SWITCHED TO BABY FORMULA | BREASTFEEDING JOURNEY

[@sprinkledcleansoapery]

A fed baby is a fed baby. I had to formula feed my first. My second latched perfectly and I breast fed him exclusively. All babies and mom's are different. No matter what you do, you feel like you're not doing enough, but momma... You are enough!

[@manunjoh6561]

Sprinkled Clean Soapery thank you for this. Cz the same thing is happening to me right now and this is my first baby. I’m praying for God to provide for me. Also I don’t get help from family so I can’t “rest” like many people recommend.

[@SaraT4Beauty]

manuela nupa that happened to me I’m all alone all day long I don’t have family to help me and my husband works. So don’t beat yourself off if the baby it’s fed and growing and developing then everything it’s good. I never had milk so my baby wouldn’t latch and I did not wanted to see a lactation nurse because I had a really bad experience a the hospital when I gave birth and that let me quite traumatized so my baby only takes formula and he’s also allergic to cows protein so it’s only formula for him, and yesterday our doctor told me he’s 30% more developed than babies his age so don’t stress over the breastfeeding or formula

[@manunjoh6561]

Sara T4Makeup thank you so much 😩😇

[@syedazahid8953]

Did your first turn out fine IQ wise? I am formula feeding my infant.. I have all these thoughts

[@Jennylyndean26]

True 👍

[@ValleyVal123]

Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I have ever done. Physically, emotionally and mentally... Lactation consultants exist because a lot of women have this problem. You're not alone. Don't feel guilty, Nicole 💕

[@leslieann8044]

Brittany Brittany breastfeeding is not hard if you have the Pump eve but not all the people can afford it

[@chelseamalm3196]

@@leslieann8044 pumping is far from easy. It it also adds a bunch of extra steps to your feeding routine

[@hinaadil5895]

Can anyone sugest me good formula for 1 year baby

[@JennyLouRN]

Yes, breastfeeding is hard. My job revolves around it! And pumping can be physically and emotionally draining. I recommend it only for moms who have a reason, such as a premie or return to work or medical or emotional reasons for not wanting to latch a baby directly.

[@kelly1827]

@@leslieann8044 Not every person responds to a pump, even those with an abundant supply. And if a person had some sort of situation in the first few weeks when supply was establishing, e.g. a pp hemorrhage, there is not much that can be done about that. Like one of the other posters said IBCLCs exist for a reason.

[@susannaroorda1822]

To all mommies, formula feeding never equals failure, doesn’t matter how baby is fed you still give them all your love. And yes the 4 months sleep regression is very hard but changing feeds and even trying to wean or anything won’t help as it’s a developmental change and it’s normal, it’s best to just stick with what your doing and just wait it out. Also the distractions are very hard with breastfeeding, from 4 months I always tried to feed in a quiet place and if you can’t find a quiet place just wait longer until baby is really hungry, than they’re more likely to feed effectively. Also if you have any supply worries just keep latching and feeding, feeding more increases supply, you may feel empty but your body will always make more, breasts are never empty. Cluster feeding is also purposely to increase supply when baby has a growth spurt. If anything try to eat well and drink a lot, that’ll help to keep your supply going. Be patient, just feed feed feed, don’t worry just keep at it. Oh and if you do anything that you regret, just don’t regret, baby will be fine, all parents learn from trial and error and we’ve all done things we know we could have done differently and perhaps it wasn’t the best choice or maybe it was, it doesn’t matter in the end, we are human, you don’t have to be a perfect mom, just love your baby and enjoy it as much as you can, time will pass and you’ll remember only the good things.

[@samanthadanielle4788]

What sucked for me is my husband kept pushing me to keep going but when I was struggling I was taking it more as criticism like he was mom-shaming me.

[@Herocaa]

That’s so unfair

[@erikac8612]

I feel the same way because he hears of his friends wives that overproduce milk. I think it's just a touchy subject when you are fighting so hard to feed your baby. I feel more confident now but it's the growth spurts that get me feeling inadequate.

[@susannaroorda1822]

Tell him overproducing is not a good thing, it’ll make breastfeeding harder, if your baby is growing well and you are comfortable breastfeeding than that’s all that matters. There’s no use for excessive milk and it’s inconvenient to have leaky boobs and other issues due to overproduction. Sometimes you need to stop breastfeeding if it gets too much and only you can decide what’s best for you. Baby needs a happy mom more than a breastfeeding mom so if your not happy to continue it really won’t benefit anyone.

[@derrekmitchell1012]

@@susannaroorda1822 over producing is a great thing. My wife is able to supply our daughter and another baby and we are still putting some up in freezer

[@susannaroorda1822]

@@derrekmitchell1012 if your using it all your not overproducing, you produce what you stimulate. Overproduction that isn’t being used will cause issues like engorgement and fast let downs which are difficult when your actually trying to feed on demand.

[@sydney2649]

I’ve had low supply and exclusively pumped and supplemented with formula since birth! Baby is almost 6 months. You should be PROUD of how far you made it. Breastfeeding is so hard. Don’t second guess yourself mama. I just focus on the things I CAN control like tummy time, sensory, reading, making sure we are educating ourselves on the best formula and so on. it’s all we can do!

[@sadieelizabeth2507]

I have such a love/hate relationship with breastfeeding it’s so hard but rewarding I know my heart will break when I have to stop

[@mzspectac]

Same

[@gabriellekelley2654]

I feel the same. Everyday I wanna stop and then when I say I’m going to I back out

[@Ididntwantayoutubehandl]

Same...

[@trudy-annmcfarlane2406]

Doing it for 18 months and honestly, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. You’re doing your best mama.

[@kathleenevans1201]

Not really.

[@simerkaur2353]

i have been combination feeding since my baby was born. i did feel the guilt at first for not exclusively breastfeeding

[@mehakrathore6243]

I feel you How was it? Did your baby had colic?

[@oliviaa5559]

We mom's place way too much guilt on ourselves for everything. It's so unnecessary. The best thing for your baby is to be fed. That's it. And you're doing that great! Our pediatrician said no one will ask on your child's college application if they were formula fed or breastfed. Just feed your babies everyone!

[@ishani2103]

Your paediatrician is very kind. My midwife made me feel humiliated and guilty when I wasn’t producing enough milk and had to top up with formula.

[@oliviaa5559]

@@ishani2103 I'm so sorry. That is obviously never okay. Also people need to realize that women have been struggling with milk production since the beginning of time. They literally used to nurse each other's babies. Or make their own "formula" out of different types of wheat and goat's milk. It's just history

[@TRUNDNBLING]

This honesty has been awesome. I like that you shared that you prayed about it too. I'm struggling with bottle feeding, formula supplementing, pumping and my baby basically only comfort nurses at this point. I think out of all the videos I've watched this one has helped ease my mind and heart the most

[@elizabethunger9190]

I just wanted to say, while you didn’t meet your goal to breastfeed until 8 months or beyond, you breastfed until 6 months which is the recommended time! Breastfeeding until at least 6 months gives immense benefits to your baby! Only 25% of moms exclusively breastfeed until 6 months. So you did amazing!

[@aizahs.3672]

I had the same exact thing happened to me when my baby was entering the 3 month mark. My supply too had dipped. And because of that, he became frustrated with the flow and rejected my breasts. He eventually developed a low grade fever because he wasnt getting enough milk. More ever, he became very angry because he was hungry but too angry to be fed. I was crying and hating my baby because i felt rejected and lost and overwhelmed with wanting to feed him. He hates bottles and wouldnt want to even get a drip down. So its not like i didnt try feeding him using a bottle. Now, we’re slowly recovering from the nursing strike. He has trauma from me forcing my breast on him and would now recoil whenever i try to feed him. He’s doing better now though.

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

If someone hasn't breastfed they will never understand. Your baby is blessed to have you because you're feeding him! Period! BF is amazing but we all have our reasons to switching to formula. Thanks for this video. You're a great mom, don't forget it.

[@remibargmann6184]

We do both since birth. We breast feed and we provide formula. Our boy is 3.5 months and he is a happy boy :)

[@kristina6002]

To any breastfeeding mother that may read this: You are enough! Babies are smart and they won't starve themselves! If you get 4-6 wet diapers every 24 hours and baby is growing on their curve/percentile, there's no need to supplement with formula. Supplementing IS what will make your supply dip...because our bodies will make ENOUGH for the baby, as long as we let them nurse as much as they want to. The only thing that regulates milk supply is milk demand. Feed your little ones without fear and anxiety, because you are enough!

[@divasstone4200]

Over it with my second. I don't feel guilty.

[@lv67890]

To all my sisters caring for their little ones: 1000% love and support. You know what your baby needs and you have the love and wisdom to do it ❤

[@HealthyGroceryGirl]

Thank you for your honesty! Both my babies the 4 month mark was the hardest for me with breastfeeding! They can get so distracted, the sleep regression & I personally feel if you’re getting up multiple times a night at the point is really wears on you! You sharing your story will help so many women not feel alone. Thank you! Any women reading this - you are also not alone in your journey and you are doing a great job mama!! 💛

[@Nicolelelagreen]

I'm so thankful for everyone sharing their personal stories in the comments! I really hope every mom sees that they are not alone in the slightest!

[@JennyLouRN]

It is normal at 4 months for a baby to become distracted by and interested in all the wonderful things around him. It can help to go into a special chair or room that is dull or dim. Also, be prepared to take a bit more time with feedings, and/or feed more frequently throughout the day, as feeds can become shorter. But the baby is actually more efficient at getting the milk too, so he does so more quickly, but since they are a bit more active, they need more. Also, the breasts at this time can start to make milk on demand and reduce the amount of enforcement, this leading mom to believe her supply is reduced. Breastfeeding is always a new journey around the corner!

[@vanityxoxo9957]

Omg my baby is 4 months and I thought it was just me but my baby is doing the exact same thing ! She wakes up way more now, she cries all day basically I can’t be far away, I feel like she sucks me dry lol, she gets distracted so much when eating

[@trudy-annmcfarlane2406]

It does stress you out 4real. I’ve been through it all.

[@kaylatrausch1394]

Yes to all of this and add my kid tugging 😂

[@maraorr948]

You are such a sweetheart! You do not owe us an explanation, but thank you for sharing your story. I had similar feelings of guilt and regret in regards to breastfeeding my daughter. I felt shame that I did not breastfeed longer. Low supply, trouble latching, and mastitis contributed to my decision. I was the one who was putting the pressure on myself. Knowing that there are other women who have experienced this as well has helped me. Everyone’s story is different as well as every baby is different too. I do still want to try to breastfeed when I have my next baby.

[@breebatiste9499]

I usually don’t comment on KZbin videos but I am feeling so many of the same emotions about having to stop breastfeeding. I thank you so much for this information.

[@tooauxxy]

The stress of this virus made me stop breastfeeding, it was just too much to handle all at once with new baby, no help, staying in the house 24/7, she had so much trouble latching because they had to give her a bottle at the hospital because I lost so much blood and was a weakling after giving birth so my daughter wasn't even with me for 4 hours in the hospital 💔 I didn't expect my motherhood experience to start out like this and 2 months later I still feel like I failed and ive started lying to my family saying that I'm breastfeeding when I'm not 🙃 and they ask me multiple times so I just feel like horrible person if I'm being honest 💔 but it's a bit of a relief Knowing I'm not the only one that struggled ( also all the public ads about breastfeeding are triggering to my anxiety which sucks)

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

Omg we are the same person in the he sense of labor and breastfeed difficulties. You stay strong girl! You birthing a baby and putting you love in daily is the best part you provide. We will get through this

[@angelageskermann4548]

Same!

[@tooauxxy]

@@Nikki-ks6wi thank you 💕 you stay strong also!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

More mothers than you think can relate to you! I hope you can slowly become confident in the choices you made because you did the absolute best with the situation you were given. Much love to you!

[@tooauxxy]

@@Nicolelelagreen thank you, I honestly felt so alone before watching your video and seriously thought everyone breastfed but me! I appreciate you sharing your story so much 🤗💛

[@gabrielledutton1239]

This !!! I’m going through this right now. My son just hit 4 months and I’m going through the same thing !! It makes me feel so much better and less alone.

[@saracardenas175]

This video is amazing! My milk supply was low when my daughter was born and I wanted to breastfeed so bad because it creates a strong bond with mother and child and breastmilk is the best for child. So when I had to feed her formula I was sad and felt so much guilt. I realized that’s it’s okay and there’s nothing wrong with formula, my baby needs to eat. I still wish I could’ve breastfeed because it’s the best for the child but formula is okay!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Exactly, fed is best

[@kalianayoga9808]

Sara Cardenas it’s such a hard decision! But I know I was formula fed which eased my mind more during this transition. But feeding anyway possible is the best decision too!❤️

[@oliviaa5559]

Yes! Everyone please feed your babies!

[@de5072]

In my experience breastfeeding weakened the bond with my son. It was a traumatizing experience. Once he was exclusively formula fed (at 4 months after months of pumping and supplementing) our bond got so much stronger.

[@Leggi11]

I really appreciated this video! When my little boy was 8 weeks he went on a nursing strike and refused to feed from me. I was expressing milk and giving it to him in a bottle. All I did was express and it definitely hit me hard mentally. My husband and I made the decision that if he wanted to be bottled fed then we would go for formula. It was a hard journey mentally but God was totally in it and he provided money for bottles/sterilisers etc. Thank you for your honesty! Fed is best and as long as our babies are growing strong that’s all that matters ❤️ love from Northern Ireland

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Thank you for sharing you're journey too

[@jyotigarg178]

Did your baby get back to nursing?

[@thereverseuniverse4738]

My son did the same, refused to breast feed..i was shocked.. i tried everything and at 8 months i stopped expressing..but feel so emotional about it.

[@userthreeseven9285]

this is a real life story i really need. i started giving formula to my baby since day 5. cause i dont produced much breast milk. i was too anxious when seeing my bby hungry. now i m trying to combo feed my baby with breast milk and formula. i felt terrible because couldnt breastfeed exclusively but listening to you make me feel better.

[@jessicajohanson9162]

As a mommy of nine who breast-fed all of my kids till most of them all at least were 18 months old, if you are feeling at all like you want to still do it I would just encourage you for three days to pump every three hours for maybe 30 minutes along with taking supplements that are supposed to help and getting a lot of rest and also not stressing but just relaxing and enjoying the “pumping time” and quiet and I have a very good feeling your supply will come back. Emphasis on IF you are torn about it and still are wanting to breast-feed

[@_goddess.lifestyle]

Jessica Johanson wow girl you’re a champ!!!thanks for sharing :)

[@kalianayoga9808]

Jessica Johanson WOW you worked hard mama!! Good for you ❤️

[@Nina-dp3gx]

Yes with my second baby; I stopped before I was ready due to extended family pressuring me to stop during a vacation together (I know how that sounds 😐). After about 10 days I decided to restart and it worked ! If you want, it is possible to reverse. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding.

[@mariaburakovsky2458]

Jessica Johanson thank you for your advice! It is so frustrating to pump and have so little milk there.. but 3 days is doable! I will give it a chance!

[@Monica-gu2bg]

Jessica, I want to relactate but even pumping every 3 hours has added stress to my life! My daughter constantly needs attention, I am also a super heavy sleeper and let me tell you that my alarm has not been enough to wake me up for a MOTN session. Its EMBARRASSING. And I beat myself up when I realize I didn't wake up. I'm stuck between being a slave to the pump again (hate pumping, love feeding my milk to my baby) or just moving on and enjoying my infant and time to the fullest.

[@samiradanesh2726]

As mamas we will AWLAYS feel guilty! Mom guilt is so so so real! You’re doing your best! You’re an amazing mama!

[@shaniaramos1377]

SAHM over here who is currently exclusively pumping with a low supply and formula feeding. It’s rough. The hardest thing I have ever done. But I understand your journey. I have to constantly remind myself that fed is best.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Props to you, you're doing great

[@sydney2649]

I’m in the exact same potition! Low supply front he start, exclusively pumping SAHM and mama it is HARD. Idk about you but it’s getting harder and harder as my baby is getting more busy, I just don’t have the time to pump every 3 hours to keep my supply up.

[@belowthetamaracks]

It is so hard to make these choices when we're afraid. I agree fed is best, but I don't always treat myself as well as I treat others. I've been doing both from the start, I have a 1 month old. Latch troubles, pain, and anger/sadness/trauma from the hospital experience really got in the way. Where I live, the lactation consultants are so booked, you have to wait weeks. Thank goodness for KZbin. Supplementing with formula allowed by nipples to heal, and also gave some more space to process the hospital trauma. I have the luxury of being home. We've learned to latch better and are slowly boosting supply. The routine of breastfeeding, then formula, then pumping, is extra effort and is imperfect. I don't think we'll ever become exclusively breastmilk. This disappoints me, but then I remember I have a healthy child who had put in the weight they needed, and my decision is what allowed feeding to be a loving experience, not a stressed one. Nicole, i hope things are going well in your home and that this has gotten easier on you.

[@sabrinamartinez474]

This is SO TRUE I could only go up to 8 months but definitely having other people around exceeding you as far as this area of motherhood makes you naturally compare but we definitely just have to find out JOY IN WHAT WE AS MOTHERS HAVE ACCOMPLISHED AND HOW GOD HAD HELPED US THIS FAR TO DO . If your a mom just props to you IN ALL YOU DO . YOUR A GREAT MOM NICOLE ! 💕 let’s encourage one another .

[@Nicolelelagreen]

[@c457jajsudbe]

I switched to formula because I could not make enough milk for my twins. I felt like I was sick, would get dizzy, and just generally felt overwhelmed when I was breastfeeding. The homones with two babies was too much. While I was pregnant all I heard was about how possible it is to bf twins so I was so unprepared! I'm glad they got 3 months of breastmilk but the $400 a month we spend now on their formula is insane but better than feeling like I have a flu everyday. I wish ppl shared all their bad experiences so you can prepare yourself while pregnant.

[@09keelin]

I’m not sure why you live at or if your twins still drink formula but have you tried to apply for WIC?

[@c457jajsudbe]

@09keelin We made too much money for WIC so basically just had to deal with paying for something that we couldn't really afford.

[@ashleynicole2546]

My baby was never good at latching, so I have pumped exclusively since 6 weeks. He is now 4 months and I know what you are talking about with the distractions. He eats about 2 ounces and then shoves away the bottle. I am still pumping though. I also take Legendary Milk supplements to help my supply! I use the Liquid Gold and Sunflower Lecithin

[@kayliemckinley2947]

I know you are in a totally different place of life currently but I’m just finding these older videos, in the thick of the 4 month sleep regression so REALLY resonating with your videos in this time period. When you dropped a nap and a feed do you remember what that new schedule looked like, I’m pretty sure I need to do that just trying to navigate how to adjust the schedule for it!! Thank you. Congratulations on your new baby ❤️❤️❤️

[@gracechacko4937]

Hi Nicole, I had overactive letdown from the first day of my girl born. She wouldn’t keep up the speed of breast milk flowing out . She was choking everytime. While i breastfeed the other breast will leak like a fountain. So if i go to church with my baby it was hard to feed her. Thats when i saw ur Hakka pump video so i started using that while breast feeding. But the biggest problem my girl had was she was having terrible colic. she cried and cried until i stop breastfeeding . Basically breast milk was giving her lactose intolerance as she was not getting hind milk ( because she was full with the initial letdown milk) . It was real struggle. i used to sit and cry when she is not drinking well. She hated breast feeding. Then one of my friend initially suggested to try formula at 3.5 months. Until that it was real struggle for me as well. Because even if i don’t breastfeed my breasts will leak and il be soaking. ( Why i was sharing this ppl often think that some mothers produce a lot but ppl like me who have overactive letdown struggles ) once she was on Formula she had no more colic . She was a happy baby . She gained her weight as well in a good way. Then comes the panic buying. we went to 10-12 shops to get formula . We got one packet luckily which wont even last for a week( i can totally relate to you). So my mom in law was angry on me that i stop breastfeeding but they never understood what i was going thru. ( luckily my husband was supporting me a lot thru this) So dont feel bad abt anything. We do things for our kids for their good only. So be cheerful. Im waiting for your songs in the vlogs More love and power to you girl 😍😍😍😘😘

[@Nicolelelagreen]

In the end, the parents know whats best for their babies, I'm so glad your daughter is doing better

[@lovely0th]

Which formula did u use ? 😭

[@CosmoKaiLovesBeauty]

Breastfeeding is challenging and rewarding but I encourage moms to do the best you can. Babies get the best when you're at your best. I've been pumping since my youngest came home from the NICU and I don't regret it. He's 2 months and I formula and pump feed. Best decision I ever made! Even in the pandemic I don't have to worry about breastfeeding or formula shortage. I did lose some supply but I eat cookies and tea and it's coming back. Once again do what's best for you and your babies. Everyone please be safe and take care.

[@chesneyboling8023]

Thank you for being so transparent about this sensitive topic. My baby was a preemie and had latching issues so I tried pumping. Long story short, it wasn’t working for us and I also experienced a panic feeling when the formula we are using became challenging to get due to pandemic hoarding. We will all get through this and we must remember fed is best! 💕

[@sonohrina2012]

On one side my mom would no stop talking about how I could increase my supply and on the other side my husband would not stop arguing with me over him wanting me to only formula feed he hated seeing me breastfeed and believes formula is better I had to do both because I didn’t have enough but it was hard hearing those things when I felt kind of vulnerable at times the only support I got was from another mom I met at hospital. I just can’t believe how so many people just feel like they have the right to tell you what’s right it’s so annoying and you are already going through enough

[@jamielee8012]

Thanks for answering our questions and sharing your journey! I’ve struggled with a lot of feelings of failure not being able to exclusively breast feed and not probably not breastfeeding at all from now on. My son was tongue tied and unable to latch and my supply just never got established. Even after his tongue tie surgery we struggled and now he’s 9 weeks and my supply is no more. I never imagined I would be formula feeding my baby but it I found out many of my friends had to supplement and formula feeding is way more common than I realized. I feel like women don’t want to share it because they fear judgement. I totally agree with you tho as far as not being able to tell who was formula fed or not, I’ve told myself “it’s not like you can pick someone out of a lineup”. Thanks for sharing, we are all just doing our best to be the best moms we can be to our babies!!

[@GoddessDestinova]

I nursed my first for 10 months. 8 years later, I have my second and I switched to formula 3 months in. He is 6 months old now and doing just as well as my first child. The only annoying thing is washing bottles and staying stocked up.

[@LeniceRomney]

I totally understand that guilty feeling✨ My baby boy, also named Jace, was born with 31+1 day. So he is premature and wasnt able to eat by himself. He had a feeding tube. I pumped for weeks. And when he was able to eat by himself, he got used to a bottle. Because I wasnt able to be with him at the hospital 24/7. So the nurses gave him a bottle with breastmilk I pumped. I tried breastfeeding when he got home after 7 weeks. But he got so frustrated everytime. So firs I wanted to keep pumping and just give him a bottle with breastmilk but that got too hard. I felt like a machine lol. So I switched over to formula and yes, there were a few tears and some guilt. But eventually I got over it and I started feeling so much better🤗✨ I also believe breastmilk is the best thing ever for your baby. But its also okay to give formula. Everyone has a different journey and I think as moms we should support each other❤️

[@kari9367]

Lenice Romney My baby was born at 29+2 and has been in the NICU 5 and a half weeks so far. He still has a feeding tube but should be starting to try and bottle feed/breast feed in the next week. I’m right there with ya about feeling like a total machine trying to pump milk for him to have! And my supply has been very low to begin with. I’m making juuuust enough some days, but I’ve already been told that because he’s now considered 34 weeks old they will no longer give him donor milk when they run out of my breast milk but formula instead. I’ve definitely been worried about what our breastfeeding journey will be down the road. But I just keep reminding myself that no matter what happens he’s already come such a long way and as long as he continues to grow and be healthy, he’ll be okay! 💕

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Thank you for sharing your stories ladies, I'm sure it'll be helpful to those in the exact same position as you

[@JennyLouRN]

I’m a NICU/L&D RN. You did a great job!!!

[@jessicahiggins8094]

My story is very similar, and it sucks. Born at 32 weeks, tube fed, bottle fed at hospital, pumping like a madwoman. Trying to battle the bottle. Pumping some more. It's good to hear we aren't alone. What I do know is that my baby is happy. :)

[@ely884]

I stopped breastfeeding my baby when she was just a month old, I had really low supply and she would cry really bad because she was never full, I started to just pump and supplementing some of her feedings.I tried my best and looked for tips, pumping more often, oatmeal, vitamins, Tea, EVERYTHING. I completely stopped giving her breastmilk when I went back to work because I was completely exhausted from trying, plus work and my schedule wasn’t helping at all. 3 weeks later I was sent home because of the COVID. She just turned 4 months and there is no day that goes by that I do not regret my decision of stopping pumping completely, this guilt has been killing me for the past month and a half 😭.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

I really hope I provided some encouragement! You had no way of knowing what would happen and you were and are doing your best. You're a great mama!

[@Monicamcs]

Reading this just makes me want to cry. Breastfeeding is hard and the guilt is real. I hope you are doing better now. It’s easier said than done, but please don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

[@berpke1234]

I was only able to breastfeed for one week (had a complicated delivery plus hadn't seen my husband for 5 months due to covid and he couldn't be at the delivery either, my father died 3 days after baby's birth). I had barely any milk, supplemented with formula for another week but wasn't enough either. So she has been formula fed basically from the start.I was nervous for days having to tell my midwife I needed to fully switch to formula and cried when I did tell her. Felt bad and guilty until I finally realised I shouldn't. Everyone does what they can and that's ok ❤ You are an amazing mom!

[@chasitynichols9122]

I have for kids, three were breastfed and I was miserable the entire time. Looking back I’d definitely formula feed from the start with my younger three like I did with my oldest! If I ever have another child, I will not breastfeed at all!

[@roselade2424]

My baby is a month now and I only produce about half what she consumes. it was probably week two when I realized that I was going to have to supplement with formula. I cried, I felt like I had failed my baby. But there was also relief from it. I could confirm how much she was eating and that she was getting enough and I can still breastfeed her in the morning. The most important thing is that baby is eating. We are all doing our best.

[@jlovexoxo3]

I’m becoming obsessed with your content, because of how relatable you are! You are one of the mommas here on KZbin that I can actually relate to. I had watched a few of your videos a few months ago when I was pregnant, but for some reason forgot to subscribe. The other day KZbin recommended one of your videos so I watched and commented & loved that you responded, and now I’ve watched this video, and subscribed! Thank you for being honest and real about the struggles surrounding motherhood.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Hey Jessie! I'm SOOO happy to hear that! I find that the more vulnerable and honest I am, the more our audience can relate to me. Makes me fell so connected to you all! Congrats on your baby by the way! Boy or girl?

[@jlovexoxo3]

NicoleandRichie Girl 😊💕

[@luisaw74656]

This is gonna be a longer comment...i gave birth this june and due to the virus I didn't have a chance to attend courses and stuff so... I stayed at the hospital for 3 days and I honestly felt really alone there.. Besides family not being able to visit the people there weren't really willing to help and I had to ask for help several times regarding the great feeding.... From day one my baby wasn't really drinking well and I didn't have a midwife either. I separated from the baby's dad and was pretty much by myself. He kept falling asleep while nursing and as he was never satisfied he wanted to eat like every 30 min. I was so exhausted but I still kept going. At some point he stopped gaining weight for over a week and it kept getting worse... It was at this point that I introduced formula but I felt horrible about it crying almost everyday. I'm still breast feeding and giving him formula both and he is happy and healthy... I regret feeling so bad and guilty about not breast feeding exclusively instead of just enjoying the time with my baby... So mums... Enjoy the time with your baby and don't let anyone get to you.. Not even yourself

[@bridgetbaer3775]

Same thing just happened to me, had to stop at 3 weeks :(

[@kianna2530]

My daughter is 13 months old and I am so ready to stop and it’s been so difficult! It’s emotional and mentally draining now! I want my body back and I cry at night time because I am over it! I am glad I did it and I used to love it but now it’s too much! There feels like there’s nothing more to give and I do not want to do it anymore😔 you did what’s best for you

[@YVM2489]

Our baby bites every time my wife is trying to breastfeed , she doesn’t say but each time she weeps and there is also blood that has come few times , we visited many doctors and consultants and all are saying you should breastfeed and it will get better but I don’t see it getting better , I am seeing my wife getting broken and don’t know how to help.

[@Makelynn_97]

I totally get what you are saying! Watching this has helped me realize that “it’s okay to not breastfeed” every mom is different. I wanted to breastfeed until 1 year, I lasted untill that 5 month mark and I couldn’t do it anymore. When my baby was 4 months I recently got pregnant again, so my supplies of breastmilk was very low. I was so hard on myself for not being able to breastfeed because of my pregnancy. But my husband helped me realize that not every non can do this, especially while pregnant. Thank you for being an inspiration!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Thank goodness for encouraging husbands!!

[@moniqueschultz2967]

Thank you so much for your openness and vulnerability! This is my first video I've seen on your channel, I had the literal exact experience with my baby boy at 4 months. I also put self-pressure around nursing and pressed on with low supply which ultimately caused him to dip too low in weight because I was so against supplementing, viewing it as a failure. It feels so good to know someone else out there struggled with the same exact feelings and experience. Thank you for sharing , I feel so validated and like I'm not alone ❤️❤️

[@estefanymendoza5490]

Breastfeeding is such a challenge for so many moms out there and it sucks when some moms have it so easy and you can’t help but compare yourself and feel guilty of course. My breastfeeding journey was just as difficult but I had my husband in my ear telling me to never stop meanwhile i didn’t have or produce hardly enough to fill her so my baby was always hungry, then I had others just pushing me to do formula. I never wanted to lose my bond with her but at the same time I wanted more freedom. I miss my daughter breastfeeding SO MUCH now that’s she’s weaned but I still enjoy the freedom. That being said, I should’ve ignored everyone and just did what made me happy. Breastfeed and formula supplementing would’ve been the best option for me until I could get my milk supply up. There’s really no wrong way as long as both of you end up happy. Now pregnant with baby #2 I know I will be doing both and making sure my milk supply is where it needs to be and I will NOT be ashamed to use formula when I need to. I made it clear to my husband and family. I’m the mama I know what’s best for my baby. End of story

[@oldaccountnotused.]

LOVE this video!! at around 2 months my supply dipped a lot. my son was always hungry right after breastfeeding and he was so upset all the time because i simply was not making enough milk to keep up with him, i tried pumping more, milk boost cookies, drinking more water, and many many other things and it just wasn’t working. we ended up buying our first container of formula and it was an incredibly difficult decision for me, i felt like i had failed! my son is now 5 months old and we continue to do both breastfeeding and formula feeding, i breastfeed as much as i possibly can (about 5-6 times a day) but we still end up needing to give him about 3 bottles of formula throughout the day, thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement! this really made me feel so much better about my decision to add formula to my sons diet ❤️ you are doing a great job!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

YOU are doing a great job! Thank you for sharing

[@abigailloar956]

I had to formula feed because i could not produce and i cried almost every night. It is so emotional, especially if you enjoy it and get that bonding feeling when you breast feed. My son is 4 months and i still breast feed to sooth because i he like it and i like the bonding. I still wish i could have breast fed completely but I've excepted it. It takes time

[@sulyg.5607]

My baby never latched and then I tried pumping and that also didn’t work out 😓 I’d sit for about an hour trying to express as much milk as I could and I could never get to even an ounce. I felt so frustrated and my baby was frustrated every time I tried to breast feed, so I decided to exclusively formula feed and I felt so guilty...still do! My precious baby girl is almost 4 months and I still feel so guilty but I try to tell myself that I tried my very best! You’re doing great mama 💕

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You're doing great! If you hadn't given formula, she wouldn't have gotten enough so you absolutely did the right thing!!

[@daughterofthelord01]

Most ppl who say such ignorant things such as " you must have been formula fed" probably is NOT a parent and who's notion of parenting does not go beyond taking care of thier pet.... At the end of the day what you have to do to feed your baby is np one's business, but you honesty is both refreshing and encouraging.

[@blancabonilla-battaglia1960]

I have a 6 month old and went through the guilt but to be honest I’m still going through it because I’m still producing some, so I nurse her from time to time as a “snack”. I sometimes want to go back and do pumping sessions to bring back my supply but I just don’t have the energy to sit and pump for an hour anymore. Luckily I manage to freeze enough expressed breast milk that she getst to have in the mornings and then it’s formula and solid foods throughout the day. I appreciate you sharing you’re experience because it helps me to cope and know that there are many other mommy’s out there who have gone through the same struggle that I’ve/I’m going through.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Yes! I highly suggest looking through the comments at other womens stories too! You are so not alone!

[@mariapt125]

I actually watched this while pumping. Ive been very discouraged because i pump every 3 hours to keep my supply and freeze some, but im also a working mom and i have a 2 year old on top of my 2 month old. Its just so inconvenient to pump every 3 hours when youre busy, and I seriously wanted to quit. But watching this reminded me of why im doing it, and gave me a little hope. Thank you!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

I'm so glad you are encouraged

[@deeferris6757]

We’re all in the same boat. My baby is 4 months, I had to stop breastfeeding because I didn’t produce in one. And then this pandemic hit, and we couldn’t find formula. We started looking up ways to make our own even, because of others hoarding. Having family close to help us look, was the best blessing we could’ve asked for.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

I'm so so glad you were able to find what you needed

[@ezimonteiro6668]

I always thought breastfeeding would be painful for me... I had a c-section and my milk didn't come for a few days. I used a nipple shield because baby had a hard time latching. After about a month and a half, I read that nipple shields aren't the best because it may interfere in the milk production, so I hired a lactation consultant because I couldn't get baby to latch without the shield. Once I was able to get him to latch, it was so painful and I was very frustrated and feeling like a failure. Also it bothered me not knowing if baby was getting enough milk. That led me to pumping. I started my pumping journey and also suplementing with formula once a day. I still felt like a failure because I thought I was less of a mom due to not having the baby attached to the breast. A few months went by and I still strugle even though baby gets breast milk most of the day. My son is now 5 months old and I plan on pumping once and giving him more formula around 6/7 months because my maternity leave will end. Breastfeeding is HARD and the guilt is REAL, but we are doing the best we can do :)

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You're doing a great job mama

[@al2024lo]

Just had to comment that I love your dog! So cute and dreaming in the background while you are talking😁

[@ysismariasanchez9766]

Breastfeeding is hard, transitioning to formula is also hard, I understood every word you said, my story is similar, I was about to go back to work full time and my milk bank was running out so we bought the formula but then covid 19 appeared and I was sent back home so I didn't have to use the formula, but I was about to and the hardest part was to give up on that bonding time with my baby

[@PrettyNeeNee]

I came here to say, I loved your story! Thanks for sharing!! I also wanted to say how adorable your dog was, just laying there asleep the entire video. 🥲

[@JitterbugJC]

I struggled with myself when I was contemplating switching both of my boys to formula, both were different reasons. I also wanted to breastfeed for a year with both and only made it 9 months with the first and 6 months with the second. My husband was so supportive both times it was an inner conflict I had to deal with. Time heals, you are a great mom whatever you decide.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Yes that is so true! And 9 and 6 months is still amazing!

[@nialauren114]

You can honestly see & hear the hurt.. I feel for you & I’m sure that eventually you’ll start feeling better about it. You’re still a good mom & you made decisions that you thought were best for you & Jace & that’s perfectly fine. ❤️

[@1006tricia]

Please do not feel guilty! I am feeling just like you. I had my baby on March 30 during the virus and I didn’t have the support I needed as a new mom and I switched to formula and feel the same about the price of formula. I am so happy you have a supportive husband. I wish I could have breastfed and I agree I will eventually get over it. My daughter is happy and thank you so much for posting this!!!!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Hey girl! Thanks so much for the kind encouraging comment! I know others are feel the same way and I'm glad this video helped you! Take care

[@nathaliemora671]

I’m a young mom and I did try to breastfeed but it was just supper stressful and I couldn’t get my baby to latch at all ! My breast were bleeding and aching so horribly I cried . I tried to take a couple days off breastfeeding and just feed my baby formula but my pump just broke I couldn’t get anyone to go get me a new one so I had to stick to formula and I was just devastated ! But no matter how you feed your baby doesn’t mean your any less of a mom❤️ as long as your baby is healthy and happy that’s all that matters ! Don’t let the guilt get to you

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Yes! That is so right! I'm glad it all worked out in the end for you and your baby!

[@britneyaalya4601]

I'm transitioning into formula feeding. So in the morning and evening my baby girl is formula fed and at night she's breastfed. And it's so hard for me to except the fact that my breastfeeding journey is coming to an end. My milk supply has been so low it is not enough for my baby. I wanted to breastfeed until 6 months and she's almost 3 months. I'm still sad about it.

[@HeyItsKayJayBae]

Once I started to give my daughter bottles she would not go back to the breast because the bottle came out so much faster but I ended up getting donated breastmilk from moms that have an over supply so I didn’t have to get sick to my stomach every time I fed her a bottle of formula because she would not nurse anymore she is 18 months old and still drinks donated breastmilk ☺️

[@WhaleSquishy]

You are special. You are someone’s mother. That’s pretty damn special 💕

[@andreav9045]

That's so deep. I love this comment.

[@jnsproductions1865]

💖💖💖

[@Mala_Mia1]

Thanks for sharing your story! We have had to combo feed since my LO was 3 days old, and formula has definitely saved my breastfeeding journey because we're still happily combo feeding 8 months later. I definitely felt shame and guilt in the very beginning but I've long come to terms with it and know that a fed baby is best. I think not enough people know about combo feeding. It's definitely the best of both worlds. Breastfeeding your child does not have to be an all or nothing deal.

[@MelissasJournal]

You are so amazing! It is not easy making that decision and I totally understand the load of breastfeeding on top of working and everything else you have going on. You have to do what is best for your sanity and your baby. New sub! 💙

[@rainbowyellow7348]

Breastfed my first for 14 months. For me it was perfect time for mom and baby to cuddle. I was sad when I stopped. Now I had to stop breastfeeding my twins at ONE WEEK old. I am still heartbroken, but I had to stop to keep my mental health. It was not possible for me to manage. But I feel awful. And kind of regret it.

[@wmnpwr98]

That sounds so tough, breastfeeding for two.

[@ashtynk7653]

Thank you for posting this! I've been praying about whether I should stop pumping or not. I produce very little, and what little I do produce comes with a lot of stress and headache. I've been feeling so guilty about wanting to stop and worried because of everything going on. But I know that I need to trust God ultimately to protect and provide for my family. ❤

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You got this mama, I hope you get some clarity on the best decision to make. Much love

[@neliboseva2721]

Thank you for this video! I breastfed my 2-month old baby girl the first month and switched to formula because she wasn’t gaining the right amount of weight. My milk supply was low, though it was really good at the beginning and she had a great latch. I guess the stress of having a newborn affected it. I wish I could have breastfed for longer, but it is what it is. What is important is that your baby is healthy and happy ❤️

[@alexlg9521]

Oh hunny I'm so sorry you fell for that. There's no "right amount of weight". Every baby is different, just like every adult weighs a different amount and is a different height. Breastmilk is by far the best way to get your baby to grow. Just keep feeding and trust that your body was designed specifically to feed your baby. The more you fed the more your supply will grow. The medical system is very successful in getting women to mistrust their bodies which is totally inaccurate. How do you think the human race survived before formula? Formula doesn't have probiotics in it either, which is essential for the developing gut health of babies.

[@MicaelaContreras]

My milk supply tanked overnight and I have twins I had to supplement a couple bottles in the last week and it was heartbreaking but my babies need to eat and I wasn't producing enough for them. My supply is slowly increasing back up but babies are moving up to 4 oz so I'm praying I can stay on this journey. Breastfeeding is the most beautiful thing I've ever done even though it's painful and tiring.

[@mandipalermo]

This is EXACTLY what happened to me and my baby! As soon as covid hit I started trying to relactate but it wasn’t happening for me. I regret it and I miss it so much. We picked a weird time but it doesn’t make us wrong. I totally understand the guilt and I am so relieved to hear another momma going through what I went through. Thank you Nicole ❤️

[@christinastarnes1390]

My daughter would not keep her latch and my supply never really increased from 1-2 oz. despite seeing a lactation consultant multiple times, I did all I could and was pumping and with a newborn it was just exhausting and I was overwhelmed with guilt. My husband said the same thing....stop doing this to yourself and give her formula! So I did 😔 and she is just fine 🙃 the mom guilt is real!

[@Jebettio1988]

I had exactly the same issue. Felt bad at first but it was the best for her and me

[@amyd6518]

A fed baby is a happy baby. Simple. I breastfed both of mine but with my son thought about going to formula because he was hungry all the time. The first couple of months are WORK. People say it's natural and easy but there is a learning curve. You are both doing it for the first time, it takes some getting used to. There was about a two week period where my nipples felt like they were being sanded down. I stuck with it. The way my health visitor explained breastfeeding to me is that, your milk is tailor made for your baby so it's really easy for them to process so they can get hungry again quick. Formula sits in their tummy making them feel full for longer because it takes their digestive system longer to process it. I ate pretty much constantly, drank tonnes of water all the time to help keep my supply up. With my son I pumped every 4 hours and that trained my let down. With my daughter I never had to pump she took to it so well. I started giving them both solids (puree) from 3 months because they were ready. By the time they were 6 months they were on my milk, 3 meals a day plus snacks. I had hungry babies!!! I had to really push with my son to make breastfeeding work. It was hard. More women need to talk about how hard it is! Only you know what's best for you and your baby. If that means switching to formula then do it! We are all just trying our best for our family.

[@Queen.Bee08]

Thanks for being open Nicole! This video will help a lot of mommy’s if they’re feeling any guilt over stopping nursing. Just to know they’re not alone ya know! But I’m so sorry this happened and that you feel regretful. However, feelings are temporary and soon you’ll feel free from that guilt. Because there’s no condemnation in Christ Jesus so please don’t let yourself go there. Jace still gets to have you as his full time care giver and I think that’s awesome. Sucks when they have to go to a babysitter (even though I know some fam have to do that to work and provide.) so I’m not throwing shade at them either. Anyway. Thanks for the transparency! Love you 😘

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You are right! Thank you for the encouragement

[@jenstar1031]

I had this experience with pumping. I hated pumping and had so much anxiety over it. I wanted to build a stash in the freezer in case of an emergency and it didn’t happen.. Definitely seeing videos on KZbin from moms pumping like 100 oz a day and me not even being able to pump 4 oz made me cry thinking I wasn’t good enough for my baby.. I’m still breastfeeding and stopped pumping and it’s so freeing! Maybe I didn’t reach that “goal” that I had in mind but my baby doesn’t even know and he’s perfectly happy! A fed baby is the best baby!!😄😄💙

[@melissaochoa5057]

Jen Flores I hate pumping too. I had a very hard time enjoying breastfeeding in the first 8-12 weeks of my babies life because I had strong let down and he would choke sometimes. He caught up and I enjoy breastfeeding now, but I hate pumping so I only pump when I am at work which is enough for the next time I work. I am so happy I don’t have to pump outside of work.

[@joliefemme83]

I too hate pumping and also like you Jen Flores only produced like 4 oz even if that for a 20 minute session . I feed my daughter breast milk for the most part but I do give her take a bottle or two a day of formula just so that she will be used to taking a bottle when I return back to work when she’s 6 mo.old . The KZbin videos of the moms who overproduce are very hard to watch so I stopped watching them and just focused on my body . Getting rest liquids and eating right are all I focus on and I pump once a day, but sometimes none at all because the stress of building a stash was too much to handle :( .

[@rosiebick91]

Thanks for sharing mama! I love how you say that we don’t owe anyone an explanation- it’s so true!! I feel like I have to have a “good excuse” and I don’t really feel like my excuse is good enough... which is why I also feel so much regret about the decision I made. Here’s hoping we can all start being less judgmental with each other and with ourselves. We need to do what makes the most sense for us and sometimes we might be able to look back and wish we had done things differently, but in those moments all we can do it what we think is best 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@stephaniehorn1029]

I have a newborn, breastfeeding is crazy difficult. I’m currently trying to develop higher volume of milk.

[@autumningle402]

Power pump & drink plenty of water. Stay well fed too

[@valerieblomquist1253]

Keep pumping and breastfeeding your baby! The first weeks are the hardest with breastfeeding in my experience. Their cluster feeding days will naturally increase your supply. If you ever feel like you don’t have enough milk for your baby be reassured that’s actually very rare. Obviously go see your doctor to be sure, but don’t beat yourself up over it.

[@lostmaplegirl]

If you can I highly recommend working with a lactation consultant, they make things so much easier.

[@taniz2444]

My child is almost 2.5 years old and I still have guilt that I stopped breastfeeding when she was a month old and my milk dried because she was in the ICU due to RSV. Not something I could’ve changed but I still regret it. I totally get it. As far as formula if he is not allergic to milk try generic brand formulas. They give babies the exact same nutrients as brand names and cost fraction of the price. Peditrician approves advice!!! Try members mark brand from sams club. Good luck

[@krisp5271]

Wow Im going through that right now 😭 this video literally helped me so much. I am feeling so alone about this. I’m so glad I came across this video. ❤️❤️❤️

[@Nicolelelagreen]

Aww so happy it helped you!!

[@jessicahiggins8094]

You are not alone!!

[@paulandanna5399]

Thanks so much for sharing this mama. Huge encouragement. I know that in this day and age, it’s sorta difficult and to even share these things even if it’s just our own raw and honest stories and experience sometimes bc of the public judgement? You didn’t need to explain or share this, but thanks for opening up so honestly! I too switched to formula (actually earlier than you when both my babies were around 2months) and it was such an emotional hard decision .. had to fight lies that I am a bad mom and that my body was failing what I was supposed to do. But I know that was the best decision for my baby and still stick to it, giving thanks to the Lord for his provision and trusting that the Lord is continuing to strengthen and nourish them and our family ;) thanks again!!!

[@nayanigordon]

Thank you so much for your video! I’m feeling EXACTLY how you are rn my baby is 3 months and I returned to work and my supply went down so much. But Im not ready to give my journey up but I know it’s the best for my baby for our situation 😔

[@zaidabg547]

I sympathize with a lot of moms in the comments. I suffer from diverticulitis. I had acute episode when my baby was 2 months, had to stop breast feeding at that time due to antibiotics and my supply being so minimal. I felt extremely guilty having to switch to formula so early on but a fed baby is what's important. Tried my best to not be so hard on myself but it was extremely difficult.

[@4Distractiononly]

I'm thankful that I can breastfeed during this pandemic because I had the same worries about being able to get formula. We also cloth diaper which has saved me not only money but having to constantly get diapers for our newborn son. I was always going to be at home for the first six months of my baby's life but this whole thing has made it where I get more time to spend with him, his naps and feedings are so consistent because we aren't running around everywhere. So despite everything, that is something positive. Perhaps, we can learn something from this time. How much we fill our schedules not necessarily to the benefit of our children. Anyway, I know it's difficult to breastfeed for many women. It was hard for me at first. I had to supplement because I had a traumatic C-section and my milk was very late. And breastfeeding is a skill for both you and your baby, something you need to learn to do together. I think I thought it would be just so intuitive but it's not exactly like that. Once I understood that it's something you need to learn how to do, I felt better. It has nothing to do with how good a mother you are if they just don't pop on and it's smooth sailing. And often there are physical barriers as well. I know there are solutions to those if you want but if you can't, no judgement. Good moms do what they need to be present and happy for their children, not only to feed and cloth them.

[@chetnathakur8047]

Omg! Our breastfeeding journey is ditto! This happened exactly after 4 months, got my periods and felt my supply dipped. Started feeding formula along with breastfeeding but then within a week my baby stopped breastfeeding. She wont latch, start crying and would like only bottle. It hit me hard, felt so emotional, that never ending guilt and it was like postpartum blues again. Now my baby is almost 5 months and i have been combo feeding, formula and pumping. I loved breastfeeding but accepted the transition.

[@TheGoddessRises]

my baby has a heart condition, so he needs twice as many calories , and i can’t keep up with breast feeding, especially since my period came back my supply is lower.. so we are half and half so he can keep his calories up . it’s incredibly emotional, i’ve tried to get my supply up but im a solo mom . i don’t plan on dropping any breast feeding sessions, because it’s good for him and feeding him formula and trying to keep up supply takes a horrible strain on your mental state . thank you for your vulnerability it’s such a hard journey

[@bridgettehattingh4143]

I was a formula fed baby back in the 80s and I turned out ok. I have a master's degree, I'm not overweight, Im not diabetic, I'm not sick . Why is formula so vilified all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@maureenmccrackin6933]

I formula fed both of my daughters. One just graduated with a PhD, the other is a doctoral candidate. They are both healthy, no diabetes or overweight either. What seemed so significant at the time is pretty inconsequential 25+ years later.

[@jaciemokidm609]

Me and my sis were formula babies, too. And I think we're pretty cool 😎 haha

[@bridgettehattingh4143]

So glad to hear formula success stories. The way that some people carry on, one would swear that you were giving your babies sweets 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Lll-g7c4g]

FTM here My baby wasn't gaining weight on his 1 week check up and my stomach dropped when his Dr said that. They advised I try harder to BF or switch to formula. And I had to make that switch right then and there. I cried and cried. I just Couldnt make enough milk for him no matter what. By 3 weeks he was drinking 4 ounces. I tried to get back to BF and just Couldn't keep up. He is now 7 weeks drinking up to 6 ounces and I still feel so much guilt.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

As many others have said- a fed baby is best- no matter what it took to feed them. Much love to you, I pray you can let go of the guilt and only have joy and peace!

[@eyebfoxy]

Yea, the 4-month stage. Our doc warned me about it so I just rolled with it and started feeding on my side and in a dark room even during daytime. Some women start leaking breastmilk though, after more than a year of stopping their breastfeeding, when their kids get sick and the body wants to comfort them. Like sbd mentioned, there is medicine to get your supply back, or you can also try to give him boob again every now and then, just for the extra closeness and comfort, and maybe some milk will come back. They say breastfeeding is a supply and demand kind of thing. I would try, if not for anything else then curiosity. Maybe you won't have full supply but enough to give Jace some 'dessert' or comfort when he needs it. Good luck, whatever you do. Love your channel. Much love from Estonia! 😷💕

[@mmhh5579]

I’m in my second week of breastfeeding and yeah its definitely harder than I could ever imagine. I feel like I’m not producing enough

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

I’m in my first week.... don’t worry love. Trust that God has provided for you what you and your baby need. Before formula we never worried much about these types of things. Drink a lot of water and also during my pregnancy I found that eating a tbs of coconut oil daily helped milk production. Forgot the name of the hormone found in coconuts thats also found in breast milk but it’s worth a try. Im overproducing milk right now so try it

[@Helga-fe5xl]

The first 2 weeks were hard for me too but suddenly got easier. Worth carrying on!

[@ljaycee]

consume oats! it increases supply

[@jbarrier67]

omg i’m on my second week too! i’m over producing and what i think it might be is that i eat instant oatmeal mixed with cream of wheat at night made with almond milk. i also make smoothies with hemp hearts, chia seeds, and flaxseeds. also, mothers milk twice a day has been working i started drinking it two days ago. plus plus plus, i am also vegan and i think it helps too. i just need to find more ways to get fats into my diet, if anyone has any recommendations i am happy to hear them. also remember this stuff works for me and hoping you all try it too. maybe it will work. my sister is in her second month of breastfeeding and she is eating almost the same diet, minus the vegan part. i am trying to hard to not have any dips in milk supply. try hard try early is what i always say. ok i’m rambling now. stay safe. x

[@ServantStatusMinistries]

@@jbarrier67 hey I’m not vegan but I do eat similar to what you listed and if you need more healthy fats Avocado Most nuts especially peanuts, walnuts and almonds Cook more with olive oil, flaxseed and grapeseed oil and coconut oil is really good to take daily and provides a lot of fat in just a tablespoon Lentils so look up lentil soup recipe KZbin it is delicious Tofu

[@whitwhitbaker5870]

Sending you love during this time!! 💓 You’re doing the best you can for Jace and that’s what matters!

[@bevwong1801]

Hey nicole! I love following your journey because our baby is about a month apart and as mom’s are I love seeing I’m ‘on track’. It’s so hard not to compare as I honestly was baffled how Jace was eating 9oz at night.. my baby is a snacked and I have no idea if she’s eating ‘enough’. You are an amazing mom. Don’t beat yourself up!!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

I think that shocked a few people! Just know I feed him until he is all done and satisfied. If your baby is satisfied with less, then that is the perfect amount for her! You're doing great mama!

[@bevwong1801]

NicoleandRichie haha see you compare yourself to others, while I compare to you. We’re both amazing mama’s and not one perfect way. Your son is sooo cute.

[@kemicalromanc15]

I found this very helpful. I breastfeed my son for the last 8.5 months. I’m pumping 4x times a day and my production has taken a hit bc I’m constantly on the go and getting the right intake and he has basically has stopped feeding from the breast but takes it all via bottle. The only time he feeds is at night. I finally bought a tin of formula - it’s still sitting unopened. I’d ideally like to get to a morning pump and a evening pump and still feed in the evening and mix a bottle of formula or 2 during the day. It’s definitely not easy to decide. It’s just so overwhelming to have to pump only bc I’m just so on the go and have to schedule everything around that. Still haven’t started the transitioning but I’m working up to it. But yah - resonated with this.

[@JayG88]

I NEVER felt guilt over decisions I took with my newborn. Only me and my husband and the good Lord know the toll it took to breastfeed my baby. Therefore, Mama had to make an executive decision to switch her to formula. Guess what? Best thing ever! What good if my child is being breastfed, but her mom is deteriorating mentally and emotionally and resenting motherhood?

[@ndodier]

As a mom who is still breast feeding a 2 year old and waiting on my new born to arrive any day now. Breast feeding is a lot of work and also weaning idea difficult too. It has been nice to not have to carry formula around and bottles and the whole process of formula feeding. We all have a different journey in mother hood and all we can do is do our best. We got this mommies❤!

[@janemaryjane1003]

I dont get the whole shame and guilt thing. Im a dietitian and of course I know how beneficial breastfeeding is however at 3 months I gave up on it and felt so liberated going back to work and not having to constantly pump and deal with leaking breasts. And guess what? My kid turned out perfectly healthy. She took formula like a champ and when was time to switch to cow’s milk, there were no issues either.

[@raneesteiner8915]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us Nicole. I am trying hard to build my supply for my almost 1 month old. I have had to supplement with formula a number of times. I am currently producing just enough to not need to use that supplement. I am really giving it my all and I really needed that encouragement to keep going. Thank you for your insight and encouragement. I know it is a tough and very personal choice that you didn't have to share, but you did anyway. Thank you.

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You are such a sweetheart, thank you for being so kind. I'm am incredibly thankful that this encourages moms in all arenas!

[@jessicahiggins8094]

I see that this was posted 3 months ago, but I just wanted to say that if you are still putting effort into breastfeeding, you are amazing. And if you've transitioned to a routine that works better for you and your baby, you are amazing. I wish I had had encouragement at either of these moments in my journey. Much love

[@lindseyaloiasantana1028]

I also stopped because my baby was refusing and I got sad and other things 😔 😞 😪 😢 😕 😭 😔 😞 😪 I didn't want to stop breastfeeding I breastfeeding until 4months after he refused and moved his face and he didn't want my breast he was doing the same and he had formula also with breastfeeding and I only had low supply

[@ashleyperry8197]

I understand how you feel. I was devastated when I had to stop breast-feeding because my son wasn’t eating enough. He was very premature and just had some trouble with swallowing and we eventually had to get a G-tube for him. I still wonder if I had done something differently if he would have been better off. But we can’t beat ourselves up. You are doing a great job!

[@Nicolelelagreen]

You are right! we can't. You did what was best for the knowledge you had and you also did a great job! :)