I relate to all of this, every single thing you said is me right now. I started making changes to my life about 2 months ago, and what you say resonates deeply with me. I am the scapegoat for my narcissistic family. When I went no contact with them, I walked right into a relationship with a covert female narcissist. I foolishly got married to her. Thankfully she wanted a divorce last year, I figure she was discarding me. She didn't go quietly however, she stalked me through my iPhone as well as physical stalked me with the help of others. It was the most difficult time of my life, even the FBI wouldn't help because I was not physically assaulted nor did she steal any money. I just felt like I had to share my story. Thank you for creating these videos on KZbin, they really helped me heal.

Yeah... And now I'm the "crazy ex", my turn came... I've heard it all........All boxes checked. Aside the obvious "you're a narcissist"... But supposedly that's the usual for those with BPD.... :)....

WHERE WERE YOU 4 YEARS AGO 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

I came up against friends of 50 years. A couple. At the same time for months. It was exhausting. Well worth it though. They pushed into working them out. Never wrong. Ever. Google came up with EGO. I went no contact. Wow. I feel like a fool.

I def experienced this kind of sexual relationship with ex. I am so thankful that I never had a threesome with him. He always talked about it. But that was definitely a boundary.

Number 3 most recently from my own child tbh , also having had many very different types of narc parents/ family members (no 4 from father as a child and growing up) mother #5 constantly even now in her 70' s )) I have also seen this and psycho/violent partners, yes abuse, money manipulation,and so much more (honestly ppl don't believe me, and have said I'm too sensitive as well as over exaggerating ,I have often felt ashamed,and went to therapy believing I was the one who needed help , I gave my power away in many situations,no I'm angry now I want little to nothing to do with them , and idc that my parents have recently both reached out about their health issues, I was civil ,went and Saw one in hospital twice although I didn't really want to, once was to actually get my child and grandchildren away from the BS asap) So it probably no wonder that I have blamed myself for nearly everything

Yes!! I am the definition of a fully empowered empath! I am intuitive, and I always caught my ex narc every time he tried to lie to me! I was no match for his lies and deception. He was caught cheating when he tried to lie to me he was worried he caught std from 20 years ago that was back. He was such a bully and had no true feelings. Just a hollow piece of wood.

I lack the ability to find the language and actions when they pull their ‘stuff’. The fawn response coupled with the ‘oh shit, here comes rage’ takes over.

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Thank you again Tamie for sharing. In my opinion you are the best coach among all others, your lessons, your insights and explanations about the behavior and minds of narcissists are so clear and enlightening. Xx

One person who I know loves to say "I don't know what I'd do without you" and "I knew from day one we were gonna be close." It feels like she's putting me on a pedestal so she can act like I'm "abandoning" her if I decide to stop kissing her ass

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No contact is great but how do you cut contact when you’re a married couple with children?

Praise❗️

And covert narcissists hate our guts in particular and target us the most.

A big one is accusing you of the things THEY did (projection).

I always had the attitude of, if you're unhappy with me, I'll leave. So I did.

If I had a penny every time I heard "that's in the past", I'd be rich!

I thought just my sons wife was a narcissist but hes so manipulated hes become just like her. I was the scapegoat, not anymore. Im done!

Pretty much all I’m familiar with unfortunately

Yeah sorry, but my ex was crazy 🤷🏻‍♂️

Hello

Fantastic information! Thank you Tamie!

The jungle book, the boy raised by wolfs, followed the same family dynamics of NPD. So when we are raised by wolfs we take on wolf archetypes. Lone wolf, alpha male/female, bata , scapegoat, clown and jester.

"who you gonna believe me or your own eyes" 😁😁😁 that was the phrase that woke me up to what was really happening, it still took me a bit, but I got out😇😇😇

Another bang on video!! Thank you

Yes we got married a year ago and I have to remind husband we haven't had sex for two months.i decent attractive I clean up good smelling good etc yes he is narcissistic

My daughter mom always call me a narcissist and gets mad when i dont except it and play in to her trickery, so if i get silent , oh it really bothers her , she just has to get the last words, and don't let me just hang up because i don't have time to argue,

Mr. N always told me that I 'wasn't HIPPIE enough" because "Hippies" don't get jealous! no contact is the way!

I stopped after 5 minutes...because I believe the feedback I'm about to give can and will help others. Christ calls us to 'be separate.' He calls us to Holiness and wholeness. Please digest this. Satan had 'nothing in Him. In other words, there was no demonic influence dictating His decisions. Christ came to me and asked me what I wanted Him to do for me a couple years ago. I said, Lord make me free indeed. True and lasting freedom is when you can undeniably say, I am in total control of my vessel, by the Power of the Holy Spirit dwelling in me. I had no honor to give anybody. All I ever knew was shame, guilt, abuse and dishonor. People mistook my empathic and co-dependant nature as narcissistic. What is the difference? Empathic people want and crave love at our core. Narcissist people crave and thrive on control. In search of love I would give myself and my things away without much thought of return. Owning myself or possessing myself, I finally realize in my fifties that i can control who i give my honor, my love, my loyalty to and even my very life to without feeling obligated to do so. Just because I slept with someone doesn't mean I am now obligated to her or him. If we were truly meant for one another, perhaps we would have waited and went through the process of engagement and marriage. If I am caught up in drugs, alcohol, porn,or co-dependency I am not in full possession of myself and if I am enslaved to such things, I don't truly possess myself fully enough to give myself to anyone else. Breaking away from any relationship at all in order to discover this truth is so difficult but I am just breaking out on the the other side of knowing this reality. it is empowering! it takes more bravery to leave someone for the right reasons than stay for the wrong ones. Then, you become your own hero but honestly God is the only one who could do what He just did for me in the person of Christ. May God richly bless you all. thanks for letting me share

Thanks Mrs J

100%. He did all these things every day.

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Ha ha. My sister in law used to say to me “sometimes I just don’t know what you’re talking about”. Four years after I said no more and my husband said no more as well, he is now sharing things that were said and done behind my back that I knew was going on. Being away from all of that gaslighting has really changed the dynamic in our marriage. Many other relationships have suffered, but for me that is what was meant to happen. Boundaries must be enforced and honored or there’s the door. No more “I can explain” nonsense that leads to no changes in behavior.

Spot on Tamie. You observations and advice are brilliant. Thank you 🙏

These videos really HELP me HEAL and spot certain SIGNS early on. 😁👍🏾💯

Amén ❤️

Great video Tamie! I've heard most of these VERBATIM

my best friend who is 70 just died suddenly. She was one of those people who are there for you. I miss her so much, yes we have to go find available good people, hope I find another good friend. I have two narcisstic kids and I have to be silent, talk superficial, it is the only way, they are not going to be different. It is a harsh reality to accept.

I spoke with Tamie a little over 2 years ago. After I rambled on playing the victim card and hoping she would pity me. all she said was, So.. are you ready to start healing and taking your life back? The clarity I got from that was super profound.

And thats all its done is get worse and worse,2 xs the bs cause why, i married what she siad i martied a manipulating liar now i lnow why these two were here by there selves. They abused everyone that eve cared for them

I definitely have trust issues! I keep very little people in my circle <very little> Thank you for your videos! So helpful for me

David tells me" I never said that,you must be imagining things." Hard to do when I record video of him. It's been the only way to shut him down,pisses him off but what don't

So,since David has had other marriages/relationships ,he's well versed in his tactics. He's had lots of practice and he's a sick f#$@er

Yep David uses"no wonder nobody likes you" all the time. So I started telling him" no one will come within five feet of this place cause how all treat your neighbors,making elephant sounds behind the back of a larger lady while making an elephant trunk with your arm or only going to see them when you need a ride or cash,or how bout how they all see you and Barry both drunk on a daily basis."

I am sorry, but if I were this PERFECT and TOGETHER before my divorce, he probably would NOT have divorced me. Second, if I were this together to just DO all your perfect steps, I would NOT be searching these sites, desperate to somehow ease the unending, 1,389 day, deep grief and sadness. Being ghosted and exiled after an 18 year marriage and nearly 40 year long friendship, at the prime age of 57 isn't as easy as your cookie cutter strategies and over simplified advice. Sorry but true.

David really does try to get me to question my reality. It's as if he believes there was no me before himas if I wasn't 35 when we met. As if I hadn't been abused before,it's been all my life. Almost every man I have ever been in contact with has abused me,either physically or mentally. Most of the time both. It's also generational in my family . I really need someone to take to

Yep,she nailed it again. I am very empathetic,I do take responsibility for myself. I would never blame someone else for things I do & I sincerely despise people who shift blame

He's made sure I don't have insurance my health is keeping me from getting a job at this time but I lost jobs because of fighting with David being accused of cheating with people I work with(asked me if I was gonna f#$k a chicken man,,,WTH

Thank you dear Tamie….soooo true. Hugs from Cynthia Ann n JANESVILLE, WI