destroying your life for views

[@MollyWaff]

Reminds me of something funny I heard recently: “Dance like nobody’s watching. Text, email, and post like it’ll be shown in court one day.” 😭

[@celani5667]

Words to live by!

[@criticaloptimist]

As someone that is familiar with ediscovery, I can confirm this is sage advice. Especially when you are on a device you do not own.

[@aki-est]

I work at a law firm and there is nothing I love more than getting hundreds of pages of text messages in discovery 😭 so entertaining

[@gem9535]

And always save texts and emails! Also, if you need to confront someone, try and have it be over text. If things go south and they try to slander you, you have written evidence to prove otherwise.

[@TheOpy83]

That is very sound advice!❤😂

[@ceciliakeller957]

reminds me of that street interview tiktok where a guy asks this girl smth along the lines of 'whats the hardest drug you've done?' and she immediately goes 'oop nope' and walks away - more of that!

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly, smart woman

[@gekirobo8720]

I personally would've responded with "Life."

[@summeryoung1026]

"Crack. - oh what kind? Your dad's" Lmao. Hilariously enough the hardest "drug" I've ever done was vodka. Like, a thimble worth of it 😂 sigh

[@aelwynwitch9460]

​@@gekirobo8720oof. That hits hard.

[@honeybee347]

I call this category of internet drama 'this could have been a journal entry/therapist session' or clout is a heck of a drug.

[@krk6216]

It low key makes me want to start journaling. I may open a google doc and look for a daily journal prompt list for next month.

[@slitheen3]

Right? As a teen I got the urge to vent all my issues on my tumblr blog, since that's where I felt most comfortable. So.... I made a private blog that was basically an online journal, completely seperate from any of my other accounts that nobody who knew me knew about

[@businesszeus6864]

@@slitheen3i did this on wattpad lmao

[@Astar24653]

the most online these stuff should go is a private group chat with close friends. its wild to post this stuff to public.

[@NothingXemnas]

​@@Astar24653 People were not taught how to use the internet. I am VERY fortunate that my parents, despite being mostly illiterate in terms of internet and computer usage, implanted sketicism and critical thinking, so we knew we should navigate the web like walking on eggshells, but most people never had it. In fact, I feel like myself being one of the few people who would be sad if Twitter was killed is proof that I curated my feeds to perfection. I think nobody knows how to navigate on the web. Mind you, I got my PC at 10yo. Y'all are crazy to think posting shit publicly as teens was normal; it wasn't. Absurdly ommon, yes, but not normal at all. We cannot normalize ever that shit.

[@Mikey-jk4we]

The makeup artist one is even worse when you find out that when she walked in on the couple alone in the bridal suite she interrupted a Jewish wedding tradition called yichud. “Following the ceremony, tradition dictates that couples spend at least eight minutes in yichud (or seclusion). This wedding custom allows the newly married couple to reflect privately on their new relationship and allows them precious time alone to bond and rejoice.” Her makeup bag or brushes or whatever should’ve been out of that room HOURS earlier, she has a -100 level of professionalism.

[@ASAPlotnik]

OH MY GOD 😵😵😵😵😵

[@jointlikethis]

I was thinking yichud! Oy vey!

[@sarahmcfriendcanoe9374]

flight attendants are held to a super high standard, they aren’t even allowed to sit at a bar while in their uniform. they have to have everything they need on them when they show up for work, her forgetting her passport for the interview would immediately show the airline that she isn’t responsible enough to continue that interview. i’m not saying that she’s not responsible because i think things happen, but the airline would see it that way.

[@Iquey]

I think the airline really wants to only hire people with a super high level of attention to detail and respect for international laws. If they got audited by an immigration agency in whatever country they land in due to increasing tension and negative sentiments towards undocumented immigration, it will look very bad to that airline if their workers don't have their documents.

[@CaulkMongler]

Airlines can’t afford to just be out a worker suddenly bc they “forgot their passport at home” and they can’t afford to stall a flight for something trivial like that - ever. So they def have a high standard to keep.

[@RabbitTeacup]

ppl forget that airline attendants are so well trained for disasters that hospitals and nurses have copied protocols FROM the airline industry.

[@obscuraxxxx]

I can't imagine applying to an AIRLINE and not having your passport... girl what.

[@Cashhhhew]

FA interviews are so intense! They’ll literally have a group of 200 people at a time and slowly dwindle them down. My uncle recently went through it and got hired but he turned it down because of how grueling the process was 😂 he was like you know…. Maybe this isn’t for me even though they loved him!

[@pig3292]

This is why getting scammed out of all my Neopoints back in the day was an important life lesson. No such thing as magical free money

[@fungi5350]

I lost millions in gold and rune armor back in RuneScape. It definitely does teach you a lesson lol.

[@markbasilan2232]

@@fungi5350When I fell for the old iron scim swap I realized that I had much to learn.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

Another neopets player, hey!!! *waves*

[@turntheswitchoff8259]

I lost three very rare items in Animal Jam because I was trading them to people and cancelling before they could be accepted. There is nothing free in life, and bad things happen to you if you're a dick.

[@KionnaSharice]

Someone stole my account and it still hurts agh

[@Curupira106]

Social Media has made people WAY TOO COMFORTABLE sharing all their business, like it's going to make them look better?!

[@padfoot2116]

People literally act like social media is their best friends. If you were complaining to your bestie about any of this stuff, you’d probably get some amount of ‘well that is terrible for you’ hopefully before they politely remind you that you’re in the wrong.

[@seaweed_tea]

I think it comes from this place of trying to seem authentic since that’s a big deal on the internet (or was)

[@Curupira106]

@@seaweed_tea lol, I cannot imagine the thought process. Like, "I know I was involved with a married man and tried to rub the wife's face in it but I have feelings too!" basically, lol The freaking mistress one REALLY gets me!

[@Starburst514]

Everyone trying to make their lives into movies/like a TV show where they're the complex and flawed main character 😭 irl flaws are normal but there's flaws and being diabolical...

[@queenoffabulous2156]

What gets me is those people also expect everyone else to be as open online and get angry or offended when other people won't cater to then and divulge their personal information

[@ElementalWhispers]

Content for hair & make-up vendors tend to just be before & after photos or just the progress of their work. NOT making the wedding party perform TikTok trends on one of the most important (and expensive!) days of their lives!

[@vivid_katie]

And the point of making any content at all is to promote your business! Being weird about it to get that content defeats the purpose

[@aylayzrianne]

i think most people would even allow a cute little montage of the bride with her dress and bridesmaids with their makeup and hair all done, but that's it. asking your customer to dance multiple times for more than a few tiktoks is insane.

[@verdantvixen96]

I was pretty chill on my wedding day but if someone had asked me to do nonsense like that I would’ve lost my mind lmao. This is my life, I’m not here just to be content for you

[@djmensil7303]

Even with people that do cakes or dresses it's up to the person that hired them to SEND pictures of how it was received or how the day went (as someone who likes watching that content i get wanting to see reactions but that is for someone else to witness first and for the rest of the world to see IF they are willing to share with the rest of us!)

[@69SalterStreet]

I would go full bridezilla if someone asked me to do that.

[@ElizaGlide]

The very idea that a bride has to comfort the MUA she hired ON HER WEDDING DAY is a sign of that woman's patience. She has to incorporate this uninvited, underdressed, hyper-online woman into her carefully planned unplugged special day. Then, she has to manage the reactions of her family, friends, and other vendors, AND try to avoid triggering a nervous breakdown in someone who really shouldn't have been there to begin with.

[@mallowtonmouse]

Yeah, this situation is fucked

[@starcherry6814]

I hope they still had a good time tho

[@killer_queen4062]

more like her being a total pushover

[@dqverify6797]

@@killer_queen4062 She's not a pushover; she's a bride. On her wedding day. Trying to focus on that, and having a wonderful, memorable day, and ignore the little things (like brides are always pushed or encouraged to do, especially now that "Bridezilla" is a thing). This woman sobbed all through doing the make-up for one of her bridesmaids! The last thing Bride wanted to do was confront her or be harsh to her and possibly trigger a total public meltdown in the middle of the reception or other events--and she was probably also trying to avoid exactly this sort of drama, bring dragged online as a bad person. Not to mention, she probably also had at least a few little family- or friend-drama issues going on that day already; little fires she had to put out. She hired this MUA. Obviously she liked her. She didn't want to hurt her. Could she have been more forceful and direct? Yes. But I don't blame her for not wanting to. By the time my wedding day came, I was so emotional that I literally had to tell people that I wasn't sure if I was being normal or not, and to please tell me if I seemed weird. It's a lot of pressure throwing a big fancy party, and on top of that it's not only exciting to be getting married, it's scary--it's a big step. My bridesmaids totally let me down at my wedding, and tried to make it all about them. I totally ignored it on the day, because I didn't want to upset anyone, especially myself, on the biggest day of my life. I don't think that's abnormal. And let's not forget, we have only the MUA's word for how those convos with the bride went. MUA says, "The bride begged me to stay, and said she loved my energy," whereas the bride probably saw it as, "I was trying to push her out the door as gently as possible to avoid her causing a scene and turning my wedding into a big drama, trying to turn people against me or my husband and making me look like a rude, mean-girl Bridezilla."

[@Hi-en7xx]

@@killer_queen4062just say you don’t have empathy and move on

[@anikumin4201]

Wonder if sites should add a “delay” feature. Like, the video just sits there for 24-hours and gives you a chance to cool down and go “wow I shouldnt post that”

[@awefawn7793]

well, there are drafts

[@potatopotatoesbro]

​@@awefawn7793People are too impulsive to be trusted to keep their videos there and reflect first before posting

[@rVnsunshine]

@@awefawn7793I think they meant a mandatory rest period

[@namenamenamename7224]

Gmail literally added this feature - when you click "send" on an email, it doesn't send the email for 30 seconds and gives you the opportunity to cancel the send because so many people regret sending an email after only 30 seconds.

[@Tessa_Gr]

@@namenamenamename7224 Isn't that all emails? It's standard to be able to delete a sent e-mail shortly after sending it. And that would only be possible if it isn't actually already sent out.

[@kaw8473]

"Bring back secrets" one of the most profound things I've heard in a while. I stopped posting pictures of my toddler because I've decided that if I give him anything, it will be the chance of a private life in his future. My in-law actually apologized on her Facebook about taking too long to post pictures of my son's first birthday party and I realize now how ridiculous and sad that's what our culture has devolved into.

[@alyssabrown-carleton6173]

The part that really got me about the makeup artist was she tried to subtly say that the couple was racist. The bride was black

[@kkuudandere]

you'd be surprised how often that happens (I mean, I only had it happen twice, but two is still a lot)

[@honeybee347]

@@alyssabrown-carleton6173 this, it felt like she was trying to say the bride was 'uppity' without saying it outloud. Or subtly side eyeing that this was a mixed race couple.

[@kiwihyunz7452]

Not only did she try to play the victim but tried to accuse that lady of racism when she’s been nothing but nice to her

[@x_dana_x]

@@kiwihyunz7452that’s what got me. from the bridesmaids account, hubby was saying what she didn’t have the heart to say. she didn’t have to be nice, but she CHOSE to be. then this woman goes online and insinuates racism??? i’m non-confrontational too but oh my word after all those shenanigans i would’ve LOST MY MIND :,)

[@10feralratsinacoat76]

I think part of it was that the husband was Jewish and the first look she intruded on was a Jewish tradition and that's why he was so mad. So if anyone misstepped for any sort of reason, it was defo her. But even then, it wasn't anti semetic. It was just rude.

[@diegosanchez4909]

Idk “don’t tiktok your felonies” goes hard

[@lainiwakura1776]

No, let them do it, it's hilarious when they broadcast their crimes and they get caught.

[@icedceilin]

The pirating community has to be one of the biggest offenders, like- stop proudly confessing crimes online, dude....

[@cinny1313]

​@@icedceilin i hate it so much when people are just publicly sharing pirate websites online. So many of them have been taken down cause of idiots on tiktok. It's like giving a public shoutout to your dealer, it cannot possibly end well

[@CatFish107]

There's a lawyer on here named Bruce Rivers who has a good moto for this "Stop Self Snitching"

[@marocat4749]

Didnt youtuber do that too, johny somali? Seriously , dont film yourself doing ot talking about crimes about more than the vaguest hints

[@Octobris]

I'm destroying my life without any views. Guys, it still works.

[@obrechenx]

Unique...

[@tundestreats9891]

godspeed man

[@juanitaschlink2028]

Old skool. Respect.

[@jasminejacob1870]

"It still works" lol

[@sierraa.bryant9322]

This

[@BulbaZimm]

The fact that the ‘mistress’ recorded the interaction at all makes me assume she always had plans of sharing it regardless of what the wife did.

[@brookstar0]

Yeah and her face the whole time was this “I won” kind of smugness about it. Love to see her face when he has another affair and knocks that one up too.

[@Throatzillaaa]

She's like "we need to have a private conversation" ... uhm, so that you can secretly record the audio and them post it on tiktok? This isn't even legal in many states (idk where this happened)

[@imsmolandangery4274]

If I was giving someone bad news on that magnitude I might record it for the hypothetical court case and delete when it doesn't lead to a violent altercation

[@reaganfields]

i actually just went to a united airlines interview last month and can i just say, the process is MONTHS LONG and every step of the way they tell you to BRING YOUR PASSPORT. i’m the most forgetful person i know and i’ve never forgotten my passport for a flight attendant interview. EVERY AIRLINE REQUIRES IT AND THEY TELL YOU A MILLION TIMES

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly

[@leslienope]

I work at a different bank, not Chase, and I got in to work one day and my coworker said "Lord help us, the children have discovered check kiting." 😆

[@SemiIocon]

That chase "glitch" thing was hilarious, especially when people would be shocked that they are now in the red afterwards. Like, what did they think would happen, lol.

[@janzy58]

I cannot fathom the stupidity. When there's a bank error, guess what? They fix it.

[@Chelseabellsiee]

thats the thing, people that fall for stuff like that don’t look far enough ahead, they just don’t think about consequences

[@kiwihyunz7452]

They were literally committing check fraud for clout lol

[@lainiwakura1776]

That's the problem, they don't think.

[@gaerekxenos]

And this... is one of several reasons why some people consider games to be evil. This is gamer mentality of exploiting things until they get patched. Which... doesn't work IRL. As much as I enjoy games, this is the unfortunate consequence that pops up sometimes when people are not able to differentiate between entertainment and reality. IRL tends to work to correct things so they are as close to how they should have been originally. Games tend to just bandaid fix things and let things slide a lot more if it is the developer's mistake, because the issues that pop up are mostly going to be contained within their fictional bubble rather than spread elsewhere into reality [-- and even then, when it comes to larger MMOs and related where there are market interactions, the people running them are typically going to crack down]* And yeah, I know exploiting things isn't something that existed only because of gaming. It's been how things have been since forever, especially with capitalism. It's just a bit more prominent now due to shifts in culture

[@catis4]

Maybe it's because I'm almost 30, but I still remember when people would say "don't post info about yourself on the internet" "use a fake name", etc. and now people post every single detail about their lives, including their door number.

[@denomen3391]

Yeah that reminds me of this one lady on TikTok whose husband brought two strangers back to their home because he’s an alcoholic, and they’re in denial, then posted a video saying she got security cameras for safety but included the location and view of them

[@TheDoomBlueShell]

Yeah, and in some places is starting with people saying I'm untrustworthy for not using my face and real name...

[@ettaz]

That reminds of a youtuber I followed that posted all happy about her moving to New York and showing her balcony, her windows, her view, her everything... Then when viewers warned about creeps finding out where she lives she just said "you guys are gonna do that no matter how much I try to hide it". Guess who no longer lives in New York

[@LittleMissLounge]

It doesn't help that many social media sites these days incentivize you to use your real identity, etc. Gotta love the surprised Pikachu expressions when people get fired for being flagrantly racist on Facebook or whatever.

[@Impurplie]

Yooo come doxxx me i live in michigan im 16 black 190 lb 5’7

[@chibiktsn3]

That cheating woman is just evil. Evil and stupid. Like... dear God. Just... how dare you record that? How dare you put that out there? Why are you so fucking cruel to this woman whose life you've blown up?!

[@Runzi333]

In other countries you can sue people for that level of intentionally causing you harm and honestly for more extreme cases like this we should allow that in the US imo Girls entire point of existence is to be a pick me, cheater, abusive creep for attention and tbh that sort of completely out of pocket behavior should be illegal. Getting pretty close to the "you can't yell fire in a crowded place" sort of laws just on the mental an emotional trauma side.

[@Ísisイシス]

i understand recording just in case it goes bad, i mean she was dropping a bomb on that poor woman. You never know how othere people will react on their worse. But I dont understand keeping the audio after the fact, if everything went ok why the f would you keep that? She obviously wanted to humiliate her

[@gaerekxenos]

It's worse, because in some cases... there's also a consent required for these types of recordings. In which... well... obviously the person being randomly confronted for some stupid reason isn't going to be giving that consent. And releasing that recording online...? Dude. Legal issues all around right there. Getting sued is the least of their worries

[@chibiktsn3]

@Ísisイシス Imo, if she wanted to record it for safety reasons, just get the woman's number and call her to tell her, don't ambush her. That is why she can say she did it "for safety reasons", but I don't buy it. She wanted to make content out of this woman's suffering, and I hope every potential employer sees her decision making skills before they decide if they'll hire her.

[@chibiktsn3]

@@gaerekxenos Ngl, I care less about the legality (though I hope the poor wife can sue the ever living fuck out of that woman) and more that she had the gall to record it, let alone post it. I would not be surprised if she listened to that on repeat before posting it.

[@SharkieTheDork]

I grew up on the internet, having it drilled into me that everything on the internet lasts forever and it can follow you forever. While "lasting forever" isn't really that true these days, I think we all need to realize that it CAN be seen by anyone, and it still CAN AND WILL FOLLOW YOU. Knowing people my age and older are posting entirley too personal and even incriminating stuff just out the open boggles my mind!! Where were you people during computer lab!! What the hell are you doing!! Some things should be inside thoughts!!!!

[@thespaceace124]

I have such a hard time posting ANYTHING because of this, especially now that I'm an adult. Most of my socials are stuff I shared in HS simply because I don't want to post anything that could be dug up later

[@lVlegabyte]

When one of my friends got denied a job, the hiring manager told them something along the lines of “your MySpace url was inappropriate and maybe fixing that for the future would be better” That’s when it clicked that ANYONE can see what you post, not just your friends and randos

[@stephaniethesoprano]

I sincerely think that internet safety has taken a backseat in education. I'm a millennial who grew up in a time where computers were still not as mainstream (or advanced lol) as they are today. Same with social media. Because they were still somewhat new to a lot of people, there were still so many unknowns about what was really out there so safety was more on people's minds I think. Now since the internet and computers are so commonplace I think that there's an assumption that kids these days will learn how to use them [safely] through exposure whereas that wasn't really the case when I was a kid. I've been hearing stories about even segments of Gen Z/Alpha not learning how to type efficiently (not saying everyone, but depending on where you live, how old you are, etc.) so they're just hunting and pecking with their index fingers when I was literally sat in front of a tank of a computer in elementary school and taught touch typing. Media literacy, internet safety & etiquette, and general computer knowledge is more important now than it ever has been and people just!!! aren't!!! being!!!! taught!!!!!!!

[@Hi-en7xx]

@@stephaniethesopranodo you know that or are you assuming? Genuinely curious since In my school they just played the same video from 9 years ago about internet danger while you ate your lunch, and I’ve heard similar things from people I know as an adult. I honestly just don’t think it’d be too hard to keep doing that once a year

[@littleguy8714]

@@stephaniethesopranothis is such a common phenomenon though with new tech! There’s this problem with thinking bc younger people picked up those skills quickly, that means ALL young people know but you know what?? Every skill we have has to be taught that’s the nature of human civilization!!!! You don’t see kids talking and go wow kids are so good at talking these days, I don’t need to teach my baby to speak! We are severely lacking in internet safety for kids today. It’s honestly horrifying.

[@oO_Cass_Oo]

ok. so i didnt realize others needed my autistic life hacks. but here we are. if you feel really great about posting something, save it! look at it in the morning. if its great now it will either still be funny in the morning or you saved yourself pain. not everyone is cut out for live commentary and providing breaking news. waiting can be better not posting some dumb crap on the internet is like realizing your skirt is in your underwear before leaving the empty bathroom. you could have been caught with your whole ass out and all you did was exist, but you didn't. because you take a second to rethink you get to chose the correct option rather than going with whatever option

[@anma9217]

I genuinely love this comment lol YES to everything you said!

[@cjboyo]

I do the same thing. I have found writing tumblr posts and saving them as drafts gives me the same comfort as posting

[@dancoroian1]

This. I overthink af and it's far from ideal, but like I always say -- it sure beats the alternative!

[@akinyiomer4589]

Thank you for your service good sis / good sir / good enby 🤝🏾

[@LittleMissLounge]

@@cjboyo Yeah, and sometimes I do the same things with comments, even. It just feels good to tell someone to STFU without posting. It's like flipping someone off when their back is turned.

[@Astropheminist]

As a former assistant to a wedding florist, you were not to be seen while actual wedding things are going on. You’re either working backstage or in a break room or in your car until you’re needed again. These people hired you, they don’t know you like that for you to be walking around talking to all their loved ones.

[@downhomesunset]

Wedding makeup chick was getting in the way of the real video shooting person! They had to kick her out! And how she was dressed like a slob!

[@spiv]

this reminds me of how military personnel would keep posting classified documents to the forums of the game War Thunder to prove the accuracy of in game vehicles. its happened 5 times (:

[@Lucinoxe_Halliday]

*13 times 🫠

[@MythOfSissyphus]

my buddy almost didn’t get hired on a contract bc he had ~20 minutes on war thunder lmao. War thunder players are a confidentiality risk

[@coolgirl312]

I saw someone comment once that the make up artist seems like the type of kid who HAD to blow out the candles and open presents at someone elses' birthday party and I think that's exactly the type of vibe she has.

[@candycigarette7202]

Ha! That's it exactly!

[@aquatiger8]

was it me cuz I remember commenting that somewhere 😭

[@aliceh4075]

"I'm not here to hurt you", proceeds to tell her she is pregnant with her husband's child....

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

She's got crazy in her eyes....so she's probably used to having to say that to most people she walks up on, since she looks a little "stabby".

[@lordtette]

she must enjoy crazy kdramas/and or lifetime movies

[@alexcoop8068]

As a stylist this story makes my SKIN CRAWL. I love event hair. But it's so exhausting I don't even understand wanting to stick around. And in a hoodie??!!! You KNOW you're going to be photographed!!! The only weddings I show up looking like a scrub are my friends weddings who have said they don't care and also aren't paying me. I get offered food or drinks everytime-no. I'm tired and I don't know y'all. Just go home bro

[@chibiktsn3]

"J.P. Morgan CHASE. They're gonna CHASE you." That was gold!

[@kirayoung5006]

People need to relearn internet etiquette. It's one thing to vent about family drama (I've done it, but I have a private account), but it's another thing to use it to advertise your business or make it a multi part series. Problem at work? Take it to HR, not TikTok. Having trouble getting hired somewhere? Don't call out the company on your public platform. It's not hard.

[@viheart]

Not just etiquette but safety too people share way too many things that could put them at risk

[@chibiktsn3]

Also, don't do it with your whole face and voice. I understand venting, Hell, I even used to do it on FB, but there are limits and better/worse ways of going about it. Also, if your actual face and real name are attached to it, think about if your teacher, boss, or mom saw it, because it is very easy for them to find it. Screen names are certainly not perfect (oh hai, Mark Robinson), but at least people have to dig more to find that and link it to you.

[@thisisavivistanaccount7866]

i think they stopped. Just like they stopped providing typing classes/lessons in school, they assumed because it’s more available, younger generations would just automatically know how to use the technology. It’s dumb bc no one is born just knowing how to use something just because it’s in their environment.

[@kingworm7168]

Or learn to make anonymous accounts and use vague language.

[@refillpan]

@@viheartalso inadvertently starting witch-hunts against someone when the situation could’ve been handled in private or offline

[@Cbbartelt]

I can tell you don’t get fed video content from parents of disabled kids. The amount of times I comment saying “you’re telling the internet your kid is a burden you don’t want, this is abusive” is ridiculous. Teachers are horrible too. I just get fed a video of a man who was complaining he got in trouble for “roasting” a student-you bullied a child sir, you should have had a lot bigger consequences. If you are an adult coming on the internet to complain about a human you take care of you should not be taking care of other humans. Go to therapy, not tiktok.

[@hellomello258]

Yeah. I'm a future teacher and I can't watch some teacher content. I stick to MrsChang (and bonus points that she's local to me)

[@PupScout424]

I hate that every day I have to click “not interested” on TikTok’s of parents posting their kids online when they are clearly way too young to understand the consequences or consent. It’s disgusting

[@d.d.d.a.a.a.n.n.n]

Oh I really dislike a lot of teacher posts because its so often a self-righteous exposure of how they mistreated a student but the teacher wants applause for it. I don't think that's the majority of teachers, just what I see posted by teachers, and as a kid who was mistreated by teachers, it really hits close to home

[@bigchungus3895]

Its crazy seeing how many teachers will talk about their students online, my mom whos a teacher specifically chooses to not engage with that type of stuff she sees from her own coworkers because she understands that this shouldn't be brought online.

[@padfoot2116]

I now want swell to make a video about this content…

[@GNETT]

I did not expect this. She just rolled up to their house. Also she kept trying to invite herself in to the house. She was not going to let her in. Great video.

[@t_ylr]

Did she at least say she was sorry? Cause i was waiting for that part lmao

[@fungi5350]

And asked her to get in her car before she knew anything…wuht

[@GNETT]

@@fungi5350 facts

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

​@@fungi5350 yeah, that was super sketchy.

[@kcsb91]

And the "oh I'm not here to hurt you" huh okay strange lady trying to get me in her car

[@thisisavivistanaccount7866]

i wonder if these people have friends? bc these ranting videos where people show their ass could be solved with spamming a group chat with voice notes or texts, a video call/facetime, a phone-call, an in person hangout…idk literally anything but the internet. Especially since none of these accounts are private. common sense is not all that common these days.

[@SirThinks2Much]

based on some people I'm no longer friends with, it's possible they don't. I have a hard time imagining they'd listen to anyone else's rant time in the group chat.

[@lkrprice39]

I think the trouble is they’re just addicted to social media. Which… social media is *designed* to be addictive, so it’s not the most surprising thing in the world. But for some, no amount of venting to their real life friends is going to scratch the same dopamine itch as watching the numbers go up on TikTok or Twitter.

[@stephaniethesoprano]

@@lkrprice39 it's the addiction to attention, and therefore social media. if social media didn't have the capabilities of facilitating massive amounts of attention through likes and comments then people wouldn't be so attached to it I think

[@Hi-en7xx]

As someone with one friend I talk to regularly and can’t even see in person, you still have to be not the smartest to post this stuff

[@brenon1441]

"tmi" faded from the public lexicon and we didnt even notice it leaving..

[@dani-888]

!!

[@thisguyducky]

Normally I feel bad for people fucking there lives up. But the chase glitch, I have little sympathy (unless they are the collateral damage of someone elses decision). At a certain point it's entirely your fault for listening to clearly bad advice on TikTok. Do not trust everything you see on the internet. I am sorry you fucked up your live but come the fuck on, be smarter.

[@DarknessDust]

yup this

[@gothicMCRgirl]

What kills me is that it’s easier than EVER to just look stuff up. Just a cursory search would tell you that this “glitch” was actually just cheque fraud, which is nothing new. But people REFUSE to inform themselves on… anything. People are so internet inept these days, it’s genuinely concerning.

[@n48_art]

Eh I feel that this is a bit harsh. Many people (including me tbh) don’t really understand how cheques work, and if someone is financially desperate enough to fuck with their bank for a few thousand dollars it’s very likely that they don’t have basic financial education. Also some people are just naturally gullible and trusting. I honestly just feel bad for most of these people.

[@vadalia3860]

@@n48_art One simple question for those who claim ignorance- where's the money coming from? You put a check in the bank you know is fake. You take out real money. Where is that money coming from? You don't need to know how checks work, you just need to know there's no such thing as free money.

[@nataliyanabakova7419]

Also, do people actually think the BANK is going to let them get away with things like that? That the bank is gonna be like "haha you out smarted us, you get to keep the money"? Or that this is the first time anything like this has ever happened and there's no regulation in place????

[@dimetime35c]

The problem is the addiction to the views and likes. They dont understand that the internet is FOREVER.

[@iamjackspyramidshapedhelmet]

It’s situations like The Key Look’s that actually make me grateful that I have anxiety and therefore always assume that everyone hates me and wants me to go away

[@warsscarsplanetmars]

You better send Bombas a “you’re welcome” email because “As a woman on the internet I know the value and importance of keeping my feet covered” made me laugh for a solid five minutes and I instantly purchased socks

[@ElizaGlide]

I do not understand how people saw that Chase Bank "glitch" working out. Best case scenario, you've stolen money from a massive financial institution with a dedicated legal department. Worst case scenario, you go to jail for 30 years and owe more money than you ever could have "made".

[@notrod5341]

This is my fave genre of swell entertainement videos, where it feels like your big sister caught you doing something bad and pulls you aside to call you dumb.

[@EALoArt]

Tangential, but teachers in NC (maybe elsewhere, unsure) are told not to post any photos of them holding anything that RESEMBLES an alcoholic beverage. Teachers have been "let go" for that before. In a state where they can't hire enough teachers. For having private photos of them in their free time.

[@JuniperJadePR]

I'm in PR & the policy is sort of the same here but not enforced as often in the public school system but definitely enforced if you work in a charter school or private school.

[@chelscara]

My dad has taught in Florida. He had a coworker get fired because he was TAGGED in a picture where a guy was holding a blow up doll. TAGGED!!!!!

[@valolafson6035]

Yup, in a lot of places. Not just teachers, same with assistants too. You cannot post things that could make parents upset.

[@blakelay]

I definitely feel like the Key look MUA was running away from her feelings from the break up by working herself into work and making up tasks for herself instead of going home and being alone with her emotions...

[@extremelyhappysimmer]

Pro tip for if you need to keep your mind busy: clean. The simple repetitive motion of scrubbing or vacuuming is something you can do even if you can't think clearly. It's too late for her now lol but if anyone needs it here ya go.

[@CrustyUgg]

Let's not make excuses for her 🙄

[@blakelay]

@@CrustyUgg oh! Yeah, no, for sure! I forgot to say it but it's definitely not an excuse! She never should have inserted herself like that in other people's weddings! It's a possible explanation of why she did it. She is definitely not the excused imo

[@cjboyo]

Oh for SURE. She needed a therapist not a tiktok account

[@SaltyPoetTricks]

@@extremelyhappysimmer definitely true for me. I’m not doing great on a personal level but trust me my apartment is sparkling!

[@ClevverUsername]

I work in Anti-Money Laundering at a dif bank and in banking for 7 years now. I asked my friends that have no business education or financial training about the "glitch" and they knew right away that it was fraud. And these are adults that never had a financial literacy course either so they can't blame that. It's common sense I fear so many people lack now. Intent doesn't matter in fraud cases unless you were a scam victim. Even then the bank will most likely close your relationship because of risk. Common sense plays a HUGE factor in their prosecution. "Would a reasonable person assume this is a legal or good thing to do?"will most likely be a question posed during trial. Also, even if you have a bank acct not at Chase, other banks can and will use a check fraud charge against you to close an account due to risk. They get negative news alerts on all customer name matches.

[@Thetinyfit]

I think more than lacking common sense, people are naively thinking that playing dumb is going to excuse some stupid stuff they do. Oh no I’m a victim, no consequences for me- I saw it on TikTok 😂😂😂

[@Throatzillaaa]

I don't get on tiktok often and I hadn't heard of "the chase bank glitch" but if I had, I definitely would have known that it is fraud. It sort of reminds me of those "nigerian prince/princess" email scams that were kinda common back when the internet and gmail was becoming a common part of everyone's life. I had a friend whose dad fell for that scam, probably close to 15+ years ago. You are probably familiar, but he was sent a check and told to deposit it and send them back like 85% of the total (it was for around $5,000), and he did that when the funds became available (although the check hadn't cleared yet and would never clear). Based on what I know about him, I think he was easy to prey on partially because of his age and also because he was a single older man who was lonely, and he thought he was helping was a woman who emailed back and forth with him for a couple weeks before needing the favor. Anyway, he did bank with chase at the time and even though he actually was a scam victim, and his account went into the red after taking the money he had in it for rent that month, he still had to pay chase back every dollar. And then afterward he had nearly an impossible time finding another bank that would allow him to open an account (idk for how long that went on but more than a couple years based on when I was told this story). I was so shocked to hear that people were essentially just running that scam on themselves! That is so hard to wrap my mind around.

[@valolafson6035]

But is it even a financial knowledge issue? Do they need to be told not to pretend they have more money than they do?

[@ClevverUsername]

@@valolafson6035 that's the excuse a lot of people have been using that there are no financial literacy courses in schools or I even legit saw one say "I'm just a girl" so that's why I referenced that my friends have had none and recognized the common sense a lot of the fraudsters lacked in this case

[@Mewtho9]

Depending what state the Mistress not getting consent from everyone before recording could also be a crime.

[@mickymcbryan4814]

Depending what state she can also be sued for alienation of affection, which is an offense wronged spouses can sue knowing affair partners with

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

​@@mickymcbryan4814 and the fact that she admitted to knowing him for many years proves that she can't claim she didn't know about the wife....so if they are in a state that supports suing over that, the wife could easily win.

[@ANNA-fr333]

​@@mickymcbryan4814There's only two states that have that anymore sadly, if I'm not much mistaken... Only Alabama and Hawaii of all places.

[@healingwithkayla]

I'm a hair and makeup artist, I do weddings and quince's, I've been asked to stay, asked to party, I always say thank you but I have other appointments. Even if I don't. Because it's unprofessional to fraternize with clients. I want to be looked at as professional. I also been doing this for 18 years and I rarely post things let alone ask to make a ton of tiktoks.... This is so so weird.

[@gothicMCRgirl]

The posting on social media about your work is becoming more and more standard, since that seems to be the best way to advertise your services nowadays. But usually, the people who do post about their clients have permission to do so, as it’s courtesy. Some people do it without informing the clients, and that’s when it starts being not okay. Nobody should have their picture taken without permission.

[@ZeroN1neZero]

As a child of divorce who heard the phone calls of women calling my mom to say ahhh i got your husband, this shit is unacceptable. You already couldn’t get your own man so you took someone else’s then you RECORD YOURSELF PULLING UP TO HER HOUSE??????? HUH????? This is insane!

[@zephronias]

I don't know how that wedding hair stylist could inflict herself on people like that. I would have died of cringe.

[@gothicMCRgirl]

Right? That’s like rule #1 of weddings: unless you are the bride/groom, do NOT make it about yourself! It’s not YOUR day. You don’t even have to be a photographer or whatever, this goes for everyone attending the wedding. It’s not your day. Leave the drama at the door and wait until AFTER the wedding to talk to the couple.

[@HappilyTearful]

I'm guessing she's some flavor of neurodivergent that causes her to miss social cues. From how she told the story, it really sounds like she just didn't understand anything that wasn't clearly verbalized and thought she was welcome.

[@SirThinks2Much]

@@HappilyTearful she went *back* after being told point-blank by the groom to leave. Hyped herself up in her car and willingly went back because "her bride" needed her. I don't think any neurodivergence can completely account for that mindset.

[@re0294]

“Inflict herself” is so funny

[@missmatti]

Yes, bring back journaling! 👏🏼I have been thinking that for ages and also that we need to bring back ranting to friends in private not to the whole internet. And if you ever want to share your experience wait until you have processed it a bit and do not share incriminating information.

[@Unsociable12]

When I was young I applied for a job with the government and tweeted about it, and five minutes later the department of security called me and said "Please don't post about your job on your social media" so I've been very private ever since. You only need that phone call one time, haha.

[@bluz1864]

I was just talking about this to my husband after seeing a lady in IG post about how she got into trouble at work. Why? Well, she posted that her request for (unpaid) time off was declined so she had her twin come in for her. Now, I know it could be fake but even then, I still thought it was stupid. If it was fake, why post it? Why jeopardize future employer or client options? If it was real, WHY POST about it?! Even if I had a twin and did something like that, why would I post it? Why put myself in a position where things might be more difficult. Sad thing though is that people encourage it

[@Iquey]

Dam I feel bad for the twin too. Hope she got paid for that day.

[@Graycata]

I like the idea of the lady posting this, then attaching a picture of a man (her fraternal twin) in her uniform with his hair done up how she normally does it for work. (or close to it)

[@SunflowerKidAugust]

Have y'all ever tried typing out a comment, a text, recording a video and then just going cool I got it out. It's not in my soul anymore and I will now delete it.

[@celestialbunny]

i do that a lot but at the same time, just let it out bc something irks me enough and im like NO i cant just let it be

[@Muhluri]

Happens very often lol

[@mrandisg]

Yes, I do this now. It has helped me quite a lot. I still overshare to an extent, but I'm learning to reel it in and hit Cancel more often. Highly recommend.

[@identity__thief]

I do this. Whenever I type a KZbin comment, email, etc out, I write it out in my notes. This saves me from the embarrassment of accidentally sending an email before it's finished and if I do decide against uploading it I still have a record of that train of thought to look back on.

[@mrandisg]

@@identity__thief That is such a great idea!

[@MissJasmine305]

Yoooo the mistress posting her *recorded confrontation* with the wife is the most insane shit I've ever seen. Like, wtf was the *POINT????* The wife had changed names, nobody knew that you were the mistress! People really out here wanting so desperately to be the "Main Character", and have their shitty decisions validated by strangers on the internet, that they don't even care if they're now known as the Villain, huh.

[@des1993]

Pls make your next video about endangering your life for tiktok. The amount of people live streaming them willingly staying through Hurricane Helene was alarming. The posts were crazy. So detached from reality.

[@anahnnemus5187]

I see your point. Also, keep in mind a lot of people cannot afford to evacuate. Which is saying something. Now that I think about if something were to happen they might be found easier. I'm not trying to come at you because I haven't seen what you've seen. Just know some people can't go even though they want to.

[@AnimalLover101195]

I saw several streams of storm chasers outside in Helene. The one I saw they were at least wearing some sort of protective gear (helmet, goggles, protective clothing) but that won’t do too much when debris comes flying at you at well over 100 mph. At least some of the storm chasers seem to understand the science behind it and the danger. But some, I really don’t know.

[@cjboyo]

That’s not a social media thing. That’s just what Florida is like tbh

[@primarybufferpanel9939]

Sounds like Darwin award winners, no cure for that.

[@thetruebadevil]

Well I don’t think it was them staying “for the views”. I’ve been through like 4 or 5 hurricanes starting in kindergarten and evacuating isn’t always an option, rarely is for a lot of people. It is expensive and difficult. Sometimes you have to stay put and prepare as best as you can.

[@generalcatobi7508]

This makes me think of people posting about z library as like a "secret hack" got z library taken down. People need to learn that most things don't need a social media post. Because there is a difference between SOCIAL media (a place where it is very public and anyone can see it) and maybe forums or discord servers or what have you. We need to bring back forums, man

[@andorfan270]

Don't blame this on gentle parenting. I've raised 2 kids to adulthood on gentle parenting and part of it is teaching kids to respect others and to read social cues. What you're talking about is PERMISSIVE parenting, which is a completely different thing.

[@AintThatJustTheWay]

Thank you for being a good parent 👍

[@mors_ontologica_9242]

As someone who used to be an auditor, it still absolutely baffles me how many people try to use "I didn't know it was stealing" as an excuse after they get caught stealing. Like... it was not yours... but you took it... knowing that it was not yours... this is kindergarten level stuff here.

[@noxbunny9489]

As someone who has worked in the financial industry for nearly a decade THANK YOU for explaining what check kiting is. I’m so sick of seeing this “fun hack.” Banks and credit unions are federally required to give at least $225 within 1 business day. If a financial institution is giving more than that they are trying to be NICE and this is why so many banks won’t give you more than the $225 right away. If you are actively defrauding your financial institution, you are the reason “banks are mean.” Also - DON’T deposit checks you didn’t expect to get. Do not take checks from “friends” if they’re asking for money back and you can keep the rest. This is a scam attempt and the moment you deposit it, you are complicit in fraud and the bank has no requirement to continue business with you. It isn’t their fault you are an active risk! /endrant 😅

[@MrsFern3y]

My photographer put my dress online and tagged my husband in it when I hadn’t even showed him yet. It was the morning of my wedding. Plus, after explicit instruction not to go in while my bridesmaids were changing, he said “it’s ok I’m gay” and walked in and took photos of them changing. I had to settle this dispute over my honeymoon. It wrecked my memory of my wedding for a long time.

[@lilyt5855]

One of my colleagues (we're HS teachers) got fired this week for making a tiktok with her students. She was talking with them about something very private and personal to her, and I guess she was just filming their reactions because she thought it would be funny? It had to be the most embarrassing career suicide I've ever witnessed. Teachers, keep your students off tiktok!

[@elizabuga4337]

My wedding photographer was a bit like this. After the wedding for about a year she would randomly send me messages that just said stuff like “hey girl!” and I would be like “Hi, what do you need?” She also tried to get me and my husband to model for her for FREE. I didn’t even like the photos all that much. They were fine but not great. Sigh.

[@CrustyUgg]

Open your mouth then. You have a mouth don't you? I am so tired of seeing and hearing people complain about things they don't like but they don't speak up...

[@Lxqvs]

Goddamn are you that photographer ​@@CrustyUgg

[@greenxclips1733]

@@CrustyUggfreak

[@CrustyUgg]

@@greenxclips1733 yes. Advocating for yourself is so weird.. 🙄 if you enjoy letting people walk all over you, enjoy that 🖕🏻

[@chevvy427]

It's called being polite??? ​@@CrustyUgg

[@obscuraxxxx]

I am a mod for a pretty big streamer and the amount of insane commentary we get to moderate..... my god. There are far too many folk who just spew the craziest things about their lives in chat and I've become the person that's constantly telling my mod friends, "they need a journal." LOL This is also why I'm a hugeeeee fan of having a squeaky clean front-facing profile with your name and then have as many anon accounts as you want. I hardly leave comments as my main accounts, I'm mostly lurking in the shadows like a gremlin you'll never find.

[@chelscara]

5:27 My mom looking at her high school seniors like "Y'all haven't learned how to cheat well yet?! Well don't keep trying, you are not cut out to be cheating through life. Ya bad at it." 🤣 And it's true! If you wanna get by through cheating and lying, you have to be smart enough to know how to do it 🤷

[@AintThatJustTheWay]

I don’t know? I think if they’re dumb enough to cheat … then they’re gonna get caught. I wish people would just be honest and leave a relationship if they want out.

[@lolothesilly]

WHY DID SHE RECORD HERSELF ADMITTING TO SLEEPING WITH SOMEONES HUSBAND???? 💀

[@TheDoomBlueShell]

Knowing how the internet is full of sick people that think being a monster is cool I bet she though she was slaying

[@michaelolsen7000]

I worked as catering chef years ago. The chef who trained me taught me one major rule to follow: The sooner you can leave, the better you get paid. So if you're a gig professional, learn to manage your time on the job. Do the job well, take the time you need to do the best job you can, but then gtfo. If you hang around, you're wasting your own money to do so.

[@nessie-from-earthbound1601]

27:13 I feel like this video is just emphasizing how weird it is to me that some tiktok videos are just people staring at you while you listen to audio/read text on screen

[@queenoffabulous2156]

Yeah like if you're not going to take the effort to talk, why should I bother watching

[@graymalkin8145]

0:32 Holy hells this lighting slays. Amanda looks incredible

[@solaresares]

she really does! glowing tbh

[@MidoriAmae]

Right? We need a new intro with warm tone Amanda 😂

[@MeowMeow-sy2mi]

Right? Its soft and at such a nice angle

[@JulesKM]

New generations often discover old ideas and think it’s a completely new concept. Everything comes back around again. Remember the trend of “flared leggings” that was literally just yoga pants? I gotta say though, discovering cheque fraud and thinking it’s a ‘glitch’ that no one has thought of before is both hilarious and upsetting 😭

[@ANNA-fr333]

We really are failing kids with the education they we are giving them... Doesn't death and taxes have a whole plot line surrounding fraud (as well as his double life)? That was required reading for like seventy years.

[@CalebIsAnOldNerd]

"Rap snitches, telling all their business Sit in the court and be their own star witness "Do you see the perpetrator?" "Yeah, I'm right here" Fuck around, get the whole label sent up for years" MF DOOM

[@basshead7171]

I DID NOT EXPECT TO SEE THIS LOL 😂 MF DOOM - ughh it fits perfectly

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Back in 2010, I published an article about being careful about what you post online. Back then, there were people that were posting EVERYTHING in blogs, MySpace, Facebook and the burgeoning KZbin platform, and they were getting surprised Pikachu faces when they got turned down for job offers, fired from their jobs, or rejected from relationships. Fourteen years later, they haven’t learned their lesson, and it’s even WORSE than it was back then. The “Chase glitch” is another example that supports my position that TikTok is making people less intelligent. 🤦‍♀️

[@megidolaon384]

The saddest thing about the Chase Bank "glitch" is how royally fucked the people who participated lives will be in the aftermath. If not outright serving jailtime for the multiple felonies they committed, they will have a hardtime getting jobs and government assistance. Most likely not able to have a bank account or be able to open credit lines ON TOP OF having to pay back what they stole and the overdraft fees from their account being in the negative. If any of those people have children, you can't help but feel bad for them now.

[@CowMaster9001]

Why feel sorry for them? They're clearly too dumb to live.

[@intheabysspickingdaisies3197]

I wonder how many brides are going to be willing to hire this MUA in the future knowing that she could pull the same thoughtless and tactless behavior at their wedding?

[@Hercule_Holmes]

I work in deposit cheque fraud, and although intent does matter, banks still have to take steps to mitigate risk. So if a person has history of suspicious activity, they will take action.

[@criticaloptimist]

Recruiters really appreciate getting this kind of proof someone would be a real difficult employee. Most of the time, people put their best foot forward when interviewing. She saved the company a lot of time and headaches by showing her real personality. lol

[@justheretocommentokdontwan685]

why would "the real personality" matter if they are putting their best foot forward at their job or when trying to get a job? why would the recruiter or employer care so long as they are behaving at work?

[@criticaloptimist]

@@justheretocommentokdontwan685 because how people behave in interviews is not always how they behave at the job. I used to recruit for a call center, and you’d be surprised by how different people can be after they get the job. My boss called me one day to say someone I hired was like yelling at HR and really unprofessional. They wanted to figure out what I had missed. But when my manager ended up talking to her and that lady put the mask back on, she got that this lady is like jeckle and Hyde. An airline is probably hiring lots of attendants all the time, so they know the reasons why people don’t work out. If someone is this rude and not following directions doting the interview process when people are putting their best foot forward, then how are they going to behave when they’re stressed and tired on a flight?

[@ZugTheMegasaurus]

About 5 years ago, somebody broke into my garage (as well as a bunch of my neighbors' garages) and stole a bunch of stuff. This was on Christmas Eve and I was out of town visiting a relative, so my partner discovered it and called the police but wasn't sure exactly what was taken. A few days after I got back home, a check for $400 cleared my account, which I discovered when my bank sent me the images of the front and back of the check. I hadn't had a checkbook in years, but must have had a blank check in the car. This criminal mastermind had forged my signature, then took it to his bank and deposited it into his own account, IN PERSON. All on camera, thumbprint on the check and everything. Since I could prove that I was 1100 miles away on the date I supposedly signed the check, it was an absolute gimme for the cops. A year later, I got a call from the police letting me know about an upcoming trial,, in case I wanted to make a victim statement. They had arrested fourteen people on fraud and racketeering charges - turned out it was a massive organized crime ring operating in multiple states and the feds were building a separate case against them too. They had no idea who was involved until that check.

[@Jack-Corvus]

I got married two weeks ago and it was perfect, I'm delighted I didn't have to ask my absolutely shredded, tall, and beautiful best man to escort anyone out of the venue, but he was ready to.

[@Jack-Corvus]

My wife is also tall and beautiful.

[@simoneo6294]

​@@Jack-Corvus are they the same person?

[@wellofhavoc]

i work at a company i won't name but i am involved in financials to a degree, and i had three employees (mind you i take maybe 30 at most 40 calls a day) call in asking to update their payment info, two of which asked to update it to cashapp (not a new bank) ... all of them were baking with chase prior to calling in and all of them asked if their paychecks (which we'd recently sent out) could be pulled and resent to the new payment methods :|

[@AintThatJustTheWay]

😬

[@Lilacs_and_Chocolate]

Can we all go back to just posting our pets? 😑

[@bellablue5285]

Honestly I won't even do that much at this point tbh

[@amydalton6556]

I'm here to see pics of your lunch...

[@wagadoogy420]

No, because the comment of every pet video will inevitably be "OMG it's being abused!!!!!"

[@starcherry6814]

No because people have found a way to ruin that

[@funlover163]

​@wagadoogy420 Your cat that is purring and letting you play with it's paws is obviously traumatized

[@raylayaaaa]

People posting, at work with their badges on full display and then wonder why they “magically” got fired. Let’s think about why for sec 💀💀

[@JuniperJadePR]

This whole situation makes me think about the time that one of my ex-classmates lost a beauty pageant because she ran on an anti-bullying + animal welfare campaign...while participating in cock fights & posting about girls that she didn't like. Needless to say, all her sponsors dropped her & didn't get far in the pageant. Her entire modelling career went down the drain & she struggles to stay employed til this day.

[@ileutur6863]

A friend of mine got denied a work visa because he had put "anarchist" in his Facebook bio 7 YEARS AGO. He did it in his preteen edgelord phase and removed it later, but they still dug it up. He's a top class engineer and he's getting denied work because of a digital footprint 7 years old. Social media has tricked us into surveillance state servitude.

[@VeronicAM313]

As soon as you mentioned destroying your life for views, I thought of the girl who had a breakdown after people told her to take down her video with the passport* and the makeup artist. *Woman went for flight attendant interview, knew she had forgotten her passport which was needed and then did several videos of how the company was in the wrong. Edit: I see you mentioned the makeup artist, the flight attendant and I had forgotten about the chase thing.

[@eos_aurora]

Is that not the situation that’s in the video?

[@VeronicAM313]

@@eos_aurora I wrote this as I started the video. I still have a couple more minutes and had planned to edit it after finishing it.

[@PaulWillisJr]

"Stack in private" EXCEPT with your coworkers. Always ALWAYS ALWAYS share your salary with your co-workers. Everyone needs to know whether or not they are being paid fairly. If you are making more than all of your co-workers, your employer can't reduce your pay rate because of that fact coming out. They would get in huge trouble for that, and you would have a lawsuit ready to go. But if your coworkers know they are being underpaid compared to you, that gives them bargaining power against the employer to raise their own pay rate and get a more fair salary. Word to the wise

[@grrcat616]

If your job puts it in writing that you can't discuss pay (which is illegal in the US), well give that to the Department of Labor, DoL (dot) gov. You can submit it anonymously.

[@eos_aurora]

Man you’re so right people can’t shut UP anymore

[@sammehtehdestroyah]

As a good rule of thumb, if you think you discovered a secret way to make a ton of money for free, no you didn't.

[@glitterviolence]

as a teenager I was both a wannabe youtuber and a huge oversharer and OH BOY am I glad that my dreams of being a youtube star did not work out!!!! (I’m in my 20s now and have learned how to share appropriate amounts of information about myself publicly, for the record)

[@Iquey]

Why would.... Why.... Would you want to STAY at the wedding any longer than necessary, unless you are getting paid for the extra time!!! That is weird! It's like a reverse Bridezilla. Makeup artist-zilla.

[@hotmesslex18]

some people have really lost the subtle art of “don’t sign up for social media websites with the same email you apply to jobs with”

[@kerryw2584]

I work in finance. The number of people I had to tell "that's not a glitch, it's a federal crime" was astonishing.

[@kc_lee_ann]

I am shaking with anxiety at the mistress confrontation video oh my god.

[@mycatmelvin4350]

Love the bombas sponsorship! My mom runs our local foster closet and they donate boxes of socks and underwear for the kids :) it’s great to see a sponsor for a company that does so much good for communities!

[@whattwowhat]

It just feels like the makeup artist has no one in her life after the breakup and wanted to playact being part of a large community.

[@nartyteek]

28:00 why is this public? be embarrassed, please? feel shame?

[@Sara-ri7qi]

i frequently struggle between “move in silence” and being financially transparent. i DO want my coworkers and my friends to know how much i make because it may help them know how much they’re worth and i don’t believe that keeping money private is the right way to go about it but people are also the worst so there’s that. eternal struggle it appears.

[@joinyourmind]

ive been watching you for years and girl i could listen to you talk about literally anything. you are so charismatic and opinionated i will never get tired of your stuff

[@wildmooseking]

Main character syndrome is not a disease. It's now an epidemic.

[@harrytodhunter5078]

More like a Pandemic, this shit is global

[@nessmarie6044]

@@harrytodhunter5078more like endemic cuz theres no end in sight

[@blueowl3474]

I def agree that we need to be brought back journaling lol. I've been journaling for ages and it's saved me from a lot of potential humiliating situations. Also, groupchats!!! Venting to your friends, voice messages, etc. Not all interactions have to be public

[@milahrytsyna3964]

I once sent a package to a friend abroad and she posted the box on her Instagram with my full name and address visible. 😅 And we were both in our 20s. I had to full on explain that this was not the thing to do.

[@spac3g1rl]

The mistress one? What does she think she’s gonna get? Sympathy and laughs? Everyone is going to know (even me across the continent) that she’s a bad person (cheating and telling the wife) and her child is a product of the hurt of another woman. That’s why I don’t have any social media, I just keep things to myself and keep away pf problems

[@extremelyhappysimmer]

How do you say you are "confronting" someone when you are in the wrong???

[@gothicMCRgirl]

She probably thought she was being so “brave” and so “courageous” for coming clean, not realizing that people wouldn’t focus on her “good act”, they would focus on her cheating ass lol the only one I feel sorry for is that future baby whose entire reason for existing is due to a selfish act and now it’s immortalized on the internet forever.

[@DarkGob]

Because that's not what "confront" means. It was definitely a confrontation, it doesn't matter if the confronter is in the wrong. Great, now "confront" doesn't even look like a word anymore.

[@soupycat1011]

When I was in my first year of my nursing degree, we had a class all about social expectations of nurses. One of the things that stuck with me was my lecturer standing in front of us on like, day two of uni and saying this: “Hospitals take privacy very seriously. Do not take pictures of yourself at work or in scrubs. Do not post them. They will look, trust me. Do not put “nurse” in your bio. Don’t draw attention to the fact you are a nurse. It’s just not worth the stress it causes. You don’t want creepy patients tracking you down, you don’t want work colleagues seeing something they shouldn’t, and you don’t want to get screwed, cause you didn’t pay attention and had one little thing no one even noticed in the background that ends your career.” And of all the advice I was given in that class that’s the one that stuck out to me. And it forever changed my outlook on how I used social media. I wasn’t the most responsible teen online, but as an adult I’m so boring, I barely post, and honestly it’s kinda nice to not have to worry about anything. Literally just don’t post stuff. Live your life for you not everyone else it’s so nice

[@Flyingcreeper89]

The united girl had all us flight attendants cackling in the fb groups lol