Sugarland- "Stay" *REACTION*

[@jamesfish2177]

She was the side chick begging the man to stay with her. Then she was fed up with being promised they were going to be together, he was going to get a divorce and be with her. She realizes that she is getting played and tells him to stay with his wife because he can't give her what she needs. Her voice is perfection! Thanks for the reaction!!

[@carls1959]

I couldn't have said it better.

[@matthewjones3553]

She’s lived it in real life too!

[@JennJamesSmith15]

She was actually the wife, not the side chick. This was happening in real time while she went through her divorce from her cheating husband.

[@shescountry0916]

​@@JennJamesSmith15I did not know that! I absolutely love this song and cry to it, but I never knew she was the one going through it.

[@jamesfish2177]

Well said

[@amberedwards6821]

She actually filmed this while going through her divorce, which is why it’s so raw and real.

[@juliestevens0426]

no she wasn't. she wanted to write a song from the perspective of someone who was the "other woman"

[@jumpermel29]

Yes this is from the viewpoint of the side chick, but she did write it and perform it while she was going through ha divorce in real life. @@juliestevens0426

[@jaimemactx]

@@juliestevens0426 yes she was. That’s why she was crying. If I remember she was actually cheated on by her first husband, but I could be wrong about that. She is happily married to someone else with a kid now. The director was going to cut to give her time to get herself together, but Kristen (the guy on the guitar) said to keep filming.

[@pennyastalos6953]

@@jaimemactx I think you are right.

[@kimking6036]

This was so hard for Christian, the other half of Sugarland. He's like her brother. He hated the pain she was going through. Especially knowing how she was hurt by her husband's cheating and her divorce. She's a strong woman

[@allisonpatterson4630]

Facts

[@danmartin590]

The first 2 choruses she asks him to stay with her. The last chorus she tells him to stay with his wife.

[@brittanytaylor1386]

No Sir. She was telling him to stay with his mistress. She is very much a savant. She did the song from her husband's mistress perspective and at the same time her own. She got fucked over hy the man she vowed to spend the rest of her life with. She planned for her headstone to be next to his. I wish people would actually think and invest in their relationships. If you want to die alone then don't worry about doing so.

[@deannatreat6819]

@@brittanytaylor1386 Dude, she was the freaking mistress! Go back and listen to the song again! She got tired of being played and in the end told him to stay with his wife! Jennifer Nettles, the woman singing in Sugarland even said it was in the view point of the other woman! Do your research before you spout stuff you don't know a dang thing about!

[@VeryVocalPro]

Great reaction. There was no switch. Listen again from the the start from the perspective of the side check, front to back. At the bridge, she realizes she deserves better, starts realizing how much time and love she’s wasted on the player, so in the last chorus, she tells him he can’t give her what she needs, so the next time he wants a side piece, and wifey begs him not to go, stay home with the wife. BTW, Jennifer was going through a divorce at the time after finding out her husband had been unfaithful, so you can see where the pain is coming from. Cheers!

[@ginarice4672]

She is the side chick and telling him to stay with his wife at the end just really listen to it at the beginning she says when get the call from home

[@lesliet6515]

Saddest song ever! They recorded it in one take because it was so emotional, her cousin who plays the guitar, couldn't put her through it again. She's absolutely amazing! At the time it came out, this was my story off and on for 20+ years.

[@tntcyclespdx640]

This performance is as real as it gets, she was going through a divorce and this song was her release. The filming of this video was so hard on her emotionally that they refused a second take, and the tears you see are real. Its an amazing story, with an even more amazing performance. This song breaks my heart every time, like it was the first time.

[@soniaduncan2095]

Who is this?look I don't care..

[@soniaduncan2095]

Or maybe I do...

[@car17yn71]

Add in the fact the Christian was so worried about her that he almost stopped it before it was done.

[@PreachersMom]

She wasn't going thru a divorce. She was singing this song from the heart, yes. The emotion was very real. But she wasn't even married when they did this song. But the song by Reba and Linda Davis, "Does He Love You",and the Reba song When who evers in New England was the first part of this scenario, and when Jennifer sat down to weite the song, She WAS singing from the point of view of someone who was the other woman, and imagined what it would be like to finally come to the realization that he was never gonna leave his wife.

[@Hair4Thought]

And her guitarist was the one who told her of his cheating. He also was the one who put a stop to them performing the song because it hurt her so much each time. Beautiful partnership.

[@KristineT4525]

It’s part of what makes this song hit so hard. She is singing from the perspective of the “side chick” but in her real life she was the wife. It’s the double meaning and pain of the lyrics. The next time you think to leave her bed for mine, why don’t you stay. I’m up off my knees. I don’t have to live this way. You can’t give me what I need so why don’t you stay (in the bed that’s not mine). It fit the song and also sadly fit her personal life as well.

[@justdone1068]

Yes. 💔

[@allisonpatterson4630]

Facts

[@sherribrock2726]

She was truly crying! This is still the rawest performance I have seen. I, not proud, was in this situation and was so free once I got out of it!

[@matthewdooley7855]

Congrats for getting out. If he'll cheat on her, he'll likely eventually cheat on you. But it can be hard to reach that understanding!

[@cherylholub3100]

I was in this same situation and he promised and promised. Has never gone anywhere, I said it was time to stop. He doesn't want to. Too bad.

[@tp8030]

Jennifer has always had a beautiful voice! Heartfelt

[@carolynnewcomb2153]

This song shows that the “other” woman is still a human being that wants to be loved.

[@vickithomas7976]

She’s tired of being the side chick. She’s telling him to stay with the wife that had no intention of leaving.

[@jamestruman2993]

No she was the wife

[@caseyb4425]

​@@jamestruman2993Sorry but it was written from the viewpoint of the "other woman".

[@jenniferleady7732]

@@jamestruman2993 no she isn't the wife. This is the side chicks point of view.

[@southernmama7606]

Yes it is. Clearly. Just because the real life story was from her husband cheating, the song is from the homewrecker's point of view. Why? I couldn't tell you. Because the homewrecker who was involved in a 3 year affair with my husband is the last person's point of view I ever wanna hear or know.

[@pockynon]

Jennifer Nettles has a great voice - she is considered Country but has a bluesy tone to her voice.

[@Enfield-1853]

She has the best voice in country music right now. Wide range.

[@DCMO60]

I’ve yet to watch her video of stay without a tear in my eye. What a beautiful, emotional song. You can see her heartbreak and her pain as she sings. Hell I’m a full grown man and this song just breaks my ❤️ heart

[@joshuastickley2796]

Best lesson anyone could get from this beautiful song is this "people only treat you the way you allow them to"

[@LS-mp7co]

Wow. That was profound. Thank you. Sometimes you read something that just resonates.

[@dawnbuesing7784]

She was absolutely devastated when she sang this song. You are correct she sang with authentic emotion. She was the wife not the side chick and had just found out. So sad

[@jeffreymeyer4848]

Kudos to you for really digging in and understanding this song. It's powerful and raw and real. Even "the other woman" has a heart and is a person.

[@mikemockerman8554]

She stayed cause she loved him.. Them woke up and left because she loved herself

[@Vicky49610]

I love that you stayed with the song, re-listening to the lyrics. It is a crazy song & she such a talented singer.

[@patuniaaquilar6636]

this is my first time hearing this song. woman who've lived these lyrics do only once in a lifetime.

[@beyoncaklein2129]

The song was written from the perspective of the other woman, this was all sang and recorded while her husband was leaving her and that is why she was crying like that in the video. The producers of the video wanted to keep going, but her guitarist told them no more because she had been through enough already, and he couldn’t stand to see her in pain like that.

[@daec4167]

I love this song. Her voice is beautiful and the fact she could write from the side chick pov after being the wife in the others side is amazing

[@ScottThielmann-e8b]

She is the other woman in the relationship. He would not leave his wife and kept stringing her alone. Finally she had enough and told him to stay with her, because she wasn't going to wait any longer.

[@kevinsharpjr]

Jennifer Nettles ( the lead singer) played Dolly Parton's mom in the NBC Christmas movie special Coats Of Many Colors and the sequel Christmas of Many Colors , she was also an judge on the TBS show The Big Show .

[@fire12wife]

She was incredible in Dolly's movies! I watch them all the time! Ricky Schroeder was a great pick, too... and Alyvia's performance as little Dolly is so incredible!

[@kevinsharpjr]

I agree with everything, Alyvia would go on & play Faith on the Young & The Restless on CBS.

[@ronbenjamin4351]

Man I owned a night club when this song came out. I would play the actual video to dance to. Man when I played this one I had no words!!! It was real and hits you in the heart!! One of the best songs ever!! Those lyrics will never be matched!! Why Don’t you Stay!! 3 words change your life forever!! Thanks for your video!!

[@cakesaregood5176]

She was always the Sidechick. She left him in the last verse when she got up off her knees, etc.

[@eliseorodriguezjr876]

She was in a middle of Divorce when she wrote this song. That's where the emotion comes from

[@knockoutking3764]

She is AMAZING l! Just a guitar and her beautiful voice.

[@someoneyoudontknow7705]

I haven’t heard this song in forever but I still cried listening to it…

[@icspots2351]

Telling him at the last to stay with his wife, because she needs more than he can give her.

[@70sMusicLady]

A totally different song by Sugarland is "Stuck like glue".

[@DeanTailor]

Jennifer Nettles can sing (and has sang) anything. Rock, pop, country, Broadway. Aren't many people who can sing Simon & Garfunkel, Queen, Madonna, Bruce Springsteen, Neil Diamond, etc in their own unique style and make all the songs sound so good.

[@sherriejjohnson5312]

I love the fact she finds her inner strength!

[@turtledove6172]

No, she's the other woman the whole time, she just finally realizes she deserves better than how he treats her. This is the only "other woman" song my mama every liked. She loved the new perspective

[@MikkiHjalmquist]

A couple more Sugarland songs you might like: Down To Mississippi, Baby Girl and All I Want To Do. Jennifer's voice is killer!

[@michaelinthebathroom7560]

I would like to add It Happens to this list!

[@meganfinitzer8327]

I have always loved this song! My mom related to this song. She was that woman wanting the man to choose her. I get it now as an adult and someone that wanted the guy to choose her. The line “I’m tired of being used. I’m tired of waiting” gets to my head. Because that’s me.

[@staceya9534]

I used to equate this song to the father of my boys. He struggled for many many many years with addition. Everytime I would hear this song the other woman for me was the drugs

[@cindyphifer970]

One of my favorites by them. Stuck Like Glue is another great song and hilarious video by them

[@tonydrummond3709]

Most heart-felt song I've ever heard.

[@randomcommentary6099]

Her tears are real. This song is about someone who left her after cheating on her. The guitarist stopped this video recording after ONE TAKE because he could see how much pain she was in.

[@graceito973]

Yes, she's singing as the "other woman", wanting the guy to leave his wife. But she comes to realize she doesn't have to settle for sloppy seconds and tells him to stay in his wife's bed because she is done!

[@vickihunter1913]

This is the most moving song…I feel it to my core and I ugly cry every single time 😢😢

[@Shortsac72]

When your eyes opened up after rewinding it and listening a second time... You FELT THAT! You earned my "Sub" right then. I think I'm gonna enjoy your channel.. you "feel it"

[@Angelaillynickjay21]

One of my favorite songs to sing when I want to exercise my voice.

[@dianemaestas3814]

If your feeling pain from looking in her eyes while she sings, then you will be heartbroken watching james blunt sing monsters. It is a total tear jerker

[@chlupl]

When listening to country, you will find that lyricism is a very common art, and one of the most notable is a twist on the double entendre. It's not at all uncommon for one phrase to have two or more meanings, but the meaning changes as the song develops. In this, "why don't you stay" through must of the song is asking why he doesn't leave the wife already and stay with her.. in the last portion, she's realized that she's going in something that isn't going to happen, so "why don't you stay" becomes next time you think of coming over, you should stay home, cause I'm over it. The artist was going through some hard times in her own life which added to her ability to just overflow with emotion, even though the story itself isn't her own. In writing the song, she said there are many songs from the viewpoint of the wife, but she wanted to explore what is going on in the mind of the side chick. On another note, there were a few copies early in the sing that she was the side that you missed. She said when he got the call, he would go home. It would probably be worth just listening to the song (and many others for that matter) on your own after. Once the meaning becomes apparent, you can hear the story with that in mind and you will pick up on more of the subtle things. Last thing.. if you want one of the best songs that fleshes out the double entendre aspect, I would suggest Tim McGraw's Don't Take The Girl. The chorus evolves every time it's repeated to present a powerful story.

[@quadmama22]

Great song and great reaction. Thank you for taking the time to really listen to the lyrics and trying to understand. Like many others have stated, she was the side chick the whole time. She sang the first two verses begging him to stay with her instead of going home to his wife. The last verse she was telling him not to leave his wife's bed for hers anymore, and to just stay with his wife since he can't give her what she needs. She has an amazing voice.

[@mikebroome8523]

The best female voice in country music

[@tntcyclespdx640]

12:10 I think the first verse she was in the fatuation stage, the second verse she thought shed win him, the third verse she told him to kick rocks.

[@meridius-]

Yeah bud, as you figured heard by now she was actually the main person in reality but also recognized the other woman's pain and grief anguish ect. And spun it from that view, while still the pain from hers. Nice reaction 👍

[@susancollins6062]

a masterpiece!

[@MikkiHjalmquist]

Just to clear this up, her husband DID NOT cheat on her. She is emotional since she was finalizing her divorce but not because of cheating. She wrote this song in response to Reba's Whoever's in New England.

[@caseyb4425]

So many people want to believe that this song is autobiographical when it's not. I guess it just shows how powerful Jennifer Nettles' songwriting and her performance really is.

[@MikkiHjalmquist]

I know! I keep correcting lol

[@Lilith6416]

Rascal Flats “ What hurts the most “.❤❤❤

[@ki_tb12]

This is the first country song I heard and loved.

[@meganpettway2310]

Bro...I've listened to this song so much and I never noticed that she switches sides! Thank you 😢❤

[@JaneJones-z8i]

This has always been such a profound song in my life. I can so completely relate on so many levels.

[@Yorkiemom4ever]

I love your reactions!

[@Daphnedidit]

You are exactly right……it is a mourning song. Mourning songs just hit hard. Like a death.

[@82acroney]

She was writing this song while she was going through a divorce, so the first part of the song was from the perspective of the side chick, and the ending of it is her finding the strength to move away from the pain that she was feeling finding out that there was a side chick

[@SweetCreature.1]

Plot twist.. Shes actually not the side chick, the husband was cheating and shockingly she wasnt mad at the woman at all, she understood how the other woman was feeling. Jennifer(singers real name) actually wrote this song from the view point of the other woman.. Its a great song and she has an amazing voice ❤

[@christopherone1]

she doesn't express any emotions thoughts or opinions about 'the wife' or the other woman, AT ALL.

[@SweetCreature.1]

@@christopherone1 It's written all over the song.. Something as simple as a Google search will tell you all you need to know, who knew? 😁

[@christopherone1]

@@SweetCreature.1 again, she expresses NO emotion towards the 'wife' this is her side of the mistresses POV

[@capehARTlines]

dude... yes. just yes. i love it when people "get it"

[@Jhubble515]

Dude the story is simple. She got involved with a married man, She fell in love, He kept telling her he was going to leave his wife, He didn't and kept playing both and she finally got tired of it, told him next time he wanted to come for a visit, she told him to never mind and just stay with his wife because she id done with the games. This has happened to most everyone in life.

[@chrisashley5206]

She was the wife singing from the other womans perspective. Thats why she had so much emotion.

[@catherinedorney6092]

Almost everyone misses the first lyric of the first verse. 'prayin she won't call call. It's just another call from home. You'll get it and be gone and I think I'm dyin' she's the side chick from the jump like many in love with a man who is married and already committed. She's trying to rationalize it and knows she can't. Her vocal and performance are so stunning the very first part of the song is often missed ❤❤

[@sarahvozda6182]

I have always loved this song and when you find out that when they were filming this video this was her real breakdown while going through a divorce from her cheating husband... They weren't going to use her real emotional breakdown for the video thought it was too personal but she said no i want to use it. Can you imagine the pain and betrayal she was going through and to have actually gotten this real reaction from her real life situation 😢 and putting it out there for all to see? She was so strong and very amazing for sharing something so personal!

[@bettymaki]

If you look at one of their 1st singles “Want to” she mentions “your ring around my neck” and it shows the same ring/necklace she’s holding here

[@lisabradbury7783]

She was actually the one who was cheated on during her first marriage, she wrote the song from the perspective of the other woman, those tears are real

[@stevie677]

At first she's begging him to choose her, to see how much she loves him... the end she realizes that it's never going to change so it has to be her decision to end it so she tells him instead of leaving where you are at now ,with her..she's basically saying" just stay, just stay where you are and let me move on... whatever this is is over"

[@woodyheywood8792]

Really great reaction

[@wtfesme235]

First verse “ another call from home. You’ll get it and be gone”. The first person voice is the side chick. Jennifer Nettles wrote this song after her relationship dissolved because of her husband’s infidelity. She’s not just a beautiful voice. She understood the pain of her “rival”. The man didn’t want to be kept and he broke both their hearts. That she could translate that pain into such beauty…. 😞💔

[@carolen9400]

Jennifer Nettles has a beautiful voice ❤

[@toukie]

I have been in "her" shoes. While I have never slept with another woman's man, for years I have in love with one of my best friend and he didn't know. He never knew. And it would slowly kill me. And when I heard this song, "It's too much pain to have to bear to love a man you have to share" , i understood that I couldn't keep going like this. I slowly pulled away from him, from our friendship, for the sake of my mental health and my heart. Years later, I have been in love with someone else. I have been with him for 8 years now. However, to be honest, in the anonymity of the Internet, my boyfriend has to share my heart,. Because even though I am not close to the other guy anymore, he is still very good friends with my brother, so I still see him from time to time. And I still feel this little clutch in my heart every time I do. And it reminds me I did the right thing by pulling away.

[@3catmom]

Great voice great song.

[@PPgreeneyedgirl]

Her raw emotions are everything. Check out "unlove you" for more powerful vocals and lyrics

[@pricillacollier8878]

Jennifer Nettles is one of the great singers.

[@planojag595]

That song and especially the video hits you right in the feels. I love the raw emotion by Jennifer and how she’s hurting, begs him to stay with her, but develops strength as the song progresses until she tells him to stay away. This topic may be uncomfortable for some but Country tells it like it is and if there’s any emotion that you’re dealing with, this genre will bottle those feelings up and make music that will hopefully help you. Great songs along the lines of this one, about infidelity, realizing your mistakes, or even getting the courage to break free from a damaging relationship are All These Years by Sawyer Brown; Promises, Reasons I Cheat, and Hard Rock Bottom of Your Heart by Randy Travis; It’s Your Call by Reba McEntire; Leave My Heart Out of This by Bryan White; I'm Not Strong Enough to Say No by Blackhawk; and You Were Mine by the Dixie Chicks.

[@timwhite4885]

I read to a few other comments and for some of those that don’t actually listen and understand the meaning of this song she’s not the side chick she knows that he has one and she’s always right there with him and she just wants it to stop. You gotta listen and understand how to comprehend lyricsand music is one thing that saves me and helps me and grounds me and you really gotta listen to it. If you do, then you would know that and understand it.

[@gayledoyer5333]

According to Nettles, "Stay" was inspired by Reba McEntire's 1986 single "Whoever's in New England", a ballad in which a wife addresses her unfaithful husband.

[@savonel35]

Jennifer Nettles (lead singer) wrote this song from the "other woman's" perspective. Her husband in real life had been cheating on her and she wrote this show how his actions had an impact on more than just her.... The tears in this video are 100% real and Christian (guitarist and the other half of Sugarland) told the director to keep filming when he suggested they stop filming to let her get herself together. he said this was real and raw and was important for people to see the real emotion and pain to get the message across

[@JayZFranks83181]

I haven't seen a video from you in such a long time I'm so excited that I saw this pop up in my feed. I've been a subscriber since you had only 5,000 subscribers look at you at almost a hundred thousand I'm so excited for you❤😊

[@jaybloodsaw3196]

Jennifer Nettles has such a raw talent, her song Unlove you is kinda like the prelude to this one even though it was recorded after this

[@margaretfimbrez1166]

It’s a heartbreak song of a mistress breaking up with her married lover

[@Clifford-f3y]

She was was real.She was going through a divorce when this was filmed. However it was her husband was unfaith to her.

[@amberburris5674]

I remember years ago when I first heard this song and I didn't feel sorry for her until I learned the message behind the song, which you will find below :) Makes it truly heartbreaking!!

[@joshp7394]

You got it.

[@goldieschooch8512]

Would love to see your reaction to Jennifer Nettles, which is the person singing here from Sugarland to her song ( Unlove you ) Amazing Vocals !! ✌🏻☀️

[@blazing6string]

Powerful stuff Jennifer 💪🏼💪🏼

[@jaylengriffith1547]

This song never gets old

[@JocelynHarris-dq3vu]

She was the wife. Her man was with the side chick. She loved him so much she wanted him to stay, but he thought thry weren't good anymore. So he just kept going back. She had enough,and said "stay with her: cuz she couldn't take it anymore. You have to see her sing that on the Grammys.

[@rowanmayfair9249]

She ate every note.

[@robintidwell8652]

Mistresses are in pain to. They promise the moon. I'm crying eyes out

[@MilisasView]

She's singing from the side chick perspective. In the last verse, she says "the next time you find that you want to leave her bed (his wife's bed) for mine, why don't you stay? (Meaning, stay home with his wife) She goes on to say that she's finally up off of her knees (she's no longer begging him to stay with her) and that HE can't give Her what she needs (a man totally devoted to her). It's a story about a man lying to both his wife and his mistress telling each that he wants to be with her.

[@jmiltier-pu9dd]

Jennifer Nettles has one amazing voice !

[@daviddennison1025]

When she sang this, she was going through a divorce because her husband cheated. So powerful and understanding. It's not the other woman it's the lying man. He is lying to the girlfriend, the wife and most to himself that is not at fault for everyone's pain.

[@krisknight2613]

You get right to it, THANK YOU! I have to fast forward almost half way just to get to the reason I wanted to watch the vid in the first place 😂

[@timothyyoung902]

1st time been the 1st LIKE ...THNKX BUDDY FOR THE REACTION

[@fire12wife]

First two verses she's the other woman, but in the last verse she stands up to him and tells him to stay with his wife and that she's done with him. In real life, this song was already in the works when she (Jennifer Nettles) found out that her husband was cheating on her. She was going through a divorce when this video was filmed. It was their wedding rings on that chain she was holding. The guitarist (Christian Bush) wouldn't let them film her more than once... he said no more, it's too painful for her. Such an incredible performance she gave. She won two Grammys and a bunch of other awards for the song and the video, so I'm sure that helped her to get over her ex!

[@heatherrhoads8831]

This song is a tear jerker, but the side chicks know what they're getting into when they start the relationship.

[@christinafoster9937]

They did this video one take no cuts bc they couldn't afford the studio time. That's real life reaction from her

[@janetsnyder911]

DUH YEPPERS !! GOOD FOR HER STANDING UP++ SHE'S SOOOOOOO WRONG BUT... SOOOOOOO IS HE!!!!!!!!!

[@sharondemayo2615]

Haha! This is great. 😂 She was the side chick all along. In love and begging him to choose her. In the end, she got tired and woke up and found herself and her strength and told him to stay with his wife. Haha. It was fun watching you figure it out. ❤