Stop Saying Good Job

[@kirubadhanraj6064]

It brought me tears in my eyes,because those days I face all these.I didn’t even skip one word of your,I listened thoroughly. Thank you

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I am really glad it resonated with you. Thanks for watching.

[@lovelyeri]

Wow, I've never thought of what was discussed here in this video. It gave me a realization that achieving a growth mindset could be instilled on young children this way. Thank you.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thanks for your kind words and thank you for watching.

[@vanuamontessori6672]

Yes 🙌🏽. It’s so important for children to feel successful within themselves without approval from anyone else. How empowering ⭐️✊🏽⭐️

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[@sofiaislam1391]

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[@kendraklashinsky9605]

I love this. Encouraging independence and confidence in themselves. That's huge. Thanks for sharing this!

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You are so welcome!

[@vijayjagirdar3127]

You Did It! :-) Very Thoughtful message indeed! You touched upon the point of employees working their heads off just to see a dry 2 word "good job" mail at the end of months of dedicated quality work. I have seen and experienced this so many times. These experiences helped me grow to just enjoy my work without sparing a thought for the mechanical "good job" mails that may/may not come. As I matured, such mails were more a source of amusement rather than being a source of inspiration :-) Wonderful Teachers like you help me stay optimistic and still believe that the next gen managers of the corporate world may be more thoughtful towards the people who report to them and not the boring and heartless "good job" robots :-)

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Thank you for watching

[@maupiyabhaduri5473]

This is soo different the way I used to think .. but this is soo true .. working with children I say well done n good job so many times thinking about encouraging them making them feel proud of their work.. but I will try my best to control my impulse and replace praising with acknowledgment Thank you so much.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

You are so welcome. It can be challenging at first but before long it will become part of you

[@ChristineMarube]

So far the most important article I have watched today... I think I have been a victim of'goid job' but how I realize how important it is to avoid it and use alternative words so as not to interfere with the kids natural development and also encourage independence, self pride❤

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Thanks for watching.

[@ednaabbey8456]

I am so happy about the explanation given, l definitely put it into practice.

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You're welcome

[@raeyeung8523]

Thanks a lot! I'm a mom from China, and I learnt a lot from your video. Very practical.

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Glad it was helpful!

[@sudhakasinadhuni1071]

We all say this without understanding how it may affect. Thank you for this

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Thanks for watching

[@joyce5573]

Thank you very much in explaining in a detailed way, which cleared my doubts. 👍👍👍👍👍

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You are most welcome

[@HeyAshleyRenne]

Great video thank you! In the end you mentioned this can also apply to parents too. I have a 1-year-old and he lights up every time we praise him. I am going to try my best to instill in him the importance of being proud of himself and not relying on adults for that validation.

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Wonderful

[@ansonjones6355]

Wwwowww!! I cannot possibly love this more. This is such a beautiful way to affirm the person that children are.

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Thanks for watching

[@MontessoriSchool-h1v]

I just found your videos and I thank you for making them. They are so helpful for me to try and use these techniques in my classroom. I take notes so I can remember all the vital information. Thank you!

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I am so glad you are enjoying our videos :). Thanks for watching

[@carriebacy4566]

It’s been awhile now where my husband an I have been trying to figure out how to properly talk to our almost 4 year old about things. He is in a new phase of saying no and not listening to us. It’s been hard because we know there is nothing wrong with us the parents or him the child. It’s just us as parents trying to find the right words to use that better suits him to be comfortable and have that growth mindset. This is exactly what I needed as a mom for this new age❤ I appreciate you and the information you shared. Thank you

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I am glad it was helpful

[@RuiNa42]

This makes so much sense. After I first watched this video I kept catching myself saying "good job". So I thought long about why. i think the change is hard because I am teaching ESL. So the more nuanced reactions are harder. My students don't yet understand "how do you feel about this?" but a thumbs up and a "good job" they understand. So I'm reminding myself that a warm smile is universally understood. And I can teach the older students more specific phrases, then recruit them to translate for me. I have the local language skills to use phrases that promote self evaluation, but i'm not supposed to speak that much Chinese with the children. Anyway... I have watched this video several times to try and get it stuck in my head what to say instead.

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Thanks for watching

[@mathinisambathkumar2974]

Clear explanation.Thank you

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Glad it was helpful!

[@Glamorllc]

Thanks, it took me a while to learn to do things for my self-happiness and not to worry about others' opinion. This technique will help the students to be self confident and to do things for the right reason.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Wonderful!

[@jinhag.858]

So true!! And hard to put in practice also, we are all so conditioned... Thats why Montessori is so important, transformative and Revolutionary :) Carol Dweck also talks about this, growth/fixed mindset and how praises influences our inner motivation thanks for spreading awarness!! :)

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@maryimoh5486]

This was so educative .Thanks for sharing

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thank you for your kind words and for acknowledging the educational value of the video. I'm delighted to know that you found it informative and helpful. Sharing knowledge and promoting thoughtful ways of interaction, especially in education, is what drives us. Your feedback and the #goodvibes are much appreciated. If there are any other topics or concepts you'd like to see covered in future videos, feel free to let us know. Stay tuned for more enlightening content! 😊

[@RollingFishball]

You explained the examples and points very clearly, thank you! I’ll share with my Montessori classmates

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Wonderful - thanks for watching

[@penguin1217]

Really wonderful thought. This is so important for a teacher.

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thank you for watching.

[@sucharitadas3915]

Thoughtful and motivating

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Thank you

[@wakillahwakil1992]

Wonderful thought thank you so much for your explanation 💞

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Thank you for watching

[@Kellys_kitten_squad]

I have heard people say it is condescending. “I’m not a dog.” I like to be praised when I’m doing a good job. 🤔 Maybe I will say I like how you did that or something else.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's really insightful to hear different perspectives. You're absolutely right that praise, when genuine and specific, can be very encouraging. The Montessori approach does appreciate the value of positive reinforcement. However, it also emphasizes the importance of helping children develop a sense of intrinsic motivation, rather than relying solely on external validation. Your idea of saying 'I like how you did that' is a great example of specific and constructive praise. It acknowledges the effort and method, rather than just the outcome. This kind of feedback can help children understand what they did well and encourages them to continue exploring and learning. Remember, every child is unique, and what works best can vary from one child to another. It's all about finding the right balance and approach that supports their individual growth and development. Keep up the great work in exploring and applying these concepts! 😊

[@neethadenishakotturkaleeka3481]

I can't thank enough for your valuable information

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Glad it was helpful!

[@daliarizzi4320]

Thank you so much. I was struggling with this. I ' ve been learning and practicing to say specific things to my daughter when she does something. For example when she does something like taking her dish to the sink. I will say: I can see you took your dish to the sink and also washed it. How does that make you feel? But later when she sings a song or makes a drawing she turns and aske me: " Did you like it? And here is where I was getting confused. I didn't know what to make out of it. What to answer, if to say yes I did or how to make her feel good about her song. Now with this video it is clear. Now I can see that she is trying to get my validation and my aproval so she can feel accepted and validated. But I have to make that validation hers not mine. So when she does things. She will do it for her, to feel she is achieving somthing, she is doing it for her own joy and passion. That she is capable to do it and feel confident and worthy . That to do it makes her happy and feel good about herself and no need to please somebody or get the aproval of anybody.. Then when she ask me next time if I liked what she did. I will ask her. Did you like it. How do you feel about your, drawing, music, song, etc. So I will make sure to make her achievement hers and not for someone else. Thank you 🙏

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Thanks for your comment :)

[@222thewitch.kitchen]

Thank you ☺️

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You’re welcome 😊

[@jacquethomson4998]

Thank you so much…

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

You're very welcome! 😊 If you ever have more questions or need further assistance, feel free to reach out. We're here to support you on your Montessori journey. Thanks for being a part of our community

[@lizpi1924]

I understood the concept better now. Thank you

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So happy yo hear that

[@yesammahendry6295]

Thanks for your Advice I’m going Practice myself God bless keep up the good work ✝️🙏🏽❤️

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You are so welcome

[@hashime6549]

Recently i joined a Montessori school...this vdo will hlp me to Don't give them praise i hope

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wonderful :)

[@charlottedelamor7812]

Phenomenal explanation!

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Thanks so much for watching :)

[@ChelseaNicole-xk1qs]

I just recently heard this as a way to reframe how we talk to kids, and this explanation was super helpful! I am curious about younger ages (my son is 14months and I don’t think he’s at the point of understanding me having curiosity about what he’s doing). Any other suggestions for how to respond other than “you did it” (which we do say!) for kids that young? I feel like showing excitement for him is the best way to engage with what he’s doing, but that still feels like celebrating/“good job”. Would love to know how to start this now while he’s still so young! Thank you!! :)

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I'm glad you found the explanation helpful! At 14 months, your son is still in the early stages of understanding language, so it's perfectly natural to focus on simple, encouraging responses. Instead of saying "good job," you can try describing what he's doing or what you see: "You stacked the blocks!" or "You’re holding the spoon!" This not only acknowledges his efforts but also helps build his vocabulary. Another approach is to express your own feelings, like "I love watching you explore!" This keeps the focus on his actions rather than seeking external validation. It’s wonderful that you’re thinking about this now-it will help build a strong foundation for intrinsic motivation as he grows. Keep up the great work, and thank you for being so mindful in your parenting! :)

[@jerichotitus5872]

Ty for the great explation

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Glad it was helpful!

[@devforall]

Thank you proffesor

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My pleasure

[@27bharati]

Very useful video. I will improve my self .

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All the best

[@zulfatanzim1485]

Very helpful thank you.

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You're welcome!

[@fatemajahra5356]

Wowwwwwww i never thought of it... Amazing 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳👌👌

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Thank you

[@letsgoletsgoletsgoletsgoletsgo]

say my child finally conquered her fear of heights by climbing a feature , i could say YOU DID IT! but can i say it in a way that i am celebrating it with her with my arms pumping in the air and jumping for joy ?

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Absolutely! You can celebrate your child's achievement with enthusiasm and joy. Saying "YOU DID IT!" with your arms pumping in the air and jumping for joy is a fantastic way to show your excitement and support for your child's accomplishment. It adds a sense of celebration and encouragement, letting your child know just how proud and thrilled you are about their achievement. Such positive and energetic reinforcement can be very motivating and uplifting for your child.

[@Kahna-cj5ru]

Hey very insightful Definitely changing the way I do You know what now listening to you is addiction to me and changing bit by bit

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I am so happy to hear this

[@dharmikparv9414]

Thanks so much!!

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Glad it helped!

[@c.l.m.perera7422]

An amazing video. I love it

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I'm glad you like it

[@home8630]

I find the term Good Job annoying. Not coming from USA and needing to learn from people from overseas, I don't need to hear good job, when I haven't done a good job and I am having problems. I need solutions to those problems not praise. I need the issues addressed. As an adult with also having significant health issues I am trying to resolve health issues and past problems, being told good job, when I actually need help to prevent injury is upsetting.. I also find it strange that USA people say Good job to children, adults and animals. As an adult I don't want to be treated in the same way as a child or an animal, particularly when I need maturity, understanding and dignity. I also want to finish my learning without the abuse, its not ok, but I am also not giving up, I want to finish my learning before I die. Also where I come from we very rarely praise our children, because we tend to experience when you praise your children too much they get big heads and become vain and abusive, argumentative and won't listen to you, we want our children to be honest, but when they need correction more you can't withhold that from them and give them someting contrary to what they need. They get praised when it is right to do so. Something for you to consider, When encouragement is needed more than praise.

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Thanks for watching.

[@saalihyunusyahya4326]

Hey! I'm inspired by your admiration. Wow, I'm pretty convinced now. What do you think when teachers or parents still call their on a one one one and tell that particular child " Good job" without publicizing it

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Personally I feel it is still conditioning the child to work for praise not self satisfaction

[@christinesenfuma632]

It was so helpful

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I am so glad :)

[@ashlyjoy9045]

I know a teacher that says to every child to ring th bell when they mastered one activity. Children who are working at that moment will gather together and give the child applause and the teacher will say 'well done '. The teacher is a Montessori Trained teacher , i can't say anything because I am just assistant in the class:) What is your standing about that situation ?

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

As far as my experience goes, children do not need the praise. They need to feel self satisfaction

[@CHYMEERAS_Sk0_GaNg]

Thank you for this explanation, you are so right. Thank you.

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Glad it was helpful!

[@josephinearroyo9172]

GOOD JOB trying to explain yourself! Still not convinced so keep trying. I do like the Montessori style however I love to praise my students and see/feel their reactions.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Hi Josephine... I guess we all have to do what feels more comfortable to us :)

[@ticafrancis9874]

I never saw it like you explain I think it's great idinifately will apply in my classroom

[@ChelseaNicole-xk1qs]

It’s worth noting that you saying “good job” is about how their reactions make you feel, not about the impact it’s having on them. Just worth considering.

[@nitaeddy3000]

thanks

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You're welcome

[@anaandreexpatlifein2877]

Love it 😍

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Thank you for watching

[@rav1109]

Hi, What could be done when the teacher uses good job frequently and we dont use it at home. We tried talking to the teacher they dont seem to get it. My child feels less appreciated or says maam liked it and you did not. What could I tell my LKG kid so she feels reassured that we do recognise her effort. This is a recent development.

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Wow... that's challenging. Maybe try explaining your concerns to the principal and your reasons for feeling this way.

[@rav1109]

@@SunshineTeachersTraining will try. I am actually trying to explain to my child self validation is more satisfying. hope I succeed to sow that seed into this cute Brain.

[@allisong511]

I'm only finding this method now while my daughter is 5 years old. Another video mentioned ages 3-6 but are there benefits beyond age 5?

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Oh yes... It can benefit at any age :). We have elementary programs too. If you click on the link below someone from our team will be able to assist you and guide you to the right course. Can’t wait to work with you :) sunshineteacherstraining.id/contact/

[@kanchanjoshi6491]

Does this “stop saying good job”apply to the parents too?

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Yes it applies to everyone

[@nitaeddy3000]

Learnt

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Awesome

[@theuniversalguy]

I don't know why people say this i say what job when someone say it to me

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

We must all try and refrain :)

[@mihomiwa8707]

How about under 3 years old? Can we give them “Good job!!” to feel them good??

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

It is not necessary :)

[@mihomiwa8707]

So basically we should follow what you said in this video, even for younger toddler?? It’s really understandable explanation. Thank you so much. I love your channel:)

[@tabindahashmi4447]

Great

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thanks

[@devforall]

Nowaday exists so many constantly "good jobs" such as the Facebook and KZbin likes so the chuldren are growing therr were the teenagers and adults are constantly giving these bad likes examples. We must do something and show to our children and even to the young people and adults that those likes are terrible mistakes

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

That is right :). We can teach by example

[@sethumh]

❤❤

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Thank you

[@tabindahashmi4447]

👍

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Thank you

[@jimmyjam6197]

Lol, some people agreed with me and some people are too stupid

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

I guess its a matter of opinion :)

[@jayneforster5677]

I can’t STAND this saying! Especially when it’s said in a high pitched fake voice! Good jovvvvvvvvvvvvvvv! 🤬 I actually hate it!

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Indeed... this is why we all must try and step away from it.

[@jayneforster5677]

It’s just irritating to me!

[@ablamzk2329]

Great

[@SunshineTeachersTraining]

Thank you so much for your positive feedback! It's wonderful to know that you found the video valuable. If you have any thoughts or experiences related to the topic that you'd like to share, I'd love to hear them. Your insights can greatly enrich our discussion and learning. Keep up the great engagement! 😊