STORYTIME | Ladies, this is Why You Keep Getting Hurt

Dr Zeb reveals a fun conversation he has with a client who has had 4 relationships in the last 5 years and asks why she continues to get played by men in the same exact way. Dating, relationships and discernment highlight this phenomenal conversation.
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[@Healerslightnlove]

So true!!! I was once a woman sitting at a table adding ppl to sit with me. Until I sat with MYSELF, feed myself and learn to sit alone is when you can understand who you are and what needs to be done!! Prayers for all of us healing❤ and for the young lady as well❤️🙏🏽

[@TianaThompson-c9p]

Same here

[@Ola2aloha]

Sometimes i feel like women are being blamed for having the inability to choose /see the right men, most of the time men put on a facade to attact u only to show u who they really at the end. Mostly women dont fake who they are thats why "maybe we get played Focus of yourselves sis, the right one will come at the right time...God willing😊 and u wont have to question your worth because he will act right from day 1 till the end

[@JenelleFraser]

They are called narcissists and manipulators.

[@clarissathomas4320]

I’ve been single for almost three years, and it’s been a BLESSING. No fornicationships… no situationships… churrrch!

[@TheModernAlchemix]

My goodness, THIS is the reason I’m single. There’s plenty of Nice Men who are great on paper but not healed (irony that I can’t do r someone after working on myself and practicing discernment); this is a big issue on BOTH sides. So very frustrating 😢❤

[@LaFiestaPlanner]

Churrrch! This hurts but, profound and much needed. I'm in my 50s and still feel this way after giving myself over 7 years to focus on me.

[@MelanieJones-x2c]

Churrrrrrrch, I decided to do this a year ago and I’m finally experiencing peace and happiness. God is good and will keep you in perfect peace when your mind is stayed on him.

[@darlenemeans7896]

CHURRRRRRRRRCH!!!! I finally made the decision to take time to work on myself. I have no idea how long it will take but I am ready. Thank the Most High. He set me free and now I have to do the work. I'm ready!!!

[@Healerslightnlove]

@@darlenemeans7896 Just take one day at a time. Do not beat yourself up either. Healing ain’t pretty.. there will be tears of pain release and joy🙏🏽🩷

[@dayojoy]

Good! It's been 9 years and I'm still on it!

[@positivevibe7684]

@Darlene Working on self is a journey, not a destination. I've been working on myself for several years. When becoming self-aware and embracing who you are, so many wonderful things start to happen in your life. On my journey, I recently wrote and self-published a book. ❤❤ You learn how to set boundaries, learn to say no, stop being a people pleaser, stop being a codependent (continuously doing for others, what they can do for themselves), just to name a few.❤❤

[@positivevibe7684]

​@dayojoy I applaud you. Many people give up because change and growth aren't easy. There are many obstacles that we face. But well worth it. Working on self is a journey, not a destination.❤❤

[@Donyellesmile]

This is good I am not willing to risk my wholeness !

[@jansley4]

She is not learning from each relationship either.

[@BrightestStar-z1k]

Yep cause once she does she would never want a man again. Only desperate women don't understand men are the issue. On purpose too.

[@BayouBarbie504]

Churrrch! I came to the conclusion of not entertaining until I get fully healed a few months ago. The wait is going to be worth it. I have a lot of work to do. I’ve done a lot and am way more healed than I was 3 years ago. But, it’s another level to reach.❤

[@positivevibe7684]

@@BayouBarbie504 Healing and growth is a journey, not a destination. You learn so much along the way. I do believe you will get to a place where you are able to embrace and maintain a healthy relationship.❤️❤️

[@stephaniethomas2928]

Thank God for pure wisdom. CHURRRRRCH! I'll pass until my promise.

[@mayebouee8099]

There is no such thing as being 'fully healed'. We are all flawed, and bad things sometimes happen to good people. The key is to have more accurate beliefs of self and others.

[@Options23]

The Key is a serious relationship with JESUS CHRIST.

[@terriaharris1170]

Well said, Dr. You gave depth to how attractiveness should be considered from a healed perspective. Love it! I agree 💯.

[@GodsChildBri]

Those situations are there for contrast. They show you what you don't want, so you can make a conscious decision to actively create the experiences you do want. It's time to get to know yourself through healing your inner child. You don't need any more situationships.

[@rinnemichelle946]

I think the issue is (especially for us who have their isht together) is that these guys put on a false self and you can meet their family and ask the right questions and then they flip the script. You may have discernment, but you so desperately don’t want to be alone, so you pretend not to see what you see hoping one day it will change. Some of these men are getting money from other women that they are playing and using said money to wine and dine other women acting like they r employed or “have a business” so the next woman thinks they are equally yoked..: then that woman gets played and rinse and repeat. Some of their families will act like the brotha got it together bc they don’t wanna deal with them draining them. There used to be a time when it was shameful for a man not to want to get a job. Now a lot of these men want the soft life. When you have celebs like Tyler Perry saying we should be happy if they can pay the light bill. A 15 yo kid who works at McDonalds can pay a light bill. I don’t need another kid. I need a man! Y is it that black woman have to always be made feel we must accept this. I would be embarrassed if I had a son like this. After a while, you come to feel that this “man” is your son and resentment seeps in. We tired !

[@TheRealDebbieH]

I know him

[@rinnemichelle946]

@@TheRealDebbieH oh, u know someone just like this too?

[@Diasatia]

A healed and whole person, the one with discernment, would not pretend. Since they respect themselves they would not continue be with someone that disrespects them. They are also ok with being alone than with someone who isn't right for them. You have to get to that place where you love yourself

[@krissit1874]

I ve never given a grown man money. I had a guy say next date on you I said I don’t have money to court a man he never brought it up again

[@ajlocs2361]

Chile…..pay the light bill I’m a city bus driver they can’t even afford bus fare let alone a light bill.🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tseepi5019]

💯 practicing celibacy is also a great way to protect yo peace, men and women sometimes rush into sex without getting to know the person, it's not always abt being "used" bt the fact that after rushed sex the next logical thing is to get to know the person only to find that you don't really like them

[@SoulAndShe]

My good sir??! 🤯 The way you expounded upon & thoroughly laid out your response to her: “Do you think I’m attractive?” question… 😮‍💨🙌🏾🙌🏾 #MyGoodGawd

[@angelglowstudios1454]

Time has nothing to do with it most of the time. I know because I waited two years. While it does stem from your perspective based on your experience, I’ve come to learn that It’s based on your belief system. What you feel and believe about yourself on a subconscious level is what you will attract. Time can fly but the subconscious only does what you tell it to do.

[@stars-are-us]

Amazing message🎉 This should be incorporated into primary education along with neglected child studies. It will give young people insight without so many tragic errors.

[@LivingandstillLearning]

Churrrch! This is another good one! Yes. It shows that a whole man can detect and discern an unhealed person and therefore; the they hit the do not pursue button.

[@positivevibe7684]

CHURRRRCH!! Thank you for this!! Wow!! It hit home for me. I have been healing from past trauma for several years. I have come a long way. This message is a slam dunk for me. I loved it when you mentioned the young lady wasn't attractive to you because she hasn't healed. That was Pricesless!! At this stage in my life, my attraction is healness. ❤❤ During my healing journey, I wrote a book regarding 100 Thought-Provoking questions to inspire greater self-awareness. Healing from past traumas is necessary for mental well-being and to have healthy relationships.❤❤

[@Konfident_Lee]

👏🏿🙏🏿❤️ for "Whole & healed" men (& women). Help us Lord!!

[@JessicaAnotii]

Recently, I had a challenging split. The breakup of my five-year relationship a few months ago has been quite difficult. I still harbor a deep affection for my ex-boyfriend, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. My attempts to win him back have been unsuccessful, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. It may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.

[@Adakataba]

I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

[@JessicaAnotii]

How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?

[@Adakataba]

His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.

[@Adakataba]

Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.

[@JessicaAnotii]

I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤

[@sunamethyst283]

You have to heal still trying to figure out what that means. I am so determined to make sure I am this time❤

[@Maxx-mw2zt]

Oh,this is great info doc! This applies to both women and men. OMG, thinking what they bring to the table is better than the table itself. Churrrrch! 🙌🏽

[@donnawhitehead1823]

Amen!!this is so true.healness is so important

[@Ciyotnnakauebluzy2seanuh]

This definitely makes sense all the way through........

[@mz.sweetiperry]

This was a whole word.!!!

[@whoswhowho4872]

Preach Dr. Zeb.....Preach!!!! That attractive description deserves a holyghost praise. Great video.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@stephanieevans4725]

Churrrch!! Great definition of discernment. I enjoy and learn so much from your teachings. Thank you for dedicating your life and time to help others. 😊

[@rickiasmith489]

Churrrch!!! I needed that break down! Thank You

[@smyssiqueenhealth1-yv7cx]

Churrrch!!! Good head to heart talk

[@ShermekaG]

Love how you explained this makes so much sense. Thank you

[@QueenMo301]

Churrch I needed to hear this truth said💯💯

[@faithdobson3983]

Well said sir! Churrch!!💯💯💯

[@iammoxxi]

Good advice 🔥🔥🔥 The unhealed can only trauma bond to new traumatizers in different bodies PS just one thing to add ... It's pronounced "Di - CERN (s sound not z) ment" 🤓😇

[@TianaThompson-c9p]

Exactly 💯

[@ladytaylor6792]

Church 3Rs🙌🏾 I am not healed but working on it.

[@letonyiawatson7087]

Churrrch, thank you I NEEDED this

[@RasheedaLawrence]

Church thank you so much for sharing currently working on this 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Vanessa-ln1tt]

She was in survival mode

[@carlisariley5661]

I Absolutely approve this message 👌

[@traceyn9859]

Churrrch! God sends us what we need when we need it.

[@SENDWISDOM777]

GREAT WORD❤❤❤

[@teachandinspire437]

This is good stuff! What I'm finding is Some of Us..Really dont want to do the soul work. I asked God a long time ago why I could draw/ attract a man. But I couldn't keep him? He said you have no weight, nothing to hold him down. Wow, what an eye opener. The journey to becoming healed and whole is hard, but it's worth it.

[@chandrawilliamson4696]

This is so good. 🔥🔥🔥

[@Ruth-vy1qj]

He keep it real rather it painful to listen or u like it or dont. I used to be like this lady. I had to get healed with God ( know my Identity in Christ), work on self development, educational in relationship dept just like you get training in your career. You cant listen to people that have fail repeated Relationships and women hate men or men hate women for relationship advise.

[@specialk8927]

I waited for ten years and still the same problems🤦🏾‍♀️

[@paigenicole6702]

If you can catch it... it'll CHANGE YOUR LIFE💯💯💯💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@peaceofgodministry721]

Wow! This is good right here. ✅️ ❤

[@bx3436]

ChuRRRch, Thank you 🙏

[@kayabe856]

I’m so sick of hearing this same explanation. You’re getting the same man because most men are playing the same game. Period. Applies to men also. Everybody is taking advice from social media instead of actually trusting themselves to know what’s best for them.

[@TianaThompson-c9p]

I agree

[@TheLittlePrayerCafe]

They going to keep getting played but what he saying is factual. Females fantasize a lot. She don’t have discernment. She going to keep getting hurt. She’s the common dummy denominator.

[@naomiii2099]

ChuRRRch .. you tell it right every time 💜

[@cassandrawilson8813]

This is so true!!!

[@devdross]

Churrrch!!! This word was incredibly helpful to me. Thank you!

[@nathifablanchfield8925]

Churrrch! Thank you.

[@Ms1980cej]

5:37 mark...CHUUUURRRRCH!

[@Iamsheandsheisme-u8h]

So right

[@RFU_24]

I wasn’t going to click on your page, but the Lord said click and I thank God that I did click because you hit it on the nail God bless you and keep it coming with the truth

[@YodyMarie2011]

This is good, Thank u for that, i needed this ❤❤❤

[@tiffanyharris414]

Thank you. For this video.. very enlightening

[@nicholestevens9025]

Good points. Thanks

[@jeremarie1009]

This was good!

[@mayagiselle122]

Real talk 💯

[@tiffanywhite6852]

Thank you❤

[@laurynorder3965]

👀....(TCS) he said with 3 Rs. See this is why you get what you get 🤣😌 good advice 💜🙏🏾

[@ErykahMishell]

Churrrch!!!! Definitely helped me! Thank you

[@constancejenkins3867]

Amen amen and amen 🙏🏽 🙌🏽 CHURRRCH!!!

[@VirgoDarling]

Love this !! ❤❤😢

[@MISAO_SAO]

That's good word.

[@MissCombs1511]

She needs DISCERNMENT, Doc... that DEZERNMENT you recommended will not change a thing 🤷🏽‍♀️ maybe it's a fruit, seasoning, a car, a house. We don't know what it is?

[@ninaturn4471]

OMG...he must've just learned that word yesterday.

[@dayojoy]

😂😂

[@PinkLipstick1996]

Yaw play too much, you know what he’s saying.

[@MissCombs1511]

But he has no reason to mispronounce it. The spelling alone does not suggest he can. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@soulplay6995]

A hit dog barks!!! You understand what he's saying!!!

[@TheScooby00912]

DisZernment. 😂

[@ashtonjhugh]

His mispronouncation of the word discernment was just as bad as a counselor (if he's really one) throwing in religion to gaslight a client.

[@cwjohnson1018]

Churrrch 😢 unfortunately all i heard was at 53 prepare to 💀 alone FML

[@nofybn7794]

39 done with men

[@cynthia5172]

Churrrch❤ thank you

[@Vanessa-ln1tt]

I'm watching you forever!

[@crazyhomebodygirl]

Churrrch, so true

[@EboneeDraperLifeCoach]

Churrrch, you are great!

[@Jeannetterodriguez9]

Wow!! Churrrch X 10

[@CamilleSutton-r8v]

Sooooo true

[@casandrahornerdbamaomnp3046]

Churrrch … thank you for breaking down discernment…

[@MsPhillgood]

CHURRRCH Thanks dr, most needed

[@Ineedmypeace]

Thanks for sharing this was good. New subscriber 😊

[@Ayiba-tonye]

Thanks for sharing sir

[@carolynrobinson4965]

It's called desperate 😅😅😅

[@lenora7424]

CHURRRCH 🙌🏾

[@aweforu]

#churrrrŕrrrch The Bishop of Health & Wellness(BOHW) has spoken! Discernment introduces Common Sense! Application of these=Prevention & gets you the best results! Discernment is looking past what you see or feel to see something for what it really is! 💣🔥 #thisisgood

[@hopetucker5123]

CHURRRCH! 🙌🏾 😅❤

[@cbeeyou9119]

Thank you Sir. CHURRRCH

[@Iamsheandsheisme-u8h]

Facts

[@miccadavis3680]

True

[@soulplay6995]

Wow!!!!I see some beautiful people but I wouldn't give them the time of day!!!!

[@lisasykes624]

Better Outcomes!!! 😅

[@PersephoneG205]

Churrrch! 🎉🎉

[@DivineVirtuousWoman0]

Man is supposed to find a good thing which is a woman ; so are they not to be healed too. Level zero to ten. Start no less than level five period. By the time the work is done people may feel they can live peacefully by themselves it seems period. Healing is spiritual, emotional, physical, verbal and financial; the order depends. I agree 💯 people should have themselves somewhat together before adding others in any relationships period. 🙏 Praying for all who wish to receive who/what they wish period

[@Simplee_Shan]

Yup, churrrch!

[@amandapoinsette6512]

Churrrch 🙌🏽🏃🏽‍♀️💨

[@carlalewis153]

CHURRRCH Whewwww!.

[@bobbiemichaelsNyc86]

So helpful

[@Like_knice]

Churrrch! 💎💯

[@chocolatepower11]

CHURRRCH!!!❤❤

[@Saraileah310]

Churrrch!!!!!

[@natoyabailey9439]

❤ yes doc