Stop Relying on Your Spouse for Your Deepest Needs | Jimmy Evans

Your spouse can't meet your deepest needs, only God can. In this teaching, Jimmy Evans discusses how to stop relying on your spouse for your deepest needs and why it will not only help your marriage grow, but also thrive.
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0:00 Intro
0:21 Stop Relying on Your Spouse for Your Deepest Needs
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[@gailfagan7579]

I was a Christian for years but as my marriage of 40 years was crumbling I cried out to Jesus to save me/us 5 years ago. I was reborn when the Holy Spirit came to reside in me for the first time in my life. I’ve recently learned this principle. I now seek Jesus for those deep needs to be filled or fixed. It works. Praise the Lord. 🙏✝️💕

[@turbo1gts]

My wife left me six months ago. It was what I needed to wake me up to come back to God. Now, I need him more than her, and she has got to that point, too. We will get back together but He is still working in us to bring us to how we need to be. I'm closer to Him and her than ever even though we are almost 500 miles apart. Thank God for mercy, grace, and redemption! ✝️🙏💯

[@sherrysunshinefreeman3434]

Amen hallelujah ❤

[@pltcook]

Recently I discovered how broken I was, cut my husband off to where as he walked out, my reality set in.. thru what the enemy meant to destroy God is faithful! My relationship with God is vital, thought I was ok… thank God for deliverance from me!!! I am free in Christ! Restoration of my marriage, the Lord is in control!!!! Thank you for sharing this!!! Needed to hear this!!!

[@kimberleewinters7434]

I wish I would've herd these messages when I was married!!! These messages are very informative and helpful!! I have learned much!! Keep it coming Please!!❤️❤️❤️

[@sarahbramstedt5615]

This was absolutely fantastic, and covers every single need and area of hurt, unmet need, anxiety, and disappointment. Thank you for giving us wisdom to pursue and take action on!

[@kimacker8594]

Thank you for this message. We need all the help we can get!

[@tanyadsouza1100]

This msg came at the right time

[@lilaclavender1989]

Great sermon

[@britneyauguste7838]

Amen sir!

[@melissamulkey1033]

While I love Jimmy's messages, couldn't help but to point out that not all anxiety is a choice. I understand what Jimmy is saying here, more about an anxious state of mind/not trusting God. But also, anxiety can also be related to physical root causes such as hormones, nutrient deficiencies, toxic exposures like mold, heavy metals, food allergies, poor diets, vaccine injury and Lyme. There are medication side effects, blood sugar dysregulation and nervous system based dysregulations that cause anxiety. Even high blood pressure can cause it. Those with PTSD for example, are contending with a neurological brain injury from trauma with the physiologic manifestation of anxiety. Please consider any of these and their impact on one's health and relationships as you pray about anxiety.

[@Dave-um7mw]

Agreed. Unfortunately the English language is pretty limited regarding properly describing psychologic states, and so we get blanket words like anxiety, love, depression, all of which mean different things in different situations, leading to confusion and sometimes wrong advice. One day, we will create the words required to properly differentiate. Until then we have to infer.

[@thecounselingpsychologystu8167]

Man, this is so good 😭

[@ttfamikel791]

Awesomeness

[@bobbieallen2323]

I wish I knew about this before my ex husband divorced me.. we are friends I want to reconcile and I think he wants to but, I don’t really know for sure.. I been I been praying for him and maybe reconcile that’s my hope.. what are your thoughts on reconciliation.. Any advice can give me.

[@shaniekaforrest7594]

Seek pastoral counseling

[@nerdbamarich2063]

Amen

[@HotterChocoLate]

Wow! Where can the full sermon be viewed

[@JenJenn78]

Amen praise God 💯💛🌍🏡

[@frankm.2082]

❤🙏🏼

[@RHM_MusicMinistry]

Any advice on the morning walks with a 2.5 year old?

[@Dave-um7mw]

Stroller.

[@frankiequiroz580]

❤

[@NatureEllaJ]

And he States his wife Said: She said" Your mouth has devasted me".....

[@davidwallace894]

What if you feel like God didn't put you together?

[@gailfagan7579]

Are you familiar with the Bible, Jesus? Start there. You CAN be healed but only by a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. 🙏✝️💕

[@adampetersen2415]

Relationships are always our choice. Even Rebecca was to choose for herself. Mary also chose to accept it. We are responsible for our decision for God gave us free will. Nonetheless God can make something good out of a desperate situation. You have to give up the control to Him willingly and completely. Then you can follow Him and see what miracles He still does. But mind you, oftentimes it is ourselves that are being changed. All will be well with your soul in God’s hands 🙌

[@boomer1049]

Once you are married it doesn't matter if you feel the devil himself but you together you are now married and need to make it work!

[@sondermusic4476]

I don’t think God put me and my husband together.. I really don’t think it works like that, but I think if we reflect Jesus in our decision making and respond to our partner in love and honor (even when love walks away or love says no) God will bless our true and pure efforts

[@gailfagan7579]

@@sondermusic4476 God knit you together in your mothers womb. He knows every hair on your head! But if you have decided that you don’t believe He has a knowledge and a plan for you, His BELOVED….okay. I don’t get that rationalization at all. That said, my husband and I met as a one night stand, in the middle of the first women’s movement in the 70’s. We married in 1978 and we are very different and always have been. I’ve always known God was around, he was a total atheist. The biggest mistake you can make is to cherry pick the Bible. We were separating 9 months ago, he looking for apartments, I was looking for a lawyer. We are still together because I learned what it means to submit to my husband, and also what ‘keep sweet’ means. I informed him I was/am walking my faith, I would not seek a divorce AND that I was certainly willing to meet his sexual needs (and my own). All he had to do was ask. No weaponization or withholding fulfilment of that primary need he has. I also learned to pray and forgive him and myself, to give it all to the Lord with confidence that I would be alright whichever way my husband decided to go. It was quite difficult because I am a very independent, strong willed woman. Today, we prayed together. We are rebuilding our 44 year old marriage Gods way, with major help from Jesus. We are different, but better. No fighting, no seeking to have my deepest needs met by my husband. I just remarked to him that I wish I had known then what I know now. I’ll just say, it’s better late than never to understand and embrace the love of Jesus and to accept His love of me and his peace deeply, completely. No man can ever do that. Be blessed my friend. ❤️🙏✝️

[@forgedbythefather]

Jimmy, If the husband says his deepest need is sex, how can his wife not be expected to meet it?

[@Only1Msmarta]

No spouse I will never have a spouse it's not for me no if's and's or butt's I will never marry again not even an ex ever !!!

[@adampetersen2415]

It’s totally up to you. I just have a feeling of great hurt on your side. I wish you well and that all will heal. Please consider praying about it to our loving father. He can only heal what we give into His hands. That means to leave everything up to Him. It will be good in the end. But He wants to see our trust, especially where it hurts because He always wants to heal that and give you something better than you can now imagine for it. Trust Him! And above all things guard your heart that not bitter roots may grow there. We all need forgiveness and we will only find it in Him, the merciful and most wonderful living God. I pray that you will feel loved by Him so much in Jesus name

[@kimberlyturner820]

😳

[@sondermusic4476]

I get it

[@thepeace7583]

The modern westerns are crying on social relationships like marriage and family........I think the old Indian were much clear about functioning of society even when they were considered uneducated... People need to build values first...... Everything will fix thereafter automatically 🙂

[@boomer1049]

My deepest need from my wife is a good 2 way sexual relationship!! No one else can do that for me ! Anything else I can get outside of the marriage! Christian woman need to understand this!

[@kimberlyturner820]

True.

[@danilaroche1156]

I think most Christian women DO indeed understand this.

[@ginatrevino459]

It goes both ways for men and women..sometimes Men lack it as well.

[@boomer1049]

@@ginatrevino459 Boy that would be the day!

[@bygraceonly182]

Check out the book “the great sex rescue”