confidence is uncomfortable

[@inayah0]

hi everybody

[@sabinxc]

i listened to all of the video while I was washing the dishes. i even listened to it again right after - to take notes. you are verbalising the thoughts that I had struggled to come up w to express them. and your videos are exactly like you creating a bouquet. you arrange the beauty of each experience and at the end, there is a beautiful beautiful arrangement that is imperfectly perfect. and I love u for that, and I love me for clicking on this video because it affirmed so much of what I needed to hear.

[@kellidupree]

thank you for this video I needed to hear it today 🙏🏼

[@Maleeklu]

In my life, I have watched many videos about confidence and so on, but your video touched my heart because you really talked about real and realistic things that we do, and it is also the first time I have watched a long video without getting bored. You are amazing. I would be grateful if you did. Talk about whether we can start from nothing.. ❤

[@cosmicdissonance9888]

ur lovely and keep making content!!!

[@nadezhdanadianadezhda]

I have too many words to explain how good this video is and how much I enjoyed the experience of hearing you whilst drawing, but the main point I'm trying to elaborate is that you - Inayah, you are incredible in my eyes and I really relate to everything you said in this wholesome video!

[@JuliannaHigginss]

I live by this motto “discomfort is the potential for more comfort” and it has changed me life.

[@angelviviana888]

i will be carrying this with me moving forward, thank u for the gem lovely

[@ethergolden]

I need this tattooed 😮🤌🐸✨🦒🫶✨Thank you for blessing my brain with this!

[@kozhikkaalan]

That was great

[@JuliannaHigginss]

@@ethergolden of course :)

[@JuliannaHigginss]

@@angelviviana888 of courseee

[@naomim.7220]

I love when random small youtuber videos pop up on my feed and the video is so good

[@nalbinalbii888]

same vro❤

[@giahanmei]

Ikr

[@deathuponusalll]

Same

[@ak_naral]

*Sweetheart, that is no random small youtuber. Thats Charlotte Sartre.*

[@nalbinalbii888]

@@ak_naral wtf no

[@GabrielleNozil]

I miss when KZbin pushed out all different kinds of small creators to the forefront, I love thisss

[@harresdirksen1950]

KZbin is still doing that. The problem is that there are 10000x as many small creators as there used to be, so most of them will never catch on.

[@chris-rp3jl]

My KZbin does that, maybe is what you watching

[@Leon.Stanic]

my yt does that and i wish it didnt

[@yukisakura9582]

Exactly

[@lemonke5341]

@@harresdirksen1950 keep getting those bot channels or the lil kids with 1 subscriber posting cringe content

[@Kim-z6i3l]

This just reminded me of something! This book called “The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden”. My confidence shifted in a whole new way.

[@Marie-s6g]

I actually finished that book 3 weeks ago. Tactics are crazy good. I like it so much. Would also really recommend it!

[@evarossi6]

Thanks for sharing it

[@evarossi6]

im checking that out now

[@NailaCytrus-yq3dt]

I couldn't find the book can you give a link or something? I really wanna read it !!

[@evarossi6]

@@NailaCytrus-yq3dt just google The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden , let me know if you find it

[@julianamattson1737]

Once you start to practice the confidence, your passions start to make themselves known stronger and you can fully breathe them in. The passion and compassion you're exhaling in this video is beautiful

[@inayah0]

Absolutely

[@katenyirenda848]

what a beautiful comment. i love the way you articulated this !

[@nalbinalbii888]

did you mean exhaling or exuding?

[@E-bunny]

is this true? because i've been trying so hard to find something i'm passionate about but its so difficult.

[@skatergirl1759]

THESE are the words I was looking for

[@mijni]

Being a painfully self-aware and self-conscious person who has a vision but not the confidence, I feel this. Thank you.

[@happymixtapes]

!Please read the following as straightforwart, but benevolent critique: Maybe try forgetting to take yourself so seriously from time to time. Most people give way less fucks about you than you imagine to even consciously notice you and especially not to want to judge you, unless you are in an environment that cultivates toxic shame.

[@happymixtapes]

Confidence will grow naturally with being brave, pushing your boundaries and abstain from identifying with feelings of shame, if you decide that they don't make sense. If you own them a couple of times in a friendly environment, that is not overly critical towards you, they will magically loose their power.

[@Mikexception]

@@happymixtapes If self confidence is based on perception about him/her of knowing person people's then it is value by itself induced by maditations and long time creation of own image. . Then how much would person give and what would do for escaping any public accusations ? For somebody who has selfconfidence based on known around factual achievements in own life and on wisdom eventual accusations may be confronted with facts.

[@happymixtapes]

@@Mikexception I am interested in your argument. Unfortunately I can not exactly make sense of the text. Could you maybe make your point a little bit more clear?

[@Mikexception]

@@happymixtapes Thing is when making effort only to create selfconfidence without having real reasons of that confidence then such person is fully depending on that elaborated impression which say is not supported. Confidence is based on knowledge of genuine life facts. Is it justified to be confident in young age before getting life experience? It may be misleadiing. . Such status is virtual . Such people are vulnerable for any damage in public and may be used. .

[@chelogarcia69]

this is the format i miss. just sitting down naturally doing things not all the music effects and animations and crazy transitions and editing. just human to human. thank you

[@indiebindietrendie]

i was trying to figure out why i liked this so much, you’ve explained it perfectly!

[@Storytelling_at_Scale]

yeah this is my favorite format as well.

[@moravianlion3108]

It's a screen to human, video literally begins with "sparkling, magical" music background to capture your attention.

[@alejo_420]

@@moravianlion3108 actually the video starts with a statement on the human condition which captures viewers emotionally. the "sparkling, magical music" is an intro that helps categorize and label the purpose of this video. hope that helps.

[@lewdleaf4975]

​@@alejo_420 the ppl commenting wanna be different

[@setoki2838]

I heared the quote "to become the person you want to be, you need to build up evidence for yourself, that you are that person". For example, if you want to become an clean person then think about ways to improve cleaniness of yourself and your surrounding and the more you clean and think about it, the more you will actually become a clean person.

[@StJimmy-hj1bo]

heard*, a* clean not to be rude, genuinely to educate

[@bexiexz]

this visual vibe is perfect for my eyes

[@hrxghs]

right?? all her videos look so aesthetically pleasant

[@bexiexz]

@@hrxghs yes yes yes🤍

[@Testing-pj8bh]

good vibes girl style?

[@bexiexz]

@@Testing-pj8bh ❤

[@Chocobunnn]

fr and 555 likes

[@Vix-nb4oh]

soo important to talk about this!! confidence is a CHOICE it is not bestowed upon you naturally

[@cloud6318]

Yas

[@nalbinalbii888]

@coomerkillerit becomes natural once you continuously make the choice to be confident. it is still a choice though...

[@nalbinalbii888]

@coomerkiller your source?

[@mehmehnavarro4496]

@coomerkiller😭

[@sholden4453]

Watched the whole video, it was very moving and informative. Thank you and continue doing what u do it’s always great to see somebody putting out positivity in the world

[@theabyss6014]

It's so hard to hold confidence at the same time as being sensitive to your feelings, like the moon and the sun

[@Yllwsil]

Brilliant

[@rico14]

Ying and Yang

[@Mikexception]

If person whom I do not value, ( because is not valued by others too) says bad about me it is like very positive for me signal that I am not mixed to his companion. My boss at company dinner once named me publicaly "strange duck" . It gave me confidence in work so he felt obligation to write ma special letter of admiration at completing the job.

[@wookiwoo2798]

A quote that had helped me a lot with this is “putting yourself first isn't selfish, its self love” Its really helped me realise that you can still do whats right while still feeling good about yourself even in delicate situations ❤

[@Cricketfansonly_]

Just finished reading Hidden Astral Projection Techniques on Shirlest, and I'm still in awe. The depth of information is unreal. I managed to astral project for the first time, and it felt like a whole new world opened up.

[@schleepyzo]

i think the biggest stepping stone into being confident is realizing that self love and self respect are two different things. to be okay in your self, you have to not let people walk over you or put yourself in situations where you feel ‘loved’ but with side effects. once you respect yourself, even if you’re insecure this gets you in the mentality of not letting people waste your time and finding people who actually enjoy you and your presence.

[@swoop2386]

if you have self-respect you dont care if people walk over you because it doesnt bother you. everyone has the right to say what they want as long theyre not harming you physically. respect in general is a very strong egoic idea. as far as im concerned respect is non existent, theres just being a good person and treating others well no matter who they are

[@n.a.199]

@@swoop2386 For me, letting people walk over me isn’t a good idea. I tend to shy away from necessary confrontation/boundary setting so speaking up for myself is uncomfortable, healthy, growth.

[@swoop2386]

@@n.a.199 thats true, but really it all depends on what someone means when they say "walk all over", for different people have different meanings for it

[@BigBrotherBrody]

​​@@swoop2386 not to add on to the already philosophical statement, but "The way I see it, good is merely a word applied to people who are convenient to our needs in some way. Its purely subjective. Any way you try to look at it, labeling people dehumanizes them." -Armin | AoT (its getting deep) It doesnt necessarily apply, I just love the quote :)

[@benjachoper]

bro i love the quality of the camera plus the letters font plus her style plus shes making flowering while speaking facts

[@yuriplisetsky]

thank you for this! i also want to add: the way you talk about yourself, whether it's a "joke" or not, also can have a huge impact on how you view yourself. i used to make a lot of self-degrading jokes (like, "oh, i made a tiny mistake, i'm the worst person in the world"), and it didn't do anything good for me. even though i was never completely serious when i said things like that, it still impacted me in really small ways. after a while i shifted to self-uplifting jokes (where, for example, if i messed up when cooking something, i'd call myself the best chef in the world), and while it was still sarcastic, i saw a huge boost in confidence in myself after making that shift. i think i started doing this because of something i read a long time ago (but i don't completely remember), so i'm passing on this tip to hopefully help someone who still might be struggling with something of this nature :) (btw, did watch the whole video! beautiful arrangement at the end

[@yume9998]

My mom makes self-degrading jokes to me like that. Idk if it could be called as a joke but it didn't make me feel good. After a while, I unconsciously started to make self-lifting jokes such as "COME HERE AND FIGHT ME I'M THE STRONGEST ONE HERE! LOOK AT MY MUSCLES!" at my friends. And even though my a chubby+weak person, it feels good to be delulu abt myself :>

[@teacup406]

I did this exact same thing! I love that you are mentioning this because its acc so REAL. Also this is in no way supposed to make anyone feel bad, but being around someone who makes self degrading jokes just consistently can be really uncomfortable, and even painful if its someone you love. Being full of silly love and confidence for yourself spreads that energy, and can lift other people around you up as well. (For example, its so much nicer when someone says "You look so good today!" instead of "I look so awful, ugh I wish I looked like you lol"

[@stirpiano]

Is this by any chance related to the "ironic self-love" Tumblr post that Bettina Levy voiced on KZbin? I loved that post!!

[@amberhouchen1603]

i know im late to this video but i cannot even begin to describe how much this changed my perspective. especially when you said, "know that that vision and that version of yourself is you, or else you wouldn't have been able to create it." this just made me feel so much more confident in myself and i have the motivation again to strive for my dream goals. thank you so much, genuinely.

[@amberhouchen1603]

this video brought me to tears

[@devidocs]

I really needed to hear everything that was said in this video 😭 here are some things I noted down in my journal - there is someone waiting to look up to you - the world is waiting for you to do all the things that only you can do - "everyone is stupid and I just decided not to be" - you are on the right path and going backwards is only going to be way more uncomfortable than going forward and making it (my personal note) - people need an example and there are so many people who are in the same situation as you and they need you to do what you need to - you are that person and you have that vision for a reason - it is worth it - everybody is going through the same thing it's just a matter of who is good at combatting it and who is consistent with being uncomfortable - pave the way ❤

[@inayah0]

I’m so happy you came across the video 😭❤️ and it’s powerful that you wrote these points down. I hope you keep coming back to these things! You got this!

[@psalm-oz1od]

Nice

[@Mii-Queen]

❤

[@bananaJacob]

​@@inayah0 i got big pp because of ya hehehe

[@DayTripper44925]

"Everyone is stupid so I decided not to be." Lmao that one's great, hope you're doing well stranger 💛

[@helenarosno]

trusting yourself is a big one. the ONLY reason i start to doubt myself is when other people butt into my life and start giving advice that i didn't ask for lmao.

[@estiecitrusberry]

and practicing doing it anyway is the uncomfortablity that will get you there !!👏🏽 ✨

[@hansolo631]

Lol @ attractive women lecturing on confidence. My buddies ex is up to like 260 pounds now and still has tons of dudes messaging her. I don't think women live in the same world as men. It's easy to be confident when your entire value(for better or worse) comes down to remembering to put your make-up on. What if you were judged on your height? Face (no make-up allowed!)? penis length? Job? Status? Income? Car? "confidence"? Hairline? Ethnicity (yes, even in 2024). I say this as a 5'11 180 pound white guy with a car and job and full head of hair who lifts and yada yada. My value doesn't even compare in the slightest to any random woman who can still walk without a wheelchair or something. Nah, fuck that - I bet wheelchair girls still live in a world where they think people message other people like 15 times a day.

[@weedylock]

Depends who gives you advice, sometimes there is wisdom in what other people say but if you are progressing its best just to keep sticking to your own tactics untill you get stuck

[@peanutbuttersandwich5735]

this is so true, and it's a vicious cycle :( if people perceive you as unsure or insecure, they'll feel even more entitled to give you unsolicited advice, making you doubt yourself even more.

[@aziara369]

The overall vibe of this video. Direct, simple, dainty, blooming, sweet. It's like I'm there 🤍

[@AwesomeeCrew]

Thank you. I’ve been in a depressive slump for the past 2 almost 3 years. Haven’t updated my wardrobe or thing, felt terrible about myself, lost friends, self sabotaged, and wanted to just die. Watching this video and another lovely older woman’s has made me decide to take the first steps into my new life. Fear has taken over me completely, but I’m gonna use this to help it no longer run my life and start living again.

[@inayah0]

you got this! proud of you❤️❤️❤️

[@aimee6568]

How’s it going?

[@AwesomeeCrew]

@@aimee6568 It hasnt been easy at all, but it’s been better. I know healing and all that isn’t linear, so I’m trying to keep that in mind whenever I have bad days.

[@aimee6568]

@@AwesomeeCrew I’m proud of you, just keep going don’t give up. It’s so hard to get out of a depressive state and does take time

[@DlES-IRAE]

I'm a 28 year old guy and this video was really moving. It really matches many processes and changes I am and have been experiencing lately. After 4 years of therapy I have come to a point in my life, where, for the very first time, I can look at myself in the mirror and say 'hey, I like you, I think, I can maybe even love you' without cringing and feeling like a joke, like a liar and an impostor. What you say is so true, it is a long journey of reinforcing yourself in the smallest things, over and over and over again until it starts sounding believable. I look back on so much pain and hurt, feeling worthless and inadequate, unable to acknowledge my own value, beauty and competence. Since I was a little child I have treated myself with disdain and put myself down whenever I didn't meet the expectations I projected onto everyone and everything around me. For me it was an essential step to deconstruct the relationship with my parents, especially with my father, to realize how my own system of beliefs about myself was formed. The things you laid out so beautifully and empathically in this video, alongside with a few years of therapy and ultimately confronting my parents on the role they played in me forming very hurtful and dysfunctional ways of interacting with myself and the world around me finally led me to a point where I can actually catch a glimpse of me as a beautiful being worthy and deserving of unconditional love, both from myself and from others. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. I can only encourage everyone to listen closely. You might feel like there is such a long journey ahead of you, but every little step will get you closer and closer and before long you might realize that even if you're not exactly where you want to end up, you've already come such a long way. You can do it! I didn't believe I would ever be able to believe in myself, but here I am, actually starting to do so. Not every day, not in every situation, but every day a tiny bit more. ❤❤

[@itsnotthecloudyouknow2635]

I’m a 26 y/o guy and feel quite the same. I have yet to confront my parents on why I am the way I am (nor do I think I will anytime soon). However, I feel the same way you describe on learning about my habits and how I have been programmed for self disdain. I am good to myself often these days, but there are times where I feel that negativity coming back again. It’s a day by day process and you’re right, even if we aren’t where we want to be…we surely have come so far. Cheers.

[@DlES-IRAE]

@@itsnotthecloudyouknow2635

[@emogoesboom]

this comment healed something in me

[@kimhoang926]

❤

[@yana10525]

Becoming your desired self is like decluttering a wardrobe. You cannot just throw away everything all at once; there is this process of thinking, where in you keep some pieces and discard the others, until you buy a new one and replace everything with clothes that fit you better. It is a long, tedious process. But once you did so, it would feel like a fever dream. I, sometimes, get riled up over how far I've come with my mental state and how I see myself, whether that is physically or not. I've spent my whole high school life gaining confidence and now, I'm here, walking on Earth in a way that shows I deserved to walk on it.

[@vikkyreads]

this is such a good way of describing it. you have a way with words

[@abbyrocker321]

❤️❤️❤️

[@uaa2800]

It’s crazy to think that the most conventionally attractive people in the world can also be most bullied, insecure, and abused. And it happens at a young age, so you don’t understand why you were bullied until your adult years :(

[@BnBLion.]

Pretty isn’t immune to hate

[@DajuSar]

@@BnBLion. It always makes me laugh seeing attractive, hot, sexy, whatever adjective you want to give them, people saying they always struggle with their bodies and insecurities and such, because I am like BITCH how the fuck I'm supposed to feel better knowing that someone objectively more attractive than me also feels insecure xd

[@eskybakzu712]

@@DajuSar It should tell you that insecurity doesn't come from "objective attractiveness"

[@Alexaa3532119]

​@@DajuSar Yess, this so much. Also for these people gaining confidence is just a matter of fixing your thoughts that tell you lies about your body created on the basis of the bullying you've experienced and convincing yourself that the truth is very different from these thoughts. So in short you need to believe the truth despite your brain not wanting to. For ugly people it doesn't work like that. For us gaining confidence is way harder because we already know the truth and this is the source of our insecurity. The solution for us is actually believing the lies that we create for ourselves in our brain. And it's way harder because of course you can try but you will face the reality and you will confront the public opinion that will clearly show you that you just live in a fairytale. If you're attractive and start believing it people will be happy that you finally understood and will in fact treat you better. But of ugly people it's not the case, people will treat you bad no matter what you believe.

[@DajuSar]

@@eskybakzu712 in their case it’s true. They just need to fix something mentally but in other peoples cases they do not only need to fix the mental shit but the irl shit as well as

[@Mystic_Paths]

Yes, confidence can sometimes feel uncomfortable, especially when it’s new or when it pushes you outside of your comfort zone. Being confident means owning your worth and abilities, but that can sometimes feel vulnerable because you’re putting yourself out there in ways you might not be used to

[@reirei135]

I'm actually tearing up listening to you. The part about people waiting to look up to you and meet you and learn from you made me feel like so much more of a real person. I don't know how to describe it, but i think one of my biggest fears is that i won't leave an impact on the people around me, and the way you put it just feels so genuine. Thank you so much

[@startaru]

i get this, so, so hard. i'm sure with this sort of passion about it you WILL make a good impact on people, and i truly believe that. all the best to you.

[@nguyentran4290]

wish you all the best

[@reirei135]

@@startaru thank you so much. I wish you the best on your journey too!

[@reirei135]

@@nguyentran4290 thank you!! I'm wishing you the best as well

[@KeleGel]

Can you impact your life to your wishings? Maybe you dont see yourself impacting your own life as much as you wish to and see it as weakness. But there is always an impact on yourself and others, we just tend to perceive it as "not enough" so we have a dream which will never get reached and this pain drives us to continue the journey to be worthy of ourselves, to be worthy to ride the ride till we die.

[@stfu3403]

your beauty, your mindset, the background, the quality of video 🤯 just wow 🤍

[@anorondo]

you are too

[@SummerOf1987]

Yeahs, this ✨kitchen✨ is 😍

[@Readink]

this entire video was proof that the universe will always reach out to you in anyway it can. thank you. i love you

[@42istheanswer72]

indeed 🥺

[@RayTheomo]

the universe being the algorithm

[@mirulei]

@@RayTheomoyes.

[@Penultimate1785]

​@@RayTheomo hail algorithms

[@TurboExit]

Did the universe reach out for the jews that were sent in cattle trains to be murdered in such a horrific way?

[@chromerotica]

That last bit really hit home. I worked with kids for a little while and it was an extremely changing experience, and I realized that a lot of those kids at that camp looked up to me. They liked me. They thought I was funny and they thought I was chill, they thought that I was mature. They looked to me when they did something bad because they were scared. I feel like that's more than enough proof of myself, of being a good person. Just got to take the little steps. Just the little steps.

[@rm-hr1yx]

Yesterday was really tough for me. I sat down in front of the mirror and I burst into tears, saying everything I hated about myself and my life. I felt so lost and hopeless that I cannot do anything about it. That maybe, I'm just fated to be like this. Constantly falling short, disappointing people who used to believe in me, giving up on becoming better because I hated being me. But it gets so unbearable. I couldn't live like that. You're right. Learning how to love yourself or being confident is not something you'll work hard for for one time and then you'll have it rest of your life. It's something that we need to keep working on like a muscle. Thank you for your words. I will try to regain my trust to myself. Your flower arrangement is beautiful, by the way ❤️

[@vanessadejesus1603]

I hope you are doing better love❤ it’s a long journey but we only have one life and we have to make sure we make the best of everything we have. We will get out of this phase!

[@petitechiroptera1347]

You’re really good at explaining and advice giving. The way you approach this topic seems so genuine. A lot of KZbinrs regurgitate generic advice that never resonates nor feels achievable, but this…this is different. Great job. And beautiful arrangements 🩷

[@inayah0]

This feedback means a lot to me. I really appreciate you watching 💞

[@michaelarroyo2399]

@@inayah0 Your authenticity of your experience and feelings vibrates towards others what attracts them to you. You really did show it’s about being real with oneself by knowing thy self. I think I can understand whatever one does with one self will do the same for others, such as self honesty leads to honesty towards others, self-love to love others, and the list goes on. Just like the old saying, “ treat others the way you want to be treated. “

[@Fan-fb4tz]

Same feeling here!! Her video is the most genuine one I ever watched, so relatable and helpful ❤

[@lilac5903]

i listened to the whole thing. videos like these feel like a breath of fresh air in the midst of the media.

[@leowong2613]

This video reminds of that quote, "fall in love with yourself first, before you fall in love with anybody else" Thanks for this message!

[@tincanowl3735]

Got me really emotional when you started talking about how we should be excited for the people who’ll get to experience us and how we should be excited we get to experience them as ourselves, saving that for whenever I need a pick me up! Thank you for sharing your journey and yourself!

[@TacitusKilgore-zt1kw]

Is it true that you are gay or is it just a rumour?

[@tincanowl3735]

@@TacitusKilgore-zt1kw I'm also single

[@limeffsss]

The thing with shifts in mentality is that it’s so so important to remind oneself that while these shifts can change you as a person, the whole journey is uniquely a non-linear process in itself which deserves to be treated with extreme delicacy and love. Change has to be unpleasant, which is exactly why accepting that you’ve got your own soft spots that require your attention and care is the utmost necessity yet worth a long way ahead. This video cured my anxiety at the moment almost instantly. Thankyou so so much for sharing! Stay blessed🌼

[@tayalashae8772]

this felt so kind, genuine and resonated well. most self help videos are lowkey condescending and have a “if your life sucks it’s your fault” vibe 😅

[@XERX_740]

Change is uncomfortable. And when you are transitioning from insecurity to confidence it will for sure be uncomfortable. But time goes on and before you know it you will shed off a lot of that negativity.

[@noemiesque]

wow!!! i watched this while washing the dishes and i genuinely stopped once you said that confident people trust themselves. that i have to become a person i trust!! i love that concept and it made something in my brain click! this video is so beautiful and fulfilling, thank you :)

[@reallycoollilly]

beautiful video

[@inayah0]

Thank you! It means the world to me that I could help at all. Proud of you!

[@unusualpotato42]

This is honestly one of the most reassuring self-help videos I've come across. Thanks for "paving the way" for us.

[@ivanruiz2218]

It really moved my heart when you said "I love myself" that is so wonderful to hear. It's so wonderful when people love themselves after having not.

[@woah_chill_out_jil3894]

i watched your video all the way through!! what you said about steering away from discomfort is so true - i almost didn’t click on this video despite the fact i’ve told myself i want change. you have provided so much clarity in my head. thank you!!

[@toopie6584]

Inayah I don’t ever comment on KZbin videos😭 I’m 19 turning 20 in two weeks and the past half year has been a period where I focused on growth. Let me say I’ve never been so profoundly moved by such a KZbin video. I’ve watched plenty of self love, up your confidence, Divine feminine energy KZbin videos but never has one been so true, raw, and real. Please keep up the good work and I truly appreciated watching the entire thing.

[@aldra8507]

I Watch many self help or confident videos but this one really made me feel like she cared and was loving of the audience. I also feel very moved🥹

[@inayah0]

This is the biggest compliment ever. I am so grateful that you took the time to comment and give me this feedback ❤️ We are around the same age so I understand the growth period! We are in this together 💞

[@inayah0]

⁠​⁠@@aldra8507thank you 🥹❤️ that means so much to me.

[@epeehammu]

​@@inayah0Are you on tiktok too inayah??

[@adri.progression]

"Neurons need to Fire to Re-wire" is a quote that changed me. I found it when studying to return to Stanford to take Mechanical Systems Design in order to graduate with my engineering degree. It helps me understand that these well-established grooves are or are not serving me.

[@tonieeb9220]

I’m glad there’s people on the internet who have something to say. This is so so so inspiring, I think a lot of videos like this are sort of “self improvementy” but this isn’t just advice. There’s compassion in your message and it’s naturally catchy. Thank you!!

[@astronmomii222]

this has been in my watch later for at least a month, and i can't believe i didnt watch it sooner. as a child my confidence was stripped, and i had the core belief that i wasn't good enough. like you said, it's so sad to reminisce on how low my younger self's self-esteem was.

[@rizztraininghamster]

The easiest way to become confident is to prove yourself you can achieve something high. It could be about money, it could be about your job position, it could be about having finished a huge project, it could be about a lot of things and the main problem is you have to do something. Staying home wont make you confident even after reading/seeing top 100 books/videos on the topic

[@fayerosty]

I LOVE the whole video. I love the video quality, I love the camera angle, I love the idea kitchen, I love THE PLANTS, I love the dress, I love the hair, I love the wisdom, GIRL KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

[@inayah0]

Wow this means the world to me! THANK YOU MY LOVE! ❤️

[@emmakate2376]

frr everything in this video is such a mood i love her aesthetic and the words she said! 🫶🏼

[@figsandoranges]

the captions IN VIDEO is such a nice touch, thank you.

[@macymccann]

i stayed until the end queen 😍 thank you for your time and thoughts. i’ve been feeling this energy shift recently and it feels good to tap in and hear from others on the same frequency. for the past few years i’ve been struggling with the idea of being perceived and seen even though i know that that is part of my purpose and vision. hearing the bits about being excited to witness my energy interact in a space and being excited to exist in this version of myself rings so true. ❤️

[@princessmiaxo]

"Think of discomfort as the gas/fuel taking you where you want to be" this literally just unlocked something within me, thank you so much!!

[@_Chris_V43]

Guys the flowers at the end is the best part!😂 Anyway, as a 19 year old dude watching this, I actually needed to hear this. At some point a few years ago I realised I had feminine energy inside of me, and quite a lot of it. And then after working with it, I realised I have masculine energy too. And a lot. I can be sooo loud, confident, boisterous... But I can be quiet. I can listen. Yh life is good.

[@sailorsavvy9690]

love that for you! :)

[@silly-mini-kitty]

I hate this whole feminine/masculine energy things. Thats a lie. Its just gender roles with re-packaging and seeing so many people using the terms without thinking is making me mad. Oh yes when ure loud ure so full of masculine energy! Yeah be a real man step up! And when youre quiet thats feminine energy suck it up like a woman☺️ how dumb of people who thinks this way😐

[@imaniford119]

I listened to everything. I'm so grateful you exist. I'm finally confident, but feel so guilty about triggering people who are struggling with insecurities I worked through. I was bullied so badly in the areas I shined by kids and adults as I grew up and I am afraid of the hatred and meanness that comes from those who aren't aware of how their insecurities manifest. You've allowed me to feel more confident being confident, less afraid to rise (I'm healing fears of success because of this past trauma), and less afraid of harm and abuse. So thank you, Inayah🦋

[@fitriabbas1997]

thank you so much, i needed to hear this.. been feeling down and not like myself for the past few years.. mainly since my dad passed away back in 2018 i repeatedly telling myself that im stupid and not worth it, and it became my habits.. and its not my self at all

[@cybrnova]

i like that this video is not just about physical confidence, but loving how you are as a person

[@nowheredan27]

That alter-ego/visualization trick works very, very well for people that grew up consuming a lot of media while having little to no adult role models around. It was the case for me after years and years of failing miserably at motivating myself to do anything at all, both with and without professional help.

[@Leila.mx2]

I agree. Having no role models, no mentor, no guide. Mostly feels like you were placed on earth and then told "Here, you figure it out." I'll say that it is tough motivating myself with no one cheering me on nor showing the support that I need. But creating a vision board to visually see what I want in life; a reminder of what my aim is, really helps.

[@blissythestar]

Hi Inayah and anyone else possibly reading this. I wanted to share this little revelation of mine to the world rather than keep it to myself in a journal because I'm working on the confidence of believing that my words have the power to impact and influence others. For a greater portion of my life, I've deeply struggled with my mental health, battling long bouts of depression, immense anxiety and suicidality among other issues. For my whole life-up until today-I've wondered internally 'what's so wrong with choosing to end your life, why is the world so upset by a choice like that' and I've finally realized why: Every single heartbeat on this planet is on a path, a path that will lead them to share and contribute to the world in a fashion that is entirely unique to them. Ending your life is a disservice. I truly believe that even if you have no alive family members, no friends, no allies-the universe loves you, the universe is cheering you on, the universe wants you to help her grow. I hope this reaches whoever needs to hear it, i love you all so much :)

[@maidasalladmalin4060]

This was so sweet of you to share! I hope you're in a better place mentally now I know it can be hard and exhausting sometimes. But your presence on this tiny planet is appreciated more than you can imagine 💗

[@holly229]

This is so lovely and I want to thank you so much for sharing this!! you are so right, everyone on this planet is important and is here for a reason. Even if that reason is to just share some kindness and wisdom like you have just now. You never know how much of an impact your presence can have on people's lives and its easy to think that our presence isn't felt by anyone. However, just because you may not hear that you are valued and appreciated often, never forget that you are appreciated. So keep on failing, growing, changing and learning because you are important and the world deserves to see you shine!

[@jennifer__e]

thanks for sharing. i’m not in that worst case scenario and yet i’m moved to tears reading this. and yh, your words have impacted me positively. much love 💕

[@marm4851]

That's beautiful, thank you so much for your gorgeous poetic wisdom

[@MaxHaines-tm1vc]

entropy consumes all

[@Isntthisalreadytaken]

I didn’t *need* this video but I still really appreciate it because it feels like having a friend who’s doing a hard thing with you (I used to have a friend I would always run with, for instance), and it feels really affirmative of the kind of stuff I’ve been doing and working on to hear someone talk about basically the exact same stuff. Thank you for this. :)

[@the-strange-daze]

i had literally just finished a journal entry about confidence before opening up YT and seeing this on my recommended. i've been going through the same journey in my own way and its refreshing to hear another story about this struggle. the part about giving your self grace and patience is so important. if you're too hard on yourself, its a lot easier to give up all together. the grace allows us to keep pushing even when we slip

[@lune4682]

i’ve watched countless videos about confidence but you really made me feel like you were truly speaking to me!! maybe it’s because i relate to you so much. you touched on all the subjects i am dealing with right now and have been dealing with my whole life as well. thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing!!

[@urmumlikesme]

In the end of you saying, that the insecurities sometimes like to pick in, you just need to shift it out, is true. We don’t have to listen to those negative thoughts, especially if they bring us down. Being true to ourselves is powerful, and there’s so much more to each of us than we often realize. Thank you for this video :) I felt your warmth and it felt like you took the heaviness from my head.

[@Cecred586]

There’s a Pristine Balance in your life that I can feel from miles away. You look and sound like an eclectic Angel. Thank you for this wonderful you.

[@inayah0]

Your words mean a lot to me, thank you so much beautiful

[@orikpio6826]

Something about this just makes it feel so real and right, like a handmade quality. Thank you, good work

[@firebuggy]

It's crazy how motivational it is to hear from people who are a little further down the path than you. My therapist says the same things but "you deserve love" feels like "you deserve to be a millionaire" like ok :/ but when someone who has recently felt the same pain as you says it, it really hits home. Thank you

[@renataortiz310]

i listened to the whole thing and i loved it, it actually helped me so much, im a really anxious and insecure person about myself and im trying to defeat this fear of talking in front of people so thank you so much for this video i really appreciate it

[@miumuse444]

i wannabe confident yet mysterious asf like i give off that kind of high level confidence to the point that i don’t have to speak anymore. i’m not bothering you, you’re not bothering me type of confidence

[@rainncorbin8291]

Healing the traumas and learning to love yourself is a great way to destroy a lack of confidence. When you're healed and no longer care what people think, you'll have confidence. That's been my experience. Crappy self talk shatters confidence. Stop the inner critic, heal, love yourself. Confidence then becomes natural.

[@ktmcleod]

this video couldn’t have come across at a better time for me - I couldn’t stop watching and listening once I started because of how compelling and affirming your words were. thank you for putting this out there, you’re an inspiration

[@inayah0]

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@mralmostknowitall]

Been on my self love journey and realizing my potential self for good part of 4 years now, and I loved the part where u said "What you focus on, is what grows!"

[@ryusoongi7416]

30:14 listened without a skip 😭i was SO invested

[@stonecoldsteveaustinfan42069]

i watched this whole thing and felt you literally pull me into that next phase of my journey of healing. thank you so much.

[@bee_awake_art]

This is pure golden energy and so tangibly honest & true and such an overwhelmingly welcome existential reminder . Thank you for sharing.

[@bee909]

Thanks for this. I listened to the end and I felt a pretty big shift from how I felt in the beginning of the video to the end. I've been going through a lot and it's difficult to keep my sense of optimism about things, but this reminded me of the progress I've made and the progress I can make going forward.

[@cuffedjeans7320]

i listened to all of this! easily the best self help video i've seen on youtube in the past year. your self love is radiant, and it's helping to light my path as well.

[@miratlg]

i’ve seen this video on my recs multiple times, but never actually opened. so today i was feeling very low and insecure about certain aspects of myself and once again when i opened the app the first video that pops up was this one. as i opened it immediately thought that was the one i needed today. thank you so much for your courage to film and share with other. sending love and gratitude))

[@nataliecano8424]

I was brought to tears in the last 7 minutes of the video. Which is funny because i wasn’t planning on crying while putting this on at the treadmill in the gym. Holy shit thank you for this insight, and giving me a reason to believe in myself. I feel like this has shifted my perspective immensely. I’m overall a pretty positive person but I have bouts of negativity that I find it hard to get myself out of. This resonated deeply within.

[@ilovethemoon04]

i'm really glad i found this video, it helped me calm down, your presence is really comforting :)

[@inayah0]

I’m so happy to hear that 💕 thank you friend :)

[@baba_beda]

i wanted to but couldn't cry for a few weeks now. i gave up on being functional today and just sat around in my bed watching cartoons. after that your video found me. at first i thought, funny, how it's in a lot of ways matt d'avelia but for girls. i'm here for it. the more i listened the more i felt hugged, and the tears broke out. thank you.

[@ryeu8154]

thank you so much. i’ve been suffering about how to show up and overcome my self doubt. i don’t have any confidence right now. i have a lot of insecurities and i think it’s affecting my life. i can’t be the best version of myself

[@inayah0]

I understand. This community is here for you and we are on this journey together. Sending you so much love

[@tatum_b11]

I love how you mentioned that discomfort can be the fuel to keep us going. I definitely needed to hear that. Thank you!

[@Lyndseycutiepie]

you are about to change my life! thank you for sharing your self love.

[@inayah0]

You got this ❤️ thank you for listening

[@marisa8565]

i watched this whole thing through. didn’t think i would or that i could but i did and i don’t regret it one bit. this was beautiful honestly i loved all every second. thank you for this :)

[@inayah0]

I really appreciate you :)

[@dameanvil]

00:00 🌱 The journey from insecurity to confidence is uncomfortable but gradual. 02:34 💭 Visualizing your confident self and creating a vision board can help guide your transformation. 05:00 💼 Focus on small details like body language to embody your confident self. 08:32 🎭 "Fake it till you make it": Acting confident, even if uncomfortable, can shape perceptions. 12:18 💡 Reintroducing new habits gradually helps bridge the gap to your desired self. 14:48 🤝 Making and keeping promises to yourself builds self-trust, a key to confidence. 18:08 🗣 Realizing others' insecurities can ease social interactions and reduce self-doubt. 19:54 💬 Realizing that people's insecurities often drive their negative behavior towards others can help ease interactions. 21:55 🧠 Understanding and addressing social anxiety involves identifying personal insecurities and reframing self-perception positively. 25:01 💖 Building confidence is a journey that requires continuous effort, but it leads to a beautiful sense of relief and self-assurance. 26:04 🌟 Embrace your uniqueness; nobody else has your exact vision, strengths, weaknesses, or story. 27:09 👀 People need examples and role models to believe in themselves and their potential. 29:40 🌱 Combatting insecurities is a shared journey; supporting each other in vulnerability can be transformative.

[@marrisol5566]

I listened till the end and the way your word and energy have provided such a safe place I started to cry. When you said, there's people waiting to look up to you, this was what I needed rn because it's been so hard to pave our own paths and I don't have many people to look up to except the woman I'm building myself up to be. So thank you for existing and spreading love, thank you for sharing your words because they do make such a huge difference 🖤

[@chrism8216]

the level of thought you must’ve put into this topic shows intensely. even the small details like the flower arrangements you make every week moves mountains for me. the authenticity above all else makes your dedication and perseverance shine like gemstones. i wish i could listen to you talk about this for hours. but 30 minutes will have to do thank you for sharing your experiences

[@inayah0]

This means a lot to me. Thank you 🙏 ❤️

[@heightenedsenses9605]

American girl, I love listening to you, the way you talk is so calming.

[@halfaloaf]

Thank you for speaking. I feel like I’ve been in a confidence rut so it’s nice to hear confident people talk about the process

[@lisnoir9472]

30:07 yes I've listened to your whole video and tbh really needed to hear all of it

[@cloudysnoopy4381]

Why am I crying when I finish watching this video... I'm now in the loop of questioning my self about my confidence, about my dream self that I want to be. I can do many things but I feel like I'm doing nothing. I really in the terms of closing myself with the world. Luckily, after watching your video, I know that I'm not anti social, and I just feel insecure about everything. I call that 'lucky' cause I still love this world so much. Thanks for your sharing, I absolutely love your perspective 🌷

[@aaazia143]

Oh wow I love your message, this is the only "confidence" video I have ever finished

[@inayah0]

What a compliment! ❤️❤️❤️

[@laurarozamunda]

I hope lots of people see this. You deserve all the recognition people are giving. Thank you! I especially like the part about holding space for yourself and having grace to grow. Its possible to be a confident person while having feelings of insecurity sometimes, those moments don't define us, its the consistent way we speak to ourselves after those moments that will define us❤

[@inayah0]

Thank you for saying this ❤️ it means the world to me! You’re so right :)

[@eeriephantasy]

The strongest branch of my confidence comes from wanting to show others they can use their uniqueness and individuality to be confident and do good with it. We all bring something to the table, and if nothing else I want to be someone that helps others realize that.

[@Haddosan]

decriminalize yapping sessions

[@nicoleortiz-vr4uo]

😂😂💯

[@theencryptedpartition4633]

More than sixty percent of KZbin channels are just Professional yappers

[@franzk17]

Oh so I have been a criminal all along? Huh, that's cool

[@deleted_handle]

there is good yap and there is bad yap

[@jakob679]

If yapping is a crime, then spank me, officer.

[@sonomishen5451]

I wrote down, ''I grow.'' in my diary today, and this is showed up in my youtube. I'm really grateful now. Thank you.

[@emiiiee]

I used to watch your earlier videos on my other account so so so much. They've always resonated in a beautiful way. I found this video in my suggested, and I am so so happy to see your videos again but years later. So much growth has happened throughout that time. I am proud of you and your journey :)

[@inayah0]

You have no idea what it means to me that you’re still here ❤️

[@giovannafernandes6452]

I’ve been searching for videos like this for about a year and have seen many great women, such as WizardLiz and others. However, you are the one who truly changed the game for me. My best self is letting go of old vices, developing healthy habits, and feeling better in mood, appearance, and productivity every day & it's been much easier than I figured. Thank you so much!!!

[@cornnucopiaa]

Hi I watched til the end and I’m so so so so grateful that you made this video and that floral arrangement is so GORGEOUSSS!! I really truly needed this video. I have been feeling so scared of social interaction and this helped a lot. I will stop avoiding the discomfort!!

[@inayah0]

Thank you!!! I am proud of you!! I know the feeling and I’m so glad this video helped in any way. You got this

[@Luvlipook]

one of my fav pep talks on the internet undoubtedly

[@toyinomari-kinch7732]

I listened to the whole message and the final arrangement is absolutely beautiful…THANK YOU🫶🏿

[@AlexK-pd7nk]

my girlfriend sent me this video during a rough time that i was personally having to where i felt almost helpless without her emotionally. i personally feel that confidence is somewhat different between men and women, especially in westernized society - so as a man, i feel like more of us men need to hear out women OR any opposing view on the same types of negativity we feel. thanks for the video.

[@AlexTapisevic]

Your are honestly gorgeous... it's not so hard to overcome insecurity when you are this attractive, even if the tip of your nose shines. Yes I know everyone is insecure about something and I know you can point out dozen of thing you are not happy or comfortable about, but remember most of us are below average and insecurity starts with your body specially with girls, they can't physically change and surgery it's not a helthy option. Btw you were cooking this whole video, I just felt the stupid need to point out an obvious perspective.

[@Pollicina_db]

This right here, I just can’t take her words seriously tbh. I mean, how could she ever struggle with her self image?

[@AlexTapisevic]

@@Pollicina_db I have learned that no matter how attractive you are you will always have physical insecurities because you are judging yourself and your judment will never be objective, no matter how we look like we'll always see things better outside.