How 'Dating Games' Create Obsession and Attachment

[@Sirchingsince]

Players only love you when they're playing...

[@scorpiolove674]

So true that nice men don't approach anymore let alone even make eye contact they are frozen in fear rather than channel their natural masculine inclination to pursue . Only players and himbos have any game.

[@MBAinternetmktg]

Very true that online dating has brought out the players and scammers, who initially have a sincere sounding line to hook you in. There are websites that coach Players on what to do and say.

[@face2799]

and the narcissists

[@melissashaw9737]

To the woman who said a man warned her that she shouldn't date him: So often men warn us, and all that does is endear us to them. But I feel like you should take him at his word! I believe that he is being honest, and down the line, he will say that he warned you.

[@carolharrott3679]

Susan My God your just a power house today. Love it... Looking right in the camera and saying "wake up people... Don't be taken for a free ride" . I know myself I am Single, quiet and struggling at times. Simply 'Thankyou' ⚡

[@SusanWinter]

You honor me with these words! Thank you for allowing me into your life!

[@sarahgirl1111]

I love this content. Late to watch but wow, this has been so helpful! Heartbreak is hard, it leads to depression so hard to get out of. I have always put my heart into everything and that includes people. I get codependant and make them my whole world. It is a loop and so unhealthy, but being aware of it and videos like this are life changing to so many people's mental health. Thank you Susan for yet again an amazing video.

[@arrobax6053]

please susan ❤enable translation and subtitles! I love your content and thank you for this gift❤🙏 i speak french 🙄

[@saraxadam3659]

My god you deliver nothing but truth & you don't let up for even a second, I'm at like the 30-minute mark and you haven't stopped yet.

[@diegoruiz8351]

You spot on nailed it with this video. 100% best video on this hot and cold topic on KZbin. ❤

[@GR-rk2fi]

thank you, exactly what I need to hear while I am right in it... and the attachment goes so fast, the getting out of the circle and the loop takes so much longer. But I wouldn't know how to handle it without all this advice!!! So thank you for your loving work!

[@cynthiawarren9379]

Thank you for explaining the craziness of human nature.

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for watching! ❤

[@lionhearttt3540]

This is one of your best videos Susan.. thankyou for giving us clarity in these crazy modern dating times

[@colinmills7787]

Thank you so much Susan for very clearly explaining this confusing, hot and cold behaviour. It's so very helpful to myself and many other people who have experienced this terrible behaviour. You are fantastic!! ❤️❤️

[@Annieqt]

@Susanwinter My God Susan, everything you say in this live is pure gold! Lately, I’ve been digging into attachment styles theory (hello PDS! 😅) and « diagnosed » myself with fearful avoidant attachment. Your wisdom and kindness are helping me to stay positive after 4 years being single and searching for love. I will listen again for sure. To me, you are better than therapy! Many thanks! ❤

[@laurielaurie8280]

I was with a guy that would pick a fight with me so I wouldn't go with him somewhere and he was going to see another woman. It is true if they pick a fight with you out of nowhere be wary. Its also true that if they keep stringing you along with no commitment they aren't in love with you. They are keeping themselves open for a reason. When someone is truly in love with you you will know. There will be no doubt & no games.

[@Babesinthewood97]

Absolutely true

[@SusanWinter]

That’s terrible but I’m glad you found out before the relationship went any further. You deserve so much better!

[@laurielaurie8280]

@@SusanWinter ❤I spent way to long with the guy. He was a bad investment. Glad it ended. I have never missed or regretted him leaving. He ended up running off with the woman he was sneaking around with. Its her problem now. I know him and he is no prize.

[@Powerskaty]

Susan this was perfect timing. I finally walked away and have tried to make sense of talking to so many women and I can't. Your insight and wisdom is comforting. Are these people ever capable of marriage?

[@Nicole-zv7ee]

Micah is a lucky little dog to have you as her mom. Thank you for another great episode, Susan!

[@SusanWinter]

Aww! I’ll tell her you said that!

[@SusanWinter]

And thank you for your watching! It means a lot to me!

[@northshorelight35]

I typically have no issue smelling the bs from guys and I also don't fall easily. The flipside to that is that it just takes that one to crush you. All dating advice seems to go out the door. I wish that I was the type who can easily be attracted to others because I believe it's easier to move on and not really care.

[@Iamjodie78]

Thanks Susan I am a fan of yours. You are brilliant

[@SusanWinter]

You warm my heart with your generosity! Thank you for supporting me! ❤

[@ranasalam1]

Suzan you are the best! Thank you for your insights to showing me my weakness that I will work on!

[@lisab1854]

Hi Susan 👋 You explained every element of this so well - so clear, makes so much sense! 😮 I'll keep 29:48 in mind and revisit this video once in a while. Thank you, have a good day! 😊

[@SusanWinter]

Lisa, thank you for listening so intently! ❤❤❤

[@Powerskaty]

Saying we always have to distance.. other coaches must think we're only dealing with players because that's what they tell us to do. Agree, it's exhausting and shouldn't have to be that way if mutual interest.

[@bch5758]

I’m very worried about becoming the ‘vanilla’ guy! 😩 I have plenty going on in my life - but have a partner who is busy too .. if one doesn’t make time for the other - we’d never see each other .!

[@dmalina3]

Omg, that's why I quite dating. Going trough again and again, I don't have courage.

[@Babesinthewood97]

Your makeup looks extra lovely today

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you so much

[@sammielisabeth4928]

This was great Susan 😊 spot on

[@SusanWinter]

Glad you enjoyed the show!

[@carolynlimaco4015]

I’m a Twin Flame too, Susan. My Twin is a high profile public figure from NYC. I understand that some of your clients are celebrities and other high profile people. Are any of them Twin Flames themselves? I haven’t seven much literature about Twin Flame connections where one is an ordinary Twin and the other is of celebrity status.

[@cooladultkidontheblock1882]

This is a refreshing video!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for watching!

[@ranasalam1]

Thanks!

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you!

[@karolinap8313]

Love you Susan and this show yesterday!, maybe you have some advice for me..., like If you are in back and forth relationship (mostly because they leave unexpectably - probably player with few other women dating), does it mean they always come back, because they miss you and you are unforgettable and/or different than others, or does it mean they only boost they ego? Is there a chance it will ultimately change into a real relationship given some patience or some circumstances? If it matters, we are both 30 years old. Like, I don`t dream of marriage or kids, but just stable relationship without on and off. Or maybe is it possible to find out his intentions somehow? Some conversation/ultimatum? Of course, I am scared of conversation to go badly and loose him for good, but for the first time, I am really getting tired of this "disappear of him" game.

[@Gingergurl61]

I keep making the same mistake of attaching too quickly over and over. I’m taking a break but damn I’m 62! Not much time left. 😢

[@SusanWinter]

You have plenty of time! The fact that you realize that you attach a bit early, is a good thing. This self aware as is the first step in making the adjustments to try and pace things

[@egbelegodspower]

Hello

[@Gingergurl61]

@@SusanWinter Thank you Susan!

[@antilaw9911]

Great video!!! My problem now, when breakups with women I'm dating, then they start playing these games your talking about, I'll go no contact and then I meet a new woman and get attached, then those previous exes will at same time start contacting me. Then I have to choose one and now I'm caught in this cycle.

[@zeedo666]

cause sleeping around is for psychopaths. You're probably not a psycho so you feel guilty and confused

[@joyfitzgerald9878]

Wow 🔥🔥🔥

[@SusanWinter]

❤

[@cherylross393]

Wow been here a few times soooo confusing 😕

[@SusanWinter]

🤗 sorry to hear that! It can be very frustrating

[@missamericausa]

If ur confused 🚩🚩🚩

[@MadawaskaObservatory]

NO. That's boring, Not exciting. Romance is spontaneous

[@AlchemicInnerG]

💜

[@SusanWinter]

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