I date older married Men, They are less needy than Guys my age - Real Talk with Tamima

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[@lanoishani630]

i think the footage is not in sync

[@ritawanjira4092]

Tamima how do I get to be an audience at your show?

[@davidkanyuga1423]

Scripted shows, ridiculous. This lady is on another dating show in Ebru Tv. Wacheni kubeba watu ujinga

[@ilhanabshir1690]

A0

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[@carloslouw4498]

Tamima is such a good interviewer, I love her. Kisses from South Africa.

[@Stannely1]

Lol She kind of reminds me of Noleen 😂😂😂

[@missroxanne8591]

Women should learn the value of building wealth and embracing growth. There's no greater feeling than having your own.

[@Emgee101]

People on their death bed do not talk about worldly anythings eg the amount of cash/wealth they've been able to amass but regret not spending enough time with those they love. So they'd actually shake their heads at your worldly advise.

[@kijana2030]

@@Emgee101 I understood what Roxanne posted differently. I think she meant that women should empower themselves so that they are not beholden to men. This way they'll engage as equals.

[@damarisgachejr8947]

I conquer with u

[@Emgee101]

@@kijana2030 yes I see your point. The thing is I'm just wondering when you say engage as equals, in what way? The way I see it is, men and women are not equals and never will be. We both have our strengths and weaknesses. Let men be who men are and women be who women are. No need to engage as equals rather complement one another. I believe that was the lords intention.

[@richman9116]

Women should choose family , according to the book of genesis ,

[@mistikalnawe]

i cant get enough of this show and the host is so natural at her job!! the whole flow and setup is professional and done perfectly, especially with an audience and topics like this. no trash, just class.

[@damaris7687]

Ms. Wandera. Totally agreed with what you said! Totally admire your courage to speak God's truth even if you're the only one doing it. May God bless you always.

[@Yvonne_Chege]

100%

[@ElsieWandera]

Asante sana

[@brianbe]

It is very possible to be chaised/pure till marriage...that's why there is self control as a fruit of the Spirit through Christ."We are priced possessions."A good show.

[@angelawandia1111]

Awesome!

[@June-tu1wb]

Preach some more

[@davidochieng9905]

@@June-tu1wb didn't believe

[@_DennisNjenga]

You know there are christians who are caught up in porn for years...its just not that easy, i always see christians making it an open and shut case

[@NegSteLucie]

Yes, we are called to remain chaste.

[@AlbertMakambi]

Dear Switch TV Tamima deserves a promotion Sincerely, me.

[@davidmuriithi]

I completely agree 👍🏾

[@imeldakins]

This counselor is so wise thanks for telling this young girls the truth about marriage, there attracting soul ties

[@makhatha4723]

A relationship is not always about sex, but chemistry, love, emotions

[@mutheenabea]

Tamima i love your shows,for sure this is your area of calling,keep it up Good work

[@abukyaangmajok5261]

Cheating is a choice!! I repeat a choice. No pressure, no influence, no nothing. Incidentally, it shows the kind of a person you purely are. One's cheating has totally nothing to do with the other significant partner.

[@GoEunbeol_049]

I agree with you

[@jacobmathu3963]

Ni vigumu sana kufanya nyani aelewe kwamba asali ni tamu kuliko mandizi..... likewise it's hard to convince young generation that waiting till marriage is sweeter, better and more happier than dishing your cookies around in the name of showing love to your partner who you are not married to.

[@joycenganyule3231]

jacob mathu ni shida

[@sisterhoodwebcast7093]

The generation of today don't get the fact that once you have sex with someone you are married to them till you get delivered(of course this is for believers). Thank God im still tacked at 28 which most will not believe but help us GOD.

[@jacobmathu3963]

@@sisterhoodwebcast7093 Mtawaliwa siku zote anataka kuiga mtawala katika maumbile yake, mavazi yake, kazi zake na yote yanyohusikana na hali yake na desturi zake... We embraced civilization by hating who we were, our way of living our culture our taboos and ethos. We think being civilised is measured by how many girls we sleep with, breaking our virginity as eariest as possible, the amount of money we make from sponsors and cougars etc. We are a smug generation that our young people, have fully stocked pharmacies in their bellies with 98% of the stock made up of P2 while our lads bost of vitality and vigour only to realise that Viagra have become their QID drug and PRN where possiable. Why all this? To quench thirst of doing nooky. WHAT A PITTY, WHAT A TRAGEDY, WHAT A LOSS OF ENERGY TO UNWARRANTED COURSES. Have mercy on our generation God

[@kerinafula7089]

Kw Irigara I hope you know the God we pray to now is from the mtawala

[@sisterhoodwebcast7093]

@@kerinafula7089 it depends on what you believe is GOD.

[@morganogata6426]

i really love your show tamima really educative every segment

[@b.f.tschannel351]

Tamima ur one of those few people with mature talk shows in kenya,and u must really be working hard,thank u.

[@francisnderu588]

If this kind of generation we're raising, I honestly see a dull future full of trouble, no wonder depression won't stop hitting pple.

[@ralph839]

Do not for a minute think that past generations were any different. Where do you think they picked that stuff from? You are not even offering any solutions, you are lamenting, taking the higher moral ground, judging..

[@bestcookingchanel7767]

Very true

[@tamytruth]

Topic ended on a good note. Winnie thank you for exposing the truth about porn. Applied knowledge is power. I think sex is too deep for toys btw, understanding the purpose and use of sex rules it out. I like hearing from truth talking Elsie also. Looking forward to more appearances by her on the show. The last guest was refreshing to see as well. She also raised a salient point about how boys are taught to become men vs girls to women. Question: Can Real talk with Tamima have it's own youtube page? I dont want the other switch tv programs. Just this one. 🇹🇹👀watching.

[@ElsieWandera]

Tamy truth thanks 🙏

[@JumaTrojanHorse]

"I model, I am a modeller". Tears in my eyes 😃

[@beatriceatieno3644]

Don't make me laugh

[@solomonnjenga6778]

Iam modeler 😂😂

[@dhillietd]

"I don't compromise. If i don't like it i don't, if i don't want it i don't." a queen. i have to stan

[@ampugire7213]

I'm 29yrs I actually struggle in all my relationships I always take things serious but not for the other side its so frustrating love from south sudan

[@agnesslazaro5816]

Halafu purity hyo tabia si nzuri kuchukua mabwana za watu ukiuawa utaanza kusumbua watu, tumalize MB zetu kukuandikia RIP jichunge pesa sio kila kitu maisha ni zawadi! Fanya kazi upate pesa

[@kiambuwrma2162]

Goodwork Timimah and Switch TV. I am a great fun coz I learn alot to empower young girls and boys. Just because I myself my parents did prepare me. But I thank God I overcame and now I am a wife and a mother.

[@margaretmuriithi5462]

God have mercy on this young generation eti bora cash

[@1Zret]

A follow up show with these girls now that a year has passed will be interesting. Kudos to the host and Elsie.

[@jayjay54321]

I love this show. Very candid conversations

[@joysam4344]

Aiyaaa wasichana wa prefect match wamejaa Huku😂😂😂

[@wewajacinta2258]

Yes ,I noticed that too

[@meldyniewanjohi3894]

Joy Sam I thought perfect match was just a show. Not based on real life!!!

[@wambookiai8429]

I was actually going through the comments to see if anyone else noticed but alas!!! Tupo hapa ..her name was Purity on perfect show...what's her name here on this show

[@aishaabdi8845]

Awaa joh ni ngoriii wako kila base😂😂😂

[@rashidkeke9462]

Wasichana warongo ati ni mabikira wakati wamejaza sex toys kwanyumba namakiukamba kwendeni huko

[@ruthgibson2097]

Sex outside marriage is still sin guys

[@halfloaf1108]

🧐

[@gkalu6176]

TRUE!! We call it FORNICATION!!!

[@jonnymartin6238]

Bt in this generation guys ?????only prayers

[@fungaimabuda3377]

Sex before marriage is not a sin,if God wanted us to wait until then,he would not have provided the machinery earlier! I mean he is God,he would give them to us as wedding gifts.kkkk

[@DaisyKiprop25]

@@gkalu6176 its adultery...fornication is sex before marriage

[@arichedayson4506]

Let people see the generation we have, thank you Tamima. From Tanzania

[@NegSteLucie]

If a woman doesn't respect herself why should she expect a man to respect her?

[@berlynebetty1078]

when a girl cheats,she looses interest in her partner but when a boy cheats,he will still love his partner although not as before,but will pretend demur to let go. am a girl,I have cheated,regreted. we never broke up.

[@belarlishimw4911]

Love from Burundi . Keep it up jolie Tamina❤️

[@tawonezvichuru4038]

As much as it's impressed on women to be chaste. It should be the loudest on men because we are the ones who take the ultimate initiative.

[@juddysusan19]

You have spoken well. Kwanza there are married men who appear chaste but they are constantly seeking for an opportunity to cheat on their wife with you and their tenacity is like that of the devil. Yet on social media they are very faithful happily married family men

[@kingsdaughter2040]

I waited until God brought me the man he was pleased with and am still proud because I have my secondary virginity and am married for more than 1 5yrs and I promise God to be loyal to him

[@michaelheery7427]

Do you want a GOLD MEDAL.

[@beatriceogolla8908]

Wow, this is beautiful

[@JourneywithKasitti]

you should be greatful. I married a conman, who conned me to the root, conned my parents, Conned his friend (politicians too) and it has been tough but i bless the lord Jesus for the strength. Most men aint truthful, so give thanks.

[@zipwangui]

Your man must be cheating...just a thought. Loosen up dear.

[@kingsdaughter2040]

@@zipwangui he is a serial cheater but what God gave me it's spirit of forgiveness remember it brings healing

[@angelanjue9370]

Purity, parity... Sijakuita.... One day the old men will get younger girls.... You will have left the "young age" bracket... Hope you are saving for old age.....

[@sentwhales8002]

This Cecilia is saying ati alifunga duka na juzi alikuwa kwa perfect match akitaka kununuliwa weave ya 50k

[@sophiemomanyi6610]

i just love the way commentor have right hand info..nipe iyo link nikaone iyo clip... team wi-fi

[@fl8734]

Then hapa amekuwa 😂😂😂

[@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519]

😂😂😂

[@bohboh7692]

But perfect match n acting

[@justhere5905]

If you have no idea perfect match is just a script, you need help.

[@_naimali]

8:45 girl you’re so pretty ✨💕

[@roozrooz1121]

Thanks Tamima for the show.

[@sylviahmbithi4683]

thanks tamima for the show.i think my story can educate and also inspire many too

[@wanjikunganga277]

I feel like there is nothing more you can say to this generation..it’s up to you now..make your own choices and wait for consequences...acha niendelee kusoma comments.

[@janeotieno6378]

Very True...At this rate..mashoka ndio kusema... Just know who you are and what you want..

[@mwemapatti1896]

Wow kudos Tamima this is very empowering. Keep it up!

[@EmmanuelKwao-kw5yv]

Fantastic woman Yes l love this nice one 💚🌏💛👌👍👑🤛🌹🌹

[@anelisanakani506]

Wow this was interesting to watch 😮... watching from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@adijakayaro3719]

Am a virgin at 26.am dealing with too much pressure .I wish I can get an adviser

[@kahindapeter3060]

Sex before marriage and out side marriage is sin to your own body and to the most high God. I congratulate you for having reached that age . Don't let other people's pressure drive your decision making. Focus on the reason as to why you kept your self, if it is religion respect it and if it is cultural respect it too. The best gift for a lady to give his husband is virginity. Whenever these pressures thoughts come make busy of your self, read spiritual lifting books like the Bible, go for a sport and always know that there's nothing like you have to practice before marriage to know sex, that is a lie. The first day of your marriage life u shall be able to do exactly ur best. Sex before marriage and out side marriage has effects, like sexually transmitted diseases, un wanted pregnancy, etc. So continue with your purpose until you meet the Right person for the Rest of your life, pray strongly for it takes God's grace to reach the top always.

[@everlynemuthoni3846]

Heeeyyy follow brendahjons or gathonijones on ig i swear you'll change your mind ,or view her highlights on sexual sin .

[@stephenonyango778]

In short purity is a prostitute but she can't say that. Having guys just for sexual pleasure in exchange for monetary gain. The audience was clapping for her. Shame. Big shame I think this talk is not so engaging and thought provoking. It is very one sided. It is like inviting a group of girls to just share their sexual activities but not challenging them.

[@nancyberyl1825]

@Stephen Onyango So long as prostitution is not banned in Kenya 50% of the ladies will do it as a full time job. They Love fast earned money😑😐

[@sandramb8332]

Purity is just doing what most women wish to be doing

[@fotycows3830]

You've just nailed it

[@kezgachoka5331]

Big up Tamima for the great job.. God bless you

[@tsuemafcon6860]

Good show... watching from Zimbabwe

[@veilamichiraqatar5184]

Purity ametembea na mzee Mpaka amezeeka

[@jacklinewanjiku6644]

😂😂😂

[@ggrace254]

😝😂😂😂

[@aggieaggie8444]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Carkin290]

Hapa tunacheswa,huyu purity si alikuwa kwa closure ebru tv the other day!!ama hii ni acting 🤔🤔

[@camillasantos4737]

@@Carkin290 exactly

[@carolinekanini8444]

Can't get enough of these show....

[@felixambila5075]

As a future old man..im writing notes!ati alikuwa anakupatia how much?

[@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519]

Felix Ambila really?

[@lillieGatz]

Felix Ambila 🤣🤣🤣😃😂😂

[@anneawuor2614]

😂😂😂😂

[@ellylnternational8032]

Am already in love wiz language. So eloguet Tamima.

[@masilela_sa9621]

These beautiful girls must visit South Africa. Mpumalanga Province at a place called KwamMlanga and will treat them right.

[@Sunflower-dw9wg]

😅🤣

[@RyanRennox254]

for a girl aged 22 years and dating old married men, it is a total disgrace

[@Keenytravels]

Where are you basing it on? The Bible or what you feel is right?

[@RyanRennox254]

@@Keenytravels from my point of view n societal view too🙄🙄

[@Keenytravels]

@@RyanRennox254 Then I think it should be a choice... Because she has a different view

[@livingstoneAdika]

Being in a relationship as a woman you have to study the man before giving him your body.lf the man don't want some time to ,we muache,but relationship man Ni macho to but awoman is your all body and mind why try cheat then you mess up .big up tamima

[@tabietalks.6745]

Very educative and important

[@stephaniesharonokayo1217]

Weh!Purity...madam!!! Anyway I saw her in 10/10.....and closure too...gurl!!! You're making a bed of 'roses'......Naachia tu hapo👐👐The stories 💣💣 As women we are really "something" Each and everyone of us....Good Show Tamima!!!👏👏👏

[@damarisnyaanga6318]

Dating a married man is lk driving a government car it can't be urs for ever

[@nziegamaleys3144]

Dat true

[@reginawamboi5128]

But the ones dating married men already knows they will never be theirs.

[@Rongesa]

🐴🐴🐴

[@angelicrue9238]

this was very educative, thank you

[@nelsonawori4079]

Puchee is misleading and should be banned from this show..

[@jonnymartin6238]

Very true hana future

[@ibrahimovicjunior9815]

Very true,,,she is just like those ladies in Sabina joy but do it in modern ways in different geographical...

[@gogontlekhumo8362]

Tamima is so beautiful, what does her name mean??

[@shirleyhazel6317]

We all need Christ.

[@christiesworld90]

This Puchee girl won't repeat those words at 28. She'll be laughing at herself

[@nimu2546]

Christine Nkatha I swear atakuwa motivational speaker😂😂😂😂

[@christiesworld90]

@@nimu2546 Tumeona wengi, getting older humbles you.

[@tabithamuroki2947]

Wow Mary Wanja my classmate in high school,pole sana hopefully u find true love someday

[@millygicovi7380]

Heplful conversation I'm really looking forward to the boys show

[@blessedcharlene7056]

I like the show, instilling some sense in our young girls.

[@tannahmutune8245]

Watching from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼 #Loving the show

[@gift2622]

Thank u mrs chancellor God bless u

[@akinyiokeyo4618]

God in heaven help us! Hawa watoto hawana hata aibu.

[@lavendermuyanzi9790]

Your own money is good... Wake up and chase it stop looking for older men...

[@emillyolewe4018]

😂

[@nwakaegonwoye4860]

In my opinion, when a man is older than a women whils't in relationship, therefore he should not cheat on her, otherwise their relationship might break up .the older one should protect their relationship cause he had more experience than the younger one. Cheating in relationship is like I don't care .or been selfish and unsatisfying person in relationship. So ladies when a guy is cheating please let him or her go and find someone else, happiness is all.

[@michaelheery7427]

So easy cheat in kenya.

[@temmynoel1849]

Some girls are not aware of a guy they date with.Imagine nilikua na girlfriend for 6 year(2014....2019) I ever dreamed to have other girls/cheat on her,I hv goals with her that I ever told her coz I new she'll change some day. Now yuko chuo mwaka wa kwanza,tumekua na mawasiliano kwa muda kidogo but suddenly silent starts from her,o called her her number is busy I tried to text her no answer a month now,I asked her close friend they she's ok but to she never behave like that,I've ever felt the way I felt now,6 freaking year came up with nothing,girls do you think,if I say I go on with my life what will happen to other girls who will come to me?

[@debbiekerubo4975]

What the counselor says is very true.... Shida sasa ni marriages are also messed up nowadays...

[@jonkeedatacollection]

The expert is a resource and the presenter is superb

[@angelaouya3767]

Huyu Cecelia ndio alikuwa anataka weave ya 50 K Heheh madem msibebwe ufala na maboy mafala, sb who doesn't even feed himself and wants to reap where he hasn't sown. Stay woke!!!

[@melisawanja7879]

Hehe kumbe pia wewe umemwona

[@khadijahtumna2016]

Yaah imgn 50k, wig on an empty head!

[@essyessy7710]

Walai tena ni yy

[@leaksofkanairo5636]

50k wig ivalishe kichwa yenye haina akili?

[@wambui4590]

@Kuku Mfalme stage management is the order of the day in contemporary Media. That's how business goes on. The end justifies the means.

[@fanuelsismail1567]

90 days rule mostly always works but how many are ready to wait for only threee months b4 opening the shop.......

[@June-tu1wb]

Can you abstain yourself??

[@natalietenai8584]

Tamaa ndio mingi

[@eddieroch5347]

when your partner cheated on you, you suppose to dumped them... it doesn't matter a woman or a man they will break your heart again because they know you will be there for them,..sasa kwa nini asi cheat na anajua uko pale na umuezi mwacha,.. you can forgive someone but you can't forget and even if they cheated with your friend, best is to dumped them both,.. Two things in this world you are not suppose to chase is friendship and relationship.

[@nakkaziwinfred6204]

Purity is genuine and pure like her name kudos girl

[@dankiptala7295]

Tamima you are the best host 💥💥

[@jeromeclarke4141]

From Suriname ,,South America ,the Caribbean to the promoter of this show ,,my compliments ,further is that its important for females to be honest ,,we men can sometimes be,,,, manwhores ,,,, forgetting that we came from a mother ,,do have sisters and would never be happy with another man exercising injustice to thier female reltives,,,its good idea to place the address of a Kenyan Dating website whereby others can see it here Greetings to all of the beautiful sisters ,,God Bless

[@valentinemuthoni8638]

At 10:44 hey Sharon. Someone I know is on Tamima. I am famous😂😂😂

[@_DennisNjenga]

Shout out Irene for being 100. It is a breath of fresh air. I thought Kenyan TV is just shit, this programme is a great thing. Congrats

[@wisdomlife]

Tamima, I respect you, that is tough talk not so many would venchour in.....

[@morganogata6426]

tamima can you have a conversation on difference between obsession and love and the fact that we are having deaths due to love...i would love to get this story

[@philipndirangu4855]

Sure

[@brilliantmind9729]

Does real talk import people from February TV Perfect Match because I always see ule dem was 50k weave here wearing the same 2k weave she'd worn last time

[@nancyberyl1825]

@liz beth Umesema weave ya how much ndo amevaa🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@georgeobare6289]

Importation hapo simama nishuke

[@mweusimrembo890]

February??? Iyo Ni ipi

[@angelamuli6445]

I never find someone who can fulfill my needs that's why I learned to depend on me.

[@estahadassah9470]

Whitney Houston👍, the greatest love of all🎶🎵

[@purityntinyari8541]

Your my twin alwayz believe in myself without depending on some

[@mariahmwaniki4707]

Waiting for more hot topics guys🤗🤗

[@briannesta2740]

Let me just be open, we men we cheat a lot.Kama mnakubaliana na mimi piteni na likes

[@gideonwams5389]

Speak for yourself nanii😕

[@loycethoya372]

Yeah boys cheat but real men don't..guess you are a boy

[@paultoday610]

Nowadays demons express themselves freely in human beings.

[@marynjengah2771]

Boys cheat real men don't

[@gamalsankara1388]

Women cheat more than men tho.

[@edinahmokaya8347]

“I would like to know if anyone in the audience has ever rushed to ICU because they didn’t have sex” I love this. You can say that over and over again. Girls, your body is the temple of God, respect yourself. Kudos to those girls abstaining from sex until marriage, may God give you the right husband.

[@sofienahimana4788]

I was pure till I got married and when I kissed my husband i was very naive I thought I am already pregnant. ..so naive that I laughed at myself

[@elleakenya]

🤣🤣🤣🤣Looking forward to that

[@ifrahsalad2333]

🤣 hahaha, so are you pregnant 🤰

[@pamelapam5213]

😅

[@thegratenjambinimurungah1219]

😂😂 ati you thought you were?

[@reagancapwell685]

Dumb or underage marriage?

[@jacksonchege7540]

they should bring back realy talk

[@denniso254]

This is the real talk and audience are all mademu. I have a suggestion, Tamima please don't use terms that some of us don't understand,, kutake selfie and mambo ya duka atuelewi. Say it don't hide it, hii program ni ya mayouth. Thanks

[@donnahangela9158]

😂😂😂

[@agnnetalawrence5442]

Hadi ukaekewa subtitles 😂😂😂😂 shida ni nini boychild?

[@denniso254]

agnneta lawrence , kutake selfie,duka ni nini lol, it’s an open platform ama niaje

[@judithogwang4466]

Engaging in sex before marriage hides a person's character.

[@jessyadventures8226]

This show is very educative

[@michellemukbang]

@49.32, ati i have puted/putted God first? Surely, ni mimi nimesahau Englisch ama?

[@emeldahotieno666]

Michelle MUKBANG it's not an English class my friend keep your grammar to yourself

[@biggrhymees88one]

Loneliness, depression and desperation may lead to porn addiction. Scary truth.

[@princessdiane0]

Purity i just love you

[@kijana2030]

I have no beef with what Elsie is saying about waiting for marriage but let's keep it real. The institution of marriage nowadays is not the way God intended it to be. Maybe we fix that then we can look forward to entering it. Also with education coming first and good faithful men as rare as the government balancing its budget, we will all be virgins until we die.

[@susanbookshop3511]

im confuse is this the girl by the name purity who came to #closure and said she left her boyfriend ju ya kuwa msoto. tena ako huku ana date older men .

[@daughterofmajor1846]

And that's why she's dating older men coz they give her cash😂😂😂😂

[@edwinomwamba8803]

so educating

[@suziesue7767]

The value of loving yourself

[@olivianamureme9363]

From Uganda 2020

[@mutiomonicah9029]

TAMIMA, show was lit ...purity wah, wacha na yeye she made my evening!

[@suewakuria6166]

Am done with relationships, maybe niingie kwa relationship kiasi nipate ball alafu nitoke mbio nikajilelee mtoi wangu bila stress🤰🤰🤰🤱🤱🤱

[@paultoday610]

Please Don't impose a curse on yourself. God created marriage to work. Ask Him for the grace.

[@suewakuria6166]

@@paultoday610 I don't want marriage, period

[@maureenmueni5835]

Why are you choosing life for your kid. That kid is human before they become your child. Who told you he/she does not want a father. Even if you will have all the money in the world and you will provide everything material, this child may not be fully comfortable without a father. Talking as an only child who has been raised by a single mum. Don't choose life for your child. Let destiny/fate/karma and above all God be the determinant of the life the human you will bear as your child will live.

[@maureenmueni5835]

If you don't want marriage don't have kids or better still adopt one. But don't choose life for someone.

[@suewakuria6166]

@@maureenmueni5835 and who the Hell are you to tell me what to do?if you wanna get married well and good its your fucking life,yes I will have my own kid,na atakaa vyenye mm nitasema,so please mind your own