Social Climbing: When DEADBEAT Family Gets in The Way!

[@NomadicNieve]

When she said the more you do the more they don't like you...man! Triggered me to my soul!

[@nu4968]

Prrrrrrreeeeeaaaaaacccchhhhh

[@littlelamb7890]

That was the HARDEST lesson I had to LEARN. Not only trying to help family but with friends (so called) as well. 😔. Survivors remorse is REAL

[@letitiahumphrey3792]

It’s because they don’t want what you give them they want what you have

[@marig9236]

So many "family" members were like this towards me. straight vipers.

[@onevenus6040]

SAY THAT AGAIN!!​@@letitiahumphrey3792

[@melanati0n]

"Peaple don't want what you give them, they want what you have"❤❤❤❤❤

[@ChantalesprettylittleDIYS]

This really hit home

[@sispeepgame]

Yup, they want to be the one the give to you. It makes them feel superior to you.

[@empressgeorgena311]

People* but yes. 💯

[@miaroberts9052]

Wheeeww hit hard!! 😩

[@sindi_mba5317]

WOOOOOW! The truth said there

[@lachannajones]

"When i started making money my family said, We're RICH, We're RICH. I said, NO I'm rich. You better go get that job back while you can." -Chris Tucker

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

This video came right on time. I had a dream about my sister last night and she's the oldest. When she came to see my new home, she constantly expressed how "this is too much house for you. You don't need all this space. If this was my house everyone would be living with me, not in no apartment". I set the guest room up for her, and she decided that she wanted to go back home. At one point in time, I was only hearing from her when she wanted money, and once I stopped giving, she stopped calling. I had surgery, and my sisters have not called to check on me. After the dream I had last night along with one regarding my cousin, I've decided to wash my hands of them. These were ppl who bullied me growing up and yet I still became successful. No matter what I do/ did they always found a reason to find fault or accuse me of something in order to justify their anger and behavior towards me. It's jealousy and we shouldn't be afraid to call it out

[@onevenus6040]

Keep them away from you and live your life to the fullest ❤ Have a blessed New Year ✨️ 🙏

[@biscaynesupercars]

Learn to love people from a distance

[@elizabethpieters7798]

Enjoy your home and do not invite family to move in eith you. They bring bad Karma and dark energy.

[@AniPow4444]

Same story. Good to know I'm not alone.

[@PrettyGirlDiscernment]

I had to cut both of my parents and my sister off. They felt entitled to everything I had to work for with no help from them. I helped as much as I could and gave my last only to find out when I needed help, it wasn't there. There was only hate.

[@carrie_heart]

Literally my exact same situation.

[@marig9236]

my Ex is like this. a true parasite.

[@PrettyGirlDiscernment]

@@marig9236 I hope you blocked him everywhere

[@camille7231]

I did the exact same thing

[@AniPow4444]

Same! Went no contact. It was a Power that I was on my own anyway, and they would never be there to love support or help me.

[@AmbarattiiIdwa]

Chloe, this video was timed perfectly. I just had the worst Christmas as I invited my family over for the holidays. My provider fiancée and I thought it would be a fun opportunity but I was met with nothing but thanklessness and negative remarks by the women in my family (all married to dusties, by the way including my mother). It goes to show that even those closest to you will attempt to deteriorate your worth and decisions when they feel left behind. We will be eloping for this reason. All the claws came out from even friends!

[@TheNewFeminine]

With your Fiancé's Leadership the Hate will test your bonds but make you stronger. Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt! Happy New Year Love!

[@AmbarattiiIdwa]

@@TheNewFeminine I just teared up as I cannot believe you responded. I cannot thank you enough for your channel as it played a big role in the wonderful life I’m currently living (from unfeminine people pleaser to a flourishing kept spoiled woman of leisure). I love you, Chloe. You are the big sister I never had 💕

[@GoddessEnergy333]

❤👁️

[@onevenus6040]

​@@AmbarattiiIdwaisn't she terrific! ❤

[@alwaysaccurate8725]

I just stop speaking to my siblings we were not raised together and it shows!!! I get asked for money before they say hello. I could be in a ditch and they wouldnt know it. I will love them from a far!!!

[@dianacastor]

People don't want what you give them, they want what you have. This is why it's never enough. Wow, that hurts.

[@focalpoint1609]

I never realized that even successful people could feel jealous. It really caught me off guard. I had a friend who was thriving and doing incredible things in their life, but the moment I started leveling up, it felt like they resented me for it, despite all their own achievements. They rarely congratulated me, even though I always celebrated their successes, and they would make passive-aggressive comments about my wins. It was such a strange and unexpected dynamic.

[@Berlanciamyrtil]

Yes.

[@butm5125]

Oh yes, it actually happens quite often. People don't want you doing better than them.

[@midasbeauty]

Its just that they are in competition with you

[@ipeefreely9865]

It's important to recognize when the people closest to you are resentful and abusive towards you. Normalize not going above and beyond for ungrateful, entitled family and friends. There are powerful lessons that people can learn from, when you stop playing Superwoman to them. Leave folks where they are, unapologetically. #BurnTheCape #NotYourMule

[@Dee-oq5ms]

Another thing I hate about this is ppl will think you’re a problem when really you’ve outgrown or they can’t handle you outgrowing their idea of what you could accomplish.

[@elizabethb121]

Yes.. giving people everything they want will create resentment in the long run because it’s everything they can’t give themselves. The success has someone else’s name on it.

[@veronicawilliams1957]

This is facts!!!

[@sheenabean222]

I remember filling my mom’s fridge with food, feeling proud as ever that I could do that and she resented me for it. 😢 You’re not lying with your comment, nothing but facts.

[@Lovingmylife24]

When my counselor told me to burn the cape, I listened to him. Since then, my life has been much better. Now I just listen to people share their problems and not try to solve them. I help if I want to not out of guilt because I have more resources.

[@veronicawilliams1957]

I’m convinced when you make it to the top (in whatever regard that is) that you have to get a new group of people around you who understand your new lifestyle. And actually..So many people & celebs do it and people say “they changed”. I see why.

[@5thHouseProductions]

I totally get it now too. I’ve had to let go of family and friends who tried to get me physically hurt because of my success. It’s actually dangerous to stay around these people.

[@veronicawilliams1957]

@@5thHouseProductionsWow! So true! It is dangerous! Look at the rappers who stay in their neighborhood after they make it-people unalive them

[@marig9236]

Mariah and Madonna went thru the same with their family. I had to cut off my own family after they did the darnedest to sap money out of me to give my mother a funeral she never wanted when she died. I said No More. and have been without a larger family in years. I have no remorse or regrets. Warm hugs to those of us with toxic family members. Adding my own full blood sister would often call attention to and make fun of me for paying attention and not neglecting my feminine side, albeit facial, taking care of my skin, getting my hair done, staying fit, dressing to look beautiful, enjoying my life to the fullest as well as knowing when to rest and level up in my career. It is shameful she lacks respect for me and security in herself.

[@esonomangueestefania-oyana6538]

It's very clear in my mind, your family is not supposed to be your burden, everyone for himself and God for us all.

[@thinkbigbih]

I had to listen to this message more than once hell I'm on my 4th time 😂 so many parts hit me and made me reflect on so many things. I had to cute off a really close friend of mine a few years ago because all the years we were friends I always helped her anyway I could but the 1 time I really needed her she lied and said she was going to come thru for me but didn't. I recently reached out to her to send my condolences after hearing her son was unalived. And offered my support even tho she never reached out to me to send condolences when my mom passed away the end of 2023. Ask me how long did it take for her to ask for financial assistance after not even speaking to me for year. Not even a week! I will continue to protect my energy and my peace from here on out. I love this message Chloe ❤❤❤

[@nakamanyalynett8341]

Happy new year ladies lets protect our selfs from people that hate us

[@PureJoyJoyPure]

I learned to not talk so much! Stop telling family, friends and colleagues what you have. Act like you have 0 in the bank! Acting poor will save you allot of problems. Let them think you have nothing to offer. This Xmas i bought adult family members zero and it was so liberating.

[@leetheaarceneaux8151]

I am not a celebrity but I have experienced this with family too and sadly I had to cut them off . I now only associate with people that’s healthy minded.

[@TonjaWade]

This video was sent from the universe! So tired of feeling guilty about wanting more for myself. 🌹🍾💰🚢

[@ajohonly3721]

Go to therapy ladies,heal yourself and watch them do their clown 🤡 shows while you enjoy your life.

[@Nasha-y9i]

I fully believe in family supporting each other. The problem is more often than not, one person is doing the heavy lifting, which leads to feelings of resentment. If more families REALLY pulled together, they would create stronger financial infrastructures….. but, that’s not what we do..😒

[@ashleyjones2137]

We don’t and then we wonder why we’re at the bottom of the totem pole.

[@Nasha-y9i]

@ That part. But here’s the gag, even if you’re not close with your family, if you have a solid circle of 5-10 girlfriends, it’s still feasible. If 10 friends put $100 in a “pot” every month, that’s $1000.00…. Rotate the $1000.00 to a new person every month. So this month, you get the $1000.00 to do whatever you need to, pay a bill, put it towards your emergency savings fund, use it towards the small business you’re building, take a much needed trip….whatever. Those 10 friends have now created their own little financial infrastructure……No borrowing/begging/compromising from and with Dustavion and Ty’Quavious. With women earning more, we should absolutely be creating better support systems. I spend $100 on fast food and shopping EASILY each month. I would much rather contribute it towards helping my circle win…. And if ya’ll are REALLY balling, increase it the monthly contribution. But again… we don’t do this, and it’s sad.

[@reinaafricana6423]

Ms Chloe, you are such a blessing. I started watching your channel during the second half of 2024. I have noticed that my mindset, accountability, self-worth, and self esteem has improved greatly. I wish you and your family a very beautiful and blessed year in 2025 & beyond. This video deserves so many likes, shares, and rewatches. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@bellabenazir7433]

This is what we call content..I have followed chloe for years and have made a 360 on my personal development and my feminine and masculinity balance,I love her and I am indebted to her ❤

[@TheNewFeminine]

🥹🥰🎀

[@onevenus6040]

We're all in her debt!❤

[@sharmanitascos]

We are protecting ourselves and leveling up in 2025 and not feeling bad about it

[@shondawilson7079]

Unfortunately, my own dad is the one who tries to knock me off my feminine square. He has shown so much jealousy and has put me down worse than any abuser I've encountered. I have made the decision to permanently remove myself from him.

[@LosAngelesLaura]

Happy Sunday, Chloe and ladies!!!!❤ (and lurkers 👀)

[@melanati0n]

Lurkers 😂😂😂😂

[@SoTappedOut]

...and ear hustlers!

[@FloralEssence-c5g]

My therapist recommended the book, "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents". I also ordered the workbook. Earlier this week, I looked up survivor's remorse, so this video is right on time. Thank you for this gem!❤

[@AyaEgbuho]

What an excellent video Chloe. Even though I am not suprised at people's jealousy, envy, and nastiness....I still feel the sting of the hurt. I am getting over that though! Thanks for the lesson Chloe! And have a safe, prosperous and feminine crossing over into 2025!!! I appreciate you! 😘🩵

[@nubeinggoddess9376]

I remember when I was earning my Master's degree and I would catch soo much push back from my family for not being able to attend some family events, keeping in mind I was also working full time and a single mother. No empathy or support at all but they all came around for Graduation. Love yourself first. As long as you know you're good and not actively trying to hurt people, pay them dust 😉

[@onevenus6040]

Are they monitoring spirits?

[@jewellcurry3468]

I needed to hear this! I've had family members, especially this year, make me feel like their burdens are mine. I'm actively working on self preservation and loving and caring for myself. Thanks Chloe❤

[@lindalubanga]

Oooh the blessing and the curse of being the only "successful" person in your whole family. Hugs to you...

[@AguanoMuldtord]

Tina Turner did a lot for her mother, as one would expect, but her mother still didn’t love, or like, her daughter, Anna Mae… Let THAT sink in: Tina Turner, could NOT win her own mother’s love, or respect with her (Tina’s) renown for her talent, money, awards, success…HER mother never liked her. Tina said so.

[@sheenabean222]

Wow!! Divine timing! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@kimberlymcleod2092]

Very divine timing just thinking about this with my family❤

[@sheenabean222]

Same. I keep trying to bring them with me but I end up getting dragged down. I love them, but I gotta let go.

[@iAMBERdextrous]

The people I expect the most support from support me the least. Those I expect the least support from support me the most.

[@marshamarshamarshmallow]

Such a necessary topic at this stage in my life. Thank you for ALWAYS coming through on time. Stay blessed!

[@etherealessenceyt]

Family can be your worst enemy unfortunately because they’re also the ones that know you the best. It’s a shame

[@princessseries2670]

Thank you, your platform is needed and invaluable. I have learned and grown so much as woman with help of your platform so thank you 🙏🏾

[@ttfells2020]

Chloé, your content never miss 🎯🎯🎯 #9 was the being towards having this beautiful life I've curated 🍾🥂🎉 Happy New Year to all in the hive

[@kimberlymcleod2092]

Hope its worth it. This year I am putting myself first ❤

[@silmsadie]

This list is fire 🔥

[@onevenus6040]

Clarissa needs to watch the movie "Million Dollar Baby" starring Hillary Swank and see those parallels...

[@marie-francoiset9402]

@onevenus6040 Yup! I had the same thought. In million dollar baby movie her family was straight up 🗑️. It’s normal to want your family’s love however if it’s not there accept that and move on. Don’t let them drain you! Claressa’s movie about her life “the fire inside” is really great and shows she came from nothing. You really can’t buy love. I hope she gets therapy

[@onevenus6040]

I had no idea that Claressa has a movie out, I've got to see it! Thanks for letting me know! ​@@marie-francoiset9402

[@Ms.TRainwater]

Thank you Ms. Chloe for all the work that you do to help women wake up to their true potential and giving us the words that we needed to hear long ago that it’s ok to live our best lives!! May God continue to use, protect, prosper and bless you❤❤❤

[@malikawilson7071]

Happy Holidays Ladies! Happy New Year! Let’s Make 2025 A Feminine One! 💅🏾Love & Light!

[@elevatewithaiji3458]

This video was right on time! Never look back ladies! Level up and let them speak to God in order to access you.

[@zinispastries9302]

Thank you . This was on time .

[@1kericho]

As always, thank you for your research and platform, Chloe. Based on observation of my family and close friends, the people who want what you have (not what you give them), come from parents who weren’t even in the person’s life during childhood development. This platform reminds us to build our worth to avoid searching for it in the wrong places. Happy 2025 and a successful close to 2024!

[@thobekamantshongo4458]

Chloe thank you so much for your videos, I am a better human being because of them.God bless you I love you so much,thank you🇿🇦♥️💯

[@LisaS483]

It’s so true. My husband’s family can treat us like a bank sometimes, only they don’t pay anything back! We are almost expected to pay, host, donate and treat everyone when there are family activities, it can cause a lot of resentment.

[@marie-francoiset9402]

@LisaS483 Then stop doing it. You can’t buy love.

[@bell581]

Wonderful! Just today I went looking for a new video

[@indymg4456]

Chloe you are a Jewel 💎 and I truly needed this morning your words of encouragement was a recharge cheers 🥂

[@Xo_Chante__]

Happy New Year Chloe and ladies! Whew! This video came right on time. It was just the reminder I needed on my level up journey.

[@hadijakalyegira4107]

Great way to end off 2024. Much love and joy into the New Year! Thank you ❤

[@LA-gh3mi]

HAPPY New🎉Year for 2025 ladies!❤

[@littlebear3879]

This is golden 🎉🎉🎉🎉Thanks for bringing us this!

[@nena_gz]

Happy Holidays! 🩷💝💖💕

[@ashleyokoro7946]

Happy New Year in advance, Chloe ❤️

[@TheQueenJawda]

This came in perfect time right in my life!! I love the confirmation that I’m so aligned, down to the content I consume. Thanks Chloe. Wow

[@mickiamajor8110]

This commentary came right on time 💜

[@dominiquefoster9358]

Excellent as always! Thank you...truly! ❤

[@beautybyapril86]

Lord… I empathize with her pain

[@tamaramcrae4037]

Been following you 5 years this month Chloe! I asked the universe for “a black women who was fair, balance and well rounded to help me in my hypergamy journey” As soon as I said those words out loud your page popped up in my feed and the rest is history. Sorry for the long post but I just wanted to thank you again for everything because I do remember finding your page at the end of that year. Happy new year to you and your family 💖

[@Sashasmith999]

Thank you Chloe, this video came at exactly the right time, post-Christmas awkwardness with triggered and insecure family. ❤

[@brownskinblackbarbie2363]

I think I am going through this

[@MeenaMeeee]

This video made new realize it’s me, I’m my biggest critic & detractor… I need to figure this out

[@sylviathomas1495]

Girl! This is my life to the tee.

[@humilis42]

They are all around me. How do you walk away from EVERYONE? 😂

[@marie-francoiset9402]

@humilis42 Looks like Eve (the rapper married to billionaire) did it

[@j.j2846]

I'm feeling the same there's hardly anyone left. I guess there's more space healthier minded people 🌟

[@ZoraHoldings]

Thank you Chloe you've been amazing ❤❤❤

[@Chamsiee]

Divine timing ❤❤❤

[@samantha198607]

❤ love ur channel 😊

[@dwaynesgirl6117]

Love this

[@behavingbetterco]

Clarissa, that's too much.

[@Financialride]

In my case, it is my own mom and I learned early on to not allow her in my finances. Kept her close, unknowingly that she was close to me for sabotage when it comes to other aspects of my life. And then one day I hit 30 years old, and next thing was shutting her down. The rage she went in just because I wouldn’t discuss any of my business with her 😂😂😂😂😂 it just confirmed what I had seen in my dream days after my 30th birthday. As I always say, they will never be satisfied, so DON’T even start. I don’t give 2 nuts about anybody’s opinion, in my life, except you are better than me, I can see your fruits and the why you are inspiring me. But most, if it pleases God. I have always had my dreamed life and I am on to another layer of that best/no cape life. If I did not birth you, you ain’t my burden.

[@musicmakeuplover3025]

Wow😢❤truth

[@indigojes]

That young lady’s sister is jealous of her achievements, very sad 😔

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Just like Simone biles mother & her sisters.

[@HarperPolo]

😢

[@ivoriandoll8532]

💖💖💖

[@allartismental9319]

#message

[@newmooninlibra]

❤❤❤

[@naimaahmed3747]

❤❤

[@GoddessEnergy333]

❤❤❤👁️

[@aj.meso26]

The longer videos are IT ✨ Can't wait to listen in! 🩷

[@resimaletorongos]

The most timely video ever! You always get it Chloe. Bless you and thank you for sharing your wisdom with us generously 🫶🏽🤍

[@Iamdeedii]

Learning this now thank you Chloe 🤍🫶🏽

[@Emilia_D.]

Very important 👏🏽 ❤

[@MissAlex816]

I’m literally going through this now and I’m not even where I want to be yet! You’re always right on time🩷