Surprising Emotions: Period Finally Returns After Ectopic Rupture | Let's Talk IBD

Having a bit of a rough week coming to terms emotionally with my ectopic loss (now that it seems my body has done a majority of the healing). I had an unusual sign of hope though, so I wanted to share that along with my first period after I ruptured. I also share a garden update!
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Hi, I'm Maggie and I have Crohn's disease. I am thrilled to be here sharing my personal experiences with Inflammatory Bowel Disease as well as living with an ostomy. I'm proud to share a little bit from a clinical experience as well, having worked as a GI pediatric nurse and ostomy telehealth nurse. I am so glad you are here. ♥ #ibd #crohnsdisease #ostomy

[@kishorerajurkar2271]

Maggie, as an experienced gynecologist, I can say that I have seen so many cases of ruptured ectopic pregnancies in their first pregnancy. More than 90% had successful pregnancies later on. Positivity matters . So be positive . You have a very good future. Best wishes

[@franksavage8031]

Thanks Doc!

[@thomaskauffman2108]

God bless you girl!!!

[@JenniferLKersten]

That is good to hear. I had a mc in Jan at 11 weeks then ectopic emergency surgery at 6 weeks 3 days ago. I'm in so much pain! I want a child so badly but I'm scared that this will happen again. Hope my tube heals up or othertube is used next pregnacy.

[@betsybabf748]

Our furthest along loss was at 30 weeks gestation, when out son died in utero. His birthday was yesterday, May 8. Honestly, we just deal because there is no other choice. My husband died just 4 weeks after our last loss, of 3 losses. Losing him, I didn't think I would survive. I did because we have living kids who need a living parent to raise them. No other choice.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

I am so extremely sorry. 🩷

[@breabeyrouti7834]

That's so much loss and I'm so sorry.

[@donnasymoniak5280]

I’m so sorry❤prayers to you and your family, that is a lot to have to deal with.

[@jodil1209]

I am so sorry for all of your losses.

[@marciadichiara5688]

God wrap his arms around you. Blessings

[@Readingqueen5]

Take your time and don’t apologize for your feelings! They help you heal.

[@coleenfossum4766]

Hi Maggie sending love your way. I lost my first son zachery passed away about 30 minutes after he was born. He was premature. Grief has no time line.❤ I also can relate to you. I had my colon removed and my rectum removed 20 years ago. I still have my moments still today. My love to you every day❤😊

[@MichelleArrrrr]

Maggie, I am so sorry. Losing your baby is one of the worst pains there is. I know its been a really tough journey for you, and I'm in awe of your strength. I'm built like a mac truck and had a miscarriage and it was horrible. Every morning waking up bleeding heavy and reminding me that I lost my child. I got through it. You will get through this too. ❤

[@DesertRose1974]

Much love to you dear Maggie ❤ Pls dont loose hope….. i had two still births and I had some really dark times but I am still here and in the end God blessed me with my son who is my whole world ❤ You are in my prayers my dear. I still and will always remember my babies but I learned to live with my new norm now. You are in my prayers dear Maggie ❤ A big hug to you from Germany ❤

[@jessicaperlove4715]

Maggi, sweetie, you look lovely with or without makeup. It's so sweet of you to share your experiences with us. ❤

[@RoseMaryBowen]

Proboscis is the nectar-drinking appendage on that moth. I found your channel by searching for colostomy information. I need to have surgery for an ostomy soon. Your videos are very informative for me and I'm sure lots of other people. Thanks. So sorry for your loss. ❤ 🙏

[@reneklein6049]

Hi Maggie. I'm sorry that getting your period stirred up emotions. Of course seeing blood would bring up what happened last month. Of course your hormones would be all over the place. You are allowed to cry. It's a natural response. Your garden looks lovely! The irises look so pretty. Interesting moth. Definitely a sign. I believe in things like that. Sending hugs and healing prayers. ❤❤🙏🫶

[@suepieschke5120]

Our first pregnancy was an ectopic that ruptured. This fall it will be 47 years. I often think about our first baby and get sad. We had two children within two and a half years after. My husband and I were so young and stupid about these things. I remember asking repeatedly why they just couldn't move the baby to where it belonged. It helps to have support that shares your loss and not talk about it as if it wasn't anything precious to you. Never ever apologize for being sad. I am glad you are healing so well.❤

[@joanpotanko6351]

Maggie, you have been thru so much. It is no wonder you cry. I hope things start getting better for you. ❤️

[@andreajlmoore]

Maggie, I am so sorry for your loss. What you are describing is grief…you are grieving…it’s natural and expected so don’t put pressure on yourself or question your feelings/emotions. I too have experienced miscarriage loss and it hurts. I am a believer in Jesus, that’s the only way I get through life’s challenges. You will heal- in all ways. I am glad that you find beauty and comfort in flowers and other plants and in that little moth that came to visit you - life has many joys and wonderful things in it too. Rest, reflect, and heal.

[@BellaRainDrops]

PTSD is real ! what you are feeling is totally normal, bless you Maggie

[@sued1116]

Maggie, I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but I'm glad it's over. I know you still have to heal mentally but please don't lose hope. Just live and enjoy life for a while. God Bless you .💕🌹

[@davidleslie1963]

Maggie, you are the strongest and beautiful person ever. You have been through so much and your tenacity is unreal. Keep your focus and stay your course. You inspire so many of us...thank you.

[@virginiahamel8973]

Don’t try to rush your grief You have been through hell Your heart is broken I am so sad and sorry for you

[@sherriebulechek8353]

Hey this is a good sign, it means you’re ovulating, it means you can get pregnant & are fertile. You only need ONE ovary & ONE tube. It’s going to be alright & so are you. Don’t dwell on the tragic you can’t change the past, good things are ahead. I’ve had 4 c-sections & have that beautiful scar that is still numb but I don’t care one moment. It shows your life. You’ve been through way worse with the greatest courage. I don’t think many of us could do that. Big hugs don’t be afraid ❤

[@tanianigelwade8935]

Trauma can make someone feel emotional when thing's like this happens. Mentally things will get better. You lost someone you truly loved. XOXO ❤❤XOXO 😘 🤗

[@bonniemeyer1301]

I’m so very sorry for all that you’re going through, Maggie. Thinking of you.❤️

[@michellebridges2604]

Happy belated birthday ❤ today would have been my son's 34tg birthday. I miss him so much! Grief is a bitch to be blunt. Much love to you ❤

[@jodil1209]

I can definitely understand your fear when you got your period. It's a form of ptsd. I don't think you will ever forget about your experience, but hopefully, you will have a happy experience later, and that will be so much better to have memories of. I hope I said that right. I have a tendency to ramble on. Mother's day might be a little difficult because of your recent loss. I'm glad that you are going to be with your family. Plus, it's something to look forward too. I loved seeing your garden. The moth or butterfly was definitely a sign.

[@801LOVER]

I have spent days, yes DAYS wondering why being a woman and procreation has to be SO difficult. I haven’t had a child and I can’t imagine the hardship you’re going through. Everything I have done so far has been hard enough! Anyway, I’m sending my love ❤ Being a woman is very complex.

[@marciadichiara5688]

Maggie please give yourself grace and time to heal. It’s so natural to have these feelings. All will come in the right time. I miscarried 43 years ago and think of that first baby a lot - but now in a happier peaceful way. Have two beautiful daughters with kids of their own. God will bless you 🙏🏻

[@maricormier121]

We appreciate you! Love the moth :) Enjoy your garden....love spending time there.

[@kimcheek8027]

Oh my lanta… I love your story about singing to your dog to get her to eat her food! 💓🐾. I am a dog lover!!! I love other people’s stories about their fur babies! I am a bit of an advanced age. I talk to my dog all day and night! She is my love… I pray nobody ever hears me talking about our day to my sweet girl while I shower every morning! 💓😘🤦🏻‍♀️I am a blessed and happy Mom, Grandmother, and dog Mama!!! 🐾💓

[@breckenberning]

Never feel bad for the time or depth that you grieve your loss, Maggie! There was an INSTANT connection, that I never would have guessed or expect would be so incredibly strong from the VERY MOMENT I found out I was pregnant (and I found out VERY EARLY). So, please never doubt that the loss you are feeling is just as valid and deeply felt as others have felt with a later loss. ❤️❤️❤️ I also know it’s common for the Lord to send us special little signs of love and hope in our time of grief. And a butterfly is definitely a symbol used in association with rebirth after a death, because of the caterpillars death in the cocoon and rebirth as a butterfly. 🦋 Know you and Zac are so loved and remain in our prayers! ❤️

[@davidlaroche4537]

You have a wonderful attitude, Maggie! Also, love your flowers.

[@kimberlyshirey5741]

How is Zack dealing with all of this? You are beautiful with or without makeup!! Crying is a normal healing process So cry when you feel the need too!!! Blessings & Continued healing Physically & Emotionally!! 🩷🩷🩷

[@lesleyharris525]

Hi Maggie, hope you're OK, I had 6 miscarriages but I was blessed with 2 living babies (grown adults now) , honey if you can do everything that you have done with all your surgical work, then you can do this sweetie, don't give up on yourself and your wish for motherhood, but you have to move forward gently and you have to give you the best chance of success, drink your greens and l think time will help you ❤

[@cindys2995]

My niece was stillborn - full term. My brother has NEVER been the same since. I am so sorry for what you are going through. This may always be a trigger for you and that is OK - continue to lean on those who love you - time strengthens us after crushing losses.

[@NorseButterfly]

The addition of pmdd adds to the emotional part of everything (I hope I'm remembering that diagnosis right). I know my faith got me through my miscarriage. It wasn't a planned pregnancy, but it's hard any way you look at it. Everyone deals in a unique and different way, so remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You have a huge support group to lean on between your family, friends, and all of us❤

[@juliemiller4288]

You are such a blessing. You are so real and raw. I learn so much from you, as well as everyone else. I felt so bad for you and cried along with you. I am unable to have children, but I just know you will be a mom someday ❤❤❤❤❤

[@YasmineGalenornOfficial]

Take the time you need. There's no rush. You can't push grief...it has a cycle, like all of life. Maybe your little moth was telling you--notice the small joys, pay attention to them, sometimes they're what carries us through.

[@lindaanderson4587]

Maggie sending lots of positive energy to you. you have had such a sad time and there are going to be times where it hits you out of the blue and takes your breath away ❤❤

[@brittanymcguff]

Oh how I relate to this😢 I had a still birth at 38 weeks due to placental abruption. I bled out pretty bad. That first period was brutal!! I’m so sorry that you have gone through this. It will always be with you but it does get easier. Prayers for you ❤❤

[@morgandoerflein4957]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[@RealTangerines]

I had that same experience once when I was extremely sad. I was sitting on my back steps crying and a monarch butterfly came and sat on my knee for a few moments. I think they come to comfort us and let us bask in their silent beauty. Really, it's God reminding us that the God who made the beauty of nature made you too. Sometimes he breaks us to draw us nearer.

[@donnasymoniak5280]

Don’t rush it, your emotions are going to get the best of you.

[@trinkabutler9482]

I hope you are ok I know your strong but the tears are to be expected so let them come take good care of your self

[@michellelepper673]

For watering use liter point five water bottles turn upside down in the soil,and refill when empty.

[@Vaquerah_6]

Youre strong ❤ 🥺 im so sorry your going through all of this but may God give you all the strength your amazing person

[@SuzeeD4358]

Sending good vibes your way!

[@JPMasonDun]

Your dog is ADD. I have a cat that is ADD. He gets distracted when he’s eating his food, so he will walk away. We have to pick him up and put him back on his food. You are a very strong lady. Keep up the good work. You will never forget, but you will learn to deal with the grief. Hugs

[@karentuttiett6304]

You have been through a lot sending you both my love lovely dog to ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@CattyT1]

We love ya Maggie, take time to heal and recover

[@sakaimae]

I'm never sure what to comment because I overthink everything, but sending love as always! And your garden looks amazing

[@youheather766]

Honor your body and emotions!! Don’t ever feel stupid.

[@jameschristiansson3137]

You are a master of thumbnails.

[@19cas63]

Maggie im with you on being afraid i lost my baby also and i had to have a scrape sooo scary . in a lot of pain lost huge clots i feel for you you will heal but the emotional takes a long time. a massive love filled hug to you and your hubby he must be really scared too. x

[@nadinecooper8709]

I am so sorry but don't be hard in yourself. 20 years on (!) I still have moments when I sob as well. Not often, but it happens. But I am happy and I want you to know that it will get better. So many women have these stories. You are not alone.

[@karenshepler7128]

Tank you for sharing with us and things will get better a little everyday. Please enjoy your weekend and take care .the flowers are going to be beautiful 😍. Congratulations on your views well deserved.

[@sallysmith4231]

You’re an inspiration ❤

[@myraclejones1134]

Happy belated birthday 🎂

[@4cats2008]

Such a strong warrior you are Maggie! I might have missed it, but where was your ectopic pregnancy located?

[@bettydanico2959]

Think of all those prayers that people are sending to you ❤️

[@karencull9518]

Happy Belated Birthday! 🎂 🎉. Hope you Had a Good Day. ❤.

[@celesteburo3737]

Sending much love and hugs! ❤️❤️🤗🤗

[@marikotrue3488]

The physical effects of this event heal before one's brain can come to terms with it. Yes, you do not forget; nor should you. However the intensity of the pain, in my mind I image the sharp edges of a triangle, will become less sharp as times goes on. The object isn't to forget or wipe out the memory, the your job (whether you choose to accept it or not😉) is to make this memory part of your history, your past. For now work on the present with the veggies, flowers, butterflies, puppies and the person who has been by your side this whole time. We all deserve a vacation, make this your time.

[@lpgirl]

Maggie, if you spread mulch around your plants, they'll thank you by keeping moisture in the soil.🌿🏵🌹🌻🌱💐☘.

[@HelenBarlas-ql3ou]

Hi Maggie, sorry for loss. God bless

[@sarahgreen2295]

I’m so sorry for your loss. The “tongue” of a butterfly or moth is called a probosces.

[@cynthiachabre9899]

Sending lots of love and hugs

[@ashleys.949]

I've also had an ectopic and I still find my period triggering.

[@Cat6]

The moth that visited you was an eight-spotted forester. Very pretty little friend to stop by and cheer you up. They might have been tasting the salt on your skin, butterflies will do that, unsure about moths.

[@austinkinchen4850]

tretinoin will help to speed up wound recovery once it’s closes. 10/10 recommend

[@MarilynPhillips]

One ectopic, two miscarriages, and one live birth at 28 weeks. Yes, it's hard. You will get past this as the memories fade; but, you will never quite be the same. Don't rush it.

[@rfaucher3150]

Some people believe butterflies are a sign that a soul is visiting you.

[@jeanettcanham9059]

Tube like thing on insects is a proboscis.

[@iSheree]

Hi Maggie, I really need some support and advice. I have severe endometriosis and adenomyosis. My reproductive organs are stuck to my bowel due to endometriosis and I have been bleeding nonstop due to adenomyosis. The gynaecologist is now telling me that I will need a bowel reconstruction when I have my hysterectomy and that I may have a temporary stoma which may become permanent. I have been watching you for 2 years and you have really helped me understand what a stoma is and how to live with one. Deep down I must have known this was going to happen to me eventually. I am upset because I am also fighting cancer right now so it’s just a lot all at once. I was born disabled and I also have autoimmune diseases to deal with as well. The gynaecologist is telling me that I won’t be able to swim or be in the pool with a stoma! Is this true?! I was having a hysterectomy so that I can go swimming/hydrotherapy again. It is the only exercise I can do with all my disabilities and health issues. I stopped taking the pill and all hormonal options to stop the bleeding are out of the question due to numerous liver tumours and haven’t stopped bleeding since! The only solution now is a hysterectomy and what is the point if I cannot swim anyway. Also I have a connective tissue disorder with fragile thin skin and slow healing. I am allergic to a lot of adhesives. Are there ostomies and solutions for people with weird skin and healing issues like me? I have sooo many questions! If anyone can please help me navigate this, it will be greatly appreciated. ❤

[@okpearce]

Eres adorable. Y valiente. Espero que podáis tener un bebé sí aún lo deseáis. Un gran abrazo desde Madrid. :)

[@lynda777]

Take time to grieve, it isn’t easy.

[@nadinecooper8709]

My 13 year old Pomeranian sneers at her food and looks at me to say, "you expect me to eat THAT swill?" Even if it is chicken or tuna. But thank God for dogs, eh?

[@pamrisenhoover4602]

Maggie im so sorry for your loss hopefully you guys can try again honey i know its hard for you guys im here if you need to talk ok my name is Pam risenhoover god bless you two

[@MrOGREATWISEONE]

You look very sophisticated with your hair tied up at the back (when you were in the garden) Maggie. I don’t mean that normally you don’t look sophisticated. I just mean…..Errrrrrr…..Ummmmm…. I think it might be a good idea for me to go now. 😬. 🐨 🦘🦘 💖

[@KaisaA-j7r]

❤❤❤

[@denisewright6095]

Thanks! Go get a cup of coffee!

[@migueleliz0913]

Hey Maggi can you tell me what you eat my husband have an ileostomy last November

[@MsBluheart]

I think the poky thing on the moth is a probiscos ?

[@myraclejones1134]

My birthday was April 12

[@malinnesse3876]

☀️🌼

[@bettydanico2959]

Probiscus …different looking bug!

[@DeborahAsh-z5s]

Proposals? Insect mouthpart?

[@theresahernandez2350]

I don't understand why they didn't give you a blood transfusion from losing all that blood

[@betsybabf748]

You can lose far more blood than you think. I've lost a lot of blood numerous times with a ruptued ectopic pregnancy, a placental abruption, and two hemorrhages during birth. Never needed a blood transfusion.

[@LetsTalkIBD]

It actually wound up not being necessary - my levels weren't critically low and I bounced back pretty quick!

[@ahoward3819]

There are a lot of risks that can accompany blood transfusions. It is not without risk.

[@chrisjohanson9284]

🙏❤️👍🙂😎☀️🌺

[@chrisjohanson9284]

❤️🙏❤️💯🎂🎈🪅🎊

[@DeborahAsh-z5s]

Proboscis.. damn you autocorrect.

[@bettydanico2959]

Too funny about the dog song to get him to eat. You look awesome. Glad to hear Mother Nature is back in style. Be good to yourself! You need to remind yourself that your feelings are real and normal. You make terrific vlogs…so natural. Take care! Boston suburb.🌹🩷🌹