Stop Living Life on HARD MODE | 4 ways to live stress-free

[@TikaGhafar]

Part 2 of this video just dropped today! Link here if you guys are interested 😇 kzbin.info/www/bejne/qZWtd5ZjoMh3Zq8si=D_UWup3xqYJ_BHvf

[@maverickwong671]

Great video and reminder to live life! I'm in my 50s. We all go thru this phase of feeling young n wanting to over achieve in our 20s n 30s. A couple of life lessons .. 1. Put diet, sleep, exercise, stress management and family bonds as top priority. 2. A life well lived is contributing to the well being of people around you. 3. It is OK to slow down n rethink n refocus. 4. Achievements n success takes consistent hard work n focus. Just put in the effort n be consistent n patient. 5. Listen to your mind n body for your own physical n mental well-being. Take care!

[@TheMagicCrafter]

Thank you for this! I have a job, relationship, chronic illness/ medical problems, a small business and normal life responsibilities (obviously). It all takes so much out of me that sometimes it's hard to even sleep at night (which is my favorite thing to do lol). Not sure how or where to scale back or outsource , but 100% need to. It has become an exhausting balancing act 😶

[@TikaGhafar]

that's a lot to handle! completely makes sense that it's affecting your energy/sleep. i hope you recognise that you've been a superhuman trying to juggle it all, but i also hope you manage to outsource some of these things soon to regain some sanity haha. all the best to you!

[@chorko696]

I'm Asian as well, and while I agree with most of what you said - it is not possible for most of us to quit our jobs and do something that we like (even though we want to). The courage to do that is definitely influenced by how much wealth your family has hoarded over generations - the more the wealth, the more the freedom to make a choice. For most of us, we are bound to soulless jobs because we are in the trap of generational debt, and with so much inflation, it's just hard to pay that off while trying to build up a corpus to live a fruitful life.

[@twice.supremacy]

I think its more balance. If the job is really horrible you should not make yourself suffer. But if you just dont like it but still have things that give you joy its fine

[@elianaalzate03]

"I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, and not the life that others expect of me." Wow. That struck home. I feel like the creative apth that I initially set myself upon started molding itself into the trajectory that society expects of me. But at the same time, it's also my internal pressures that push me toward a harmful path, so it's been quite a journey to redirect myself toward a life that feels true to myself. Thank you for this video, I hope anyone else on this adventure of self-discovery finds peace and comfort in their reality one day.

[@RobImaginar]

I'm 22, did not go to college. I cannot say that I am living an easy life, but I am living the life and the struggle that I chose to. To have the freedom to choose what you want to learn, and unlearn makes my life content

[@graspinginfinity7655]

from the The Top Five Regrets of the Dying book: 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

[@tkylem8993]

"The scariest part about dying is not the actual dying itself but dying without having done all the things that I want to in this lifetime." That hit me like a brick in the best way possible. Thank you! Congrats on having the courage to take the leap away from a career that wasn't working for you!

[@TikaGhafar]

aww you are most welcome! so glad you liked the video. thanks so much for dropping such a lovely comment. i'm excited for this new chapter ahead for sure :D

[@rijinpark5355]

I was diagnosed with a cancer almost one month ago.. I left my job, I'm still 20, but my family has financial problems, that I was trying to carry of a little bit by working. But now, I'm just feeling wrong, because I can't do anything to help. I don't know what should I do. Your video is so comforting, I'm so thankful for the talk you said❤️

[@theartofeducation187]

are you fine , now , i dont have any suggest about this , just say that " each day is a different happiness " , let enjoy it , all cancer diseases are alleviated by using so much fishes to provide omega and so much vegetables , fruits such as pineapple. You dont have anything to lost , let try it

[@Chikou14219]

Girl, thank you so muchhh for this video!! I’m 27 and am certainly an optimizer but being mediocre in some areas and feeling so bad about it. The #2 is a big driver of that. One of the most valuable videos I’ve ever watch. Thankkkkk you so much!!

[@scylentknyte]

I resonate so well with your second point! I feel validated quitting my good paying job without having another lined up. “To be honest only very few people in my life know exactly how I feel about this topic” I felt that soo hard lol.

[@itsclauds7554]

This is my favorite kind of content! The fact you said "evidence based" self improvement is so cool! With all the noise online, it's hard to know who to listen to so having the evidence to back it up is really meaningful

[@saralencastre9763]

I am a few years older and definitely can relate with the feeling of “not really afraid of death” but of not creating or doing the things I really wanted ✨ the last year I started to have some health issues and that alone made me think a lot about that and starting to take action in any way that I can!

[@kyleb4142]

Refreshing how self aware you are and we can almost see you grow as a person in realtime. Very inspiring. Hope all the best for you

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you for this lovely message! excited to be sharing more with upcoming vids :)

[@marina_souto]

I can relate to you so much that it felt like you were describing me in the first few minutes of the video, hahah. Great content; I 100% love your tips. I love how you bring some freshness to this KZbin niche. On one end, you're not romanticizing everything like many KZbinrs do, and on the other, you're not trying to force an extreme mindset on people and feed them motivational quotes, leading to burnout. You're just living your life realistically and sharing what you've learned in a very honest, clean, and helpful way. No 'impact statements', no motivational speeches, just someone eager to live life to its fullest. I love it!

[@alexaugsto]

That's exactly what I was thinking. People showing around how to have a nice imperfect life while acting perfect. Tmj

[@TikaGhafar]

This made my day! So glad you appreciate my content 🥺💖 tbh I do like consuming this kinda stuff too so I can totally relate to what you're saying. I think the era of disingenuous/romanticised content is slowly coming to an end since more people are looking for authentic/imperfect content that more closely reflects their own experiences.

[@diabeatit5189]

They're actually not judging you most of the time. Two main things happen, a genuine curiosity about your decision, and projection of their own fears. Most who feel they are being judged, still have work to do on the fawn spectrum. Really enjoyed the video. glad you got out of the rat race at such a young age, ESPECIALLY with all the pressures in Asian culture.

[@thurtymen459]

Fellow M'sian here - great to see someone in our hustle-at-all-costs culture choosing their own path! I've been facing many similar issues in my life as a 26 year old. Thanks for your reminders!

[@crossinthatroad]

First point was amazing since past few days I've consumed lots of self-improvement content and they always hit you with your physical health, mental health, spiritual, morning and night routines, being social, dating, etc. It was refreshing to know thats in the long run and focusing on one (or a few) aspect(s) over trying to balance everything is more beneficial. Saved my sanity.

[@JazzyArtKL]

Just found your channel! I'm a Dutch expat working in KL, Malaysia. Simplifying my life and prioritizing task is extremely important. Subbed.

[@michaelsokov9837]

I also had big problems sleeping. I solved this problem by moving the gym workout from the evening to the morning and reducing the intensity. After that I felt the desire to sleep towards night.

[@kubriela]

Girl I never felt more connected than this in a while! Same struggles, same path, same hustles, same community, same feelings..💔I wish you the best in your KZbin journey!

[@possumsednolo404]

I love the size of the leaves of the plant in the background. I have two smaller versions of this, hope repotting will help them.

[@DMH52]

Hmmm... my happiest moments were when I was stressed and overwhelmed, which forced me to think outside of the box on those issues and push past them. Now, as a 51 y/o successful man, everything has become far simpler, leaving me wanting those moments back.

[@PUSH_PULL_sc]

You're so pretty. And the frame is just so aesthetic.

[@zwarner2954]

I had a career change, hoping to feel more fulfilled. After 10 years of being in my current career, I realized no job is fulfilling. It pays for my cost of living and lifestyle. I channel finding fulfillment in hobbies and volunteering.

[@YTDan]

Wow, you are the first person on KZbin to explain my feelings about working in corporate. I, too, had an "I can't do this anymore" moment. I also decided to move to the internet. Good luck!

[@charlieplays_]

Fellow Malaysian here! Somehow your video popped up on my recommendations. I'm planning to quit my corporate job as soon as Q2 begins, with no new job on standby. I'm determined to focus on crypto fulltime. We do this.

[@rhianbatey197]

Thank you first time watching from Australia Gold Coast and love the advice I am 40 so really helps I will be back xxx

[@kayodevisser]

The part about just going to Sweden and not really having a solid plan and not caring about what others think really resonates with me. Currently contemplating to do the same and head back to Taiwan for some months after just having visited it for 2,5 weeks. Thank you for sharing. This makes me even more sure of my (very unplanned) plan to just go and see. A new environment and new uncertainties will cause your brain to think in ways it never has! You'll feel alive, I'm sure of it. Have a good time in Sweden!

[@andyn6053]

Sitting up at 6am and watching this video after a night of way too little sleep. Burned out from my corporate job and now having an anxiety about going back there on Friday when my current sick leave expires :( Greetings from Sweden

[@novanewchorus]

Productivity culture is based around: certainty, consistency, individuality. However life is constantly: uncertain, variable, and full of people I think why productivity often becomes more vanity than reality is because the first paradigm can't succeed, so vanity is all you get from it. While the second, it's much much harder to point at any one thing you did or feel in control, even though you may effortlessly succeed more.

[@brainybananaproduction]

Please provide more details on how I can quit my stressful job and hire a cleaner and a cook. Definitely agree with you that my life would immediately switch to “easy mode”.

[@harshitamaurya524]

Thanks for your help. I really want to achieve everything in my life but now I am focusing on only two task to get done in one day after my engineering college. I got know that I am always hard on myself 😢.

[@ma-dr5te]

i feel like i could finally release this tightness in my chest after hearing you talk about leaving your job without another immediately lined up. I’ve been working in a stable and easy job since college, but it leaves me feeling like a ghost most days. So this year I decided to not re-contract and quit. I have no plans of what to do after that, my job is location based so I’ll also be moving away from my work friends. Completely restarting in a sense. I have been scared and confused, but in my heart I just knew that this was time for me to leave, and hearing someone else go through a similar experience makes me feel a lot less afraid.

[@momenTheDev]

Please make this a podcast and post on spotify and streaming platforms. Great video!

[@pvsk10]

You remind of my daughter. I wish you all the best!

[@ninjal7588]

Enjoy exploring Sweden, I bet it will be quite different to other places you've been to! I'm from Finland which is quite similar to Sweden and I recently spent a month in Barcelona, it was very different even if they're both the EU and I thought more things would be similar as there's a lot of EU regulations. I recently bought my first home and it's quite old and there's some wallpaper I don't like. However, paying someone to get it off and paint it would be equal to one month of my salary(would take 4-5 months to pay off considering I do have expenses)... But luckily I don't really dislike DIY work so I will do it myself. Just a con of living in a highly equal country haha. My host in Barcelona was from China and he would never do anything by himself.

[@Willakimbo_]

I really appreciate this video! I’m the same age as yourself and I related a lot with what you say here. Keep up the great work, looking forward to see more!

[@TiaanKruger]

I realised a while back that your "off" time counts just as much as your actual work time. that time spent resting allows you to do your job better. so when I need to get something done in my off time I compare the price to get someone to do it vs what I would "earn" (for example per hour salary rate) in that same period. if it is less than I would "earn", I pay someone to do it.

[@ChristinaAaliyah]

This was so golden, so valuable!

[@IKidoriI]

I have some thought regarding this video. First of all, the first thing that really rang a Bell was the "optimizer" mindset. I think i brought myself in a position to call myself a optimizer and most recently i got the feel that i feel like i'm missing out or wasting time if i do things that don't stick to a bigger plan you might say, an bigger outcome/goal of any sort. It made me depressed because i felt the urge to do something that is "just a waste of time", and then i looked at my regular activities they all felt like work. I think its quite hard to balance between taking risk and leaving an surrounding that does not fit for you and getting your self in trouble. I guess its kind of a privilege to do that and not get hold up in fear and risk having a place to life, for example. Also i want to mention that to do simple tasks that you hate or you are not good at can also bring great learning and will make your life easier every time you do them. I don not think having someone to clean your flat is a bad thing, i was thinking about that myself for example, but i you outsource everything that does not fit, the space you might fit in tense to get tidier and it can hinder life. Although this was a great video, thank you for sharing. Especially the part about the optimizer i needed to hear. I hope you are doing great. Cheers

[@dr.rakibul232]

Soo similar thoughts like me....thanks dear for sharing!

[@merissastockton]

I would absolutely enjoy a part 2

[@w2best]

Welcome to Sweden! If you're in Gothenburg and need a place to work/edit stuff you're welceme to have one of our extra desks! Our office is SUPER cozy and right next to Järntorget. :)

[@yarmohammadi]

Bruh! You're only 27 and you've achieved so much. Enjoy your vacay and keep these awesome vids coming. Cheerios!

[@antonvoloshin9833]

A can't agree that internet really helps to find like-minded people, so I just learned to be alone and don't let my solitude somewhat limit me in life.

[@RandomKSandom]

I know that you're probably just making the point at 7:23. But just in case, I thought that it would be worth telling my story: I'm coming to the end of a similar journey that you are beginning. I will try again, but for now I haven't succeeded in making it sustainable, but I did do a lot of cool stuff with this time. When I had conversations with friends and family, I saw excitement, envy, and curiosity, more than judgement. Although there was a little of that and concern from time to time. I hope that you make your journey sustainable. I'm definitely going to try again when the time is right.

[@oradanburadan162]

Wow I relate with you A LOT. Instant subscribe.

[@hidemat5141]

Noted. Thanks!

[@Salmon_nigiri]

Getting sleep is the most difficult. Would be interested in video on this topic

[@stephanienystrom759]

Same for me. Not having life balance is so often om my mind since I got my current job. And sleep is a major factor

[@JERiCKiMAGE]

I love your content, they are insightful. Keep it up, you’re killin it. 🙌🏼

[@TikaGhafar]

aw thank you so much!! just the encouragement i needed today fr 😩✨

[@JERiCKiMAGE]

@@TikaGhafar as content creators, it’s nice to be reminded sometimes that our hard work is having a positive impact on others, not that we need the validation, but it’s just nice & feels good 💯🤣

[@oriklake]

What an amazing video! You included great references, examples and personal experience into the information you presented which makes it much more professional and trustworthy. It’s also very relatable.

[@TomBurgundy]

Great video. A lot of what you said really resonated with me, especially # 2. I feel like I’m going through that thing currently. I can’t see myself at my current job much longer.

[@mariak7377]

I am agree with you like 100 percent, but unfortunately, due to different circumstances, not all people can just turn their life like they want, for example some people can't easily quit job they hate cause they need money to buy some food for their kids.. so it's not enough to give advice to people - like do what you want, don't do what you don't want, it would be cool if you give advice how implement it in real cases

[@dalilah444_]

I’m in school right now for Computer Science. I chose this path but I do not see myself being in the corporate world forever. I do need to improve my income. C.S degree will allow me to do so and I enjoy learning about computer science. I want to day trade as well. I plan on that becoming my main source of income for the future.

[@EkaterinaGolubeva-pr9ih]

Thanks a lot ❤ Please make a part 2

[@ralukky2311]

Thank you for this video! I never thought I would actually resonate with any type of “living healthy” videos, because a lot of the ones that I’ve seen are just superficial affirmations & basic advices. But watching this video of yours was awakening for me. Congratulations! It is truly an amazing thing what you do - to be able to share such a good and powerful energy just through a video. (& btw, I also struggle with sleep😅)

[@AbuAshrafQuaderIqbal-b5o]

Thanks. I like the content. Your presentation is nice.

[@bradcrafton4929]

Very nice video, I picked up some useful insights

[@mattsalix]

Wow, so grateful for finding you 🙏 And respect for your courage to go your own way ❤

[@adachannmentalhealthcrisis]

Dear Tika, I find you unbelievable intelligent and knowledgeable for your age. ❤ I am trying to build a KZbin channel and I would like to find like minded people, but it's very hard to find. I live in Switzerland, where everything is very expensive, therefore we MUST learn to do everything alone, because any additional help is awfully expensive. I struggle to get views and I become demotivate when comparing the time and energy necessary to make videos and the very poor result from the views point of view ❤

[@rosiew8-fenn]

Yes please - would love to see a part 2! Xx

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much for the feedback! part 2 coming soon for sure :D

[@Huskarlz]

Omg im on the same boat right now. Dropping the ball on the job. And kinda anxious about it. Nothing lined up. Going to look forward on some side jobs. Definetly looking for a better environment... i dont feel alone now.. i just wonder how it will all turn out..

[@affinnen]

We hired a cleaning service as well and it was the best idea ever!

[@brainbox9219]

I get bad sleep because I got work at 2:30pm today, it’s almost 8:30am, haven’t gone to sleep yet and instead, I’m watching this video 😅

[@lilyhuang2311]

I noticed you have Malaysian Ringgit, so I assume you live in Malaysia. It's great to see that you're also living in Malaysia like me. I watched your video because I'm an English learner, and I not only learned English but also admired your positive attitude towards life.❤😂

[@tommysiharath6988]

yep. Sleep is one of the best things for us more than anything, yet it's the thing that's so easy, yet difficult to do. We like squandering time in the day and then try to use up even more at night because we didn't do what we wanted to do in the day.

[@ey.adrian]

watched in double time improved myself ten times faster

[@salqubeq5203]

Good video & agreed the mind creates stress for no reason & adds too many things to do lists. However, as long as one is run by one's mind, peace and happiness cannot be accomplished. The only way to joy & stable bliss is to step out of the "very mind that creates such protocols" including your new list here. Good luck & happy adventures

[@test-rj2vl]

Buying services is a good idea. You can figure out how to DIY a lot of stuff, specially if you have degree in some sort of engineering. But if it's not your field, it's just not worth it. Think of it that way: if you earn $20/hour and you spend 5 hours to google how to DIY something and then $20 for buying what you need and then spend 2 hours on DIYing it then you have just spent $160 worth of your free time on that project. So if you compare it to that then buying service from professional for $80 is a clear win.

[@KateKaden]

I loved this video! Thank you so much. Just hit subscribe!❤

[@createffectmusic]

Great Video! Problems Sleeping? Be productive, make sports & if needed enjoy an Indica Joint before going to Bed 😊

[@Divine__Hala]

This was really good. Time blocking has been so great. & cooking dinner was my ehhh and I found a meal prep service provider. I’m only doing 3 days right now but it makes such a difference

[@jcnlaw]

Great video! Go live your very best life!

[@TheAlucard63]

I love your list in the beginning...but the life you describe is actually already easy mode... Add to the list something more difficult to manage: -Rise kids while trying to maintain a love relationship with your partner? -Being sick? -Living in a warzone? -Ect Set your own goals, live your own experiences, try your best without regrets, that is all you can do: we will all feed the worms and trees in the end...so it doesn't matter that much...

[@zizz_oo]

Thank you for the video, great points made! sending much love from Hungary! ❤

[@TikaGhafar]

hey there! i'm super glad you found it helpful :) thanks for stopping by! much love back at ya, from Malaysia :)

[@YoonAlbert]

Hey, great content out there! Love your voice too. It is a great reminder for many in our lives. Thanks for the video.

[@Eduardo_Music8560]

Great video 👍! Congratulations for your work!

[@mjhfhvddikv]

I opened your video for 3 seconds after that i subscribed ❤

[@anastasialoboda1147]

That was so helpful and important to hear! Thank you. Subscribed and waiting for the part 2 ❤

[@Fridagotestam98]

This was a great video. Would love a part two. Thank you!

[@zorosreads]

We would love to see part 2 especially when the tips can actually reduce our stress

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you for the feedback! part 2 coming up soon :D

[@chelseab.]

Perfect timing!! I would love a pt. 2 . I just recently learned that it's difficult for me to ask for help, so this was very useful to re-hear and think about! Sending much love 💖

[@azeemhoosain4004]

wise words thanks

[@boopu9744]

Part 2 please. This is so close to home 😭 Subscribed ♥️

[@TashaFrt]

I loove this video❤ I used to work in corporate banking and quit without a back up plan. It was tough because I lost my identity. The 1 year that I took off was the hardest (financially and emotionally) but the most life changing decision I made. Im based in Berlin and also recently started a KZbin Channel. Do reach out once you are in Europe and plan to visit Berlin. Its an amazing city especially for creatives 😊

[@TikaGhafar]

hey Tasha! so glad to meet another ex-banker content creator! 😍 I've been to Berlin once many years ago and looved it (and Germany as a whole). would love to go back and would definitely hit you up! 💖😊

[@itskristinacom]

Yay! Welcome to Sweden!!😍🇸🇪

[@angelahoffstadt9458]

Thank you so much! You actually said what I need to hear right now

[@TikaGhafar]

this makes me so incredibly happy to hear! very glad this has helped you in some way :) take care and thanks for dropping by!

[@timilaprajapati6057]

I love your content ❤

[@amaana1414]

Hi, i think you make a-lot of good points, we live in a patriarchal society that basically does not give a crap about women. I truly believe women are the happiest in their homes, thats why i would rather start a business that I can work at from home. I trust god to help me be successful because I'm pretty sure god does not expect women to be like men. I support your choice to leave your corporate job, and pursue a different path, you're doing the right thing. Keep doing it!

[@BenIsFiguringitOut]

Thanks for this encouraging video!

[@hardik6700]

Very nice. Thanks for sharing the insights.

[@vojtechsleha8473]

If you hate walking dogs, you probably should not have a dog. Dog is not a thing. It is a living being that loves you (mostly, if you treat it well.) I hope this was only a badly chosen example, otherwise good video, thanks. I'll think about most things you have said. 🐕🐕🐕

[@nelsonville7896]

Very helpful video. Thank you 🙏

[@Michael-ko8uf]

Great ideas, thank you. 😊

[@starryskies6510]

I can see this channel becoming popular in the near future. You got yourself a new subscriber. Don't forget me when you're famous

[@carlinroche]

Awesome. Yep part part 2, bring it! 🙂🙏

[@TikaGhafar]

coming right up! thanks for watching :D

[@xav9156]

I like the expression; "this season of my life". Congratulation for finding the courage to change your life. I enjoy your videos, Regards Xav

[@TikaGhafar]

thank youu! so glad you're enjoying the vids so far :) take care!

[@Nick-Nasty]

It's all well and good to live a life true to you. But it's worth noting, that you only have that option thanks to everyone else who does the things you don't want to. Society would collapse if everyone was so self focused. Not saying not to follow your heart, but I wouldn't shit on it too much, since it's kind of on all of their backs that you are able to make it to that place.

[@danielcropp8553]

Yes, I vote for a Part 2! Please!

[@TikaGhafar]

thank you so much for the feedback! part 2 coming soon for suuuure :D