Taylor Swift - Reaction - The Man

[@SuffiReax]

The full "Lover" reaction (2hr 5min) is up on Patreon www.patreon.com/suffireax for those who are interested :)

[@a-j-r324]

You should react to "3 O'Clock Things" by AJR

[@Cam-px8sc]

Can you also Upload it on KZbin?

[@josefinasoderholm6488]

It’s about male privilege. It’s not about “some men” it’s about women being treated differently just because they are women. I don’t think there is a girl/women anywhere in the world that hasn’t experienced this.

[@denii7094]

6:05 to me that scene with the dad in the park highlights how society praises men for being decent parents when it's just their role and responsability to take care of their child while it's always expected and overlooked when mothers do it

[@gautam6405]

how fathers day is celebrated compared to mothers day ? if a guy is taking care of his child and girls get attracted to him then what is his fault ? most fathers are not appreciated and sometimes also get ignored .

[@riseofthecupcakeoriginal4154]

@@gautam6405 The main issue she is addressing isn't that fathers can't be as good of a parent as mothers but that its not as expected of them to be super involved, which is harmful to both parents. Because of deep rotted misogyny in everyone from years of gender rolls people still believe it's expected of a woman to be the primary care taker even if they don't fully realize it. I personally think it comes from the idea that men are the bread makers so they shouldn't have to be responsible to care for the children, which is why when they do people see it as almost an extra thing that's "not supposed to be their responsibility" which is why their praised more for doing so. But with women it's just expected and necessary so they don't get as much praise or attention for doing so by other people. Both mothers and fathers can be equally great as parents and there are many great fathers! As for the Mothers/Fathers Day question I don't have a full answer, it could be due to the fact there are many more involved mothers then fathers( around 80ish% of single parents are women) so that's why the holiday gets more traction. Or it could also be fallout from the perpetuated stereotype men don't need to be as involved in their children's life so they just aren't, and cause of that they won't be as celebrated in the home. It could also just be capitalist holiday bullshit I don't know . And I'd like to reiterate men truly can be amazing parents who are deserving of equal praise as mothers!! She's just addressing it as the issue it is from her own perspective, that of a woman's. I hope we as people can all grow from this mindset it sucks for all party's involved. Anyways I hope this gave you another perspective, have a nice day!

[@gautam6405]

@@riseofthecupcakeoriginal4154 idk why you are assuming fathers get more praise compared to mothers when they do the "extra stuff" , their is no concept of primary caretaker or secondary caretaker both are equal in parenting . Fathers are treated horribly in todays world by government , by family courts by society , Most fathers give their best to provide their children the life they never got . Most fathers around 90% loss custody of their children with divorce rate around 67% . That's why there are more single mothers . 50% fathers financially support their children but don't have any visitation right . The mainstream media can write articles such as fathers are not needed and no one will complain . Most Fathers don't get approached by people and praised for doing " extra things" and even ignored by their own family . They will spend hours in offices to pay for their family's expenses , college tuition and society will blame them for not spending time with family . They can spend time with their family and society will blame them for not earning enough money for their family . idk it is tiring to read so many comments about fathers and men and people assuming their life is cakewalk . Anyway , have a good day you too . idk why i wrote such a big comment 😂

[@riseofthecupcakeoriginal4154]

@@gautam6405 i appreciate your view, i’m just happy to have a calm conversation with someone to get different perspectives. while i definitely agree with some of what you said i don’t as much others, which is fine we’re both valid in our opinions. like i said its not like i agree agree with this standard i’ve observed it’s just a scenario i’ve seen before. i don’t believe this is how it is for everyone but there is some truth to the message that was conveyed in a couple second frame that’s completely up to interpretation.this is my opinion on the message i got from that specific clip not parental expectations in general both scenarios are entirely worthy of having a conversation about.and this is not me blaming the men in the situation at all just commentary?? i guess? idk thanks for the reply

[@heatherfits]

Perfect example of when dad has the kids he's "babysitting" vs when mom has the kids it's just life, as is.

[@lostsoul404]

No Men were harmed during the video, but some got hurt after the release of the video. My cousin's ex husband was one of them because it hit him really close. Especially the part when the man gets praised for literally patting the head of his daughter because he always gets praised by his family and my family for spending his time with my nephew even though he and my cousin are divorced.

[@gautam6405]

Men don't get to see children after divorce , 50% of fathers don't have any visitation rights even though they financial support their children and their strong independent mom.

[@lostsoul404]

Men who are dogs and can't keep it in their pants (like my ex-brother-in-law) don't deserve to see the kids, who know what they would pass on to the innocent child? And yeah, I'm talking about my family and not men in general because that's the only exposure I got to divorce (it's very rare in India). Also, my cousin is an independent woman who earns more than the asshole could in 3 months, so she doesn't need his money, yet she never stopped him from seeing the child because she says it's not her place to keep her child away from his father.

[@gautam6405]

@@lostsoul404 you are man or woman ?

[@Caroline-d2y]

@@gautam6405 it doesn’t matter.

[@yodgied]

@@gautam6405 if she was a women, her opinion wouldn't count??? I mean, why did u ask?😂. I know fathers should be allowed to see their kids (it's their right, also paying food and stuff), but most women have reasons why they're not letting their babies' fathers do it (generally fathers are allowed to see their children). Idk where you are from, in my country, most women give a shit about money from babies fathers and work hard for giving their children what they need (as my mother did).

[@luciaelizabeth9233]

The breakdown is this(for the most part/theoretically):- - The scene in the beginning ''represents'' Leonardo di caprio in the wolf of Wall street type of guy -The boat guy is the Scott Disick type of guy(it's kind of dress like him), surrounded by models and always(almost yourger women) -The guy of the one night stand resembles jake gyllenhaal. The high fives represents the ''male behavior'' of praising one night stands and how they are thought of as ''cool'' when the women are ''sluts''. -The dad represents the double standard of being praised for literally doing the bare minimum or just what they should do or treat their kid, when women ''are supposed'' to just do it beause it's ''their job'' and never get this ''best mother of the world'' treatment. -The scooter/return to Taylor Swift explains itself. It's brilliant. Oh he also would be ''pissing'' on her/her work basically. -The tennis scene imitates Serena Williams's tennis match where she got angry at the referi?(don't know the word sorry) and everyone started critizazing her for her ''behavior'' and here it wpuld seem that he'because he's a man, get to have a tantrum and attack the referi( that's Taylor's dad) and no one bats an eye. - The sexi scene explains itself too. Lauren is the girl that hold the tennis balls. And you were correct, she gets praised for literally standing there and rolling her eye just because she's a woman(like they do with men all the time) -The buttler in the boat s not the only one. Lauren rolls her eyes at him, the people in the train don't do anything but they look annoyed also.

[@sirsimonthesentry4787]

The boat scene was also a Leo reference about line ‘would be like Leo in San Tropez’ who was photographed on a boat in San Tropez with a bunch of young models on it. If Taylor had a boat full of young men can you imagine the press!

[@shelbyh6257]

@@sirsimonthesentry4787 was about to say this lol

[@Natalie-lo9pp]

also djokivic got mad at a referee during a match and literally threw a ball at them like portrayed here (except he actually injured them)

[@gautam6405]

Jordan bellfort in wolf of wall street , was an exceptional salesman and a genius , sadly money and bad company made him corrupt and he started doing drugs . In end , he was jailed and then he decided to change himself. We men don't appreciate his bad side but good side in which he shows qualities of smart work and cleverness . Women such as niki minaji do dirty songs related to private parts and no one says anything because everyone is busy in life.

[@Swiftly_Wi1d]

That girl Lauren that Taylor was talking to, was the girl who rolled her eyes during the tennis player's "fit". She's on the right side of the screen I really love your breakdown of it 🙂 and I really like the small things you pointed out

[@Violet316]

Loren is a YT influencer

[@Livinrem]

@@Violet316 who?

[@Violet316]

@@Livinrem At the end of the video the girl that Taylor says good job to, her name is Loren Gray.

[@Livinrem]

@@Violet316 is she friends with Taylor? Why is she in the video

[@13alllove]

@@Livinrem taylor watched loren's videos and thought her facial expressions were great so she wanted her to roll her eyes in the music video, loren said she didn't know it was a taylor video until she met taylor on set. P.S Loren's fans are called angels, so people think it was also an easter egg about cruel summer, "angels roll their eyes"

[@edpotter1170]

The tennis scene is a reference to the female athlete Serena Williams who got bad rep for yelling at the referee while many male athletes were described as "passionate" after doing so much worse in the court. And actually the first person who showcased irritation towards the man was Loren Gray, the girl who rolled her eyes in the tennis court. Apparently her fandom is called Angel (?) so her rolling her eyes was an easter egg to the line "devils roll the dice, angels roll their eyes" from Cruel Summer. She was the one who was praised by Taylor at the end.

[@Ash-gtr32]

You are aware John McEnroe was mocked for his temper tantrums much more than Serena ever was, thing is though he was able to make a joke out of it and not play the victim.

[@noriii]

@@Ash-gtr32 why’re you everywhere defending men lol

[@edpotter1170]

You got it right that this music video wasn't targeting men in general but the idealized type of men in movies or society. Thus why we got to see the captain who is also a man, portraying that even men can hate such type of toxic masculinity.

[@alisong826]

It also shows a class difference, the captian can be yelled at because he works for the person paying for the super yacht, opening him up to rude charters

[@gallifreygirl8263]

The whole tennis scene at the end is a reference to the 2018 US Open final where Serena Williams was blasted for being "emotional" on the court

[@ZosiaDabrowski]

So appreciate your insight recognising that you can't necessarily understand/truly get the meaning fully because of your body/identity/environment, and how the music video brought it more to life and made the point of view more accessible. I see it as not necessarily crapping on even those types of men that she depicted, but moreso criticising the social practices and biases that ALLOW men to be like that, encourages and rewards them for acting in certain ways- with often the opposite standards imposed on women. So it's not the person inherently, but the standards imposed upon them

[@isha5980]

yes there are a quite a of easter eggs in this MV. There are easter eggs in ig every MV after "look what you made me do" . She started doing /hiding easter eggs during her rep era

[@josefinasoderholm6488]

Yes!! Your the first reactor I’ve seen getting the high five scene

[@sirsimonthesentry4787]

As a 60-yr old woman who worked in a mostly men-dominated industries, I can tell you the treatment of women is horrible, even professionals, even when they are in leadership roles. I got paid 30% less than a man who had same job with 10 yrs less experience and even tho firm said I got highest bonus because of my quality of work. Also, they would forget I was in the room sometimes and would have to remind them I was there because their discussions were completely inappropriate and downright embarrassing. When I called them out, they laughed and didn’t even see how wrong it was. Taylor is more so not even calling out men (or sleezy men) but calling out the double-standard society applies to women and men.

[@kathydurow6814]

Agree, and this is what the "Not all men" commentators miss. Waiting for all the "body autonomy" anti-maskers to stand up for US women's reproductive rights...

[@katelindsey7336]

The scene on the wall of the subway with all her albums is also supposedly a clock to her re-recordings, and some swiftie’s theory is there’s an unreleased album called Karma(she also bleached her hair-the iconic bleachella). But no album contained her bleached hair look, and Taylor sends a message with her hairstyles in different eras. She puts so many Easter eggs in her videos👀 💕

[@heathwitch]

Great reaction, thank you! Fun fact: the tennis umpire is played by Taylor’s dad, Scott. ;)

[@cosmicspark6772]

i’m so glad you actually understood the video and didn’t deny the things happening in the video. i’ve seen so many of these reaction videos and you’re the first man that i’ve seen actually get what she’s saying

[@helenjohns9952]

The hall of high-fiving hands was supposed to be compared to "the walk of shame for women" reveals the double standards.

[@abbysspa]

I love this reaction and analysis, I think you understand the whole message of what Taylor was trying to say with this song and music video, your reactions are always so thoughtful 💕

[@AnjeannetteMarie-Swifie4Ever]

Taylor is incredibly smart, I love her art

[@angelicalicari8355]

I'm just gonna watch her videos through your channel from now on- you saw/understood TWICE as many easter eggs as I did.

[@Livinrem]

Taylor is so clever! She always makes the best songs and music video

[@johnnyboooy21]

fun fact: Taylor Swift won an MTV award for directing this video

[@cheyannebrown]

on the boat, there’s 10 girls wearing yellow bikini’s. when the music video came out, swifties noticed it represents her 10 grammy’s. and the 1 night stand for guys is different for girls, it’s the ‘walk of shame’ while the guys are like ‘yeah! that’s awesome!’ or something like that. and yes, that’s what exactly what it is, #1 dad type of thing for the kid. and for the tennis match, (i think) Simone Biles had a ‘tantrum’ after losing in a match. and the ‘likeable’ part was a nod to her making ME! behind the scenes, ‘i’ll try to be more likeable’ she said to the director, it was in the Miss Americana movie. also, if you watched Leo DiCaprio movies, you’d notice all the references in this. The Wolf of Wallstreet is mostly compared to it.

[@surabhis2118]

Aare you gonna post the edited version of lover album reaction on youtube here??

[@tristaswartz4270]

Me screaming “YEP” after all your revelations!

[@denii7094]

i feel like there were more similarities to scenes from the wolf of wall street movie with leo dicaprio and he's also mentioned in the song so it kindda makes sence but idk

[@isobel6480]

hi, your videos always cheer me up and I'm not having the best day but this immediately made me feel better!!!!!!! I hope you are having a lovely day

[@SuffiReax]

I am sorry to hear you’re not having a very good day but I am very glad to hear my video was at least able to help cheer you up a bit :)

[@sabrinadarnell1019]

You should react to her Tiny Desk Concert

[@PratyushaMishra]

Like always, loved the reaction! If you have not watched here Grammy 2021 performance, I would really appreciate a reaction! She did such a splendid job(I mean she always does - but that performance was ethereal)

[@alisong826]

The boat captian is annoyed with him bc he is in the service industry. No matter how much money you have, if you yell or belittle staff you’re a d bag. 9:05 love your reactions!

[@sz2911]

The yacht scene Leonardo DiCaprio in Saint Tropez in real life. "I'd be just like Leo in Saint Tropez"

[@sz2911]

And the tennis scene is a Serena Williams reference when she was criticized for being angry in the court

[@tinamardt7734]

Yes I saw the hallway as the walk of fame versus what the woman gets as a walk of shame after casual hook up

[@gautam6405]

The place where i am from , single boys are not even given a house on rent by landlords . A casual hook up is seen as a bad thing for both men and women.

[@shkh1418]

EVERYTHING is intentional with Taylor swift

[@pichy7989]

After watching so many reactions on this music video, you are the only one man who gets it which is sad.

[@kena5651]

In the behind-the-scenes video she mentioned it could the make up people about five hours to make her look like that also in the tennis scene the one in the referee chair getting tennis balls thrown at was her father

[@sabrinadarnell1019]

This video is so iconic

[@gautam6405]

quite generalizing and factualy wrong

[@harperisntcool8031]

11:20 the person she said "great work" to was actually a woman, right after she told the man to be "sexier" like how in the industry, people favor men over women and praise them for doing basically nothing

[@LAVISHING]

Loved writing this with her.

[@karlyebeyer4893]

i think you are only one out of two men that i've seen react to this that actually get what the video is saying. appreciate and respect that ❤

[@gautam6405]

bagging views nothing else.

[@karlyebeyer4893]

@@gautam6405 🙄

[@gautam6405]

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[@edpotter1170]

I heard that the yacht scene was supposed to refer to The Wolf of Wall Street with Leonardo Dicaprio in it. Not sure though since I haven't seen the movie, but it makes sense with the namedrop "Leo in Saint Tropez" (referring to the said actor who's infamous for dating young models yet his dating life has never got in the way of his public image like it does for Taylor)

[@gautam6405]

his dating is in public image , thats why u are commenting about it.

[@edpotter1170]

@@gautam6405 it didn't receive as much hate until a couple years ago. Interviewers didn't go to Leonardo and patronize him for his dating life, because people cared more about his acting than his dates. Not for Taylor.

[@tristaswartz4270]

That guy on the ship is just JEALOUS! 😂😂

[@angelicamarques6047]

O que aprendemos com essa música e vídeo? Que independente do que um homem faça a sociedade sempre vai apoiar, aceitar e parabenizar seu comportamento. Enquanto as mulheres são julgadas o tempo todo e por todos os motivos, até mesmo quando o erro é do homem. Taylor é maravilhosa ❤️

[@HeatherBenedix]

I love that high five hallway

[@Violet316]

You did catch on pretty well. Great reaction.

[@janeanwesthues6389]

I’ve been watching on after another and you are, by far, the best at figuring out her stories, lol.

[@faithsky4665]

"random hands congratulating him" it's a play on how women leaving a hook-up are usually said to be doing "the walk of shame." Yet men leaving a hook-up are getting celebrated.

[@Violet316]

A lot of Taylor's MV add context to her songs.

[@mary_v2023]

There were other ppl annoyed by the man in the video, just missed it, it was hard to catch. Yes we as women have heard, you should smile more, be thinner, prettier, not so emotional etc.

[@gautam6405]

We men are also told to have good height , good looks , good muscles(break ur body in gym) , good money , good humour .

[@Sofia-fp4mw]

This made my day better ❤ thanks

[@Trifler500]

9:05 - The girl at the tennis court earlier was also rolling her eyes.

[@traymcgregormurphy4695]

Taylor swift so so out there 😜. This is just the tip of the her rolling the world 🐱🐱🐱🐱

[@ramziiiii]

Now you have to watch Miss Americana

[@hungryhungryhippocampus7889]

all men; not 'a certain kind of man.' societal expectations; not individual experience.

[@vroomvroom9373]

Love this song

[@beckyb9078]

Just found you but hope you see this comment sometime. When I moved 1200 miles from home to take a job in a city where I knew no one, a man from work who was about 10 years older than my own father started making it clear that “extracurricular” activities were expected from me. I was 23 and very green. Fearing I would lose my job if I didn’t put out, I asked my boss (female) if that type of request was legitimate. She took me to the man who ran our division and had me tell him what happened. He immediately called the other man’s boss and, without revealing who I was, explained the situation and said that the guy had better never set foot in our office again or he would quit. That man had a family to feed and lived in a lovely home in the suburbs, but he put it all on the line for me. That was 44 years ago and I’ve never forgotten his kindness. He was The Real Man. You asked how to stop this type of behavior so there ya go. Keep up the good work.

[@LiaaaaaaaaAAAAAHH]

Not the rampant misogyny in the comments proving TS’s point 😅

[@edpotter1170]

Who else was waiting for him to notice the No Scooter sign? Just me?

[@imola6263]

No wayyy, I was singing this song all day😌😄

[@davidkent5626]

13 is Taylor's number as she was born on Dec. 13.

[@aayushitiwari6889]

The yacht scene is a dig at Kanye. From his music video Famous.

[@aayushitiwari6889]

That is what I believe as it started all the drama in 2016 and she was the target.

[@sarahdrake3007]

Great

[@tarshgambhir9935]

I really think the character looks like the character from balls out: Gary the tennis coach from 2009 plus he's named Scot in the movie but no one else seems to have gotten it by now 😭

[@emmyjo720]

The point of the captain is that The Man is treating everyone on the boat like crap....the rich man who has no manors, no class, and looks down on people.

[@gautam6405]

So do rich women , just look at spoiled rich women.

[@valgrod14]

first comment!! i love your videos, i'm obsessed

[@SuffiReax]

Thank you! I appreciate the support!

[@conniedean1977]

I think the boat scene is like The Wolf of Wall Street.

[@kashvimiglani4640]

love this reaction

[@dbdnights]

To your point about the man on the boat who looked annoyed with 'The Man's behavior, I believe he represents "the help" or how subordinates look at those types when they aren't looking. Like, if this guy was your boss, you may be all congratulatory to their face but behind their back you are rolling your eyes because you know they're an asshole. I also think there is a difference between an employee who is afraid of losing their job and someone seen as a servant. I just think that is who that man was representing. I've also seen other people who say he represents the "gay male perspective" but I feel like that isn't really something someone can say without justification. Just saying oh, he's just gay and sees The Man for what he is but I don't like assuming he's supposed to represent gay men cuz he's what?.....Well-groomed and not smiling at the crowd of hot girls? Idk, just my two cents.

[@ZooArk55]

Nice reaction man!

[@micaela2699]

i really love your reactions😊

[@HeatherBenedix]

I mean he can't steal anybody's destiny not just worrying about mine.

[@yanigonzalezf]

Estaba esperando esta reacción 💗

[@lauragil9982]

the corridor scene with the hands allegedly resembled Kim and Kanye's house

[@alighorbani7999]

React to ready for it and end game music videos

[@stodani]

you forgot the the woman in the tennis yart. she is annoyed but that guy. and then the guy in the yacht. I think they represent those few people who doesn't stand this kind of person. Cuase its trye, in general everyone praise them, but you also have people, who are less loud, who just can't stand them. I liked that they showed both a woman and a man. And at the end she is praising that woman who did nothing but move her eyes. while the guy did all the hard work. like what so many times happened in real life but with gender reversed

[@sumire30]

Coldplay - The Hardest Part (Official Video)

[@bradybear1223]

A coldplay song I would suggest would be ghost story. Not the album, the song. It is from a sky full of stars ep, I bet you would like it.

[@sirsimonthesentry4787]

Re: one-night stand… yes. Men are parises for their virility and being a ‘ladies man’ whereas if a woman is sexual, she is criticized and all the horrible words we all know are applied.

[@gautam6405]

most men dont care , tbh .

[@sirsimonthesentry4787]

@@gautam6405 and that is the problem

[@mickey245]

Men just have it easier. That’s the point. In everything

[@HeatherBenedix]

Being aware

[@racontaurus]

you should really react to sam fender and his songs: the borders, the dying light and seventeen going under!

[@HeatherBenedix]

I would just like my brother to tell the truth about what he knows

[@Unterrifieddragoncat]

The subway people were annoyed

[@terryturkington1293]

Glad handing

[@TraceyM-mj5vg]

the tennis ref is her dad

[@Naina____088]

❤

[@josefinasoderholm6488]

Why hasn’t anyone done a Women-splaining video about this music videos?! Please all women reactors/swiftie’s out there.. do a colander and woman-splain the heck of it!

[@Ash-gtr32]

I love the lyrics "Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you" The songs she sang about her conquests have made her a very rich and successful boss. "I'm so sick of running as fast as I can wondering if I'd get there quicker If I was a man" She was signed by Sony ATV Music at the age of 14 and signed her first record deal at 15, how much quicker could it have been for her?! "Cause if I was a man, then I'd be the man" She had a net worth of $300+ million when she was 30 years old, she is THE woman!

[@eidrylalegre6630]

Please react to the entire 1989 Album. It will be so much appreciated.

[@dudaoliveira2601]

i feel like a lot of it its not that much about the dude, and its more about how they are praised and if it was a woman not even doing all that she would be dragged

[@HeatherBenedix]

They tried to steal my divine inheritance, I'll put the blame on her more than him but I'm not going to lie about anything

[@celinali682]

"its an easteregg one" darling do you mean literally every music video by tay?

[@HeatherBenedix]

Chivalry is not dead

[@meganputnam-padgett2022]

We ladies do get that alot be more sexyy, be more this and be more that and it does hurt when we get told that. But not all guys are like but there are those type of guys.

[@gautam6405]

I am a guy and I like women who are modest . Just like if i will only show my BMW and be like stud , i will attract wrong type of girls Similarly if girls wear revealing clothes , they will attract wrong type of guys . It depends all on ones preference.

[@franciskev4161]

❤️🔥

[@SamiZed]

Nice reaction Pls react to taylor swift I knew you were trouble mv it's so good

[@xBlackShadowx9]

almost 3 weeks without a video for lana : C

[@SavageSoldiers-oe3rf]

Grandma loves you

[@bevwhittle461]

My take on this song is double standards, guys can sleep with how ever many women they want and society think they are a 'stud' whereas if a woman does the same thing, they are seen as a "whore". To go deeper, women have always had to struggle to get anywhere in life, they are, generally, the primary care giver to the child, they do everything for the kid, change the nappy, feed them, bath them, look after them every minute of every day and very rarely get any recognition for that, then the man takes the kid to the park and is like "look what I did!" like it was a major feat.

[@NaomiMisora1000]

How do people notice so quick that the guy is Taylor ? 🤔

[@HeatherBenedix]

Cant tell me that's not my bro on the damn yacht