taking myself on a date | how to date yourself, confidence tips, solo date ideas

[@TashaxMack]

“You don’t have to be stimulated 24/7 to enjoy life” YES SIS, this is so true. there is beauty in the peace and stillness of life. I need to spend some quality time with myself. thanks for this reminder ❤

[@LilBlushBunny]

"Happiness is peace, not excitement" omg 100% I love this❤

[@lianhua_]

TAM YOU LOOK SO ETHEREAL BARE FACED OMG YOU DON'T EVEN NEED MAKEUP 🤍😳

[@afrodithbgk]

So true😭😭😭😍😍😍😍

[@MalailaHarrison-wp2qu]

Just saying that for validation 😁

[@sal-227]

frrrrr

[@honey413]

Listen just because someone wear makeup does not mean she is not beautiful I mean you can be naturally preety and still wear make up. Make up is for giving you some confidence and hapiness.that's it.❤

[@xWabbli]

@@honey413She looks great with makeup. But I honestly love her bare face. Her natural beauty is stunning. But ofc she can do whatever she feels most comfortable with. The comment didn’t tell her to stop wearing makeup nor did it say that she doesn’t look good with makeup.

[@anna_bahnannah]

"I attracted friendships that served my higher purpose-aligned with me, my values, and my extremely high standards." 👏👏👏

[@honeygirll]

I'm a 16 yo teenage girl and I see you as one of the successful girl in their 20s that always inspires me, I'd like you to post about teenage girls in your main channel (about confidence, self love, beauty standards, how to enjoy that specific age and your advice for us) and I'll be so delighted 🌟

[@kavyavalvai]

Same! It is so rare to find people our age in a community like this :)

[@AngelArts0]

@@kavyavalvai also 16 learning to date and love myself first shes literally so inspiring

[@shimmer410-o2i]

Omg yaaaaaas sister. Turning 16 in two months!

[@Laurajlithgow25]

Honestly, her advice is great advice for teenage girls trying to navigate this new chapter of their lives. It’s so easy to get caught up in boys & people pleasing at that age & lose yourself in that. A lot of people have what is called a quarter life crisis in their mid twenties because they went along with what others said was right for them & then post college, got the job, the apt, etc & you realize you have everything you were supposed to be have to be “happy” (by others standards) & are somehow miserable. It’s so important to really get to know yourself during your teen years

[@kaylajadeex3]

I rarely see other woman my age solo dating and it’s refreshing to see you enjoy it. I resonate with this video on a soul level I’m thinking maybe I should try filming a solo date of my own. I loved your vlog it was like hanging irl😊❤

[@TamKaurVlogs]

Yes! Thank you!

[@nikolina1811]

My anxiety kept me away from solo dating for so long but since I went to my first solo date few years ago, it became one of my favorite things! Once or twice a month I go to my favorite coffee shop with a book and a journal, it's a place where I feel comfortable and it's not that uncommon to sit alone. I love the ideas for solo dates at home and picnic also sounds fun! :)

[@miraalcel8046]

Solo dates are my favourite kind of dates. My experience dating men has been quite disappointing (to a point that I am quite scared of dating), and I am so used to doing things alone that I have no fear of doing things on my own. I often travel to other cities, eat, visit museums, shop... and there is nothing bad about it!

[@shimmer410-o2i]

Yeah I agree my dating life haven't been the best either. Especially being a teenager and getting a dating app for other teens I mostly deal with a lot of shitty rude boys who only want to use me as an object. I'm honestly just fed up with it so I'm taking a break to give back to myself. No one gets to use me,no one gets to destroy my happiness.

[@kitty.gamesrsa]

Okay here is something I do when I solo date so I go solo dates once a month so I take my journal with me and because we know dating as two people going out having a conversation what I do is look at it as going out with my past self where I read my journal entries from during the month and I reply to them after that I write a monthly review on my emotions and try to pin point where I can improve myself yeah ❤❤❤

[@candydhaliwal3596]

Tam I did solo dating yesterday and read a book in a more crowded coffee shop, it really forced me out of my comfort zone!❤ I'm excited to do it again

[@amandagreen6997]

I LOVE going out by myself! There's something special about being on your own time for a morning or evening and doing whatever YOU want. Don't worry about what others think, they are too busy worrying about themselves ❤

[@EtheralCat]

I am 25 now and i feel behind in life coz i started Everything late till my college years i was so scared, shy who would never make an eye contact with anyone, would cry if someone raised their voice at me, never go out, my life was filled with toxic friends coz i was a big people pleaser But since 2020 i started my self healing and development journey, the toughest part was healing from my childhood abuse, which was killing me from inside, i was going crazy, i was depressed and suicidal, so i told my family everything, i also got rid of my shyness enrolled in a class, started to go out alone, facing my fears, made some amazing friends..............i am currently working on my career and dreams, Thank you so much for existing tam, i love you ❤️

[@graceh8368]

Good job! I’m 32 and just now figuring out the skills you talked about and your already doing it.

[@aisiriiiiiii]

Omg Tam you need to know, I was so depressed until now and the moment you posted I smiled like a little kid and went 'yayyy'!!

[@TamKaurVlogs]

🥹🥹🥹

[@moonlightcarrot14]

i love solo dating sm and something i observed is that most of the times people don't even notice you, they're busy with their conversations and lives. great video as always!

[@lianhua_]

life goals fr 🤍

[@srcasmr]

omg, i absolutely love you. I recently found you and just by this first video I've watched I'm in love with your advice and just you as a person. I can already feel the positivity and just general amazing vibe you give off. 💕

[@melinadesh]

omg that little cute interaction!!!😭i used to assume that people think i am weird even if it is the first time they see me. now that i got rid of this thought i also have these cute little interactions with people and it makes me sooo happy. for example i remember going to a cafe and i was ordering, suddenly the girl who was taking my order said "so how is it going?" i was a little shocked at first because i did not expect that but she was sooo cute, she was like "i think it's midterm season now, how are u feeling? i hope you're doing well:)" and we chatted a little bit and it was amazingly cute. another example is again when i was ordering myself a coffee, there was that guy taking my order, i was paying cash and i gave him some extra coins so that it would be easier for him to give the remainder. he said "oh i did not ask for it because usually most people don't have that much coins on them" if it was the older me, THE LOLA ME, who assumed that she was weird and people did not like her, i would just awkwardly answer and avoid the interaction. but the athena me was like "omg these vending machines.. i have tons of coins because of them" he laughed and said "oh if you give me your coins i can exchange them with banknotes for you:)" he was so cute😭so yeah, nobody thinks that you're weird. you just assume that, therefore you radiate that energy and believe me, people can feel it. you look awkward and you feel awkward because of your own assumption, therefore, people avoid you. just be yourself and relax, we're all humans at the end of the day💗 IN ADDITION TO ALL THAT, I ALSO CONSIDER TAKING A REFRESHING SHOWER, MAKING MYSELF AN ICE COLD MATCHA AND SITTING TO WATCH TAM'S VIDEOS AS A MINI SOLO DATE😋

[@gatiuppal]

This made me so happy! Seeing her taking maturity one step at a time is the best heads up

[@tanisha5240]

OMGG UR BARE FACE IS BEAUTIFUL!! Ik its not good to say u shouldn’t do make up because if it makes u happy u should. But trust me u look beautiful!!

[@ncrsey]

I remembered going out with friends and saw a lady eating alone. my thought then was wow she’s so confident and independent. I admired her since then I did the same I usually go out alone and it was sooo peaceful. well it’s a bit awkward at first because I didn’t know what to do. I recommend to bring your laptop or do your work then when you get used to it try to do other activities uk like an actual date.

[@Ri-wx8dq]

one thing to remember is u can be in a amazing relationship and still go on solo dates. I am really happy to have my boyfriend and love spending time with him but also I make time just for me.

[@shanayaagarwal8333]

I watched this video a few days back and here i am today on my first solo date ever and pampering with myself with the goodest food and I’m feeling shy and nervous but i really am loving this

[@andryg6221]

I've been thinking about taking myself on a date for quite some time now, I'm not really one to enjoy being by myself, I always feel sort of lame when I do it and I always forget where to begin or how to do it. I've been struggling since I genuinely feel like I need to find myself again and start being my own person, so watching this video really made me realize, I need to do this. Today's the first one of what I hope will be many dates with myself. So I want to thank you for encouraging me in doing so, I don't even know how I found this channel lol, but I am glad I did (and already am subscribed to your channel (FYI, LOVED your outfit, I know this video is old, but still). Thanks for making great content :)

[@sherzies9883]

I LOVE YOU thanks for spreading such amazing positivity and message, always looking forward to your videos

[@MissAmelie]

Just found your channel, and I love it! I always do solo date every once a month, but I never put more effort into my looks. Always wear a casual shirt, jeans, and no makeup (I only wear makeup when I meet my friend). And after watching your vid, I think I need to start wearing makeup on solo date.

[@kaishajohnston9040]

I’ve realised starting solo dating at the cinema, watching all the films I would have missed out on whilst waiting for friends to be free. I love this ❤️

[@Jazzy4612]

I love how you buy cheaper makeup and it is so much more relatable!! Your blogging gets better and better, BTW!!

[@khushi-rs3js]

My Goodness, this entire video is now imprinted in my head and I'm taking some serious notes. Thank you Tam!! Plus, your bare face is gorgeous girl!! You're beautiful inside out🌷💚

[@bisheshapaudel3492]

It's never been a challenge for me to go out alone. I've been doing this like always...as much as i can remember. It's so fun to be with myself and i don't have to be worried about anything. I feel completely blissful and calm. I prefer putting on my airpods and playing some of my favourite songs. And it's sooo fun.🌼🔥

[@shahbazafzal2832]

This makeup really compliments your beautiful eyes 🤍✨

[@nm3391]

Tam! You're such a big inspiration! You don't have to answer, completely understand it's personal but curious, how did you meet your boyfriend?? And maybe a video about where/how to meet a partner?

[@dalia5120]

Your advice is far beyond amazing

[@Mariko479]

I go out alone all the time. I let my bf his do his own thing. Now going out with people became boring or felt like a job always pleasing the other person. I love my alone time.

[@Laurajlithgow25]

I absolutely love the idea of using your love language to build that self-love. Currently on my own self-obsessed 😜 journey & this is a great tip

[@kokykoko8993]

Tam you make me better whenever I see your videos my life has changed from I followed you and I really want to thank you very much and I hope your channels (tam kaur and tam kaur vlogs)reach to every one

[@maria.triana]

I never miss a video from you💕 you’re seriously one of the women i look forward to

[@Maddie-wb7tq]

Im so greatful for the video you make bcz it keeps me motivated, i would be really greatful if u add the topic of "how to avoid confrontation" bcz ive realised it holds me back for so many opportunities and ive found not a single video which really helped a d i don't have resources to provide a therapy session for myself

[@alikspendragon]

i love your aura and your vids. thank you for making me wanting to be better.

[@krishnadesai2553]

Got so excited to see your new upload! Keep them coming HAHA. Also, would love to see what's in you bag to work from a café. And I would love links to everything you take with you 😃

[@candygirl1990]

Tam you are amazing. I still get annoyed when i see couples because i want to be that girl in a relationship. I guess i still need to work on being ok with being single ❤❤

[@AlmondGold17]

youre da bawse. I FREAKING LOVE IT.

[@SanjanaAchar]

AHH I STAN YOUR MINDSET!⚡️💗

[@aachalwaghela]

One day randomly I was scrolling through my KZbin and found your channel and I'm really glad that I did coz the kind of content you make is so so inspiring ❤in one of your videos you said about spending time alone and I tried doing that but i failed 😂 but now after watching this video I've already decided and I'm so excited to take myself out once again and make this a success!! Sending you lots of love from India Tam ❤

[@iteite9488]

loved this!! i'm hoping to take myself in a solo date this week now, thank you so much for the encouragement!

[@aninge_fetzer]

the cover photo transitioning into the video is so creative 🤩

[@IsirAli]

Today is my birthday and i was feeling a bit lonely . But now i decided to pamper myself and spend my day by my own . Thnx Tam ❤

[@majawillumsen519]

Proud of you❤️

[@kimberlymaboloc3592]

You’re so beautiful even without makeup ❤

[@ella-bg4st]

LOVE YOUUUUU GIRL

[@mominaali2888]

TAM WE NEED A FULL MAKEUP TUTORIALLLL PLEASEEEEE!!!!!! SPECIALLY EYELINER AND LIP ONES🥺

[@lotushattab]

Thank you so much for making me feel confident and normalise solo dating

[@margobel6447]

Girl we need more vlogs. Loving it

[@matildaruvimbo]

Great vlog! loving the vlogging channel. I got back into solo dating because of you. I am desperately trying to make it into a consistent thing for me now.

[@thisgirlpppaula]

Yes! I agree, at least once a month we need this 🎉

[@userlily2024]

Oh my gosh! You are so amazing and beautiful 😍 This has really helped me be more confident x Love you so much girl! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@boglarkakertesz9033]

I have boyfriend for 7 years now and i still love goig out alone drink a coffee just enjoy the vibe or reading a book and being in the moment, I also like to go thrift shopping alone listening a podcast or music or just going to a book shop and look around even if i do not buy anything also i am a barista i have worked in a small coffee shop and never thought about it that why some guests are coming alone it just felt natural.

[@anveshasaxena4242]

You won't believe but I literally hoped you'd upload a video today cuz I was missing you so much, and here you are! Lots of love to you❤

[@malakmohamad56]

She so more beautiful without makeup !!!😮✨✨

[@xxkatieannxx]

I'm about to move country by myself so I'm trying to prepare getting used to not having someone around me 24/4! Thanks for this video ❤❤

[@emk4593]

This video format hit ! Thanks tam 🙏🏽

[@akanksha6604]

Love this video sooo much 🫶🏻 You have been a great inspiration to me and tysm for always inspiring me 💕

[@Greshymarrone]

Tam!! I love the natural make up glam! Do you have a step by step make up tutorial for this look?

[@keerthanachandrababu1017]

Girlll, this video was like meditation to me. I feel so good after these 18 minutes. You Go Girl!

[@TheRoadrunz]

You look so much better without makeup

[@DevK-hq6bs]

I love this. Some self-love day is a must!

[@AlessiaVH]

Your videos lifted up my mood ❤😊

[@Luckygirl77115]

gurl i miss the background even though i love london apartment but this one was the vibe ikyk

[@xnm2754]

Girl non-comedogenic is good for ya skin, its non-clogging and safe. Comedogenic is pore clogging and causes acne. The reason why cleansing balms in general can break you out is because it isn't being cleansed off properly so the residue is seeping into the pores and will clog as it is a balm like substance. With cleansing balms I would cleanse your face once or twice after (depending on your skin type) so your skin is clean and free from the oils of the cleansing balm. The inkey one broke me out too because I didn't do this. Inkey list is non-comedogenic and doesn't have pore clogging ingredients. Hope that helps

[@xnm2754]

twice after with a facial wash* - I recommend Eucerin cleansers, they are one of the most cleanest and is non-comedogenic which is great for your skin and doesn't make it feel tight after, also suitable for sensitive skin and acne prone.

[@xnm2754]

Also clinique has a great cleansing balm for taking of the makeup before using a facial wash :)

[@roxayec]

Loved this video❤ such great solo date ideas!

[@loveshine144]

I need this video ❤thank you please all of one slow down take a breath and what to do for loving

[@laaiqahyusuf500]

We need a makeup routine asap 😩

[@worldwisecapital]

Omg I love you with no makeup !!

[@jelenaristic7573]

I love this lifestyle. I manifested it too✨✨💃🏼💕💕

[@dorixyz]

ok but the fact shes so cuteeeeeeee

[@kaikai6327]

i like that your video have subtitle!! thank youuuu

[@simarjeetatwal3716]

no sugar coating but trust me gurl...without makeup uh slayy❤👑...never saw someone this beautiful...✨

[@Existing_000]

YOU JUST LOOK SOOOO CUTE WITHOUT MAKEUP!

[@layla_shin0011]

love your videos!!!!

[@sal-227]

I literally loved this video so much 💕

[@vchell]

I'm so excited I'd go to uni this oct/sept only because i always wanted to spend time alone and progress in my life. I feel empowered to spend time alone. I usually do it in my house since my parents dont let me when i was below 19 y/o. Even though now theyletme go out it's onlyw my friends. So if im going out alone my family will be labeling me as a weirdo or a depressed girl. OMG I WISHTHEY KNOW TAM KAUR TOOO 😅

[@Maylinn_D]

i love this video so so much! thank you for this

[@Chaostude07]

I love the way she acts like a pillar to build my self love 🤍🎀

[@kaishajohnston9040]

I absolutely loved this!! ❤️❤️

[@emiko_sa]

I hope u read this YOUR SO GORGEOUS GIRL WOWWOWOWOO 😭😭

[@sejalarora4679]

Just my fav girl motivating me every time i am low❤❤❤ so much much love

[@luznoceda3093]

Been waiting for it since a week almost

[@lourist]

this video was so cute and wholesome omg

[@itsmedjouza4926]

the best❤💫

[@Sm73783]

Happiness is peace not excitement and being stimulated 24*7 Enjoy the beauty in stillness

[@eucalypsus]

You change my life every time with every video❤❤❤

[@Mastermanifestors28]

Thank you,this was amazing.

[@anuja2885]

Tam just a slight correction - comedogenic means prone to give you acne. So what you're looking for is non-comedogenic products and not the other way around!

[@atithimudiya2953]

Hey tam l really inspired by you and your makeup is damn cool..Could you share your makeup routine and which products you use

[@anuja2885]

The vibes ❤

[@umnothanks9504]

god you look ethereally radiant bare faced jesus christ

[@Mimmohmuchai]

Really LOVE this😍

[@mehzxx]

love u slayyy gurlll❤

[@quensol9762]

Please make a video about spot light effect 🙏

[@That_stetho_girl]

Ur videos have become my motivation ❤❤

[@gabrielamarinova2767]

Eventually I was doing that without knowing it’s called solo dates. Before 7 years, I just moved out to a new country, I didn’t have friends and my boyfriend was always busy. So I was eating burgers in my car (loved that) , going on a shopping, exploring, signed up for a gym. And now 4 years later I’m back in my country, alone and scared to go to a boxing class by myself. So freaking sad. Try my best to go back to that part of me, being again my own best friend. 🤍✨💅

[@Brown_Barbie24]

the not being allowed to step out of your house is real.