Kev & Melissa Fredericks: What 20 years of marriage takes and gives | Fridays w/ Tab & Chance

[@MrsKevOnStage]

Thanks for having us!! ALWAYS A GOOD TIME!!

[@worldpeace0266]

Good job! May you guys celebrate many many more❤❤

[@canwejustloveeachother2550]

This makes me cry hearing Kev tell his story. He seems to really care and that's touching. Lord, keep Kev and Melissa in You and together ❤❤❤❤

[@carlalyons2052]

Love yall as couples ❤

[@kimjordan8151]

‘Lis you are hilarious 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@ej6388]

When you said “Cus I’m a G” IS ME ALLLL DAYYYY. lol yea it’s 1 in the morning and im leaving but nothing gonna happen to me

[@chatswithchantla6552]

Marriage is a school that you don't graduate from. It's continuous learning for the betterment of both. ❤

[@ItsBrittany.]

Oooo thats good

[@deneenjeffries2768]

I’m keeping that one for the young folks who are just getting married my husband and I are going on 27 years 31 together we were early thirties and late twenties when we married and still evolving ❤

[@lavadasmith3439]

​@@deneenjeffries2768My husband and I are high school sweethearts. Everyone said we wouldn't last. 27 yrs later, we're still standing together.

[@ItsBrittany.]

@@deneenjeffries2768 I'm about to be married 3yrs in Oct. and we currently hit rock bottom and only Jesus can bring us back. Ive been pleading the blood of Jesus over my marriage. Its 2 prideful, selfish and emotional people & we're 33 & 34 trying our best but keep failing. We gotta get out of this & get back on top.

[@marisolania2696]

@@ItsBrittany.if there’s no violence/fear please keep fighting. Year 3 was so hard for us but on year 7 now and it’s the most beautiful partnership. Trust God, pray together for each other (set joint alarms on your phone and commit to calling each other at those times everyday and pray for 5 minutes no matter where you are), seek marriage counseling and give each other grace. I pray you both come through this season stronger and more in love.

[@Passion84GodAlways]

I ❤LOVE❤ when The Browns and The Fredericks are together!!!🥰❤️🖤💚🏌🏾‍♀️🥑🦋🎬

[@brandiclyburn8014]

The Frederick's are still getting views from me off the original interview with Tab and Chance💛❤️

[@tblaze7brown788]

Ditto, They Are Two Of My Favorite Couples! 🙏🏽💜

[@MissTerran]

Same! The chemistry between both couples coming together as a foursome is UNMATCHED!!!! I LOVE IT!! 😅😅

[@LowkeyMikeyyy]

“You can love somebody and it can still be hard.”

[@Ceemoore3000]

The beauty in how the Browns and Fredericks ended up in entertainment and found each other to befriend and support is proof of God’s grace. Hollyweird is such a weird place and they pursued and found their passions without losing themselves or their families. The long way is often the best way. May God bless your unions and may they continue to bring God glory. Great podcast and I was blessed as a single woman.

[@aunegiagrant3159]

I LOVE THIS. I’m in my 20s and I feel like I’m finally apart of grown folk business 😂 so grateful to be apart of these conversations

[@Kbatl1997]

😂im 27 and feeling this all the way

[@ronibigbangnicole]

I'm 37 and I STILL feel this way 🥴😫🤭😅

[@derrickthurmond2470]

Salute to you. One year into marriage. I haven’t experienced 90 percent of these things but atleast I know how to handle it

[@TriggaTreDay]

@@derrickthurmond2470much success to you and yours. As long as you want the best for your union you guys will be able to figure it out. Also don’t let other people’s weird stands get in the way of what you have with your partner. A lot of these podcasts with these young single people can be very toxic to people who actually care about commitment and a healthy relationship. KZbin has a bad habit of promoting toxic relationships advice to married people. I had to turn off my algorithm so that they couldn’t recommend anymore stupid conversations to my feed. God bless. 🙏🏾

[@jordanwhite8015]

As a 25 y/o this made me realize I need to start building relationships with older people in marriages so I can be better in my own. I've never had access to this kind of transparency but it's invaluable. Thank you guys.

[@ageehairston1141]

I can truly say that Kev & Liss caused my divorce. 😂😂😂 I remember listening to every single episode of The Love Hour. After me and my ex reunited from a separation and things started going left again, it was one particular episode that I listened to while sitting at work. I don't remember what was said, but I remember thinking to myself that I wasn't fixin' to do ANY of the things suggested. I was wasting his time and my time. I thank God for that Love Hour show bc it gave me what I needed to be at peace with my decision to end my marriage. I've been rockin' with the Fredericks for a long time, and I am praying for the continued success of both of these marriages.

[@IjeomaMenkiti]

What you weren’t willing to do caused your divorce.

[@l.s.s2012]

My question is... Would you marry each other again knowing what you know now and with the same sentiment that you've given your entire self to the marriage.

[@stillstonie]

The opening line 🥶I'm glad it all worked out for the better😅

[@Keaunismith]

@@IjeomaMenkitiI read it as her basically saying just what you said…she realized she wasn’t willing to do that which mean she realized she wasn’t truly in love and she decided not to waste anymore time. I don’t think it was a jab at them, more so a thank you for opening her eyes

[@JM-qg9bo]

They weren't the cause. You finally was honest that you shouldn't have been married. You weren't ready.

[@umiiyabode]

We met when we were 17, just celebrated our 50th anniversary. When I tell you this has brought joy to my heart, y'all make me so happy!

[@rantsandfaves]

Congratulations & Happy 50th anniversary! What an achievement.

[@lavadasmith3439]

Wow! ❤

[@nca4794]

Congratulations!!! That's a wonderful testimony.❤❤❤ May you celebrate many more!🙏🏾

[@TriggaTreDay]

Congratulations 🍾🎊🎉

[@kvanderkin30]

Tab and chance. Thanks for this. Our son just got married. He is 23, and she is 21. Still young. I realized I needed to allow God to be loud in his life and me to support on the sideline. This helps me to see how much he needs to grow in his new family. Thanks for this. I see that he needs to become that husband for her. Great stuff

[@momoe.4075]

Wow. And what a major moment of deepening, growth and freedom for you as well. Congratulations mama. So many mothers don't know how to let their sons go and become the men they need to be. Holding them back for selfish reasons.

[@Audree-yr1st]

I’m currently going through the same my son got married this year he’s 21 and shes 20. I did not want them to marry so young but I will ALWAYS support my children. I’m declaring a everlasting love for them filled with God love joy prosperity and fulfillment. I pray that they grow individually together

[@BearingMySeoul]

The best thing you can do for them, is encourage them to find a marriage counselor while they still feel in love with each other!

[@GoldenGraham25]

They’ll be fine! It’s amazing to see and hear young people getting married and starting families ❤

[@charnellej.3572]

I like thisss ❤

[@ZendelAtkinson]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

I understand why what you're saying is important, and I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.

[@ZendelAtkinson]

Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@SERIKAmrabat]

Your advice is valued. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that pursuing this method will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; I deeply yearn for her.

[@ZendelAtkinson]

You should

[@BeingMimi]

Any words of advice for those going thru it too?

[@yolandamoore7635]

If I don’t know anything about marriage the one thing I’ve learned is what people show in public is not what it is in private

[@ZoilaSolis]

SO TRUEEEE!!! That’s why we are almost always caught off guard when couples divorce.

[@_scott6971]

Not all the time. There are people who play the part in real life without caring about what outsiders/onlookers have to say … marriage is nobody’s business but the two people whos in it .. to be honest.

[@ahamed6702]

@@ZoilaSolisare you a discerning person? I’m almost never surprised.

[@Zas1andonly]

Truth! It's always good to let one trusted person in your life know what's going on behind closed doors. God forbid something happens, at least there will be one person who is aware and can emotionally and spiritually support you.

[@ritah5361]

We need this couple do a show once a month. Golden!

[@LeihuaBarry-jj4mg]

They wrote a book “Marriage be Hard!” With a podcast

[@gfjchs3n1]

Yes. Maybe a "Tab and Chance Relationship View" (similar format like The View".)😊

[@michelebcombs5016]

The two hardest jobs in life is being a spouse and being a parent!!! You don't get PAID A DIME but the MOST PRICELESS REWARDING PART OF LIFE!!!

[@JaNaeSmith-vk7uk]

AMEN !!

[@IjeomaMenkiti]

Thank you for this comment, because lately I often find myself wanting to give up on both. Especially, having a 17 year old daughter that know God, but choose to dip into this new age religion mess/witchcraft.

[@lynntodd2845]

​@@IjeomaMenkiti Wow🙏🙏

[@JM-qg9bo]

AMEN

[@lisahays9226]

Tab grabbing Melissa to calm her after the scenario that didn't happen is everything lol .. I love them

[@charlesgibson7299]

I have so much respect for the Browns and Fredericks. I wish they were my friends in real life. LOL

[@worldpeace0266]

We need this kind of positivity in our lives, right?!!❤❤

[@yvonnepitt5512]

When my Grandmama lost my grandfather she said, No more feet under my table.

[@ErinMBlack]

Same and I’m 26 😂

[@browneyes-k8o]

Me too

[@allthingstailormade2739]

I feel like the real blessing is to have a partner who is willing to change and grow with you. I hope I have that whenever I get married

[@shayna._.]

Great conversation ! My first husband passed away in 2012, I remarried in 2022 ! I was told by so many people including the funeral Director that I would never get remarried because I had 5 boys from my first marriage. But GOD 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤ btw Wachovia is Wells Fargo guys 😂

[@courtney8946]

God bless you and I don’t accept negative reports over my life! Jesus had the final say

[@WonderAries324]

Why would the funeral director tell you that..

[@mixedcapitalmedia486]

Not Tab's momma giving her the "he's a good man Savannah, he's just going through a hard time" Waiting to Exhale speech about being married to Chance 😂

[@missadug]

Wow! Tabitha's mom is so wise and gave such level headed advice.

[@janicehall82]

This was one of your best shows. I love seeing how much Chance has grown. I remember when he didn’t express himself much early on. I’ve been married for 33 years and with my husband for a total of 39 years and just divorce him for the 100’s time just last night!😂😂😂😂 Love Kevin and Malisa

[@sudiesudie5110]

My husband and I need married friends like this 😂❤

[@Surprise_Its_Jen]

For real!

[@ivoryreviewsstuff]

😂😂I said the same thing. Feels like we on an island.

[@Shelli1285]

Chile it doesn't get much better than the Browns and the Fredericks laughing, loving and talking about marriage! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@RoRo-gm7ee]

I’m in my 40s and never been married. Most likely won’t get married, but I love listening to them. Love the energy and transparency.

[@jazminedeblaw5442]

God is Sovereign, if he has marriage in mind for you it will come without notice! ❤ best wishes.

[@lisacox5405]

Same....also in my 40s never married...would like to be...but it's hard out there. This is a great conversation.

[@btfields323]

I'm 34, same

[@RoRo-gm7ee]

@@jazminedeblaw5442everyone doesn’t believe in God and I am one of them.

[@QuinestaDaniels]

Me and my husband been married for 44 years, Dated for 4 years. Altogether, 47 years.

[@worldpeace0266]

Good job! 17 years and counting❤❤

[@ItsBrittany.]

Nice!! I'll be 3yrs married in Oct. gosh ya'll its so hard right now 😥

[@worldpeace0266]

@ItsBrittany. I had to remember to look at what I need to change, always! Sometimes we tend to think we're doing everything right and judge our partner. And always always always have patience and COMMUNICATE! Good luck! May we all have happy, healthy, loving marriages that last until death do us apart🥰

[@ItsBrittany.]

@@worldpeace0266 Amen! Thank you for that piece of advice!!

[@worldpeace0266]

@@ItsBrittany. yes indeed🥰

[@crystalwicker1359]

This is one of my favs. I was married for 17 years and gave so much I almost lost my soul. The longer I’m single the less I can stomach a relationship, my children are grown and I just enjoy freedom to move as I please. It’s actually my time to get to know myself outside of those titles mom, wife , daughter, sister, I’m taking care of woman Amen to yall !!!

[@MHopper2]

I can relate. I was married for 15 years and gave every bit of myself to my husband and 3 kids, my mom, my sister, and my family. It's crazy how your energy is in relationships moving forward.

[@kimberly3837]

Y’all! 100% accurate! So valuable. Married 31 years. We need more transparent discussions w/friends/family. Seen lots of divorces that could’ve been saved.

[@denisemoody3268]

Wonderful, , Tabitha I lost my husband on 12/31/99 and I feel exactly as you said, I have never dated anyone or thought about marriage again, for the exact same reasons that you stated. Powerful! I often have explained to others who felt like, I stopped my life, after my husband died. I haven't I am simply still in love with him.

[@NikkiKNuvo]

💛 God bless you. What a beautiful marriage it must've been for the love to never have faded away after all this time.

[@denisemoody3268]

@@NikkiKNuvo Yes! Thank you 🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿🌹😘

[@itsmedonnamarie68]

I truly enjoyed this discussion. I’m 56, never married but still hoping. My parents just celebrated their 69th anniversary on 5/28. This discussion gave me some insight on what all of these years together must mean to them

[@wilsonjeanne9]

One word: historical…………….. black love with all its flavor!!!! Blessings to y’all ❤️

[@patriciahamer3741]

This was very good!

[@Illieburge]

The way he fought for her 🥺. Lord I’ve seen what you’ve done for others. 🙏🏾

[@efgbusiness8851]

My husband and I were married at 19 and we are a week apart in age. We were not ready at all but we have made it 19 years and 20 in December 2024. It has been the hardest thing I've done in life so I would never do it again either. We have had 7 children and our first was at 19 so we had to grow up and parent all our marriage; that's the reason why it has been so hard. He is my husband for life and I only wanna continue to work this hard with him. I enjoyed watching and learned that we aren't as dysfunctional as I thought. FYI we will be turning 40 at the beginning of 2025.

[@americanbeauty171]

Congratulations!!!

[@kimkelly2355]

This was so good! As someone who’s been married for 22 years, I sometimes feel like I’m the villain in my husband’s story in his mind when I’m trying to be his hero, but he has to be willing to TALK about it because it’s usually not as bad as we THINK it will be.

[@tinahammond4920]

Amen he that finds a wife finds a good thing

[@evonjohnson7355]

Marriage is like being in school forever-continuous learning.

[@Sagepage818]

Chance shirt is a word within itself....Born Worthy❤

[@pwillin73]

Very encouraging to hear husbands with 20+ years in speak on how they are still growing and learning. 12 years in and feel as though I'm scratching the surface.

[@Mrs.Bell860]

Look forward to the laughs and gems you all have to share. Today is our 10 year anniversary!! God is good!

[@mnolan3707]

Congrats 🎉

[@mrs.carolwilliams977]

Congrats

[@VisibleTimes]

Happy Anniversary 🎉

[@lindaparker3443]

Happy Anniversary 🎉

[@1browngirl29]

Happy Anniversary… play you some Toni Tony Tone Anniversary and dance the night away

[@ladyindaroom]

I love that Kevin and Melissa seemed wise counsel! Kevin and Melissa are Christians, and many times we think just pray the situation out. Prayer does work, and God answered by sending them to the marriage therapist. God is always intentional with what He does.

[@pamelaval7191]

Its not the wedding ceremony that is most important its the marriage that matters so much more. Without all the bells and whistles. Thats the foundation of the love!!!!

[@pamelaval7191]

Been Married for 39 years in October. But knew my husband for 47 years. Any marriage take work it's not perfect. Pick your battles, accept a person for who they are, and forgive cause God forgives us! That doesn't mean to except disrespect or mis treatment.

[@lynnayesmith-winters7922]

My friends got married at 19 after having their first daughter at 18! They’re still together after 44 years! They went through a lot, but stayed together. I got married at 29, it only lasted 9 years!

[@ahamed6702]

People believe the age matters and come up with a ‘magical’ age… So glad you posted this.

[@TriggaTreDay]

Thats funny because on the shorter clip some people were arguing about this very thing😂. I literally told my husband that he got lucky marrying me so young because lord have mercy if I was older and we started dating, it may not have lasted longer than a few months 😂. I know how my patience is built and it would’ve been a NO for me. 😅. I love my husband to pieces, but he knows he can be a pain in my butt. And we laugh all the time about it. That man is willing to do anything for me and I would’ve missed out on that. So some times marrying young can be a blessing and a curse. But becoming friends first is really what it comes down to.

[@btfields323]

Ok. That's 2 different marriages. With 2 different sets of problems including 4 diff ppl

[@yvettefulton4016]

Thank you for this conversation. It was so good! My husband and I have been married 31 years and got married at 22 and 25. Our son who is 20 told me recently he wants to marry when he finishes college. I said nooooo…travel and have your own place and date for a few years. He said he has the perfect example in his parents that it can work. It did but it was hard. We didn’t know what we didn’t know and it was hard. I wish I would have known myself more and experienced more time being independent. I wish that for my children but their life is their life. We can only guide them and provide the wisdom we have learned along the way.

[@tinahammond4920]

That part,live some life because I didn't but I am Grateful we are still together

[@LDNballer]

I always tell my single friends and family to stop listening to all this relationship content and start listening to actual couples. Me and my wife always extract something we can use our relationship in these podcasts.

[@JK-nq1dl]

Excellent advice that I hope your single loved ones listen to!

[@kimberlysspiceykay4606]

I would also say listen to the people being honest. Some couples aren’t happy and aren’t honest.

[@TriggaTreDay]

I’m happily married (even though we have our issues here and there) and I only look up stuff to help my marriage get better, but KZbin kept recommending podcasts and shorts from toxic men and women who were only focusing on drama. I had to turn off my recommendations because it was getting out of control. You are right. If you want to be married take advice from healthy married people not silly single people who can’t keep a partner to save their lives.

[@samonelowery1576]

I'm not married and don't want to be married, but watched because I love the 4 of you.😊

[@kOmack880]

🎯

[@Anastasia63788]

Please let God send a good man to you he will have issues allow yourself to fall in love 😊

[@_scott6971]

😂😂😂😂I use to think that way. 26 yrs later and I’m happy with my husband. Maybe you’ll change your mind one day, maybe not 🤷🏽‍♀️. It’s awesome with the right man (or woman, depending on preference) ..

[@PrincessPink-x]

I don’t want to get married and I’m sure I will never either but I love seeing couples 😊.

[@v.v.6551]

You just haven't met that Special person. When you do there's no second quessing.

[@marlasturgill8306]

Best video to date, great information for the young.... Been married for 36yrs altogether 38yrs! God only made one of my husband and I know that no one else could fill those boots!!!He was designed just for me!!!!

[@Cynthia_Robinson]

41 years. Yes. Good advice. Good show

[@LoveisKiing]

As a newlywed, it’s so helpful to hear each of your perspectives on marriage ❤️

[@angelafaison]

This is definitely in the top five of Fridays w/Tab & Chance!! I truly thank you for making it make sense, with a side of humor. 💪🏾👊🏽✌🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@queenofklassy]

Yep! God revealed this to me the other year and I started telling my then preteen daughter to think about herself right then and how she cares for herself only and knows her self worth and then come husband but the need to care for yourself doesn’t leave. I told her she will need to care for the woman she’s becoming, the wife she will be and the mom she will be and it’s ok to care for all areas of herself when she’s become all 3. I told her to feel no shame in self care, dating her husband, and then family time. No ONE but God told me this. My parents never dated just raised us my mama never went for self care and I’m learning that wasn’t healthy for them. So Tab, you truly are speaking the Lord’s words with that! ❤

[@MsCiara12]

“You better preach” “Say that again Kevin” Kevin: “I forgot what I said” Lol that is so me! The truth always flows so easily to him he always preaching and don’t even know it

[@NikkiKNuvo]

Okay! That's how you know it's a Word. God spoke right through him and Kev don't even remember it lol.

[@AlieshiaTV]

I was so weak

[@abster4709]

So, so good!! My dad passed away 3yrs ago at age 50, and my parents been together over 30yrs, they would've been married 32yrs this year and my momma said the same thing. They put too much work in, working on themselves and as a unit and she just can't see herself starting that work as a unit with someone new cause it really is hard work.. They had plans to enjoy their old age together so she gon' do it by herself, enjoying the fruits of her labor of working on herself.

[@tinahammond4920]

🙏🏿 🙏🏿 🙏🏿

[@sevenp.8640]

This is my second time watching, I truly appreciate these two couples. Do y'all see how Melissa look at Kevin, it's beautiful. When he said he's never so mad that her safety isn't a concern it hit hard. This was good

[@jessejess5159]

These honest conversations, with the side of humor, are soooo needed!! Loved this 💕

[@snwaller26]

Y’all are doing the Lord’s work you hear me. Thank you all for being so open and explaining the HARD WORK it takes to be married and the length of time it takes for understanding during HARD CONVERSATIONS

[@teresamoss4591]

Great episode! I love when beautiful black couples can get together and have real life conversations and be very transparent about issues we all face or have faced at some point in our lives. Thank you all for the conversation! Happy Happy Birthday Kev..🎉🎂🧁🍷

[@lindseyj2884]

I can’t get over how Tab looks like she’s 25. Like come on Tab! You look so beautiful! And that’s her business 😆

[@ChloeYoung-rq8ni]

I love what Tab said about the different variations of a person and which has to reply at times. That is humbling. It’s easy to be self righteous in a marriage but being intentional to do the opposite is the choice.

[@1browngirl29]

I get so happy when I see a couple who’s able to stick together. 20 yrs is remarkable. Kudos to you 😊

[@dedra1204]

I smiled this entire interview! This year we celebrate 5 years married and 9 years together. We’ve been together since we were 21. God gets the glory and we are looking forward to being 20+ years in one day ❤️

[@lavadasmith3439]

Married my high school sweetheart. 27 yrs later we're still going strong.❤

[@Dimples4dayz]

I could listen to these two couples talk every day. Love them together.

[@SandraKing-dt6jw]

There are so many similarities with us, my husband and I got married at 22 and 23, Next month we will celebrate 24 years married and together for 26!! I really enjoyed this conversation. So many gems shared here!! ❤

[@asiapearson]

As I am approaching 28 years of age this year, within the last 3 I've done some of my deepest and very extensive healing and personal development, and I thank God I did not recieve my husband prematurely because I single handedly would've ruined him & me! I've fully taken advantage of being single these past 3 years, so much so that I'd prefer to keep it that way for at least 2 more! The journey of healing & personal development has surly made me exhausted just being myself, so I can only imagine marriage. However, I do look forward to marriage at some point but for now me & God gon' keep vibing! This episode made me very grateful I waited because surly I could've been married 3 times by now and that's insane lol Absolutely love that the growth and maturity as individuals and as married couples is so visible! It was all worth it!

[@ShimuraSuggs]

"Just Responsibilities Not Who You Are" Powerful!

[@talisacharles7948]

I love when you both get together. The lessons we gain from your truths are priceless. I have been married 33 years and I am always open to new ways of doing.

[@marvalousmarva9539]

This is among the best the conversations on the REALITY on marriage. A lot of gems dropped. I need to get a notebook ❤❤ Thank you both for your transparency.

[@Justcallme_sum]

Listen I am 27 Married 7 years so I had to click on this video I love seeing healthy couples last and anytime I can get advice I'm going to take it I'm trying to apply it the best way I can I love both of these couples and I wish them many many many many more years to come ❤

[@ms.trueheart6302]

These conversations give me so much hope for a married future.... I've been married before to my sons father we did not marry for the right reasons. I've been single almost three years since we ended our marriage and it has been the blessing I've needed to find me and understand what type of foundation I want to build on.

[@kiarareyes4032]

Married 3 years. 5 years all together. Serious gems. I don’t see myself getting married again either 😂 I’m 27.

[@jazminedeblaw5442]

Girl you and me are literally the sameeeeeeee down to the 27 😂😂 this my man, I be needing all the wisdom available because I can’t do this AGAIN

[@kiarareyes4032]

@@jazminedeblaw5442 😂😂😂 that’s crazy!!

[@LaShaynaLaVonne]

Such a great conversation! I’m married to my “high school sweetheart”, 8 years strong. Definitely some ups and downs but by Gods Grace we are still in love and growing together. It’s so refreshing to see other couples with similar stories with 20+ years! Cheers to you all 💞

[@veronicamwarren5750]

This was a great show! My husband and I just celebrated 30 years of marriage on May 1st. Yes, marriage is work. We were also young when we got married, and we had to grow up, especially with him being in the military for over 20+ years. He's a veteran. We are still learning each other.. and have those helpful conversations 😂😂. I've said the same thing I will not marry again if my husband leaves this earth before me he is who God I believe created for me💝

[@madelinedrayton6049]

20s, 30s, 40s…. It is the same . I was 37 and my husband was 42. My first and his second. We both had our own homes. Our experience was similar. It has been almost 25 years and we are still learning each. But it is a little easier.😀

[@MurrayXperience]

This was cool- appreciate the insight. After 19years in we face these challenges and its good to see HEALTHY black love … thank you 🎉

[@rachelw9212]

"We do not have to be all that at the same time" was for me... It took me a while to get the message, but thank you Tab.

[@MermaidQ]

Thank you for this honest conversation . I am married of 20 years and now know it’s normal to have those feelings ❤

[@just-inclayton7731]

The fact that ALL YALL tried to save it at the end😂😂😂 “Marriage is a beautiful thing” That was the most HILARIOUS part of the whole video! Too late, we too far gone now y’all 😂😂😂❤❤❤Great video yall!!!

[@2010deelove]

As a newlywed I feel seen 😂. This convo really helped me to see that our experiences aren’t singular. I am encouraged!

[@CharmCityBuyers]

This is so good! We've been married for 11yrs, together for 16yrs...met at 19/20. Entrepreneurship, starting a family, growing...so much truth in this interview!

[@faithanitra]

Me and my husband married young also and it has been 22 years now. It is all of what you all said it is. I don't think you all missed anything on this conversation. I laughed at all the similar stories, because we have all overcome them, Praise God! There is one thing I tell others when they ask how it has lasted this long and one thing that a female pastor that co-pastors with her husband said one day. Both have resonated as true in your stories today: 1. I say, We never gave up at the same time. 2. She said, When the children grow up and are gone, me and this guy better know one another. The final thing is, I agree, I don't think I can love this way again.

[@lillianogugua]

“Ima take you before the Lord” I’m cryingggg 😂😂😂😂

[@llspence2716]

Such a good episode! My husband and I have been together for 20 years and married for 14. And we can relate to so much that was said!

[@yasmeenwatson3075]

Y’all need a collective podcast! So good!

[@ny2768]

I love the shirt Chance is wearing. ❤❤❤ Link, please, and thank you.

[@jacalynjohnson4656]

Tab and Nic featured those tees on Very Good Monday’s.

[@LS-gy9bq]

This was great! As soon as I saw KOS & MKOS were the guests, I was like, this is going to be GOOD!!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@D_A_Marv]

This was GOLD!!! More of this discussion is needed for those who are thinking of or already in a marriage, so many lessons and gems

[@KARDAYAHSSoulServices]

Mrs. Tab, You have been one of the tools YAH has used to help save my current life happenings. Ones that I have been considering letting go by the wayside. I'm trying to remember to be a woman first. I'm not sure I can disappoint others to take care of me. Thank you Auntie Tab. Between this show and Tab Time. I am being rebuilt and reaquainted with my feelings. Thawadah YAH for you all. Thawadah for your work. Peace and Blisses. ✨✨💮💮💕💕💮💮

[@princealfalfa1389]

Browns & Fredericks: Thank you ❤🙏🏾

[@mtmpublicrelations]

This was a phenomenal episode. Thank you for the transparency and truth telling about the work and love marriage entails!

[@Elladog2024]

Kev keeps it 100% like it is! It’s like he’s in my head when I’m “beefing” with my husband! 😂 love this so much!

[@lockyock7]

This was amazing to watch and listen too. We are 4 years married and 9 years together still going strong. I love our marriage all parts of it.

[@ladyindaroom]

Chance and Tab, are great friends for Melissa and Kev. Married people should surround themselves with married people. Single people with single people. 💯💯💯💯💯

[@Jacorolynstans06]

I needed to see this entire conversation!!! I just sent it to my husband!!!! Thank y’all for pouring!!!

[@Charmane73]

That last question had me on the floor because WE knew the question before the question was asked. I’m with the wives, we celebrate 20 years this year and we got married older (31 and 35). I ain’t never ever getting married again 😂. I don’t have it in me to do this for someone else.

[@laineygood5816]

I really enjoy watching these episodes about marriage! My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 4 months. We pray that we’ll get to the 20 year mark and beyond! This was so inspiring ❤

[@hamiltonjanitorialservice9168]

“Watching my program” is gold 😂😂😂

[@radicalchangehkr]

Fantastic and AFFIRMING conversation! 10 years married and loving the person in the midst of each of your individual changes is paramount to a healthy relationship 😌

[@Lovelykay25]

So many gems dropped in this episode!!! LOVED IT

[@simplyki2u602]

Chance is speaking something I understand about the fight of not being heard or seen during grief. It was frustrated about the unknowing how to support.

[@Carlacookingfood]

Let me just be very transparent and share that this Podcast/ Ministry helped me see so many ways situations moments that we have shared in common over the years in our marriage of over 35 yrs 36 this year. Of course it just goes to show that even though my husband and I are old enough be all of your parents we can still LEARN! Thank you I appreciate you being transparent but also Blessing my Marriage as well! Congratulations to both Couples for still yet holding on. Happy Birthday 🫵🏾🙏🏾🫶🏽☮️🫂❤️🫂🥳🎂

[@colettebenson9658]

47:21 I wasn’t ready for Tab’s word on responsibilities as ‘wife’ or ‘husband’ hit so hard! I’ve been married for 15 years and with my husband for 18 years but I’m gonna need to let that sink in for a while. This episode was so therapeutic. 😄

[@aliciadavis8586]

That message was powerful, Tab. I'm still just a woman, with roles and responsibilities.

[@Andrea_Campbell]

My hubby and I have been married 16 years. At year 4, we left Orlando, FL and moved to Baltimore, MD to “leave and cleave.” It was the best thing we did for our marriage. We pushed through on matters and found resolve quickly bc we knew we were all we had…each other.