Stop Hiding Who You Really Are | The Philosophy of Friedrich Nietzsche

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In this video, I talk about Friedrich Nietzsche and why you should stop running from your problems.
Your growth in life depends on how you spend your energy, and the best way to spend your energy is on solving the right problems. But which problems are the right ones to solve? I can’t stress how important, how critical, this question is. How do you know which problems to work on?
The obvious answer is the ones that cost you a little bit of energy to solve but give you the most rewards. And so naturally, the worst way to spend your energy is on solving problems that cost you a lot of energy to solve but give you the least rewards. But this answer is naive, because it depends on calculating the cost and reward of any individual problem, and if you think about it deeply enough, due to the interconnected complexities of the world, you’ll realize that’s pretty much impossible to do.
Lucky for us, “The Problem of Problems” is actually much easier to solve than you might think. The best problems to solve are the ones that choose you, the ones that naturally capture your interest, the ones that spark your curiosity, keep you questioning, one’s that you’re afraid to confront, but deep down inside, you know you have to. And you know you have to because they’re the ones confronting you-in interesting or threatening ways. It’s been my experience in life that once a problem chooses you, it never lets go. It doesn’t go away on its own. It demands a response. And you really only have two ways of responding: voluntarily confront it, or defend yourself from it. And as Nietzsche said in Ecce Homo, in the long run, self-defence is one of the worst ways to spend your energy.
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[@Virgifus]

Defensive= isolated and exhausted. Vulnerable= being yourself and able to overcome YOUR problems.

[@chimitrey08]

Well damn this short yet epic comment sums it up for me. Do I even need to watch this? .... yes. Yes I am.

[@ccmetalhead]

Seems like a vague and simplified way of putting it

[@LeeAdrian777]

Snoop once said “smoke weed everyday” 😂

[@gabrielraveanu7766]

Well, things are never so black and white. Both are important. Ing Yang, if you will. But you do you.

[@ethantran3765]

​@@gabrielraveanu7766 yea but some people are living in gray and they arent getting anywhere

[@rado147]

Worst thing is that I am afraid to seem arrogant when I "change". I feel like when I want to be friendly and get a long with people, I am "fake". And then there will be point when I am finding negatives in people and moving away from them. I am jumping from overly unconfident and lonely with overly confident and self sufficient. It is hard to find who I really am.

[@ethantran3765]

i feel this heavy but its who we really are the feelings we feel and hopefully the people closest to us will understand. if not then we benefit either way.

[@rado147]

@@ethantran3765 It is harder to find who I really am if I am afraid to be open and vulnerable with people like my family and friends. Feeling like I will be taken advantage of or I will look weak and they will just think I am opening up because I want something from them. And yes, I want understanding from them and support. On the other hand I am afraid, if they will give me something I need, I will ditch them. Crazy cycle in my mind.

[@ty_ke8603]

Been there before and the best advice i could give is to be comfortable with yourself and dont bother with other's opinions. Dont be afraid to seem arrogant and selfish because you know when is too much, sensible people knows how to respect that and dont mind it. Just be who you are and people will naturally come to you.

[@kosovir]

A nice guy!

[@majoris_roborion]

Some people will hate you for that, but they are just *some people*

[@ariannabradley6742]

I’ve been doing this for 15 years (I’m 24 now) and hadn’t realized that each time my true self wanted to shine and step up, fear caused me to allow a false self to step in and agree to/turn down things that would change my life forever. It’s so draining. I just want to find who that kid was from before and try to salvage her mind, body, and dreams.

[@333rdAlchemist]

Same, to recover who I was as a child, that brave and authentic self, would be worth more to me than any amount of money or treasure.

[@smat4214]

What a beautiful comment, hope you achieve it

[@aurora_boketto7746]

Don't try to be her. Be you. That's a thing than may stop you. Choose you. Love you have all the power. You have so much choice. Keep telling that voice, that ego wanting to say u have to be powerless she's wrong. She's a fool. You know you are brave, wonderful, smart and capable. Write a self affirmation on a calendar each day, reassure yourself. The mind and soul and body all need love. Find out which are lacking. It's a lot of self inner work. What things r off balance. I find i have a victim ego mindset. It's common I see here. Know this. Just because one side says something, doesn't make it true. You can do this beautiful BELIEVE. You CHOOSE!! WE CHOOSE AND I BELIEVE IN US ❤️!!

[@AriaHarmony]

You can find her, you can even become the better version of her. I did find mine, lost her at age 7, only found her again at 26, and even then I doubted her greatly, spent a whole year going back and forth on it, expected it to be just a mirage, but it wasn't, it only grew from there when I let it. I grew up obsessed with what adults tell me is "the right thing to do", and a lot of it was limiting, I was scared if I stepped out of line of the norm I might regret it, I had to discard most of my true interests and dreams, because these were far from what people around me would even consider, let alone actually pursue. I deceived myself by thinking I just needed to follow what others are doing and saying to find the "good life", only to find myself tired, in deep depression, and empty inside as the years passed. Nothing was worth it in that life for me. Taking your own path in life of course takes hard work, but what doesn't? That's just how life is, I worked hard for years in that miserable life too, but now in fact challenges energize me rather than tire me like they used to, because now I know I chose this life and I know why I've chosen it. In my book, this is genuine true freedom and happiness. One of the things that helped me greatly is Dr Demartini's "value determination" quiz, you can find it online it's free, it's a bunch of questions to do soul searching essentially, answer them honestly and do it over and over again, don't change your answers for thoughts like "because (insert person name) won't like me then", or "I don't think I can ever afford it", or "maybe I'm not good/pretty/smart/brave/etc enough", and so on. These types of answers are the shit we learn as we grow up, limiting beliefs, it's entirely in your ability to discard them. You got only one life to live, don't waste it on nonsense that makes you miserable at the end of the day. Also, if you're afraid of something, it's either mainly in your head and you will regret wasting your life avoiding basically the monsters under your bed, or it's real and, as this video shows, it will most likely blow up in your face sooner or later anyway, why delay the inevitable? Why waste time? Get on with it so you can move on with your life with less things to be anxious about. Sorry if this maybe not that relevant to you, this was my own journey's lessons and I hope it helps someone out there. Genuinely my best wishes for you ❤️

[@meowmeow8103]

Good luck

[@freonsp]

Hiding inside of a "false personality" reveals the character of who you really are. There are no "fake personalities", just escapism, and the constant shift of morals, ideas, and beliefs

[@Slaughta18]

How to stop being fake in a fake and selfish world?

[@freonsp]

@@Slaughta18 if you want to know "how to stop being fake?", ask yourself what it means to be "real" or true to your character. If that means switching identies around people so you can satisfy your ego, then do that because deep down you are a person who needs the validation of others (nothing wrong with that). If it means to pretend to be someone you "aren't" for social authority then by all means, that shows that you are a coward and that you are insecure about who you are. The only way to stop being "fake", which in this context is being selfish, egostical, and unconcered about other people, is to change your mindset and what your becoming. The world is only as fake as you make it. Your the only person that can change what you become. But the world says what you stand for. Be whatever is real to you and let the world judge wether your character is fake or not.

[@sumiben5211]

@@freonsp I think it is not always about being coward when it comes to social authorities. For example I can’t be open about my apostasy or about being gay in the place where I am for my own safety, how can we call it in this case?

[@freonsp]

@@sumiben5211 You're not a coward if you refrain from telling the government/hostile culture your identity. But when they ask you, and you lie from fear, there are only a few ways you can put it. Safety is important, but if you can't stand up for the beliefs you identify yourself as, can you really call yourself that? Just some food for thought

[@sumiben5211]

@@freonsp as long as you are not in the same position you can’t judge

[@bellabukuru]

This is so true. What I understood is that your environment matters. I quit the “wolves” territory so I can be with myself in peace since I moved out my parents house and specially since I moved out of my small hometown, I’m starting to know myself a lil more. And who I truly am MATTERS. Nobody else but your true self can make you happy. The truth knows the truth. it’s sad that becoming who we truly are isn’t that common/encouraged and quite hard. Specially when you’re young, lonely and in desperate need of a community or to feel accomplished. I once focused so much of getting rid of my loneliness and become someone admirable/popular that I only ended up confused and more sad than ever. It’s not the failures that made me sad. Now that I think about it, just like the video said: I was pouring from an empty cup. My energy was wasted on things that never fufilled me. Now I’m im grown, I’m about to be 25. And I feel like a whole new person. More patient, less impulsive, proud of my small circle. And proud of who I am. Took me a while to realize how resilient and authentic I am, even when people told me. Now I see it. I’m proud of being 1 year and 5 months sober, I’m proud of my 32lbs loss, finally studying in a program for ME. ( art to become an art teacher). I finally know the difference between who I am, who I want to be and who I want to be seen as. There’s still some growth/healing to go through since no human being is ever fully healed and accomplished, that goes against human nature. We seek evolution and happiness and I’m okay with that. I enjoy the feeling of growth, looking back and seeing myself handling things differently. I’m truly praying that God gives me the strength to truly express every single part of my soul and to love myself unconditionally.

[@mrblaze6982]

This is beautiful! Im happy for you!

[@patriciadl3979]

Wow you are worlds ahead for your age.. congratulations! You'll go very far with such beautifully expressed authenticity.. you may be alone, but as you love yourself more, you won't feel as lonely. Good luck to you 💙🦋💙

[@bellabukuru]

@@mrblaze6982 thank you!

[@bellabukuru]

@@mrblaze6982 thank you! I made some friends here and there but honestly my solitude feels like peace now.

[@mrblaze6982]

@@bellabukuru i can relate to that! It can be very comforting in solitude! I wish you all the best! 😊

[@furiousdestroyah9999]

The average person: *literally just wants to be themselves* Family, friends and society: wait that's illegal

[@ericdacortegulinocire4106]

This video is touching. I'm 29 i have no profession, don't know what to do, and i never had any relashionship. I'm sincerely frightened, with thoughts saying it's to late, i can't achieve anything anymore and i will be alone, but i truly don't know about that, the only objective truth in this situation is that i need to keep going, i need to be stronger, i need to face my issues. Im in therapy for about 6 years and if wasn't for that i sinply don't know where i would be today, i'm not in a good spot, but without that struggle i would be in a worse place. I hope that everyone that find themselves in this situation can find strength to endure the struggles and got to the other side.

[@maxgoldstein7202]

You got this bro, stay resilient

[@toastyvlogs8431]

Look into reprogramung your subconscious mind. Look for reprogramming videos on KZbin. Also look for this book on KZbin called the 4 agreements it’s life changing. Search for God

[@benvinda00]

Wishin you the best God put you here for a reason May you find your purpose 🤍

[@JaxAndree]

Sending you love. While you're still breathing, its never too late. 💛

[@TemiArinola88]

You're actually in a place where you can start fresh, once you release the fear, you'll be fine. Main question...where is this fear stemming from? Find a deeper connection to the universe and become more conscious. You'll start to receive your answers.

[@Rovant]

I used to be on ‘self defence’ mode so to speak. Until 2021 I always tried to please people and hide my true thoughts. However throughout this year I’ve found that it’s always worth it to speak your mind & say how you really feel. Great video as always, I’m glad this channel exists

[@newt2120]

till you call beat up for saying the wrong thing - the honest thing, but the wrong thing.

[@Rovant]

@@newt2120 If I get beat up for saying the wrong thing and it’s honest then that’s fine. If I don’t stand for the things I believe then who will? If someone wants to fight me over it and I lose, that’s better than pretending I agree with them

[@newt2120]

@@Rovant alright lemme throw in a scenario for you. say you're trying to get into a night club, but the bouncer won't let you in. and he happens to be a tall, fat balding man, twice your size, and you start telling him how fat and bald he is, and what a lose he must be for working as a bouncer since he could not find a better job. what do you think will happen to you? and is it worth it being honest in a situation like that.

[@Rovant]

@@newt2120 Well we have to draw the line on where honesty just turns into being an asshole. In that situation I wouldn’t make fun of the bouncer for how he looks. I’m talking about giving my true opinions on things which are important. Like if someone asks me what I think of them I’d tell them bluntly rather than sugarcoat it. Same thing if I see someone acting out in a way which I think is wrong, I’ll call them out for it. I’m not talking about being intentionally antagonistic to others

[@shiva_689]

@@newt2120 Making fun of a bouncer for being fat and bald might be a lot of things but 'honest' isn't what comes to mind. It's dishonest behavior because the whole reason you're doing it is because you're butthurt about him not letting you into the club, not because you're so deeply devoted to telling the truth. There's a depth dimension to honesty that you're missing here

[@liztregidga4669]

Thanks!

[@khalilahd.]

I love these little life lessons. I always feel like you post the right video at the right time so thank you 🙏🏽

[@montyi8]

Why do I see your comments everywhere

[@Miriancuaya]

I clicked cause i got it as notification. I think Im supposed to hear this now - at the right time.

[@chrxs5135]

same

[@TheLonelyFoot]

when algorithms are our spirit guides

[@chas3222]

They know man, they know you better than you know yourself

[@Zanmander123]

Let me know how it went, bro!

[@danjones7046]

Gay

[@mav3298]

I am blunt as hell. That alienates a lot of people. However it also makes sure the right ones get let in. Be yourself, trust in yourself no matter what society says. I hope you succeed and live a vibrant life.

[@Digidragon55]

Avoiding conflict ISN’T overall terrible! When you get older you will care more about peace over pointless drama!

[@foxisland6967]

Since classes started in our country I thought having this fake personality I created can help me through out this school year but then I realized that everytime I go home I can't say I'm happy because I know I didn't nourish my true self and I started running away from my problems. But watching this video made me realize that I could face my problems and confront it just by being me. Thank you this video is great

[@Axl4325]

I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I used to put others' needs above my own and I adapted my personality to fit in to a certain degree. It's also funny because I kept telling myself "I am true to myself, I don't try to fit in" and I didn't try to fit in with certain people, but with others I completely bent myself. This caused me so many headaches, so much trouble, such a lack of peace, don't ever do this to yourself please. There are people that will love you for who you truly are, it's not worth the headache to fake it

[@Sesso20]

Thanks for this video, it sadly strikes big time, again. I have been reading Nietzsche as a teen as well, but never to the point, that I got this message out of it; more the thing with the Ubermensch and how we are supposed to overcome our struggles to become who we are. And boi, life had enough struggles for me.. bullying, neglect, fear, depression, death.. but it kept me busy, feeling like I was doing it, when things seemed more in control. I started college, failed, got severely depressed afterwards, because I was in the mindset that, once I got to college and live on my own, it will all work out. Naive.. my concentration, coping skills, social skills, all was ruined from all those previous years. It couldnt work out. And now I am 30, in my masters degree, going to therapy, slowly getting the hang of my stuff and now seeing this, is kind of painful. I know this message. Year after year, the tunnel gets darker and the light narrower. Depression, anxiety, self defence, dissociation are all these skills that my mind came up with to help and it helps to survive, but it really doesnt to flourish. Its detrimental to flourishing and its so hard to unlearn all of this. Thats why I hate this "who you really are" crap, cause it really makes me feel like I am just always pure fake and until I am not fake anymore, its just not living. But yeah, self defence pretty much on the fence here, haha. Whatever, wanted to reread Zarathustra again. Might be a good one. Thanks for the video again! :-)

[@amina-yu2lx]

I mean, you can't flourish if you're not surviving. So if it weren't for all those things that your mind came up with, you never be able to survive, and you wouldn't even know what it means to flourish, right?

[@myrtila]

I’m sorry you feel this way. I think that such philosophical concepts are triggering to you so I’d suggest you don’t expose yourself to such content. You should take care of yourself the way it works best FOR YOU. And you said you’re doing therapy so you’re already in the journey of becoming who you really are, with the most scientific way possible. We should not forget that philosophy is not science and today’s science has debunked many of the concepts philosophers had created from the beginning of times. So I think that in general we should not put so much weight in everything a philosopher has expressed. We have the ability and the means to help ourselves in a much more effective way

[@yerpderp6800]

I get where you're coming from, and I get where the video is coming from. At a similar age and background myself except I'm slowly mustering up the courage to say fuck it and go for what I want. I don't feel like I've ever really been someone other than myself... I can only be me, saying anything else is straight up inaccurate and confuses folks. But have I been satisfied? It's painful to admit it but the answer is no. I ticked off the check boxes...graduated from a top tier school, was on track to make big bucks in the future, had lots of friends, etc. But a lot of this was done out of fear, trying to emulate what I thought happy people had, chasing after fantasies, stuff of that nature. I didn't focus on being happy, I focused on not being unhappy. It sounds the same but it's not, the former is going straight for happiness (confronting the wolves at their den) while the latter is avoidant (fight off one wolf in hopes you'll turn out okay eventually). You can live life avoiding stuff, doing things out of fear, but then you're not doing things out of choice. There's comfort in that, it simplifies life, and there's also frustration because ultimately we are creatures of will and we are not exercising will when we do things out of fear. This relates to the video because ultimately the question becomes (for each individual) of what it looks like when we begin to exercise our will. This doesn't mean you should ditch school, start your own business, and travel abroad...it means pursue what you want to pursue, whether that's going to school, becoming an electrician, doing KZbin full-time, making a metal band, running DnD campaigns for a living, etc. Heck, if you want to ditch school, start your own business, and travel abroad then you should consider going for it. The point is that you're doing things you WANT to do, not things you SHOULD be doing. I'm not advocating for complete disregard towards your duties either, be responsible especially if you have family and friends depending on you. But you don't have to sacrifice yourself in the process of being responsible nor do you have to tell everyone to sod off while you do your own thing, balance is possible. In a sense you are trying to explore what it means to be "who you really are", and I do agree that it's toxic to think you're anything but. Usually it's just folks parroting what other folks have said that they think makes them look and sound deep 🤦🏻‍♂️ I don't think it's completely inaccurate though, the spirit is to find stuff you're willing to engage with 100% by choice. There is no universal answer, no guide for determining how to find those things. And thank god for that, otherwise we would be deprived of our ability to exert choice 😂 But it's painful and likely confusing to wander around in the dark. The best prep is to have support systems in place, learn useful techniques for mental stability, take care of your duties while you search, be open to trying new things, have patience towards others and yourself, and a bunch of other stuff you'll figure out on your own as you keep stumbling. It would be long to write my life story, just know I'm around 30 and it's only recently I'm getting an idea of what I want to pursue by choice, it's never too late to switch gears. The best time would have been 10ish years ago, the second best time is now

[@yerpderp6800]

^forgot to mention how my background is similar lol. I also thought things would magically work out once I got into college...they certainly didn't. Withdrew, did community college, transferred, withdrew a ton of times then rejoined, all while having to learn social skills and other stuff at the age of 23 or so (and I didn't get the hang of it until I was 25 😬). Very depressed at the time, father died when I was 16, also was bullied with some childhood neglect + sex abuse, and other stuff growing up. Shit sucks. No magical words for you. I searched for many years since I was a kid and nothing really helped much other than learning some stranger had it worse than me yet somehow pulled through. Buddhism and bits of Hinduism actually did help me immensely eventually, they didn't help when I was first exposed to them though, I wasn't ready back then. The spark for me was becoming so frustrated with myself and life that I resolved to stop relying on others to figure out what's up (I had done a ton of therapy and tried lots of psych meds up to that point). Idk if it'll be the same for you, becoming obsessed over how to improve my mental health, trying stuff out, understanding why respected folks in psych and religions said certain things helped me realize I could approach my mind as a science to derive. I'm a smart guy, I knew this was something happening in my head, I didn't know whether I could cure it but I could at least improve my mental environment to make it actually pleasant to be in. Effectively take the situation into your own hands, you are a PARTICIPANT, not a victim, and thus you can affect things (so get out of the futile mindset). Not easy, I fell a lot of times and called the national hotline a few times + some other stuff I don't want to mention, but it's doable. It took me 4 years of consistent effort once I gave an earnest attempt at it (for reference I have struggled with depression since 6 yrs old, maybe younger but my memory doesn't extend far back. Lots of baggage to deal with), and now I can confidently say I like my mind. I am my own best friend. Still trying to figure out how to live a life from a place of Will vs a place of fear but at least I don't have to deal with a toxic mental environment at the same time. If someone fucked like me can do it then you can do it too, and what gave me hope back then was even more fucked up people being able to do it. Most importantly, hope is good for the short-term but you really should treat it as a science if you want long-term solutions. How much sleep is ideal, exercise and types of exercise with their impact on you, foods to eat and avoid, best sleeping times, mental triggers to avoid, etc.

[@Sesso20]

@@amina-yu2lx Hello there, Its bad courtesy that I forgot to answer - Thank you for making an effort to offer me this beautiful perspective. 🙂

[@liesareparadox1892]

Sometimes you need to hide your “true” self. Speaking from personal experience I have scared away a lot of people when they figured out I was reading them and how much I was actually learning about them by controlling the conversation.

[@babykrul]

Did you mean well though?

[@galadrix4528]

Wow master manipulator sigma dude over here

[@hanifsulistiyo3559]

If youre against someone elses beliefs, dont mock them for it. Argue and state your points clearly.

[@bellatrixdola1586]

I just turned 28 this year and also just got out of a literal 1 year relationship, he said he broke it off to grow himself. This made me sad but honestly it made me realize I need to grow and figure out who I really am. I found this video and been trying to stay on this side of YT so I can use these videos as a tool to help me gain my real self and stop hiding my real self.

[@cesarpreciado4285]

Be yourself and you free yourself

[@thebestmomentisnow9543]

謝謝！

[@jrscisneros]

Yo awesome

[@amanuelmoges8954]

I have never in my life felt so called out!!

[@jrscisneros]

All I can think is “if I took this advice, my life as I know it would be ruined.” But you’re still right…

[@thetiredtomcat]

Fields soaked in the blood of battle grow better crops than ever afterwards. You don’t have to throw a hand grenade into your life. You’ll be surprised at how the people you think you’ll devastate are thinking the same thing or will admire your courage

[@maxszeto7030]

I needed this. I know where the light is at the end of the tunnel, I just have to start walking towards it and not closing my eyes and blindly stumbling wherever.

[@Mjkey_M]

Glad I found the people necessary help me discover Nietzsche. I am genuinely grateful.

[@bluestrife28]

3:34 on every answer I had was “every damn day.” That’s crazy. Thanks for this. I’ve always been a Nietzsche fan and am good at being a broken wreck trying to fix itself, this kind of thing is great food for thought.

[@bphifer]

I find this to resonate quite deeply and yet as a man with a wife and kids to provide for, I feel it necessary to stick to the path that will provide for my family…and it seems currently that this will have to be at the expense of ever really uncovering my true self. “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” -Henry David Thoreau

[@alysononoahu8702]

✌️

[@joeshmoe9177]

I’d say that Gary Vaynerchuk has great advice on this. Take whatever spare time & energy you have at the end of the day and use it to slowly start building a life that you want to live. He references social media / content creation as the main vehicle for doing this, but the principle still applies even if you don’t use those methods. I’m no expert just wanted to relay some info that I found insightful. Hope this helps

[@yerpderp6800]

It's not a black or white issue. People in similar backgrounds have been able to pull off living a life they want to live while still being responsible. It could be difficult and require years to carry out but at least it's better than simply shrugging your shoulders and resigning yourself to a fate you don't want because of some excuse. If there have been single moms with several kids that were somehow able to get a degree while working two jobs, I don't think you have a valid excuse lol.

[@Twomps]

I know you wouldn't want your kids giving up on becoming who they really are when life gets hard. Please don't do that to yourself. You don't want to be an old man and look back on life regretting all the things you always wanted to do but never took action towards. You are setting an example by the way you carry yourself in life. You owe it to yourself and your kids to be who you really are. Never stop growing, live righteously to yourself

[@lydson]

Great video. I liked the way you explained it. We spend a lot of time pretending to be someone else when other people actually don't care. It's better to be ourselves and be happy even if we lose some people on the way. Surely, just the best will remain.

[@aurora_boketto7746]

"It's an impossible battle" "Those are the battles you have to fight! The impossible ones. That's how you know it's worth it" "I don't need to I can survive" "Surviving Isn't the same as Living." "You have to LIVE" - Anna (Elsa's sister) OUAT Awesomely perfectly aligned as I've found this and decided to be who I really am again. We can do this. We're doing this x good luck to everyone 🤍

[@teguhirawan5827]

Today i think my problems is so big just because i always defend and run away from there. But after watching your video i understand what i have should to do. Thank you so much..

[@Potencyfunction]

If is so big your problem you can come to me and I would be able to solve your ego barriers.

[@anson_roberts]

Thank you for creating this. I can’t state strongly enough how much I needed this. Much gratitude to you brother 🙏🏼

[@JMPMOKAY]

I thank you

[@Nicoladen1]

Great video, just what I needed. If you can't be yourself then you're a nobody. You're neither yourself, nor are you someone else. You lack a core so all you can do is act in such a way that'll please whoever you're with.

[@PigeontoedP]

You actually described me. You’re right the problems never go away. I always feel resentful

[@Miu-vw3qz]

This..one hit a bit too hard at the tooth of all my problems. Trying to get along with my hypocrite mother and sadist, manipulative brother, I ruined myself inside out. I was willing to continue it until I realized the way my father looks at me when I say something I didn't want to say,or act a certain way I was expected to. It was as if he was saying, "Is this what is to become of my artistic, intuitive, open minded daughter? Are those two enough to break you and your willpower like this?" And I used to be extra careful around him. Now I realized what his frowns truly meant, and inspired to break away my facades. A big thank you to my dad for this, and to you. This video was truly inspirational and parrellel to my own thoughts. P.S. English is my second language and my tacky grammar and sentence structure mostly relies on which author's book I'm reading at the moment,haha.

[@hgcalben8241]

This was beautifully explained. I am on the journey of becoming who I am. From Nietzsche, Jung, Greek's Know Thyself, and the struggle between the Internal & external worlds in Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey; Becoming who you really are seems to be the deepest problem we can solve for ourselves.

[@matthewstewart5113]

My life's work has been spending my energy on solving the world problems. What I've come up with, they keep you living a fantasy as to keep US from our true potential.

[@kaloloSKV]

Beautiful teaching !

[@hgzmatt]

Being yourself doesn't mind speaking your mind whenever something comes up. It means being true to you and it can also mean thinking things through, reflecting and considering other people's needs before doing something about it.

[@ozdelvalle5940]

I am going through a rough patch in my career change right now. This philosophy lessons are great motivation!

[@Ryanthebrobdingnagian]

What's stressful about this is exactly what you said in the beginning. It took a long time to even realize I was doing it. Once I did and worked to change, I lost some friends because they thought I was someone else. It makes me sad that I did that but I think we it was self preservation. Either way, I'm now always trying to pay attention to when I don't say what I what or act the way I wish. It's a process, but its getting easier.

[@wiandryadiwasistio2062]

as an asian, this is a vital video and perhaps every people living in asian household/workspace need to see this video. like, what you just stated here is similar to ‘honne’ and ‘tatemae’ and confronting the ‘tatemae’ and embrace the ‘honne’ more

[@krissybee2484]

I don’t have the energy for false identities anymore. Losing and gaining friends simultaneously.

[@junebug2850]

I am fake with everyone, even my own family. Everyone thinks i'm this good girl who does her chores and goes to school everyday, and gets good grades and talks kindly to everyone. But that's only my fake personality on the outside that i adopted, on the inside i am hurting so badly. Whenever i tried to show the real me and try to come to anyone for emotional support, they berate me, and tell me how bad THEY feel instead, as if me bringing my problems to light for help makes everyone upset. So for about 2 years i haven't really been myself, i pretend to be a happy, hard working school girl who does her chores and talks kindly. Because if they don't want to know and help the real me, then I wont be me and I'll be fake. I hate people.

[@donnichols6766]

Sometimes it's not false identity it's the various roles that a 'particular character is required for the task' i.e- parent, spouse, manager, etc.. hopefully the person and personality don't vary too much one to the other

[@DizGuys]

I've been searching for this solution for quite some time. Thank you.

[@dennish72]

True. Becoming your übermensch through suffering and learning and changing is life purpose

[@ollep0lle]

I cant count the amount of times Ive held back what I wanted to say. Even though I knew it was the right thing to do. Thanks for the help, I will do my best!

[@kistar3460]

This video is so good, it got me thinking about those false identities I didnt know I had.

[@DenkyManner]

I wouldn't take this too literally, personas are vital for moving around in the world and interacting with strangers. Don't keep up a persona with friends and potential partners but for everything else use judgement. Don't pretend to like things you don't, but don't bother expressing your dislike, no one cares and it's purely ego trying to make itself feel better

[@alexandrasteele8336]

The question is not only "which are the right problems to solve?" but additionally: "How best do we define these problems, so that everyone has a similar/the same understanding of them?" because HOW we define the problem is just as important. It guides the problem solving process in deeper ways than we imagine.

[@dnapi]

I totally brought up that topic in my first “couples therapy” session LOL😅😮❤

[@TheBoon14]

Best KZbin channel hands down. Such necessary and profound lessons, should be taught in schools.

[@Oubayy]

Always run away from your problems, it's a free workout

[@nicholasvargas6397]

That's terrible advice but u do u I guess

[@chaloevibes4355]

🤣🤣🤣

[@foxisland6967]

Lmao xd

[@rolypoly2799]

LMFAO🏃‍♀️🤣😂😅

[@ProfessorCypdog]

😂

[@JoshxIZ]

I got social anxiety and understand now that i unconsciously create a false personality. I become stale & conforming as soon as i'm in a group off ppl or people i don't know very well...but I'm always striving to break free from it, I need time to warm up to new people...but often I can't snap out of it, it feels impossible. It drains all my energy and I have trouble sleeping because I ruminate over all the things I should of said and done in the moment...but im to quick to do things to please others. That's what I hate about myself.

[@tyfife79]

Idk if you take recommendations but I'd love to see a video on Compassion and how it can help us understand ourselves, others and the entire universe! Great work here, as usual.

[@sumiben5211]

Sometimes we have to hide our true self for our safety

[@naiforeverTv]

This is the one. Having grown up in household with a parent I couldn’t be myself around.

[@newt2120]

or for others' safety

[@PsychoLogisch]

Don’t kill the wolves - share some food and gain some friends - befriending your inner demons is the first step in the right direction

[@harrybellingham98]

im tired of fighting the negative thoughts

[@Tello_X]

Your videos are so amazing. Indeed, freedom in thought exists.

[@wanderingdaze7018]

Everyone has multiple identities when your at Work, Family , friends , and the real you wen your alone

[@fraenklimann]

Yes, great video. I work on that for decades now but still had a revelation for changing myself some months ago.... and yes, there is no goal better than that.

[@jmk113]

Now this ytchannel is my fvrt one😊✨👍

[@tonyping2262]

Thank you for the advice! I really needed to hear this right now

[@tomhurley974]

imagine telling your friends and family what you really think of them. You would have no friends and your family would despise you

[@Bandicoot1234]

This is so hard when you spend 39 hours a week in an office in which you essentially have to be fake. You can't be fully relaxed and yourself in an environment where everyone has such different personalities, however you have to get along. Keeping good work rapport is critical to earning more success

[@maryjudielangus3301]

All my life I spent like the cave man with wolves trying to hunt me, this vid really helps THANK U THIS REALLY HELPS FOR SELF GROWTH!

[@tomgabel99]

This video is awesome and really was right for me at this time. Thanks. Also, the philosophy of Nietzsche in 8 minutes. Excellent!

[@gusherrera3609]

Dude this video changed my life thank you for making it!

[@emilianoe9568]

Blooming and flourishing, thank you for this video.

[@mariamolashkhia5140]

~Just because you can't see the light, it doesn't mean it isn't there~ Remindes me of LP

[@DoglinsShadow]

Love this. Thank you! You are right. In my case the problem is not the false personality but the addiction to avoiding the problems… but it leads to the same, hollow result…

[@victherocker]

Reminds me of those movies where a victim is bullied until they can't take it no more and decide to confront the bully and show them they can't be messed with no more. Very good teaching.

[@Anna_kandy]

People don't help you. That's one thing I learn, you seek help in places like this, in faith, in self and more so, in God.

[@UnknownKnower2]

"The main way we defend ourselves is through the construction of false identities."

[@goonerscalise]

I enjoyed this video. I think there were some strong remarks that resonated for sure.

[@sztrife1]

WOW What an inviting video, really well narrated and an important piece of understanding reality. Our energy should be redirected by perspective, and perspective is changed via thought. Optimist thoughts make way for ideas and solutions, looking to learn and advance, and grow of course. Understand what is going on and be responsable. In that way you shall build character and create better reality, best life and situations, you can take control freely, decision and liberty. It's a long way, but a good way alas, tho sacrifices will have to be made. I hope you do embarck in your journey

[@rafaelbaere1707]

Avoiding solving problems is a sign of our times, a sign of degeneracy and decadence. A sign of weakness. Of course I am talking about the problems that really matter.

[@manchesterunited9576]

Yeah like climate change, homelessness and poverty for example

[@hungrygator4716]

@@manchesterunited9576 Those, and personal problems. In our society we can run away from the demons inside us through distractions, we use drugs, sex, food, internet, and others to distract ourselves from our deep problems. It's hard to solve climate change, homelessness when we can't clean our own room and care for our own mind.

[@manchesterunited9576]

@@hungrygator4716 Personal problems aren't separate from societal problems

[@DrRichardDolphin]

This is where I am. I've been struggling with alternate personalities and fighting disassociation, built up from early childhood as defense mechanisms and a way to process the world, avoid pain and disapproval. I'm so incredibly lost where I am at and lack the self esteem or confidence to even post the most basic of social media to try to open back up. I do not have friends I can be myself with, I am always playing a role out of fear of rejection or nonacceptance. I have been fighting to keep my "true self" alive for a very long time but it's slipping. This has cost me a life, lots of relationships, jobs, careers, and countless simple, positive interactions and opportunities. The only reason I'm posting this is simply because I don't comment, ever. The anxiety caused by simply knowing it's visible and that somebody will inevitably see it and respond, usually with something mean, sarcastic, or demoralizing enough to make me just straight up delete the post or comment, is too much to make the comment or post even worth posting.

[@TheArmyofHades]

Used to be like that too although not nearly as severe as your case. But i had a thing where i believed i did not belong whenever i was with a group of friends i always felt something was off, like they didnt understand me or that i couldnt connect. Truth is it was completely my fault i was playing a character rarely if ever saying whats really on my mind for fear of rejection. If you constantly play a role you wont ever feel like you belong. When i started to act like i really am even though i feel i am annoying abrasive and caustic sometimes people seem to enjoy my company ALOT more than when i was a faker who pleased everyone. I can be an asshole even arrogant at times but above all i am true and people click more with it and they appreciate my honesty, hence they can trust me and prefer my word over someone who tells.something just to please them. Try it. Whenever you are about to tell a lie catch yourself, even if you spout a lie tell the other person sorry that wasnt true what i really think is X and Y. Do it and see where it takes you. If tou have friends that arent worthy of your time you might remain alone for a while but i 100% guarantee you will find more and better quality people in your life through this method. More people appreciate honesty than those appearing.

[@julian7434]

I believe in you

[@Aj__Lopez]

You’ll be a lot happier once you just do what feels like you without worrying about the outcome of what someone else thinks. You’ll come to realize that more people will gravitate towards you because they can see the authenticity and become more comfortable around you because of that. Just try it and I promise you’ll have better results and feel more free. I believe In you

[@ilda89]

'Wich problem the solve?' I'm already overwhelmed. Wrong day

[@Audrey-mc4zp]

These are all amazing, thank you for creating content like this. You’re saving my life.

[@north_star_yt]

Wow. Perfect message &perfect timing

[@truethehero]

Your energy must be directed at the right problems. Absolutely! I’ve got a lot of videos on similar topics and this channel is a big influence for me. Be well y’all.

[@claudnero]

I think for me, I find that I speak from a place of trauma and in that, I become paranoid and my default position is that everyone is an enemy. With thought and consideration I can at least soften that. But I agree with the video, I would rather just speak and just work through it. It’s so tough though, I’ve been doing this for a while now, I don’t trust myself :/

[@spmoran4703]

Often people hide the true self , but one cannot . There are gesture that the learned person can see , that you cannot . So a person puts on a mask. Learned people can see behind the mask. It's hard to be yourself , but , for survival , one must be oneself . It's the best . Attack means the wolves flee. Attack the wolves of a sick society , by being yourself , scars and all. No one obtained greatness with out being a rebel to 5he normal. Be that rebel.

[@IgnoranceBegetsConfidence]

The music. And the delivery is not aimed at a person's analytical/reason side of the brain. How it's delivered is more emotional like a preacher. Which is how I would deliver it if I thought less of my audience. And how I would start my cult if I was self obsessed

[@kiwiviking175]

Surprisingly erudite and thought provoking for a bot! Well done indeed; got my 'like'!

[@grandvianna8551]

Currently in my best attempt at this at 36 years old. Dont ever stop trying. Its worth it.

[@sairentokira4632]

Thank you I really need to hear this😭

[@thefoofanman]

The universe has impeccable timing :) I love it.

[@Cookiemariaxo]

I am new to your channel! Your videos are amazing and help change my life so much thank you. ❤️

[@alysononoahu8702]

"Trying on" different things when we are younger helps us develop into who we are. Drinking and drugging kept me from that important work for decades. Don't make the mistake I made. Becoming myself after 45

[@EveryDollarMade]

Never too late though, congratulations

[@cas5631]

Your videos are really good, I always get new insights of them!

[@DMQ_Joshua]

I have like 3 different personalities. One is when I used to deal with social people, another is when I used to behave with my parents, and the last is when I'm alone.

[@JasonTheOneAndOnly]

I recently started to face my problems, it hurts but ya gotta try.

[@univenko]

Love your videos! and the thumbnails too!

[@midnight62440]

That's what I want To listen for so long 🥺

[@shinobiBUNK]

The only problem. Amazing video btw, thanks. The only problem, is this works off the assumption there is a "real" you that can be uncovered. But I've been currently concluding that there is no true or real self. And in that case, how do we live? How should we live? What long lasting structure can be built on a foundation of sand

[@nobody9621]

Thank you for making this video, it is actually cool that we found videos like this. It give us a great knowledge that could help us a lot in the situation we were face now. We should be grateful be able to living at time like this with advanced technology, we can gather informations easily and even interesting. Now i can get why self - defence is not forever good. I hope i can get out from it and getting better.

[@Mr.SirMan]

"I'm a screw-up, I'm going to fix it." I'm going to use those words every time I wake to a new day for fuel.

[@terrybu]

becoming who you really are is the most valuable and meaningful thing that can be achieved in this life :)

[@dhruvgehlot7533]

Thank You Very Much! This Is An Extraordinary Video 😎👍