STOP Thinking You're Going To Be Alone Forever!

[@LittleBird888]

Being alone has a lot of power. It’s not as bad as people think. I’ve been single for 10 yrs and never married no kids and I just turned 50. I had to really learn to love being alone because sometimes I had no choice

[@johnramsey2480]

I too have been alone for 15 years. I am 54...Never Married and 0 Kids. I often beat my own self badly over #1...how did this happen. #2...I just don't have anything anyone desires in a companion. #3...I will just accept it and BE CONTENT.😢😢😢

[@Edd25164605]

I gave up on hoping/working for something that I now know is never going to happen. No matter what i tried....overlooked, rejected or 'just friends'. I cant even remember the last time i felt that spark, let alone made a connection with someone. And all the while, in the back off my mind 'tic tock, tick tock,'

[@arthursanders-km1ck]

I have been separated for a year and divorced from a narcissist for almost 7 months, and finding this channel helped me figure out things. I also know that I need to put myself first.

[@bumblebee_ms]

The truth is, I'd rather be alone for a long time than EVER be with another toxic person (partner or friends).

[@stephaniewatterson]

Dito 👍

[@MS-ns4ki]

Yup I am alone forever I Am very real

[@zenigatago]

AMEN, BRUTHA!!!

[@zenigatago]

I'd rather be alone forever than with anything low value!

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Being alone and being lonely are different. You can be happy being alone. You can feel lonely in a room full of people or in a relationship. And some people DO end up alone, either through choice or not finding the right person.

[@marioleclerc4566]

I myself prefer using solitary than alone. It caries less negative connotation. Having a companion is a complement to your life and not your life. The best relationship you could have is with yourself or at least is the most important relationship you should nurture.

[@clutchboi4038]

Its hard to believe that it wont be forever when its been 10 years almost. It actually feels delusional to think I'll find someone.

[@DatBoiDeboer]

Try 23 years, it’s over

[@marksilgram80]

18yrs for me well that's the last proper relationship I've had anyway you know loving and affectionate. I've been with a few people since then even had a kid with one of them but they weren't affectionate and loving which is what I'm looking for. The never ending search continues.....

[@FINNSTIGAT0R]

​@@marksilgram80 I would gladly have a relationship even if it's not especially affectionate, or even at all affectionate. Would have someone to talk to at least 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@johnmccool6875]

Yeah that’s a terrible thing for her to say leading into this video. The reality is finding a partner is very much out of your control so better to take a preferred indifference approach. I’d prefer to be with someone but will be okay if I don’t meet someone.

[@orlanz]

Always been alone from birth and I've given up on the prospect of finding love...... I'm just waiting for the last breath ........

[@daphne3717]

Being alone sucks! There’s no mental gymnastics I can use to change my mind about it. I don’t like it, we are social creatures. I’ve been no contact with my ex for 5 months and it feels like hell.

[@seemlinsky]

i will be forever alone

[@annetterhynold5177]

I was in a toxic marriage for 34 years. It has taken me almost 4 year to heal from that relationship. I am happy with the strong woman I am. My life is full but I want to find someone to love and love me back. ❤

[@annetterhynold5177]

@@GeorgeA3823 Thank you for your kind words

[@ricardocamara1602]

Amen as human beings we all deserve real love and respect

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Me as well.

[@BlueBEAZY45]

I’m only 28 and haven’t been on a date in almost 6 years. My last relationship left me feeling very resentful towards people in general and I self isolated for a long time after that. For most of that time it was refreshing but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that isn’t sustainable. This may sound a little extreme to say but Life simply is not worth experiencing if you have to experience it alone. We’re meant to share our lives with others, I just want to meet someone that will finally reciprocate everything i give them and I don’t want to be their plan b. Some days it does seem like a pipe dream but I know deep down she’s out there.

[@josepholiveri299]

i feel you i miss being with someone..the thought of being alone kills me..i am down most of the time..

[@NFSMAN50]

There's a huge stigma about being alone. Society has made being alone such a bad thing, when it shouldn't be. Sometimes it's okay to be alone sometimes. There's a difference with being alone and being lonely

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Also, narcs aren't the boogey man. They are actually real. And caused real damage to us, mentally and sometimes physically. It's natural we would be far more wary about dating again. It's more worrying the number of people who throw themselves into relationships when they're not healed enough or happy in their own skin.

[@brickmate4802]

Learn to love yourself and become your own best friend. If you do you enjoy your own company. Don’t go partner shopping until you have. You must love yourself first. Then you can never be lonely nor held at ransom in toxic relationships due to this untrue fear 😀

[@brickmate4802]

Your best too be alone than with someone that makes you feel alone. The right partner will be ready when you are.

[@electricjellyfish375]

Untrue fear I like that.

[@BlankSpace-by3nd]

I get so fckn sick of hearing that "love yourself" I do! I don't love anyone else is the problem

[@MS-ns4ki]

Disagree. You can still feel lonely at times, humans are meant to socialize

[@clutchboi4038]

How the hell do you just go partner shopping? Is there a store you go to?

[@ariannestavoli4422]

Been alone for 4 years, I refuse to go on dating sites. I don't want to be alone just waiting for someone to naturally come my way might take another 4 years lol

[@imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048]

You have to put yourself out there and risk rejection or possibly getting hurt again.

[@LisaTravis-m7e]

I almost feel the same way, dating sites are frightening. But I know I have to put myself out there, but I just don't know "where"

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Dating sites are trashy, but that's how things are done, not all the time, like you could just me someone anywhere but it is what it is. Enough said... git out there dudes... go for it 😅

[@jaymcmillanhq]

Nobody’s gonna come unfortunately we live n a time where women have 2 pursue men if they want better outcomes. So I say dont wait til they come 2 u , go find em and earn what u get n this life

[@zenigatago]

Right here, miss! Dating sites are a scam. Tired of pairing with eyesores for all my efforts. Not looking for 'high maintenance', but well-maintained. Otherwise, I can do bad all by myself!

[@Godgirl42]

Perfect timing. I’m so afraid to be alone but I know if I keep moving forward I’ll grow to love it.

[@bumblebee_ms]

Me too.

[@Mario88881000]

Me 3. 🤜🏼

[@ThriveTheMatrixCoaching]

I love having a crush now, whether it happens or not. It’s fun to daydream and enjoy the butterfly’s, the anticipation, not because it will happen but because I’m feeling again. My advice - enjoy those things without planning on an event or end point.

[@Will-n9s]

I've been alone all my life. And unless some miracle comes around, I'm gonna die this way.

[@katierippon6106]

I know the fear of attracting the wrong person is what holds me back because It keeps happening. I’m scared of being hurt and betrayed again.

[@skibunny1631]

Thanks Stephanie! You remind me of my younger sister. She majored in psychology in college and she talks to me like she's 10 yrs. older than me. She used to say some of the same things to me about positive thinking and don't let fear become your reality. You have a really cute way of talking like her too., like caring. I have severe anxiety and today this lady in the maintenance office where I live showed me how to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth very slowly. She said she suffers from anxiety too. Thanks for the talk, I'm going to listen to this video again.Thanks again@ ❤

[@steadypace1262]

That breathing exercise is very helpful to slow your fast breathing down. Listening to a good bedtime guided meditation to relax your muscles helps you to sleep better as well.🕊

[@maryhartley512]

I hate being alone, i lone work and vole home to an empty house. At 62 i feel this is it . Horrible!

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

I think that people can be genuinely happy being single! We're conditioned that being in a relationship is the gold standard, but if you are happy on your own, then don't settle for someone who isn't bringing anything extra to the table. And sadly very few men do.

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

@@MS-ns4ki that's hilarious. Because everyone you know isn't happy alone, doesn't mean millions of other people in the world aren't. You can't tell people to "stop saying things", people are allowed free speech these days you know

[@Florida_gyrl]

Tell the truth!

[@AnthonyManzio]

We need to ban smartphones and all dating apps and will go back like 20 years ago. 20 years ago women were approaching. With an Italian background from Canada. I'm 55, 5.10 average, never married and have no kids. I've given up on women. Today women are on their cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. I can't wait till AI will be destroying women and only then will women be begging for men. I have my condo and money so I'll die with my money. Today 90% are insecure and toxic. Relationships are dead, it's all hookups now with high body counts. Women marry to control the marriage so married men end up cheating. Marriage brings nothing for the men. I'm off the market.

[@vivisimonvi]

For a very long time I used to think I would be content in being alone because I've already had that peak "fulfilling" relationship experience so long ago (or so I thought). The most startling thing I've learned in researching narcissist abuse, is quite possibly that I've been robbed all along and not even know it. A lot of good years are left behind me now that I'm middle aged.

[@MB-xv7er]

At your old age you have to settle. That’s the reality

[@jefferyalberter9922]

3:15 “…cheating yourself out of the real happiness that you deserve.” One thing I’ve learned the hard way about love, romance and relationships: deserving’s got NOTHING to do with it.

[@octavia7141]

Stephanie thank you so much for this message 🙏🏾. I am working through this thought now 😢. I thought I was the only one walking around with this pain. I needed this message.

[@MS-ns4ki]

But if you deep down no because you’re such a weird person and finicky that most people don’t understand you so therefore you already know because you’ve been like this your entire life have you been highly selective so what if you know that you’re going to be alone what do you do Stephanie?

[@dhamon-pi6os]

Feels that way. Not afraid of being alone. Just don’t want to be.

[@roxy7255]

Coming out of a npd/bpd break up your videos have literally saved my life. Thank you for all your videos

[@9Ballr]

I thought this video was going to be about how it's okay to end up alone. Instead, I hear "no one should ever end up alone," and "don't kid yourself, no one really wants to be alone," and "if you're alone you're just cheating yourself out of real happiness." Thanks for the message.

[@thecoloursofthemage]

I really really, really, needed to hear this. I’ve been like everything you said for 10 years after a huge series of losses. I just shut down consciously, but then sadly it became unconsciously even though my soul knows it’s time to move forward. Doesn’t help being at home but I’m grateful I can afford the time to do the inner work and then when I’m in a better place pay it forward to others. Thankyou again, you were on point with everything.

[@arthursanders-km1ck]

Stephanie is helping me move on, and I just need to make sure everyone in my life needs to respect my values and my options.

[@Jakilyn]

IMO - finding a partner becomes a challenge when you're older/aging. It is disappointing when you don't have a huge social circle and finding places to meet and connect with someone, are minimal. The hope is there for me though! And the self worth and self awareness! Letting go of desperation and just living in the moment ✨️

[@ricardocamara1602]

It’s been 9 months since my discard and enjoying spending time with my kids and friends and it fills the void of that toxic relationship and not having to deal with the roller coaster ride with her so exhausting and soul sucking thank you Stephanie 😊

[@steadypace1262]

Get into the habit of taking the time to enjoy a peaceful cup of coffee etc when you are out and about. It's a lot less stressful than having your narcissist partner sitting opposite you peering over your shoulder or glancing around checking out other people all the time. Whatever else the narcissist does it certainly won't be engaging with you in any sort of intelligent conversation and they treat us like we are the boring one!🙄

[@ricardocamara1602]

Right

[@douglasmiller1212]

Good advice. After becoming widowed, I did exactly as you say - got in shape, found interests, and found community. After 8 years happily single I unfortunately fell for someone with NPD characteristics, got discarded, and got her STD. Past age 65, resuscitating an identity, finding that many of the emotionally healthy people are already in relationships, and throw in an STD, sometimes the abundance doesn't seem supported by the demographics considering that "forever" isn't that far off ... I'm saying that the principles are the same at any age but the numbers just aren't the same if you're older.

[@assplundah]

Well said, this absolutely resonates with me.👍👌

[@liberty-matrix]

"Don't give up, you've got a reason to live. Can't forget, we only get what we give." - New Radicals

[@Whoeverwhateverwhenever]

Well, some people do end up alone, that's the reality

[@NewNew44519]

That is true but is it a choice ? A mindset ? Or is it because they can’t find anyone

[@maryhartley512]

Where do you find anyone ..dating apps are terrible especially when your older

[@susanbartone1347]

So after I wrote the comment below, I kept listening. Wow is Stephanie wise. Back in 1985 when my 1st sister got married, I remember crying and thinking "Oh I'll never have this". I am sure my thoughts, conscious and unconscious were driving the train....my thinking "I'll never be good enough, thin enough, pretty enough...etc for someone to want to be with me." On the outside, always cheerful but the "not good enough" thoughts led to my paralysis in fear (even when I was seemingly outgoing). So my point? I don't really have one other to confirm that these words of Stephanie's are true and wise.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

I heard a man on YT say that it's better to die alone in peace than dying daily in an unhappy relationship. It helped a bit but ofcourse dying alone is not very pleasant either 😊

[@JaeA-zy9zr]

I had a passing thought about you today and I thought I would reach out to thank you. I learnt so much during the time I spent with you here on this channel. Thank you. You're appreciated, valued, loved and I am grateful I had the chance to be improved by you. If your little man ever wants to FaceTime with me I am always available for him. Anyways, what up Massachusetts. Look after them for me and I will see y'all soon. I am grateful for you and I am proud of you.

[@ShondaD_]

Not only being with someone but I’d like to have friends as well and plus I really don’t talk to family members so its like a triple whammy for me. Maybe thats why its hitting me so hard😢. I’d like to have friends an amazing husband my own family one day.

[@debbiecurrlin335]

You are so on point that it’s incredible. I hope those who watch your channel are able to absorb what you’re saying & use the knowledge to help launch them into the life they never thought they could have. I know you’ve helped me a lot & I’m so thankful for you & what you do!

[@TheMrdoc26]

Last summer I had a rain opening event and I remembered everything that happened and I was not letting it surface. Inwould love to tell you a short story and I think you could write a book. Now I am on a second healing. Thanks for your work Stephanie

[@danielle1103]

So funny🤣 I’m watching the video in the dark with my feet hanging off of the bed… just waiting for the boogeyman. Great video!! It’s difficult to think getting out of a relationship that you won’t ever find anyone again in the future. It’s a big and scary risk.

[@elegantgiraffe9570]

I think I'm more used to being alone than I am to being in a relationship. To me, being in a relationship means giving my power to someone else, and having to compromise on my wants and needs.

[@temaciniamine3031]

a man who find a comprehensive woman like you : is blessed..lovely stephanie

[@MS-ns4ki]

I don’t fear a thing but no one allowed to disturb my peace and that’s on everything

[@liberty-matrix]

"You should 'accept yourself just the way you are'. What does that say about who I should become? Is that just now off the table because I'm already good enough in every way? So am I done or something? Get the hell up, get your act together, adopt some responsibility, put your life together, develop a vision, unfold all those manifold possibilities that lurk within. Be a force for good in the world and that'll be the adventure of your life." ~Jordan Peterson

[@Acosta_Films]

This video just helped me out so much right now. Thank you so much I appreciate the content. I'm on my way from Arizona to New Mexico to act in a future film being shot. All new things and I was kind of nervous about leaving it was my comfort zone here but I decided to knuckle down and and drive to New Mexico. As I was driving on the I-40 I came across your video and it gave me a huge boost of motivation and confidence thank you so much ❤

[@sailorlionheart5344]

Needed to hear this tonight Stephanie, thank you for giving me strength to push through 💛

[@mikenf1185]

Thank you for this video today Stephanie. I really needed it. But not just for me, but my son as well.

[@RezaBarzegar-e4m]

omg you are amazing i've been watching your videos for hours straight! and it's all sooo true! thank you! finally! it seems like someone gets it! thank you,really

[@rebekkaswan]

Some people do end up alone. I am friends with people in their 70s alone because they never "settled." Also, my grandma is along because my grandpa died. People end up alone. That's life. I'm afraid of it, because I think it's probable.

[@dakotapeters5654]

I cant believe how much destruction and chaos has to happen before everything ends realizing its destroyed itself.

[@beatleme2]

My wife passed 8 1 23 of 13 wonderful yrs :(... of tumor cancer in 3 mths , never made it to chemo was only 50 the loneliness is horrible. Missing her is the worse was happy with simple things n struggled together being poor, yet we had love :(.. its all but killed me n at 52 how hard itll be finding someone else even if i wanted too, i dont wanna be alone :(... lord please be my guide

[@tonyg5132]

I didn’t watch the video yet but I’m glad you are covering this topic.

[@lisavansant961]

Thank you stephanie very helpful... Your comments Don't make me feel so alone. I Guess I'm surprised others feel like me.

[@naveedrehman2987]

I used to think that I needed to hurry up and be with someone before I die but the more I look around and observe pretty much most people are toxic in some fashion. I don’t mind being alone and dying alone. It’s better than being with toxic people. So not worth the headache.

[@HelenMitchell1984]

Thank you Stephanie you are so helpful and encouraging ❤

[@legendary8838]

I don’t think I’ll end up alone I’m more afraid of feeling I have to settle with someone I wouldn’t normally go for

[@MS-ns4ki]

No after my divorce, I’ve never felt more alone in my life, lost a ton of friends, you two having a different lifestyle than them. And also their fear, let me say irrational fear of me, taking their man, which I do not want. Other than that it’s just a life built on games and chess players and it’s horrible.

[@judith5177]

Me too. I didn’t realise how lonely I would feel. Luckily I still have children at home but they are always out at the weekend and I am on my own. Got a divorce dog which helps a bit for company. I was always someone who didn’t mind my own company as well 😢

[@MS-ns4ki]

@@judith5177 thanks for the heads up on what to do bc I’m not going to date for awhile not in this era .

[@OziBlokeTimG]

I even felt alone when I was married. Divorced now 2 years. At 63 I'm not expecting anyone special to walk up the driveway. And I'm over the dating fantasy. Being realistic, the girl i could now only be friends with benefits at best. Having no expectations ends with no disappointments. Good luck everyone, love you all. 😍 ❤😘

[@JeffRage]

I'm 51 and have been alone for 24 years now. At no time did I want to be alone. I've had no trauma.

[@justinwhaley1409]

Hearing your positive words inspired me as I was feeling down earlier. thank you Stephanie.

[@annacandrian1165]

Thank you Stephanie. Love your rational but still caring approach. Watched a few of your video and I must say; your advise are sound, intelligent and really make sense.Most of our issues are based on our challenging emotions and your logical way to analyse everything is like a very effective mirror. Merci from France.

[@kerryfaden94]

Stephanie You really cheered me up today!

[@kirkwhite1736]

I have tried for 35 years to find a relationship. I have tried everything from dating to self work to taking responsibility on my life to therapy to self work. Nothing Worked. At 50, after wasting time and money, I came to the conclusion that I have failed and given up on dating.

[@gloriaglobug3799]

Don't give up. You will find that one❤

[@kirkwhite1736]

@@gloriaglobug3799 Sorry I'm done. Besides, until I leave America, I won't forward anything anymore.

[@kirkwhite1736]

​@@gloriaglobug3799Sorry I'm Done

[@garyr1934]

Loved this Needed it even more Thank you Cheers from NYC

[@ElephantInTheRoom777]

Thank you Stephy, very healing and soul satisfying.

[@Starrr-jb2cf]

Ur channel is so helpful in so many ways. Thank you.

[@hajarsweet870]

Your videos always come on time❤ I really appreciate your hard work and your content always speaks to me and gives me a much needed reassurance to keep going ❤

[@curtismartin2866]

I will be alone forever. I will never open myself to that kind of pain ever again.

[@keshneegovender54]

I was thinking this very thought this week. 😅 Stephanie coming with the content we need ❤

[@Jose_Martinez_]

Muy buen video Stephanie, expresas de una manera simple y clara ideas que ayudan mucho.

[@alexjavad]

You are an incredibly beautiful and insightful woman. Thank you.

[@NarcNarkNerk]

Thank you for this helpful content. ❤

[@nikm2089]

Radical acceptance. I accept that I may be alone the rest of my life and that’s okay.

[@spiroguru]

nice video!!!!!!being alone is power!!!!!!food for thinking!!!

[@stephaniewatterson]

Yup 👍

[@heladds]

I am alone and miserable...not happy at all...more.than anything im scared ...god plz help me

[@socialmediaroadtrip]

thanks so much Stephanie .. you've been a blessing today....

[@curtishutcherson2472]

I love you Stephanie, you're a caring, good and sweet woman from your boy Curtis out of Smyrna TN showing love 💜

[@mikeneal8651]

Wow! I needed this

[@rosemargriffith]

Wow, this was a fantastic motivator, thank you.

[@Edmond347]

I don’t “think” I’m going to end up alone; I “know” I’m going to be alone. Between the Narcissistic abuse from my last covert Narc gf, to the expectations women have toward men today, to the undatable pool of women in my age interest bracket, there is 0% percent chance I’ll find a suitable candidate. I’m 51, look 30, make a substantial salary as a lawyer, no kids, extremely active and in perfect shape, own a condo in the middle of San Diego, etc. Women my age, and even younger, look like grandmas, 99% are obese, and have a truckload of baggage, all making them undatable. 20 year olds are airheads looking for a meal ticket. Finding one in her 30s with a good job is like winning a lottery. So I have checked out. Many men younger than I are also checking out.

[@bellak2140]

What is it with some men in their 50s claiming they look 30? Not a single one who says that about himself actually looks 30. Just like you say women your age look like grandmas, people also think men your age look like grandpas. The things you wrote makes it seem like you have an inferiority complex with regards to your age. You also sound like you have a bunch of baggage so work on your issues, perhaps then you will be able to see more clearly.

[@basketofpuppys]

everyone is alone really no one can climb into your head and be with you ..... being with the wrong person can be worse then being alone

[@LifeIsGood1992]

I am a man, 31, and actually I am excited to end up alone 😅 I hope to cut through life like that

[@kennedystarr8094]

I needed this so bad, thank you!

[@Independentlash]

I need this!!!

[@asyed1995]

Feelings " Song An other summer day , Millions people around me, I feel alone I want to go 🏡 ? Strong enough if some break 🆙 then say Good bye & to Welcome other Matters of 💙 thanks lady.

[@johnshafer7214]

Went through a divorce I didn't want ten years ago. Went out with three different women and two were one and done and the third woman was extremely needy and crazy single mom with four kids with three different men. Mid 40s I don't see myself having a relationship. I'm trying to move on but my past keeps being used against me.

[@toyonobutajima8978]

Thank you!

[@audioeins]

excellent pep talk :) thank you. i am doing outstandingly well, terrific, and could not be better, as always, but my 'friend' enjoys some reassurances and motivational positivity and a reminder of some of those impressive Dr. Stephanie style statements you made from your office chair :) i am proud of you :)(i am merely being playful and not facetious) ok, thats it for me, as im going into target (hopefully they make it as easy as walmart would if they were not more than a half hour drive away) to get some thread and needles to repair a torn and deteriorating wetsuit :) be good :)

[@MKVProductions944]

I’ve been alone my whole life and I really have no positive attributes I am going to be alone forever

[@donaldgansky5907]

Very informative Thanks

[@comarshlunan8592]

Well said!!

[@steffe9051]

i am feeling alone latly last year when i ended my toxic beshte friendship i was excited to try new things , self growth , heal make new friends but i could not make friends i am seeing toxic, narci people all i want is positive people in my life and am stressed i missing going out with friends .i go out sometimes but cant go someplaces alone . i cant wait things to get better it scares me that i will not have anybody in my life sometimes i want to look at peoeples eyes and listen and talk

[@yichispiritual]

1) having friends and not love partner is not being alone 2) not having a partner is already happening now, not the future 3) even never have a partner it doesn’t matter so much. Even whether in this life or the next doesn’t matter that much. What matters is being healthy mentally and physically, and continue learning, with love and care from friends. And at that time, maybe one of the friends would be willing to take one step further to be a partner. Maybe not. It’s ok.

[@Melian07]

Unfortunately statistically many middle aged or older women do end up alone after divorce. Also this is trickier for religious people like me, because we believe it's not right to get another person after divorce (maybe unless there was a really serious problem like the partner was abusive or cheating). It's hard to imagine staying alone for the whole second half of life, but also as a believer I don't find any justification in the New Testament for getting a new partner.

[@lisagoeke5025]

I think for me its that he isolated me from friends and family. And my children are growing up. I just keep doing what I like and hopefully I'll find people who like to do the same

[@michellebrown8524]

Please make a video about where to meet guys with jobs and without addiction issues.

[@LoveKayee]

Thanks!