Stop Doing These 12 "Polite" Things Crew Actually Dislike

[@LifeWellCruised]

Planning a cruise? Get The Ultimate Cruise Planner. It's a 47 page printable cruise travel planner with packing checklists, shore excursion planning forms and much more! ($10 off for a limited time). Here are the details: lifewellcruised.com/ultimate-cruise-planner

[@michelewelscher1090]

I ordered this and it’s been awesome for me I’m planning my cruises.

[@jeffhirsch7861]

On my first cruise ever, ny wife and I had gotten back from having dinner at the Steakhouse, which at the time, was the only specialty restaurant on the ship. We ran in to our porter, and he asked how dinner was and we told him where we came from and he told us that he was going there for dinner later with his wife for their anniversary. My GF (now wife) and I went back to the Steakhouse and bought 2 glasses of champagne for them to enjoy at their dinner. The next day, our Porter was SOOO happy and grateful. Even though we asked it to be anonymous, he knew it was us. That afternoon when we got back on ship, we had a bottle of white wine in a chiller with 2 glasses and a corkscrew waiting for us.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@jeffhirsch7861 wow!! Amazing story

[@SharonPerson-hm9ds]

​@GeeBee212 We've almost always had men stewards too, except for one woman last year. Took me a little by surprise. Off topic, but is your GeeBee212 by any chance a reference to a racing plane?

[@jjackson8667]

Another example of nice people being nice to people being nice to people.

[@sandyc5428]

Being nice to ppl what a concept. 🙏

[@janeraifsnider5939]

Not all cruise lines want their passengers to leave room service trays in the hallways. It detracts from the elegance of the ship and is a safety hazard. Make sure you know your cruise line's policy.

[@luv2cruise666]

I was always instructed that you should never put your trays in the hallway because not only is it a fire hazard if you had to evacuate, but people utilizing wheelchairs and scooters will have a hard time navigating down the hallway.

[@mikeray4002]

Absolutely. I just tripped on someones trash on the floor outside their cabin. On Allure of thee seas last June. I could have filed a complaint and seeked medical attention for a sprained ankle. Its just Liability for the Cruise Line

[@lauriemoser4208]

ADA just call and say please pick up when you can

[@GunnerHillTX]

As mentioned in the video, it depends on the cruise line. We follow their guidance. Some ships have very narrow corridors, others have cabin doors in alcoves that are just deep enough to tuck in a tray without it protruding. The simple solution - ask. Either in advance or when you get on board.

[@onlinemarketplace9921]

Higiene reason

[@amyemm1012]

Agreed! Never put the tray in the hallway, it's gross and a huge trip hazard!

[@02sparklestars02]

I’m always thanking the various crew members for all that they do. Not just the wait staff and others you interact with but the person polishing the railings. The restroom attendants. security, maintenance, etc. They deserve to be thanked for their contributions also. It only takes a moment, doesn’t interfere with their job and the smiles are worth my effort.

[@BernhardSchwarz-xs8kp]

I hope you used that "moment" to hand him some cash. Otherwise - you just wasted his time.

[@whatahappyday17]

My husband and I always find out what kind of Specialty coffee our stateroom person likes. We will bring them one maybe 3 times in the morning time on a seven night cruise. They have always appreciated that. We also ask them if they need anything in Port that we could get them. There has been numerous times that we’ve gotten things for some of our stateroom attendants. My favorite thing to do on every cruise we go on….is to find attendants cleaning the restrooms. I hand them a handwritten thank you card with $25 in it. I feel like they are overlooked and want them to know that I appreciate their hard work and them keeping the restrooms clean. I’ve had several seem so shock and say this is for me???? The bonus part is I’ve never seen them open my card. It just does my heart good to put a smile on someone face.

[@designdoctor247]

this is beautiful...especailly the card and money for the restroom attendants😊❤ very very kind and thoughtful!

[@lochiellass]

What a great idea. I've always thanked them for keeping the restrooms clean and tidy, but never thought about doing something like that. I will definitely put it into my plans for my next cruise in 4 weeks time.

[@stephaniegonzalez5088]

Yes absolutely, I Always tip anyone cleaning the restrooms. I use them so I definitely appreciate it. And not sure they get many tips overall so Always appreciated.

[@susanlangford3340]

I was thanking our room attendant after a two week cruise and letting them know how much we appreciate them and they broke in and thanked us because our room was kept tidy and that helped them keep up with their chores. 😂 My mom would have been so proud 🤣

[@cliffwalkerusa]

Great to hear that they appreciated this!! I think of this as part of appreciating the attendants ( including at hotels) - making their job a little easier! I also just like a tidy room in general.

[@RossoVerdeNero]

When we go away, my partner always likes to leave the house "tidy for the burglars". She's the same on board. Easiest cabin to service on the ship!

[@equalityforall8418]

May I comment on something you said in a previous video? You mentioned bringing a foldable laundry hamper. Might I suggest you line that hamper with a trash bag? When you put that laundry into your suitcase as you're packing up to leave, you are putting dirty, sweaty (and sometimes smelly) laundry directly in your suitcase. I like to bring 2 trash bags, one for darks and the other for whites. While I don't bring a hamper, I do put those two bags under a bed. I keep the opening to the outside and place my dirty laundry into the bags when I'm done wearing them, as you would with a hamper. When it's time to pack up, I lay them flat on the floor, step on them to make them flat, tie them up and put them into my suitcase. When I get home, my laundry is separated and I just empty each bag into the washing machine. No separating darks and whites, and my suitcase doesn't get contaminated.

[@debrabessette2699]

This is an excellant idea!

[@equalityforall8418]

@@debrabessette2699 Thank you:)

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@equalityforall8418 good idea

[@cruisepryor]

Funny , I’ve been doing the same the past 30 years of cruising and hotels .

[@scottyphillips7799]

I used a soft sided mesh hamper this cruise and just threw it over my shoulder to carry out. It wasn’t see through so it worked very well.

[@happytraveller2122]

I agree with the tip at the end. The tip is for a job well done. How can you tip someone at the beginning? You don’t even know what they’re going to be like. Also keep my cabin extremely neat and tidy, which I think is a help . Any tipping that is done is done discreetly

[@jamesg1974a]

To me a tip at the start is a bad look. It’s like you’re trying to bribe them for extras

[@katrinamcintosh3565]

In Australia, I always tip at end of cruise. Their wages are a pittance of what we earn here and they have to pay for wifi to keep in touch with their families back home. They can be away from loved ones for up to 9 months and come from very poor countries so I appreciate their hard work and very long days.

[@LifeWellCruised]

I agree with you, it’s so true to put this in perspective

[@skyray4373]

Shouldn’t their employers give them better conditions eg WiFi use , not a “pittance “ of a wage so they don’t have to rely on tips .

[@lois9923]

They receive room/board/lodging, meals, and salary.

[@CUTravel1st]

Just fyi I just heard that it may not always be your cabin steward cleaning the room on the last day. They need to get all the cabins ready so it maybe some one else. I don’t know how true it is but just a heads up. We always tip the same everyday. I tell them every time I see you you will get this much--. I try to encourage help both ways. Miss the turn down service.

[@katrinamcintosh3565]

@@CUTravel1st, agree, I also tip o5er staff not just steward.

[@NoKingButChrist1689]

I tip before and after. These guys work so hard, and I remember my early days of making a tip.

[@BernhardSchwarz-xs8kp]

It all makes perfect sense. Talking about a compliment to your Cabine Stewared - "dollars and cents" always works much better than a smile and some empty words.

[@rcollins1202]

About 25 years and 15 cruises ago we were going into St. Thomas. We went to the port lecture and got the list of ships recommended stores. My wife wanted to buy a set of Amethyst ear rings for her mom. While we were pulling to the pier I saw one of the officers standing at the rail. I went over and said hello. I then asked him if he would not mind telling me, where here does the crew buy jewelry. He glanced over his shoulder then told me of a shop a street over from the main shopping street. I thanked him. So, on shore we went over to this small shop. No other tourists were in there. We told him what we are looking for. He went over and pulled out a tray with over 100 Amethysts. He help us select two that match. Then wanted to know silver or gold mountings. The price he quoted was very low over the main street shops. Told us to come back in an hour. We did, he did a wonderful job on them and my mother in law loved them.

[@LifeWellCruised]

Great story

[@gwendolynworman2674]

Do you remember the name of the shop?

[@arbonneladyTN]

We had a similar experience, however it was on our honeymoon in St Thomas (1981🤩) we asked the hotel staff where they shop and found the recommended jeweler that sounds like the same one you spoke of! Love love ST Thomas! Back in that day it was unheard of! And yes, we are still married 43 years later.

[@dearmepa1]

@@gwendolynworman2674inquiring minds want to know! Following with you!

[@rcollins1202]

@@gwendolynworman2674 I think Blue Coral . I tried looking it up on Google maps but can’t find it.

[@karenfrance1194]

In the notes app on my phone I note the names of helpful crew so that when survey comes around I can mention them. I also put in notes about entertainment and excursions since the survey asks about those too. Also the ship app usually has a feedback option where if anyone is unhappy about something it can be resolved. Those notes on the ships app go to guest services where they can be acted on. Good to send compliments as well.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@karenfrance1194 good idea

[@empressnetta2014]

I do the same.

[@dianeneglia]

You can also ask to take a picture of their name tag. They like that, because they know when you mention them by name in the final survey, that has the largest impact on their performance rating

[@johnwalterc]

I take a pic of the name tag. Never get it wrong and I dont forget.

[@t.thompson8985]

I do this as well!

[@kstaffen-justlovescruising]

I have I always ask stewards what they want me to do with dishes in the cabin. On all my cruises (over 30) with Princess I have been told to leave them in the cabin. I don't sail on other ships, but my husband uses a scooter, and you cannot go down the halls if there are dishes in the way, so I am glad that they want me to leave them inside. I think the best thing, is to ask, then do as they prefer.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@kstaffen-justlovescruising great point. Asking is the best policy

[@lynnfranklin5098]

@@kstaffen-justlovescruising thanks for confirming I asked too and wasn’t sure if Stewart was just being polite. I have only done 8 cruises with princess and rarely do I see trays in hall.

[@kstaffen-justlovescruising]

​@@lynnfranklin5098I've seen driers in the hall, where the carpet had to be cleaned due to spills from plates. Different lines have different policies. Unlike Carnival, Princess does not have someone who goes down the halls to pick plates up, and that is something cabin stewards have to do.

[@designdoctor247]

i TOTALLY agree w u!!!!

[@buckygoldstein5354]

Leave your husband at home. There are always going to be carts, vacuums and people walking those narrow halls.

[@SipWatchTravel]

The crew like two things: polite guests AND MONEY 💰

[@taratabor]

Then money you shall have 💵

[@LifeWellCruised]

I’m sure that’s very true :)

[@taratabor]

I’m glad you well

[@SipWatchTravel]

@@taratabor me?

[@305jakec]

Who doesn’t like money ? We all work right …

[@rh4267]

We don’t provide drinks for staff but we never use our drink package total /day so we get cans of sofa and bring it back to our room and leave them in the fridge. We tell our room stewards we left sofa in our fridge for them and to take it to enjoy later. Apparently soda is quite expensive for them and they seem to enjoy this gesture.

[@LifeWellCruised]

Love that

[@gordonyates7972]

Last cruise we tipped our two cabin stewards 25 dollars each at the end of the cruise. They bear the bulk of the work taking care of us! 99 percent of the time they do a great job!!!

[@j.g7506]

I usually take mini chocolate candies ( Hershey's, etc) and sticky note pad so when our attendant made our room up, i left him a " have a beautiful day note along with a couple of chocolates. Later the attendant told us he was grateful for the snacks and ate them before he went to bed as a treat. Hehehe..warmed my heart

[@elizabethwalker3272]

we were on a cruise during Easter and I took See's Easter candy, chocolate eggs and bunnies. I gave a special one to our steward and then passed out the chocolate eggs and bunnies to staff and crew as we were wandering on the ship on Easter Sunday.

[@j.g7506]

@elizabethwalker3272 I'm sure they enjoyed your generosity ❤️❤️

[@elizabethwalker3272]

@@j.g7506 They did! Some were very surprised! They said For me!?

[@kathleenyan2854]

I am also Canadian and I always pre tip my steward first day with any requests for my room. then tip again at end of the cruise.

[@lisastrange6754]

❤I tip at the end of the cruise! However, I do ask my Stateroom Steward for a robe, and when he comes with it: I do give a tip because it doesn't come with my balcony on Carnival. So, on embarkation day, they are really busy. So, I'm thankful and appreciative.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@lisastrange6754 that’s a nice way to think of it

[@artssygrl]

This is a good thing. I also give extra cash tips when I ask for something out of the ordinary.

[@gingerella7934]

I just finished a week cruise to Alaska and thank you for all your informative videos. I learned so much from watching them in the months leading up to my cruise as it was my first cruise.

[@pauleydm]

I know some will not like this comment, but crew and staff members have no place to keep gifts. They will be gracious and appreciative of what you gave them, but unless it is something they can use, your gifts will be thrown out. If you want to do something special for a staff or crew member beyond cash, ask them if there is anything they need from port. Many of these hard working people do not get opportunities to get off of the ship very often. They may need toiletries, or perhaps they want a particular sweet from the port you are visiting.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@pauleydm that’s a good point

[@robinshultz2927]

Exactly! Toiletries and snacks are really appreciated. They use them to barter with other crew members, too!

[@erikmanzano8144]

Four days till our carnival cruise, your videos have helped so much thank you❤🌴

[@ashleysanders7289]

When I was a waitress, “pre-tipping” was annoying bc it’s was like a bribe or like there was a “treat” for doing “good”. It also feels like there is extra expectation

[@arbonneladyTN]

Long ago…. Tips were to be given before in anticipation of good service.

[@nayakiabates8814]

That seems silly

[@miralimdphd]

The term tip comes from 'to insure promptness', so clearly there is a historical reason for giving someone a tip before service.

[@ashleysanders7289]

@@miralimdphd example number 2

[@deborahdamon1107]

Employers call them incentives when they want something. Keep your energy. Just say no thank you and when they finish. Give that one back too. Your an angel. Where is your establishment. Me and my crew wants to come through.

[@jacquelynnmorris3075]

My husband and I have only been on two cruises, both organized for fans of a reality show. Thankfully, the organizers prepped us all regarding ship etiquette and such, so we knew about tipping. Though we prepaid the tip for our cabin steward, we also gave him a cash tip prior to leaving the ship on the last day. We had intended to leave it in the cabin with a note, but saw him as we were leaving our cabin, and handed it to him directly. He had done a phenomenal job taking care of us and we thanked him profusely. He got rather choked up--our impression was that he really could use the extra money. We both were quite moved by his reaction. It must be an exhausting job.

[@ccm1767]

I most often cruise with Holland America (HAL). They traditionally have placed a note on room service trays saying to not place them in the hall but instead to call if you want the tray removed from your cabin. In addition, lately I have noticed that in late morning, HAL sends a steward with a cart with a list of all cabins where people ordered room service breakfast. He will knock on my door and ask to collect my tray. Note, I am a slow eater and have always finished eating before the clean-up steward arrived. Often, I leave my cabin after breakfast, with my food tray inside my cabin, and the tray is gone when I get back. I agree with others that food trays in the hall are a trip hazard, obstacle for many passengers, and unsightly. So I appreciate those that keep the trays in their cabins.

[@LifeWellCruised]

I do leave my tray in my cabin on HAL & agree I prefer that. Thanks for sharing

[@wfodavid]

Thank you,...thank you!

[@CoachSingleton]

I normally cruise Carnival. when I told my HAL room steward that on day one, he told me this rule. he said "Unlike Carnival, Please leave your trays in your room, place them 'Here' pointing to a counter inside the cabin, and he would collect them every morning room cleaning and evening room cleaning"

[@james3910]

One of your best videos, in my opinion! I've become more discouraged from giving feedback after a cruise we went on where we told the maitre d/restaurant manager that we loved our waiters, but the overall service was slow. This was when COVID was still affecting the industry's staff numbers more, but after we gave them the feedback, the waiters were acting different and were clearly not happy serving us after that. It gave off the impression that the staff was yelled at and told we weren't happy with them, when we clarified with the manager that we know they're working very hard. I'd rather not upset someone that's handling my food or drink. It's not fair that the hard-working staff get the blame for low staff numbers, so I think twice now before saying anything to leadership.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@james3910 that’s a good point. It’s honestly hard if you’re giving feedback on the moment, but not necessarily something they can change. You didn’t do anything wrong, but I’d probably only “complain” at the time, if there’s a possible solution that would be satisfactory. Likely this was just a bad time or situation. I’ve definitely felt bad for crew early on when they seemed understaffed & working so hard, so I understand what you mean

[@dennisnichols7123]

All those years of watching the love boat is out the window. Ok every episode they got entangled with the guests. Lol. My childhood is ruined!! 😂😂

[@LifeWellCruised]

Haha those looked like fun times 😂

[@mollyt7954]

I am going on the “love boat” cruise in a couple of weeks.

[@lindabuck2777]

@@mollyt7954Tell Julie we love her❤️ ask Issac for a Rita rocks, ask Gopher to dance, he needs the company😝😂🫢🙏🏻❤️

[@mollyt7954]

Unfortunately my husband tested positive for Covid Thursday night so we are not on the cruise. I am brokenhearted.

[@lisasnyder555]

😂😂

[@petros7929]

I always tip at the end of cruise to room attendant and some in the dining hall. I have never tipped anyone at the beginning of the cruise.

[@doughooks7411]

Yeah, don’t buy crew members drinks. Give them a cash tip and let them decide what drink they may want or whatever else they may want to do with the tip. I always have some smaller bills or exchange larger bills for smaller bills at Guest Services. Those tips (however small they may be) will be much more appreciated. They also have crew bars and lounges where they can buy drinks at a much reduced price than what passengers pay anyway.

[@B-ch6uk]

I agree. No drinks and no gifts. Even though they are very appreciative, they really want cash.

[@jamesg1974a]

Exactly. Give cash. That is what they want and need. They do not need or want a drink. If they want a drink they can get it way cheaper than what we’d pay and drinks don’t pay the bills.

[@DeliaRHall]

Great video, cleared a few things up for me. I never was totally sure about food trays and plates. I try to leave things scraped down, stacked and covered. I've seen hallways trashed with food left outside . Poor stewards, it's so nasty for them and so easy to do it right. Thanks for all your good works helping us be more informed and better cruisers ❤❤

[@justanawesomeginger]

So glad I found your channel!! My mom and I just booked a mother/daughter cruise in Norway and we’ve been binging your videos to prepare and plan 😊

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@justanawesomeginger that’s awesome! Btw a Norway cruise video will be out this week

[@PeterHoogenkamp-n1t]

Nicely said, important for cruise guests to realize

[@marthagrant143]

I never tip before the cruise. Personally, I think it is insulting to presume that the room steward will not do his or her job unless given extra cash before the cruise. I never remove prepaid gratuities, and I give any extra tips at the end of the cruise with a verbal thank you for making our vacation special and written commendations on the feedback form from the cruise line.

[@melodeekistner2936]

That is how we do it as well.

[@ToriE1073]

@@marthagrant143 I tip ahead of time, not because I think they won’t do their job as well if I don’t, but because I want them to know I appreciate them because I know what a thankless job it can be. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rsvihla]

@@ToriE1073 That's what the tip you give them at the end tells them.

[@sunshine7447]

I tip $200 at the start and another $200 at the end. I don’t find it disrespectful to tip, I find it as a way to just say thank you and I appreciate you.

[@rsvihla]

@@sunshine7447 How many people in the room?

[@lisafieber3569]

I had an instance where I had a spontaneous bloody nose, and the only thing available was a cloth napkin. Once under control, I flagged down a manager to let them know. They brought me a plastic bag so it could be disposed of in a safe fashion.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@lisafieber3569 good story

[@mm-yt8sf]

it'd be funny if they had a special procedure for such a situation. like when someone at a fun restaurant has a birthday. flashing lights! sirens! singing crew "don't move! stay where you are, we're collecting a biohazard! don't breathe! don't look! don't eat or apply makeup! we'll be done in a jiffy! and by the time this song is done....you all can relax again. and we're done! thank you thank you! you've all been great!"

[@Yola-zl2tv]

wow so informative. thanks.

[@Nothingbutnice2u]

I always tip in the beginning. I’m a solo cruiser and it ensures my safety throughout the ship. I’ve had security several times check on my well-being, which I truly appreciate. ❤

[@PatriciaHawkins-h2e]

I am also a solo cruiser, celebrating 76th birthday this 0ctober cruise….i always give money at the beginning of my cruise…like you said they keep a check on you and are always making my cruise great.

[@VivianneBenders]

Me also. Its just a safety thing.

[@Iggystar71]

I would think if you tipped lowkey it would be Ok. Not making a fuss, just putting money on the desk, marking it as a tip. Perhaps they could use the extra cash during the sailing. Leaving it silently and discreetly wouldn’t give the impression of wanting something in retiren.

[@Iggystar71]

@GeeBee212 I like this. No expectation of any special service wanted. But even in hotels I’ve been taught to tip each day. As a traveler, I give my utmost respect to those who are taking care of me as they generally do. I usually try to chat a bit if they want to. I keep it natural, we are equals, I’m just on vacation for the week.

[@Iggystar71]

@GeeBee212 I’m aware. Just giving an example of what I do in a another service industry situation.

[@MainesOwn]

6:30 Thank you so much for bringing this up. Working in the service industry, I know the feeling of having maybe three minutes to breathe fresh air and be by myself in an hour of insanity ...

[@M_Ladd]

Back when cruising was fun, we used to party with the crew in ports of call all the time. Lets just say that they never had to pay for anything and always were appreciative.

[@John-qb8vd]

Cruising is still fun.

[@M_Ladd]

@John-qb8vd Nahhhh, not for us. Food has depreciated and way too many extras. Last time, I had a seven hundred dollar bill. And I was under the impression everything was supposed to be already paid for. They find ways to always get you.

[@whoooami2090]

A tip is gratuity, which means you are thankful for something thing they did. I prefer to leave a tip after the cruise, especially if they did a great job..

[@kstaffen-justlovescruising]

In 2022, we stayed aboard the Ruby Princess for 7 weeks, and I got to know many of the crew and officers. So...I asked a lot of questions lol. One was about prepaying tips. Both our steward and our server in Reserve said that prepaying feels like the guests don't think they will do a good job if not 'bribed" (my word). Also, I've had many crew say that, while they like the cash tips, they would rather not get them from guests who are rude and demanding, and would rather them just be nice. I say do both! But in the very least, crew work hard and for long hours and guests need to always be appreciative of their professionalism and treat them kindly and with respect as human beings. And tip extra lol.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@kstaffen-justlovescruising love this. Thanks for sharing these experiences & conversations

[@mfo5939]

I tip halfway through about half what I tip at the end. It is not a bribe and it is not intended to quarantee service. I do it by leaving a small note with the cash simply stating that I appreciate the service they are providing, that they are doing an outstanding job abd we are glad we have a fine room attendant to take the edge of any concerns we have during our stay. As an aside, I can't ever recall someone saying "That SOB just left me $20..... who does he think he is?" Stop over thinking things for God's sake....

[@kstaffen-justlovescruising]

​@mfo5939 I am totally confused by your last comment. What am I overthinking? I just said that I have been told by crew that getting a tip before they did anything makes them think that the guest doesn't think they are professionals and will do their best. I said nothing about not getting a tip? What you do, halfway through, would not make anyone think that. Your tip, at that point would for sure be seen as appreciation.

[@mfo5939]

@@kstaffen-justlovescruising A tip is a tip is a tip. If the attendant has a bad feeling they should return it and explain to the guest what they think. In my many trips I was always thanked and made to feel good about it. Over thinking it is in reference to the possible 3 or 10 percent who would not like it or feel slighted. Were it me, I would think I was doing a fine job and the folks appreciated it.

[@kstaffen-justlovescruising]

Are you implying that 90% of crew would be fine being treated badly as long as guests left tips prior to even being served, because money is money? If so, that is a terrible opinion of crew members. Most people who work on ships are very proud of their professionalism and work ethics. I'm not talking about receiving tips after service to guests, that show appreciation of and thanks. I'm talking about pre-tipping to 'ensure' that you are treated well. I sincerely do not understand the point you are making.

[@ScottLara]

Your best video yet!!! I've cruised quite a bit, and just realized that helping with plates in the Lido deck is a bad idea! I know that the cruise lines work hard to separate food waste. Thanks so much!!!!

[@Nerd502]

I’m always the person who forgets to tip the housekeeper in a hotel, so I prepay tips beforehand. That way it’s all taken care of and I don’t have to worry that I’m forgetting something. I’ve had service that was above and beyond and will tip on top of that at the end of the sailing.

[@CruiseShipOnique]

Being a bartender on a cruise. One of the weirdest things passengers can do is bring their kids to the bar counter especially with leisure activities for them like coloring books, toys etc.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@CruiseShipOnique oh my gosh, I never thought of that

[@matthewrowell8518]

Pulling a double shift there mate. Bartender and baby sitter. Mind you if the parents are doing that I do would which ones your baby sitting.

[@SipWatchTravel]

@@CruiseShipOnique as a guest I would give them the Sicilian side eye so hard they would leave voluntarily. Who brings kids to a BAR?!!! Yes it’s on a ship but it’s a BAR

[@SipWatchTravel]

@@LifeWellCruised they are the worst

[@LiamRichie825]

I’m from Milwaukee so this is very confusing for me

[@donbarron5349]

I always do prepaid tips and generously leave extra at the end. I also leave extra tips for really good bartenders. Of course this is for exceptional service, which I usually find.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@donbarron5349 awesome! Thanks for sharing

[@AlesiaMichelle]

Thank you for mentioning the "talking to crew" at ports of call. As a former crew member this was VERY annoying. My only exception was when former crew where checking in with us and whatnot.

[@LifeWellCruised]

Appreciate you sharing your experience!! Thanks :)

[@kathrynr5026]

We give a tip upon meeting our steward, not to ensure service but for thanks. We've left extra for extra service. And I at least pull up the duvet every morning...my mother would be proud! We had the same wait staff on a 14 day Christmas/New Years cruise. They got to know our "quirks" and preferences and were so especially enjoyable. Diana's helper said at the end of the cruise that WE were so enjoyable to have served. We would have tipped them extra for making our dinners so special. We still leave extra for our steady wait staff. They knew my hubby needed the double espresso every night!

[@dtkristy1]

“Not to ensure service but for thanks”? Thanks for what? You literally have just laid eyes on your steward. I agree with all of the other things you do, but tipping before service seems insulting, especially since all of those extras and attention to preferences are very very typical from cruise staff. I have always received that kind of service, and sometimes above and beyond that, but reward appropriately at the end of the cruise.

[@LovetheLordPsalms]

We tipped our room attendant on day one this last April and I could tell how thankful he was. I was asking him to do something (put the bed topper I brought on the bed) and would have personally felt badly for him to think I just expected that. I continued to give him tips daily and he just seemed to feel valued. Being friendly is great, but I feel like if I can afford to vacation, I can afford to go above and beyond for the ones making my trip amazing. I never said or implied “there’s more where that came from”. I just gave it as a “thank you for your hard work”. He felt seen and appreciated. I definitely believe it impacted our overall experience for the best. When you feel valued, you reciprocate.

[@judy3443]

We usually ask to have the same table/Servers in the Main Dining Room for the duration of the cruise, and tip a little each night. We have found that the Servers are very grateful and definitely seem to go the extra mile for us, however, we have had mixed results with "pre-tipping" our Room Attendant, and have now decided to wait until the end of the cruise to tip the attendant.

[@ktaurus510]

We had an amazing Steward on our last (first) cruise, and tipped him $10 daily, inside of a Thank Card, on top of the pre-paid gratuities.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@ktaurus510 I’m sure that was appreciated

[@juliestockton8079]

I agree with you on not tipping the room steward in advance and making some cheesey comment like, "There's more where that came from". That just seems sooo tacky and creepy.

[@Podgey25]

I always tip in advance and the 1 time I didn't, it wasn't the same, so I tipped him half way through and things changed. Little gifts, towel animals, fruit, chocolates.

[@LisaHouse-q1l]

When you pre tip and say that it feels almost like bribe and it so uncomfortable.

[@Podgey25]

@@LisaHouse-q1l I give it and say, this is because I appreciate all your hard work.

[@jennatfleck]

I always pre-tip. And when they say no no no I haven’t done anything. I said you just called me my name. You’ve got 40 rooms and I know you stayed up memorizing every person in every room. You work hard and I want you to know I appreciate it.

[@jennifere333]

Thank you for great info, as always! We have tipped our room attendant when we first meet them because I ask for extra towels, extra pillows, extra hangers, a full ice bucket, etc. The one time we never got to actually see and meet our room attendant and give that tip, I'm very sorry to say, we got the worst service ever. Obviously, it could have been that particular attendant, but we do still continue to give that "nice to meet you" upfront tip.

[@bimiup1]

Last year’s cruise on Carnival, we were asked to leave the tray in our room and call our room steward or room service to come pick them up. Seems like it has been a tripping hazard for folks visually impaired or with low vision.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@bimiup1 very interesting. I wonder if this on all ships now?

[@Shan_Dalamani]

"Seems"? Try definitely.

[@bimiup1]

@@Shan_Dalamani that was a sarcastic “seems”

[@lauragb3677]

Great video. Waitstaff and Cabin stewards work for tips. The prepaid gratuities get split among so many others, a note and $100/$200 is best for them bc they are tending to your personal needs/requests every day of the cruise.

[@BeefromSC]

😂😂😂 That was a funny story and I can see how that could be taken as being hit on….. lol! I have never brought a crew member a drink but I have purchased chocolates for a crew member daughters because he shared that he was going home soon after our cruise and his girls love chocolates. Then I add some candy canes in the bag because it was Christmas time! It was, still is a little hard to leave dishes outside the cabin, in the hallway, but now with less room service, that takes care of that! Thanks for sharing 🛳️🛳️

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@BeefromSC haha, we laughed about it too. Nice idea to make a package of sweets :)

[@Mrs.T504]

Years ago, from a baggage handler in Vegas I learned to tip many people in advance. I felt awkward at first and never considered it a bribe. We budget tips into everything we do, and are polite and generous. Yes it has at times given me extra perks. I am not deluded to think that people in the service industry are there to be my friend. They are there to make money. Tipping before, during and after is what these people live for. Being generous is just paying it forward. We give the cabin steward a great tip up front. Seeing that huge smile, we know that is $$$ is just showing our appreciation and gratitude for being alive, and being on a beautiful ship, in a beautiful location on a great vacation, and these people all make it possible. Also we have discreetly given tips in non-tipping countries when the service has been exceptional. We did it privately, and told the recipient they had made our trip extra special, and we knew it was not a tipping culture but to please accept it. It was always received with gratitude and never rejected.

[@TheMeloettaful]

I never really saw it as bribing a person either. As I heard from another cruising video "It just brings positive energy." or something along those lines basically 🤷. Though with how everything is going up in costs I'm not sure if I can do that anymore outside of the usual baggage handlers, tour guides, & shuttle drivers (we always tip them). I feel guilty, but we really do got to watch our budget come our next cruise 💸💸💸.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@Mrs.T504 i appreciate your way of seeing it. I definitely agree that generosity is an important value 👏

[@Lilaceyes231]

Upfront tipping is most definitely bribery. I’ve never seen anything so rude… it horrific.

[@nicolewiltsey7793]

⁠@GeeBee212AGREE 💯% !! It’s a great way to show your appreciation up front, especially since I know a lot of people that either don’t tip at all or have their gratuities removed😢. Calling it “horrific” (comment before yours) is quite ridiculous & rude IMO 😉

[@hairdresser1300]

@@Lilaceyes231 😂😂😂

[@BigDaddy-dr8gf]

I'am a retired firefighter and people would bring us homemade treats from time to time, especially during the holidays. We would then have to throw the food out. We have no idea how this food was prepared and the sanitary conditions of the food prep area. Our Community Education Division. actually put out a public service announcement discouraging the practice of bringing food to our fire stations, unless it was bought from a store and sealed. Some of those treats looked amazing, but we could not take a chance of becoming ill.

[@arbonneladyTN]

😞😭

[@HariSeldon913]

How about having pizzas delivered to the station (prepaid of course)?

[@BigDaddy-dr8gf]

@@HariSeldon913 That's not a problem, as long as it is from a pizza restaurant. In my 32 years of service, I don't think I have ever had a pizza given to us.

[@bkmartin1958]

My grandmother was one of five ladies who home cooked meals for the volunteer fire department then took the food to the fire house and served the men. 70 plus years ago things were alot different.

[@boomergames8094]

@@bkmartin1958 They likely knew each other.

[@ToddBryant-p7g]

We have always tipped our cabin crew at the start of a cruise, during, and at the end. This is on top of the pre-paid gratuities. Usually $20 on the first day, $5 each day (tucked into the towel animal if there is one) and $20 at the end. For us this is normal.

[@christineshields1714]

At the beginning of the cruise when we first meet the attendant, we ask what we should do with room service trays. We do make a point of keeping our room tidy because (a) clutter makes the room seem smaller and (b) we don't want to make extra work for the cabin attendant. On the last day/night of the cruise we do tip not only our cabin attendant, but the dining room staff assigned to our table.

[@ccut1955]

I like to tip my cabin steward before hand because to many times I miss them at the end of the cruise. Also we have had stewards changed mid-cruise. This makes me feel better than just leaving an envelope and not having a personal connection with the person caring for us. Safe Travels.

[@dhum2770]

Ive found to tip extra in the beginning. Especially bartenders & food staff. With an occasional $5 tip as we go along in the cruise, they will service you FIRST, over other tourists waiting in line...

[@bobmoyer8569]

The thing I like to see a video about the best cruises for seniors 65 and older please

[@DiraMcClintock]

Holland America, mature but not stuffy. very few kids most of the time.

[@kathleenrogge9507]

When planning a cruise, you’ll probably want to consider when school is in session, not on holidays. Also smaller ships without all the “kid attractive” things on it… just words of wisdom from my planner.

[@VikPaints]

Having worked with the general public in a job, I can tell you they never cease to amaze. Some tell you their life story, medical history, marital history and the list goes on, even intimate details which is very embarrassing. As a passenger I keep it very polite and minimal chat (a quick hello, have a good day kinda thing). We tip in cash (local currency appropriate to the itinerary of the ship) at the end of the cruise directly to crew members. Another important reason not to give food to crew is many are Asian and may be lactose intolerant which is very common in that part of the world. I'm lactose intolerant myself and rarely if ever eat anything people give me as gifts, I simply don't risk it.

[@OmegaBahn]

The last one made me laugh and to think about it, your son's observation is true on most cases.

[@LifeWellCruised]

😂🫢

[@TheOriginalRick]

The most numerous ethnic group that works the cruise liners are the Filipinos. Knowing how to say "Thank you" (SAH - la - mot) in their language always gets you a smile in return.

[@designdoctor247]

wow that is thoughtful!

[@buckygoldstein5354]

Right, they’re thinking how much you’re pronouncing it wrong and laughing at your failed attempt to impress them…

[@TheOriginalRick]

@@buckygoldstein5354 Since Mrs. Rick and I were on our 50th wedding anniversary cruise it is a nigh certainty that she's been able to teach me the proper pronunciation of many Filipino words through the past five decades. Perhaps you can share with us your particular ties to the Pinoy community?

[@TheOriginalMarimoChan]

@@buckygoldstein5354 I work with Filipinos, and my pronunciation is horrible and atrocious, but they still really appreciate the fact that I am making an effort to connect with them, and I don't feel that they are being disrespectful behind my back. Many times they tell me they are impressed 🙂

[@buckygoldstein5354]

@@TheOriginalRick 😂

[@dinnes3375]

Great video. I learned some things. Best Wishes. Keep up the good work and research.

[@heideleskun1163]

I tip at the end, I also don't tip the same. They all are great but some do go above and beyond.

[@thaocosgrove7194]

This info is so helpful. Love your channel, because you share stuff that other channels don’t think to share. P.S. I love your cute top!

[@tarabarbre8812]

Our cabin attendant on MSC asked us to not put dishes in the hall. They said it can cause reprimands from supervisors to your cabin attendant, and to just leave them in the room for them to get.

[@bluegrassfan7656]

My wife and I will be going on our first cruise next week, Carnival Paradise to the Bahamas for five days. Already have a seven day Alaskan cruise planned for next summer. Thanks for the tips!

[@jessicaelostaz162]

I start off with $100 per cabin and request 6 pillows , pillow top and ice. I continue to tip all week. I appreciate their help making my cruise relaxing .

[@justcody85]

Me too, except I only ask for pillowtop and a couple of extra pillows:)

[@CUTravel1st]

We got our first pillow top last cruise. Didn’t know what we were missing. Great idea.

[@lochiellass]

Excuse my ignorance, but what is a pillowtop?

[@CUTravel1st]

@@lochiellass it’s an extra topper on the bed to make it softer. When then put the two twins together you may find they separate. The pillow top cover it and makes it more like a bed. So if you like cuddling it’s a big difference

[@lochiellass]

@@CUTravel1st Thanks. We call those a Mattress Topper, which is what I thought you might mean. Good to learn something new today 😀

[@ReneKillion-ft5jh]

Great info. I find everything mentioned is common sense. If you need to be told not to hand a dirty diaper to the staff to throw out,

[@rifkymasri1065]

I do tip a few times during the cruise, I tell them that I like to keep them happy. I saw that they do like it. I never start a conversation with the crew members, but I see that they do like to converse with us. They do start long convos with us.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@rifkymasri1065 great to know, sounds like it’s win win

[@jennyharris8133]

Someone else suggested taking a picture of the face and name badge so when you fill out the survey at the end of your cruise you know who to give a shout out to

[@rickk6700]

Interesting list Ilana. Interesting about the trays in the hallway. On a cruise many years ago we were told not ti do it because trays in the hallway was ca safety hazard especially in an emergency. We were told to leave them in the cabin. Tipping is a controversy. When our butler was extra helpful with my wife is setting up her phone & laptop with wifi I did tip him. I didn't say anything at the time. I think it was appropriate and yes he was probably a bit more attentive for the rest of the cruise. Happy cruising Ilana.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@rickk6700 it seems like it was something that went above & beyond & I’m sure you were appreciative

[@LillieRowe-n6p]

Leaving trays in the hallway is a no-no on Princess. It’s a hazard for people walking and those in scooters can’t get by.

[@debrawhitmore6553]

On my most recent cruise (got home about a month ago), I noticed that there was a small group of passengers who really liked one of the entertainers. After his sets were over they would wave him over and tell him they ordered a drink for him and for him to join them. My observation was consistently that he seemed like he would prefer to not join them but did so out of politeness. Time between sets, time when shifts are over, or breaks during a shift are times for crew members to take a break, take care of personal needs, etc.; not a time to entertain passengers and spend time with them. I tend to tip at the end of the cruise but will also tip during the cruise if the situation warrents it. I also tip people beyond servers, steward, etc. For example, on my last two cruises I have tipped the women who cleaned the public restrooms I most consistently used as they kept them spotless and in good order (they were very appreciative).

[@tigre8124]

Great video! I’ve been guilty of clearing and stacking plates during meals as well as pre-tipping my room attendant; thank you for the clarifications ❤

[@SipWatchTravel]

I only give additional gratuity after the cruise (I always pre tip on the card prior to the cruise) if I get extraordinary amazing service.

[@LifeWellCruised]

Thanks for sharing your experience. We often have the auto gratuity prepaid too, although it will depend for me how I booked

[@SipWatchTravel]

@@LifeWellCruised wait… because you know “insider” things… what about Celebrity and Royal? We only cruise with them so lmk if there’s a ship we shouldn’t prepay.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@SipWatchTravel I meant if I book an inclusive package with tips. Groups often still have that

[@SipWatchTravel]

@@LifeWellCruised ohhhhh. Boo. I can’t do that. 😂

[@marahartwigcline4489]

I've bought Starbucks drinks for my cabin stewards in the past. When I'm leaving to get coffee for myself, I ask them if they'd like anything, and they always seem to appreciate it.

[@larry-wells]

Great advice. My cabin crew introduced me to his supervisor and she gave me her card and said if I have a problem to give her a call, I said to the cabin crew member if I have a issue I'll contact you, he thank me.

[@GrandmasHouseFun]

Thanks for all your great tips! 💕💕💕

[@judylee471]

We ALWAYS pre-pay our gratuities at the time we book our cruise. And we also tip our room steward the first day of our cruise to thank them for putting on a mattress topper, and getting us extra towels and keeping our ice bucket filled. We have NEVER said “There’s more where that came from.” This is OUR choice and we have always done this. ❤

[@RealthingJess]

Yes, that’s exactly what I do ❤

[@kathykovacs3449]

We do that also because we do ask for ice to be in room.

[@annettesegura3654]

Thank you. I was unsure on our last cruise it felt not clean or bad manners but, I saw others put dishes out so we did too.

[@croberts709]

Don't leave trays or plates out in the hall. Most of the time they want you to call them and they'll send someone to pick it up (you don't have to be there). Leaving trays in the hall presents an obstacle for wheelchair and walker users. Just ask if you're unsure when they deliver the food and they'll tell you the procedure.

[@melissamelissa5575]

I agree with not tipping in advance! I brought Thank You cards as advised and left a nice tip for our AMAZING steward, Edy on Carnival….

[@elisa9833]

When I saw the picture of the hand with money, my first thought was "oh no! I tip all the way through the cruise! I shouldn't be doing it!" Thank goodness that wasn't the problem. I carry rolled up dollar bills, usually two to a roll, and tip servers, etc. as the day goes along.

[@ToriE1073]

@@elisa9833 same

[@pamelasmith514]

You always present infomation clearly. A delight to listrn to.

[@lauriestrong9972]

After 30 years of working in restaurants I can say that people clearing and stacking their dishes was the bane of my existence. So difficult to smile as I picked them up. 99% of the time this meant extra work for me. Knives slipping off as I walked, unable to use both hands to collect dishes because the stack required both of my hands either because of instability or weight, more time spent at the dish pass through trying to organize them for the dishwasher, more silverware slipping into the trash as I try to scrape the food off of the plates and, yes, I had to fish it out of the trash. Many more reasons specific to every dining establishment. Please just let your servers/busters do their job

[@lauriestrong9972]

And then TIP GENEROUSLY

[@LifeWellCruised]

Thanks for sharing this. I’ve heard this too, but you’ve explained it so well

[@LongTimeCruisers]

I had a clerk at a grocery store scold me for how I was placing my groceries on the moving belt once. She told me to sort my groceries in a certain way, and I was like "WHAT?". The store required me to place my groceries on the moving belt, but there were never directions on how this was supposed to be done. I was shocked and offended at her approach. Come to find out, the girl was trying to earn some sort of reward by being the fastest checker. She was out of line. Regarding restaurants, if my dishes are not picked up and they are in my way, I will stack and move them out of my way. Sorry if that is the "bane."

[@marlavillari4046]

I am also a former food server. I am also a consumer. I will only stack my plates if they've been in front of me for a long time. Pre-bussing should happen relatively quickly.

[@Shan_Dalamani]

@@LongTimeCruisers Clerks find it helpful if you keep multiples of the same thing together on the belt. I try to do this, but given that we have to bag/box our own groceries now, I'm not going to let them dictate to me how to do things. I do what works best for me. Ditto dishes. If they want it done a certain way, they should pick them up promptly. Otherwise, it's an accident waiting to happen.

[@nowakezoneforever6021]

Tipping costs nothing and requires no effort. Smiling, praising, thanking… recognizing a job well done with some kind words of appreciation… that’s what really counts. Think about yourselves… you go to work, get a paycheck, go home. On and on. Yet, when your supervisor comes by, thanks you, and tells you how much your efforts are appreciated… that makes a difference.

[@jennifergieszl7139]

I was on a cruise and all were told not to leave room service trays in the hall as they present a danger for walking.

[@bbman58]

Interesting video. We typically tip our cabin steward 1/2 way through our trip and at the end. This is on top of the pre-paid gratuities which we always do. And we tip waiters/bar tenders and extra dollar or two when we get drinks. Some of the subjects in the video I kind of went HUH? Helping with equipment? Buying crew drinks? Asking to go to a crew party? Never would have thought of doing that! I like putting our room service dishes in the hall so it doesn't stink up our cabin. I will no longer bus my own table on a cruise.

[@vickywray7285]

My most recent cruise in May, friends went along that had never cruised. I had found out from another cruise friend that NCL didn’t do towel animals unless asked. First day on the ship I saw a young employee in our hallway (I don’t know what the proper name of his position was, I thought he maybe our cabin steward); I asked about the towel animals and he said it was no problem he would do for both of our cabins and then he told me who my cabin steward was. 7 days on that boat and I had NO contact whatsoever from my cabin steward. At the end of the cruise I gave this young man a nice tip because he did exactly what he said and was always very kind, polite and accommodating, he didn’t want to take it because he wasn’t a cabin steward; I did convince him to take it, it was just to show my appreciation for what he had done all week.

[@gerty9250]

I do hope you wanted towel animals because there were also young kids staying in the cabins. Otherwise, that's just weird lol.

[@AlizarinCrimsonClovis]

@@gerty9250 It's not weird to like towel animals at any age!

[@brianpite0893]

Funny that you mentioned buying a cruise employee a drink. Back in 2009 I was on the Prisimdam on a fantastic cruise from Norway to the top of the world. There was a very talented piano player I believe from North Carolina who I was very happy to buy a drink for. The funny thing was when I would offer he would ask if he can have a double! This happened more than once. I was okay with it. He played my requests. Except one...

[@helent1835]

I understand that some cruise lines ask that room service dishes be left on the floor of the hallway, but I think it’s a terrible idea. Consider the number of mobility challenged guests that need to get by. I have personally moved trays so people could get through. Such a hazard!

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@helent1835 I don’t like it either, and in some cases cruise lines will say to leave it in the cabin

[@LostinMayberry]

Leaving room service trays in the hall is a bad idea. Those halls are narrow and last cruise I went on with my sister in law, who uses a wheelchair, had a terrible time getting back and forth.

[@my1mamaw]

Observation: Tipping is guided by the culture you are from, the culture you are visiting, and your own personality. I do think cruise tipping is unique because you are traveling with the same staff, sometimes for weeks or even months, who form a community all its own. On a world cruise from Sydney to Sydney in 2014, we were reimbursed our entire gratuity fee because 99% of the passengers were Australians who do not tip. Being gratuitous Americans, we gave the staff generous tips our last day on board. Our comments must be very confusing to first time cruisers. There is no one right answer. We have always received excellent service, even with special requests, by giving additional cash tips ,traditionally, quietly, in envelopes, face to face, with our sincere verbal gratitude. It works for us. To newbies I say, find what and how you are comfortable giving. Happy cruising!

[@owenmunn3248]

Hi Ilana.Thankyou for the Room Steward tipping advice.

[@pennierea2115]

Funny story on our second cruise the seas were a bit rough . My husband was playing roulette and I went to lido to get us a couple hot dogs. I didn’t want to bring a whole plate to give him a hot dog so I noticed the little bags by the elevator! I put a hot dog in it, gave it to him, after he ate it he put his empty soda can in it and asked a crew member to throw it away. Later on I told my husband that I used a barf bag for his hot dog and he said “ that’s why he looked at me that way! “….. that poor guy didn’t know it was just trash haha

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@pennierea2115 oh my gosh, this is too funny 😂

[@Shan_Dalamani]

So they don't recycle pop cans? I can't wrap my head around that.

[@joahetchells326]

The crew works so hard and often are supporting families back home. I pick 5 crew members that improved my cruise and tip them extra.

[@RAnnD78]

The crew clearing plates only works on very well -staffed ships . Sometimes the pool area looks like a high school cafeteria, especially on sea days.

[@LifeWellCruised]

@@RAnnD78 this could be true, but there still isn’t a place to put things away on your own

[@lisabuchanan2714]

HAL ships usually have a grey cart at the pool that you can place your plate/glass. I never leave it if I can't hand to a waiter directly.

[@designdoctor247]

​@@lisabuchanan2714agree!