Storytime! I changed my hair a dozen times to see how society would react to me

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[@yokotoatto4426]

This is literally the most underrated channel on youtube. Everything you say sounds articulate and doesn't sound hateful either. If anyone is bothered by what you say, it's projection honestly.

[@Academiacaramelcurlz]

It really is!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@yokotoatto4426]

@@bubalove8357 woman*

[@ambrosiandienteloves4875]

That is so true! I've always avoided wearing lighter colored wigs because I don't want the attention. I've worn grey contacts and would get so many compliments, then my coworker would always yell "they're fake" from her desk.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yeah I like cosplay contacts and have worn them before (in every color, even pink and purple.) but I noticed whenever I wear any beauty enhancements it looks more “realistic” or eye catching on me, making others jealous . I’ve had women call out when I’m wearing lashes, weaves, and everything else under the sun. It’s always been a woman, and I noticed a pattern where it always has happened when others have complimented whatever the beauty enhancement is .

[@TamTam9-15]

Yes! Extensions look natural on me. I wear 20in tape ins sometimes and people are like is that your real hair and other less attractive women are so quick to tell that my hair is fake. Even tho you can’t tell where the fake hair ends and mine begins.

[@religion-free]

sO? and it looks good on you! tell her 📣🗣not everyone can PULL OFF fake!

[@harolddavis6783]

@@ExoticalsUnitedit’s time to put up or shut up Show your face

[@valeriacortez7003]

I’m not black or mixed I’m just Mexican but this channel is Gold so many lessons.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thank you so much for watching !

[@valeriacortez7003]

@PINK-xl3tb thank you. So happy to hear that, Stay blessed. 🙏

[@ilovemesumjas]

​@@meiko2164 𝑰𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆

[@valeriacortez7003]

@@meiko2164 they better be. I don't want to look like a fool 🤣

[@antionette97]

​@PINK-xl3tbyou are lucky. I only have two friends (elderly women one black-masculine- and the other white). I haven't had good experiences with women.

[@lisettes.9598]

I used to keep my curly black hair straightened in a short Halle Berry cut when I was young. It attracted everyone. DSBW at my job usually liked it until they saw all the male attention I got, then they started calling me baldheaded behind my back, lol. I'm sure the ppl outside of their circle looked at them like they were crazy for saying that because I looked good 😁

[@lisettes.9598]

@@Universityofuncommonsense I laughed so hard when I heard my new nickname!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg! I had the Rihanna Bob when she became popular in the 2000s so I cut my hair short like cheekbone length and then longer in the front then this girl tried to say my hair was “broken off in the back” 😂 10 years later that girl saw me again (I had grown my hair to around BSL by then and was wearing it straightened) suddenly she wanted to go out for drinks and hang out . Oh and when we were teenagers she also had a crush on my BF too it was weird .

[@lisettes.9598]

@@ExoticalsUnited I hope you stayed far away from that evil eye having frenemy. You can't ever be friends with people that envy you. They will always betray you!

[@zaraa1222]

Also my husband is Filipino and they worship white people. So having blonde hair they treat me as a white person. They used to be really mean to be before when I had black hair. Now they wouldn’t dare. Also they see how others treat me.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yeah it’s kind of sick honestly. That’s why I have no remorse or anything when people try to guilt me for being versatile because the same people who shame you for wearing wigs are the same people who treat you differently when you wear a blonde one or you look “exotic” in one

[@KojLok-dy6gp]

I feel bad for you. Why be with people like that?

[@religion-free]

whhhaaaat how weirrd

[@ExoticalWorld]

Super true! I get the most attention from men and women of every race when my hair is Beyonce blonde curly or straight. Definitely an interesting social experiment..great video!

[@goldenazucar3726]

I’ve had every hair color of the rainbow…lol! But when it’s blonde and curly….people stare and it’s like their in awe… even on both white and black sides.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes everyone has their own internalized biases that they won’t admit to when it comes to hair styles !

[@llsss777]

Yeah like the beyonce effect

[@mistressscarlett8978]

I get treated diffrent big time when I change my hair. When I straightened my hair I look more mixed looking. My hair is on the longer side. Because I'm black but I'm mixed passing. When I wear braids I get looked at as more black looking. I noticed when my hair straightened black and white people are nicer to me

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right , omg I forgot to mention when I tried passion twists a few years ago. People started asking me if I was from the carribean. Not sure if that hairstyle is popular there ? But I also wore those silk scarf head wrap things on top of my head similar to how a person would wear a bandana. I need to experiment with bandanas again!

[@sashaedwards3745]

This is very interesting and true! My ex who was European used to always say to me that my race changes depending on how I wear my hair/hairstyle. If I wore my hair curly 3b/3c I looked more black/mixed but with straight hair or hair slicked back, I looked more ambiguous and could pass for other ethnicities like Indian, arab or latin ect. It's actually quite fun playing around with hairslyles and confusing people 😂

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly!

[@PR-cv1if]

I never had anyone black say anything about my hair but I had an older white lady at my job that was jealous and would constantly make fun of my extensions and wigs. It was weird af

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Oh yeah she was definitely jealous of the versatility

[@AdriannesHaus]

While I’ve personally never experimented with hair color , there’s a HUGE difference (regarding complimentary attention) between my natural (3c) hair, vs when I wear it straight. But wow- this whole “hair color social experiment” is CRAZY INTERESTING. You could probably sell this “story time” to any sort of ethnic or hair publication, seriously!! I definitely appreciate your POV and keep sharing!!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Thanks ! I’m going to keep monitoring how people react to me with my different hairstyles . tonight I am going to an Ethiopian restaurant (my hair is brown and curly today like my avatar)

[@zaraa1222]

Ever since I started wearing blonde wigs I haven’t experienced any racism. I actually receive special treatment now. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yup some people bestow privilege based on hair color. Black, blonde, red, etc .

[@zaraa1222]

@@meiko2164 maybe because I was overweight as well

[@denisesampson8493]

Im a LSBW/ non mixed, 4B hair. I notice when i wear my hair natural i get more attention from white people, they seem to compliment me a lot and less attention from black men. If i wear a curly weave I notice i get the question " are you mixed" more oftern. I never get that question when i wear my hair natural or in braids. But honestly i have heard some people say darker women dont look good with blonde wigs so idk .

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yeah I think it depends on the wig itself too because my blond wigs are never blonde from root to tip they always have dark roots to match my natural dark roots

[@denisesampson8493]

@@ExoticalsUnited yep to me it depends a lot on your undertones

[@AlexisReaves-ou8do]

I had a dsbw, who was in her 30s, who was so concerned about my hair that she kept badgering me to put oil in my hair, but I didn't need any oil like her hair (i was 13 years old). Another time, i had a girl asked me how i kept my hair straight even though it was permed. My hair color is dark brown with reddish highlights, when I go out in the sun it turns sandy color (in the summer). I wanted to change once, but I grew to love my hair.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes it’s like sis you don’t like when people obsess over black womens hair to why obsess over the “pretty black” woman’s hair ? It’s because they perceive us as the “black” standard of beauty and feel like we are walking Barbie’s. So they want to control our hair and makeup lol

[@uniquelyme3581]

"He doesn't know if he can trust you" ? Hmmmm okay 😆 little does he know YOU ARE NOT HIS BIGGEST PROBLEM. It's the ppl that look like him is his biggest problem! 😂🙄

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right like who has the audacity to say that to someone , AND it was at work?

[@vanessarichardson110]

Im light skinned, could pass for mixed. I perfer my hair blonde. I changed my hair to dark because i felt like women would be nicer to me 😞 and they are. Im ready to go back blonde soon.

[@epd0126]

as a much older woman i would say you are the youngest and most beautiful you will ever be...so if the really blond hair looks really good on you...i would suggest you wear it as often as you can and simply enjoy being young and beautiful and adored...i love your channel

[@ExoticalsUnited]

exactly. getting into my 30s made me realize this. i still cannot believe that i was 22 years old with a 23 inch waist at a size 0 thinking i was not good enough and too fat! im never listening to haters again! i'll be going back blonde next week too.

[@AngelicaEstherxo]

Hair colors definitely changes your whole look! In the picture I have on my youtube profile I have some blonde/golden highlights that I actually did with a temporary hair color wax cause I was afraid of damaging my curls. The amount of EXTRA attention I got towards my hair was CRAZY! Even older people approached me to compliment me on my hair. I still do the highlights once in a while, but my hair is naturally dark(dark brown or natural black)

[@ashleynicole9423]

Your hair is gorgeous! It could probably be any color and you’d get compliments lol

[@AngelicaEstherxo]

@@ashleynicole9423thanks a lot beautiful!!! 🤍🤍🤍

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I was thinking about getting that hair paint stuff if I ever want to do highlights on my natural hair

[@autumnof1992]

I'm a black passing nigerian and Irish person. Unfortunately whenever I wear braids, locs and twists the people around me are very mean, rude and unfriendly towards me but if I wear curly Kenny G hair these same people treat me in the polar opposite manner.

[@tw6873]

I like switching around with accentuating my black and native sides, with either my natural curly wavy hair or straightened all the time. Keeps 'em guessing lol. No guilt over here, love it.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Exactly . Sometimes I wear type 3 or even 4a half wigs just to switch it up. Then I’ll go all the way to blonde 😂

[@purplemoongoddess4681]

I enjoyed your stories. I've been mistaken for so many other races, Latina, Egytpian, West Indian, Cherokee, Jamacian, it has been very interesting to see. But regauardless I'm still called exotic. Some people are just funny to me. But my mixture is white, indian, and black, I'm a toffee/ hazelnut complexion. I get called lightskin all the time though. My hair is curly and black. So I understand the confusion, I just smile and don't respond because the more I try to explain the more ignorant people will be. But yes playing up another race is fun sometimes.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes omg I used to be told I looked like cleopatra or Nefertiti when I used to wear heavy black eyeliner 😂

[@purplemoongoddess4681]

@@ExoticalsUnited 😂 Well that's a wonderful compliment. Every time I wear my eyeliner, black women would tell me oh you think u look like a real baby doll. 😂 I would laugh so hard and so aww that's nice. I'm glad u think so. I have a smart mouth for ignorant comments then would leave them thinking about what they just said. My friends would tell me I didn't have to do that. I said I didn't say anything. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicolewilliams9397]

This is so interesting! Because the same things happen to me, I dyed my hair a honey blonde before go many of compliments, dyed it back black and added some clip ins and gotten more compliments. I just got into wigs instead of dying my hair again because I love different styles. Black guilt thing is real! But dark skin women can look like clowns by wearing grey contacts, platinum blonde hair etc etc. It took me years to just have fun with my hairstyles and colors. Same thing with my mom, she’s very fair skinned and she only gets compliments from white people and men.. it’s weird lol and black women give her mean looks, it’s very interesting how hair can change your image.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yesssss omg !

[@joannajourneys]

Yes, this happens to me. I notice it the most at airports. The more black I appear due to my hairstyles, the more I get harassed by customs security and immigrations. If my afro is out, I usually get stopped or searched. When my afro is in a bun, it tends to be fine. When I wear a wig with straighter hair texture, they smile and wave at me and welcome me more warmly. I have decided that at the airport when I'm about to go through security, it's time for my bun. My afro can pop once I'm in the new country. I'm an avid traveler.

[@tamaniyag]

I am light skinned and I have always felt guilty for the treatment I received when I wore straight hair, curly bevause people thought I was mixed and I was offended. I thought I was being fake and I decided to change my hair to be more natural and it's true that I don't get any attention anymore. Maybe, I should stop feeling so guilty and play with it

[@uniquelyme3581]

I'm glad you did that experiment, l used to do the same thing with clothes lol you definitely learn alot about ppl doing this.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yesssss! I still need to do my goth experiment for Halloween

[@uniquelyme3581]

@@ExoticalsUnited LOL okay!!

[@sherrellejohnson3451]

When your hair was blonde the black girls probably didn’t feel threatened.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right. They viewed me as far away enough in phenotype to where I was in an entirely different category at that point . like, they viewed me as “Latina” (no longer as African American or “light skinned black” lol)

[@poodanoosk]

I love changing my hair style it’s really fun playing with the different looks when you’re ambiguous. Recently I’ve embraced my natural dark brown curls though and I’ve never felt more beautiful ❤

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I love having black hair ! My hair is JET BLACK like how a native persons hair is. I get accused of dying it lol 😂 playing with our canvas and decorating it with different colors is so fun!

[@realpristine]

Shipping wigs to the office has me weak😂😂 Also, ppl love blonde for sure. Ive noticed from people watching as a flight attendant at the airport

[@Danielle38712]

Omg this channel is good for my mixed race soul

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yay! Thanks for watching beautiful 😍

[@Danielle38712]

@@ExoticalsUnited love your channel 😍

[@TwiztidPixiel]

Imma experiment with this one day. I just need to get a blonde wig 😂

[@ExoticalsUnited]

😂😂

[@ashleynicole9423]

Your story about the curly blonde was so interesting! I get a similar reaction when my hair is just straightened and long in it’s natural black color and I’m at my thinner weight. It’s like black people leave me alone completely, lol While white people I wouldn’t say pedestalize me, but there’s a certain respect there. Or if I’m around another culture like Italian or Latin they think I’m one of them, lol.

[@AngelicaEstherxo]

I’ve personally confused biracials and lightskins with Latinas 😂 my husband specifically has approached them speaking spanish at the store to ask for help, and they are like: “Uhh I dont speak Spanish” 😂 I’ve had to tell him, a lot of biracials and lightskins look like us but that doesn’t mean you should approach them speaking Spanish. It happens a lot to him 😅

[@ashleynicole9423]

@@AngelicaEstherxo 😆😆

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I also forgot to say when my hair was brown I got more positive attention from other brown haired people like Indians or brunettes. Then when it was black I got more attention from black haired people like hispanics and African Americans. Then when it was blonde I got more attention from white people 😂

[@ashleynicole9423]

@@ExoticalsUnited yes, that makes so much sense!

[@Epiphanystone]

I’m currently in my blonde era and loving it. I’m a hairstylist so I’ve perfected the perfect mixed girl blonde for myself that looks natural and is golden but not orange or brassy ❤

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I’m blonde again today 😉

[@Epiphanystone]

@@ExoticalsUnited yes ! We’re having more fun and getting our exotical tax😊

[@l0lasubs748]

What does “mixed girl blonde” mean? Like honey blonde?

[@lovespellmami]

i noticed when i straighten my hair my hispanic features come out more, so many ppl ask me what im mixed with when i straigten

[@ExoticalsUnited]

That makes sense , I notice my weight and hair color effect me

[@rahc9771]

When I used to go clubbing, me and my friend would walk through a crowd of ppl and feel fingers running through our scalps if they're trying to feel for tracks, and sometimes someone would just straight up tug our natural hair to see if it's a wig 😩 I get asked if I'm Blasian, Hispanic, or Filipino, and I don't mind lol I get the most compliments from different races when I wear my hair wavy after sleeping with braids on. I love changing my look and feel very blessed I can do so without damaging my hair.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

omg yes! ive had people put their hands in my hair before! normally it was real, and one time i had tracks in the back of my hair and my "friend" made fun of me. she had 2 inches of broken off permed hair ...

[@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts]

That's just creepy. The unannounced hair-touching reads as someone who lacks an understanding of consent.

[@vwd3437]

I plan on wearing a wig soon to switch-up my style. You and my friend from church help motivate me! Plus, I need to give my natural hair a break, because it’s going through something right now. I’m sure people will try to “figure out” my ethnicity too. Especially when I start my new channel. In the past, I was on 2 social media platforms and got called Down Syndrome eyes, cow nostrils, big lips, all kinda stuff lol (Some thought I was Asian, Mexican or Native American when I wore my silk press) I have been scouted several times by world-known modeling agencies , but never took the leap! However, I have been in mainstream TV and film in the past and did a few runway shows at my old university. I have always been told I look like a fashion model from head-to-toe. If given the chance, these days, I think I may turn it into a career! And my past honey-blonde sew-in just brought out all the thirst-bucket men! lol I wasn’t expecting that lol It kinda made me nervous lol.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg are you me? One of the dumbest things I ever did was reject an opportunity to model with Wilhelmina models. But it’s ok old people can still get their bags too ! (I’m 31) and you can model at any age as long as you look good according to their standards .

[@ButterflyBaby888]

Ive been treated better since I been wearing three different shades of blondes in my hair. Ive had it since December 2023 up till now. Ive done the black hair and black hair with honey blonde highlights! But the most attention I've got is with the blonde hair I was super nervous to try it but see I was trying to climb the social latter plus attract better people. No lie.....every type of race gravitates towards me more now. People want to really get to know me as well as better type of men approach me I mean up scale men! Plus I've gotten more compliments from BW with this hair color mentioning it really brings out my complexion as well as WW looking and admiring.

[@Ohsnapitzann]

The only thing that I hate being mixed race is people treat me differently based on my hairstyle. When I wear braids,locs and twists people are very mean, rude and unfriendly towards me I feel like a Rachel Dolezal fraud with these hairstyles on but if I wear my hair like Marcia Brady they treat me in the opposite manner the people are very nice, friendly, patient, helpful and supportive towards me.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes this is very true when it comes to looking ambiguous. Yesterday I wore a type 2 body wave hairstyle and a black girl walked up to me to ask a question and was like “do you speak English?” 🤣

[@ExoticalsUnited]

And u agree with feeling like fraud in the hairstyles as well. I personally have never worn locs for that reason. My natural hair is nowhere near a 4c so I feel like I’m wearing a costume almost

[@_riri94]

This is true for me when I wear dark hair ( black) I get" ignored", but when I wear platinum blonde man I get alot of attention.

[@noenoe1891]

L😂L..but we're NOT ALLOWED to talk about these things, though!😅 So thx 4 doing it 4 us💙

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yes! im so glad we finally have our own space!

[@cmw1336]

This was VERY interesting as I have marvelled at how differently I am perceived/treated now that I wear my hair curly and natural vs when it was long and relaxed straight! Even tho I have been mistaken for everything under the sun, I guess I gave off more of the "light skin black girl" look when my hair was relaxed straight but now that my hair is curly and natural, I guess it makes me more "mixed-looking". (I am LS MGM.) I've also observed this in biracial women too. When their hair is straightened, they often look LS black. But as soon as the curls come out, they suddenly "look biracial" 😆

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Omg that’s the story of my life I’ve been told that multiple times ! 😂

[@uniquejohnson5516]

Beauty is currency right, mo money mo problems. Live your life boo.

[@DanielaElana]

Thanks for sharing your experience with the hair experiment. This was interesting to watch. I’ve never switched up my hair color, or done anything experimental with wigs but I do notice a difference in the way I’m perceived if I straighten my hair vs wear it naturally curly. I get a lot of compliments on my naturally curly hair. People of various backgrounds tend to pedestalize me more with straighter hair or make comments like oh you wore your hair out today even if they’ve seen me everyday with curly hair. Oddly enough, if I don’t wear my hair down or in a ponytail like I wear it in a braid or bun, people assume sometimes my hair isn’t as curly as it is. Your last point on weight is so spot on. I was skinny when I was 18 and 19 and in high school like a size 3 and gained a lot of weight over the last decade. I’m 29 now but recently lost 50 pounds, and while I’m like a size 8 now more people talk to me in Spanish or assume I’m Hispanic, which is half of my background whereas when I was higher in weight that never happened and I was associated more closely to my black side. It will be interesting to see as I continue to lose weight how that goes since my goal is to get back down to a size 2-4.

[@finurra3905]

omg I love your channel so much, thank you so much for giving us another gem. I feel so seen!! So interesting, this is literally what I love to do too. It's just like, "oh you want me to hurt your feelings? Why try me then?!" I would of befriended you instead of hate on you because wth?!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right! Like when the lady at my job bashed my wig, not only did I continue wearing wigs, I got more and more extreme with the color changes and everything. Like oh you don’t like the synthetic honey blonde straight wig? Let me get a $20 synthetic curly wig and STILL flex in this office ☠️ also idk what some women’s obsession is with the wig being “human hair”? Maybe they think it looks more real etc? But I’ve always loved synthetic wigs and pulled them off just fine. I love the thickness of synthetic wigs and the color and style variety. Human hair wigs look TOOOOOOO much like my real hair to where it’s just boring for me . I’m like can I get some volume please? A half up pony? Something

[@TheMspoodle2]

Why do people ask the question, "Where are you from? "

[@Transformersarecoming4yourkids]

Because they are curious.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

It’s like the politically correct way of asking what your ethnicity is 😂

[@sarahwilson4859]

Blue and brown is my favorite color, and I occasionally would dye my hair to my favorite colors, and I would get stares, but I didn't pay attention. But in my teenage years I did dye my fire hydrant red , and I earlier then would get stares so whether a woman is mls , or a light skinned woman if you dye your hair you are going to get stares 😅

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yes and then i noticed people get triggered when others are giving you positive attention for being confident enough to pull off the new look.

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

Oh yeah I hadn't thought about it much but ur right. If I let my hair grow out or color it my hair is a conversation piece. If I shave my head it's a conversation piece. Can't say I've been mistreated for it I am going to get a wig this winter and let my hair grow all the way out. We'll see the response it's going to be interesting bc I love my afro. I have a Pam Grier kinda Chaka Khan phenotype lol so I have been told. They were the beauties of 70's bc of my 4a hair type that's super curly I still don't know my hair type and I've natural since 04. Stay strong beautiful and keep putting out your great content.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

thank you beautiful! 🤩

[@tineshiabobbitt62]

Ur welcome sis I'm a little older than you and I think it's great that you have this platform. I didn't have this type of space when I was younger. It was tough being what's considered the pretty girl growing up girls in school were the worst and its still going on with some of these old ass jealous women at work too. I cried when I watched light girls and I cried when I watched dark girls too. I truly believe that black women are the most beautiful women on the planet we have to see the beauty we have in each other and stop tearing each other down. We have to do better

[@imovathebrig]

@@tineshiabobbitt62 Agreed ✨😃

[@PorshiaVonne]

I most definitely get treated differently based on my hair. I receive the same princess treatment when I wear a blonde wig. My nose 👃🏽 clearly tells the world I’m not mixed but people still ask. You can send that blonde wig my way if you’re not gonna wear it 🤭🤭🤭🤭 I love the attention 😂

[@PorshiaVonne]

I don’t take my wig off in public but I definitely proclaim that it’s a wig when people say “you straightened your hair it looks good.” I don’t want anyone to think it’s my real hair. When they see me without it I don’t want flak 😅

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Hahaha 😂😂😂😂 I am about to go back blonde soon!

[@ExoticalsUnited]

@@PorshiaVonneright! I don’t try to pass it off as natural or anything, especially since I know I’m going to switch it up within like a day 😂

[@PorshiaVonne]

@@ExoticalsUnited I love that! Idk if I’ll ever lay eyes on your photos but I sure hope so. You sound like an amazing person to admire 🥰 💜

[@TheMspoodle2]

I noticed that wp don't focus on skin tone in this area. I think that's something that bp do in their community.

[@AFocusedLiving]

Ahh in the Uk it’s more what’s your nationality

[@ExoticalsUnited]

right, ive noticed mixed people around me dont even focus on skin color only mono people have.

[@nicolec8884]

I'm so tired of getting weird attention when wear a wig or a sew in ( the yaki afroish that matches my hair texture) I think I'm better off with braids.

[@munirayussuf8558]

Love you. Your channel is a breath of fresh air

[@ExoticalsUnited]

thank you so much!

[@divinecreation1217]

@divinecreation1217 0 seconds ago Black American with recent admixture I have a mix of 3c 4a and 4b hair. I get attention with my natural hair and even wigs that are 4a and 4b. I feel like I pull men and get compliments with all styles ; including braids. With my natural hair people say i look Caribbean mixed (trini, guyanese, dr, pr) and even Ethiopian. The different styles bring out different features in my phenotypes. Like i feel a 3c wig really makes my more European features stand out. Lol while braids make my indigenous and African features stand out. It’s very fun to see what reactions i get. Hair dye is a thing too but it dried my hair out so bad i had to cut it. I’ll never touch it on my natural hair again

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes I agree! Different hairstyles make different features of mine come out !

[@serenitysun]

Whenever I wear braids, natural hair, silk pressed, or blow out natural hair. Everyone still thinks that I’m biracial no matter what lol.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Nice ! 😍

[@user-oy4po1ds6z]

My dad is dougla and white and my mom is white with some spanish descent people with african ancestry always try to claim me when i wear my hair curly. With my hair straight and blonde and long im just seen as white or spanish hair texture and color really changes how people perceive you

[@RSuavve]

This is an interesting topic because I think about it quite often. I’ve never worn wigs, but have colored my hair and will not color it again so I’ve been thinking about trying wigs, lace fronts etc out. But the other day, my hair is curly and black and I usually just have it in a bun but had it down, I went to the store and the store clerk wasn’t paying attention to me, then a few min later I noticed him staring. Once I walked up to check out he had this nice look on his face, like very soft. I then asked about a franchise chicken place not too far. He said it was really good, and this man says, “there’s this place called Chic Fil A that’s really good too” when he said that I already knew the next question. He then asked me where I was from, I said, with no accent, here. He looked at me puzzled. Then said something about where he was from. I asked where he was from and he said Egypt. I said oh, then where did you think I was from? Ethiopia. He said, you look Ethiopian. I do have “slimmer” facial features, but I know the curls really made him believe that. I’ve actually had Ethiopian, and Mexican people walk up to me speaking their language and Mexican women when they think you are Mexican and don’t know Spanish they go off on you! Mexican girls around my age will either covet or compliment my curly hair. I’ve noticed when my hair is straight some people think I’m Mexican and I do have a golden skin tone, not pale, and I understand there are different tones in that community as well but it throws me off. Now for the South American (Latin countries) these people look slightly black but you can tell they have heavy Spanish origins. Especially if my hair is curly or in a bun, they will study me and give me that “are you from where I’m from look” like slowly walking by staring deep into my eyes to get a reaction. Latin men and women do that. When people think you’re them or from the same country they have a softer disposition, maybe bc it reminds them of home, idk. When my hair is straight, again it’s black, I can tell people some white ppl think I’m actually half black/ white. White ppl have always randomly started conversations with me, but it’s different with straight hair. Like they do it way more. I’m not sure if it’s because the curls seem more ethnic vs the straight hair or if they think I’m actually half white. I’ve been asked if I was “European” multiple times. Like, what does that even mean? Europe is a continent, and I sound like I’m from California. I have more stories but I think that covers it for now. I think it is so timely you made this video because the Ethiopian situation happened about two days ago and since then I’ve been thinking about how I wear my hair differently and get slightly different reactions.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

“When people think you’re them they have a softer disposition” omg this is SO true and why so many unambiguous women give me dirty looks. Because you can tell I’m black but you can also tell I’m mixed lol. So I’m far away enough in proximity for some people in the black community to be unwelcoming . Omg I need to upload my other storytime because my experience with BLACK WOMEN is that I am either hated or heavily pedestalized when I didn’t ask for it . Like for example I have a habit of taking of my wigs and extensions in public . My hair underneath is my regular curly hair in a braid or bun. People stare and they’re looking kind of surprised like did she really take off her wig ? But then when they see my natural hair they “see why I can get away with it.” It’s as if my hair is “good” in their eyes or whatever .

[@shinycutediva]

My dad dislikes my black wavey Afro wig bc I was just about to go somewhere and he said that “it’s messy so wear a hat!” 😮

[@muna10775]

When i have blonde hair people are nicer to me and i feel more accepted but when i dye my hair dark brown people treat me different they think i am from india north africa or spanish.ugh my hair is gray now and i am tierd of coloring it

[@ExoticalsUnited]

You can just wear a wig ! 🤩

[@paolaanimator]

When I have long curly hair, I did get compliments but not much, just that people liked my thick curly hair that's also long. It might be because it fits me very well, it's what I grew up with. However one time I had my hair straighten for a job interview, I was also dressed in a suit with nice shoes and I got so much attention from men that day, men of any race from the street and on the bus just coming up to me and complimenting me. I don't straighten my hair often since I like my curls and want to keep my hair healthy, but I know I can get more attention from straighten hair. It was very interesting hearing your different experiences especially with hair color. I personally always wanted to do a black to honey blonde or warm blonde color for my curly hair. I always like the dark to honey blonde or warm blonde and curly hair look. I wonder what kind of attention I may receive. Since I already got attention from black and straighten hair, I believe ashy blonde curls will push me into ambiguity more. I plan to do this with hair wax to see if it looks good on my curls, I heard hair wax can be washed off. I wash my hair on weekends or day off so I'll wear it for a week as an experiment and then wash it off in the weekend.

[@fendibondie2545]

Thank you so much!! I learned a lot through your channel.

[@kristinamarie111]

I loved your storytime! I have naturally curly hair too but my hair color is a dark chestnut brown but when you look at my hair as a whole it looks black and when I straighten it it’s all the way down my back hitting my tailbone and yes I get stared at alot by black and white women but it’s never a look of hate they are always just mesmerized by my hair. I’ve been told that my hair is more of an European texture which makes me look more ambiguous especially when I straighten it but a lot of people will always come up to me and say how beautiful my hair is and would ask me what I did to grow it and my answer is alway “nothing” lol all I do is take care of it and it just grows so I don’t have any specific things I do to grow my hair and it grows pretty fast too.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes it’s amazing seeing how fluid our identities are. We should definitely play this to our advantage.

[@Mixedtrini777]

This is what I’m trying to do with my looks rn. I usually wear my hair short and curly. The week I bought some curly clips-in. I want to experiment with length

[@yasminogbu8929]

Babe get that blonde wig on ! No guilt necessary

[@Ohsnapitzann]

My features look better with dark colored red and brown haircolors.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Nice !

[@briolivia]

I'm not good at doing my hair, but I have a lot of hair and my texture is type 3... and the number of people I've had feel my scalp without my permission to feel for tracks makes me sick to my stomach

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yes Omg ! People are so jealous and obsessed !

[@user-vy9pg4cj5k]

im a french black ~ light skin girls & im obsessed with your yt channel 🤍

[@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts]

I have long type 3 hair and back in 2019 I decided to get a sew-in. The hair was less curly and more of a beach-wave texture. I was guilted for experimenting by other black women who wore weaves themselves. People just don't understand the logic of "because I want to." Lol. It's just that surface level.

[@tatikay3660]

bye. finna cop me a blonde curly wig now 🤣🤣 . it looks.soo good in the picture

[@ExoticalsUnited]

yes! i have my blonde curly wig on right now ☠️ im gonna go back to brown and blonde highlights soon.

[@tatikay3660]

@@ExoticalsUnited 🤣🤣🤣 omg sounds too cute! I low-key want to do blonde highlights on my hair 😩

[@MsMalina24]

Ok so this video really relates to me! Literally I can change my hair and makeup style and I began to look like something else. Friends and family always joke that I could be a spy. But seriously if my hair is dark or black and long (curly or straight) most ppl assume I’m Latina (Dominican, Puerto Rican) of my hair is light colored blonde and long (curly or straight) ppl assume I am half black and half white. I even have white people argue with me about being biracial when I’m not. They compare me to family members that are biracial and say I look like them so I HAVE to be biracial. Also, the freckles thing is real, they really think that means I’m mixed too. Not all ppl but majority in my experience has been like that. I’ve also gotten Arab of I have a head wrap on and heavier makeup or I’ve gotten southeast Asian Indian if I am super tan and my hair is black and long especially if I have my nose stud in. So it’s very interesting that unbeknownst to me changing my look would get these responses. I generally just get bored easily and change my look a lot. I hate looking the same for too long.

[@FIT2BETIED100]

I've felt guilt, and as a result, I shy away from wigs. If I do wear one, Im like you. I just fess up lol

[@naturallyhoneybrown]

18:22--Wow, that's really odd. makes me want to experiment lol.

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Right, I never noticed it until I was purposely paying attention. Once I went blonde I was clocked as more of an “other” suddenly . And it was also kind of sad to see UABWs reactions to me. clearly a lot of them are threatened by whiteness 😮 even if you’re not fully white

[@Dbby888]

How to join the discord

[@ExoticalsUnited]

You have to join the patreon

[@queen-estherobasi4086]

What's the discord link?

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Only patreon members can join it

[@lolathelonewolf]

Watching this video made me realise I shouldn’t feel bad when I change up my hair (when it came to wigs) I’m 100% Nigerian brown skinned but have that kind of look where depending on my hairstyle I can pass for a lot different ethnic backgrounds - I felt like I was betraying my blackness when people would automatically think I’m mixed but that’s not even my fault 🤣 and I shouldn’t feel bad that I’m deemed desirable however the uncomfortability of knowing I was being sought after bc men thought I was something I was not made me just focus on loving on my natural type 4 hair instead I attract better quality people in my natural state

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Yup. It’s up to you how you want to look and you have the right to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Everyone else is doing it ! But if you’re pretty you’re not allowed to also change up your hair because now you’re showing off 😂

[@llsss777]

Me too when you look at people like Sharon ooja or Sharon nwosu who could pass as mixed race and you see the hate they get sometimes when they wear curly wigs it just makes you know that being this way can be quite dangerous. I can't even imagine the spite I would get if I was at home in Nigeria omg...

[@yokotoatto4426]

Do you have an instagram?????

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Not for the EU channel but I made a tik tok! Exoticals.United