Stop Being Nice: The Shocking Truth About Stoicism!

[@djlystics]

Thank you for this. As a person with ADHD, I depended on people pleasing which contributed to my burnouts and feeling disrespected not knowing it was my own fault of pleasing others. I'm a changing man now.

[@RAY-rl6xj]

One confession I have is that I never knew that Stoic philosophy can automatically tune one's mind and behaviours to deep, wise frequencies. THANK YOU!

[@Stoic_Life_0]

Thank you so much for sharing that! It's amazing how Stoic philosophy can have such a profound impact on our mindset and behavior. I'm glad to hear that it's resonating with you on such a deep level. Keep exploring and applying those principles-there's so much wisdom to uncover. Thanks again for your thoughtful comment! ❤

[@MelissaDavis-s1f]

@@Stoic_Life_0 these videos of got me so I want to start reading up on philosophy very interesting. I'm probably going to go pick up some books from the library and start reading up on this

[@reynaldoherevia6971]

​@@Stoic_Life_0i🎉n my 😢📛😅 you use your input JJ 😅😮

[@UltimateStoicism]

Wow, the idea that being nice might be a prison is both shocking and eye-opening. This perspective really forces us to question how much of our own authenticity we've sacrificed for the sake of others' approval.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

I’m glad that perspective resonated with you! It’s definitely a challenging idea, but one that can really shift how we view our interactions and self-expression. It’s so easy to get caught up in the cycle of seeking approval and being "nice" at the cost of our true selves. But once we start questioning it, it opens the door to a more authentic way of living, where we can balance kindness with staying true to who we really are. Thanks for sharing your thoughts-this is exactly the kind of reflection that philosophy aims to inspire!

[@StoicInYourLife]

I never realized how much being 'too nice' could actually hold me back. This video was a real eye-opener! Sometimes, we confuse kindness with being a pushover, and this is where Stoicism truly shines. It's about standing firm in your values while maintaining respect for yourself and others. As Epictetus wisely said, 'It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.' This video is a great reminder that we can be kind without compromising our strength. Thanks for sharing such powerful insights!

[@Oceanus00]

Being nice at times is useless. They don't appreciate your kindness and they don't recall that moment when you offer a helping hand!

[@stevefolan3481]

If you're being a good person to be appreciated, you'll constantly be disappointed 😁

[@teiknice1]

Especially family! They love you when you help them, lend money without interest.. do the favor... they hate you and forget the second you say no.

[@terrytari1891]

A 2024: Don't be Nice ALL the TIME & Don't be a Jerk All the Time! Try to be in the middle!

[@AnaSilva-to1sy]

1 Corinthians 13:4 & 5 Love suffers long and is kind, love does not envy, love does not parade itself, is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil.

[@mddistribution30]

I have very bad mental health problems and specifically social anxiety problems and I find that being too nice leaves u feeling as though you're treated like an idiot by other men. So I'm going to try my best to stop being nice, because it gets u absolutely nowhere, be authentically yourself instead

[@blackfyre365]

I think this problem is responsible for more of the misery in my life than any other single thing.

[@yamkelaqwabe3322]

Integrity is important self worth is priceless 🙌

[@samsirrius]

This makes total sense. The origin of the word nice, in early french, derived from latin simply translates as (unaware or ignorant), stupid to be frank. Conditioning for societal integration is necessary, however, the denial of self, due to an unhealthy relationship of conform for reward or acceptance, may be an avanue for maintaining control, manipulation, condescension. Embracing self is vital, but objective morals must exist. The 10 commandments serve as the most universal sense of moral basis.

[@mzothosm]

The truth on this video is amazing, it's talking directly to me. Thank you so much for opening my eyes.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

@@mzothosmthat's my pleasure thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@leonardocabrera9253]

Stoicism meets kindness: inner strength, outer grace. Stoic resilience fuels consistent compassion. Kindness, a rational choice, aligns with virtue. Together, they form a powerful ethic-unmoved by fortune, yet moving hearts. Doors open, minds change, through reasoned benevolence.

[@inezneal6917]

It's more than expectation. It's leverage. You be nice or lose your job. You're access to resources and they do well to make sure you're born without them and stuck in these weak groups of internationally defenseless people. Linking up with people that fight back and protect their resources is the most difficult thing in life

[@choepheldhondup6251]

I thank you for sharing such an indepth wisdom.I need this since long ,I have been raised and taught "OTHERS BEFORE SELF"I practiced all my life till I got desperate.I was taught GOOD KARMA will come in full circle in future.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

❤️❤️❤️

[@women4changeIA]

It’s clear on how and why my parents react and respond the way they have.. now thinking back to school days and how we were taught to behave

[@Zay408er]

I’m nice until I have to put the gloves on. I do that when people think my kindness makes me less of a man. I choose to be nice and choose to be a good person but that don’t mean I won’t stand up for myself. My best line is I got gloves in my trunk.

[@collmac1974]

What a great and simple way of explaining your simple explanation of being kind and doesn’t mean you will if taken for granted and ultimately being a soft touch, you will tell explain that you will be back in a minute, as you have to get the gloves 🧤 from your trunk 😊couldn’t have expressed it better myself 👌👏👏😊

[@CharlotteUnderwood-zs8st]

After being put down by others I need to build up my self confidence in my self

[@pearsonedmundo1357]

Knowing when to speak and not to is the hard part

[@brandonteal7211]

I like to manipulate so I have to be just nice enough to remember I’m also not.. which sounds different than it reads. I use it to subconsciously maintain dynamics and situations when the only way to do so is implant the idea as there own. I am nice but realize the truth now..that being said tact, cohesive compromise and respect are indispensable.

[@leonardocabrera9253]

The juxtaposition of kindness and Stoicism presents an intriguing philosophical inquiry, as these concepts, while not mutually exclusive, emerge from distinct ethical frameworks. Stoicism, a Hellenistic philosophy founded by Zeno of Citium, emphasizes the development of self-control and fortitude as a means of overcoming destructive emotions. The Stoic sage ideally remains unmoved by both misfortune and good fortune, cultivating apatheia (freedom from passion) and ataraxia (tranquility). Kindness, on the other hand, is often associated with empathy, compassion, and active benevolence towards others. It implies an emotional engagement that might seem at odds with Stoic detachment. However, a deeper analysis reveals potential complementarity: 1. Stoic ethics fundamentally aims at virtue, with justice and benevolence being key virtues. Thus, kindness can be seen as an expression of Stoic virtue. 2. The Stoic concept of oikeiōsis (appropriation or orientation) suggests an expanding circle of concern, from self to family to all of humanity. This aligns with the universality often associated with kindness. 3. Epictetus's dichotomy of control can inform our approach to kindness. While we cannot control others' reactions, we can control our own actions, including acts of kindness. 4. Marcus Aurelius, in his "Meditations," frequently exhorts himself to treat others with kindness, viewing it as part of living according to nature and reason. The notion that "kindness opens doors" and "changes people's minds" can be examined through various philosophical lenses: 1. Virtue Ethics: Kindness as a virtuous act can inspire others, leading to a ripple effect of positive behavior. 2. Consequentialism: If kindness leads to positive outcomes (opened doors, changed minds), it could be considered ethically valuable. 3. Social Contract Theory: Kindness can be seen as fostering social cohesion and mutual benefit. 4. Kantian Ethics: Treating others with kindness aligns with the categorical imperative of treating people as ends in themselves. In conclusion, while Stoicism and kindness may seem paradoxical at first glance, a nuanced philosophical examination reveals potential synergies. The Stoic emphasis on virtue and rational action can provide a stable foundation for consistent kindness, while the practice of kindness can be a practical application of Stoic principles in social interactions.

[@StoicMindBetterLife]

“Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.” - Seneca

[@GarmentofPraiseSewing]

Thank you so much for this!

[@Stoic_Life_0]

🙏❤️

[@dorcas6709]

Thank you mr.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

❤️

[@rustam900]

Brother your video is awesome keep it up. You explained it so well about how being nice is harmful when it pass its limit and you are right how many people in this world fall into depression sometimes that seed start from simply just being too nice and put other people’s need before your own need.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

@@rustam900 thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@rustam900]

@@Stoic_Life_0 No actually thank you. Your video is a great book people need to purchase it read it and learn from it. But by all I mean you are doing a great job and I think it’s an award for you to hear there are people in this world who understand your talent and appreciate your valuable words

[@Stoic_Life_0]

🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@reesyjackson6897]

No problem I really appreciate these videos

[@jimlotus]

THIS IS SO CORRECT AND I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT BEING NICE WAS A PRISON WE BUILD FOR OURSELVES AND THEY PUSH US TO FIT IN IT IS AN EVIL TWISTED FLAT EARTH WE LIVE ON …

[@Stoic_Life_0]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s powerful to realize that the pressures to conform can feel like a cage, and recognizing that is the first step towards breaking free. Society often pushes us into these molds, but the key is staying true to ourselves. The world might seem flat and twisted at times, but embracing our authenticity can help us rise above it. Stay strong, and keep questioning what doesn’t feel right-you’re on the path to something much deeper and more meaningful!

[@jimlotus]

@@Stoic_Life_0 YES MY GOOD FRIEND CONFORMING IS THE ENEMY AND WE MUST BE OUR OWN TRUE INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS MORALS AND VALUES AND KNOWS HOW TO LIVE A LIFE OF MEANINGFUL PURPOSE INSTEAD OF FOLLOWING THE MASSES ON THEIR WAY TO CERTAIN DEATH , I AM HERE TO TEACH OTHERS THE TRUTHS I HAVE FOUND BUT IT IS A PATH THAT IS LESS TRAVELED BUT WORTH THE BENEFITS 🌈💪 AND WHEN I SAID THE EARTH IS FLAT I MEAN THAT IT IS NOT A BALL AND THAT THE GOVERNMENT IS LYING TO US ABOUT THAT … THE EARTH IS A FLAT ENDLESS FOREST AND WE HAVE BEEN TAKEN FROM THAT GARDEN AND PUT HERE AS CAPTIVES IN THIS WORLD IF TYRANNY BUT WITH THE PROPER MINDSET WE MAY BE ABLE TO BREAK FREE FROM THE SHACKLES THEY KEEP US IN 👍👍🌈🌈🌈💪💪💪

[@jimlotus]

@@Stoic_Life_0 THANK YOU FOR YOUR DEEP INSIGHTFUL TRUTHS…

[@ChrisMartinkus]

If there was a constant industry and application modesty and integrity. Nothing is impossible!

[@SAMURAII_GIIN]

I'm confused. If we stop being nice to each other, how should we be to one another? Do we want to be treated nicely or the opposite? Does it mean being an A-hole, being rude, or being disrespectful is OK? Can somebody drop a different angle so I can understand this lesson?

[@Stoic_Life_0]

It's a great question! I think the key idea isn't about encouraging rudeness or being an A-hole, but rather about authenticity and setting boundaries. Sometimes, "niceness" can come across as insincere or can even lead to people taking advantage of us. It's not about being disrespectful, but rather about being honest, direct, and firm in how we treat one another.Being kind doesn't mean we let others mistreat us, nor does it mean we have to fake politeness all the time. It's about balancing respect for ourselves and for others. We can be compassionate and respectful while still being straightforward and standing up for our values. What do you think? Does that help clarify things a bit?

[@patriciagonzalez6903]

Ouch! This resonates with me a lot!

[@Iron-me3nl]

Already on it.

[@KingOfStoic-q3k]

thanks for sharing

[@Stoic_Life_0]

❤️

[@StoicPerson0312]

This video challenges the common notion of being 'nice' and reveals how it can be a hidden prison, preventing us from living authentically and reaching our true potential. Through Stoic wisdom and self-discovery, we learn the power of assertiveness, setting boundaries, and cultivating inner strength. A powerful reminder that true strength lies in living authentically, not just in pleasing others!

[@FewMinutes_BD]

keep up the good work

[@MohamedJamow]

it's good to be normal in every aspect.

[@ChrisMartinkus]

Whats normal? There is no such thing. Normal is subjective from one to another. Normal is a cause of wars. Because normal is so very subjective!

[@dunbustin]

For many years I became a milk toast bland-out guy. I merely have to see a photo of myself from back then to despise that person. I thank the Lord that I regained a bit of my edge since then and I would have liked to have done so much more.

[@GregHall-qh6bj]

Horse shit being nice and respectful has given me a good life and I’m surrounded by positive people

[@sellersunite6063]

Not horse shit

[@Nick-cs5yc]

This video nailed it🔱🔱🔱🔱🔱

[@sebastiansperception]

The subtitles have mistakes... a gross one is this: it is not "epic titus" but Epictetus...

[@Stoic_Life_0]

Thank you so much for that I will try to avoid that next time❤

[@JennaLynn-d8r]

@@Stoic_Life_0the message is there regardless of subtitles. Such a small thing to harp on . This is such and enlightened video everything is said perfectly digestible I think this can speak to all of us

[@Stoic_Life_0]

Thanks ❤

[@LabanMbangira]

You deserve better not just alike

[@lifeandquotes-e5e]

[@rascallyrabbit]

niceness can be a trap but having a moral compass based on an absolute is essential. One must have a moral compass to know right from wrong. Nietzche knew the death of the Judeo/Christian God would result in a catastrophic destruction of civilization. I find the 10 commandments not to be suggestions but commands IF one seeks a good life. Jesus was not nice. He was ruthlessly honest. Meekness is great strength under self-control. One needs boundaries to be. the existentialists you refer to lived depressing, unfulfilled lives full of misery.

[@RobertHuston-m1w]

SWING A EP😊IF COST YOUR TRUE SELF NO.😊

[@sanjanewmoonlife]

Don't teach people to stop being nice , people need hope love and always be nice ...no matter what you get from life.

[@rustam900]

😂 Are you ok buddy ? The nicest people in this world are people pleasers and are you want to be a people pleaser but if you say yes then tell me what they give you ? When they see you are too nice to them The best gift they give you is one day they slap your face and take your bread from you. So when you write a comment write something to guide people into light but not into darkness This man didn’t say don’t be nice he said don’t be too nice to become people pleaser

[@JoRo417]

Rewatch. You missed the message

[@Sani10201204]

It is good to be nice but not to the point where you're being taken advantage of. The video is saying to be authentic and not let people walk all over you.

[@adexridau26]

Being too nice is a scam to oneself

[@gwenjarvis1472]

How do you know me so well.😅

[@donnaneylon3217]

👍

[@SocialDemocraciaPT]

Sartre was an admirer of Marxism (sic). Although he condemned the Soviet invasion of eastern countries, he never gave up the idea of marxist humanism. Still, a bad idea.

[@Stoic_Life_0]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! You're right that Sartre had a complex relationship with Marxism. While he was critical of certain aspects, like the Soviet invasion, he still believed in the potential for a more humanistic approach to Marxism. Whether or not one agrees with his perspective, it’s fascinating to see how his ideas evolved over time. I appreciate your engagement with the content!

[@SocialDemocraciaPT]

Thanks. There are other not so nice things about Sartre that I will not write here. Love your content on Stoicism

[@Stoic_Life_0]

@@SocialDemocraciaPT ❤️❤️❤️

[@LaurieValdez-zk3dy]

Never again

[@LaurieValdez-zk3dy]

Respect is Earned.

[@MelissaDavis-s1f]

I wish these videos would be done by a person it's so creepy listening to a robot do these videos

[@Stoic_Life_0]

I'd like to assure you that I am indeed a real person with a high school diploma, deeply interested in philosophy, and I consistently achieve excellent grades in it. I personally review and edit the scripts, ensuring high-quality content. My passion for philosophy allows me to provide unique insights and a deep understanding of the topics. Thank you for your support and trust!

[@MelissaDavis-s1f]

@@Stoic_Life_0 I love your videos they're actually helping me a lot voice to sound so robotic and it's kind of creepy..

[@MelissaDavis-s1f]

There's a lot of insight I didn't say that it's just kind of creepy that it sounds like a robot .

[@RichardGraham-l6f]

And that fuclin annoying,bland,monotonous, senseless, insipid, distracting back-ground noise is awful!

[@Iamontothegameicasee]

Living in the United States? Be an asshole if you have to.