taking myself out on a date // the reality of living alone + being single

hullo, welcome to da new video! (i'm starting a posting schedule of weekly on fridays, and we barely made it with this one haha!). as someone who ~lives alone~, it can be very easy for me to hermit and spend all my time indoors, working remote. but, i've gotten into the habit of taking myself out, whether it be for dinner and a piping hot bowl of bun bo hue, or going on an 8 hour long day date like today! from ice skating to solo museum adventures, i hope this video serves as a reminder (and example maybe?) of how the best company can be found within ourselves. mucho kisses to ya!
signing off,
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1:16 makeup grwm
8:45 outfit
10:21 let's go!
11:37 ice skating
12:40 museum date
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15:29 back home & book haul
17:00 takeout for dinner
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[@m_mmko]

As a single 20 year old who has never been in a relationship or even kissed anyone, I realized long ago that my biggest goal is to love and take care of myself, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend can come after. I can’t properly give myself to a relationship with someone if I don’t love myself. Hydrate yourself, nurture yourself, focus on yourself, and it’s okay to be selfish at times! edit: i'm now a single 21 year old who has STILL never kissed anyone or been in a relationship. I love myself more than ever, remember to hug yourself and take yourself out on dates. treat yourself like you'd treat your lover, and strengthen your relationships with family and friends also!

[@Sasu123456789x1]

I completely agree and same!

[@hydrofrolicwildflower3393]

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[@priscillayg]

I feel like this is the single most important thing to learn in life. I finally realized this and it has changed my perspective on everything.

[@m_mmko]

@@YasminePomerantz that’s fine if you have a boyfriend! but still make sure to spend time with yourself alone and treat yourself like you’d treat your lover.

[@howelljenkinshsgf]

❤❤❤

[@terry_da_toad2]

I don't know how but linh has literally explained my whole feeling on being single, like i used to always have someone I want to go out with or liked but now I just have be loving being alone, going out for drives to clear my mind and eat a nice lunch by my self is what I love doing I am glad I can realate to someone so amazing

[@hannahdigitals]

Journaling helps to fill the void in a break up of having a person to talk to about all your random thoughts and feelings. I def recommend adding it to your routine!

[@fairyfarms]

TRUE !!

[@hydrofrolicwildflower3393]

I’ve never been in one but I’m Be been journaling since middle school and I love ittt

[@luciel2428]

I think i would go crazy w/o it

[@moneywithmocha7787]

As a 40 something single person, I so enjoy your content. It's refreshing to see the younger generation questioning the status quo that we all need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. You inspire me to keep evolving into a happier more peaceful version of myself.

[@mac8124]

omg linh, i feel the same way. just getting out of a relationship, having crushes but not wanting another relationship. ive grown to be more comfortable being an individual and investing in my platonic relationships

[@indigoisfine895]

this is such a wholesome video! I'm aromantic, so self-love and platonic love seriously means everything to me and this kinda vibe is right up my alley

[@random_thing-]

ayee im also aromantic hehe, platonic love is the best fr

[@anya6778]

Shoutout to all the aros here 🫂🫂

[@cyndyke]

@@anya6778 we up FR

[@totori81]

I'm glad linh is taking time to focus on herself and her mental health!!

[@haldiroot]

I really love the idea of taking yourself on your own little dates! For those of us who aren't able to go out as much (whether it's because of finances or any other reason), I really reccomend reading something cozy, playing a nostalgic game, or going into passions/hobbies you like a lot. Even just eating something you always eat under some warm sheets is really nice.

[@random_thing-]

aww i love these recommendations, i always feel like i am missing out on the freedom of leaving the house alone and whenever i want. thank you for giving me comfort

[@haldiroot]

@@random_thing- aw, of course! I always end up really wanting to go outside but am unable to as much as I'd like, so I try and find different ways to keep myself entertained and relaxed at home. I'm glad these recommendations help (and it's okay if they don't sometimes. Sometimes we all just get bored).

[@random_thing-]

@@haldiroot ahaha no these are some great recommendations, i definitely realte to not being able to go out as much as i want

[@rikkacua8823]

Omg! Finally someone who has the same feelings toward dating app! I went through college being the ONLY ONE in my friend group who wasn’t using it and had an ex-friend who actually made me feel almost “bad” not using it! Like I was missing out on something or an experience in my early 20s. It just never felt right for me! THEN near the end of my uni degree, I met my now husband (I’m 26 now) on a summer semester in Europe in the most “meet cute” way! ❤

[@apollosbutterfly]

there's a stigma that you can't grow while being in a relationship, and i think with the right partner, communication, and time, personal and individual growth can happen and will be a priority. it's about balance and setting boundaries, what do you give and get? i also believe most relationships/friendships are meant to be temporary and help you on your journey! love you and your videos linh xx

[@moiseimre7526]

Your videos are like therapy for me 🥹🤍 keep going

[@dre_a_m_re]

You have made me want to romanticize my life more and take care of myself. I am so grateful for you. I know that, whenever I'm feeling anxious or down, I can always come to your channel and find peace. Thank you!

[@evelynmYT]

i just did this as well! it really does wonders for your mental health + learning the value of taking care of yourself 💕

[@xaaax12]

I MEAN a book haul with miyazaki and a final take with yuri on iceeeee

[@francescakyanda9182]

I loved Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow! I so identify with the complexities of dating vis-a-vis parents, mine are immigrants and being in the closet as pan and ace, I worry about their inevitable reactions to me dating someone who's not a dude, so I'm focusing on friends right now and it's much more fulfilling!

[@marcusmakesvideos22]

Solo travels and solo dates are such a vibe and I totally recommend doing them!

[@eggytoasty_]

I'm also single, and I usually don't see myself getting dating or starting relationships. I love to be in my own space and in peace. Honestly isn't either about my sexuality, and it is just how I feel about the word "love". Having 'icks' makes go far away about the mindset: "Oh no, I better just stay single forever." Well, honestly, who knows? Merry Christmas and happy new year, all! Stay warm!

[@imaginationapencil4335]

i’ve always hated how pressured people are to be in relationships from such an early age. it’s rlly sad that like literal middle schoolers feel the need to have someone to hold hands with on valentine’s day and such. i’m literally still a teenager, yet i feel so alone because i’ve never been in a real relationship before, especially since a lot of my friends are dating or have dated other people. i’m trying to get more comfortable with being single and not having rlly any crushes and it’s rlly hard to do!! props to u for being able to take urself out on dates and such cuz it’s hard to do self care honestly. great video btw, love ur content as always :)

[@justangie111]

linh, your videos are my safe place, thank u

[@laurettadelmar2781]

I’m so happy to hear that someone else is at that stage in life like I am of being unbothered about being with anyone and really enjoying being on my own and working on myself and my career Not only that but someone with my face profile and body type is also weirdly comforting to see

[@yoon2917]

thank u linh for creating a safe space. i’m a hopeless romantic too but also an aroace. i love seeing people in love but often times think that i don’t deserve it but also i havent been any close to intimate with another person. we’ll see what life has in store for us :’) edit: omg LMAOO the ice adolescent. i swear its been taking forever and for what 😭 it’s been so long we’re sp deprived

[@crimsonberyl3132]

Dang, just got out of my first relationship (long term, two years) and I’ve been having a hard time, I only discovered your channel recently, and hearing you talk about your breakup and how you feel the exact same way I do was really comforting!! I hope your doing well girly

[@meetu_]

My cat also loves those between the eyebrow pets! Kayla seems much more talkative in this vlog also! Your solo-date seemed like so much fun, I might have to try it myself sometime!

[@lunablairrr]

I really miss your solo dates way back on your 1st apartment, I'm really happy to watch this, it's like a perfect pre Christmas cozy watch ♥️

[@ezmia3818]

Thank you so much for this video, Linh, and honestly all of your videos! I have never dated anyone and it has been my literal dream for the past 18 years of my life, but seeing you take yourself out on a date made me realize that I should take advantage not having anyone right now and it is okay that I haven't dated anyone yet. On two unrelated notes: I also recently got Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow, it seems good so far, and I also absolutely adore your outfit!

[@crafteariee]

What a cozy & warm video! Good seeing you do your best to hold yourself more gently with love in this vlog! I find that with certain habits I’ve been developing in the past year or so of solitude , I’m at a lot more peace with myself than I had been when I was previously overwhelmed by life in all its heartbreaks and changes. You’re never truly alone! Linh, you said it, “you can put the skillsets you need to be happy”! It’s a choice in itself to give yourself joy even in little things too! 💕

[@selliesaurs]

enjoy single life Linh!!! YES initially the breakup is really hard, but then you come into yourself even more as you become content with being alone & taking care of you! the most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself

[@mayviratikul8848]

seeing you talk about being single and dating culture was so soothing and validating. I'm in my first year of uni in a different country and it's been a journey to find peace with spending time with myself and getting to know who I am. I used to get jealous of couples and negatively reflect that onto myself but now I'm fully desensitized, if I see a couple all I think is that I'm just happy for them. Your videos have been inspiring me to be more observant of the small, simple moments of joy in everyday life and it's so great to fall in love with life and myself again, thank you🤍

[@thescarediest]

I appreciate how transparent and honest you are with how you’re handling this phase of your life. Being alone is a skill! It takes time and effort to be comfortable with yourself and I feel like you just sharing your thoughts with the world can really help others realize that they have more control over how they live their lives than they realize :) ❤

[@belkis45617]

thank you so much for this video, i’m also going through a breakup and it’s been pretty rough, but your videos always bring me so much comfort and find a way to make me feel better. so thank you again

[@TheKatielovesthis]

GIRL BOSS LINH I myself have been going through the breakup era as well and it was SO lovely seeing you treat yourself and putting yourself first. I have been trying to work on this so thanks for giving me inspo and reassurance :) I resonated with your intro and shpeal in the beginning- I know how you feel :’) We got this Linh and I wish you and I the best on this solo journey of ours

[@varshanarein]

linh's videos are just so cozy and calm

[@melallegretti]

omg I love how you romantize washington DC so much because I`ve never felt 100% comfortable living here (in the suburbs, actually), but whenever I see your videos it just makes me so excited to go downtown and explore!!

[@manninnnnnnn]

genuinely love your video style and how you make the viewer feel like a friend! i cannot wait to see your future videos!!

[@tiredmama42]

ur such an inspiration to me

[@blueberrymuffin113]

don’t worry linh, you are not alone with the peace signing! someone threw me one a couple months ago to say hello and signal they were up for a conversation and even they looked surprised by it 😂 i actually found it quite endearing since i was nervous, too

[@jjuulliiaanaa]

your videos are always so comforting for me

[@Issuedbox]

Linh helps my cupioromantic-self be calm unlike my therapist :)

[@lola-uh4dq]

such a sweet video :,) i always love the meaning and creativity you put into these 🫶🏻 we love u linh!

[@fromthemoonandmybed]

The rawness of this video is immaculate 🤌🏻

[@dear._sky]

love the artistry of your videos. i’m in awe every time i watch. 💗

[@yacrupni]

Thank you so much for sharing this!!! I have been feeling so many of the same things and it’s been making me feel very strange and out of the loop compared to everybody else in my life. It’s so wonderful to know I’m not the only one who feels this way and to see this moment as a positive thing as opposed to something I’m meant to just outgrow as quickly as possible

[@koheejellyi]

DROP EVERYTHING FOR THIS VIDEO

[@kyla9469]

watching u is so healing

[@sophia5246]

line's walk montages are THE BEST. UNPARALLELED SENTIMENTAL VIBES. thank you for sharing a lil slice of your life and what you're feeling. happy holidays, linh!!!

[@LokiAndTheIdiots]

oooooooooooo yk, ur the only person that helps me have the motivation to do school, clean or just take care of myself, u give such a good vibe I love it ^^

[@withlovelucis]

seeing someone being able to spend time alone outside. my whole household besides me have covid, and even my little introverted self is sad. ❄🤍❄ happy holidays everyone!

[@teabubbles4ever]

hope they recover soon and that you manage to look after yourself okay

[@withlovelucis]

@@teabubbles4ever thank you

[@laviniakwok778]

I'm always excited when you uploaded a new video and your videos really bring comfort to me. Keep it up, Linh!

[@blisschai2608]

so excited to watch this, I’m also going through breakup and lots of other things and it’s the holidays so all my wounds are amplified

[@n0vadr3ams]

It's always interesting how videos like this can align with the viewer's experience so effortlessly??? I've always enjoyed your videos and you really do feel like a friend I can chat with!! (we love parasocial vibes aha 🤪) But this serves as a reminder that we aren't alone in our thoughts and experiences :') I've also been single for a while now and it's just?? So WEIRD not having a crush/someone to pursue!! Which I hope,, is positive :') From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much Linh for your content and existence!! I always love listening to your perspective on various topics, and just overall your chill vibes

[@lizaaa.m]

THE OUTFIT IS EVERYTHING

[@Taratangsiri]

I feel like I was in sleepover with during the grwm. You're such a comforting person, love you❤

[@yeekeets]

these 20 minutes just felt like a warm hug to me

[@keepingthismemory]

Thanks for showing the “bad” and the gorgeous side to being by ourselves 🥰🥰

[@amandalee9583]

i love your vlogs their just so comforting and omg yuri on ice is the best!!

[@jessramos8375]

Linh, your videos is my comfort show 🫶😭

[@m3l0nad3]

Bookstore date sounds very good! Sign me up! Another banger vid from Linh!

[@TheChessmastersa]

Even though you’re younger than me your outlook and videos reach me to be more patient with myself and I really appreciate you for that, thank you

[@gingerkingfisher]

Your room decor is such a vibe linh

[@sprout9689]

perfect way to end the night ❤

[@avrycp5440]

going through my first breakup right now. it’s so comforting to see this and go through it along side someone i appreciate and look up to. thanks for always being my comfort person ❤

[@nicopikotobo4145]

Hi linh!! I never comment on ur vids but i just want to say ur vids are a huge comfort to me especially during seasonal depression

[@itsanhwin]

while i really love the freer/sackler galleries, i'm glad you brought up being critical about art . . . something i'll keep in mind more; and your whole grwm talk really hit . . . there's an art to be alone without being lonely, and i'm realizing that i also really enjoy my own company 😹also friends >>>>

[@sliceofgabby]

the makeup grwm felt so intimate and cozy and it felt like we were just two besties spilling the tea together hsjdjddh i love u linh and ur new thriving single era!!!

[@AlyBalagtas-sb5ql]

missed you, linh! happy holidays + enjoy the last days of 2022

[@luvleyylyn]

been watching your videos for a while now and it's like comfort, luv your work!

[@jesscthevision]

linh i absolutely love your videos and creativity. you inspire me to be more creative and thoughtful with my own art. the best part is that this all comes from your heart! thank you

[@vqlluna]

Omg hi Linh! I honestly haven't watch you in forever, life got in the way, but I remember being here watching you from your first few videos, and when you only had a few hundred subscribers, I find you once again too over 1 million subscribers, and I want to tell you how happy I am for you! You helped me so much through quarintine as well, and I love too see how much your channel has grown! Love you Linh!!

[@samhumphreys7202]

I Was Born For This is an INCREDIBLE book if you are in any sort of fandom (especially a band / musician). I really loved it and think that it also has a good portrayal of platonic love.

[@Ellie-vc3js]

This video brought me so much comfort, especially since the holidays are difficult for me.

[@pheeloves]

The first half of this video is the most relatable thing I've ever watched. I share every single thought about whatever you said about dating apps, asian parents, hookup culture, a lack of interest in relationships (barring the ick from couples- I really don't mind them but I don't want it either), etc, & I love taking myself out on dates! I've gotten very used to going to cafes and restaurants and places alone and I love my own company so much. Such a gorgeous video! Much love

[@fayeailalagan5886]

happy linh is my fave linh

[@marining]

linh i relate so much with your thoughts 😭😭😭 thank you so much, this made me feel less alone in my own feelings

[@meowy2331]

i relate a lot esp with the solo dates, ive been going on a lot more after i graduated uni and now live alone, so this was very comforting. sending lots of love to you! I hope you stay warm and cozy :D we love you!!!!

[@stephranaway]

this made me so emotional, thanks for another beautiful video linh!

[@Piink_Mochii]

Wake up babe, new Linh vlog just dropped

[@gawbyisagreenskitel]

Thank you for this ! I’m currently living alone and so when I watched your video it brought me peace ! Thank you and I appreciate u ❤

[@SIRKISSHY]

This was so comforting to watch with my cat while we're laying on bed. Will mention this vlog in my journal because the vibes were so cozy and relaxing, reminded me to enjoy life with hope :)

[@arod1327]

I LOVE YOU SM

[@otterpop729]

tomorrow & tomorrow & tomorrow is my favorite book ive read this year!! so so so good, i binged it in two days

[@currymonches_]

WE LOVE YOUUU💚❤️🖤

[@misatofujii]

ive been watching your vlogs for a while now but I loved this one so much since the way you put your feelings into words is so relatable and I was like YES the whole time! I also laughed so much with this vlog but loved seeing how you enjoyed the time on your solo date

[@Mi-fr8vq]

really liked the shots at the museum edited with the jazz music!! it's always nice just sitting down and watching some of your vlogs esp now during winter

[@library7112]

i've been feeling the same way about couples & dating!! love the video & editing as always

[@pastelsnickel1165]

this is such a beautiful and fun video 😭 i love how you’re healing and growing and we are witnessing that also, yes i could talk on why platonic love means sm to me for hours as well I NEED THAT BOOK happy new year and have a great one :) manifesting good things to come your way 🫶🏻

[@leila.477]

IM SRRY BUT I REALLY NEEDED THIS. It’s perfect timing ! I recently have been dealing w a break up so this is really nice

[@farhinulfatanika7946]

ow the timing is so accurate i was searching for vlogs to watch and you uploaded itt aaaahhhahdhdh

[@allthrees3]

Linh, everything you talked about in the beginning so perfectly describes everyone I was and am experiencing in the moment. And now I'm in that stage where I'm indifferent too. It's nice to hear it was a normal feeling and I can be at peace as well

[@shakinlikemilk_]

I loved this video Linh :) I think something I’ve learned from being alone at school is how to just be with myself and enjoy it. It took me awhile but now I love going to shops and cafes on my own. Definitely taking myself on a date after the break😎

[@theawesomeperson12]

The vibes and sentiments are spot on

[@trappedinreality6726]

unbelievably early ?! i wanted to say tysm for doing what you do, your content helps me gain motivation on rough days and keep it going on good days. i love your content sm

[@mkrpch]

prepare for »tomorrow, tomorrow and tomorrow« is way my favorite book that i read in 2022 but still keep the tissues ready :D

[@xxami5964]

your videos make me feel like i have an extra friend! you are so sincere and creative when it comes to your videos/artworks and it inspires me sm

[@MikasHobbies]

This video reminded me of all the solo adventures I used to have!! I recently became extremely anxious about going out alone and the bus (i dont drive) and all that but this inspired me to take myself out more often and everything is going to be okay. The world doesnt have to be seen as scary all the time

[@Yasmin-rv5iv]

i always feel like you're able to voice out the exact feelings that I've been feeling lately. I wanted to try dating for myself but I feel like it's hard to connect with people, that aren't on the same deeper level as oneself

[@hpdwm5sh]

I was feeling really overwhelmed and irritated today for some reason (I blame the snow storm isolation lol) but watching this reminded me how important it is to slow down and focus on myself and my needs and wants. After the snow clears I am definitely taking myself out on a date! As always, thank you for sharing this with us, Linh, it means so much.

[@eternaltreasure8333]

i love how cozy your videos are!! i'm so sorry you're going through a break up, but it's such a process to get out of! being in a different part of your life now (out of college) makes you see things much more differently than those still in it. highly recommend going to local meetups or volunteering to branch out if you're looking for that! also maybe raya might be for u to meet people (once you want to!) so the influential power dynamic is less.

[@zarhene]

so pretty oml

[@morinagaby]

ahh early gang, love you linh!

[@beckitbeckit]

this video made me so unexplainably happy idk if it's because seeing you so comfortable alone makes me feel better about the fact that i struggle to be alone maybe it's just because i also love books and museums and yuri on ice idk but this video made me so so happy