Steve Harvey - Should a wife take her husband's last name?

[@mericawillis2338]

Steve's facial expressions make my day every time

[@XxArjaypheonixxX]

They don't have the same values

[@larryhopehum721]

this two are NOT compatible

[@hirry.p]

Definitely not compatible.

[@o.m.7728]

Dr. Phil and Steve Harvey look so simliar to me LOL

[@keiramotoki5071]

'what can I do today to make MY marriage better?' Whoa Whoa Dr.Phil shouldn't it be 'what can I do today to make OUR marriage better?'

[@ShanteeHaynesRealtor]

simply hyphenating one's name isn't what causes a relationship to be unbalanced. The initial subject was about her last name, yet so much other stuff seems to be an issue. this isn't about a name.

[@Selahsmum]

Seems to me they are t meant for one another. Those are some serious values to be disagreeing on. They need to find soneone with shared values.

[@gracfulgrace]

oh my god, you can see Steve saying " shut up, shut up" with his eyes lol ya this relationship is not going to work and I would be surprised if they were still together now.

[@delmainedonson4791]

What?? dating for a year?? thats nothing

[@21KJH]

Why are these two people together in the first place?

[@HBCUNews]

I would love to see a follow up on this couple. Marriage takes a lot of work.

[@coziamdrealslimshady]

ermm ya i don't think they should get married.. they want different things out of life

[@e_shawilliams599]

I agree with both Dr. Phil and Steve Harvey! They do not need to get married at this time. They both are about themselves. Like Dr. Phil said please do not lie to the man just to get married. I liked his concept on emotional integrity. I am the same way. I told my husband the truth. So many women do this just to get the ring. It is best to be honest and let him decide whether he wants to take it further or go their own seperate ways.

[@theblackknight9783]

These two seem too strong will in the wrong way for this relationship to last.

[@marvalousmarva9539]

Sound advice. Especially the part of Emotional Integrity.

[@e_shawilliams599]

+Marva Barrett I agree on that. I see women lie just to get the ring. They act like they agree with the man and then when they get married they wanna cry saying that they are catching hell. Well they started him with being that way!!! Dont cry now!!

[@DaSauceful]

The bald brothers from other mothers

[@jcspiritfilled]

I'm so glad Dr. Phil caught that the young man kept saying "my"- MY house, MY kids, MY food. Honestly a maid, a nanny, & a chef can take care of all those things for him. She wants a more equal marriage w/ them sharing the responsibility for something they would share together. I see why she is resistant to what he wants because it seems like his plans doesn't include her 50/50 but more of him owning her in a way. I agree with Steve and Dr. Phil, their values don't match enough for them to wed.

[@Sumaiya86]

Steves face- classic LMAO

[@face-in-the-crowd]

My my my that's all I heard

[@LaKeishaDavenport]

Emotional Integrity!!!! Well said Dr. Phil!

[@lovedichoreo1529]

Dr. Phil hit the nail on the head in many ways, by saying that I want you to be home to cook my meals, raise MY kids and clean MY house then you can see that he doesn't see their marriage as a true partnership. This may work beautifully for a woman who wants nothing more than to be a traditional wife however, be cognizant that people change, grow and evolve over time and those needs may change. His comment about "playing independent" as long as you come home and do what I just stipulated would be a source of contention for Brittney in the long run when you consider her specified needs. I agree with Dr. Phil and Steve Harvey

[@SuperBigdude77]

These two should definitely not get married if they do divorce will be a definite in their future. They are way too different.

[@brittanyjimenez5887]

They ain't even together no more. Ask me how I know

[@Mantikia]

Answer how do you know???

[@all2cutie]

The guy wants home cooked food, and a woman who can take care of his kids- and she can work if she wants , he's willing to help out. i dont see dat as a problem

[@prdmd]

I love Steve's face!

[@sha8808]

I don't agree with the marry your daddy comment

[@shanicewebb1727]

My father died when I was about fifteen and he doesn't have any sons and I feel like I should be the one to carry his name.

[@ItsArtisticWonder]

good advice. these "small discussions" will turn into nuclear war if they cant find middle ground that they are both pleased and satisfied with before walking down the aisle. and sometimes you just have to swallow the big pill of admitting "you were a great bf/gf but you wont be a great husband/wife to me"

[@lovedichoreo1529]

Wow, I think Loren has a clear sense of what he wants in a traditional marriage as does Brittney (in a marriage that has a blending of both traditional and non traditional roles) however those needs and desires may not necessarily match up. I honestly feel as though their differences are clearly defined, can these two really compromise on things they feel very strongly about?

[@MrsClasdeArce]

I come from a culture where women do not take their husbands last name. The way it is viewed is that it is not about the name. The persons involved know they are married and act as such and respect each other. Still in many marriages the roles are very defined. Personally I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband and I have a Christian marriage. We are very connected spiritually and although I have asked him about changing my last name or even adding his, he is opposed to it.

[@TRULYBLESSED38]

What I'm hearing is I want this I want that from both of them that's the problem. They're both in a relationship they're supposed to talk these things out together so they can both be happy in the end with what they want. Communication is key if you don't have that then don't waste your time

[@meika858]

that's true. but they already knew how each other was for a year without just now seeing it. people get into relationships thinking it will change a person into being what they need and want. but you already see how they are if you pay attention and stop ignoring the signs, you'll see so much and not waste even a month on an individual because you'll see from jump y'all aren't compatible.

[@ItsMeDWC]

I agree with everything the girl said BUT ... I'm not a fan of hyphenated names.

[@NephritduGrey]

+Dylan Clarke Might depend on the names?

[@defiantlypinki1107]

I don't see why he wants his girlfriend to be purely a housewife. Personally, I want to do it all as a triple threat. When I'm married, I plan on being educated with my PharmD, a cook, cleaner, career woman bringing home 6 figure, wife, adoptive mom, and look good doing it.

[@mauricedenouden4197]

that sounds a little overconfident, i want to be a zookeeper, travel and just have a nice girlfriend, an easy plan, so its good that you're really going for it but dont expect too much or it might be bad later :)

[@menooshamuziki]

+MissSweatpants I I'm married and am a working mom of 2. I can tell you: it's exhausting, not always glamorous. Many times things don't work like you planned. A lot of guilty feelings you have to learn how to ditch to the side in order to remain sane. But yes, it's worth it if that is what you want. Especially when the husband supports that.

[@AshU-ug2fy]

+MissSweatpants Sadly, the others are right, you can';t do it all. Something somewhere is going to fall flat as you try to juggle them all but you aren't focusing on one task. Think of those comedy events on TV where the main character tries to juggle being in two places at once and managing both, it normally goes well for a little while, then ends in disaster. If you are working, who is taking care of the kids? The school? A friend? A family member? By the time you get home you'll be tired, I doubt you'll feel like cooking and cleaning. Take a bit of time to think about these things or it could get messy. Somethings got to give. :/

[@candlecane]

Oh no! THis is a disaster waiting to happen. I can't believe they can't see it. They are so getting divorced, that is if they even make it down the aisle.

[@Hallejoy18]

My family wouldn't be able to survive on one income. We need both my parents income to survive. Bills and food.

[@DrTreSteger]

they make some points. I hyphenate because I was doctor somebody before marriage and established. my maiden name is uncommon and there are no children due to medical issues. Love is what rules here

[@zay7968]

In my culture, we don't take the guy's last name ( the father has that right). Also, we divide the responsibilities.. Men work outside and we work inside, raising the kids and doing house chores.

[@xoangelicaf0523]

why they being so damn complicated.. marriage is also abt compromise and if they couldnt stay at home and figure the last name out then it says alot lol

[@gmannfl2004]

A wife is a partner. She does not have to take her life's partner last name period.

[@saphiredewdrop]

Steve made NO sense on the last name part.

[@vzearchitect]

life is about choices. find a happy common reason to be together with or without the last name change

[@LadyNicBeth]

As a whole they seem not to be compatible, but as for the name I don't think it is a big deal. This might be because I was married at 29 and I had established more than say a 23 year old but I am hyphenated, but our son has my husband's name solely. We are both perfectly content with it. It was not me being disrespectful nor is not being proud of my husband it is simply a name I spent much time developing and crafting, it is my father's name but he and I have no bond. I responded to is last name as easily as someone saying my maiden name. If something as small as a name change is and issue I agree with Steve, staying in the dating zone.

[@pennydimedime]

hmm... neutral woman on the panel perhaps? i think it falls nothing short of ridiculous to expect one adult to compensate for two because of their gender. . . how is gender relevant to having to cook? or having to care for the children more? it's a partnership in my eyes that requires mutual respect and understanding of the other individual. I'd like to keep my name because it's me. I like it. and any issue with that is supremely egotistic.

[@trinity9401]

I like Steve Harvey , and Dr. Phil they both have a good pointers to give to this couple here. I personally think if most newly engaged couples would talk with people that have been in a marriage for more then 10 years ,just before they get married .It could work for them .However not everyone has the same sentiment's on marriage .

[@MackeyDeez]

Bruh ya need to talk to a pimp named Slickback.

[@nonayobizness]

My, my my....He better start saying we we we and our our our. :-)

[@selfexplanitory]

1:22 - 1:25 says enough.....

[@algerierz]

Man this discussion was so brilliant. Its very informative, especially for muslims like me

[@oneinamillian1]

1:23 LMAOO Steve's face

[@9doggie12]

We could do like other cultures and just give you all the names of your ancestors.

[@Stormeris]

Of course, if i ever get married, i'll take my wifes last name, no matter what it would be, cause i hate my current one.

[@trinity9401]

I like Steve Harvey , and Dr. Phil they both have a good pointers to give to this engaged couple here.

[@lovedichoreo1529]

Its almost as if Corey sees their married lives as two separate roles running parallel to one another

[@Slayfire23]

Steve Harvey! WHOOOO!! And Dr. Phil! WHOOAAAAWHOO! YOU BOTH SHOULD HAVE A SHOW TOGETHER! I LOVE YOUR ADVICE AND SENSE OF HUMOR. I JUST HAD TO WATCH THIS TWICE AND NOW IM DEFINITELY SHOWING THIS TO MY BF BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN DATING FOR OVER A YEAR ALSO BUT NOW... NOWWW... WE HAVENT TALKED OF MARRIAGE YET.... BUT THE ADVICE OF YOU'VE GIVEN TO HIM.......ETC....WHOOOO WEEEEEEEEEEEEHHH! I LOVE YOU BOTH!!!

[@hoticeish]

Steve is making some weird facial expressions! haha

[@nonayobizness]

Why do couples not exchange each others' names instead of the woman taking her husband's. s

[@MrsClasdeArce]

Continuing with my previous comment. In the culture that my husband and I come from it is not about carrying a last name but about being committed to each other. I have seen many US marriages where after all is said and done the wife is unfaithful to her husband. So it is not about a name it is about commitment. How sacred are your marriage vows to you? How serious were you when you made them. My husband and I have more than a physical bond, it is a spiritual bond. God is the center of it all.

[@TheNotaryCNA]

She could hyphenate her last name. Its the best of both worlds. Her old and new lives merging together.

[@gkhinduatheist]

It's funny to me when I see women who refuse or hesitate to take their husband's last name before/during marriage, but will not refuse or hesitate to take at least 50% of their husband's past, present and future income in the form alimony and/or child support after divorce. And, even during marriage, they don't hesitate to spend their man's money left, right and center. Women are independent enough to reject their husband's last name, but not independent enough to reject a share of his income!

[@Bwoy99]

Good guidance by Dr. Phil. Brittney is fine

[@anyomokolo]

This thing of woman taking a man's last name is old fashion. To me it follows the same concept of a woman should be submissive to her husband-Submissive in...you know what I mean. So I object it and will never do it. In other words, I will never submit to a man. No! No way! Not by taking his last name or other things....except when I want to submit in the bedroom and bedroom only. I do not submit anywhere else...And certainly not by taking his last name...No! Not in my book! No.

[@Han101able]

LOL WHY STEVE LOOKING LIKE THAT!!

[@aneisa10]

6:40 Steve's wife. So beautiful.

[@mjswifey08]

when Dr. Phil said that she's drop dead gorgeous he shook his head No and according to body language experts that's a sign of lying... just saying.

[@tropicallymixed.]

LOL @ Steve Harvey's faces!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@kimchibey2740]

Yes...next question.

[@suburbia757]

Mustaches.

[@Scarecrow6459]

Sounds like the dude wants a servant lol. Man thinks he's compromising, but he's being bullheaded traditionalistic, backwards thinking.

[@NeoVyEveR]

It should be about them not just my it should be our!

[@kraigthorne]

This is some fantastic advice.

[@martinafraser4932]

iv been dating my man for four years

[@marcellin20a]

in this day and age, a women doesn't need to

[@rdcsawyer]

Steve I'm looking at your face you are a hoot man!

[@zabbok]

I think they can work it out. Nice couple.

[@SuelyPio]

I will use my name and bf name when we get married... We talked about that alot and after many arguments we compromised and he got that i want my dads name to go on and he got that i was not being petty was important to me. :)

[@SuelyPio]

Godfred SG yea... maybe u r right..marriage was never my dream or/and goal... but he would like to marry... I didnt want it for me... we comprised like...i will marry him but i get to keep my father's name. I sound really cold i know, but im not, i really love him but i use to get a thing about marriage.

[@aj7460]

You don't want to marry but you're going to do it anyway because he wants to? Sounds like it will fail since your heart isnt in to it

[@silliman83]

Some men look good bald Steve Harvey is not' one of them

[@WallstreetEvoX]

He can do better.

[@lisabreezy6977]

01:21 - 01:24 :D I luv how he sais "Whoooh" :)

[@Ethereal_Baddie]

Wtf is he a expert on? ...last I checked he was a comedian confused ppl follow any1

[@Ethereal_Baddie]

His opinion is as good as any1s opinions are like assholes we all have them

[@godisgoodjoann]

Love this!!!!!!!!!!!

[@pidouble145]

I wouldn't even like my wife to be "independent". he really needs to bolt from this relationship. Dr. Phil gave excellent advice after he got all the info!

[@chloesipe3795]

yes they should

[@PenguinSlayer]

This dude sounds like Big Sean lol

[@crystalgrose]

BARACK AND MICHELLE OBAMA LOOK ALIKES. WELL... SORT OF :) BARACK ISN'T FOOLISH THOUGH.

[@SoulVernacular23]

And Michelle has Barack last name

[@lisakeyes6515]

drop that weave

[@avacherese]

Preach man preach!

[@jessisawesome7]

Go girl!

[@dgenral7]

Dr. Phil lied he didn't find her pretty...he touch his nose and strached his neck body language

[@RPFPros]

yes

[@urbansuperhero]

This funny Steve. DangerMan

[@brandyburrell392]

Modern Women or not! You take that man's last name and you sport it PROUDLY! I couldn't get my name changed fast enough to my husbands because I'm PROUD to be his wife and i want the WORLD to know yes, I am his wife... that good fine black man right there is mine - look at the name! Now all that other stuff yeah I'm not staying at home and we are going half on all the house duties, child rearing because we are a 'TEAM"

[@Aejae25]

He's cute!

[@chuky1120]

" If you want to keep your last name you got, then marry your daddy.'' Steve Harvey hit it right on the money.

[@JezXoXo]

well said!

[@zzzzimtired6053]

She can keep her name but the kids will take the fathers last name.

[@aj7460]

No he wont because she will take them and he will never see them again lmao

[@cofuaccounting3831]

That is what I did. The kids have their father's last name and I kept my father's☺

[@jesustracie]

Aman :)

[@ghostt21]

classic older woman

[@scratch5120]

i believe a woman should take her husbands last name. and personally im a traditionalist. the so called modern woman to me seems likea woman that doesnt want to commit to a relationship. as far as needing two incomes to make it work. i dont believe that. if the man is willing to do what it takes to support his family then there is no need for a second income. besides which. the fewer workers there are the higher thier pay is. supply and demand. if every household was single income then there would be no need at all for dual income.

[@thehelmethead4883]

+scratch I don't know about the one income thing but I have to agree on you about the traditionalism. When ever I meet a women who says that she will not by any means take up her guys last name, it's just totally unattractive to me, It just shows me that this girl is SO wrapped up in her individuality that it makes me wonder if she would even love me if I was dating her.

[@scratch5120]

Skylar Flaer not at all. Its people like you that seem to make honest discussion on these topics almost impossible.

[@skylarflare3120]

+scratch That was sarcasm. Hah. Welcome to the internet.

[@scratch5120]

No i wouldnt. And im sorry but a father is not more important than a husband. When you marry two things together you turn them into one thing that is greater than eother was alone. The same with people. When you marry them they become one unit that is more than either could be alone. Changing her last name is a symbol of that union. She is a part of her husband. And her husband is a part of her. Why is this a bad thing.

[@scratch5120]

You will see in time. Your husband will be more important to you. Your fathrr is your past. Your husband your future.