Story & Reaction Compilation - The March 13th, 2024 Session

[@Sun-resa]

I skipped my high school graduation. My father was a professor at my college when I got my undergraduate degree, and they let him hand me my diploma. ❤

[@Draxxdemsklounst]

$1k in uniform and makeup costs for a coffee shop job??? Sure Jan, sure. 😂

[@TheLindz123]

Not mama tearing him a new one for being stupid and disrespecting his woman 😂

[@ashleycornwell67]

As someone who has been to 2 Supernatural conventions, this was probably Saturday which is the night that has a big concert to end the evening. If they purchased tickets and attended that, there was no chance of them ever making it to her party. And they would have known that ahead of time.

[@terriangrey6763]

The story about the girl who couldn’t hold down a job or a place to live reminds me of my ex-girlfriend. She was the same way and also a pathological liar.

[@Winter_Dream_]

I’ve been with someone like the girl who couldn’t keep a place. It’s suffocating and so stressful. I was living in a constant state of anxiety helping them. Getting away was freeing

[@brendacchebet]

She's definitely the dispencible friend. They should've prioritised their friends graduation.

[@Reilakai]

The graduation thing, all around NTA there is no right or wrong decision and no one is the bad guy. Dad probably feels guilty that mom isn’t there for the milestones (he has no reason to but grief doesn’t work that way) and wants to do the extra to fill the gap. I walked at my associates graduation even though I didn’t want to because I knew that my grandmothers wouldn’t be around to see my bachelors and I wanted those pictures with them

[@NoWhere-But-Here]

I had to pause the video to stop laughing at how much he told on himself over the books. And in the deep recesses of his memory the image of his mother's bookshelf lurks.

[@NoWhere-But-Here]

If the books makes him fixate, he could buy a couple of books covers/dust jackets and ask his wife to use them while he works on his issues.

[@Mrs.HardKover]

Tony Spark is more realistic than most. Real friends (and spouses/partners) bicker and make mistakes. I think commenters are WAY too quick to declare “go no contact” (esp w family members) or “divorce!”Who among us hasn’t acted badly and regretted it? We all deserve some grace.

[@spherecleaning3606]

Google says, technically you only need one person to have a class action lawsuit

[@DryPaperHammerBro]

Washington, what the fuck are your no-pursuit laws?

[@shanageiger9371]

Haha too funny I knew the exact state you were talking about! I live her and yes it does exist. You would be very shocked at what exists here! Still, is one of the most naturalistically beautiful states.

[@Reilakai]

15:15 that sounds like some buried trauma, he should talk to a therapist. Especially with the OCD he has some stuff that he needs to work through. He can’t control her reading them, but there are some covers that can be a little too racy and if that’s what is contributing to the discomfort, he can reasonably request the are stored such that he doesn’t encounter the covers, like on a bookshelf where the covers aren’t visible unless you take them off the shelf or in a room when he can be away from them

[@auburncazanigo9173]

THE INHERITANCE: Leave her. Look at your state laws on alimony or maintenance. Inheritance is the money or property given as it was. She is essentially making a higher income than you are now. The income from the property in not inheritance $ in many states. Also, i would be greatly concerned on her ability to manage the money well. Is she paying the proper taxes on this INCOME? Property taxes. Insurance, planning on repairs for this rental, evictions, etc. Being married, could mean that she would expect you to clean up her mess of financial burden when the IRS comes knocking.

[@lillysprinkle873]

I think they weren’t your friends to begin with because if they were, they should have cut the convention short and been there for you.

[@jacquelineshaw3540]

If the OP with the gf who is in for over $4000 - does buy a house and move her in - I sure hope he protects his asset. Certainly sounds like most of her problems are self inflicted.

[@JenniHilton-od6ml]

(So….im from the Midwest USA, apologies in advance for midwestern humor) yeah, why did this guy not gently slide the girl off his lap, defend and protect the relationship with his wife??? Mind blown.

[@Mrs.HardKover]

Wife’s books: it’s GREAT that he wouldn’t say anything because he knows she’d give it up for him. So sweet in both parts! But this is HIS problem to get counseling about. My opinion: he’s worried she wants the things in the books, but i don’t think that’s the case. Usually, stuff in books just adds to reality, whether it be feeling added empathy for others, feeling empowered,, feeling nostalgic, and, among many other things, feeling sexy.

[@KenoGary]

The husband fixated on wife’s books isn’t a choice by him. He can’t just choose to let it go and fixate on something else- If you’re on the spectrum many times compromise isn’t an option in situations like this

[@EmilyThomas-gw2cs]

I'm curious what the male version is of this. For me personally I'm sure a visual person that when I read a book I play it as a movie in my head and won't even realize that hours have passed so if I were to read a book with graphic sexual content it would play as a very graphic movie

[@EmilyThomas-gw2cs]

I know its a stretch and I could be wrong, I didn't hear that it only makes him uncomfortable that he reads it, I think it makes him uncomfortable that he knows what she's ready. Kind of (I know its a stretch), if a wife doesn't want their husband fantasizing over women too.

[@KenoGary]

It’s the spectrum issue- his brain can’t choose what to fixate on. If this is what has his attention theirs nothing he can do about it

[@2user000]

Spectrum or not it’s HIS problem, not hers. If he’s that on the spectrum he shouldn’t have gotten with someone who wants to live a normal life 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@catbeara]

What would he normally do with a fixation that is out of his control? He should do that. Might need a therapist's help in terms of coping mechanisms. Either way, this is his issue to deal with not hers, so he should do his best to try and find a way to do so.

[@chericeswain7502]

As someone with severe ADHD but also loves romance novels, I see these as a good story to escape. And romances are a good story without taking an emotional toll generally. Now I don’t know how it feels to be NT in this. But for me it’s not an expectation and frankly I wouldn’t be interested in 90% of what I read but there’s a disconnect.

[@sunkissedaurora3325]

Wifes books: a common relation i see in many of my mom groups are wives that read saucy books usually have issues with their guys watching porn and dont see that its similar situations. It may not be the thing in this particular story, but it is something that comes up and is, imo, a fair point. Unfortunately its a communication thing in the end. I hope OP can open up to his wife or a therapist to figure it out.

[@razredge07]

Wife's Inheritance Story: I can't help but to wonder if the wife is mirroring? A lot of what she's doing is centered around the idea that whoever makes the most money in a relationship makes the rules. This is a common tactic used by men against their wives. As for her considering her boss to be too old might be her mirroring her husband's critiques about how a woman's value is tied to her appearance. Even the reference to the "bloodline" is something lots of men harp about where they see the woman as merely an incubator for their bloodline. I could be wrong but this situation has a very strong "The Tables Have Turned" revenge vibe. What he may view as selfishness might be all the pettiness he earned through a rather torturous treatment of his wife. Even the way he wrote the story is more focused on one-upping her rather than trying to understand her perspective at all.

[@cicichambers3887]

The guy with the wife who inherited the house and money… At first I was like OK it sucks she's selfish but it sounds like her behavior is reactionary because he's doing a whole lot of painting himself to be a saint and her to have just gone rogue. How much complaining does he do about having to work and having bills to pay and making her feel like crap because maybe she wanted kids? Did she distance herself because he was being emotional distant to her because the questions he's asking what does he get? Why does he have to pay for things That makes me think he skewing his story to make himself look like a victim. Maybe wife knows that she wants to leave him eventually but can't because he'll probably take all of her earnings and money. How do we know that she hasn't been the one that's been working her butt off and paying the lion share of the bills, as well as raising the kids as a single mom? Again, his whole premises what does he get? Why does he have to work?

[@laurenescoto481]

Wife's books: I read those spicy books. ex: 50 shades of grey, and other erotica/exotica romance styled books and my hubby don't care. He always asks here and there how the story is coming along and asks what kind of content of the couples in the story are like and asks what bdsm stuff is happening (if any) and whatnot without freaking out or wondering if the stories I read are better than our real life. Lol So happy my hubby doesn't judge me over reading the spicy books.

[@sirnird9982]

The story about the romance novels, candy thunder is very off base with her assumptions. Dusty is very much on base and OP knows it’s a him problem.

[@PenelopePeriwinkle]

So she knew the date of this convention and decided to have her graduation party on that day? Self-sabotage. She wanted to make sure nobody went to this convention bc she couldn’t go bc she couldn’t afford it. She had enough money for booze and food for her grad party. I think her friends had enough of her.

[@TheLindz123]

She knew the date yes but the friend og had to work so they as a group decided not to go. Then after they decided not to go she made her grad party plans 2 weeks before the grad party without telling her the friends bought themselves tickets to the event without telling her at that point she'd spent all her extra money on the grad party and it was short notice as well

[@jazzyjamster25]

Husband whose wife is reading smut books. She is reading things and desiring to things she cannot have. It's the same thing, just on a different level, as if you were watching porn, desiring things you cannot have. It's not real life and she needs to put the book down and be content with what he has with you and you need to put your foot down and tell her this is unacceptable behavior

[@lyndsycarson8302]

Those books are like trash tv though, i feel like they kill peoples brain cells and the relationships are toxic and really gross not only sexual acts but mentally. It’s like when people are obsessed with one of those obviously fake “reality shows where people are being trash and all the woman have fake lips and act like the worst versions of themselves… I’m also neurodivergent and I’m not prudish it just bothers me that people are okay with things downfall of society and social norms. I saw idiocracy and it stuck with me real hard lol