她終身未嫁，在我家做了40年保姆，我卻不知道她是誰

香港攝影師唐景峰有3個祖母，外婆、奶奶，還有在他家做了37年保姆的“顔姐”麥顔玉。長大後，唐景峰偶然得知顔姐是中國最後一代自梳女，才發現自己對這個像外婆一樣的女人知之甚少，於是他決定去到顔姐的老家中山小欖，找尋她的故事。
Hong Kong photographer Kurt Tang has 3 nannies. Besides the two related by blood, the 3rd one is Yanjie, the domestic worker for his family for 37 years. Later as an adult, Kurt accidentally found that she’s one of the last generation of self-comb women in China. It was not until then that he realized he know little about this woman who has been looking after him since he was a child. So he decided to visit Xiaolan, Zhongshan, Yanjie’s hometown, to seek for her story.

[@wingyinlai88]

感動！自梳女是廣東順德特有的，她們決志不依靠男人而活，那個年代是難能可貴啊！很多年前從報上讀到一則新聞，說有位英國女士，專程飛回香港，探望一位患病瀕死的老婦人，這英國女士小時在香港居住，而老婦人就是照顧過她一家人的"嫲姐"，直至英國人一家離開香港。那英國女士這次回來，守候到老婦人去世了，還負責執葬，可謂有情有義

[@miulinchun2856]

睇到佢就睇到我嘅養母⋯⋯一模一樣！係以前先有呢種人！無私付出

[@Cimegs5088]

miu lin chun 那個年代。。。人奢望的少，容易知足，知識沒有我們淵博但是學問比我們好，物質沒有我們多但是內心找到淡然的避風港。 是他們的努力，讓我們改變了世界。是他們傻，還是我們傻，對歷史的長流來說都宛如滄海一聲笑。

[@weifu3647]

顏姐所付出的，哪是簡單的勞動，而是她的情，對這個家庭的愛。另方面也可以看出，主家看待顏姐并沒有當下人，是善良的一家人。

[@jwongayu]

12件上衣，一對耳環。 顏姐：甚麼是斷捨離？我沒有聽過。 知足常樂，無牽無掛，難能可貴。

[@chiupolini]

我家的傭人也是一樣。說她是傭人，其實她早已經是家中一份子。不但看著我們長大，在七零年代當家裡發生經濟問題時，還把她微薄的三千元儲蓄都拿出來幫忙。退休後她回了老家番禺。我在國外回香港後，每年都去探望她，每次都留下三千元作為感恩。那時才知原來她的丈夫還是抗日英雄，是在保衛家鄉時被日本人打死的。之後她便梳起，隻身下了香港做瑪姐養活一家人。一做四十多年。她現在已仙去了。但像這樣的瑪姐為香港很多家庭付出了一生，也是我們很多「上一代」香港人永恆的回憶。

[@User-imwnx151]

chiupo lini 感人

[@lumegan1007]

谢谢您把她的故事记录下来

[@limrosemary8536]

very admirable of her & u did the right thing bro 👍

[@bettychen8392]

你一定很想念她

[@whounostentatious3821]

Unbelievable! What a amazing story! You are so lucky to have her in the most of your life,especially in your childhood. I can guarantee that she has more memories of your childhood than you! God bless her and all of us! You have the best childhood!

[@luvhonest463]

没有婚姻的束缚，只有清晰的思维，让她看来更健康，更年轻。自立的女人最有魅力，好样的!!

[@universegangster724]

沒有普通人的慾望和 貪婪才會使她成為了自己

[@Nanix1991]

你看到她有没有孤独的一面吗？有没有后悔单身一辈子？没什么亲戚

[@thankyouthankyou1172]

@@Nanix1991 many people care about her

[@yifei663]

你愿意像她这样活吗

[@Nanix1991]

@@thankyouthankyou1172 Care? how so? She is living alone so that imagine she has a stroke, nobody will even know. If they really cared about her, they would have let her stay by the family's side until the end. Also I am sure the family and her sees each other not even once per month.

[@yuetkuilam9894]

颜姐她的真誠付出！很高興！能得到好人的回報關心！記憶下來，記錄下來！你們缘份太好！令人窩心。心暖

[@ngyewsiang4321]

我始终认为，妈姐用一生奉献给一个家庭， 其实雇主的小孩必须像照顾自己的亲人那样，照顾她们安享晚年， 那份恩情比血还浓！想像一下，一个人能用一生奉献给你，那不只是钱和雇主那麽简单的关系可以言语！ 那是缘份，也超越了恩情。

[@cmtingnoelable]

我姑婆都是自梳女，但前年已去世，自梳女的性格很堅毅，在她們的年代唯有這個方法，才能找到自己的生存意義。

[@hungngaching3186]

哎！我姑婆也是！就數她年輕時敢一個人到越南打工(1930s)，我就佩服了。

[@ivan06162443]

hung ngaching ，北方人沒有＂自梳女＂這一工種，他們不可能有我們廣東人對＂自梳女＂那份尊重及敬㑉

[@user-ln4uz5eb8t]

我们新马这里叫妈姐，是非常伟大的职业。

[@jcliu661]

能量正 你生活是有多失败才能靠地域歧视来安慰自己

[@ivan06162443]

这是刘 ，只有那些崇拜貪官的五毛小粉紅才最中意說別人生活失敗，韭菜，快點看看你的數字貨幣有幾多個零，恭喜你生活成功，做個人上人

[@kkngui1622]

为主人付出一生，为社会做出贡献，让人尊敬的桃姐。愿幸福快乐。

[@vickychen15]

這个故事看了很感人，一生奉献無怨無悔非常忠心，我想她一定把這些孩子当做是自己的孩子在扶養，盡心盡力為自己的主人工作，很感動。

[@sexydolcevita737]

Vicky Chen 觉得早期照片里的她一直都是背景，觉得很有感触。她的视角从来没有离开过孩子们。希望她能安享晚年...

[@dayezh6504]

主人这个词，我很不喜欢

[@mayadebij5873]

daye zh 雇主

[@MegaHsiang]

一位是忠心，堅決的自梳女，一位是感恩的攝影師！都了不起！

[@manchunhsu5729]

Love is love 被照顧的家庭感受到也想回饋，這就是人間最美的愛

[@cocomarco4471]

感动。这，就是人物。 不关社会地位，而仅仅就是因为她，一辈子只做了一件事，这就是人物。

[@user-gk3zp5nl6p]

coco marco 忠貞的愛

[@longlonga316]

coco marco 这就是当今社会丢失的责任，真爱和自尊❣️不能忘了这代人和这份爱🙏能拍一部纪实吗？题目就是用“人物”！可以唤醒几代人

[@user-iu1di8dk9n]

這已經是重要的家人了。自梳，一般是指女性把頭髮像已婚婦一樣自行盤起，以示終生不嫁、獨身終老，自梳後的女人被稱為自梳女，也稱馬姐或姑婆，死後稱淨女，是中國女性文化的一種。

[@wcelia6475]

哇，第一次听说，竟然有这种文化，不过值得敬仰在那个年代

[@user-ln4uz5eb8t]

我们新马这里叫妈姐。我小时候在马六甲还有吃过一个80多岁的妈姐开的云吞面。很敬佩那位妈姐的坚韧，到了80岁还在开档口养活自己。

[@user-eu4jn3zl6c]

@@wcelia6475 中国的文化真的很丰富，还有女书。

[@thankyouthankyou1172]

@@user-eu4jn3zl6c what is 女书?

[@thankyouthankyou1172]

how about NOW? are there many 自梳 in China?

[@siuyulau3562]

我也有三個姑婆係自梳女，三個都係年輕時在鄉間被媒人撮合時各自出走，一個出走南洋做保姆直至老死都被照顧好，另外兩個走到香港打住家工，直至晚年告老回鄉，現在見到顏姐的裝扮模樣，真令我想起三位姑婆呢！

[@JOJO-be3hn]

有时候听听别人的故事 会有种不同的感触

[@kcc2574]

簡單卻不平凡的一生

[@user-yq4ed4vl4u]

最後20歲的照片映上現在轉身的畫面，特別感人。🌻🌻🌻

[@xiaoxinzhu1107]

我的阿姨也照顾了我10年，从我小学一直到高中出国。想念，感恩

[@daniellee6859]

要记得感恩！

[@user-zl1nm9cc3s]

xiao xinzhu 好羡慕。我妈在我5岁的时候出门打工做保姆。一去就是二十年，我也就成了留守儿童。

[@bambooindark1]

已經看開了，沒有什麼物慾，真智慧。

[@paulineyeoh8289]

tree.g.b Chen .

[@yunpingyang766]

我家保姆也是18岁刚刚结婚，生孩子后就来我母亲家的，因为，母亲出嫁时跟父亲说不会做家务，于是，把照顾过我母亲保姆，请到我家做保姆，一直到我出嫁后，生孩子帮忙我过月子后。又回去照顾我母亲，完全是家人一样重要，权利大过我父亲。最感恩她跟着我父母带着三个小孩一起下放农村，原来，还有一个专门带三个小孩奶妈，看到我们一家突然下放农村，就立刻辞职。这个保姆一个人承担起照顾下放农村的我们一家五口人，所有生活起居，包含，分给我们一些自留地种菜和养鸡养鸭。五年后，父母官复原职。这是我们一家最狼狈时期！后来，因为，自己孙子的孙子出生，感觉自己太老了，就回家了。但是，每一年春节期间，都会亲自来我家看看已经出嫁的我们三姐妹，同时，根据母亲交代，我们三姐妹给足够一年工资当初春节压岁钱给保姆。直到我们姐妹都出国了，最近三年都没有来了，大概是太老了，还是...这是我们一家都非常感恩保姆故事！

[@bettychen8392]

你媽媽真是命好。

[@germany8322]

想说，你妈妈做妈妈的责任在哪里呢

[@ritazhang1718]

germany独角兽 责任就是有足够的资本请保姆啊

[@user-ql2xr4kz5k]

在那个年代..能出来自力更生..因为善良勤奋 老了有人照顾...工作也不用很操心..其实对她很幸福了（有点羡慕是怎么回事）

[@limingzhang4898]

一生都在付出的人

[@catherinegou4737]

能让他一直这样付出的人 不是人

[@5iTube]

同感。这个视频让我很心酸。

[@kwongorliu7156]

好幸福，咁多孩子比拒錫。

[@ivan06162443]

Catherine Gou ，你不是也一樣不斷為他人付出嗎？

[@ivan06162443]

J L .為何不為自己心酸，難道你是自已做老闆？

[@SY54528]

紀錄一個人的生命，簡單的，不平凡的……

[@caspercoo5932]

自梳女，很早就诞生的女权组织，颜姐真美！

[@kkngui1622]

Casper Liu 心更美

[@theodorezheng9870]

这样的女权 令人敬佩！

[@shahnawazvlog6266]

She is the Angel in this life, the win beneath our wing the unsung hero ! Like my grandmother they give and expected nothing in return! ❤❤💖

[@shahnawazvlog6266]

Stay strong every one just lost the love of my life for 45 years this week they will want for us to be happy and carry on with little time that we have here on earth

[@daphnetly]

Lovely to hear her story from you. She is very blessed to have met people like you. Bless your good and beautiful heart. This world is a lot better with people like you. Stay blessed.

[@longlonga316]

素晴らしい人達でした👏人間って優しいんだ🙏ご縁大事に大事に🙏

[@youziyo]

what a story, loved it ! Her eyes, still look innocent and happy

[@mohmeegaik6686]

Thanks for telling her story - a life well lived in service for others. She looks wise and kind.

[@user-kk2bg3jp4g]

要當作自己母親來奉養百歲年老、忠樸真感動。

[@ianchou1197]

很有溫度的影片，謝謝你的巧心。

[@veronicazhou9779]

多謝分享！ 用影像紀錄了一個好感人的故事！顏姐用自己的一生去為身邊的人付出，好在雖然她沒有自己的家人但係被她照顧的人成為了她的家人！

[@tempest2000]

This is so moving and a loving tribute to a special woman. Thank you.

[@frankieleung2215]

We had a servant like her. I always remember her. She was a member of our family, dearest to my heart.

[@msWongKioTeng]

一輩子的緣份

[@xiangpency6229]

人間還是有情！老人家的善良付出得到回報讓我感到欣慰！🙏

[@vshen3640]

平凡人，做平凡事。 但，真实得让人感动。如果对白是粤语或普通话就更亲切了！

[@yanman6747]

非常感人的故事 希望現在年青人學會愛惜自己身邊的人和物 失去咗就什麼都冇了🙏🙏

[@chanhenry34]

You are lucky to have someone so devoted to look after u during your childhood. Now is the time to show your return aid and affection before time runs out. May God bless her.

[@lijphart0409]

我看過最好的影片

[@whounostentatious3821]

I can’t hold my tears. Thanks for sharing this beautiful story

[@clarayam2253]

令人非常感動,多謝樓主分享!

[@cctang9294]

感動，希望這位長者健康快樂。👍

[@onlymina1087]

So touching, thank you sharing the story of 颜姐。

[@nivetteroq7718]

Que hermosa historia...😔gracias por compartirla.

[@engni]

So touching .... and it all memories in the past. Thanks for sharing.

[@jpixi]

Thank you for this beautiful documentary. Beautiful in content, soul and thoughts.

[@user-bm9xx7rm5e]

感謝更多人分享其它馬姐的故事…👍👍👍

[@user-lt8vw4fe4w]

顏姐應該是最後一批的自梳女了，她們主要是廣州南邊兒幾個縣內農村年輕姑娘，如番禺、南海、順德、香山等，主要去廣州和香港打住家工，也有去了東南亞國家的，幾乎所有的大戶人家都請她們，俗稱媽姐，老了又曰姑婆。香港不少避秦南來官商之家也請她們，如張大帥後人、夏夢等。

[@katcat1694]

Thank you. I still have so much to learn

[@user-lt8vw4fe4w]

@@katcat1694 Most welcome. Me too, I learn new tricks from my cats everyday.

[@katcat1694]

燕北萬梅山莊主人 😘

[@user-lt8vw4fe4w]

Kat Cat 😸😻

[@pingt7276]

嗯…夏夢那個也是一生跟了主人．來介紹我作家朋友視頻，超好聽！歡迎點贊/訂閱． ●〔女人心〕kzbin.info/www/bejne/moemdKWIo6d6j5I ●〔情人的眼淚：有連續劇〕 kzbin.info/www/bejne/gou6fqiEm7Cno5I

[@pandaleathercraft]

这就是真实版桃姐的形象，有点心酸！

[@yuetkuilam9894]

刘国辉 唉！這是當年白梳女們！自己的撰擇！不靠男人，不结婚，不做人妻。不做妾侍！自食其力，將一生時間，照顧一個家庭，顏姐等！比起一生為兒女丈夫的付出！仍是不受照顧，不受到認同及回報的，老婆婆更好

[@pandaleathercraft]

抱歉哦，因为不了解她们的历史，所以我肤浅的理解成真实桃姐的形象，看大家的评论之后，我觉得可能桃姐这部电影就是取材于这样的一群人！

[@naha5100]

刘国辉 桃姐是什么？？？？可以介绍一下吗？

[@pandaleathercraft]

na ha 电影《桃姐》是刘德华的一部电影，讲述的是一个富裕家庭保姆的故事，刘德华饰演富家少爷，推荐看下哦⊙∀⊙！让我又想起了另外一部独居老人的电影《幸运是我》，都推荐看看吧！

[@naha5100]

刘国辉 非常感谢~我明天就看

[@user-yb2be3yi4l]

很棒的一家人的故事,祝福快樂平安！

[@MrBabyloveQQ]

Very meaningful video :) thank you so much for filming this

[@raymondwoo3309]

What a documentary of love & gratitude! Well done! Salute to 颜姐！

[@sniyut1037]

Her life style is awesome. Simple is the best.

[@alisonsors]

真的很無私，只是想著服務身邊的人！令我感動❤️

[@smliangjl]

Thank you very much for sharing, is touching n heart warming.

[@raydiane1]

What an awesome selfless and wonderful wonderful woman. You’re always a really good and compassionate person. Thank you so much for sharing her beautiful and incredible story. She is a gem and a diamond. 👍🏼❤️💖💞

[@annechou1385]

I am very touched by watching your video, it showed lots of lot you have for your nanny. God bless you!

[@vivianchao3246]

好棒的故事，謝謝分享。

[@rutger8655]

婚姻不一定是束缚，独身也不见得悲凉。人来这世上走一遭，赖的都是那独一无二的运气。倘若在这世上，为了别人的目光而活，不敢有一星半点自己的喜怒哀乐，岂不是糟践了那最初的好运气。活着，尽自己能尽的责任，让自己快乐，做一个心地善良的人。走到最后，总不会晚景凄凉。

[@igibon8]

Your writings are so true.

[@chloehe8277]

说得真好！

[@user-mq1cg4dd2d]

对，谢谢

[@miyaya789]

這種人我覺得超偉大的 我也不知道為什麼 他留下的不是有型的東西 而是無形且可以影響人一生的東西

[@jeanneleung3831]

A very graceful and charming lady. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@Pinkgievic]

好感動，好偉大

[@wongwin4027]

謝謝分享上一輩老人努力付💕

[@fannyyeoh3090]

Very touching.remind me of my nanny who was working for our family for about 40 years. Miss her a lot!

[@Lexi-yp4yw]

没有血缘胜过血缘的家人！祝颜姐健康长寿！

[@imperiakwan3220]

This is such a great video, so warm and sweet

[@user-jf7ue6nh3i]

很棒 謝謝🙏

[@herbshi9084]

忠心 念旧 老一代的雇佣关系

[@user-uq2ow9jv6s]

shirma peng ii

[@SEEC]

An exemplary documentary. Thanks for your effort in recording an ordinary but great human being. You are a kind photographer.

[@AmyNittha]

很喜歡這種有溫度的故事

[@pattpat6154]

What a thoughtful production! Let’s celebrate those we always consider as “extras”, spare moments to recall their contribution, kindness, selflessness and be thankful!

[@online-ti4sw]

”孝順”是自然而然贏得的，不需要用道德規範或情緒勒索去要求晚輩，即使顏姐與各家人無血緣，大家也會爭相盡一份感恩之情

[@lenazhu1358]

the story is do touching, she is definitely a beautiful, wise and tough woman, the most difficult thing in the world is to keep lifestyle simple, should learn from her, and stay strong inside!

[@ww5301]

感動，感恩。

[@toh-ellgo3707]

A great story and perfectly told through someone who she'd looked after. It's a very touching and humble story of a strong lady who wants her own independence rather than relying on others (getting married). How that differs from these younger ppl in HK.

[@amyh8272]

好感動！現實版桃姐，無私奉獻一生

[@jrch5563]

I love her. Thank you for sharing.

[@lindachen9429]

Very touching story! It made me tearing!

[@chrysalids]

love the story, it's such an amazing story!!! so beautiful

[@malai857]

一個好感動的善良人，亦有知恩的主人，很窩心

[@mandykwok7166]

感動，好人有好報!

[@jennykang539]

Amazing story. Thank you for sharing.

[@judyxu9570]

I like the story very much. It touched me a lot. Let's taking care of everyone around us. All lives are matter.

[@Mo-eb4gu]

You are beautiful too

[@miasantiago4583]

This one made my eyes well up some. Nannies are silent heroes, mine loved me sacrificially and she really didn't have her own identity. She's long gone now but I always remember her.

[@heatheroh433]

So touching film. It is such a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing!!

[@curtischau1426]

一個很值得尊重既人，希望顏姐身體健康，繼續開心生活。

[@DeniseLeung]

Thank you for sharing this very poignant video. Like you, our family had a live in amah who served us for several decades. My two brothers and I definitely regard her as our family, our grandmother. She loved us as if we were her own. She is now in her 90's , and for the last 10 years or so, she's the one reason I make the trip back to Hk on a yearly basis. (I live in Sydney) Fully aware that each time we say good bye, it could be our last. She has recently moved back to china to be looked after by her relatives which makes it much harder for me to visit. I loved this video, even tho it's brought lots of emotions. Thank you.

[@tommak8679]

I am happy to see Ngan Je alive and well after all these years. Thank you Kurt

[@fotdcpc9393]

thanks for sharing me this touchy story about Yan Jie. So beautiful and sweet.

[@user-nj3po5gv2b]

感人的一段紀錄

[@KenPho]

Love this story. Put me to tears.

[@ianhu943]

A very touching story mate. Well done!

[@fashionwhat]

I shedded a few tears. she must be grateful for the boy who did the exhibition for her.

[@valeriebadger5708]

Wonderful that you are celebrating this selfless woman who in the past was part of the furniture. So many have been ignored used and forgotten. Hong Kong has a history of "Maids" not all were appreciated. Thank you for caring and sharing this .

[@LauriYang]

我認出影片中的菜市場 ,在寶靈頓道跟灣仔道交叉點上,上次去香港玩時,就住在隔壁的摩理臣山道上.

[@wittyasianblonde]

It is very touching you documented this...She is lucky to have you and likewise for you

[@obwan6165]

一条的影片好好看，我停不下來了😭😭

[@smartpiggy]

Thank you for sharing. Very beautiful.

[@user-xc4wv8xc7u]

感動又温暖的 亲情故事