted that "particular" quote for a purpose and reason.... Did you watch the entire MESSAGE ?

[@reahleneroberts7791]

@@tyecampbell1762 my uncle did when he died left her looking with a lot money but she only want him back

[@CherylJackson-yo5qu]

He doesn't want her.12years, !!.

[@deborahwilliamson5655]

You should NOT have let him back into your life!!! He showed you that he had zero respect for you the first time. Mind you, I had to learn many lessons the hard way also. Highly-educated about men now!!!

[@debbieechiribel1860]

I was w my ex 24 years, took him back 3 times, the same story as this woman in the red dress. Like Steve Harvey has said "never look back thru your rear view mirror"

[@Ghostbusters341]

Focus on yourself, hun, and watch your life bloom like a field of 🌼 #SelfLoveIsKey #MeMyselfAndI #LivingMyBestLife #SelfCareSunday #FulfillmentGoals #HappinessIsKey #LoveYourselfFirst .

[@StanTheBrand]

6 months is not a long time. Get to know a person, go through some cycles(holidays, birthdays, etc.) and get to know a person. Quit going to celebrities for advice on life.

[@msblessedIAM]

Men love calling womwn insecure when they tell them about liking others women pictures.

[@hellosunshine3304]

Don't give wife benefits to a "boyfriend".

[@jonathanfactor6688]

Great video thanks

[@ForMySoulSistas]

↪️Not only did you leave once after 12 years for a younger woman but you came back and had the same inconsistent behavior ↪️Set the standards in the very beginning ↪️It sounds like she's still hopeful for that relationship...When ppl show us who they are: believe them.

[@rashardstallworth209]

You have no idea why he left. You can’t just assume that he’s the problem.

[@palmiduby1561]

I Would have never left him back in heck nah.

[@ForMySoulSistas]

@@palmiduby1561 💯

[@BigDaddy_BHJ1977]

Maybe she needs to ask herself am I the problem.

[@BlaqueRose23]

Doing so will DEFINITELY help!

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

Exactly!!!

[@ayalibra]

I agree. And heal herself before she moves onto another relationship

[@josp7502]

Many people in general & women in particular don't know this question.

[@tamitatangoto5134]

I'm a woman, but I'm getting older, a little bit wiser and more mature, and I have to agree with you, A woman has to ask herself, with all sincerity, AM I THE PROBLEM? Oftentimes the answer will be YES; YES SHE IS!!

[@sinavaitululeupolu1455]

Girl u deserve better. Let him go

[@christinespiers-wy9kr]

If he walked out, then she needs to walk out! My husband and I have been married for 55 years. We are very Blessed.

[@veeli626]

I dont Usually agree with Steve but he's 100% Correct, men will do what you allow them to do.

[@johnballard6725]

I think Steve gives pretty good relationship advice especially to black women.

[@delmahnori1582]

Man always love the look of woman. Some may look for true love. Never marry a man you don't know his going out and his coming in. Know a man background before taking another step. Sometime love can blind a woman to make wrong decision without realising it. True love is all about honest, trust, patient, kindness, never jealous, never envy, never agressive. That is true love.

[@Athenaforever2308]

A lot of these comments make sense....hope this lovely lady reads them. And never dates a guy for 12 years ...with no ring on her fingers!

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

Chivalry is not dead

[@Chrissanthumum]

I felt that woman's pain with the disappointment from her partner.

[@rachelmm05]

For the 1st lady- she was in her late 30s when they 1st met. At her age if they weren't talking commitment, marriage, and a future within 6mth to 1 yr then that should've been strike 1... Then to waste your 40s on him, strike 2, then he leave for a younger women had fun with her then wants to come come? Nah Strike 3.. Ladies stop giving full wife privileges to boyfriends. Some guys will happily lay up with you, have you treat them as a husband yet refuse to man up. It may hurt but in order to sever all ties and heal you have to cut them off completely. I'm talking no text, phone calls, emails, special visits(sexual and non-sexual), keeping pictures/videos, social media following, accepting of gifts or anything to keep them in your life... Toxic, unsable an inconsistent relationships will last forever until you change things

[@user-es5jq6yy9l]

How to do no contact if you got kids with them already

[@Favoritedahmi]

The true of the matter is once a man meet you, he already knows what he want. But if he said nothing from 6 months till 1 years, sis ask him what are his intentions if he is not sure, let him go sbd move on. 12 years for what?

[@rossanalombardo6271]

She dodged a bullet....Break up's are easier than a divorce...............

[@angelus0975]

I learnt GCC Gentlemen Code of Conduct long before I was married. Married 15 years now. I still practice it.

[@emmahwonder9161]

Love yourself first..

[@MightwonamofGod123]

That man came dancing down them steps like ELLEN 😂😂😂

[@hicksa1]

Once he put his super soaker into another pool, you could never come back, I would not be able to get that visual out of my head.

[@bobbiejackson732]

Thank u Steve

[@nightlady2001]

I say, sounds like the trash done took itself out. Good

[@nyd2021]

ACTIONS.

[@ezarra6347]

Love is deep... the sacrifices is the tests... the one success is truely blessed and the one failure just assume God has the better than that for you... whatever it is, dont put yourself into negative alchohol, drugs, suicides etc, all u need is allow the time to prepare u for the new version of you to go front, to prove that u are valuable on its own...

[@JamesGreenier]

Women in this situation passed on 99% of the men who wanted them because they were too “nice” and marriage-minded. Don’t make that mistake.

[@palmiduby1561]

oop- lol

[@PamBeesly9545]

You don’t know anything about this women or 99% of women😂 you must get rejected a lot

[@Josie3387]

How would you know if you're not a nice guy yourself?

[@Ali.electra]

@@Josie3387these types of guys are always the ones that end up being the scariest bc they have a vendetta against women 😭

[@Josie3387]

@@Ali.electraYou're right. Self proclaimed nice guys are unhinged and worst than the bad boys they cry women chase after.

[@sandraivo4206]

My partner left after 11 years I could not have children, biological, he got a baby soon after. I was 43 today am almost 50 in few months, still alone. I promissed myself to do the best for me. The good man will come, I hope❤️.

[@KimberlyEder-uw7te]

Steve is giving good advice that their parents should teach them.

[@johnballard6725]

I think many black women haven't been taught how to behave in relationships perhaps coming from a single mom home ?

[@luganoessom1464]

"She probably watching" 😂😂 we understand you bro, yeah we got you!😂

[@gloriabaylor882]

They will lie when they need to... 😮

[@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l]

Never stay with a man more than 2 years if you don't see a ring.

[@johnballard6725]

You shouldn't wait that long!

[@beckykaye7414]

Don't answer don't take them back

[@rainacherienne1010]

I don’t agree that women should be asking. Just don’t sleep with them and THEY will be asking you very quickly.

[@travguru8]

Yep, don't play house, don't move in, don't have sex, don't cook for him, none of that, you are Not his wife until after you're married.

[@christinespiers-wy9kr]

When I win the lottery, I’m going to be in Steve’s live audience!

[@positivevibe7346]

Love her top

[@caseynoel2202]

Lady at Beginning: I’m 53 Me: Woman, no you not. You 33. 🥰

[@elmarims8394]

Finally, someone said it. My sentiments exactly.

[@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK]

😮 She been a placeholder 4 12 years. its a woman job to set the standard from Day 1.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

No, its the man who sets the standards for relationships!

[@christine8203]

Did she say she was 53? Wow!!! She looks 28, 29! Beautiful lady.

[@bskillshare808]

Exactly Steve. I am not sitting down in any children relationship for so long and talking about boyfriend.. big women don't do boyfriend.

[@tjaspire]

Steve that is not good advice. ATP, there are no more "requirements." He already walked out twice. That's like making a deal with the devil. We don't negotiate with demons. If he leaves, tell him to stay over there and don't come back. Even YOU told us years ago that if a man leaves, he's leaving to be with another woman. There's nothing appealing about Community D. A man like that will lead a woman to poverty, AND hell. He has no self-control.

[@SaggiesWorld]

The had a trauma bond. She doesn't know her worth. She TAUGHT that man that she will always be waiting for him. He only came back at this point because he looking for a "nurse /purse"....He found out quick these young women got requirements too, and taking care of an elderly guy is NOT one of them😂. She needs to heal inner child trauma first of abandonment issues and self love... After she does that, I PROMISE you, she won't want him back. We attract people based on our psychological wounds... We finally LEAVE when one decides to heal and thus repel each other because you are no longer a vibrational match to that person. You can only love someone to the extent that you love yourself.

[@SaggiesWorld]

@clearsky4003 She should've left 11.5 years ago... Women gotta stop allowing men to determine when it's time for a commitment... She overstayed

[@MrBeautiful2908]

I asked my wife to marry me six months after we met. We married six months later.

[@AkireMaru]

Tale as old as time, true as it can be…

[@A_Notes]

One thing I disagreed with red pill and manosphere sectors on Steve Harvey was he never held women accountable and always painted to their feelings. I used to watch his talk show and he did Pander at times to women, there was also times he called women out on their BS. This video was one of many instances in which he told women the problem is not the man it's you

[@PamBeesly9545]

It’s wrong to use someone, waste their time, cheat, and try to come back to use them. If you don’t wanna call that a bad person just because it’s a man that does it, then that says a lot about you

[@johnballard6725]

He's holding this lady accountable surely ?

[@seritawilkins1058]

Ayeeee Jonesboro Ga!!!

[@debbieechiribel1860]

Right! Asked for certain demands, altimadem

[@kashmirirose3733]

As soon as I hear healing proce.....

[@BillWilly-b9w]

I really want to meet this man his a man of advices

[@Latifahgarba]

You have to look within sometimes…. The issue is not with the man but with you

[@esintial]

12 years??😮

[@patriciagurwitz509]

First woman…She’s too old to be settling for these losers. She lacks confidence 🥴

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

It's hard ro stop "liking" pictures?

[@685squad2]

12 years wow😌😌

[@Observer100-cn7gv]

What is wrong with that?

[@IamWorthy_Rita]

U crazy 12 years no marriage,girl he did u a favor,wasted time,energy and years! Wow gave him ur best years and now ur looking for love,unbelievable! shame on you for allowing him to string u along!

[@annpinheiro2918]

Please let him go you could have dodged a bullet...only God knows you not you

[@danielalovejesus7912]

I like the question on the first date: Are you looking for somebody to marry or is a long-lasting relationship enough? I am looking for sb to marry. Full stop.

[@imberrysandy]

She looks amazing for 53!