Surviving a Narcissist.

In spite of a rough divorce and public humiliation from ex-husband #MartellHolt we can now exhale as Melody Shari has found love.
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[@carolynminter162]

Martell knew Mel had a man when he tried to get into Mel's home on the season finale. He had NEVER been in Mel's house before so why was it such a big deal that she didn't want him in her house. Carlos is the ringleader of the haters. He is just as jealous as the rest. He doesn't like women PERIOD, and black ones especially. Mel is a BOSS in her OWN right, and she has her own production company. So when Ms Vanessa moved to Huntsville so she could be close to her only child and grandbabies. What excuse will he have since the babysitter situation has been solved. Martell, Carlos, and the cast are playing checkers and Mel and Ms Vanessa are always playing chess.

[@2GracefullyAnointed-Savvy1]

He actually has been to Melody's new home on the show before self-inviting himself, and arguing as well, but the first time he made it slightly inside, Ms. Vanessa confronted him in the foyer, and that was rich too!

[@relainegossett6617]

I'm so proud of the way Melody carries herself. She won't let the jackels get her down.

[@queenshibadarling]

Amen

[@lorrainegreen3446]

I agree

[@anitagray6422]

Best cast member, Boss!

[@anitagray6422]

They are in trouble for messing with a child of God!! Be safe with family and friends. We place non before the LORD. Amen.

[@marylou7105]

I am so happy for Melody. Martell is a nightmare to ALL the women he engages with. I pray that her new man treats her like the queen that she is.

[@debrasmith1554]

I thought she was dating a lawyers

[@deniseaustin1201]

If Mel was not on this show, there would not be a show. Everybody keeps Melody's name in their mouths.

[@joyspic7146]

Melody is playing Chess not Checkers. When Melody said she was Done, she was Done ✅ PERIOD!!!!

[@mariahardy1201]

We need Mel to write a book with that title!! _Surviving a Narcissist_

[@sweetali1495]

I concur...

[@queenshibadarling]

Bingo 🎯🎯🎯

[@lorrainegreen3446]

Yess that a good one

[@thembimadonsela8878]

Agree 200%

[@angelenarobinson6745]

Great Idea!! Good title

[@goldeey21]

Carlos Messy Queen needs to be shut down. I believe what Kandi say he did to her group.

[@sweetali1495]

I believe it 💯

[@JerseyAquarian0205]

This man does not respect women pay attention. Kandi caught him now. I pray Mel and every other woman see him. Why did he bring Sheree to the show, and it made Sheree like bad.

[@aran08504]

Carlos is the messiest queen and I agree Mel won't be able to 100% heal until she leaves this show and limits her interaction with Martell.

[@carolynminter162]

Martell doesn't have to turn Carlos against Mel. He has been against Mel since she divorced and refused to film with Martell. Carlos is in lust for Martell and that's the reason why he has done everything in his power to keep Mel on that show and yes he hooked Sheree up with Martell.

[@punkinpunkin6524]

I agree!

[@determinedone894]

Yes!!

[@overton2141]

CK has always been jealous of Melody because she is surpassing his ratchet low vibrational executive producer status. She has her own production company, executive producer credits for #LAMH, acting chops and access to money and collaborations. The gag would be to to leave the show after it’s 100th episode and have a show over on #BRAVO. 🥳

[@anitagray6422]

Not into him.

[@powerfulbeingtheyoutuberev309]

I'm so glad everyone is saying this. The goal is definitely to break Melody. They DESPISE her, strength, confidence & perseverance. But it's actually God they are mad at. And the more they hate, the more God blesses her in their face.

[@evettebell3976]

I am so happy for Mel

[@punkinpunkin6524]

I agree with your perspective! Melody is not that same person that she was when they were at the Fletchers. She is done done with Martell and I’m looking forward to her being done with that show!

[@mstk6216]

I'm so happy for melody and I'm praying Martell can really move on. I don't want him to hurt her anymore enough is enough.

[@queenshibadarling]

I agree darling, I agree.

[@sandracullum7827]

Melody has been accused of being passive aggressive and she recently said she didn’t know how to deal with him anymore so passive aggressive was her way of dealing with his little boy behavior.

[@queenshibadarling]

I’m sure she ran out of options. You can’t win with a narcissist

[@Genine369]

If Coleslaw is around her kids, Martell would be in court so fast. I think she's with a professor. Someone who is totally opposite of Martell. Someone who is educated, smart, and can speak & spell.

[@sdjames2580]

🤭

[@af8071]

😩😂 #speak #spell 🙌

[@Livingyourbestlife2day]

😂

[@cynthiaarrington8368]

😂😂😂💯💯💯

[@DaPhlyymamee]

😂🤣😂🤣😭😭😭 Speak & Spell!!! ☠️☠️☠️

[@feliciamonae101]

It saddens me that we have to watch Black people with money and prestige behave this way on national television. I would’ve thought in my life we would be at a better place. It is borderline buffoonery to me. I hate to watch everybody on the show attack this beautiful, smart, and attractive black woman. It’s getting old to watch the disrespect of black women. Especially for ratings. Sharee’ may look attractive, but why would she be interested in Martell? SMH… I pray all works out for Melody and Martell meet his match.

[@queenshibadarling]

I agree. It’s quite disturbing and they have no idea how far off the radar they are. Kenya tried to warn Sheree

[@Protectblackwomen]

Martell doesn’t have money it’s MONEY MAKIN MEL !!! 😂

[@lilbit9093]

I said the same thing. For a female to be attracted to Martell, after seeing his spirit and mentality, that person is spiritually flawed as well!

[@venessajones855]

Martell is so wrapped up in himself and evil deeds, he will possibly put himself in a situation he won't be able to control.

[@simonewealthy2251]

Melody's ex-husband has already had that side chick around his children. Carlos King now DESPISES Melody. Her glow-up, fan support, and her being WISE to his trickery has turned him off. He is envious of her.....just like he was of Kandi. 👀 Also, the fans calling out his snake behaviors right along with the rest of them charlatans on that show has him (and them) stung. CK and his team need to be fired from this show, or the show should be canceled altogether. People don't need to be subjected to bold face lies each week coming from all of the Scott's and the unlikable Storm. I'm happy Melody is dating again and on the path to finding her REAL SOUL MATE! 💞💕💝❤

[@dgsch-nc92]

I hope Melody's new man is wonderful and worth more than $20 million dollars. Martell and Marsau will be steaming in tight clothes. Latisha and Destiny will be bugging their eyes out their heads trying to figure out who Mel's new man is.

[@MSBLADE1970]

I hope he's a big mandingo, with deep pockets, big powerful connections, smart, educated, spiritual, with a strong personality who can put Martell in his place, and put paws on him if he has to. Someone who can love her and the kids even better than Martell could ever. Can make Martell's suits look like they came from the suit bargain basement.

[@tonidennis6722]

YES SAY IT SISSTA

[@cerissawimbley3147]

😅😅😅yes tight behind suit’s

[@jovialjae]

You said spiritual, but let me add to it.....100% faithful, emotionally available, & excellent character. Amen! 🙏🏾

[@misty28882]

Mel needs to write a song.... surviving a narcissist!!!

[@aran08504]

Happy for Mel, but I want her to get a security detail I don't trust Martel will take this well if he was just begging her to take him back. Martell seems unstable.

[@lauramcgrew5604]

I've been saying that martel is a clear and present danger to Mel and these kid, and got so much backlash.

[@joyspic9209]

I’m so Happy and Proud of Melody and Ms. Vanessa I could just cry. Together they hit a Tri-Vector on Friday! New Music, New Man and added another NYTimes Best Selling Book for Kids! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 When God is in it, Everything just flows accordingly! Merry Christmas 🎁🎄

[@2GracefullyAnointed-Savvy1]

"Cindy Trimm/Spiritual Warfare Prayer/Daily Prayer/Warrior Prayer/Deliverance& Blessing Prayer/Decree Inspirational Speeches 29K views 8 days ago" Amen!

[@queenshibadarling]

God is so good!!! Miss Vann dropped so many gems 💎 in my interview with her.

[@venessajones855]

My dream in my head, Own Network fires Carlos. Then retains Mel and her Production Company to take over the show. That would be fantastic 😍😍😍!

[@NotMeToo]

Great commentary. You know Martell does not think the same rules apply to him. Mel’s new man will hopefully know how to manage Martel.

[@pinky11073114]

Mel probably has something in place within their custody agreement about not having that trick around her children. I don't think he wants to possibly lose his children.

[@jeanturner9792]

Kandi warned us about this Snake! Carlos King is not Mel friend!

[@natlovesfashion27]

When I tell you I’m so happy she’s finally started dating! I wanted to do a praise dance! 😂 A Narcissist doesn’t truly feel the loss of you until you ACTUALLY move on. They still see you as theirs when you’re single & feel you’re waiting around on them. Now that she’s in another man’s arms, trust me ….. it hit Martel hard today. And the best part about it is she’s keeping his identity a secret. She said a while back, that when she does start dating … we’ll know who it is when she suddenly announces she’s getting married. Lol! So Martell is wondering if it’s a celebrity, is it an athlete, or is it a regular Joe. I personally feel it’s an celebrity cause Mel is always at industry events, hob-knobbing with celebs. And to add fuel to the fire … Sheree & Martell aren’t even together anymore. I feel the L&MH episode of the family Destin trip and how he was hopeful he & Mel would reunite, ended things for he & Sheree. She deleted all pics of him from her IG that weekend. And when we had our annual, huge Atlanta Mayoral Holiday Ball here in Atlanta last weekend, Sheree attended with a girlfriend …. not Martell. That ball is a huge event here in Atlanta. The Who’s Who of the city and every celeb is always in attendance. If Martell was still with her, he woulda made sure his schedule was clear that evening cause he would of wanted to be there. So for her to go with a girlfriend, I knew he must not be in the picture anymore. Now that Mel is dating, we will see 1 of 2 things: He will step out publicly with Coleslaw in an attempt to get to Mel or he will work overtime to salvage things with Sheree and get her back. I’m betting money on him salvaging a relationship with Sheree. Remember, his whole thing is to have someone he feels is a step up from Mel. He’s not about to sit back and watch Mel have a man, while he’s single. And I also bet he’s going to be a problem regarding Mel’s man being around his kids. He introduced the kids to Sheree and didn’t even tell Mel about his plans to beforehand, which was disrespectful. And I want Mel to return that same energy for his ass! I’ll bet money he will raise all kind of sand about her letting the kids meet her new man and claim he needs to know when it happens. Watch! 😂

[@dorrenhill5483]

You nailed it!

[@queenshibadarling]

Girl you just ate him up for filth!!! Not only that, being from ATL you offered retained information about that ball. Sheree isn’t gonna let him embarrass her and I don’t blame her.

[@carolynminter162]

Martell don't need to know ANYTHING about Mel's man and NOTHING else. He introduced is children to Sheree and didn't tell her anything. He introduced his side baby to those kids and dropped them off at school. Mel told him she needs to be there when he told the children in case they get upset and she knew they would have lots of questions. Martell doesn't have ANYTHING coming to him after ALL of his disrespect. NO SIR

[@sweetali1495]

🎯

[@2GracefullyAnointed-Savvy1]

@@divaslm1 MERRY CHRISTMAS! Glad to see you here! Exactly correct as Melody has said herself. She has been dating off and on...moving in silence. Way to go Melody!

[@scorpiorules3709]

Mel needs to show clips of unhinged, malicious, Sui.Cidal, and vindictive AC to the courts and get an order to prevent Martell from having the children in her presence.

[@LL-cc4ro]

Great review! Hope Melanie lives large, she has definitely outgrown that cast and their lives!

[@TinkMarshae]

Everyone is praising him for his performance on the reunion watch out for the switch now that the cat is out the bag.

[@queenshibadarling]

Yep!! Typical Narcissist

[@TinkMarshae]

@@queenshibadarling love your content!!

[@yolandaholliday4964]

Everything you have said is 100% true. From the beginning to the end of this video. Personal experience from being married to a covert narcissist (and they are the worst).

[@jeanturner9792]

I don't care who he is as long as he is good for Mel.

[@erica3162]

The best comment on here💯

[@TinkMarshae]

I thought Martell went to the cast mates on RHOA to get clout. Martell didn’t just go to Sheree, she just took the bait.

[@queenshibadarling]

He tried with Kenya first.

[@cliquesnvues]

Yessssssss. Finally an assessment that debunks Martell so called excuse for stepping outside the marriage. He needed some sort of an excuse that in his mind ...people would find justifiable. The fact he indicated a specific act... if she was REALLY withholding sex then he would have just said "SEX" not a specific sex act.

[@maestralive3493]

Im so glad that Narcissism is being spoken about and publicly put on blast in our generation. I think this show has allowed a lot of people who didn't understand NPD to get it now! Very important. Thank you for making these videos!

[@queenshibadarling]

Yes, I agree with you. I'll continue to speak more about it.

[@veev25vs]

It’s definitely like a case study on Narcissistic behavior 📑🕵️

[@karenbazemore9690]

IMO...Mel's MANIFESTED MAN is a retired FOOTBALL player WITH an EDUCATION that invested HIS millions in various BUSINESSES...a SINGLE, very sought out BACHELOR that waited PATIENTLY & MANIFESTED MEL !!! An individual NOT intimidated by the INTELLIGENCE of a confident WOMAN... ACTUALLY...Cloud 9 DESCRIBED her cuffing PARTNER !!! GROWN FOLK BUSINESS....

[@DaPhlyymamee]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙌🏿🥰❤️💛💚

[@dawnpennie1392]

Mel has to be very careful..her words are being recorded with the help of producers to be used against her in the custody case..I am certain Martel records every conversation he has with her ..especially when he drove back to the house..Carlos enjoys watching strong black women crumble..he tried it with Candy...he secretly hates women..make me wonder about the relationship with his mother..let's not forget the strip tease Martel did for Carlos on his show and Carlos was running his hands up and across Martel's body...he has a thing for him..that much is clear...

[@bigann3351]

The man from mind body and money

[@jeanturner9792]

If he brings Arrione around the children I would take his busted behind back to Court and get full custody of the children.

[@tonimckinley5260]

Apparently they were already around AC. It was said Tank had to stand between AC and Martell when they fought.

[@jeanturner9792]

@@tonimckinley5260 Well the proof is in the pudding! The a toxic individuals and the children do not deserve to be round this type of behavior.

[@tangajTANG]

If you can, she posted awhile ago her list one what she was praying for in her next relationship. The person will not be in the industry, a professor, a protector, etc. She said he fits every request. I hope the guy is powerful and walks with secret bodyguards. Remember the folks on the show are from Martell's social background; bossom friends and as we see, very much on his level. Melody got with the wives since the husbands hung out together. They were NEVER on her level; she worked with them, went on vacation and social events outside of the show. They would like us to believe they know her well. Example. Season 1 Tisha and Kimmi took a long ride from their community for a spa day at Melody's home. They were wide eyed while getting out their cars to see the neighborhood because they were visiting a multimillionaires home. All they know of her, as stated, is social events and what the deceitful inside man told them.

[@CadeBell361]

💯♥️

[@Bellini-Bellini]

Totally agree. 💯💯

[@queenshibadarling]

Girl you just preached a Sunday sermon.

[@tangajTANG]

@@queenshibadarling 😆

[@af8071]

Wow! So true I remember that scene. Make so much sense!

[@Bellini-Bellini]

I think Melody’s new man might be someone who gave her legal advice/representation, as it relates to the custody issue, or he might be someone she met through her past real estate endeavors.

[@vanessabell9953]

Mel I wish you the best !!

[@barbarabenham129]

Great idea Melody write about your trauma!

[@valeriewilliams4192]

Lord knows you are right about that Narcissist remark! They are sneaky, and mentally unstable.

[@rochonner]

I’m really happy you mentioned that set up of a dinner in Florida….because it was definitely a set up. And Marlene (the drinking machine - in Caramel Rell’s voice) was in the background GRINNING ear to ear. The look on Marlene’s face was giving, “SURPRISE WITCH” with a “B”

[@michellephillips-perkins3504]

So true Melody has definitely,outgrown the show , and the whole cast is Jealous of Melody 🎵 so sad ,buts that life people will always bite the hand that fed them 💯

[@cnat6133]

Ooo! You are so right about the Narcissist and what he will do in 2023!!

[@kcwhe8025]

Great analysis sis this is how narcissists act

[@baddapplesauce]

Slaw absolutely hates the MnM kids. I’m sure he won’t bother her with that. It’ll be a totally new woman.

[@AngelitaB1000]

I agree LAMH leave ‘em in the dust!!!

[@deliciamo]

Arionne already said that she has met the kids. He’s a SUPER NARC and so is LaTruth.

[@fatusankoh8943]

Happy for Melody god continue to bless protect her her man mother kides brother for life everlasting good health happiness success in all they do no weapon lies formed against them shall prosper

[@valeriewilliams4192]

So happy for Mel! She deserves to be happy. Martell is pitiful and needs Jesus

[@reneehendrix7094]

Queen YOU’RE so RIGHT about it all, love your common SENSE perspective!!

[@queenshibadarling]

Thank you hun.

[@dessypooh58]

I watch almost all your videos but never comment lol… I just wanted to say I love this channel and how you go deeper than the surface of things! Thank you 💜💜💜

[@queenshibadarling]

Oh thank you so much. I really appreciate all of your support. Please comment, makes it more engaging.

[@dessypooh58]

@@queenshibadarling I sure will! 😊

[@overton2141]

I don’t believe Melody’s new man will need to put his hands on Martell because security and the law will handle him. Jail and Karma is in Martell’s future for 2023.

[@misty28882]

Overton....I have been thinking the same thing....I know hoetell will catch a charge of stalking and harassing Mel! Y'all will see

[@Followmeblack]

Based On How Mel Moves. A Plan Is in Place. She Is Moving In Silence.. YeeZ!👑

[@maneeceholifield1600]

I do believe Martel will try and bully him to run him away. Remember we kept saying why was it so important to talk in Destin and he wanted to make her revisit something so demeaning as “head”. I caught it then. He wanted her to verbalize it so that her current or future prospects could hear him. That’s why he started regurgitating the you been with too many men crap. Basic FN behavior.

[@queenshibadarling]

Exactly!!! Trying to bring up stuff that shouldn’t even make a difference if he’s moved on.

[@determinedone894]

I truly agree with your commentary on this!! Keep up the good work, Sis!!🙏🏼

[@queenshibadarling]

Thank you for your support Queen.

[@ettag]

Everything they do to Mel has backfire and Carlos is jealous of Mel too. All of the cast will meet Karma.

[@D1vaDvyn]

As MUCH as I "HATE" to say this: " I would call his bluff & go to Court & say: Your honor, since my EX is petitioning for FULL CUSTODY, I would like to honor his wish & will get my children for the 2 months theynare out of school; lastly, I ask that he keep them in the same PRIVATE SCHOOL that they are in & supplybthem with ALL of their needs during their stay with him #nohelpfromme🙄 Watch how fast he protest that because he will feel like MEL IS FREE & NOW HE'LL BE TIED DOWN!!!

[@cr-zq8qn]

Don't forget when you argue with a narc to them it means you STILL CARE!

[@ispeakclearly19085]

Martel in my opinion will struggle with accepting this idea or move. For the bloggers experienced with behavior you have an idea or opinions. Let's go in another direction with LAMH. Melody is a very transparent and in her time she will introduce him to the world and on her platforms it will be many that will be all up in his business. Tread lightly in my opinion.

[@queenshibadarling]

It’s hard to go in another direction with LAMH when the dominant tone is negativity. Which is whY I hope they do a complete recast.

[@ebonyeyes821]

I love Melody, the best one on the show of you ask me

[@imanibjs.5775]

Hail the Queen! Carlos is her enemy. Martell is just a trick! Why would Melody still want Martell, he is broke; and is all muscles but he has an underdeveloped little teeny-weeny package? It is not that much tongue action in the world to make up for a teeny-weeny package. This is according to his woman who spread it all over the internet and Mel also verified it as a fact, and I believe them. Melody is moving on to Bigger and Better things in every area of her life. This was an outstanding assessment. Long Live the Queen!!!

[@sueann9065]

He already had AC around his children. I believe that was said in S03.

[@liesmorelies2722]

Was that man on her show, married? Could it be him if he’s not married? Mel said she wanted to be bi-coastal, so maybe it’s someone in Hollywood. We have to wish Mel the best and like you said, Queen, if it’s just for a good time, let it be that. Have fun, Mel. I do wish Mel keep it private, but Martell definitely will be popping up with someone soon to try to up one on Mel. Mel is done with Martell and I hope in 2023, we see her last name changes from Holt to just Melody Shari. Which would mean she won that custody battle and can move freely.

[@douglasssnuggs4678]

I hope Mel has man who powerful Aman with wealth and can open a new world for her and children and a world that those clowns can not be seen in and he is powerfully connected with people they don't dare mess with.and he move her out of Huntsville she has all the resources that God will continue bless her children, mother, brother and I no God will deliver.

[@ispeakclearly19085]

Melody alledgedly has said the children already has been around Arionne. I believe in my opinion it was further said the children were asked to not speak about it ......

[@kynettefielder4724]

Queen Sheba you telling Truth about Martell ,I'm so Happy for Mel let's see who’s her Boo !!!

[@queenshibadarling]

I’m so curious to know.

[@essiethompson7588]

I hope it's a Rich man A DOCTOR or LAWYER

[@queenshibadarling]

Doctor, yes

[@sdjames2580]

That Healing Work!!! Everything!! You definitely need to heal you MIND, BODY and Your SOUL!! Do not jump on the next with all them Demons!! Let Go!!

[@queenshibadarling]

You most certainly do. But once you do, it’s up from there.

[@sdjames2580]

@@queenshibadarling Yes! It’s a different type of high!! You protect yourself and love on yourself. That’s why I love our girl Mel!

[@D1vaDvyn]

Yessss! I'm here for the "Double Date with other Elite Couples!" I hope he's a Saudi Prince living in America and UBER rich

[@queenshibadarling]

Man!! It’s gonna be something when she shares.

[@shilohd4089]

I think it’s promo for Cloud 9. I don’t think she’ll reveal her man and if so, not this soon. When we see him, they’ll be married. And she’s definitely not allowing him around the kids for Martel to interrogate. I think she’s doing this also as a way to get under the cast mates and CK’s skin. I believe it’s a trap to lure them into revealing more of their snake behavior and disdain for her. She’s got a very calculated plan. They’re playing checkers and she’s playing chess. Her game is the long game.

[@queenshibadarling]

We’ll get cousin shared the family has met him and they approve. So I’m definitely curious.

[@queenshibadarling]

You may be right tho.

[@shilohd4089]

@@queenshibadarling I heard that and I believe her family will ride for her and follow suit with whatever she wants us to believe. I’m with you, I want this man to be SO impressive, love her kids as his own, with long money and influence. I want her to get full custody, move away from Huntsville and become so successful that all the cast can do is talk about her and watch from afar because their access to her will be cut off.

[@qusan]

@@shilohd4089 One he realizes that Mel really has moved on, the kids won’t be his priority. She’ll end up with primary custody by default.

[@veev25vs]

I was looking closely at the words she chose, which didn’t explicitly say this my man. I also don’t think she’d reveal before marriage and not sure if she would have a secret marriage while in a custody battle (if that’s still going on).

[@TheRealVeeBee]

If he does take the kids around Coleslaw… hopefully Mel’s state of mind will not allow it to effect her… why worry or get upset about something she can’t change… unfortunately he is their father… so as long as the kids don’t come back about any type of mistreatment… she’s good!! And I hope he tries to check her in front of her man… and he taps that AZZ! Martell is a disgusting person… all Mel did for their family and him… for him to come at her the way he did for his indiscretions. I’m thinking he may be in the music industry. So so so so happy for Mel! ❤❤❤❤

[@blancoblogbeauty3537]

Pressure creates Diamonds 💎.

[@scorpiorules3709]

Your KeKe Palmer clip at the end was HILARIOUS!!!

[@simp1eone]

remember in an old interview with married to medicine lady right after her divorce. one thing Mel said and it stuck out to me to use that same advice is that the next man she gets with shell dig deep into their background to find out how they were raised. cos we out here dating and marrying emotionally screwed up men who have a lot of baggage stemming from childhood and refuse to go to therapy to get it fixed. i was like oh my God that is so true. Its very important to ask questions about their upbringing. See in Destin Mel was stategically probing Marlene to understand Martell upbringing and Marlene told on herself. It all made sense why emotionally fxxxed up Martell grew up to be. He had no business marrying anybody daughter when he's not fixed. I will always remember that and do digging myself next man I date. Ms Shiba please do a video and warn ladies out there or better yet invite black men who at least knew they had issues from childhood and as adult seeked therapy to be better boyfriend and or husband. All Martell problems stems from his childhood. Dustiny and Tisha too. At least Mel seeking therapy and takes hers and her kids serious

[@queenshibadarling]

That’s a great idea Queen. The goal is finding men who would be comfortable talking.

[@terri8059]

To The Point

[@MaroonRose3216]

This is a really good point. Something I, myself, just learned the hard way.

[@Seaney4eva]

I agree not only is it unprofessional and messy to ask Melody about how she feels about Martell dating Sheree Whitfield it’s TACKY and CLASSLESS the whole episode was tacky last week when Martell and Sheree Wes being mentioned and everybody commenting about Melody concerning it … just Classless behavior

[@queenshibadarling]

Periodt!! Carlos is quick to speak on his blessings yet he continues to mishandle them.

[@monicagordon956]

They r a bunch of classless people what do u expect?u cant get oranges from a mango tree.

[@TBWL829]

Martell is a-hole. He wanted camera tine. Proud of Melody not answering his dumb 2 years post-divorce question.

[@queenshibadarling]

So am I! It had no framing value whatsoever!

[@blupaulcampbell1750]

Martell has already had those around coleslaw. That's how Tank got hurt. ( Allegedly). As far as Mel being with someone good for her!!! Idc whom she's with. She has made it clear she going to have her privacy with this.

[@eslaone8721]

If Martell brings Coleslaw around that girl, Mel should go immediately to the court and show that footage of her threatening to hurt herself. No judge in their right mind will allow that chick around those kids after she threatened that. Melody can say she fears for the safety of her kids and old girl is unstable.

[@swhite7975]

I just found your channel and I'm here for it. I'm team Melody all day, everyday! My 2nd is Kimmi (medical condition). She's the reason the show is popular and they're known!!! How many TV producer's were looking to start a reality show in Huntsville, Alabama???? 🎤 🎙 🎤 🎙Exactly! MELODY is that Hope diamond!!!! Ain't nobody coming to see you Otis!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@queenshibadarling]

So glad you were able to find the channel. Welcome!!

[@swhite7975]

Thank you and you're welcome!

[@charlotteloring4602]

Good for mel so happy for her I pray this new man be all and more that mel needs and wants I pray this is the man God designed just for her. Merry Christmas mel and I pray the next year be more than you expected. Everything you say is so true

[@Kisha12able]

Exactly on point 👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯💯💯very accurate on your commentary and I love ❤️ it 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯thank you 👏🏽

[@queenshibadarling]

No thank you. I couldn’t do it without the support.

[@mariakennedy1311]

In my opinion Martell already had his children around Arionna remember when Tank got hurt when Martell claims Melody didn't let him see the children in 56days.

[@fatusankoh8943]

Omg Queen you are so good your commentary is always on point thanks well said

[@queenshibadarling]

Thank you Queen.

[@sdjames2580]

He bet not bring Arrione around those kids….she was just suicidal over the summer. Smh

[@brigettasteward9899]

I could care less about her being suicidal, she has absolutely NO reason to be around Mel’s kids as a constant reminder of why their parents are no longer together

[@queenshibadarling]

He’s a wildcard

[@brigettasteward9899]

@@queenshibadarling I’d tame just azz😂😂😂

[@kayw0]

If Mel had a man we wouldn't know. That picture may be a scene from her video for her song 🎵 Cloud 9.

[@PheonixBluez]

LaTruth and the wife are ABSOLUTELY NARCISSISTIC

[@lindagamble8077]

Happy Holidays Queen Shiba

[@mlmeek0278]

Martell think he’s slick , getting the kids cell phone. To see their location. I hope Melody put those phone in the drawer until they go over his house.

[@angelafunkygemini]

Keep'em guessing Mel... there is know reason these clowns really have to know who it is.. know reason her and her new dude can't take the children and themselves on a flight out to dinner, and places of fun.. he'll make a weekend out of it.. she also gets 7 days with her children, they don't have to be spent in HUNTSVILLE..

[@katrinaenjoylife8868]

Merry Christmas 🎄🎁 Happy Holidays ❤

[@TAY-TAY249]

I totally agree with you. They already been around her. He just going to post it.

[@redbone2358]

Someone who is a professional businessman.

[@deidrawinfrey219]

HONEY....BABY her New Song : CLOUD 9.... listen to it carefully.👏🏽😉💖🥂🍾🥂🍾🥂🍾🥂🍾 # CHEERS TO MELODY SHARI

[@rosacanada9319]

If the family is satisfied ,,,he must be somebody that's have good morals and standards ,,,,don't think he is from Alabama ,,,,new york ,,,or California probably ...

[@bobbieshepard605]

I agree whole heartedly, Queen.

[@sjcrenshaw11]

Rewatching this video again and Queen, you were SPOT ON! With him bringing AC around the kids as well as the jaw dropping news of the revenge P. Blew my mind. I love your insight!

[@tangajTANG]

Did you hear the latest with these hateful lying people, saying the man is married. The outsiders are fishing???

[@lacyhodge1864]

Don’t believe that

[@queenshibadarling]

They’re always starting drama.

[@queenshibadarling]

Is there a link?

[@maryrobinson128]

We gonna hire Maurice to sue these lying 🤥 peope that said Mel new man is married, hummm, oh 😂 it was Tisha and Arionne that said it lol 😆🙄🤣 go figure.

[@goldeey21]

Something is seriously wrong with these hating folks! Why will they not let this woman be great?!