Feel so f'n used. I can't believe this person was capable of such things. Argh!!😢 😡

Thank you so much.

This video dropped at the correct time for me😢. Thank you

Oh no😅 it's actually not them it's me haha 😅 ugh .... Turns out.. I always chases the high. Idk how to not be like that tho, genuinely.. Help

thanks, lady Susan, you're very knowledgeable and you helped me a lot.

"Giving is more enjoyable than taking " has been a lie poiaoning me to be a beautiful soul but taken as stupid by opportunists.

Thank you very much. Short and concise. No viewing bait garbage.

Respect thank you for this Susan! Thank you for asking us if we admire their qualities are they a kind human that we are proud of. A human that will take out the trash or mow the lawn. A person that appreciates kindness and respects you!

Problem is: there are the unique people who suit only to you. The other people never suit. So, if you lose them, then you NEVER meet another. Never.

Thank you so much 😀❤️🥰 for your wounderfull and kind video about this topic!

Susan, if you are saying something it must be it!! That's how blindly I trust you. But I have a question? What's love if you are minding your own business and focusing on your self? Are we not supposed to be thinking of someone we love. Since when did that start becoming unattractive? I'd love it if someone was thinking about me. I don't understand. 😢

Don’t think the new partner will get what you wanted they won’t That is so meaningful to realize . Thank you Susan

Look back and see your mistakes,learn from them, make changes going forward,love yourself and listen to Here we go again by Whitesnake for inspiration!!!

Thank goodness it’s over. Wficatinh myselg about narcissistic abuse and watching/ listening to KZbin videos and podcast helped a lot to shot the door and stop the cycle from repeating 🙏🏻 I’ve no desire of him in my life. He check every symptoms. When his mask came off everything came to light.

You know, it's funny how when you ignore someone--particularly someone who seemed to dislike you or had no interest in you--they might suddenly be interested. See, I had this coworker who I figured didn't like me. I think she found me annoying. For example, she works as a bartender, and whenever I approached her or a fellow bartender, I would tell the same joke, "I'll have one large beer to help me get over my ex-girlfriend." One time, she said to me as I approached, "John, I don't want to hear it." A week or so later, I was approaching her coworker, and from the distance, she said "John" in a stern voice. So yes, I was annoyed and since then, I didn't interact with her at work, only saying "hey" when she said hi. Of course, I don't think she was really interactive with me anyway when we worked together. I think I'd annoyed her before. I left the job, secretly because of my awful ex-boss, and last night, at a bar, the ex-coworker went to get my attention. I pretended I didn't see her, and she put her hand on my arm and said hi. I just gave a slight smile and wave (brief, still hand in the air) and went forward to catch up with friends. Like I said, sometimes when you ignore a "hater" of yours, they willingly come to you.

I love a man that's a bit of the three of them, Ive felt he was everything I've dream of and the mask fell off, now he says that we're meeting again (I'm in Italy for a few months) he'll know what he really feels for me will know what to do. Everyday I convince myself this is a mindgame and I'm really ashamed I'm willing to play it every single day because I love him. I want this loop to finally stop.

Good advice. Getting help is a good step. A trained professional is best. Friends might have good intentions but they are not much help in these situations and their advice might even be harmful. Self-care is so important in these awful moments. And never go back even though it seems like you are going to die without that person and you cannot possibly go on. Time alone will allow you to start to see things for what they are. Guaranteed there were red flags that this man either ignored or did not notice. Then you start to see them. You do get stronger even though it seems like you won't.

Sometimes We've to accept that if anything is happening even in our own life,that isn't about us always. You tried, you loved them but they still left. You did your best for them and that's enough for you. They couldn't take your love, that's about them not you. The person is gone anyways so stop blaming yourself and be kind to your soul

How about "Did everything wrong, and got dumped - again". How tricky it is for autistics..

I’m going through a similar situation and I’m glad I watched this video and will watch it again. The part where you said that there are more people who never gave the relationship a shot and it’s the wound that stays forever… I found peace and solace in that statement, knowing I gave my shot at it, although the result wasn’t what I was expecting, but now I can move on and heal. Thank you, Susan! ❤

NOBODY does EVERYTHING right EVER

What helped me in a similar situation was to separate the person from the circumstances: No, I did not move country for him, I did because my love was so strong. I did not learn a new language because of him but because I chose to invest in a new life. All I did was brave, strong decisions for the love I felt. And that love will not leave me because it is mine, only next time I will give it to somebody worthy of it. My love is pure gold and the fact that he did not see that does not deminish it‘s value. Feelings change, people change but you can still be proud of what you did. Not many dare.

Very helpful to me at this moment in time. Thank you susan x

My first committed relationship was like this. I gave everything only to be dumped!!

Don't EVER GO BACK! NOBODY IS THAT 'SPECIAL!' NOBODY!

I have been in that type of relationship for 34 years. I have left twice, he makes promises and charges for awhile, then back to being non- priority. I am very tired. And actually pretty angry . I am not sure why he has kept me around? Why not just let me go?

I got scammed and sent gift cards worth of $1000😢

Thank you this video was priceless!

Most people massively settle

Why ex boyfriend I break up with him because he cheated on me he happy in relationship why me

Well said! It can be a challenge when someone has been single for years. When you get that first hug from someone, it can make you realize you’re touch starved. I forgot how great a hug is! I am definitely taking things slow. 🕊️❤️

Your young friend needs to be comfortable with her decisions and beliefs. She sounds like she is doing things properly. You should own your beliefs. Somewhere out there is a young man who would love and appreciate her with her beliefs. She may never find that person, but she really needs a better boy friend.

Hey im not a romance scammer, i am carrying for an elderly parent and im in no rush. Does that make me a scammer?

Anyone have advice on fighting the urge or guilt w.e it is that drives me to want to txt or just fight through it? Is silence better

Its crazy its been a month and asked for space ...we met online and seemed to want the same things...we never had a honey moon faze bcs she had intimacy issues and struggles with any form ...she neglected me all day no touching at all and touch is my love language so i felt i had done something wrong but since we where at her friends who i was just meeting i wanted even a comforting touch but none was given then to later find out she feels pressured bcs she has pushed alot of boundaries for her...i never asked her to do this and i thought we were working together on them ...like when we forst met she was touchy so she gave me the false pretenses that thats her love language to then be told she doesmt like touching and even has difficulty with sex...i have a high sex drive but was working with her but then to just be pushed away ...idk what to do.

This was very helpful its been a week of space we have been dating a month and she wants space bcs she feels pressured but i never pressured her ive been so patient ...she has severe intimacy issues

She’s kind of defending dumpers, which is a little bit frustrating just because they broke up with you doesn’t mean it was the right choice. That’s where she’s completely wrong………like wtf🤨🤨. I can tell this coach has never been dumped.

Remember y’all are listening to a dismissive avoidant. …..also they don’t know it’s right breaking up with you is a concept in their head until YOU GIVE THEM THE BREAKUP.

i was dumped out of the blue and i just don't understand at all. they gave me an excuse and made it seem like it was a conversation and mutual agreement, when really he made up his mind. it really hurts im trying to take it day by day. he promised he'd never leave me, im so confused. trusting God that i'll be able to move on in total healing and forget about him🙏🏾🙏🏾

Truly appreciate your nuggets of wisdom Susan. Feels less lonely knowing there are others who also believe in staying true to their humanity and integrity even when they've been hit. Thank you for sharing your philosophical approach to life and relationships ❤

Thank you Susan, this is exactly I needed to hear, you described me and my situation. And now I think I can get out of the "obsession jail" So much love ❤❤❤❤

To live your true absolute self despite how hard you get hit in life, the strength to keep going forward is what counts. Hey Susan, always a pleasure to see you ❤️ miss your live shows and love your supportive message 👌

I'd rather vent to my therapist than reaching out to them because that's just giving them more power. In my case, this "friend" kept posting her outings on social media. So I know for a fact she hasn't been kidnapped or in an accident. I deleted her number. It hurt so much. We weren't super close but we hung out occasionally and I considered her a friend.

Another possibility is that she was treated poorly but feels bad because she has normalized bad behaviors. There is a thing called battered housewife syndrome

My Avoidant ex contacted me after several months of no contact, and our connection went Amazing. And then she started pulling away, and I would see she would respond my texts after several hours. Then when I was about to text her again, she posted so all and I can see a flirtatious post about this new guy she has been talking to. So I asked her is this going on, she replied kinda. So I said I am happy for you, took her off my social media and blocked her.

Love this ❤ is the full interview available online?

IM German I don't trust no one

95% ARE FAKE

She is giving other men the secret green light with her eye's in front of you

So true, everyone gets betrayed, but it shouldn’t change who we are.