11 DATING MISTAKES TO AVOID AT ALL COSTS

[@SarahKhan-q4q]

Yk you are a real Tam Kaur fan if you watch her videos just to gain extra knowledge even if you don't struggle from the issue 😎

[@AbcdEfgh-l9r]

That's me ❤🎉😎 now in my self love era

[@Harrystylesboo]

Excatly ❤

[@k4kadyan226]

Exactlyyy😂😂

[@sid_28]

Fr fr..

[@_Thalia_Jay_]

I’m so single, it’s deadly 😂

[@Not-really-Naisha]

Me: doesn't wanna date Also me: *watches video intently, nodding as I take mental notes which I'll forget it 2 days* ( I'll watch anything this goddess posts frr )

[@penguin4627]

A FULL LIST 1. Trying to make a good impression i.e. chasing and trying to prove urself; just be yourself and it will be all it takes 2. Dating other people before dating yourself - self love (apart from the consumerism bs actually get to know yourself and treat yourself like you would want your dream partner to) 3. Trying to take it slow - this leads to situation ships (ABSOLUTELY NOT) so when it comes to determining your relationship put all ur cards on the table and have these conversations and plans for the future AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. 4. Looking at facts over your own intuition, TRUST UR GUT 5. & 6. Making another person your purpose before your own stuff - Always have ambition for your INDEPENDANT life, have a life apart from dudes. Do not put a partner at the center of your life. 7. Sticking to one person. - Keep your options open, (obviously don't be unfaithful) but don't invest every bit of your energy into one person before you're absolutely sure and secure because if it doesn't work out you drain yourself. 8. Comparing with past dating experiences. - Every person is different and its not a one size fits all situation. Every relationship is different no matter how hard you try. 9. Thinking the more time, the better. Be a different individual other than your partner. 10. When you're thirsty, even poison tastes like water. Don't settle for the bare minimum. There are people who will treat you way better than that one person you're chasing. Set your standards high; the sky's the limit. 11. Assessing everything in a person except SELF CONFIDENCE. An insecure person will find something wrong in everything you do. He will never be fully happy, or make you fully happy. Hope it helps xoxo

[@ananyagaur2412]

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[@__Suzi_]

Thank you ❤

[@bridgetajari297]

Thank you so much

[@emmastone8779]

Thank you darling ❤

[@christinenaidoo7602]

Thank you ❤

[@DUTTAgamerff]

there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal

[@avantikxa]

THE TIMING OF THIS VIDEO IS PERFECT

[@vicsolimo]

#11✨️ My ex is a Narcassist. He came off as this kind, sweet, and misunderstood person. But turns out he was an extremely insecure, controlling, and jealous person. He one time told me that I wasn't the same person he fell in love with in the beginning. We started dating at 17 when I was co-dependent and I was 22 when he told me this and stood up for myself which led to this comment. Now I am in a 6 year relationship with my best friend, who is making plans to buy a house with me and get married, and checks all the boxes tenfold and even put his life before me to protect me in an emergency earlier this summer❤️

[@neetwallah7553]

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[@neetwallah7553]

you deserved it , girllll ❤

[@vicsolimo]

@@neetwallah7553 thank you!🥹❤️

[@SakshiSinha303]

Damn, I hate it that I relate to it

[@valehijar7119]

Girl, that makes 2 of us! So glad you could find the real one, wish you the best!!

[@avantikxa]

we need a video for long term relationship girls !!!! how to re ignite that spark again ✨️

[@_Summersfypage]

Period

[@dhvaniii_]

Yes

[@busslyw]

I am so angry with myself because I just discovered you. What you said affected me so much and shed light on my life. I love you, beauty.

[@GMrudula]

don't worry the universe dropped her at the right time in ur life so be happy honey 😌🥂✨

[@sagesoni]

11 is so real, I just got out of a talking stage with this guy and at first he was amazing to me but him talking about his insecurities brought down my vibration. Don't let men gaslight you everr!

[@eyes1168]

Watching this after breaking up with my ex yesterday, thank you Tam for talking some sense into me, this is actually healthy advice unlike the most external validation seeking advice on the internet.

[@dimriss]

THE TIMING, OMG, THE TIMING!!!!!

[@andreeabodea6514]

Dating mistakes: 1. Trying to make a good impression 2. Dating other people before dating yourself 3. ⁠Trying to take it slow -> May be appropriate when it comes to being physical or putting labels, but not when it comes to conversations or getting real about your feelings. Do not be ashamed to ask questions like: What are your preferences when it comes to dating? How long do you think the talking stage should last? 4. ⁠Looking at facts over your own intuition -> Don’t ask your friends, family, society. Don’t give him another chance if you don’t feel sure even if he didn’t do anything wrong. Sometimes your body, your soul, your mind knows before you do. Pay attention to who you’re naturally more shy around, pay attention to the dates where you feel like you can’t be your authentic self. If your body says ‘I don’t know’ then listen to it. 5. & 6. Making another person your purpose instead of finding your own fulfilment -> Don’t put dating and guys first. You should not even think about reply times and question if he really likes you. You should not feel like constantly doubting things. Your mindset should be ‘I’m good on my own, I would never settle for a relationship that would be even a step below my standards’ 7. Sticking to one person -> You can date multiple people at the same time and figure out to whom your connection grows stronger. 8. ⁠Comparing with your past dating experiences 9. ⁠Thinking that the more time you spend together, the better -> Hanging out while lacking actual plans starts to normalise low effort within your relationship. More time does not equal quality time. You basically communicate to your man that all he has to do is to sit with you and pay some attention to you and that’s good enough for you. Instead focus on your own life and purpose and fulfilment and independence and see your boyfriend maybe only twice a week and have that be quality, romantic time that you planned for each other. 10. Not questioning the type of relationship you have and the love you receive and considering it the best -> Sometimes the relationship you are in is all you have seen so you have no idea that there are many who can love you so much and put so much time and effort in you. Pay less attention to the relationship of everyone around you because that skews your standards downwards and normalises bare minimum AND research what healthy relationships look like. 11. Assessing everything in a person but SELF ESTEEM -> Even if he is kind, good looking, romantic, emotionally intelligent and if he plans and pays for every date and understands you, he could still have some deep routed insecurities that he refuses to deal with and could project on you when you already are heavily in love with him. He could be jealous of your achievements and want you to stay the same way and not evolve.

[@ArunimaMandal15]

I strongly agree with point number 3. Soooo important to avoid falling into situationships. Be upfront and don't be scared to ask them direct questions about their intentions and if they are scared or try to avoid them, you know they are not for you!!

[@aryadas7523]

Day by day I'm more and more amazed by the fact that every single word this woman utters make SENSE .. it's like has every single solution to my every single problem and pointing out the faults where things got messy and telling how I can improve... I'm so lucky to find you P.s. I placed an order yesterday to your book and counting days for it to arrive ❤❤❤

[@tamkaur]

Ahhhh ur the sweetest!! Thank you

[@ShaynaSingh-c8e]

i love u literally so much and admire the amount of effort you put in each video! LOVE U

[@tamkaur]

Thank you so much!!

[@anamikapa5534]

Love u bae​@@tamkaur

[@honeyHtetZaw]

Last night I just broke up with my bf .I dated him for 1month and a few days.From the start I feel in my gut that he's not match . And I was settling for less . Anyway thank you ❤

[@hkapre07]

Girl your content is absolute GOLD. I'm literally blessed to be able to hear all these golden pieces of advice 😭thank you so much for all that you do!!

[@umojaravenclaw4891]

i love when i can open up yt and see a notification that the queen has posted! thank you tam another info filled yet heart felt video *sending virtual hugs*

[@nadiapetro1901]

i am so grateful you uploaded this video a- i got to know what kind of people to surround myself with and what i should fix/ come up as a person b- all of the ,,me" lessons, already have that c- all teh things about guys, grateful my bf doesnt have that, he's literally the kind of guy who worships the air i breathe, makes dates (we are 17 and hard time to meet, family things) even though we are at home the whole day, always comes up with smtg special and fun literal surprises and it's both of our first rs and it's been 8 months we have been together, we will marry each other and idc what anybody else says about us or even say ,,teen love never lasts" dont care he's it. and i am it for him. he is literally obsessed, queen treatment, vulnerable, fixing, and makes me known that he wants me and THE BEST at daily level, and the treatment on special days, i have no idea how he does that and yes we both have flaws but we both are on self improvement and we are fixing and growing together

[@fatimaaliAli-e3b]

Tam tam girls i am sooooo happy the goal list i made for my self it done i promise my self to complete this goals before my 19 birthday and here i am all complete 🎉🎉🎉yahhhhhhh and next month is my birthday i just Soo happy amd.confident you are loveee tam your video change me Alot in every possible ways love you Alot ❤❤❤❤❤❤ my life change 360 degree after i found your channel 1 and half year ago

[@Anu_diaries7]

Crazyyyy timingggg I was disturbed for so long and this came exactly when I am scared to end things but I am constantly stressed about it !

[@vaishnavivemula7107]

hey tam, thank you for this video I remember hearing you share your thoughts on not believing in the evil eye, and it really resonated with me especially when so many people believe that keeping things private is the key to success because of the fear of the evil eye, it would be amazing if you could make a video on how to embrace happiness without the fear of the evil eye, how to confidently share our achievements and happiness with the world, without fearing about negativity

[@lost_memorycells]

Low self-esteem is the major one** delete the person or run✅

[@itainttheend98]

Ppl who watched her vlog and saw her get ready in this fit and film 🌷(like?)

[@shrutiranjan0511]

me

[@farhanakhanam5852]

I waiting for this one to get uploaded

[@itainttheend98]

@@farhanakhanam5852 rightt

[@shreyaarora7941]

the last one was soooooo trueeeee.... i am consious about my insecurity and if something i feel jealous. it often makes me feel weird that why people around me aint like that and that just hurts...butttt it took me a while to realise here im self aware to not hurt the other person because of my own issues.. i wish more people would be aware of this..

[@heyart3668]

OUTFIT SLAY IN HERE. ❤

[@jeshthaac]

THE TIMING. LOVED THIS ONE TAM. Thank you so much 💗

[@alexandria._.s]

Tam you have no idea how important this is to me in my life currently. You have basically raised me and taught me so much. This video I NEED right now ily ❤

[@salmasoso2055]

I saw he is following and putting likes on a female's bikini pictures and when i told him about it, he said why are you stalking on my acc and i talked a lot about how much that hurts me and he replied with okay , after 5hours. then, he said you can do whatever you like i wont blame you. In fact, the previous day he told me he loves me so much. I realized that i should move on, it hurts that i thought he was a high value man but i was wrong.

[@AbcdEfgh-l9r]

Darling you deserve better ❤❤❤ Best of luck

[@salmasoso2055]

@@AbcdEfgh-l9r Thank you ❤️❤️

[@clarissaywy]

It sounds to me like he's manipulating and gaslighting you. Its normal to be upset at your man liking other girls bikini pics and he turned back and made it about you to say that you're stalking him .... I'm so sorry this happened to you but you must move on, you deserve better❤

[@salmasoso2055]

@@clarissaywy true, what hurts me the most is he ignored my message whole day and replied with 'okay'. I realized no matter what i say, he wont care that's why i no longer care about him or what he does.

[@clarissaywy]

@@salmasoso2055 he doesn't respect you, if he does he wouldn't do it when you made it clear you didn't like it. Don't tolerate the disrespect , he won't change.

[@Anneign]

When she said sticking to that one person I felt that 🫠

[@neweelle]

Thank you for that video!!! Especially for the part about trusting your gut and intuition. I could be trapped in a very dangerous situation, maybe even life-threatening. Throughout the recent days, I kept this message of yours in my mind. It may be that you saved my life. Hopefully I'll never know it.

[@thesunshine3246]

The same thing happened to me ! When I be with that guy , my gut feeling telling me that something is wrong about him! I ignored my gut feeling but one day God gave me the direction and suddenly I checked his phone in the gym and he caught talking to his ex and cheating on me . I immediately broke up with him and cut him off from everywhere . Girls please don't ignore your gut feeling!

[@bhavnapunjwani2159]

Literally started with a banger of making a good impression. It SHOULD NOT feel like you are TRYING!!! I need to scream this louder LOL. The mistake that hid the hardest was not laying the cards on the table from the beginning. I ALWAYS lay out my cards/ talk about things that I am looking for and I have found a lot of guys uncomfortable with that approach. Sure, maybe my delivery can be better, but I am just being direct about what I want to save both of us time. I was actually doubting myself and was going to stop doing that but after this video I am doubling down. No need to waste even a second of my precious time 😗

[@malaakmemg]

My first date after one hour omg

[@G_2005_F]

Good luck 🙂‍↕️

[@malaakmemg]

@@G_2005_F thank youuuu

[@KaylaRousse]

Wish u the best❤

[@soonaaam]

Good luck❤

[@avanikalambe]

OMGGGG GOOD LUCKKK 🎀🤗🤭🌟🧿💘😋😉 PLEASE UPDATE US WHENEVER YOU CAN WE ALL WANNA KNOWWW HOW IT WENTTTT 🤭⭐🙏🏾😋🧿

[@iasminaiabloncic316]

I love you for each word you said on Mistake no. 4! ❤️‍🔥 I was in the same situation for the past 5 months 😃 just that the other girl (s) never messaged me: So I had a terrible panic attack all of the sudden after a very nice date with him. I was shaking, crying and screaming for apparently no reason. So I messaged him saying “Why you didn’t told me you have somebody else?” He never replied 🙂 End of story. No proves. Next please.

[@ShaymaElKhelifi]

You're so full of knowledge, girl. i love the way you explain things. She's a teacher by heart y'all ❤❤

[@Tharuniiiii]

Thumbnail game getting cooler 😏❤️

[@Sharvi_s26]

I met that 11th guy...omg that was so traumatic yet i am healed and reaching my best self now

[@sphokuhlexulu]

Oh my gosh I needed this ,i just entered into dating era ,its my first time and I'm scared.😢❤

[@danijg4915]

The outfit, the colours, the advice.. everything is SLAYING in this video ❤

[@aboodalfayez3525]

Tam I luv u I can’t but into words how much u helped me find happiness in myself and grow as a person I watch ur vids DAILY RELIGIOUSLY while Iam making my matcha and rlly has been that sweet spot of my day 💕

[@Ragini____]

You emit so much positivity you are literally my little ray of sunshine ❤

[@Bhxxxi]

Ur book is a masterpiece manhhh🤌💞

[@Feelthevoice2]

The timing😮 i was watching your video which( actualy rewatching) old videos and just now when i get back in the feed i got the notifications That our mama posted something💓 Thank you tam

[@aleksandrasawicka5614]

GIRL I WOULD LOVE MORE DATING VIDEOS!!! I love you sm Tam I'm so proud of you

[@vvaleriearango]

Loved this one ❤ Can you make one for attracting the right people into your life and knowing how to deal with those who want to stay in it but definitely don't align with you, let alone your highest version? Love u girl 💋

[@SarahHussain-dg7cd]

I’m surprised you said you used to be an avoidant attachment as you have described so many traits similar to me with an anxious attachment style

[@velvetpearlka]

The last dating mistake 🔥 I just broke up bc he's that type of men in the 11th dating mistake , I feel that i can improve and work on myself rather than " making him know his value and healing his traumas" Thank you Tam ❤

[@nishat_zaman]

This vid is sooo good ❤ i totally agree with your advice on trusting your body. Not just dating but in all situations sometimes your body knows before your mind can catch up

[@perla3733]

looking like princess jasmine period

[@BiancaFanu]

energy senses energy, I super agree!! anytime I felt smth was off even tho I couldn't explain it, it proved to be right!

[@AnaS-of8ri]

08:00 THIS WAS ME! Went on five dates with that guy and I never felt quite sure about him Or even right- I always had told him my boundaries and that I wanted to date and give myself the opportunity to be open and he never really voiced his boundaries when I asked him to, always saying he’ll know once the situation arises. All while I got insecure and started to pick on his insecurities making them my own when then I was like- wtf is happening? Who am I? This is not the woman I am nor the woman I want to be and then another guy reached out to me wanting to get to know me- this situation let the first guy’s mask slip and he showed himself as the narcissist he was and the narcissist my body and soul knew he was- LISTEN TO YOUR BODY AND YOUR GUT MY LOVES!!!

[@HareshKishor-fq4qm]

The fact that nobody talks about the book whispers of manifestation on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

[@shahendaelmahdy6112]

hello tam , I recommend you to upload more videos about how healthy relationship works so the healthy relationship became the norm to our mind because as you have said the bare minimum normalized so much around us

[@PriyaSahoo-sk6eu]

Didi you are amazing 😭 the timing is insane also i heavily agree with u especially 11th point tq for showing us great path and teaching us and making our standards high we love you so much tq tq so much be go girl 🤌🏼🙆🏻‍♀️🌹

[@XolMig]

I am a man and I truly love her content ❤, tam is literally my big sis, and I feel great

[@ManashwitaSaikia]

AT THIS POINT I AM CONVINCED THAT SHE COULD READ MINDS😭😭😭

[@熊亮茵]

Omg this is a video I really need, I just made the exact mistake Tam just mentioned! Thank you Tam for reminding me! You really helped me learned a lot about myself, I really appreciate you and your videos!❤

[@n3iixluv]

tam i would love to see some more time management/ planning/ time blocking tips or themed videos

[@chahakkhandelwal3903]

You are really looking beautiful in this video, the outfit, the makeup, the accessories!

[@vanessa-uv5mq]

Tam you are an absolute gem, thank youuu!

[@komaltiwari10]

Hey Tam! Firstly I reallyyyyyyyyyy love youuuu and your videos, and secondly can you make a video about how you maintain yourself to look this good and fresh all the time, and all the personal hygiene tips :)

[@sachinjoshi878]

She is the sister I needed Thankyou so much Tam❤.

[@highvaluewoman890]

tam you are really looking so beautiful. im so inspired from your fashion sense

[@chabytemmie]

number 9 literally blew my mind😭😭😭

[@steph0sims]

GIRL i needed this rn how did you know

[@priyanshuyadav641]

How cute, you two look alike. It seems to support the theory that soulmates tend to resemble each other.😍😍

[@MilkyWayMeadow732]

Thank you so much for making this video! I have a date today and point 4 really stuck out to me. Thank you for reminding me to trust my own intuition and gut!

[@SaniyaM-lx6ff]

I think another video you should be making on is how to find the right type of men out there. I recall you mentioned you found your current boyfriend via twitter but in general how would you recommend to find them if someone is in the dating headspace? Edit: I wrote husband 😂 I think I wrote something similar in wizardliz’s video as well

[@xastaranaslanii4918]

Thank you for putting subtitles!❤

[@sachinjoshi878]

Watching as soon as she posts ❤❤❤

[@sheenamaemustacisa5275]

I was just watching your 15 dating rules video, then this came out. I'm so luckyyyyyy

[@lintang3232]

Can we pls have a video on how to keep the healthy relationship going while living together. My partner of almost 2 years moved in together this summer. What are so tips and tricks to keep that going steady when living together?

[@keerthanachandrababu1017]

Love love love this video ❤️ Also tips on how to spot low self esteem in the first few dates ?

[@shymajadallah]

Girls , Tam's life lessons are wonderful ❤ I've applied all of them and I'm receiving the same type of princess treatment with my current partner❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@togeslover]

im currently working on myself [self love journey from your advice] as im gonn be in junior year next week but ill keep these in mind 🫶🫶 love you tam

[@beomibeqr3130]

I really needed this, thank you so much Tam xx

[@quabby0]

I swear you always make videos at the most perfect times 🎀 its like every time I have an issue you seemed to make a video the same day about it 🩷 please don’t ever change girlie

[@kautukikharbe5350]

Thank you sooo much Tam Kaur ❤. This really helped me. This is what I needed. THIS WAS THE BEST SOLUTION EVEER ❤

[@mimuru6409]

Omg number 11. You are right. That's not an extra. That's the whole thing!!!

[@treatmelikewhiteteaa]

THANK YOU!!! you saved meee

[@nikitasingh7243]

Baby..your content is amazing... But please do make a video on what to talk about to a guy in the talking stages and on dates...to know them deeply and understand their character???.. It's gonna help us a lot

[@subaithanasreen]

Hey TAM Please read my comment Please never stop using the ending video with the same volume and bass u used to have in your all videos That actually summs up your content and gives off the exact vibe!!!! please !!!

[@道缘璇玑]

If you want to find your true love, perhaps ancient mystical magic from the East can help you

[@subaithanasreen]

@@道缘璇玑 Thankyou but I have a husband !

[@36_samriddhi_8e8]

I remember in her vlog she got ready to film this video and I was waiting when it will come so here it is..

[@prachim1553]

Would loveeeee to see you make a video about forgiveness and letting go!!! pleaszeeeee

[@n3iixluv]

fact 4: exactly i can apply this on my friendship experiences

[@soft_chuchu]

In the third mistake about communicating about preferences or some, how can I do that properly? Like tips because it’s either I’ll yap info or be like all my ideas will be over the place or I’ll be lacking in what i want to say like I want to explain it more but I don’t know how.

[@mindreaderss]

awesome video as always!! do you think it's possible to make a video about FOMO (fear of missing out) and how to overcome it? it'd be so helpful thank youu❤️

[@kayahbellamy]

this video is great but can we talk about how good you look in this color 😍😍

[@HùngNguyễnPhước-y5p]

The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Flirtosphere Seduction on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

[@ridhimasingh904]

Thank you Tam for helping me smmmm through my lifeee ..... I love yaaaa smmmm😭😭♥️

[@blaine_magoga-eu5mc]

The way I saw this on shorts and didnt know where the videos was 😭🙏🏾

[@faranakdolati]

You changed my life ❤ Love you so much ❤❤❤

[@mokaponpon9028]

Absolutely love it 💗💗💗 always exciting for your new videos and as always, it's so helpful and it help me a lot through out my entire life. Thank you for your hard work, we love you girl 💗💋

[@Selftalk_6580]

My mistake confession....i dated low standard guy bcoz it seems a green flag for me but after sometimes i realised that he wasn't for me ...look!!! I work so hard for my goals and he wasn't that serious wtf!!! I saw in him just if he doesn't know anything about self improvement ,career and being the backbone of family. Thank god i realised my self worth!!!❤

[@Kirtime-ly4ou]

Advise no. 7 was something new that I learnt today thankyou sissy I love you so much 🌷💞💗🌷

[@bossvision]

Living together is not a flex

[@ekthamallam3298]

Thank you so much big sis, your helping me prep for the future!! I

[@KamilahBorg]

This video is amazing Tam! ❤

[@saltycookie221]

Thank you Tam.... loved this so much.. made my morning ❤