STORYTIME: DATE GONE *WRONG* IN LAGOS NIGERIA 😭

[@nadinehaughton6290]

Chizzy as a 50 year old woman let me tell you.....never call or reach out to find out what is going on with the plans if he was to get back to you. The fact that he changed the time to later put you in the position that you did not want to be in in the first place....not a late dinner thing. You should have just canceled with him and tell him when he really has the time to really do a date he can let you know. If you are available you will consider it depending on your plans. Men play too many games these days.

[@Kiki32131]

Yes, I totally agree. He should've been kept on a strict schedule. You can't make it, its cancelled until further notice.

[@Lala.H.R]

Yeap 100%

[@Burner067]

could you share another advice please ? :)

[@nadinehaughton6290]

@@Burner067 awww....so happy you love my advice. One thing i have learned to look for in a man and i think it is the most important thing to look for. Consistency! Consistency in how he treats you, consistency in how he talks to you, consistency in his mood, consistency in his actions. Just consistency. If you mean anything to a man he will make sure that he is positively consistent with you.

[@Burner067]

@@nadinehaughton6290 thank you so much you seem very wise❤️ i’ll gladly apply these advices!

[@gracelul8407]

You were not bugging at all. The part that really bothers me is Jess never said this person was a man or woman nor asked for your consent FIRST before introducing you two to each other. Glad you left safely and didn’t have to pay a dime for that nonsense.

[@doreenwilliams9622]

Jess set up a WhatsApp group without your knowledge or consent - That was the first red flag!! Follow your instincts and not friends advice to chill and go with the flow.. The flow can take you over a cliff edge!! Smhxinfinity

[@kellacanb]

@@doreenwilliams9622 Preach Doreen 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@onlooker4564]

Tbh I was surprised that she didn't know that Rosco was a man... 🤷🏾‍♀️ And you were the first person to push 'lunch' to 5pm. Did you ever stop to think how that was received? To me, you gave him the impression that you were actually ok with 'non-lunch'....

[@noirfit9721]

I was supposed to take a whole vacation with someone I was seeing. After planning for two months, a week before he started changing all the plans! After two plans changed, I told him I wasn’t going to do the vacation anymore and went on vacation by myself instead! Did a solo vacay in Orlando for a whole week, theme parks and beaches by myself and loved it! Ain’t NOBODY about to waste my time

[@chinweaniche-hall3895]

That's that Nigerian mentality that because you are single you must be desperately looking for a man. I used to get it too here in the states, they always try to set me up with a man in Abuja and I live here in America. The guy probably expected you to pay because you came from America and a big time youtuber. Glad you got out of there safe and alive.

[@librahim1]

and even some of these men they recommend they would not like for themselves but because you're "desperate" anything should do.

[@chinweaniche-hall3895]

@@librahim1 you hit the nail right on the head.

[@ogenglishchat9502]

But its quite surprising cos d real Nigerian mentality is that the man always pays whether d woman is richer or not cos Nigerian men are all about their ego, but I guess not every1 is like that.

[@nancybash1814]

*African mentality

[@dot1384]

By that hyphenated last name, it looks like you settled with someone here. The basic truth is with time, beauty fades, fertility issues and jaded mentality.

[@naturallynay7231]

So he doesn't have a job...car....place of his own. But SOMEHOW is ready to date someone 🤔🤔🤔. Lord issa no for me. Send me another one lol I promise I'm not being ungrateful lol.

[@ChiziDuru]

Everyone deserves love just not MY LOVE 😩

[@CleanwithJ]

The second restaurant was the one he could afford, but you threw him a curve ball. I don't think he ever had intentions on the first restaurant.

[@CrochetedRealitygy]

This!!

[@ezinwanwakama5057]

Good catch!

[@JadesolaSamuel]

But why wasn’t he just honest from the jump? 😭

[@chloemk]

I agree!!

[@enooeeelelee_]

Also, he never intended to meet up at 5 or 6:30.

[@sarahvincent6144]

Girl I had to pause this and get my mug because the tea was too good lol. Its like listening to one of my friends tell me a story.

[@apara2005]

Same. I paused and made dinner and sat down to ate!

[@irenemunduzi]

I saved the video for dinner time 😂😂

[@adornedbeautifully2487]

WOW!!!! You handled that waaaaay better than I did. I probably would have left when I went to the restroom. Glad you made it out safely.

[@israeliana]

And Rosco could see this because he follows her

[@debbiedee9308]

Met too!! That's a crazy date.

[@gracebyrd2454]

"Don't ever go with any flow" -Chizi Duru I agree with you girl.

[@nc3919]

Sis… I have been feeling bummy the last few days but your skin, hair and nails are giving me goals to get cute. So beautiful! Blessings to you!

[@Sheshe899]

I have a feeling he planned to take you to that 2nd bugdet restaurant (that you refused) all along. The original nice restaurant was just a way to get you out to meet him. I bet any money that's the truth!

[@Nisa1971]

First you look great! Now the next thing, he sounds like the tinder swindler! Like he was going to use you to pay for drinks and then he was going to use the picture with you for clout to get the next girl. "See I'm legit I hung out with Chizi and I'm helping her with business strategies." Boy bye!

[@whatsgoodman2812]

His "enemies" made his card declined 👌🏾💀

[@isamps1]

Lol exactly!

[@rutendochikuri7317]

@@whatsgoodman2812 😂

[@okolionyekachukwu3262]

very apt

[@rachelesmith3342]

How is this any different from women who go on tindr that are broke and just wanna use men for a free meal lol?

[@mihretshimels3176]

Chizi: “there is nothing wrong with men” Also Chizi: 🙆🏾‍♀️

[@OmaGladys9]

Lagos men are called "LAGOS DEMONS" for a reason.

[@YaadPikni]

In Jamaica, we call that emergency money "get vex money". Meaning, if this person turns out to be particularly VEXING, you can up and leave. Glad he didn't try to physically harm you. The emotional scarring is another matter entirely. Also, what were the prices like for the other place? I'm super curious now

[@omosumoru2653]

We call it vex money In Nigeria too 😅

[@praiselodey8772]

We call it vex money in Nigeria too😒

[@TheMomLifee]

Us too in Nigeria 😂

[@LisePlansandJournals]

We call it vex money in Trinidad too😂we’re all the same people as my Nigerian friend says 😂

[@sharaskeete3014]

We call it vex money or bex money in Nevis too.

[@Cina-nae]

You're definitely in the right. On a first date, it's a bad sign for a guy to constantly change the time to later and then not make a reservation AND NOT HAVE MONEY.....Like I would have been like BYE. Especially if I don't know them and I'm on vacation plz. But you're right not to sacrifice your standards and your worth. Jess did you wrong lol.

[@isamps1]

Yes to all of this!

[@apara2005]

I remember learning the "always have emergency cash" on dates lesson in my early 20s. I went on a date with this guy who turned out to be psycho!!! I wanted to leave, but I couldn't because he picked me up and drove us there (last time I let a guy do that on the first date). Back when I was in my early 20s, there was no such thing as an Uber; you had to call a cab, and I couldn't because I didn't have any cash on me 🤦🏾‍♀️. So I had no choice but to stick the whole date out and let him drive me home.

[@ambriaashley3383]

Oh no girl!! I hope you got home safe & unscathed. That's terrible. No friends could've picked you up either?

[@LoveMae1222]

Ugh nooo. This is why I always wanna drive myself or get myself somewhere. When I was 17 I let a guy take me out to dinner, mall, and a movie. and he ended up stopping mid date for "something" it was coke. We got pulled over on way to mall because he was speeding and driving like a maniac. Idk how we didn't get searched. But I ended up just wanting to go home but he wouldn't take me back. I ended up having to call my sister and have her come get me from the mall. He was trying to talk me into staying. I was like idgaf what u do but I'm not riding with you while u drive like crazy got your windshield tag out of date and riding dirty. No thank you. You do what u want but don't drag me into that. I dodged a bullet when we were stopped earlier and I just don't feel I'm lucky enough to dodge another tonight. Goodbye.

[@britjj5126]

@@LoveMae1222 that's wild!

[@LoveMae1222]

@@britjj5126 fr it's scarred me lol. Since then I hate riding with someone I don't know super well. Even then I always opt to drive, if I can. What's probably even crazier though is the amount of complete losers I've attracted. I've got too many bad date stories, it's not even funny.

[@A.babygirl4life]

I was flabbergasted when you mentioned Jess is not black👀 Chizi baby, you let someone who isn’t familiar with Nigeria, Lagos, book you a date?? Chizi baby, mezz-up!

[@ChisomAdaora]

Exactly lol

[@adesolaamoo]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💔

[@pehtrahh]

This was dangerous on so many levels. Thank goodness you got out safely. It'd have been nice if she told you about him and let you decide if you wanted to know him.

[@18lillypie]

Now WHY are you inviting someone out when money no dey in your account to even take care of your own bill? The second-hand embarrassment I would be having while this man fumbled to pay… are you not embarrassed this is REALLY embarrazzing?!

[@tmt436]

Girl after all that delay he would have been cancelled but experiences brings knowledge and now u know better. Never go anywhere without your "vex money" (that is what we call it in my neck of the woods) and don't let nobody encourage you to do nothing u don't want to do. Thank God you were smart enough to see the red flags and get yourself out of it.

[@ladyenfamouz]

Vex money is so important. Whilst we can assume that men will pay, they may not and you’ve got to stay ready - always!

[@melissasmith4466]

We call it vex money too.

[@reginaalabere1329]

The minute Chizi introduced the guy as ‘Roscoe,’ it was over😂😂😂😂

[@chichigirl214]

Rosco, I dedicate this one to you🎤: 💃🏾 You want to bomba? 😎 You wanna to chill with the big boys? 🏃🏿‍♂️ Now you dey run kiti kiti, 🏃🏿‍♂️You dey run kata kata, 🥂 No fit drink water drop cup. 🙆🏾‍♀️ Ha! Hey! 🤷🏾‍♀️ Shebi you see how the thing go? 🤣

[@honestone3721]

1st red flag was him not texting the location and you having to text him about it! Nope wouldn’t have went on no date bc he didn’t send the location and I wouldn’t have text to ask about it bc he asked me out! After ALL that, he’s broke, no car, place?! Asks you on a date and had 0 dollars?!🤔 block jess and roscoe 😂

[@apara2005]

Thought the same. Second and last red flag would have been him not rolling me had an emergency earlier in the day, and waiting until the last minute to push the date back to 6:30. No ma'am 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@GloriaQuansah]

I feel like he probably wanted the picture to use with other people and say that “he helps Chizi with her business and been giving her some strategies”

[@zuriii4883]

You know what!! That would make sense

[@apara2005]

I thought the same!!!!

[@ChiziDuru]

Good thing I took it on MY phone 😂

[@nadiajourdan3969]

Always trust your instincts! If something doesn't feel right, you don't have to know all the details/facts, just listen to your gut...... and run!!! 😆 🤣 🏃🏾💨

[@plutonian_accountant]

He would've used your picture for his business or whatever kind-of work he claims

[@AfricanDee]

Jess was wrong for just adding you in a group chat like that without first consulting with you. So she gets a 🙄 That’s a huge red flag and flawed judgement. Rascoe is damn rascal for real. He wanted to play with the big boys with broke pockets.

[@Brwniee95]

Lolllll you calling the bolt while the card declined is such a mood I would’ve done the same 😩😂

[@sabinemarie2159]

Well!! That was quite the adventure wasn't it?! Great Story time I loved it lol. And no you're not bugging, I think you were actually very nice in a situation where you could have totally bugged out. So many red flags! Dating can suck, but at least you get a funny story out of it!!

[@monicakeenon8943]

You are not “ social capital” to build someone else’s reputation. Never take pictures when you don’t feel comfortable. Just say “no thank you”. Grace!

[@azianizz]

THEY HAD TO JOIN NIGERIA AND AMERICA IN THIS ONE PERSON! TWO COUNTRIES WITH THE MOST DRAMATIC BLACK HUMANS!!! The drama!!!!!😂🤣😂🤣😂 I am in stitches😂🤣😂🤣 Thank you sis👏🏽👏🏽😂🤣😂🤣🥰🥰🥰

[@olyawamba6051]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Dannyao95]

This is hilarious 😂

[@azianizz]

@@Dannyao95 She just finishes me man! She embodies her people so much😂🤣😂🤣

[@naturallynay7231]

So my question is, did "Jess" ever reach out to you to ask you how the date went? 🤔

[@MaggieMagnoli]

I was looking for this comment. We need commentary from Jess.

[@zuriii4883]

Right!

[@ChiziDuru]

Nopeeee but she messaged me on the side the day I was supposed to meet him to let me know she heard we’d be meeting up and proceeded to tell me how great he was… lol

[@chanstan3658]

@@ChiziDuru omg noooo Jess has some nerve sheesh

[@SammySingally]

So…..why didn’t Jess date him?

[@librahim1]

Girl, I hate being blindsided. especially with these recommendations from friends /aunts or whoever it is ( bearing in mind them knowing full well with some of these 'recommendations' they will not like it for themselves ) like let me know why I am being introduced and i'll make an informed decision from there. Like man is a full grown adult out here you get me lool . Love from the ukx

[@melevonne]

I don't see anything wrong with him not being independent 100% right now. Everyone has their own path. I just think if he wants to date he needs to be stable and able to hold his own.

[@Jeanniewhatnow]

I love that! “ it is OK for you to not be where you want to be financially just don’t include me in it”! I have learned that you must always have a list of non-negotiables. If your line in the sand is lunch only for new dates, never deviate. My line in the sand is don’t date Capricorn men and don’t go to restaurants with carpet. Last week I did both and later found out he used to work in government and went to jail for taking bribes. It’s all connected in the universe some how🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tahsia1]

This tickled me! Please please please what is ‘restaurant with carpet’?? 😂😂😂

[@carofantastic]

What’s wrong with carpet 😭😂😂😂😂😂

[@christinewhack8860]

"Jess" set you up. She could of sent you a message on the side about him. Of course, he was wrong too. Glad you were safe and dipped.

[@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley]

Right?! Would've taken nothing to send a text message and just been open: "Hey, I have a friend that's interested in you, here's their info, you want to talk to him?" Don't just group chat someone out of the blue where it's then too late to back out 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@chloemk]

Jess definitely set her up. So glad Chizi cancelled her. I would’ve too.

[@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIES]

This is the story of Nigerians... We are weird like that. You've really grown up. It's good to follow your instincts.. I too would've RAN!

[@LisePlansandJournals]

This is the story of broke black males. I hear a lot of this going on with black girls in america too. Just a bunch of broke dusties, these boys. Older men or non bm for me.

[@imaniedwards5477]

I have a couple of thoughts about this: 1. ultimately your friend who set this up deserves an "L" for this, since she should know your standards. 2. there's nothing wrong with a guy not being rich or buying a bottle of wine for a first date however, he should pick a restaurant that he could afford.

[@Flourish_today]

That's how someone will miss out on a good man, wine expectations🤔

[@ChiziDuru]

Wasn’t my friend, just a business associate to be clear :) No friend of mine would pull something like this 😂

[@nae1300]

I don’t think it’s about her standards per say… he should have maybe asked to meet her in a group setting .. or even for just coffee if that’s what he could afford.. he shouldn’t have asked her to a nice restaurant if he didn’t have the money. That’s it that’s all.. like why do that as if she wouldn’t find out

[@ChisomAdaora]

I agree about point number 2, even if he had money ordering a bottle on the first date is a little overzealous. EDIT: I did the conversion rate the bottle of wine was $72-150.

[@josjourney8107]

@@Flourish_today a good man would not ask you out on a date if he knows damn well he can’t pay🙄. He couldn’t even afford the cocktails they got.

[@naturallynay7231]

Girllllllllll I thought it was just the guys here in the states that was like that 🥴🥴🥴. That man was NOT ready to date AT ALL.

[@TheOnylove]

It’s true. Don’t every go with any flow if you have expectations and standards for romantic partners. Make it known ladies and stick with that! Oh and if he does not confirm the date within a reasonable time, you don’t have a date no more. No need to check in and see what’s good if he said he will message you the details. You are a busy person with plans and you don’t drop everything for them. Just continue with your day as planned (without them, lol).

[@latashapannell7420]

Friend it got fishy when you couldn’t go to the best restaurant because he don’t have a reservation. He had no intention of going there n the first place 🤡🤡🤡

[@Ogechime]

I have been in this situation before and it was the first date as well. Having emergency cash is definitely needed💯 After ordering and eating, it was time to pay and his card got declined. I was so pissed because he started giving dumb excuses of how his sister Abi brother finished the money he put in, blah blah. I ended up paying for it. Honestly I was just really nice because I would have ordered my Uber and left. When I got home, he was like let’s have a second date next week. I was like ah asin you think I’m a mumu abi, he don find free lunch partner and thinks i would pull up for that nonsense again. I blocked him straight up afterwards. WORST DATE EVER ❗️

[@LisePlansandJournals]

What is with these broke boys using women for free food!! This is why I’ve only ever dated older men I know through my work industry. Sheesh!

[@chanstan3658]

This man doesn’t have any money 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 this story time just got better and better….I’m sorry this happened but it was funny as hell

[@stellamarislegal]

Chizi the practice of doing financial favours to a person who will credit your account later is very risky in Nigeria. If funds from a fraudster are tracked to your account it could land you in Police custody. Didn't ever give out your account details indiscriminately.

[@MrPresh24]

As a man, this was wrong. I've always had the opinion that a man should work to fix himself to some extent before looking to date. I won't blame chizzy at all to be honest.

[@santabelle872]

“All my friends keep telling me I need to date and I’m like…why?” “Listen, don’t ever go with any flow. Mtcheww” 😂😂😭😭 FELT

[@okolionyekachukwu3262]

Initially, I was like there is nothing with not knowing you need to make a reservation because Nigeria does not have a reservation culture and there is nothing wrong with coming with a Bolt because Lagos traffic can be draining or his car could be bad but when I screamed red flag was when he said he lived with his sister full time, he had reservations about the wine, he had no job, couldn't provide a business strategy and he wanted a picture and his card declined. He is obviously looking for "a big girl" to date and scam in the name of love

[@MOMENTSWITHMIDETHE1ANDONLY]

Good people know good people 🤣🤣💔

[@ChiziDuru]

Imagine!!! 😂😂

[@the0lamide]

@@ChiziDuru But truly good people know good people now LMFAOOO

[@BoswelliaLuna8]

Definitely not bugging. I would have cut that off when he was running late. Huge sign.

[@ChisomAdaora]

Firstly, I am happy you are safe and able to tell this story! Hopefully, this experience doesn't turn you off to dating because there are some good people out there, but you just have to have your guard up a little more and not be so trusting. That date was a risky situation and you are wise to cut off "Jess." Never "go with the flow," trust your intuition. It will save you from a lot. It honestly sounds like the start of a tinder swindler situation, scammy. 😂These scammers depend on the word of honest referrals to gain access to their target. I suggest having more people around you with discernment and that will do a better job of gatekeeping access to you. Also, vetting or googling a person goes beyond just finding their social media accounts (i.e. Linkedin) because they can makeup anything there. For example, if you found that he worked in a company or attended a school, cross reference it with the company/school website.

[@wendyeimieho5868]

Spot on. 👌 The first thing that came to my mind was that he must have been a "419" guy who was trying his luck!

[@kellacanb]

@@wendyeimieho5868 What's 419? Put me on please.

[@wendyeimieho5868]

@@kellacanb From Google: An advance-fee scam is a form of fraud and is one of the most common types of confidence tricks. ... The number "419" refers to the section of the Nigerian Criminal Code dealing with fraud and the charges and penalties for such offenders. @Robyn Forbes, most times in Nigeria, when the term/number "419" is used to describe a person, it basically means the person is a fraudster. It's sort of a slang word. 😃

[@kellacanb]

@@wendyeimieho5868 Thank you 🙏🏾

[@justedominique]

I don’t blame you for dropping both of them bc what?? You could’ve been put in a very serious situation.

[@yaadiecurls2986]

Chizi: let’s do lunch Roscoe: Sure what time? Chizi: 5pm lol

[@rhondadenis3469]

My grandmother calls it “mad money”. Never go on a date with out it.

[@abaeynj9695]

Vex Money mine used to say!!! a definite must!

[@cindyraymond1272]

To be honest, I think you went on this date with a lot of expectation and a low to empty wallet. I understand he was not transparent enough to let you know his budget. It was just a date, next time it will be reasonable to go with your money and in as much as we do have different life standards and no one would want to settle below their standard, there's nothing wrong with living with a sister, being unemployed seeking for a job and ecc, it is just not your standard and that is ok.

[@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954]

You look so beautiful today! This makeup is on point.

[@krenee984]

So when this has happened to me before, I paid out of embarrassment. You not paying or worrying about not paying is a WHOLE MOOD!

[@brookebellamy9864]

The ole scam, compulsive liar, broke boy routine smh. I'm sorry this happened to you, but know that many of us have been experienced that in some way shape or form. So you are definitely not alone. Your absolutely right! Take it as a lesson learned and definitely leave dusty a__ Rosco & Jess alone. When the right one comes along you'll know, so continue using your discernment Queen.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

What is with these broke boys using women for free food!! This is why I’ve only ever dated older men I know through my work industry. Sheesh!

[@Allison.Stonee]

that man had no business dating, no job, no home and no money. I cannot wow

[@MaryBieber7]

Nah sis, you should have held “Jess” accountable. I would have had some words for her. Unacceptable

[@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley]

As a woman, I also don't date a lot so things like tipping took me time to learn (I feel horrible now in looking back, I don't think I tipped my waitress on my first date. Also...kind of hate that tipping is even a thing, but that's an issue to take up with business owners who think it's okay to pay terribly and make the patron make up the rest, not the waiter/waitress' fault. This was a trend that actually began when owners didn't want to pay really anything for newly freed slaves and sadly continues up to today...but I digress, lol). But I do know that if I'm asking someone out, I should be the one paying. I usually even split the bill even if I'm asked out, because I'm all about "being progressive/I don't need a man to pay for me", lol. Not doing so would make me feel as though I might "owe" them something and I feel I have more leverage in the relationship when I handle my own half of things. Maybe it's silly, and usually I'm pretty humble but something about men makes me become very prideful in how I present myself. Anywho, backing up what was said in the video, asking someone out to dinner when you're broke is just a huge no-no. As others said, this guy should've asked to meet up for a cup of coffee or something much more casual and cheap. Would've saved himself the embarrassment and losing the girl, lol.

[@KnockknockNox]

Imagine what would've happened if y'all had gone to the fancy restaurant he suggested first. So many Swindlers ouchea.... There's nothing wrong with not being able to afford fancy dates but if you suggest that we meet then you better have the means to pay. If I suggest that we meet up then I make sure that we go somewhere that my budget is comfortable with.

[@radiant2052]

Yeah, I would have to curse Jess out…or set her up with the Tinder Swindler 😂

[@adesolaamoo]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@sandrae4912]

Lol 😆 That's not only in Nigeria girl. Many years ago I went on a date with this Lawyer in los angeles who claimed he was a lawyer to the stars and kept bragging. His friend right next to him. First date. I didn't even get much. The bill came he couldn't pay. Claimed he'd forgotten his card or needed a different one. Looking at me like I'm supposed to foot the bill. Well YOU invited me so no. I'm not paying. I left went back to my car he had to go get his stuff. If he hadn't been narcissistic and bragging throughout the date maybe I would have felt sorry. On top of that when he was leaving he had the nerve to ask me if I wanted to come up to his high rise penthouse. NO SIR. If u can't pay ur bill u shouldn't be renting a high rise. I drove off in my paid BMW & never looked back. If you're broke don't take a girl out on a date to an expensive place u can't afford might as well offer to cook a meal for her or something genuine. It's best to be honest & genuine from the start. Even if u don't get the girl u get friendship or respect. Girls piece of advice please 🙏🏽 stay away from narcissistic people who flash money around while they're broke/bankrupt . Avoid the headache. They don't change. Find yourself one that's down to earth, loves you and is financially responsible with whom you can build something lasting with.

[@nellyalakiri2853]

“Dont forget the picture though” Amazing! The Audacity! Sheeeeshhh. We move sis!

[@ninabeena83]

Literal spit my coffee all over the phone moment at “it was a three month thing” - Lordt have mercy, that man thought you were a whole meal ticket! 😳😒 honeyyyyy glad you made it out unscathed! 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@itsmemg.]

🤣 🤣 🤣 He sussed you out! And probably had planed on you paying for everything 🙈

[@deebee3017]

Seems like he went on the date to say “oh you know that babe Chizi, I went out with her na”. Glad you made it out safe❤️

[@kfner23]

You look soo good Chizi. I have a few thoughts. Firstly, he should have made sure his card was working or had enough money in it. If his intention was to impress, he should have picked up the bill or should have been better prepared for the date. However, I have to be honest and say that not everyone is loaded oo so came across a bit judgemental in some parts and other parts I understood the anger. Also more generally, I always make sure I have enough money to cover my side of the bill in case things like this happen.

[@createmoonlee]

"Why he pause" I am WEAK! I'm glad you trusted your instincts and knew what was up REAL QUICK. But lawd did he put you through it chile. You were absolutely right in all that you did. You like me! I'mma still go, but only because i'm curious (and so I can have a story to tell later). But "Jess" clearly didn't know who this man is and shouldn't have put this dude on you LOL. I don't think there were ill-intentions in her doing so (I hope). Butttt uhh even still, baby girl had to get up out too LOL. Thank you for this laugh, I really needed it today.

[@leonisophie6029]

When he said "don't forget about our picture" like what??? omg

[@GloryOkings]

lol the no reservation part killed me! how did he not know he was supposed to make a reservation??

[@naturalsunshine4702]

Girl the first place he sent you was available, he just didn’t like the price of the restaurant. I cannot stand a cheap or a broke man. You can’t ask a lady out and penny pinch. You handled it well.

[@nerdygirltravels]

Oh no, me and Jess would definitely have to exchange words because abeg, which kain nonsense be dis? And all jokes aside, if she doesn't really know this man, she legit could have been putting you in harms way linking you two together.

[@azandekhanyile3290]

2 minutes in and I had to pause to comment on the braids 😍😍😍 gorgeous 🥰🥰

[@attorneyreid7]

When I used to date before Covid, I set up the dates and I would meet them at the restaurant. I lived in Boston so I pretty much could walk from my house to the restaurants and back. I even have the options of hoping on the subway. I've walked out on dates before and had no problem getting home

[@carlamoore8215]

I loved this story time with you, i had a similar situation happened to me but luckily i had my emergency money, gurl these kinda dudes be the worst. Glad you got out safe. love you!!!!

[@LisePlansandJournals]

What is with these broke boys using women for free food!! This is why I’ve only ever dated older men I know through my work industry. Sheesh!

[@digitallocations1423]

That's why dating is so expensive and a lot of women won't go out on dates. It's these degenerate men. God save this generation.

[@doreenwilliams9622]

Jess set up a WhatsApp group without your knowledge or consent - That was the first red flag!! Follow your instincts and not friends advice to chill and go with the flow.. The flow can take you over a cliff edge!! Smhxinfinity

[@inchrist000]

Bless his heart, lol. It doesnt sound like a "date" though. Seems like he just wanted to meet up for a networking opportunity and a pic for advertising but either way he still needs to come correct when he's taking out a woman of status. How dare "Jess" give him such easy access.

[@enaruvie]

Bro had no intention of taking you to the new restaurant. He thought you’d agree to go to the 2nd choice when there was ‘no reservation ‘. Shame. He was trying to get a leg up. Jess was kinda wrong. She should have looked out a bit.

[@LoveMae1222]

This was a hilarious story, especially the way you told it. I'm gonna get serious for a minute though because I got really annoyed with his night ending trick. This man really did the old "oh my cards not working" trick to try and force you into paying for the "date" HE WANTED SO BAD?! It seems that he wanted to get to know you and impress you while having a secret ulterior motive behind it all. I don't think it's a coincidence he follows you on social media. Idt he is a fan as much as he is a "wanter" of what you got. Too many "men" these days like this, too many. I don't need a rich man, we can get there together, but absolutely nothing? And his success plan at that time seemed to revolve around getting to know you. I don't want to use the word con because that seems harsh plus I'm not sure that's exactly what it was. I do feel for him a bit, if you received legit business advice, he seems really smart then. Maybe he just needs that break, you know, to get to the next step to be successful. Tricking a girl by making her think your treating her to dinner when you planned to not pay isn't really the way to do it though. That's where what sympathy I had kind of goes out the window. He couldn't have thought that was his only option, right? If he was wanting to use your success as a stepping stool, that was a bad way to try and get his foot in the door. It's almost disrespectful at that point. He think women are stupid or what? That's how it feels.

[@LoveMae1222]

Side note I think he assumed if he couldn't pay you'd just pick up the bill no problems no questions. But knew if he asked you to pay when asking you to dinner you'd have a higher chance of saying no. The "card isn't working trick" has happened to me twice. I ended up paying both times and tipping. I was just a waitress myself, making 2 dollars an hr plus only a portion of my tips, so I chose to not go out often. That's what upsets me so much when it happened. Boy I wouldn't have went out and spent money if YOU didn't ask me 8 frigging times to go out. And some of those times I was even very vocal about why and said "it's nothing to do with you, but I really just can't afford to go out" and you say it's on you. Ugh. Thankful to have a good man now but I went through too many con men. I almost didn't even give him a chance because all the ones before him made me think I was a loser magnet.

[@ChisomAdaora]

You're absolutely right, she has to be more careful. It's a funny story now, but realistically it's a very dangerous situation.

[@isamps1]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@BeComingNyrell]

I would want to know from Jess what exactly the background for this whole introduction was.

[@lareineesther2017]

First of all it is a SIN for a man to INVITE a woman out knowing well he has no money to pay for HIS own bill , Like SIR you can’t even pay for your self and you are here busy inviting people out ?? You initiate the outing and you can’t pay for your self ! I am not crucifying you for not paying for the lady , but for your self ??? I need double nailing for your cross .NONSENSEEEE in Chizi’s voice 😂😂😂

[@vaishnavigosain7197]

"Listen don't ever go with any flow." 😂😂😂 That had me rolling on the floor.

[@MaggieMagnoli]

Listeeeennn! I can't decide if he was trying to Tinder Swindle you or Nigerian Price you lmao! oh lawd!

[@notoriousMAG]

Or Yoruba Demon her

[@munarellatv]

"Chizi this man doesnt have money for you"😀😀😀😀....

[@cheshiredj]

He could definitely move on but I would have had some serious questions for Jess.

[@phillyjawnlolo089]

Chizi, how do you always get in these shenanigans when you go to Lagos 🤦🏾‍♀️ wasn't there a situation in the club last time🤣

[@smithj8026]

He could have brought cash. They only had a cocktail each. He couldn’t cover bill. If they had gone to the first spot how did he intend to pay for the date he made. The cultural expectation at her status was that they man pays. The norm. He was trying to have a free meal and an endorsement to add to his Instagram page.

[@BeComingNyrell]

I cracked up when you said you shimmied then RAN out of there 😂

[@williamgamelisenaya793]

This is more interesting than a Nollywood movie. The world is a classroom. Bless up Watching from Sydney Australia

[@smartnaturals3988]

Phew. This was so triggering to watch. But also validating for my decision to stop dating years ago. My constitution cannot handle fuckery. Also why i don't listen to friends. My intuition leads me just fine.

[@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954]

The way you drank that water cracked me up.

[@kaydenpat]

You’re an excellent storyteller. Had me cracking up. He sounds like someone who isn’t ready for prime time. Waste of energy.

[@crystalcastillo7575]

Off topic but you look luminous, you look fantastic and this color is *chefs kiss* on you. Just fab !!

[@mornasev]

I think the first lesson you learned, and should probably have it engraved on your wall, or embroidered on a pillow, "Go with your gut!" You knew from texting that this seemed a little off. Should have trusted that gut and stopped right there. I'm glad it was okay though, and you are safe!

[@theSami_A]

😂😂😂This has to be the funniest date experience I've heard. Sorry about your experience Chizi

[@msboro]

🤣🤣🤣 you've made me laugh! Maybe "Jess" introduced you because she assumed you will get on because you're both Nigerian and in the same town. Big mistake which "they" make often! Your people like to live/pretend to live bigger than they truly are. No bore 🤭. Being Ghanaian British, I know how frustrating it is when you go back home and people just waste your time. So annoying! However, don't let this stop you from dipping your toes in the pond next time. Do better due diligence than checking Social media, as anyone can write what they want. Good luck. You're looking fabulous with those braids

[@monijulliet300]

Lol I know people like Jess… AAmerican(no offense)… they think they know about Africa the continent or Nigeria the country more than you…. It’s a trip

[@marstomajormiracle5603]

what do you mean by “your people like to live…” ? who is “your people”..

[@anonymouse7877]

"Your people"???? Way out of line on that! People from anywhere can be jerks.

[@opeyemiadegoke361]

What kind of backhanded comment is this what do you mean your people ,so you mean it's only in Niger that people live beyond their means right....just say you are a card carrying member of the jealous Nigerian hating Ghanian community and keep it pushing..

[@Kezeth20]

All my friends know not to give anyone my number without my permission. Boundaries!

[@sweetexbeauty]

I don’t like referrals in relationships,let it come naturally.

[@alexandriaelon104]

I love that you know your worth and won’t expect anything less!!!