8 Ways to Make a Narcissist Respect You

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@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

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@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын

I am so grateful that my husband believes me when I told him his mother is a narcissist. All the puzzle pieces fell in place one day because my narcissistic mother in law was giving herself away with tripping up in her own lies. Since then I have gone no contact.

@sadboi7537 10 ай бұрын

Block, delete and go no contact forever. Don’t let the devil back into your life. They’ve already done enough damage, no need for anymore.

@billie505reed 8 ай бұрын

What would "no contact" look like if I'm married and still living with a vulnerable narc with my 3 kids? Maybe I'm already doing it, but I wanted to know what else I could be doing. We're both practicing being in silence. His reason is for punishment, and mine reason is to set boundaries and protect my mental health. We're currently 2 strangers living in the same house and parallel parenting the kids. Any advice you can share would be greatly appreciated.

@thabidlamini6598 10 ай бұрын

1. Limited Exposure 2. Keep ur cards close to ur chest 3. Become bullet proof 4. Self sovereignty 5. Develop self urgency 6. Learn to set boundaries 7. Own your frequency 8. Up level ur image an status

@johntracey4196 10 ай бұрын

stay no contact or grey rock

@mktexas4187 10 ай бұрын

You are EXACTLY spot on…. I am going thru a now year and a half long divorce from a “how dare you not come back into this toxic relationship” narcissist

@cindy7733 10 ай бұрын

circular, mindbending conversations that go NOWHERE! that's a great way to describe it!

@annetteselent 10 ай бұрын

Ahhh…the whole “calling a meeting”. Thanks for bringing that up. A couple months ago my brother asserted that “…I can guarantee you that 3 of your siblings and our parents can join you with your counsellor”…to basically straighten out my faulty thinking around the past 6 years of their shunning of me. It kinda felt like I was being ganged up on. Certainly unsafe.

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

Have you watched any of my videos on family scapegoating? You may find this interesting: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oZKbnXl4jMqeg8ksi=DSbTR7DtioGUVa39

@annetteselent 10 ай бұрын

@@tamiemjoyce yes…I had spotted that video today…which led me to watching more. I resonated with being the blame for events I had nothing to do with. Younger sister, diagnosed with schizo-affective disorder, had decided to go off her meds and thus go off the rails mentally. At that point I had had nothing to do with her for 2 years as she had become pretty abusive before that. The parents decided I was to blame for her stopping her meds. Even after younger sister told them I had nothing to do with it years later…they still assert that it had to be my influence because “…you are a nurse”🤪🤷‍♂️

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

@@annetteselent It sounds to me like they may be projecting their own shortcomings and inadequacies as parents and caretakers onto you. The sad truth is you'll never win with people who see you and reality through such a distorted lens. Keep your distance and go be happy!

@JodiSamurai 10 ай бұрын

Comparison is the thief of joy. A narcissist will steal your joy, because all they do is compare themselves to the world. They will always come out on the top of their list, and you will never win. I realize they're praising a false identity. I'm going to be honest with myself and so ultimately there are no winners or losers. It's a painful realization, but it's one of the most powerful experiences a person can have on the road to freedom. A narcissist may never respect you, but when they see the Joy and Gratitude you have for life, they'll run away from you.

@Dunasthai 10 ай бұрын

1. Limited exposure. 2. Keep your cards close to your chest. 3. Become bulletproof. 4.Self Sovereignty. 5. Develop self-agency 6.Learn to set healthy limits & boundaries. 7.Own your frequency. 8. Up-level your image & status.

@janetnichols1019 10 ай бұрын

Good advice to help wade through the chos a narcissist makes of your life.

@tims9434 10 ай бұрын

Always excellent advice. Thanks Tamie

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

@paulakyle8146 10 ай бұрын

Excellent video. Powerful, wise advice.👏🙏

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the positive feedback, Paula!

@tad1111 10 ай бұрын

It's harder for a man who's being abused by a female narcissist. They can threaten a man with calling police for alleged abuse. Most times police will believe a female especially one skilled in gaselighting and lying. So a man is already a step behind when trying to exit this horrible situation.

@rvh77 10 ай бұрын

It's true. I actually went to the police after my narc wife physically abused me. She's half my size and weight, so for me to lay her out flat with one hit would be no problem, but I knew better and wasn't raised like that. When I showed cops where I was bleeding from being clawed and scratched, they didn't even flinch. They said there was nothing they could do. I walked out of the police station more confused and disgusted. One of the officers followed me outside and said that he was talking to me as not a cop, just one man to another, knowing what he knew. He had dealt with a similar situation and basically just need to get out of the relationship. It's not going to get any better. I could tell he believed my account of what was going on, but basically the outlook was grim. Just move on. It sucks, but the last thing you need is legal trouble, especially when it's totally not your style.

@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын

@@rvh77 That is so unfair. You should be believed. I am beginning to believe myself that there is no justice though. My late father would always say "bad people do well" and he was right. I BELIEVE YOU ❤️

@MA-lm1ql 10 ай бұрын

Good point same here. as soon as you speak against her and she doesn't like it and i yelled too now I know I shouldn't have, she's calling the police for alleged abuse and then trying to talk to her about the packages she's stealing I had to yell and threaten to call the police on her otherwise she wants to steal my packages and hold them until I come and ask for them so she can get what she wants out of me. I told her no give me my packages or ill report you to detective I had to yell through the door 4 times otherwise she wouldn't answer the door and says go away or ill call the police. Unbelievable.

@SummerHawkins-Blla 9 ай бұрын

I'm not sure agree, respectfuly. I was blindsided as was my whole family on Dec 9, and after a near suicide on Dec 3. The 9th is when I found out by accident he was behind his family bullying just short of threats. They are making my life hell. All I can do is the next right thing. And the next right thing..and protect myself in the mean time

@carolynmiller5999 7 ай бұрын

Tamie, I never heard anyone else have to deal with " call a meeting" my daughter in law has done this. It's "holding court" and gives her the opportunity to tell me in my own home how it is my fault I don't see the grandchildren . Then 2 years later wants another meeting. No thank you!

@chijchen 9 ай бұрын

great tips but the narcissist is my husband and caregiver. How do I detach myself?

@poloman888 10 ай бұрын

I love this video because it doesn't just state and re-state the problem which leads to self-pity, but offers solutions. I particularly like "#8 Up Level Your Image and Status." Shallow, at first glance, but this is necessary, not only for narcissists, but for all other interactions. I hope you can create a separate vid on #8. Thanks, Tammie!

@MaestroMaxim 10 ай бұрын

Yes. The Family Court Would be more equal if they understood this pattern of abuse by them.

@ruthyoung1032 10 ай бұрын

Everything you're saying totally works. 🌞

@Am-cz4qg 10 ай бұрын

This was powerful !!

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

I'm glad you liked it! Thanks for tuning in!!

@IzabelaWaniek-i1x 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for brilliant advice Tamie. ❤ God bless you❤

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

@Sam-pl3yd 10 ай бұрын

Hia Tamie 💕I am trying my best not to ever go through the abuse for too long! 🙏❤️❤️❤️

@KimberlyKelly2000 9 ай бұрын

What is your advice if this is happening to you with your only child that you raised alone who married a narcissist? They are only 22 and 23 years old. Now they have two babies under 3 years old and the narcissistic behavior of abuse is being done to my grandson! I am beyond furious. This is the fifth time they have cut me off because they don't like what I say or the advice that I give. What is your advice when this comes to your children and estrangement because of the narcissistic spouse?

@tamiemjoyce 9 ай бұрын

Hey, Kimberly! That is a very difficult question to properly answer in the comments section of a YT video. At the very least, you need specialized support and guidance. 💕

@carlosgarzajr.8402 10 ай бұрын

I just found this channel today been going through the videos. Just grateful for the content. Already putting this into practice. Thank you for your work and the content.

@amygradybsw 10 ай бұрын

I absolutely Love your channel!!! Sharing ❤

@hae-jungaliciakoh18 9 ай бұрын

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@cliodhnadoherty2409 10 ай бұрын

So grateful for the knowledge your sharing with me Miss Tamie 💜✨ it's been an absolute God send 🩷

@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын

You are so right when you say that they even use children in their evil plot.😢😮

@sylviacollins652 10 ай бұрын

So true!

@hannahhughes4801 10 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын

I love your content as always Tamie. Thank you.

@tamiemjoyce 10 ай бұрын

I'm so glad. You're most welcome! 😉

@LizLiz-s9u 10 ай бұрын

Straightforward, no nonsense, encouraging and realistic. Tamie makes it clear that the narcissist is more powerful the more you are NOT powerful. As a matter of fact tackling a workplace narcissist, I avoided contact only to have her gossip, slander and undermine me. I'm still wondering why only a couple of others saw this. I think there's a rancid element of narcissism which has been standardised in our culture - it's "normal" to be out of whack. And, I'm from Australia which is famous for down to earth relating! So, being on the watch is even more important even though it can be a lonely path- that's the other thing, though: do you want to be you or part of the crowd? Thanks Tamie.

@inspirethechildren 10 ай бұрын

😮 I'm a super empath, my adopted mom is a super narcissist, I just stepped away from her a yr ago through meditation.I just figured out what she is a couple days ago ( mind blown)I always new but this is so enlightening ty. That professor chairman took me to hell and back. I'm going to write a book. When I say HELL I mean demonic 😱 tragic Hell she had me so broke I was actually taking myself to hell all while she watched from afar with no empathy wtf!!! 😂 I can only lauph I'm done crying KARMAs coming repent!! Anne b Koehler. Im still finding it hard to believe such evil exists, oh but it does!!

@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын

Remember there are many empaths too. You are better equipped now to see that difference. And yes narcissism is evil. I hope you can recover and be happy ☺️❤️

@brittweir8844 10 ай бұрын

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@Luphifree 9 ай бұрын

I am until now abused and it's so confusing I want to leave now

@surekhaoommen3690 7 ай бұрын

U r simply BRILLIANT 😘😘😘😘

@MichaelAlbrecht-d7z 10 ай бұрын

Yes I have put trust in a relationship with narcissistic people and am so glad to have finally what was really going on behind my back.Good to find a way.to break from all of this..I also believe that there are organisations that are generally narcissistic. I move on from these also

@rachbarton1855 9 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh..... After weeks of working on my self before a family wedding, I finally got the guts to take your advice and IT WORKED. my narc sister was stopped in her tracks when I took back control. Thankyou

@briancanbefound 8 ай бұрын

Brilliant. This is insanely accurate. You have to learn to take inner strength and protect this as a precious commodity. Then, feed their ego. Their EQ is built around cheap thrills and 'uppers' because essentially, these are very insecure people that need to be constantly reassured. I've made it my mission to know everything but not show anything. Play the game, know worth.

@meelanicolemusic 8 ай бұрын

What if narcissist is MOM?!

@not_name7421 10 ай бұрын

I will be spending a Christmas dinner with my n-sister and her family. Our last few contacts had her flying off the handle for no good reasons. I'm going because I like her husband and my nieces and nephews of that family. I sent her a text accepting the invitation but also set a boundary that if anything becomes tense I will simply leave. I said I wanted a peaceful and calm holiday for all. She sent a text back which I didn't read fully but it seemed as if she acknowledged it. We shall see what happens. Btw, I have gone limited contact with her this past year, not answering texts, emails or phone calls. I can't go fully no-contact for a few reasons as other siblings just don't understand and invite us both to family events. My sister knows that I know and she is quite intelligent in her targeting tactics including scapegoating me for her negative feelings which can arise at any moment. One thing I can do to not react to her is to take a medical marijuana tincture which helps to alleviate negative emotional response. It works quite well!

@augustineschaefer5522 8 ай бұрын

The vision of puppet on a string re solidified my resolve to take a pass on some of the most horrendous behavior I’ve ever seen….when they say things like ‘heh, you know me, I’m just an asshole’…that is their truth. Believe them, they escalate.

@jomassey4207 9 ай бұрын

Ive just had an email from a sadistic narcissist, (who i complained to Health and Disability for the third time about my drs office manager). She wants to have a mediation session with me and a third party.....and sent "warmest regards". I made it clear to Health and Disability that i didnt want any mediation as i know it wouldnt get us anywhere, as she is a compulsive liar and is sadistic in with holding medications i need on a monthly basis. Watching your vlog helps to ground me. Im going to send an email to her bosses in another city to let them know of her "power and abuse" over patients who are truly suffering. My wish is that she is replaced by someone authentic and empathetic, who keeps to office work and doesnt overstep her job. The nurses and drs should be taking care of the patients but of course, narcissists have to control everything and everyone. Thankyou so much. Jo❤

@jennyhewitt3472 9 ай бұрын

Great tips. And is validation for what I've been doing. Thank you for all your help!

@reb_d1143 10 ай бұрын

Tamie, this is exactly what has happened to me recently. My evil Narc Father is trying to insinuate himself back into my life after literally tormenting and terrorising my young daughter and I (and decades of narc abuse to the whole family). My Mother is seriously unwell. My daughter and I "disappeared" from his sphere of influence, and he clearly couldn't manage not knowing where we were, what we were doing etc for many months. So, therefore he makes contact: a message full of palaver. I know it's all for his benefit and there is no genuine remorse for the despicable way he treated us. But, for my Mother't sake I will have to respond in some sort of positive way though I thoroughly resent his conditions to "make peace" to "catch up". I don't want anything to do with him at all and certainly not on his terms. I would love some advice. Many thanks 🥰

@sallyjaynes2433 10 ай бұрын

No. 7 is a key to my *living domain -- ☮️✌️

@timothygrisack486 9 ай бұрын

My disconnected narcissist stated she cannot help behaviour! Her therapist must have eluded to that explanation! She always skewed the therapist’s statements!