SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS WHEN YOU'RE LGBTQ ft Chase Ross!! [CC] | ChandlerNWilson

[@ChandlerNWilson]

Go subscribe to Chase and watch the video over on his channel!! kzbin.info/www/bejne/fn2naYGPfJWti9k Thank you so much for being a part of my video, Chase!

[@РинатХамиров]

fuck u u are a bitch there are only two genders

[@ash-miyuki789]

+Ринат Хамиров FYI, there are many different genders just in case you didn't know that you worthless human. 😒

[@lashundrajackson7040]

You are gay just stop it

[@shaunnagalloway8719]

Shauna Galloway May 15th and miss you so much more than a year ago I was in my head of a lot better than I was a kid in my head of a lot better than I was a kid in my head of a lot better than I was a kid in my head of a lot better than I was a kid in my head of a lot better than I was expecting the first time in my life of a lot of Shauna the

[@shaunnagalloway8719]

Shauna Galloway May 15th and miss you so much more than a year ago I was in my head of a lot better than I was a kid in my head of state of a lot better than I was expecting the first time in the only thing that I was a kid in my head of a lot better than I was

[@care623]

chandler, your rapid testosterone glow up is killing me! you're so androgynously gorgeous

[@insertnamehere1867]

little Chase in the Christmas bubble is so cute 😭

[@ChandlerNWilson]

He a cutie!!!!

[@bigmoqq5732]

I love Chandlers eyes so much

[@zoereal1129]

This is so nice to know that I’m not alone, I’m non binary and don’t go by my birth name, and only my mom knows that, and she doesn’t accept it anyways. I love knowing that other people understand what I’m going through. 💜💛🖤

[@zoereal1129]

Update: she finally accepted me and I’m out to all my friends!! It does get better. It just takes time. 💜💛🖤

[@alexjlester]

shoutout to chandler for helping me feel not as alone like 1 or 2 years ago around this time, you really helped me figure out a lot, and I couldn't thank you enough. This video means so much You and chase are both so amazing.

[@neuroqueerjester]

Yeees, I was just watching Chase's vlog! Thank you, Christmas is so horrible and scary for me and I'll bet a lot of people are gonna benefit from this video 💜

[@blackk_rose_]

my parents know i'm bisexual and i know they love me no matter what but my mother still acts like i'm only interested in guys. i feel like she really hopes i end up in a relationship with a very average, very cis guy and that hurts. but i'm really glad i am so secure about my close family always loving me, i never had to worry about being kicked out or sth. and yet that didn't protect me from my family accidentally hurting me or not being comfortable telling them it hurts. there's still a huge part of me i hide and it's always the most obvious during the holidays when everyone is being heteronormative and often ignorant and you have to choose between saying sth or suffering in silence. and i almost always choose the latter. so yeah, thanks for the video, it's really validating ^^

[@ellamoon444]

I feel very lucky to have seen this video. Thank you so much Chandler and Chase

[@natalieparker9710]

Watched his vlog, knew it was coming and was excited.....Did not dissapoint.

[@natalieparker9710]

"His" being Chase.

[@lydsk-w345]

I needed this right now!! I have my chosen family Christmas this weekend where everyone knows me by my real name and pronouns and then the week later I have my bio family Christmas and everyone will be calling me by my birth name and pronouns. Dreading hearing my birth name again.

[@noahstitchbarron784]

Your face shape has changed slightly and it looks amazing

[@ShikisaiMaki]

I'm soooo fricking HAPPY about this collab, you have no idea! PLEASE DO MORE!!!! ❤️🎄🎁✨

[@finn7435]

Ahhh my goodness thank you so much for this video. I'm going by my name, but not pronouns yet, and I know that I will get deadnamed a lot during the holidays, by accident, but still. And misgendered cause I'm not out. Thank you so much, I needed this. -a non-binary pal

[@ethanf5811]

I love this video and I’m so glad I’m not alone my family’s not very supportive of me and this is my first holiday having them know more about who I am and it’s been very hard thus far

[@raephillipssmith4125]

THIS IS THE BEST COLLAB EVER!! MY FAVES💚💚💚

[@brenorton8099]

Thanks chandler i really needed this

[@koutashinji]

I'm lucky in that my family really keeps to themselves. What's the opposite of nosy? They're that. They learned pretty early on not to ask about relationships, which I'm thankful for. I'm not trans, so I imagine that'd really test their ability to not pry if I were, but I honestly think that I could probably pull a gender swap out of nowhere and get away with not explaining myself at all to them. It'd be awkward, but they'd mind their own business after a few questions if that's what I wanted from them. I can't speak to pronouns, though, lol. It might sound ideal to some, but it's actually pretty isolating. We all keep so much to ourselves that we basically don't ever speak to each other or do anything together. I have to fight against that tendency all the time and I've let too many friendships die because I have this sort of anti-social compulsion...gets lonely.

[@vernonhardapple6983]

Chandler!!!! Got this vid alert on time, at least ...merry Xmas, happy holidays, happy Hanukkah

[@SenrisPlace]

Hahah just came from Chase's vlog and was really excited about this! And not only that, this is definitely something I need. Recently came out but people won't refer to me as he/him and keep saying things like 'you're a woman' or 'you're a girl'. And now I keep misgendering myself :/

[@alexjensen7980]

I'm non-binary and I misgender myself sometimes too. It's just because it's a habit and your brain is just going with what other people are saying.

[@Xan1120]

Senri I totally understand this. I unfortunately have to keep my birth name on here b/c I don’t want anyone to notice my trans identity.

[@SenrisPlace]

Yes, the misgendering has to be the worst part for me, because I can kind of handle my body dysphoria. I hate how people just don't care and call me whatever they want because they think they have the right to because I look a certain way. I'm currently working on building my confidence to begin correcting the people I know. Politely of course.

[@SenrisPlace]

That's such a pain. We shouldn't have to hide. I'm tired of people saying that being trans or non-binary doesn't matter when right after THEY are the ones to make a big deal out of it.

[@brentlydixon5495]

THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH FOR THIS 💜

[@RavensRidgeSPAW]

Thank you so much for this video. It really helps! I'm facing this daily ... at work, with friends and even family... I do sometimes feel down, but your correct, the feeling doesn't last forever... holidays are tough... And thinking about all this is important. Thanks so much you all!

[@mesuraion7919]

Chan, I remember when I was in, like, 6th grade and I started watching your channel. I was so so glad I came across your channel because at the time I started watching your videos, I didn’t know that I was into girls (but my first female crush was when I was in fifth grade), and you made it much easier to come out to my homophobic dad (that everyone hates, including me). Ilysm chan. Thank you for the help on my journey to finding my sexuality

[@Kree.B.]

I honestly never thought of this aspect, thank ya'll for this video to educate people who never gave it thought like me and for the people who are dealing with it especially.

[@agreenpar]

I clearly haven't been watching Chandler enough. Because their voice out of nowhere became super deep and it really surprised me at first.

[@rensky4747]

You two are both so cute... and have gorgeous eyes.

[@fuckyachickenstrips6199]

I'm so glad this video was made!

[@jeristovall5465]

This is such a great video! Yall need to collad more!! Love yall!!

[@ajnelson30]

Best video made with my favorite two youtubers! Thank you

[@SoulWatcher72]

Great video for those that are going through this!!! I follow you and Chase both. Love the content that you both put out! Cheers!!!

[@bravenewworld92]

Hey Chandler and Chase! Thanks for making this video :) I think it's very important for many people

[@samjones9821]

8:37 That can be so hard to remember sometimes, that it's okay if I'm not there yet. But it's so, so important. ❤

[@nael_tm]

Thank you so so sooo much, Chandler I really value you💛💛💛💛💛💛👏🏻👏🏻💪🏻 It is being really hard as I am figuring out and my family knows nothing, but this year at least they understand that I can’t have such "girl" presents, it is inspiring to listen to you.

[@Ezra-gx2oq]

My social dysphoria isn't overwhelming. However, I DO feel pretty restricted. What I mean is around the Holidays I feel like I'm hiding a lot of stuff, not being myself. I come off as awkward and unfriendly. I'm really not tbh. Sure, I'm not the most social person in the world. But, I wouldn't say I'm fully awkward. I don't feel like myself around my family so it's complicated and confusing. My attitude is pretty bad. I think that I don't deserve happiness and I'll be confused and lost forever. Getting to dress more like a boy and bind goes a long way for the holidays. If I didn't get to bind or wear boy clothes I wouldn't feel good at all. There's a bit more confidence and a "feel good" attitude, when I get to do these things. Whenever I hear my birthname or she/her I feel irritated (not overwhelmingly) but it's like "Really? Ugh. I don't think those pronouns or that name feels good to me." Another thing, I identity as FTM, but I feel as if I can't be a boy without T. The name and pronouns don't feel good to me - it's uncomfortable in a way that I don't think i've earned it if that makes sense. It's like, okay, I look (birth gender) and I'm trying to pass as a boy. This gets me focused and my thoughts become jumbled because of the conflict with my inner gender and how ppl view me in society. "AJ" > (looks birth gender instead of male) Hella confusing.

[@ashleymassano3090]

Omgggg! Chandler I have not watched one of your vids in a long time! I remembered about you so I wanted to see what u were up to and let me just say I’m so proud of you! ❤️❤️

[@alinaazewska186]

Your voice has changed so much muh dude!!! Love you!!!

[@samuelhealy7672]

Thank you I really needed this

[@myutube5882]

I see the beginnings of an Adam's apple Chandler.

[@summerrayne4494]

OMG CHANDLER ❤️ i havent watched your videos since you graduated and i have missed them soooo much. You’re amazing, keep doing what you’re doing. Congrats on your transition. Happy Holidays 🎄❤️

[@noah-ds]

Thank you. I needed this.

[@alicaradec8545]

Also, the colour scheme in this video is just gorgeous

[@sonmihae-joo6286]

Wonderful video, that was a great collab indeed ! :)

[@amaliadepinho]

Such an important issue, thank you for this collab

[@pxtxrparkxrcos2172]

I love this my two favorite people!!!

[@mademoiselleregret]

Great video!! I admire both of you so much, it was great to see you collab! Btw would you say it's a good idea to come out during the holidays? Because I get to spend more time than usual with my family but I don't want to ruin everyone's Christmas.

[@natalieparker9710]

I'm not trans but I'm queer and my family always asks me really hetero-normative questions. I don't understand why they care so much! Like my cousin brought over his friend and my Nana nudged me and said, "He's a good looking young man, isn't he?". I don't know, I guess. Why does it matter? Why are you trying to play matchmaker? Ugh, that's just one example. I know they're well-intentioned but it still sucks. Must be a lot worse if you're getting mis-gendered or their using your birth name. I send love and support to all the people who have to deal with this stuff.

[@olivers.2661]

I LOVE THIS

[@unlikenomads]

I love his videos like seriously his Trans 101 playlist got me more confident about being me

[@blueb3rry_b0y36]

This is exactly what I needed this Christmas.... My family hate me cause I'm pansexual and it's just not fair on me 🙀🙀

[@neuroqueerjester]

sparkleprincessfriends of course it's not! i'm sorry about it, i'm always scared that some of my younger relatives i'm out to (actually they just found out, i didn't tell them) will out me to other people 'cause they're so careless and i'm afraid they won't talk to me anymore if they find out. hope your family gets more accepting with time, but it's really sad they've been mistreating you so far

[@blueb3rry_b0y36]

Disgruntled Sloth thank you xx

[@alicaradec8545]

I cried. Thank you

[@blueb3rry_b0y36]

Aaaaaaaaaaa chandler I love u so much.... Thank you for the video 💓😹💓😻😻😘😘😘

[@Syd_fangirl515]

I feel like school is my “safe space “ and for a lot of people it can be the worst place for them but for me it’s a place to go where I’m surrounded by LGBTQ+ people and friends and not worry about my family. So I’m thankful for my friends ❤️ and to the kids who don’t agree with my “choice” as they’ve said but don’t bully me about it.

[@stevierivera9316]

I would love to see a collaboration with you and Miles chronicles that would be amazing!!! 😊😊😊 btw you are an amazing person! Have a great day

[@ben-carter1715]

I'm actually pagan, so that was really cute that he mentioned that he understands not everyone celebrates christmas. I celebrate Yule which is really close, but it celebrates the sun dying and then coming to life at the end of Yule :)

[@BlueLemons_96]

I live for Chase’s laugh.

[@moonmoon-bz9qe]

off topic, but you're looking fantastic, chandler. you're like glowing or something. anyway, awesome video.

[@iwillcry]

i've been in the closet for about 4 years, i'm not ready to come out. maybe when i move out and get some distance between me and my parents i can finally have the courage to tell them. so another christmas that i'll be dissociating to the moon and back.

[@carrisaadee5636]

I am soo happy about this collab 😍❤ was waiting for it since a long time..and MERRY CHRISTMAS 🎄🎄🎄

[@sophiapiro6619]

I have pink Tweety bird pajamas.

[@drewmiller8825]

You're growing on me, I honestly really didn't like you as a youtuber but I'm starting to

[@juliabates467]

I love you guys

[@averekriz]

my grandma always asks me if i have a boyfriend, but i told her i'm a lesbian.

[@emoryramsay9377]

I needed this thank you 💕

[@beanflack]

Bro I'm 14 and I've been asked since I was 11 if I had a bf. nO nO NO.i don't even like men that much.

[@perryperry4239]

RELATING SO HARD

[@jaywiseman1621]

I'm a lesbian and I haven't come out to my whole family and I'm tired of them asking me if I have a boyfriend so what should I say to them

[@LadyAneh]

Anyone else have to deal with a grandparent who forgets everything within minutes and will never remember you're trans or your chosen name even if you tell them? I dread Christmas. My birthday is in about a week. I'm just glad I stopped having a family party years ago. And she lives with my parents, so I can rarely see my dad either even though he's cool with me. I miss him. I feel like I've moved to another state even though he's literally around the block, but someone always has to be there with her after work.

[@oliverglover6091]

My mum is my only family member that knows I'm trans, my brother who will probably also be around on Christmas doesn't. For Christmas this year my mum has said that she'll put our Christmas presents into separate stockings or sacks and my brother's one will have his name on it but mine won't have any name to make sure I'm not uncomfortable with having my birth name on it but not make it awkward with my brother not currently knowing about me being trans.

[@ssubzerofn]

I am very happy that I am comfortable keeping my name

[@kip3699]

the whole waiting to be able to come out is essentially my lifeline and has been for the past,,, two and a half years? still got four to go oof but. honestly if people don’t accept me for me and at least TRY to call me by my correct name and pronouns, no matter how much i love them i’m gonna have to let them go. and i have a long time to prepare for that ig but i’m still kinda scared. i’ve been openly anti- super feminine things basically since birth and my aunt still buys them for me every christmas,,, i’ve already given up on that

[@spacegeck]

I'm out (as bi at least) to literally everyone except my dad's side of the family. And we're actually close with my grandparents(even though my dad live states away), and going to their house christmas eve is a big tradition for us. He's very homophobic, so I know it wouldn't be safe for me to tell him. But the way he casually makes awful comments about the lgbt community is difficult.

[@ChandlerNWilson]

I know it can be very frustrating :( surround yourself with other queer people online because you're never alone

[@andiehernandez1995]

Sadly I'm almost sure that after coming out to my family I'm going to distance myself from them because they're very LGBT-phobic. I'm just going to visit them on birthdays and holidays, but in the morning and not in the actual celebration time. And about my extended family, I'm simply going to cut all ties I have with them. I don't want to deal with them emotionally speaking.

[@WillardTrees]

Ohhhh i love Chase! I totally look up to him. ;w;

[@calderrahn318]

I am (technically) a male (Age 12). Neither of the genders feel right to me. I feel exactly as you described this in the Nonbinary and Transitioning video except I never really had a favorite color. The other difference is that I feel like all genders yet none at the same time. I also am attracted to females (mostly) Any tips?

[@MZICEEZ]

happy new year

[@Kat13196]

Im only technically out as bi/pan to my mom in my family and I told her because she like straight up asked 😂 like I guess I don't feel the need to while I'm in a straight passing relationship, I'm very out and very open with my friends and with new people but my family is just a weird thing because I don't want to make an announcement because that feels weird to me, I'm just me and I don't try to hide it so hopefully when I openly talk about pretty girls it'll sort of just click that I'm bi idk lol it feels to formal to come out I guess

[@Mrbloblobob]

I’m visiting my relatives this Christmas, per my mother’s insistence. Last time I saw them, I hadn’t come out yet. Started testosterone in August.. I wonder if this will be awkward lol

[@RocketBabyDolls91]

Is it a good idea to coming out on xmas?

[@GleekOff]

I'm not out to my extended family because they are many people. If I start T I know I will come out somewhat because I won't be able to hide no more. For now I have to come out to my sister. I'm scared of my brother in law so that's a challenge.

[@aliwilliams2836]

I just subscribed so idk what gender were you assigned at birth?

[@Fruitloopfoo]

Is chandler dead, they haven’t posted in like 3 weeks ,love you

[@niamhbarry109]

but HOW do I find online humans

[@gloryfoxes4590]

I love your channel I now how it is im demisexual and also I like girls and I'm a girl and people always make fun of me but I won't let it get to me

[@TWQQSVR]

How old are you cuz you have a tattoo

[@ramennoodle6302]

I’m going to stop responding to my birth name until people get it right. Problem solved.

[@chromemustang]

STOP!!!!!!! ITS TIME TO STOP!!!!!!! WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!! YOU NEED CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES!!!!!!!!

[@chromemustang]

Wait so hes gay right