TAKE NOTES: 10 Lessons on VETTING a Man!

[@ColdDiva]

This video plucked out a memory. While I was at a sports bar there was a group of guys huddled together and one was plotting on trying to run game on getting one girls attention. As the buffoons were hyping him up, I will never forget when he said this: “I know I ain’t $hit! I just can’t let her know that I ain’t $hit!” To which they all roared in laughter and gave each other dabs. Be careful out there ladies.

[@MsWillita8]

#cringe

[@abeck7929]

They are not even hiding it anymore smh

[@ssoomee]

Wow that’s diabolical 😮 men literally have no standards for themselves 😒

[@isa12rae]

I overheard a guy telling another guy "promise them you'll do this and do that then once you're married do fuck all"

[@Loveyourself1st__]

This is why you never drop your guard with them! Never!

[@josephineedward8233]

You don’t have to drink the whole sea to know that it’s salty ❤️.

[@mariaalmasaniroyalhouse9214]

Love this

[@brittneysperspective8433]

THE TRAVELING PART IS 100% you don’t know ANYONE until you travel with them! Friends too!

[@j.j2846]

This is so true! I knew a friend for a few years before living together for around 4 years. We went on group holidays during this time. But I saw a whole new side to her when we went away just the two of us. She started treating me like her mum wanting to me hold her bag in public, pay for her things, fake cried so I could console her amongst other wierd behaviours. When the holiday ended she went back to her usual self. It was so bizarre I thought I knew her well. People are extremely complex It's scary out here

[@________1516]

Travelled with a group of people for a wedding. Their personas from how they were back home to who they were acting like overseas was night and day! I don’t talk to any of them anymore!

[@butterflystardust3143]

Family too!!

[@NC-tt4gc]

Took my first solo trip last month. I’ll never travel with anyone else again😂

[@JamilLynch]

​@@j.j2846That's wild! Meanwhile people will insist that living with someone is the best way to get to know them not knowing they can be lying to you that whole time. I insist it's not the best way and by your experience it's not even an effective way!

[@BetterLoveMovement]

You said it best: DO THE INNER WORK‼️ For so many women, they would rather up level their looks and body than sit on a therapist’s couch or see a coach.😑 It’s the inner work that is your SUPERPOWER! 💯

[@MariaLeeVegas]

I see this all the time. It’s so much easier to put on some lipgloss than to face that kind of inner pain

[@nataliesasha8216]

Say it louder for the people in the back. I know hypergamy channels get a lot of flack but the legit ones always talk about shadow work and work on your inner self. She moved in desperation based on her past. So unfortunate!

[@hadijakalyegira4107]

Save yourselves ladies. A wise woman once said “ make your anger expensive” you know who you are ❤❤❤

[@FlowerlyF.]

🎉👏🏾

[@iamcase1245]

Problem with this generation of American black/brown women is you over value yourselves. This is about 50% of what's causing so many problems in the dating scene in the USA right now. Y'all want $250,000 men but you're offering $20 experiences. You look about early 40s, who are you saving yourself for?

[@blancheb3533]

Even 'Christian' men need to be vetted VERY CAREFULLY. I've dated 'religious' men who were ok with premarital sex. Thankfully I broke up with him but I should've saw that as a red flag and ended it right there. I am happily married now to a man I had my entire family vet first before marrying him. But ladies take your time and don't ignore red flags.

[@melmel7011]

Iv personally found that religious people are the worse.

[@scififantasygirl]

Christian men need to be vetted the most.

[@Oscarnodwannabe]

I dated a 'Christian' man that demanded sex after 1 month and said that it's the longest he's willing to wait. Ended it.

[@Thatgirl12-fp3uq]

@@scififantasygirl as a Christian woman!! I support this to the 1000 degree!

[@CrystalCormier]

​@@scififantasygirl Facts sis!!! Because so many women think just because they meet man that's Christian. Oh that's the man God has for them not so fast sweetheart. You need to have discernment and vett that man. Don't get caught up with this oh he's Christian and man of God stuff. Smh

[@makela1647]

I’ll throw in an add on too. Consistency + reliability. A decent man who actually cares about your well being and not just trying to get to bedroom activities is gonna show up daily, weekly, and monthly without breaks in between.

[@User_g2j4b]

FACTS!!!!!

[@FlowerlyF.]

This!!

[@hedgaf107]

Even you yourself are not that consistent. Men are also human beings

[@Age_Of_Aquarius84]

I don't think people are blaming her per se, I think we're all flabbergasted and calling out the multiple errors in judgement on her part. I mean, she married a complete stranger not long after she left her ex. As a single mother myself, ain't no way I'd be carting my son and I from one man's home to another. That's why I bought a house. And that's why I levelled up in my career. So that degenerates can't lure me with false promises.

[@luxprincess9420]

Nah they are blaming her completely unless you haven't seen the comments outside of the hypergamous spaces... It's just sad how the whole thing happened.. praying for their healing

[@curls4theworld]

Especially now that video of her going live has come out where her daughter is saying “ouch” and “owww” followed by screams in the background. You can hear the father as well. Isis states that the daughter is with her father. She casually does her makeup and tells the audience to ignore the background noise. She doesn’t even flinch at her daughter’s cries or expression of pain and seems to be entirely unconcerned with why she would be shouting “ouch” multiple times while alone with her father.

[@vanessaroper3028]

@@curls4theworld👀👀👀

[@las8883]

​@@curls4theworldomg what the hell??

[@TheBlackAmericana]

Glad you kept it real but also didn't victim blame.

[@adriennem5781]

Absolutely agree. All I'm seeing on YT is victim-blaming "couldn't be me" type of takes. It's very annoying

[@ChocolateBabe_]

Because no one like the truth and everyone has a price. She literally was disrespecting single independent women only to be come one now with 4 kids and 2 of them are the real victims.

[@ChocoBeauty8]

Unfortunately, when making decisions, there are instances where negative consequences may arise despite warnings. Consequently, our poor choices contribute to our victimization.

[@cj8537]

Me too, a lot of women who prayed on her downfall are trying use this as a reason for why they “don’t feel bad for her” and why they are technically victim blaming her AND HER CHILDREN. There is a huge line between being honest and being hateful…Chloe kept it real.

[@babyu21]

Where is the line between taking accountability and victim blaming? Cause she admitted he SA her early on and she still chose to have kids with him. Make it make sense.

[@Parfumchloe]

Being a Trophy Wife simply means you're pretty and can be used and collected like a Trophy. Who would want that? I pray for her spiritual deliverance and healing.

[@User_g2j4b]

FACTS!!!!!

[@adriancampbell630]

Exactly!

[@Trinitytruth7]

Truth!! As stupid as we like to believe men are, when a woman is not on his level financially it just makes him paranoid (whether real or imagined that a woman wants his bread) or he will relish the fact that the nature of power & control that he already has, is now on DefCon 5 level. I get that being provided for and genuinely adored is almost every girl’s dream but the reality is there are too many damaged men and not enough well-paid men out here to make that dream a reality with any real certainty or longevity.

[@Jamila91100]

Not enough man with character too

[@love_reka_8877]

I pray for the babies 💔 this is soooo heartbreaking

[@elizabethpieters7798]

Allways marry for money (love is a bonus), but have a good game plan or strategy. Use your brain. Vet your man properly, get the bag and have a smart exit strategy incase things don't work out. Hypergamy is the way to go, but you got to be smart. Emotional Intelligence and Self-awareness is key.

[@LosAngelesLaura]

☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@aminaadam3617]

Nice comment,but ladies no.Marry a man with good character,morals,is a hard worker and thinks you are the best thing that ever happened to him.A man that is successful at what he does and you have a 70% feeling that the future will be secured.Life happens,and when you marry and have kids so much can change.Do not be miserable because the rich man you married is now struggling and things aren't really working out.Chloe nails it down 100.A man has to love you more, earn more than you,have more exposure and more knowledge/education than you .There are levels to hypergamy.Some women have no exposure/education/money but they want to bag the millionaire.We should work on ourselves and marry on our level.That will make the man see that you are not marrying him out of desperation.

[@lolaispure4296]

​@@aminaadam3617 i concurr

[@Aleyah]

Agree. I married way below my social status and I still got insulted and neglected and never was treated right. I helped him build from scratch and never got the live and care I deserved. I left richer men thinking the pompous ass of a man may not have the necessary life lessons to go ahead in life. Meanwhile this man’s struggles spoke of how he was wise beyond and his age and man!! How wrong was I.

[@jaijai5250]

Or you could invest in yourself and your future, by being an educated, hard working adult. Just because a man had money, it doesn’t mean he will spend it on you. Remember….if you marry for money, you will earn every single penny! I can attest that nothing beats having your own!

[@kathiaserrano7740]

I agree that the “sold not told” concept has been given away. Also, dating while operating in survival mode never ends well.

[@jsopar]

!!!!

[@lifeisall488]

Predators and abusers smells desperation on women specially with kids. She hasnt healed her own trauma and it follows sadly what you dont heal repeats itself. Im so sadden for her and her babies. Its nothing wrong by being by yourself until kids are grown adults ladies trust me you are not missing out on anything being all by yourself until a good godly man comes by !

[@User_g2j4b]

FACTS!!!!!

[@TatsyanasTravels]

Yes or they will try to put you in a position to where they think you are desperate enough or dependent upon them.

[@keneiloejabana3746]

What a terrible thing. I hope her and her children find healing. I remember when I ignored my intuition about a guy and dated him. He put me through hell. Had I listen at the first go , I would've avoided a lot. I pray for her and her family❤❤❤

[@Lola77971]

Same. Over 7 years. And I KNEW from the jump! 😢

[@reinaafricana6423]

I am so thankful for you, Ms. Chloe. I grew up watching so many women including my mom contorting themselves to keep the family together: spiritually, emotionally, and financially…without any male support. It was so disturbing and heartbreaking to watch. I fell into that trap of dating men who didn’t value me and used me. I accept my own faults and lack of self respect and esteem for entertaining such relationships. It’s been one year and counting, I’m learning to heal my inner child and find peace. I’m thankful to listen to the relationship advice from you because it’s authentic and meaningful. I’m not in a rush to be with a man until I can stand on my own two feet. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheNewFeminine]

🥰

[@tarawalton6778]

DEEP.❤

[@FeminineGrace2627]

I think people blame women not because a man is violent or unhinged, but because she saw this behavior and actively chose to remain with that man. There comes a point when a woman is no longer a victim but rather an active participant in her own demise.

[@yuniqueglam]

I agree, as women we have to take accountability for our parts in situations that we could and should have walked away from once it was revealed. Majority of the time things are shown to us as not in accordance with our beliefs and standards and we fail to act.

[@isa12rae]

Yep! My friend's boyfriend slapped her so I told her to leave him. She was not tied to him in any way, no kids and they didn't live together either. She was making excuses for him saying "he was drunk" and "you act like he beat me black and blue". These are the type of women that will play victim in the future if he does something more extreme.

[@moniquejohnson2465]

@@isa12rae😮hope your friend wakes up and realizes her worth

[@Youwish34]

@@isa12rae did your friend get beat growing up? Maybe to some a slap is so bad but to her a slap is nothing. (Clearly). People who grow up watching DV need therapy

[@zaire-aniyarobinson2928]

@@Youwish34exactly these are literally responses to a persons own trauma. That’s why I give the woman grace.

[@f.-j.j.5738]

*Because* I was dating to marry, I was NOT putting up with foolishness because putting up with it now meant putting up with it for the next 60 or so years. I carefully background checked my husband, asked a thousand questions, asked for credit reports, debts, health reports, talked to friends and family, researched his name on county records for previous marriages or children or criminal records. I provided the same information on myself. I act like a job who needs you to have FBI clearance. Now you can't always prevent everything but you still need to do your due diligence. I feel like she didn't do her due diligence. Watch her video on how she moved in and married her husband in less than TWO WEEKS. It's not punching down to acknowledge that she made irresponsible decisions and that affected her kids. You can't be foolish when you have kids!

[@marieporter6631]

Honestly, the elephant 🐘 in the room is that: there is no rhyme/reason why men choose to love you or to ultimately pick you for marriage. It comes down to whether he was the marrying type/ upstanding man in the first place. That's why some women get that regardless if they kids before him, or was a virgin, or a promiscuous woman, or chic, or classy, or broke or a heiress or whatever background. When I think about men who liked me... I don't recall having to do anything. The difference was in that man being straight up or having terrible character. I despise seeing women thinking they have to do anything differently than just being their unique selves to "get a man". Stay mentally strong! Men choose who they want to play with or marry. Just be mentally vigilant. No one deserves to play games with your life. 😊✌️✌️

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Beautiful comment.

[@FlowerlyF.]

Needed to read this!

[@Angelic_Allure]

So true and definitely insightful! Timing also plays a part and marriage doesn't always guarantee you're getting the pick of the litter. Self work..first and foremost will lead in better discernment.

[@rensii-e8b]

This is true! There’s nothing you can do, it all depends on what they are looking for. You should of course, dress your best and dress well for yourself, because it’s a win win anyway.

[@marieporter6631]

@@AnomalyBelleza Thank you, be well loved

[@icycici6191]

I watched The New Trophy Wife channel and she shared that her and her husband had a strong Christian faith. When she talked about moving in with him, he told her, "I don't believe in shacking up. You have to be my wife first." And then she bought a ring for him first, afterward he got her ring and they got married within weeks‼️ What fuled her decision was her terrible live-in boyfriend whom she was desperate to leave. I found that entire story to be cringe. On top of it all the husband's "strong Christian faith" gave her a FALSE sense of security to pursue the relationship. Many women look at Christian men without discernment and forget the devil hides in plain sight. Thank you Chloe for your wisdom ❤

[@reactionqueenboss2001]

😮😮😮

[@icycici6191]

@ReactionQueenBoss2001 I know!!!! Such a sad situation 😮‍💨

[@Missprimnproper]

He was never a Christian man. He lied. There was nothing strong about the faith of either of them. She referenced Shera and KS and not the Holy Spirit. So many claim to be strong Christians and do everything contrary to the word.

[@bellalegendre2644]

"Many women look at Christian men without discernment and forget the devil hides in plain sight." So true! I just blocked a man I was talking to online who was acting like a good Christian man. Talking about his love for God and how the church had restored. Come to find out he has a criminal history of violence towards woman that's less than 10 years old. He had just gotten out of jail for assaulting his estranged wife and their special needs child. Thank goodness I listened to my gut, did a background check, and learned the truth before moving forward. All that God talk meant nothing.

[@Thatgirl12-fp3uq]

God was not invited in this union. Or in her previous relationship. She needed to repent and seek God first

[@twylalove8857]

Ive been waiting for the G.O.A.T to speak in this ❤❤ thanks Chloe

[@mias4872]

Thank you for explicitly laying out that monsters can come in every race and income level. I've seen some nasty comments blaming this tragic story on the man's superficial profile characteristics!! Character is king.

[@isa12rae]

Yeah people are acting like guys with money are abusive like that when broke/unemployed men have done similar. Literally any income level.

[@cjpark1461]

Yes indeed ​@@isa12rae

[@LisaS483]

These women seem more concerned with winning the hypergamy game than having a comfortable and respectable life. But that’s not how it works. Hypergamy isn’t something you do, it’s something you ARE bc you believe in it and know you’re worthy of it. Marrying a man in one or two weeks just screams desperation, not self assurance.

[@Lore788]

I’ m sorry that happened to her and her beautiful daughters. She also had similar experience in her childhood. Trauma tends to stick around when it’s not addressed. Running from our trauma doesn’t usually make it go away. Unresolved trauma has a way of showing up in every area of our lives. Talking from experience. Thank you for covering this heart breaking story!🙏❤️

[@Chamsiee]

Thank you for not victim-blaming her. All I see is people bashing her meanwhile this sick individual is not even held accountable. This is crazy how paedophilia has been normalized in our society... I hope they will be able to heal from this situation.

[@cjpark1461]

💯

[@nkolemwaba2526]

The thing I've learnt from years of making mistakes watching other people make theirs is that there is no shortcut in life, there is no linear formula to get to the bag, the degree, the dream body or the relationship quick, just do the work, do the work

[@LizettesB3autyChannel]

@nkolemwaba2526 Exactly….DO👏🏽THE👏🏽WORK!👏🏽

[@joyceharrington8577]

When a woman begins to value a man, money, or anything above her WELLBEING, she will make choices that destroy her. I pray Isis receives the therapy she needs to come away from this horrible experience with wisdom, not just wounds💛

[@AllaboutMiandMyJourney]

There has been many times on different occasions that you can hear her daughter in the background of her videos crying, saying “oww” and her husband saying “move your hand” while Isis jokes “she’s with my husband being cranky” also calling her background noise. We gotta hold her accountable as well bc she ignored multiple signs of things that were happening in plain sight. Just sickening. I feel so bad for that baby.

[@adriennem5781]

THANK YOU for making this video from your perspective. It's getting really annoying to see all of these "holier than thou" think pieces. We can all agree that Isis made several serious errors while navigating this relationship. But if we're being honest, just about EVERY popular relationship guru/coach/talking head has a big red flag in their past (sprinkle sprinkle lady herself's husband was married when they started dating. If that doesn't scream "poor character," I don't know what does). Another thing I've noticed is that most (not all, of course) of the popular hypergamy content creators have a common thread between them - serious past trauma. In no way am I victim-blaming them - we all come to the table with emotional baggage. But impressionable young women need to be careful about where these level-up tactics are coming from. Advice given from a broken place can lead you down a path you don't belong on. Great video

[@yesboo348]

you are the ONLY creator on this platform that i’ve seen take a balanced approach to this story. thank you for having both empathy and discernment. thank you for inviting an open conversation that doesn’t discourage ladies who are victims to speak up for fear of judgement.

[@makeupbymelisa11]

I had the opportunity to stay with my ex who was emotionally and financially abusive. He starting being emotionally abusive to my son (his step son) and I had no problem with leaving. It was rough to go from the lifestyle he provided to trying to build my own but God kept us safe and we’re doing good now.

[@ShanaJahsintaWalters]

I was telling one of my aunts the other day that I am not attracted to old men.

[@scarletttommy5313]

Same they’re not attractive and extremely manipulative

[@fortyshorty2459]

Thanks! This is by far the BEST take on this situation I’ve heard thus far! Bravo! 👏🏾 🏆 The real trophy is to NOT EVER put any man before yourself or others of importance EVER‼️🚩 males are not worth your sanity, energy, money, spirituality etc you name it

[@Cat-sx6ep]

Fantastic video, Chloe. I have said it often: parents must warn their daughters about these men. I had no discernment because I was raised by two NARCS. Looking back now, I know why abusive men used me. As a single parent, please be careful. I had a man who was a father and came from a well-off two-parent home and was college-educated who financially abused me, and NO ONE helped me. It was all my fault, and my child witnessed this act. The court told him to repay with a payment plan and a lower fee. He jetted to another state. SMH. Love you first and take care of your children, please.

[@TheSweetestCocoa]

Isis is not the victim, her children are. Isis is an adult and willingly put her children in harms way to get a life she desired. She needs to be held accountable for the role she played in this.

[@moniquejohnson2465]

I agree. 🤷🏾‍♀️where’s the accountability on her part? Blessings to her children. I hope that this mom 👩🏾 heals well and learns from this experience.

[@TheSweetestCocoa]

@moniquejohnson2465 it's just a whole lot of people making excuses for her and I don't like it. She's just as guilty as him because she put them kids in the arms of a predator. Happy she got them out but they should not have been there in the first place. The part that is extra troubling is the fact that she said she was also abused as a child and "hyper vigilant". So if you're so vigilant did you see and pretend to not see. Or did you just turn a blind eye so she can make her content? It's just so disturbing on so many levels.

[@MsChellaJay]

The accountability and road to self forgiveness started with her truthful video. Again as Chloe said, ANY woman can end up with a weirdo when moving too fast. If you enjoy pointing fingers, take a hard look in the mirror and remember when that same reflection was desperate.

[@TheSweetestCocoa]

@MsChellaJay the difference is I don't have children so when I make decisions the only one getting hurt is usually me. I'm not perfect but I understand that children are amongst the most vulnerable of us and need to be protected. Everyone deserves forgiveness and understanding but if she's really trying to grow and help her family, why bring this to social media so soon? Why the go fund me ?

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Incorrect and insensitive. Yes the children most definitely are victims, I agree. She, however, is also a very unhealed victim who has not done adequate work to raise her self esteem and maneuver more carefully and judiciously. A victim of her own episodes of sexual assault from her younger years, that she has not adequately resolved unfortunately.

[@scrubbingoffinternet5221]

Ruthless hypergamy leads to Cassie type situations

[@chelseamarissa382]

That has nothing to do with hypergamy. Cassie wasn't even interested in Diddy. Read the court dic. Tw, it's intense

[@karzymimi42]

@@chelseamarissa382Cassie wanted a music career and when she caught the attention of Diddy that was her chance. I feel sorry for what she went through, but there is some personal responsibility that needs to be addressed.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Has nothing to do with hypergamy. It’s aimlessness, suppressed instincts, and lack of discernment. Making deals with the 👹 essentially. Often, it’s ulterior desires / material motives that some women prioritize heavily over the detrimental treatment they may actually be receiving. Then if the relationship continues for a significant period of time, you may be putting your life in danger when you realize that you actually want to leave / exit the situation, which subsequently makes it difficult to leave.

[@etf42]

yep, there is a reason why societies kept a woman's hypergamous nature in check

[@lovergirl________]

Proposing to a man is not hypergamy. I don't think she can be classified as hypergamous.

[@ooreofe_A]

Thank you Chloe. Thank you, most especially for the vetting tips.Thank you for always sharing solutions 💕

[@glowupwithwonderwoman]

Another slam dunk!! I got to know Isis personally last year and did a live with her inside of her private facebook group. I genuinely think she created her platform to help women but the red flags were there from day one. She’s smart and strong so I believe she will bounce back from this after taking time to heal.

[@candyjamaican]

That’s not personally knowing her ma’am. She scammed you.

[@glowupwithwonderwoman]

@ I had a relationship with her outside of social media. She didn’t scam me. She got married and went to church every Sunday. Some churches teach women that they don’t have a right to ever deny their husbands physically, so for her to say that she was r@ped is a huge deal. Have compassion for her but if you can’t then have compassion for her children.

[@munequa81]

I’m going to be objective here. The reason victims get blamed in these horrific circumstances is that they admitted to ignoring red flags (for whatever reason). A woman staying after being assaulted four times should not be shocked that it’s probable that her husband would go after her female children. I’ll also say that society puts a lot of pressure on women to “give the benefit of the doubt” in instances where they’re being WARNED of impending danger. We as women need to discuss this issue. Give the same story to most men and a man will straight up tell you something is wrong. I’ve noticed men understand a threat while women have to be convinced that something is a genuine threat because we don’t believe that we would cross paths with someone who would intend to hurt us. These demons always give peeks behind their demonic curtains but the fact of the matter in THIS case was that she decided to stay not only after the first offense, but the FOURTH. Whether children were conceived during those times should’ve given her more motivation to leave and seek help, but unfortunately, her image was more important than HER safety and that decision escalated to unspeakable trauma towards innocent children. So while her husband is fully responsible for these demonic acts, she was very reckless when it came to the decisions regarding the safety of her children as well as herself. I’m wondering why this man was her only way out.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

This is excellent commentary and analysis. I appreciated this.

[@munequa81]

@@AnomalyBelleza thank you.

[@justyb2209]

This is the best and most important video on this Trophy Wife story I’ve seen yet! All schools should be teaching these 10 lessons to young girls, so they can safely navigate their lives ✊🏾

[@Geneicee8697]

Yes there way too many women that go through so much because lack of guidance. Charm school or something would be so nice. 💕

[@Goldnlotusworld]

Was waiting for this!

[@iwantcrystals]

SAME!

[@Richgirlbusiness]

Me too! 😂I was ok chloe_ you have 7 days to respond

[@Goldnlotusworld]

@@Richgirlbusiness lol exactly 😅

[@islandgirl8067]

She’s a broken person who’s going to continue to make bad choices until she gets help for her childhood abuse. She put her kids in danger for the appearance of a luxury lifestyle.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Yes, unfortunately.

[@thefm9465]

Chloe had the most honest and accountable take on this situation i've heard so far.

[@solitarymystic4672]

I watched her video. Heartbreaking! She was so happy that she finally had this safety and it appeared to be a scam.💔 I truly feel for her. Wishing her to get over this nightmare as soon as possible.

[@Thatssobrittney]

I watched her too .. and this was shocking of course. She really sold the image of her having everything together. I think she was making the videos to really encourage/convince herself that’s it all worth it .. but little did she know.

[@raindavisz]

​@MysticRevelation24 She was misinforming her followers to sell a lifestyle that she wasn't even happy in. It took a disastrous event for her to even come out clean, but the damage she perpetuated had already been done. A man is NOT a plan, period.

[@solitarymystic4672]

@ absolutely agree that a man is not a plan!

[@lydiafabien7855]

Yesss , HYPERGAMOUS LESSON thank you for teaching us Chloe ❤

[@comesitunderthetrees]

I'm so glad that you didn't shame or bash her. Thank you for you insight into the story. I always enjoy your videos. This was indeed informative.

[@AndreaPortley]

Trophies get old, dusty and boring! Usually, end up on a shelf or in a box somewhere lost in the garage!!! Become treasure, rare, hard to find and grow with value over time!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@jaijai5250]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 well said.

[@CeeceeH1819]

💯

[@Yvelynn]

Chloe you never fails us! Thank you for this video!

[@Artisticiris1256]

I’m not very good at hypergamy as I am low income but in relationships I prefer to do the long game. I prefer a very graceful dating experience where we both are patient and genuine. I think that this is a tragic story of what predators do. I think Ms. Trophy wife is a victim but the true victims are her girls and it will never be the same! I pray for healing over that family and I hope she puts dating down and focuses on healing. The true objective lesson is to reject greed and seek God in relationships more than money. Her God of choice was pride and money and she has found out what happens when you worship false idols. This channel has helped me with discernment!

[@barcaman1013]

When you choose resources over character these are the risk.

[@alluringbliss4165]

What happened is tragic. If any woman WANTS to protect herself and children. It’s crucial to ask oneself how did this happen. Unfortunately some people allow bad situations to occur in their lives due to not having their priorities right.

[@talkswithjas7959]

I prefer the long game. I’ve played the long game in every area of my life and things always work out for the best 🙏🏾

[@GodmadeJesussaves]

Is blaming women the same as holding women accountable? 🤔💭 Great video!

[@tishagaitor3807]

It's not the same

[@monicarambeau9722]

Accountability is holding a woman accountable for HER actions and a man accountable for HIS actions. Blame is holding a woman accountable for a man's actions and vice versa. Blame is shifting accountability from the person committing the action to someone else who did not commit that action. In this case, HE abused her and her kids so HE should be held accountable for that (HIS abuse is NOT her fault). On the other hand, SHE did not vet him and lied to her subscribers so SHE should be held accountable for that.

[@Youwish34]

This is why these modern times are crucial for women. They can actually get a bank account, own property and actually divorce. Imagine she not being able to divorce this man. Plus marital rape wasn’t even a thing back then either.

[@jucxox]

People aren’t blaming her for being an innocent sheep for being randomly attacked by a lion. She put herself and her children in the lions den. She met and married a stranger within a week. She literally said he r worded her very shortly after. She knew he was not a good man and kept her young children there and then had more young children with him. She already knew he was a predator. But she was selling other women how to get a ring. Wake up lady, saying the world is responsible doesn’t keep you safe. YOU gotta keep you safe. I have a dog and I wouldn’t be around someone who hurts or doesn’t like my dog. These children have to deal with choices she made for the rest of their lives.

[@goddessnoele]

When Isis said she was a product of grape and she was SA'd as a child , I knew there was some unhealed trauma. She's a beautiful amazing woman and once she gets help she'll be able to have the wonderful relationship she deserves

[@ladyashley315]

Thank you for the breakdown and examples! Also I’m loving these poignant clips at the end they really hit home

[@tbdgaming2074]

I play the long game of social climbing

[@oyinkeks]

I think she just wanted to be seen. Wanted the lifestyle really badly

[@scrubbingoffinternet5221]

She never had a high earner and LOST HER MIND

[@scrubbingoffinternet5221]

Risked it all for a YSL bag

[@DoveLady]

bc she doesnt see herself. it sounds like she never will unless she does the shadow work, but who suffers in the meantime until she does? 👶🏽👶🏿👶🏾

[@shieldoffaith7099]

​@scrubbingoffinternet5221 Apparently, she herself was a high earning 91k 🤷

[@AnomalyBelleza]

@@DoveLady I completely agree.

[@Jenjenn1111]

Very good and balanced commentary!

[@Ashley-vu2nj]

Always worth the watch!

[@embo_5787]

one of your best videos!!!

[@cherrysenpai43]

Too many people are looking for shortcuts

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Indeed. Unfortunately. Many also don’t quite know how to navigate towards the more protected path for various reasons. This woman has demonstrated that unfortunately, and much likely due to her challenges and battles with grape and s-assault in her much younger years 😢, she is not healed nor is she navigating relations like someone who is thinking very intelligently or someone who is prioritizing her safety like a gridiron offense.

[@mjj5642]

“Smokin that dope” Just took me OOOUUUTTT!!! 😩😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

I've been waiting for your take on this situation. The 10 lessons are spot on.

[@poppy-bc4vf]

Women with children have to be very very careful. Vetting is super important and no you cant vet a man in one month. Any man that is so eager to get married pushes me away. Cant trust them

[@ipeefreely9865]

My heart breaks for Isis and her children. I pray for their healing and restoration. However, si many women relationship hop, when they're not healing their emotionaland mental wellness. He knew she was in a vulnerable place and he took advantage of that. Please, please stop allowing these parasitic, manipulate, abusive folks around your children!! It's okay to take time to be in a season of singleness.

[@nkolemwaba2526]

50/50 nighthawks is so real. They are so vigilant about that half payment

[@Shelby-s2w]

Chloe thank you for always showing compassion and empathy ❤

[@Lovingmylife24]

A man that could hurt his own two young babies is really sick and twisted in the head. I don’t know much about her and I wonder where she met him at? It was probably for a good reason he was single and alone in the first place. He has probably been unfit and she got in too deep. Ladies let’s ask these men questions about who they are and not be anxious for love, attention, money, houses, cars, etc. Walk away when it doesn’t feel right or hurts. My heart goes out to those babies.❤ God protect and cover us all!

[@DoubleA-ou7pj]

She met him on a dating website

[@Lovingmylife24]

@ 🤦🏿

[@ChocolateBabe_]

This is what I thought. He seems off? But they both do. You attract what you are.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

@@ChocolateBabe_ He definitely seems and looks off. Odd looking type. In fact, very unattractive if you ask me.

[@xrp9889]

He was always unfit. He raped her early on in the marriage. Yet she stayed for years and gave this man three kids. He knew he had a walking duck unfortunately. 🦆

[@Nikyv786]

Yes!!! Preserve your freedom of choice!!!

[@UTubeVidWatcher]

This is a classic story of how the predator became the prey. This woman was a predator searching for a rich man that was stupid enough to marry her with her 2 kids, and she found it, and that is all that man was. He had no morals; he had no character; he had no integrity, but she didn't care for that. He was rich and he was willing to marry her and that is all that she cared about, so that is all that she got from him. And a teen mom with 2 kids can never be a trophy wife.

[@lovelydiva06]

Is it victim blaming if she knew what was going on but chose to ignore it cause she considered her own comfort of being a trophy wife and materialistic things over the safety of her kids particularly her daughter, you can’t tell me she didn’t hear that and didn’t think something was off/wrong/inappropriate happening, especially once her viewers pointed it out to her, like c’mon now, accountability doesn’t get thrown out the window cause she’s a victim and the other question is, is she holding him accountable and leaving him alone or is she putting on act to save face and is still with him despite everything and is grifting her viewers with a gofundme for money cause there’s no low people will go these days but I hope for her daughters sake she’s gotten out and left if what she says is true

[@schmaelepaulection1431]

THANK YOU! I wish this was pinned. It's not wrong to call out these facts and frankly it does warrant some backlash. The one thing I can say is that she is brave for still choosing to put this traumatic situation out there at the expense of her online reputation. She's brave and I hope she truly heals 🙏🏽💗

[@mahilla]

Thank you ! I am so sorry for the kids, that is all ❤❤❤

[@makela1647]

Great video, but I’m starting to think high character men with a decent amount of money don’t exist 😭 trying to keep the faith though and I’m comfortable with being alone rather than settling

[@MariaLeeVegas]

They do! I can attest to it. But they tend to not have six pack abs and all that 😂

[@Callme_Paola]

@@MariaLeeVegasthis is true😅

[@malikawilson7071]

@MariaLeeVegas Truth!!!!! But that’s fine! That can be worked on!

[@dhqbrandi]

There's a video of her child screaming while with the person even she was on live and she literally ignored it 😢

[@4evaRoyal10]

I saw that video hmmmmm. The screams haunt me. And she said the daughter was upstairs with her father being cranky. You can clearly hear the father say “move your hand” hmmmmmmmmmmm

[@audreykiz]

You have the best perspectives online. God bless

[@luv4021]

I was ready and waiting for you to talk about this one!!! Thanks for being on point always ❤

[@HeIsWorthy247]

I understand that poverty is traumatizing and can cause someone to make very irrational choices to escape poverty. I hope women especially single moms get the stability they need in a healthy and uncompromising way. Too many “high valued” sociopaths on the loose.

[@pop8612]

This poor woman let fear and desperation her set up for a downfall.

[@jus622]

I KNEW you will make a video about this story, Chloe 😊

[@dawnemile7499]

Loved your descriptive and humourous but very true narrative.

[@SpringAmbiance]

There’s live streams where the little girl is with her father screaming, crying and yelling STOP while this woman is telling her viewers to just ignore it. There’s a rumour he filed for divorce before she decided to make that video. Something’s not right here.

[@UnpopularAdvisor]

Did you see in the viral video at the 5:24 mark the caption up to the right reads “he R*ped me 4 times in the beginning of our marriage”

[@Lovingmylife24]

OMG 😢

[@lf3554]

The best take I have watched on the entire issue. 👏

[@arielle-cheriepaterson7851]

I think whats been missed in a lot of the analysis videos I've watched so far is, how is she supposed to vet for character when she doesnt have character herself? Her, looking for someone to be her wallet, has no ability at all to discern or vet anyone else on character.

[@LadyCharity]

Prayers up for this woman and her family. Her transparency is really remarkable and I'm not sure why she is being shamed and blamed by other women. Often we center men instead of entering our own intuition and God. We must over-stand the difference between discernment and desperation. Personally, I have been sexually harassed by a wealthy man that I dated and they felt entitled to do so earlier in my dating experiences. Hypergamy itself is NOT the issue. Lack of discernment IS. 👑

[@LadyCharity]

The other thing is a man with money isn't always a generous man or a good man! Having money is a bare minimum. And broke men can also be abusive.

[@dhqbrandi]

I'd go live in a family shelter with case manager before I get married to a stranger w children. Please go get them boys checked too I don't trust that they weren't violated

[@MariaLeeVegas]

I was going to come in here today this 😢

[@moniquejohnson2465]

Great character tips! Truth 💪🏾 Thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing.

[@samantha198607]

Oh well I guess I am victim shaming 🤷🏽‍♀️ the woman hasn’t posted his mugshots so she is protecting him

[@Lesah_]

In the court of law accusation is not conviction, and if he is not convicted, she could get into very big trouble for defamation of character.

[@candyjamaican]

True. I’m side eye’n her

[@samantha198607]

@@Lesah_ are you dumb? Mugshots are public record .!!!

[@candyjamaican]

I blame her! She should be held accountable for putting those kids in danger while sitting I front of the camera looking pretty and uttering lies. Both of them should be charged!

[@ShanaJahsintaWalters]

I just finished watching her video and ended here.

[@natzcanvas]

I was patiently waiting ❤🙌🏾

[@marellamay899]

So her kids were traumatized but the mom sees it as a good idea to sit in front of a camera to share that trauma with a bunch of strangers? So even in this horrible situation attention is still important? It’s weird n sick. This is a conversation for the police n lawyers not social media

[@dheemarieINC]

THANK YOU!!!! I was literally thinking the same EXACT thing. Why put this on social media??? This makes absolutely NO SENSE to me at all. I do pray she and her children get the healing, therapy and deliverance they need after enduring this but social media is not where the healing, prayer, or therapy is at...🙏🏽😢

[@isa12rae]

But now that she already put it out there, hopefully the community will hold that man accountable and use her video to get him behind bars. He shouldn't be comfortable walking the streets.

[@candyjamaican]

And she was worried about the channel’s name!!! This happened 6 weeks ago for chrisake! She’s beautiful so she won’t be held accountable because it would be victim blaming shaming.

[@FoAl-h2b]

That's why I thought it was fake

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

That's what I was saying! This made me give her a double side eye...👀

[@poppy-bc4vf]

I never could watch her channel … I knew it wasn’t authentic.

[@bellatrix-vega]

LADIES: Number 2 is CRITICAL. Any man could lose his money/status while you are together. How he treats you and others if and when this happens says it all

[@scrubbingoffinternet5221]

She had some serious trauma from being molested as a child herself and set her daughters up for failure. There is no way she had a protective father growing up. This is her mother and fathers fault. Isis did not know better.

[@beac8238]

She definitely did not have a protective mother and father moving like this. However, she is an adult with 2 sons from another relationship. She was hyper focused on financial stability/security and failed to vet this man properly by moving quickly to secure housing and other resources.

[@scrubbingoffinternet5221]

Moving with a man after 1 week with children is crazy plus I just saw the house they were living in. Isis had to be DESPERATE totally.

[@kekeliw5348]

I believe she was a product of r*pe herself

[@simplyhere3893]

Thank you for this comment I agree 💯. Isis didn’t know better. Watching her mannerisms in her video reminds me of a broken doll. The Mother in me wants to sit her down and tell her to take her and her family to therapy to get to the root of not trusting her instincts. I want her to know healing is not a destination but a constant journey of self discovery and self love. She needs to give herself Grace. ❤

[@getyaw8up]

I believe I heard her say she was a product of r*pe herself. No way she had good examples of what love looks like in her life. Very tragic and sad.

[@adebeautybox]

Was waiting for your option on this topic ❤

[@raneesroom]

A lot of women don’t even realize they have more work to do…

[@FlowerlyF.]

You did it again 🤌🏾👏🏾

[@DoveLady]

i feel worlds worse for her innocent children unfortunately led to be casualties to their mothers tunnel vision for the ring and their fathers monstrous desires. ive said it before and i'll say it until im dead - CHILDREN DO NOT BELONG HERE.

[@Nketsi_kets]

OMG thank you my darling