Talk to Me - Episode 03 - Polygamy... To be or Not to be?

[@loveluv4ever]

First off, we're told to use our minds and brains in situations not just blindly go into things, second of all, the brother who was saying that he "follows islam" said it in a really condescending way and then he laughed when the sister said her opinion. Last time I checked islam tesches humbleness and respect, not arrogance and proudness in this way. May allah have mercy on the brother in sha allah...

[@faizaabdi4916]

gyalXxcx he’s really annoying actually

[@westeast3580]

Agree 100%

[@Tayyaba12345]

Taking a second, third or fourth wife is allowed in Islam. It is 'permissible', it's not an 'order'. Some men may misinterpret it claiming they 'should' as opposed to simply they 'can'. Having said that, it's true that a man doesn't need a noble reason like marrying a widow or someone poor to get remarried. They remarry because they can. But it would be nice to have that trust in a relationship where a man takes his first wife in confidence before bringing another wife on her. Also, the reason why it is more difficult for women to accept it these days is because of the society or culture we grow up in. I don't have anyone in my extended social circle who has two or more wives. For me it's not a norm so accepting it would be a lot more difficult for me than for a women who comes from a culture where she's seen her father, her uncle, her brother or men around her having more than one wife. Also, men need to be a bit more gentle and sensitive towards their wives' feelings when it comes to this topic. They need to acknowledge how difficult it is for a woman to accept it even if it is allowed for you in Islam.

[@anca1162]

Tayyaba Javed yeees! And if women were allowed to marry more than one man. No man wants to share their wife with other guys. They have to realize that too

[@tameem10984]

Very balanced answer! And i couldnt agree more.

[@monakeyse8744]

Tayyaba Javed totally agree

[@ys2369]

Ishaq Gazi so do I that’s why Allah said to take one wife if you think you will not be able to treat each wife justly

[@cimibeau1952]

There is no such thing as bringing a wife ON a another wife, what most people forget is your man getting married it is not any of your business and you should not dwell on it and should carry on as usual. I think the big difference from my country where polygamy is heavily practiced is that we see a man as leader, provider, someone noble to look up to. Not like a piece of property that we own and keep to ourselves. Also women out number men so it's not fair to hog that good man all to yourself. If he can provide for more that one family that is honestly a good thing. One final thing I want to say is us women are kinda obsessed with polygamy like it's the boogie man or something. But fail to realize that all women benefit from polygamy too. For example when a women is single she has unlimited pick of available bachelor's because a man is still not taken even though he is married. Men don't have that privilege when a good beautiful amazing woman is taken she is taken for good. So ladies please free yourself of this polygamy burden it is not you who is marrying this woman it's him. He has to deal with two,three or four demanding, shouting women's need at one time.

[@aishaz6552]

Word of advice to bros looking for a second wife. DO NOT BREAK A FAMILY IN ORDER TO MAKE A FAMILY. If you know that by you taking a second wife could cause your wife to leave the marriage, then don't do it. You might be helping out another sister, but you just destroyed the peace and security of the home of your own family. And if deception is involved, I can almost guarentee that she will leave at some point. Is it really worth it? If you have problems in the marriage, address them. If you;re not satisfied, most likely she isn't too. A second marriage maybe a quick fix for you, but if you already had issues in your first marriage... then polygany will break it completely. If you want to take on another wife even if you are satisfied in your marriage... COMMUNICATE WITH HER. Talk! Don't deceive her. Trust is hard to recover once it's gone. You are much more likely to have a happy situation if your wife is on board or if if at least she hasn't been lied to. Otherwise risk getting a call from divorce lawyer. Simple as that.

[@1986Faruq]

Alisha K This was a point i wanted to make on the show, i have had many arguements with brothers about this

[@shayed9930]

💯

[@mze5622]

Its actually the first wife who destroys the family if she walks away from something Allah permitted for the husband to do.

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

Madhala

[@cupcake3215]

@@mze5622 if the husband knows the woman he married he committed to her knowing she would be against it he’s gotta deal with the consequences

[@zj2604]

First thing. Please let Muhammad hijab speak more because he’s the only one using correct evidences to back up what he’s saying with an understanding of the Arabic used in the Quran. Not just opinion. Second of all. Ali dawah. Get a chair. Sit down. Ur towering over your speakers. Not pleasant hosting to watch. 👍🏼

[@shaanal2694]

@zj Thank you! I was getting really frustrated that he wouldn't let Mohammed Hijab speak!

[@beewirks]

and he cuts people off too much. Has to learn to be a moderator and not a contributor

[@lamiaislam1]

worddd. LMFAOOOO mans is really roamin" the stage

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

Mashala

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

@@shaanal2694 mashala

[@Gigi-gj9ml]

The guys in the audience only care about their lusts with no regards to their partner's emotions no wonder that sister felt so objectified, honestly I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life then end up with a man like them

[@Sara-sf7dn]

Not true

[@qasimimtiaz114]

Women's feelings change daily so who cares?

[@samirdude1066]

not quite true

[@luffymonkey6436]

@@dice8642 damn , u do u then 👍

[@osmanbey3281]

But as lomg as their partners don't really object, its not a bad thing. It used to be normal.

[@Boot_14]

One thing I noticed all the brothers in favour for marrying multiple wives kepts saying as long as it is permissible by Allah and Islam but no one spoke about meeting the requirements of marrying multiple wives and meeting those conditions ......

[@Sara-sf7dn]

They did though

[@Shabzana]

And ontop of that, nobody actually speaks about the marriage contract, the NIKAH, When the nikah is made, BOTH PARTIES STIPULATE THEIR DESIRES AND WHAT THEY WANT FROM THE MARRIAGE, SO IF A WOMAN REQUESTS HER HUSBAND SHOULD NOT TAKE A SECOND WIFE DURING THEIR MARRIAGE THAT'S IS HER HAQQ, NO ONE PERSON CAN HAVE A HAQQ WHILE THE OTHER PERSON DOESN'T. THE WHOLE ESSENSE OF HAQQ Means RIGHTS, RIGHTS ARE FOR ALL PARTIES, OR THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR RIGHTS. THIS ARGUMENT OF IF ALLAH SAYS SO THEN I CAN, STHU, ALLAH SAYS I CAN TOO. JUST COS YOU HAVE A PENIS BETWEEN YOUR LEGS DOESN'T MAKE YOU BETTER THAN ME, GTHO.

[@Jj-lo3zx]

A.B of course you not going to hear that Because it’s a cult , if you follow bloodline of Adams grandson ( 1man Tk take second wife ) you will notice it’s the Cursed line By God himself It’s Caines sons lemach that’s 1st Point ( they follow a cursed bloodline ) 2) is where you went on post The requirement of having multiple wives , you must be able to maintain each wife on her own flat /apt/house all bills must be paid by the man n all children must be supported Or they aren’t being treat equal Please tell me in today time what man can support multiple households single handed ?? A Saudi prince only So today Muslim man is marring more then one , but these female must support themselves ( against Islamic law ) 3) the Quran itself states if your not able to support them equally Take only One wife So yes you nailed it , but I assist with additional information to support that this is all about Sex n it’s a cult men are drawn in by it but the laws aren’t being kept Oh before I forget 4) if a man isn’t in an Islamic country , he must follow the Law of the land , and this isn’t being kept as well They are marring one by law of land and other by Islamic ceremonies ( illegal to must western countries ) So I’ll close with May Jesus Christ correct all these fail teaching

[@Jj-lo3zx]

shabzana shabzana , first is this man outside of an Islamic Country because if he is he breaking the law of the land No western country allows multiple wives And that’s the 1st boo boo of this convo 2) is the support n reasoning to why more ten one wife 3) n lastly the bloodline of Adams Grandson that started all this second wife bs is from the Cursed line of Caine we all know what Caine did to his brother n what God punishes him with So why would any God fearing human follow this line to Hell fire ??

[@Shabzana]

@@Jj-lo3zx first of all it appears to me that you are not Muslim but perhaps and israelite as Muslims we believe that polygamy is allowed but is an exception to the norm, however a sister is not forced to enter a polygamous situation if she so happens to enter into one, not by her own choice, she should try to bear it with patience. As for the law of the land, I don't actually know how valid the hadith is and think it is daeef, since Muslim are told not to love amongst the non Muslim in the first place. So a little confusing if you ask me.

[@amu5238]

That was way too short for such a complex topic. Some of the male audience members seemed so defensive in their "right's" to have more than one wife; none of their intentions seemed pure. Just because something is permissible doesn't mean you MUST do it. If that was the case, it would have been mandatory, like praying salah. Also, as for the guy saying he might change his mind later on: women actually have the right's to set conditions before the marriage takes place; i.e you must not take another wife. And so if the man agrees to marry her under her condition, hes already agreed to stick to it. like the brother said, even if he were to change his mind later, there's nothing he can do it about, the ball is in the woman's court. Smh, so disappointed in some of these brothers.

[@khayr1]

amu5238 the brother was asked that he should disclose if his intending to take on a 2nd + etc wife once married. Now he could intend to not take a second wife but through the course of his marriage he could change his mind and get a second wife . Nothing wrong with that But if the 1st wife stipulates on the marriage contract you cant remarry then he won't be able to changed his mind nor remarry. One of the sisters was implying its up to the Man to be vocal and let her know if he wants to marry a 2nd wife but it should be the Sister that should place the condition on the marriage if she does not want a her husband taking on 2nd or more wifes.

[@khayr1]

amu5238 " none of their intentions seemed pure" - are you saying marrying a 2nd or more wife solely for Lust is impure? Where did you get this? Did Allah say we cant remarry solely for Lust reasons ? Becareful However i do agree with you. Just because its allowed doesn't mean you Must. But none of the brothers claimed its a Must. Re watch it with a more open mind because you assumed a lot

[@tiabarrish9516]

amu5238 Agree with your point so much 👏

[@jk3488]

If it's a MUST then Adam would be created with 4 wives and not only Hawwa (Eve) pbut

[@osamaarshad2895]

So are you suggesting that they cannot exercise their right to marry more than 1? "Just because something is permissible doesnt means you MUST do it". I agree with you but can ANYONE ever stop one from doing it when its his right? I dont think so

[@22LadyLopa]

Polygamy doesn't work in today's society, because most polygamous marriage are not upheld correctly, the wives living in the same house, one being favoured over the other, the wife finding out about the second marriage months after the Nikkah and given no room for say, and men cheating the system because they can't financially afford taking care of their families. As a sister, I get very worried when a brother says that he would consider polygamy because it's "halal".90% of polygamous marriages arise from the husband having illicit relations with another woman and then justifying it by marrying her. Those cases of "marrying a Syrian sister to support her" rarely happen. Most brothers use polygamy to have intimacy with more than one woman, not from love.

[@user-wb9un5qx7w]

Where did you pull this '90%' stat from? And all those other claims? Sis if you don't want to be in a polygamous marriage that's your prerogative. Don't taint other Muslims who do, because many do it genuinely and to be the best of their ability.

[@ikraam3183]

Couldn't have said it better myself

[@22LadyLopa]

Leila N I'm not sure why you are taking my comment personally, please calm down sister. I'm not tainting every polygamous marriage, I said MOST, key word. Polygamy is a Sunnah, so of course I'm not disagreeing with what is made permissible by Allah. I just stated MOST polygamous marriages in TODAYS society don't work and MOST brothers don't execute the Sunnah appropriately.

[@mikerevs34]

Menar Albesheir "Polygamy doesn't work in today's society," Which society, the west or elsewhere. Just curious. "MOST brothers don't execute the Sunnah appropriately." Is this claim based on verifiable facts and figures that others can check for themselves? Obviously the Qur'an says "bring your poofs if what you say is true". This teaches us not to use subjective, emotional arguments without evidence. It would be great if you have a link to your evidence, thanks.

[@ismaieladen4814]

Menar Albesheir Subjective emotional agruments have no bases as evidence!

[@aishaz6552]

Men who say that they don have to justify to their wives their desire to get married are the ones who should stay away from polygamy altogether. Clearly you don't understand and respect women, you have no capacity to love and honour them. Therefore you have no business marrying more. Your desire to marry is just to fulfill yourself... not to help the sister. Because a man who wants to sincerely help a sister, would not objectify and disrespect them. The two can't go together. I hope that ginger brother does some serious reflecting. I feel sorry for his wife.

[@Shabzana]

Wallahi you've spoken the truth sis, so many sister with multiple children, and promiscuous bas***d fornicating under the guise of polygamy. None of these brothers are honest, they all just want their cake and eat it and want their wives to suffer and bear the burden while giving them the bear minimum. Its disgusting. I was in a loveless marriage for over 10yrs and it really was a disturbing abusive slave master type relationship it was disgusting the whole family literally abused me and these people walk around with niqabs and jalabiyaa down to their ankles and the mastermind walks around with an imama on his head and long thobes and sh**. Munafiqs of the highest calibre.

[@reezis1619]

@@Shabzana It is funny how you women talk about the nikah contract and if the woman includes that she doesn't want polygamy in the nikah contract it is forbidden yet when men ask for a virgin wife you all blew up in anger and shame him

[@Shabzana]

@@reezis1619 eughhh you sound disgusting. Are you a virgin?!

[@Shabzana]

@@reezis1619 pls, any man that wants a virgin is a sicko, pure men are for pure women, ALLAH swt makes it clear. unless youre a virgin dont seek one out.

[@Shabzana]

@I Don't Accept Polygamy And It's My Right Not Too perhaps its the MAN! incompetent bastards making kids like rabbits but cant take the responsibility of creating them, so run off with other women and literally leave the woman/women holding the baby in some cases babies. why the heck would anyone want to marry a polygamous man with all the bs ive heard its ridiculous. sisters with 5 6 7 children whil the husband is out firnicating albeit legitimately with other women under the guise of polygyny!!!!

[@MrsEmily1235]

I really like the black guy views. I am not Muslim, the guys who sit in audience really sound like they just care for their lusts and don't freaking care.if their first woman would feel okay with that or not. The black guy with glasses on sounds balanced and respectful.

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

Mashsla

[@shahkaleem6601]

You mean the guy who literally was introudced to play devil advocate at the start of the show.

[@user-wb9un5qx7w]

Ah man, this episode was so frustrating lol. I wanted to hear the points of so many people (esp bro Mohamed Hijab) but they kept getting cut off. The conversation flitted from point to point and it is waaaaaaaaay too rushed. This video needs to be double the time, honestly.

[@osamaarshad2895]

the way you guys are doing this show is not right...cutting off the speakers over and over again..not letting them establish a point properly...this is not how shows should be done. You invite people like Brother Hijaab and then you keep cutting him off. Speakers should talk more and in this show, all i am seeing is that for these 2 shows, this one and the previous one, its always asking things from the sisters, this is not fair when you have audience of both genders in your show. Give equal time to both the sides and extend your show. 27 minutes is not enough. And Ali Dawah is not doing a good job here, although i love him to death. Ali, my dear brother, please have the show extended and give time to the speakers to talk more and divide the time between the audience justly

[@hodaa2823]

The Purrfect Cats Ali doesn't have a say in how long the show should run. We should complain to Eman channel 😁

[@osamaarshad2895]

hodan abdullahi yes i agree! Thats why i asked the ones running the channel first. But i think they'll pay more heed if its Ali saying it to them

[@231doughboy]

Yeah, the show doesn't really flow that well because it always feels like the commenters are rushed and are constantly cut off like you said.

[@shabba247]

He's a bit naff but he's doing his best

[@user-qz1zf1wv2q]

They need a neutral host

[@farhiyaa4880]

Brother be honest...a guy doesn't take a divorced women with kids as second wife...he goes for a younger single women for lust. If he does take the divorced women...he lets her know oh yeah I am totally doing you a favor but let me keep you on assistance from government cause I can't really afford to have you.

[@luffymonkey6436]

@Bob Bob Yh but they are not saying that it’s not true they are talking about how men claim they want to marry a women who has ‘problems ‘ to help her but the truth is with many men they actually want to marry someone younger for lust . And I don’t see the lie in that

[@unnamed843]

that is nature. Allah created men with more desires then woman in average. there is even studies on that. so even if he goes for a younger woman for his desires there is nothing haram in that as long as he is following the Islamic rules.

[@lujainot5495]

@@unnamed843 how is he gonna be fair though ? if one wife is younger he is gonna love her more , the point of the comment is trying to justify polygyny with the excuse of supporting widows or divorcees does not work

[@nu7214]

MEN! Why do you want to marry more than one woman? What's worth hurting the woman who gave her life to you, sacrificed everything for you, GAVE YOU CHILDREN that much?

[@lalelu9053]

@@peepitsslayplaya5334 Yes, Allah allowed you to. And he also allowed your wife to seek divorce if you constantly hurt her feelings. There is absolutely NO obligation in Islam to stay in a marriage that makes her miserable and depressed.

[@feroze2887]

@@peepitsslayplaya5334 Don't forget to treat all your wives equally in this day and age. Which is next to impossible. Men love the idea of polygany because Allah allowed them but forget that they have duties to fulfill towards them all, or else you would be held accountable in the Day of Judgement. Also your life will become a living hell if your wives start hating one another including your different children from these wives. Only the best of Men can fulfill the rights of their wives and treat them all equally and the so called men these days would not be able to do it. These men only think about lust when marrying more than once but don't care about treating them all equally and don't think about the problems and responsibilities that come afterwards.

[@jessieblac9242]

Peep ItsSlay Playa lol “emotional baggage” calling sister a “kaffir” tells me all I need to know about you :)

[@luqmaanissah1398]

@@jessieblac9242 women most also take into consideration the biological and physiological predisposition of the male it is perfectly natural to for a man to want more than one wife and is 100% allowed in Islam. Feminism has made women forget the rights a man has over his wife... the wife also has rights but as a women just think about the sacrifice a man subjects himself to in terms of earning a living and supporting the family and ponder on his natural wants as a man and the way god has created him. Personally I feel that if a man wants to marry more than one he should be more than welcome to do so but he should do it with women who have not been polluted by the western feministic paradigm

[@luqmaanissah1398]

AKA women born in the eastern countries it’s honestly only western women who have become spoiled and have a problem with this

[@ikhaldun1325]

The last sister made a VERY RELEVANT comment, Masha Allah

[@aishaz6552]

Yes. I was disappointing it was not addressed. I'm of the same view. If all parties involved are happy and on board and no deceit was involved... then that can make for a very healthy polygamous situation. But when deceit and lying is involved and the first wife is not happy and the bro hasn't taken her feelings into account at all then that's not right. It's oppression to force a woman to participate in polygamy if it is destroying her sanity, happiness and deen. And bros who aggressively go about saying they can do what ever they want and marry whomever and not justify their reasons to their wives are the worst. I worry about the state of our community.

[@mujtaba8628]

@@aishaz6552 i agree with the part that no lying or deceit should be involved but if a brother wants to marry a 2nd wife and only if he thinks he can do justice between them then ofc he has the right to do and no need to take persmisson from the 1st wife. And its not opression on her because at the end of the day she somehow has to keep her sanity, happiness in check because allah swt is the one who made it permissible, so she has to convince herself there is nothing wrong in this, otherwise she really has to question herself whether she is really obeying allah or not. Salam.

[@faroukbello3616]

@@mujtaba8628 also alot of people forget it is the man who is polygamous not the woman so she is not in a polygamous marriage as she only has one spouse

[@felicial.5992]

@@aishaz6552 I'm so glad you made the points that you made it's really annoying that men can't see how polygamy can affect a woman's mental health and her Deen and to say that she should just deal with it or she should convince herself that it's okay it's totally unrealistic. Polygny is not for everybody just like monogamy is not for everybody there's a reason why it's allowed and not required it's because Allah knows that not every woman is a good fit for that type of marriage just as not every man is. Allah made us the way he made us so that some of us could have that type of relationship and some of us would not so thank you for understanding as many do not understand this.

[@controversyqueen8951]

It's not Polygamy it's polygyny. Polygamy means both husband and wife can have multiple spouses. Polygyny is where only the man has multiple spouses. Polyandry is where the woman has multiple spouses. Poly = more than one, Gyny = women. andry = men. (more than one man/woman) Polygamy does not apply here at all. Polygamy refers to an open marriage.

[@hellofellowhumanbeings]

Salamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah, *where the woman has multiple husbands. And thanks for the clarification, I knew about polyandry, but I didn't know about polygYNY ! :)

[@xxfaithyxx1]

Hm, you learn new things everyday.

[@drtaha4946]

Doda Dado i heard some african tribes do polyandry

[@whisperingwhiskerss4877]

Gynaecology and Andrology......interesting.

[@misterbk1791]

@@drtaha4946 false please don’t make such claims and degrading africans disgusting commentary

[@aishaarshadalam3412]

Also if a man remarried for lust then that's a problem in itself. Obviously he can do so because it's halal but why can't he fulfill his lust with his first wife? And how would the second wife feel knowing she's just been married for that one purpose? I mean it's kind of insulting to both women really. If a man has too much lust then maybe he should start fasting more. Fulfillwhat he can with his first wife and fast a few days in between. Why is the only option looked at as remarriage?

[@aishaarshadalam3412]

@Fbi OpenUp Fast for a week.

[@aishaarshadalam3412]

@Fbi OpenUp Not according to Islam and sunnah. Clearly you aren't Muslim or if you are you don't seem to know the basics of fasting. If you're non Muslim I don't even know why you're making comments when you aren't likely to be in the situation discussed.

[@absolutelynobody3837]

Why would you fast instead of marrying another girl? As long as he's taking care of her and her kids, he's only helping out another family.

[@sadiyab2140]

@@absolutelynobody3837 at the own expense of breaking up his own family.

[@shahkaleem6601]

Than an argument can be made he should not marry at all and only do fasting to suppress his lust.

[@deletedmyaccount1231]

It's a very interesting topic to talk about, even though some of the brothers seemed very obsessed of polygamy, however they have forgotten the very essence of the marriage which is having a peaceful and tranquil life ... I just would like to ask an obvious question why would you as a man marry another woman knowing that you have chosen your wife your self and had conversation that she is the love of your life ... ? However I'm not saying polygamy isn't Halal. Aslam alaykum

[@candyyumyum9614]

I don’t feel like the women spoke up enough. The important point they’ve missed is how does you having a second wife change the way I look at you and feel about you as my husband now and not only that the peace in some families changes as well it can bring a lot of drama specially if your first wife doesn’t agree with it. And what a lot of men don’t understand is you’re allowed to have more than one wife in Islam but you have a choice and the fact that your wife knows this isn’t something you must do but you still do it without thinking about her feelings and how this can make her feel as she isn’t good enough anymore you still do it and act like this isn’t going to create family drama. A lot of men want a second wife but can’t even pay the rent on time. Please don’t forget a lot of women are independent and can look after themselves in this day and age so a part time husband isn’t going to cut it. A lot of men marry more than one wife to satisfy their own needs let’s be honest it isn’t to save a sister in Syria who her husband died who has few children. Maybe one or two good men would do that may Allah bless them.

[@peaceandlove6033]

This show is way too short. Needs to be an hour long so people get a chance to talk rather than get cut off.

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

Mashala

[@solomansaeed1268]

The man in audience with long beared is very illogical, nonsense and arrogant. He says, that man can marry another woman without notifying his wife, to make life easier for himself. Because if man notified his wife, it will make problem for the man. But he does not think of the same thing for a woman. Has he ever thought that marrying another woman will make the life hard for his wife? Or does he think that woman should bear any type of hardship to allow their husbands enjoy their desires? Is this what is called JUSTICE and FAIRNESS?

[@Vexilator]

Polygymy is no longer necessary in most societies. Lets be honest here most men today will only look at the lustful benefits of it and nothing else. Anyways you lot should do arranged/forced marriage next.

[@Userdoesnotexit]

forced marriges is not okay and its haram arranged in another hand is different and its okay

[@Sara-sf7dn]

It’s very necessary, what do you mean?

[@begundal8379]

What do you even mean, it's very necessary or how do yoy solve the ratio of man and woman problem? Though of course i am sure that's not what most men thinking when they're doing Polygyny. But the permission was there for a reason that Allah know the best, with my limited knowledge i can understand why it's still very relevant even today. Of course the thing about whether me as a man should do it or not and a wife allowed his husband to do it or not was a different topic. I agree from the lady says that before the marriage she should ask the man if he will do Polygyny if it's really necessary.

[@CPTZK11]

I think you think it is no longer necessary because you agree with all the rampant single mothers and zina (sex outside marriage). Otherwise I don't understand how you think there's no need

[@Int8]

PolyGAMY is NOT allowed in Islam. PolyGYNY is allowed. Important difference.

[@Dylan-wn8er]

Trypheno What's the difference?

[@GemsAndBenefits]

Dylan 1888 Polygamy is having more than one spouse. Polygyny is having more than one wife (This is the only one Islām allows). Polyandry is having more than one husband.

[@cansugungor4405]

@@GemsAndBenefits Well, you can have sex with slave girls and you dont have to do nikah. So they are not your wives. So, polygamy is allowed. Both polygamy and polygyny. Am I wrong?

[@cupcake3215]

@@cansugungor4405 you do need to marry them otherwise it’s adultery

[@QashMaz]

You gotta be a little bit more attentive to Muhammad Hijab. There were some points where he wanted to say something and he didn't get the opportunity. Let the brother talk more man. He has the best input in the show. Seriously. Even if he took up 50% of the show making his point, it's much more beneficial to us.

[@fatma-et4yk]

The brother in red shirt is a very compassionate and that’s very important in every relationship. Thank you brother

[@szsa1926]

Brother in red shirt is a keeper Brother in glasses with blue shirt is the condescending one who looks down on women. You can just tell it’s so obvious

[@muffinsgow7229]

It’s very true when men are marrying more than one, the men who are single are losing out! If a man wants to marry a sister to give her financial support. He can just support her financially Only !! Men today age are are men they make their wives work and live on them

[@soccer90tem80]

Wise men marry only one

[@rendymbiya2918]

sister: “Your making it sound like where objects and that’s actually pretty rude” The guys laugh killed me 😂😂😂😂

[@미민튜브]

Divorce is also halal.. like polygamy is halal but not obligation... you guys all seems think polygamy as a joke. But for wife it is sometimes hurtful that make us think we are not enough or my husband is not loving me only. Allah says if there is a fear of not justice, it is better to have one. Rememeber that.

[@incrediblehulk8031]

That black guy made the most sense here, just cause Islam allows it does not mean you jump right into it, there are many conditions which marriage work you have to look at all the factors.

[@aishaarshadalam3412]

The problem here isn't the men. It's the fact that women do not know their rights. Fatima ra was one of the best women to walk this earth and she put in her nikkah contract that Ali ra could not remarry while she lived. She was the prophets daughter and she did not want to share her husband with another woman. And that's fine there's nothing wrong with that. The problem here is that women don't know that they can make this condition during the nikkah and they SHOULD know. Also most of the men on the audience saying it's their right etc sometimes instead of looking at our own rights we should look at the rights of others. Yes it may be a man's right to remarry but would it be better for him to fulfill his right or to look at the feelings and rights of his wife first? The truth is in today's society polygamous relationships are not a normal thing and people have not been brought up with it to be able to handle it properly. A man who has not seen his father with two wives would not have any experience of how to deal with two wives and might mess it up. Instead of looking at how many wives a man can get maybe men and women both should look at how to build a stronger healthier marriage between themselves before bringing in a third person. Muslims today need to learn to put others before themselves. We have become more selfish. It's all about our rights when the truth is we should be looking at the rights of others and our own responsibilities to others.

[@feroze2887]

@@peepitsslayplaya5334 First learn manners in how to talk with woman as Allah commanded. People like you love the idea of Polygany because it's allowed but forget that you have to fulfill the rights of all wives and treat them equally. Most men and women also fail to fulfill the rights of Allah, then how do this men think that they can fulfill the rights of their wives. Rather men love the idea of Polygany because Islam allows it and only think about their lust when marrying more than once and don't think about the consequences, problems and responsibilities that arrise from it. All the best men who are mature and care about the rights of all people in their rights can fulfill and have a peaceful marriage with all their wives and that's rare in today's society. As a Muslim, people have rights over us, a wife has rights over her husband. But immature weak men of today's society only think about their rights and how they can exploit it to fulfill their lusts. Forgetting that all your wives have rights over you. Also the fact that it's next to impossible to have more than one wife in this time and age and manage to fulfill all their rights and treat them equally. The men of today only think that they are allowed to do so but have no experience in dealing with all these wives and don't know to properly take care of even one wife. These so called immature men also have no idea to deal with fights, arguments and dislike between the wives and their children. With this comes a great deal of problems which the weak cannot bear and would run. So only the nicest of men can fulfill all the rights and responsibilities of their wives, treat them equally and have a peaceful marriage. So most of them can forget about it, unless they are willing to suffer the consequences in this world and in the hereafter before Allah. Allah has created the woman as well and it's the responsibility of Men to take care of them, so be ready to be answerable on the Day of Judgement if you fail to look after your wives which is guaranteed that most men will fail today. Finally people like you can never respect and treat their single wife properly from the immature way you are arguing and disrespecting woman. You are just a mannerless immature kid who has no idea and experience about how life is and how difficult people and situations can be as a trial in this life.

[@feroze2887]

@I.Am. Abd that comment is deleted, do you know what that person said? No right, so don't presume. I answered that way back because of the words that person used. Or else I would never say that. Also I am talking about respecting one's own spouse and fellow non-mahram muslim woman. I talked in such a way because that person disrespected other woman in the first place. Or else why would I talk like that. My response was for him and people like him. So please don't judge a fellow Muslim without knowing what the person did and said. When it comes to respect, I always respect fellow Muslims, but here I got angry because of how he disrepected other women.

[@feroze2887]

@I.Am. Abd No, you are wrong. Yes it is called presuming or even judging without knowing what has actually happened, as you straight up jumped to the conclusion that I said s*** for no reason . But if you pay close attention anyone can see that the comment was deleted as I responded to a account called @Peep ItsSlay Playa, if that person didn't comment before, how can I reply directly to that account. It's obvious that the person responded first and than deleted his comment after my response. Also did you read my ORIGINAL comment properly. If you read it carefully, you can see that I was talking to a particular person. How can you not know that in the context? You can also see in my ORIGINAL comment that I mentioned about the behaviour of that person disrespecting women. How did you not see that and the context. How did you presume? No you are not entirely correct to judge someone. I can see why you responded in such a way. It is a reflection of your male ego, that you think no one should correct other men, so you take a chance to use 'manners' as a way to patronize someone. I know so many like this, who cannot stomach it that someone should point out the mistakes of men or talk to them in their own language. So you take the guise of fellow Muslim? Literally anyone can understand the context of the original comment, that the 'fellow Muslim' disrepected woman and I talked back fitting as he deserves. You understand it very well, yet you say that you don't know when it's all their. What you only saw is that I cursed someone and nothing else, and inconsiderately patronized me, this is why I don't like the self righteous of most people, who speak without knowledge and Allah knows best of what happened.

[@feroze2887]

@I.Am. Abd You are offended that I called a person as s***,who seemed to look like a Muslim, yet pay no consideration that that person was ill mannered and paid no attention to that as mentioned in my original comment. I definitely feel that you reacted because I talked about such men like him, and if it was a woman I don't think you would have cared. I have seen so many such men, who get defensive when pointing the obvious mistakes of other men, that they try to be self righteous and patronisize them to cover their mistakes. Right now I checked and in another thread that person who you are supporting as fellow Muslim called another sister as a kafir with no evidence, but just out of hate for women and in the second comment from top, that person called woman as b**** and used bike obscene words like f****, absolutely disgusting, and I have to wonder if you have seen his comment. Not a single man corrected him and responded to him and he called other men as Simp for talking gently with woman, this is his manners? Absolutely away from Islam, what kind of a Muslim is he? These words like simp are used to destroy society and men from behaving properly, in turn widening the misunderstanding between men and women. Yes he is absolutely worst and that's why I responded like that, though I know I could have ignored. Also all men are arguing with woman amd making illogical justifications about this topic but not a single man has the iman to correct himand to protect the honour of other women. He literally disrespected all women, mother, sisters, daughters are woman, won't men correct him?

[@feroze2887]

@I.Am. Abd I ask you since you corrected me, to know your motives. If you would go to that thread and correct your 'fellow muslim', it's only justice that you correct him since what he said is worst. I don't think men like him have much iman that speak in such a way, trying to be manly and disrepecting woman yet like cowards he deletes his comment. I want to know if you corrected me because you got offended that I cursed that man kr if you really care about teaching manners and telling others to keep it in check. Go to that person's comment by (amu5238) which is second comment from the top and in that thread the 24th comment is by @ Peep. Correct him, tell him to keep his manners in check, I will be checking to see if you said it or not.

[@nunuissa6376]

This is why am never dealing with this. Hell nah. You with another woman kiss her and try to do the same with me 🤢. I can never subhanAllah. May Allah protect me from that.

[@jro6947]

Quran clearly said AND YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TREAT ALL EQUALLY EVEN IF YOU DESIRE TO DO SO ,IT WAS ONLY.MEANT FOR A SPECIFIC TIME PERIOD

[@미민튜브]

I don't understand he asked to women why you don't like it.. just change your position.. you have no emotion?? When we talk about polygamy, men treat women like no iman.. just put your shoes into her.

[@user-gg5xt2tl4w]

You really really need to organise proper discussion with a much longer time frame so it can be a fair, fruitful and intellectual discussion. These shows are really good but please make longer shows like this when tackling such complex topics. Great shows

[@Midgethunter07]

Nice series. The sound was a bit on the low side

[@sagalk1394]

I'm sorry but brother Ali Dawah did a horrible job, this is discussion you need to allow the panellists to speak. It really wasn't nice seeing you cut brother Mohamed hijab off, when he offers very good input

[@kiyam4359]

It’s simple. If ur a man and u want polygamy, then marry a woman who is okay with polygamy. Or else prepare to get divorced.

[@mjx1159]

The discussion should have been longer I wanted to hear what Muhammad hijab had to stay

[@blumachine]

the guy in the red was the only one with common sense and intelligence mashallah

[@guyme2370]

This show is a shambles. No one knows what the discussion is about. Most of the audience members seem to have done no preparation before going on it.

[@NaughtyBwoi]

guy me true that but you hold a show if you can organise one better.

[@미민튜브]

And When you link zina with polygamy, you will never convince women.

[@farhiyaa4880]

Men love wife #1 until wife #2, then it's wife #3, and finally save best and youngest for last wife #4. Favoritism in wives and kids...destroy families. Brothers love sex but not the kids.

[@9320amina]

Is there any chance these shows can be converted into podcasts. It would make it so much easier to listen too during my commute. Jazakallah

[@farhiyaa4880]

Brothers that say Allah allows polygamy why not discuss it with your wife, she going to be affected by it. Don't do it behind closed doors as a secret marriage...nothing good comes out of a secret relationship. Kids are Badly affected especially the female daughters-- she going to have trust issues with dad and any man in future.

[@felicial.5992]

I think that we have to stop assuming that a lot of women are unmarried because they can't get married the reality of it is a lot of Muslim sisters are tired of having these conversations and they have decided they would prefer to be single than to have to deal with polygeny because many women are taught that they do not have a choice and that they must just deal with it so rather than putting themselves in a situation where they have a lack of peace they would rather be alone have peaceful lives and have abundance in other ways and take care of themselves, dedicate their life to charity, and even fulfill their desires to be moms by adopting or giving their time to orphans. So we have to stop assuming that just because women are single that they truly want to be married because not all Muslim women desire marriage.

[@54Boozie]

Love these talks and love that there are both brothers and sister and a panelist of brother who actually have knowledge about Islam Alhamdulillah keep it up and would be nicer for them to be a bit longer not so rushed in Shaa Allah May Allah reward you all for all your efforts and bless you all with success in this life and the next ameen

[@aliyaliimah8106]

As well as this, Allah swt allowed men to marry multiple wives to benefit the women. There was a time when there was much more women to the fraction of men therefore men had to marry 4 wives to protect and maintain the women. These days men just want 4 beautiful women to swap and switch,that's not how it was told. Prophet Muhammad saw married Aisha RA and increased her knowledge on Islam and various subjects later people around the world came to learn from her. He married khadija whilst she was a much older woman and widow. He married these women to benefit and support them. So if you really want to marry 4 wives remember the yes and conditions: be honest to them, treat them all the same, provide and maintain for all of them (regardless if they earn or not) and actually marry to benefit them not you.

[@ummabdollahsalafiyah6216]

Most men dont even do their fardh or even dont treat their first wife Good and then they add more to it . No taqwa

[@shadowstorm5261]

Most women take what their husbands have done for them for granted. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’” So take a good look in the mirror before you judge these people

[@TheAfghan72]

I have an uncle who is married to two women, his first one was a cousin from back home while the second one was his long time girlfriend who he always wanted to marry but couldn't, because he feared his parents wouldn't accept it. There was a heavy hostility between both women but eventually, they accepted that they were both married to one man. Also in my culture, if a woman's husband dies, then the brother of the wife can marry her. This was done to support her so she wouldn't be alone.

[@미민튜브]

Polygamy is halal but not obligation like divorce. Why men do less than 1%of what Prophets do for their wives, but absolutely want to do polygamy🤔 Trying to do other 99%of your responsibility as a husband, your wife will be happy to receive another one.

[@wifi2166]

it is very selfish, just cause its allowed doesn't mean you can do it. you still need to use your brain

[@ShammarPrincess]

Exactly such hypocrites so embarrassing

[@hhp8571]

I wouldnt marry my daughter off in a polygamous marriage because its not legally recognised and she can be taken advantage of. I wouldnt marry my daughter off in a monogamous marriage unless its done islamically and law wise so she has rights. In an Islamic country it would be different I suppose

[@gladtidings7874]

Brother farooq is a lion in these discussions. Mashallah may Allah bless him. He never apologizes for his deen.

[@adamw7411]

30 min. is not enough time to discuss those topics, it should be at least 1 hour.

[@soccer90tem80]

Adam White it seems like all 3 episodes were done in the same day still better than nothing

[@tarrasbulba4408]

Mohammed Hijab's face at 13:20😂 like what are you talking about? May Allah give us Jannah.

[@Rogue_Console]

Adin Suljkanovic i spotted that too lol

[@Sam-ng3of]

Seemed he was just squinting because she was far away. Wallahu a'lam.

[@nunuissa6376]

Am with my black brother. Those men sitting am disgusted. Especially the white man. Sisters stay away. I feel bad for his wife.

[@AlaaMSaied]

To that polygamous encouraging dude who said akhira is the goal, if a5hira is the goal brother, u wouldn't wana marry a second wife, at this day and age. For polygamy to happen it has to be done in a certain situation where ur doing it to be just on orphans.... And at this day anf age, allhamdo li Allah, orphans don't even need that and u can just help them by providing for them, without having to marry their mom. Or get the 2nd, 3rd and 4th wives. Also to the one who said u can do it for lust, u can't cz the condition is very clear and lust isn't one of them.

[@samirdude1066]

Ali Dawah, I apologize in advance but either make the episodes longer or let someone else host the show more efficiently, questions are left unanswered and people are always being cut halfway through dialogue. Also, I think having a special red chair for devil's advocate would be kind of cool.

[@taniaxoxox5166]

You should’ve asked these men agreeing to polygamy if they would allow their fathers to do it or their sisters husbands or even their daughters husbands to do yes it is what allah has permitted but its it actually that simple??? And them times were different even though allah sent the Quran for all times but imagine the damage that would do to the children the girls would grow up thinking its ok for guys to cheat on them because daddy had 2, 3 or 4 wives.

[@osmanbey3281]

The Prophet said: “The best among the believers is he whose character is the best. And the best among you is the one who is best to his wife” and he also said that "I am the best to my wives." This is soemthing to be considered defiently! Also, to your last point, relationships out of marriage aren''t allowed in Islam :)

[@rajenrungassamy7085]

Mashala. Mashala. .women are not objects. Men take care of them. Mashala.

[@tabarakal-sabaawi5762]

I find it hard for a man to love more then one women equally and when it is unequal u will no treat them the same and u will be unequal. As well as just like men women ate jealous, even more jealous when it is about feelings so when u love someone more then the other it is just awful isn't. No man would be ok it so why do some of the men want the women to be super ok with it like yes I married u and know I want to marry another one. I would never be ok with it personally, there is no way. I know myself I would HATE him if he married someone else. And when u talk about the children in most places especially in arabic countries the man gets the children although Islam may not agree.

[@osmanbey3281]

If it was allowed in Islam that a woman can have more than one husband I don't think most people would object. Bit it isn't (for obvious reasons, for example which man woyldb be the leader of the household?)

[@mujtaba8628]

The condition is that he should be just between them. And there doesnt exist a condition that he has to love both of them equally because the prophet of allah pbuh himself publicly said infront of his wives that he cannot love any of them more than khadija ra, so much that his other wives sometimes used to get jealous saying what was so special in khadija ra that they dont have. And if you hate that he marries more than 1 you should probably calm down and realize that there is nothing wrong in polygyny and its a sacred thing a sacred right given by allah to men similar to some of the special and unique rights allah has given the women which men has to obey even if they hate it. Salam.

[@SuuupaGirl]

when polygamy is done properly ACCORDING to the islamic rulings, theres no problem. the wife doesnt mind because her husband is being fair and the husband isn't taking advantage and doesnt have ulterior motives. now... the issue is when people don't READ. when men are clueless and do as they wish because all they know is that hey can have 4 wives. they completely disregard the rules and regulations they should be following in order to attain wife number 2 3 and 4

[@aliyaliimah8106]

Lool at where the one man disagreed with the girl saying the man may sign a contract saying he will not marry again but then feel like changing his mind later... what a joke! You don't marry for lust or for having a variety marriage is for loyalty and commitment purposes. Choosing to remain as family with sumone through thick and thin, through sickness and in health, through poverty and wealth remaining together. That loyalty breaks soon as you look for another person to get into a relationship with... and if your wife doesn't want you marrying again you shouldn't because your breaking her trust.

[@SIMSIMMERZ]

polygamy just is not for me (feels like such an injustice and pains my heart) i would feel lonlier being in any kind of relationship other than an interdependent partnership (not all relationships are for all people) than if i had remained celibate and single my whole life, & that would not mean i would die alone if I had strong communal & extended family relations and other soulmates I was close to as friends. & even in todays issolating world you are not alone so long as you have your Lord. im an introvert so im comfortable being alone and need issolation for periods of time. people are not victims that need saving. & as the sister said, this isnt the only way for those single sisters/mothers to recieve help from either men or women. Allah's help reaches me through different avenues, so men are not to be worshiped as protectors when they need help as well. & this religion & the spiritual life are about more than just meeting everyone's matterial needs but put an emphasis on the regard for the heart. our personal truth is important to Allah and Allah wants to give us what we want for ourselves. so I would divorce myself from any situation that would cause me disease and feel reasured that my sustenance and protection never came from my husband but is of the courtesy/mercy/grace of Allah

[@zakariaabdullah313]

Love these discussions/debates❤ keep them up👌

[@D_A-G]

This is not an opinion matter. This is a jurisprudence matter that is clear in Islam. It is permissible, it doesn't need a reason and it does NOT require consent (study and look at the scholars works before uttering nonsense). God doesn't play political correctness. It is what it is. Like it, take it; don't like it, walk away. Period.

[@Teyrxq8]

there are 2 opinions regarding if the wife can write in the nikah that the husband doesn't marry on her either yes she can or no she cant because its the right of the husband to marry more

[@Shabzana]

WHILE Muhammad hijab has a valid point he fails go ackwoledge the rigths of women firxt and just says if both are willing, WOMEN SHOULD KNOW THAT THEY HAVE A RIGTH TO ACTUALLY SAY NO, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, JUST LIKE ANY OTHER RIGHT, THE LAW OF POLYGAMY IS A RIGHT FOR THE MEN NO SANE PERSON WOULD OPENLY PUSH FOR A POLYGAMOUS MARRIAGE AND WOMEN ARE ALLOWED TO SAY THEY DONT WANT POLYGAMY...AND THAT IS A RIGHT TOO.

[@abdulazizfareh8927]

No they dont

[@abdulazizfareh8927]

If they do..provide evidence from the quran hadith or ijma from sahaba

[@Shabzana]

@@abdulazizfareh8927 I'm sorry what do you think a marriage contract is?

[@aishaz6552]

19:00 Preach sister Preach

[@shadowstorm5261]

preach what? That man doesn't need to justify it. We don't need to justify it to our wifes, it's our right if we can afford it and be fair. And marrying 2 people at once is not wrong. She took offence to nothing. "your making it sound like we're objects" - This is her personal feelings, not what the man said. The man never implied it at all. Clearly feminism has gotten to her and she doesn't understand the rights of a husband and tries to find a hidden meaning in things which are said clearly. This woman would probably be more ok with her husband committing Adultery than marrying a second or more wife. Clearly something is wrong with her brain

[@RandomLifeProductions]

If all men married more than one wife, there would be no women left then what.. If all men had four wives a quarter of all men would be single….

[@roguee529]

Problem here is different people marry for different reasons. Maybe you should know the person that you are marrying and why it is that each of you are marrying. Marriages can end up being a huge mess sometimes, because the other person just assumed that both individuals were marring with the same intentions. If you think you've married for love, but your husband marries so he can have sex with in marriage, then he may want another wife later on.

[@maaz_wary]

If I would do polygamy then the woman must be a divorcee or widowed,not because I am greedy or lustful, and also if I would be able to do justice among my wives, women in countries like Syria, Palestine,Yemen etc are widowed,they are suffering a lot, they are helpless so if I would be capable of handling more than one wife and abilities to fulfill their needs then I would marry them and support them 🥺 Inshaallah 🎉

[@MAbuRowais]

The Hadith where the husband will be revived with a lopsided half who was unjust toward one of his wifes compared to the other contains weakness.

[@farhiyaa4880]

I seen it with my own eyes and in my family the polygamist man dies alone...none of his kids from all his wives want to see him. The wives won't come unless they get their money. When he in hospital each wife said go call your favorite wife not me....none of them want him. He bragged about he going to replace them...always making them compete for his attention and in the end they say screw you!! He died and it was a nasty fight for his inheritance from his wives and kids.

[@lujainot5495]

haha he deserves it

[@fadumafaduma5376]

When prophet married Khadiya Mashallah there was 25 years of gab, he also married widows.. Now man marry more than 1 wife for the wrong reason . Someone younger, not a widow. Nobody is following the prophet guidance..

[@solomansaeed1268]

Dear brother Ali, Answer me this question, if a brother from Palestine cannot find a woman to marry, should a man share his wife with him? If not, would you call the man a selfish one?

[@lalelu9053]

Very good question

[@urbancloset01]

ALi man, your not a very good moderator and i know you are trying your best. You cant keep cutting people and letting other finish someone elses point of view who in fact has the polar opposit view. The format of the discussion is all over the place, its just a bunch of people giving their opinions. There are people on the panel who are very knowledgeable. They should start by giving the ruling etc on such topics and then allow a discussion to follow if someone requires more clarity ont he subject. Here it seems like the blind leading the blind in terms of the audience as no one knows what is the case. The whire revert brother made some valid poitn for exmaples, yet no one in the panel acknowledged this nor refuted what he said. Instead it got passed over to a sister who had the polar opposite view. The panel memebers did not intervene and clarify what is the correct stance. You cannot have lecturers learning from their students. You cannot have a bunch of people who do not know the answer to an equaition, trying to teach each other the equation. This is what is going on.

[@whisperingwhiskerss4877]

Some of the men in the audience were a bit extreme.

[@shadowstorm5261]

yh and some women were of the feminist variety in this video

[@e.k874]

its always a choice to marry once twice lets make that clear its never forced on a man to marry but the same cant be said for a sister

[@ummabdulrahmaan4876]

As Salam alaykum said straightforward before marriage that I can't and I will not let it. He accepted al hamdulillah. I also thought if I couldn't bear a child maybe.

[@mohameddahir16]

plz do more videos like this instead of street arguments.... it's more reflecting and educational jazackallah.

[@fatmaomar2873]

Ya Muhammad, your knowledge is profuse. Take advantage of this. Don't stop studying. Study aqeedah, fiqh and the likes. You possess a good head between your shoulders. Delve into al-Usool ath-Thalaathah, Kitaab ut-Tawheed, al-Arba’een an-Nawawiyyah, 'Umdat al-Ahkaam, Buloogh al-Maraam, Fath ul-Qadeer and many others. You're articulate. By the will of Allah, use this ability wisely. I ask Allah to keep you firm upon the truth.

[@daniellemcalpine-hawkins6756]

Allah left this open and halal but it was different back in those days. These days it’s so hard for a man to keep and love more than one wife. If a man gets married and marries another woman without telling his first wife or even discussing it beforehand he’s selfish and inconsiderate of his first wives feelings. This should be discussed before marriage. If a woman doesn’t want more than one wife for the husband and the man agrees and says that he only wants one but later on marries again the first wife can divorce because that wasn’t in the agreement

[@GokuBlack-sn5dr]

don't like the intro song

[@destiny2727]

+Goku Black same here, maybe they should start with the Qur'an ayah in relation to the topic.

[@chosenone7928]

LUST OF THE EYES IS A SINS IN THE BIBLE. WHY ARE YOU EVEN LOOKING AT ANOTHER WOMEN WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED. WOW

[@feroze2887]

Literally all most all people commit this sin, by looking at people other than once's spouses and also commiting shameful sins such as adultery. It is a sin to look at anyone with desire who doesn't happen to be your spouse.

[@abdulsubahan5920]

Why these brothers are saying that they are some superman came to save Syria women by marrying them ? I'm also a man Seriously are you guys doing social service by marrying ?

[@n.m.9121]

So that woman has no problem with her husband having more than one wife because it's halal but wouldn't let her child marry outside their race which is also halal. Picking and choosing islamic beliefs. This is the problem with us Somalis.

[@shabba247]

The ginger guy is a proper badman

[@diakawaka7033]

Yep just for lust

[@yes-wo7qn]

He didn't say anything wrong tho

[@egliyoflo]

@@yes-wo7qn marrying only for lust is wrong brother

[@shadowstorm5261]

@@egliyoflo really? if that is the case then all men wouldn't be married. we get married to fulfil those desires in a halal way

[@egliyoflo]

@@shadowstorm5261 The first thing and priority that we should look in marriage is if the partner is religious. Not if she looks good. This is what prophet Muhammad(saw) taught us.

[@TheYashpalsingh]

fun fact: there is no women in the panel. oops

[@YushaR2905]

First time I got to correct brother Hijab who is normally very precise.. Prophet Suleiman Alayhi salam.. Had 700 wives and 300 concubines according to The people of the scripture.

[@justnotrelevant]

I was wondering and please don't take this the wrong way. But is it not advisable for the brothers and sisters to go to a country where the law of the land is sharia. This would truly make your submission to Allah (pbui) more convenient; less temptation to be not حلال‎ ? Closer to your people and the people of God. Do you not have a Islamic obligation to pursue the most suitable home to practise your submission? Thanks in advance for your comments?

[@farhiyaa4880]

I notice y'all keep deleting my messages on here...it seems like you are 100% for polygamy although you pretend to be neutral. I actually tell the truth on what really goes down. I seen polygamy in real life. Y'all talk about it like it's a scenario. The Somali ladies on there know the reality cause they got neighbors and family who been there done that.

[@Diamondraw4Real]

if ur marriage isn't recognized then if you have children they will be considered illegitimate by British law? That doesn't seem like a good thing...

[@alhanif7428]

They should just make this an hour long rather than 30...not many people get to have a say like Br Mohammed at the end

[@AadilKhan-hy1zs]

Honestly the time that they are given to talk about these specific topics are too short and the way it's structured.... I wanted to hear so much more from the people their since alot of them have either completely different opinions or the some similar but slightly different. And they need to be able to speak without being cut off all the time.

[@AliHamza-gs1ny]

Muhammad hijab is real gentleman 🙌🏼

[@mcan1774]

19:08 I'm so glad the sister addressed this

[@Urbanlensman]

Can you please increase the volume of the video slightly in future. Thank you and it was very informative

[@am-hp6ik]

Lmao the amount of single parents has remained around 25% for the last decade in the uk