‘Love Is Blind’ Star Clay Gets Real About AD Being the “Love of His Life” & Future Hopes

Fresh off the “Love is Blind” reunion Tamron sits down for an exclusive with Clay Gravesande and his mother Margarita. Clay’s controversial decision to say I don’t at the alter and Margarita’s powerful words about trauma have sparked intense discussions about the impact of our upbringings. Clay opens up about his viral decision and how he’s seeking therapy in a sit-down that you don’t want to miss! Press play!
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[@cassandrashine6477]

Clay’s mom is the star of this season of LIB! Please give this beautiful woman her check!

[@kimkeller2983]

Yaaaaaas, because MOST parents don’t want to share their past experiences with their kids and I commend her for being open and honest with her son and making her ex-husband take accountability for his part of why their marriage ended…and PROUD of Clay for taking the steps to HEAL his self 👏🏽

[@shelliclay7141]

Yessss she is I know the family personally for over 30 years. Shes the strongest woman I know. 🥰

[@01yoshika]

Not really she should’ve told her son don’t play with that woman’s heart all the way up to the alter

[@babiface5508]

Facts smh

[@9crimes87]

All he loves about her is what she does for HIM. She gave him a safe space, get him back on point... GIRL RUN.

[@emmas9928]

*Tamron: Clay, what was special about her?* Key word *”Her”* Clay: She just knew if *I* was talking crazy or talking too much, she could just align *me* and get *me* back on point. *I* just love our banter that we had, I love the fact that she did offer those safe spaces for *me* I just felt *I* could open up to her and I wanted to be a better person. In other words, I'm a self centred, self serving #immature #manchild who sees AD in relation to what she does for me, not as *a unique individual with her own attributes, personality, hopes, dreams and needs.* *Clay, do better, you’re way too selfish to be a good partner, let alone a husband. Grow up. Please*

[@marriejames01]

He could never really point out anything that he liked about her. His answered centered on him. It’s like he thinks she should be grateful. He knew he wasn’t interested at the reveal. It was about her body and finishing the experience.

[@forestkreek123]

​@marriejames01 I know, I saw the look on his face when the reveal happened, he looked disappointed

[@Kayyceeeee]

Spot on!!!! Every time he is asked about her, he points out stuff she does for him. Everything is about him.

[@Bingbangxox]

He just liked what she did for him.

[@thetechconsultant]

Women need to understand, at some point, that women and men are two different creatures, and we marry differently. We may choose our short-term partners based on their beauty and individual attributes, but we do not decide to marry them for them. One thing I agree with you on is that it is self-indulging and a bit self-centered of a decision to make, but we make it nonetheless. We think, “How can she help carry my plans for us?” “Is she a woman I can come home to daily who creates a peaceful home for me after grinding in the world?” We look for a HELPMATE, and regardless of how selfish it may be, it is what it is. And no, it's not all men.

[@corden84]

Clay knew before the altar that he did not want to get married. But he waited until AD walked down the aisle. He did not respect her enough to end the engagement prior to the wedding. And now he is getting all the interviews. When will AD receive an invitation to discuss her heartbreak instead of Clay discussing what he has learned and his mental health? It's all about him!

[@morena1022]

Thank you!!! He never wanted to marry her. I do not think he even liked her AT ALL.

[@anjelenamcguire8335]

He acted like he was the prize the whole season...he got on my nerve

[@keelane2575]

@@morena1022He likes her BODY!! Which is why I wished she had waited until the marriage before sleeping with him ‼️

[@johnjackson1466]

AD was on the 'Jennifer Hudson Show' today telling her side of the story.

[@EricJohnsonresign]

How do you know that?

[@oedivci]

I can't believe people can't understand him saying no when he has shown his parents personal trauma that transferred to him. This is what happen when men don't do right by their wife and children. Your children are left with distrust and insecurities. This is the generational curse that plays out in broken homes. I applaud Clay for what he is doing to heal himself.

[@jackieselah]

I agree. I'm proud of Clay. The divorce rate might be an indication that more people should think more before marrying.

[@nickylnr]

People understand him saying no..the problem is he led her on all the way to the alter...he couldve told her before the wedding that he wasnt ready. Matter of fact that man knew he wasnt ready before he went on that show...a show where they are to get married at the end

[@jackieselah]

@@nickylnr I'd never assume to know a person's intention, whom I've never met. He's not the first to decide no at the last minute but for some reason, the ladies are in their feelings about Clay. The goal is to get married but it's still a choice, from what I understand. I think that Clay started an important conversation about how infidelity can affect children. Kudos to Clay and his family for putting themselves out there.

[@ladyt33829]

Perfectly said

[@ms.ajones7168]

@@jackieselah yes! I agree with u. And he's really been transparent with her the whole time, about his struggles and conflict about marriage and his dad an everything. AD saw the red flags, she even spoke on it before too. On the outside looking in, they both took a chance, it seems like he really wanted to marry her but at the last minute got cold feet.

[@tawandathurman886]

AD will get a husband that will give her what Clay could not. I wish her well.

[@onyx081]

If she doesn't develop some self respect and self-worth she's going to continue to attract terrible men

[@CampbellYA]

I was initially disappointed and upset with him. After seeing the conversation with his parents and watching the reunion, I understood fully what scared him. He was scared and unfortunately, the cost was AD’s heart. His emotions on the reunion, I felt that. I understood that a black man is expressing his fears and I was too angry to receive it. I wish them both the absolute best.

[@8mydaydream409]

Clay is full of colorism and BS! He can talk all the therapy trauma talk he wants! The simple fact is if AD was light skinned or white, he would have married her period!

[@baycal2]

Exactly

[@ca6248]

You worded that beautifully. Thank you.

[@dmfilminggroup]

I give this young brother grace! He owned his situation, called out his trauma, and is working towards the healing process. That man knew he wasn't ready so he did what was best for him and AD. Keep doing the work young man.

[@neilybugg]

Clay reminds me of those really handsome black men from the 90's. AD is such a beautiful person. They both deserve the best in life.

[@sherienichol1580]

He definitely does gives 90's vibes.

[@pretty_wingz]

@@sherienichol1580he reminds me of Will Smith something about him idk

[@empressande4603]

Clay is not the first or the last to say no at the alter so ppl need to calm down and stop thinking they know everything. He said what he said and his story has never changed. I hope he’s an inspiration to other men even women to look deeper into themselves and fix what is broken, we want to get into a relationship with all our heavy baggage and expect shit to just work it self out.

[@8mydaydream409]

Clay ain't no inspiration to anyone because he's a lying colorist! If AD was light skinned or white, he would have surely married her! So I'm not trying to hear that BS!

[@thecolemans276]

Ad's whole point was WHY couldn't he give her a heads up if he so called loved her

[@JunePolk-o3r]

My feeling is that Clay was not genuine about his feelings for AD. Several times he admired her body yet never told her she was pretty. And he talks way too much as if he was trying to convince himself or AD that he had genuine feelings for her.

[@anniesmith298]

He told her she was beautiful multiple times: at the reveal, when she questioned if she deserves love, during the scene with his mom, etc

[@Unknown-zk4nl]

This

[@MelonyMejias-jb6bv]

He finally said she look beautiful on the reunion

[@ladyt33829]

He definitely kept saying she’s beautiful

[@tiffanypittman04]

Exactly! I watched every episode and Clay always talked mostly about ADs body. I can count on one hand the number of times he said something about her face. AD is not Clay's dream woman or his type looks wise. If she was, all that trauma talk would've been out the window and they would be married. I wonder what his exes look like. That would reveal his type.

[@alleykatt6110]

At the very least, give him grace for not saying yes to her only to do to her what his dad did to his mom! Marriage shouldn’t start out in a deficit!

[@Davtrice0511]

He showed great courage and showed true love for her by saying no! - Ms. Pat

[@LifeIsGood49]

​@@Davtrice0511True...many are deceived by the "I Dos"...only to be hurt by their partners, in ways they wouldn't have been prepared.

[@neicydreuitt3055]

I totally agree BUT him leading AD down the altar to say he's not ready was purely selfish and unfair to her. There was plenty of time to deal with his personal/childhood issues before their wedding day aka hour.

[@neicydreuitt3055]

AD deserved grace before he allowed her to walk down the altar on their wedding day....ijs

[@Davtrice0511]

@@LifeIsGood49 Yes! He truly did her a favor. Take the embarrassment now...than a lifelong of pain and trauma he will bring to her later.

[@anjelenamcguire8335]

He blinking too much for me...lying codes 😂😂😂😂

[@janicelumpkin601]

I thought the blinking was gay code😮 11:05 s😮

[@l.mendes547]

😂😂😂😂😂 when you don't practice your speech long enough in front of the mirror, and try to remember what you had written on paper.

[@natasha007]

Or dry contact lens... remember in the pods he wore glasses at times.

[@michellelewis262]

Exactly

[@giovan7482]

@@Melodeeb or maybe he's neurodivergent... He shows other signs

[@NellysLitWorld]

This man is full of it, I can’t believe ppl are falling for this 😭 he gets the clout he wanted

[@anjelenamcguire8335]

Exactly!!!!!!! I don't get why is the world so blinddddd

[@NellysLitWorld]

@@anjelenamcguire8335 all he had to do is use buzz words like “generational trauma, “doing the work” etc. and ppl fell for it….that’s all it takes for women to be like 🥺🥺🥺 and forget all the nonsense! Now this man is on a press tour 😭 he’s clever, I’ll give him that

[@MelonyMejias-jb6bv]

Exactly he ain't want the heat so ofc he would say all those things

[@michellealvarez8160]

I agree 😂

[@leilou19]

It's because many think he's handsome. His body language is weird. It's almost like he's telling himself to " act normal" . His mother knows her son is off and thought the show would fix him.

[@hrf1954]

Clay is 31 years old. Not a kid

[@TGipson25]

There isn't an age associated with trauma. There are people who are way older than him who have trauma responses and behaviors that they have no idea is related to trauma they have experienced in their lives. The pandemic brought out a lot of people's hidden trauma because they had to be still. The blessing is get help and going to counseling is no longer treated as a bad thing so more people can hopefully get help to heal.

[@mariannehavisham8323]

31 is still pretty young.. we all mature at different rates

[@8mydaydream409]

​@@TGipson25 Clay is full of colorism and BS! I bet if AD was white or light skinned he would've married her! It would be a whole different story! Clay just wants a white woman or a white man!

[@anis6800]

@@8mydaydream409yeah his comments about making beautiful dark skinned babies was hella weird lol

[@blairmackenzie898]

@@8mydaydream409You sound like the coolest person because when did he ever mention he didn’t like dark skinned women? You’re projecting and seems like you should do therapy and account for your own lashing out at strangers on the internet.

[@suzanne26slinger]

woman that goes on like ad (desperate for marriage) usually end up in a marriage where they desperately Want a divorce. she was delusional to believe clay will marry her when he already on the honeymoon made it very clear that his not 100%in

[@Nekole1]

Exactly 👏🏼👏🏼

[@anniesmith298]

Glad you had him on the show. This was a great interview. Hope he continues to do the work and I wish he and AD the best as they go their separate paths.

[@jolieluc]

I hear you but I kinda believe him too. I think there’s a difference between knowing it’s a good “clout” opportunity and going there with that as your only intention. I say that because from the pods until the end you can see he was invested in the process. He wouldn’t have asked AD what she looked like if he just wanted clout because being unpleasantly surprised is no big deal if you’re just going to say no in two weeks anyway, you know? I think he believes most of what he says even if I think, deep down, it’s may not be true. Example, i think he believes she’s the love of his life. But I think what he’s really feeling is “man, she was amazing, I screwed up, and I don’t know if i’ll find that again.” Does that make sense 😂?

[@8mydaydream409]

This was a horrible interview full of gaslighting BS! If AD was white or light skinned, all of his "trauma" would have miraculously went away!

[@jolieluc]

@@8mydaydream409 I’ve seen this sentiment in comment sections before and I think it’s unfair to Clay because that’s just a ton of projection onto him based on who yall think he is based on other black men. He literally never mentioned her skin tone or having a preference in that area. We never saw him talk to a light skinned or white woman. We don’t even know if he’s ever even dated a light skinned or white woman in his past. It’s ALL based on assumptions because of other black men.

[@Vocalz3]

🗣Surely he'll be ready for his #Caucasian barbie doll in a few more years watch and see!! I hope that #AD gets all the love and joy she deserves after this type of foolishness he allowed her to go through throughout this season of the show.🙅🏼‍♂

[@tracys.8814]

No. I think his groom.

[@kimblebreazell556]

I was thinking the same thing AD was right he used her as a free therapist He is fake as F$&k

[@XOXO___3]

Or just a woman with a lighter complexion in general. All of a sudden the “trauma” and “baggage” will evaporate from his body so mfn fast

[@MsLotusBlooms]

True. I think he treated her that way because she was black. He felt he could and should mistreat her.

[@Themoment888]

No, I don't think Clay was a colorist. He likes black women but he doesn't know how to treat women right. I think a lot of people are projecting a colorist perspective onto him just because they don't believe AD is a "pretty" dark skin, which is crazy imo 😅

[@radiantgoddess1631]

I sense that he isn’t being completely honest. When a person really loves someone, they will have a fear of not locking that person down. Clay is just using the trauma card, but TRUST ME when I say that no matter what anyone is going through, if they love or have a passion for something, they will make sure to do all they can to make whatever they love their possession. I believe he loves AD, but not deeply. I don’t want to overlook or undermine his trauma bcs that would be cold of me to do so, but if he reallyyyyy was head over heels for AD he would have said yes. Good luck to them both, and I hope they find their perfect match.

[@anniejaysworld]

He said that. He was not deeply in love with her 😢

[@imperfectlyperfect3961]

Thats the part that’s having me side eyeing him! I’m a Virgo and so is my husband! You can’t call someone the love of your life and then turn around and say you weren’t deeply in love with them! If he was honest and say that he didn’t want to get married to AD I could respect that more!

[@radiantgoddess1631]

@@imperfectlyperfect3961 Exactly!

[@katpeterson7895]

Well spoken I agree

[@gladysflournoy4555]

I believe when his Dad came to his room before the wedding and they talked that trigger something in him

[@anniejaysworld]

Yup I wish his dad told him he can do better than h him(dad)

[@ms.ajones7168]

Yup. Because he seemed like he really wanted to give it a try but I'm happy he's in therapy though

[@guestguest3756]

I believe this as well. I felt he should have had that conversation with his dad before the marriage day.

[@suzanne26slinger]

he said his not in love.

[@helloagainaisha6781]

Totally agree

[@lbarlow30]

I’m not mad at Clay; I was disappointed but give him mad respect for being mature enough to say- I’m carrying too much shit to be the husband you need me to be.

[@msbrb1237]

He is so fake! 🤣🤣🤣 He is a (tech) salesman, y’all! He is SO rehearsed, and always has the right words to say. Not real at all. Take him off the interview circuit - this is what he wants, not AD.

[@sherondaness7505]

🗣🗣🗣 for the people in the back! This man not dumb. If he truly cared about being in a healthy relationship he would not have waited for this "experiment" to seek healing and stop being the so called play boy.

[@michellealvarez8160]

I call BS! He’s his dad and knows exactly what buzz words to use. He’s going to monetize this experience all he can. He doesn’t deserve to be on any show

[@shenitafenn8395]

It’s the whole leading her to the alter and using her to better himself for someone else.

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Thats the part that I have an issue with. He USED her.

[@mw87675]

Wow yessss!

[@maimunaali3072]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse samee!! its fucked up!! even AD said she felt used!!

[@summer8291]

He said he wasnt deeply in love though

[@anjalE30]

The devil is a liar He whispers a lot of things in your ear Doubt Fear It's on u, if u listen or not Clay kept giving LIFE to his fears Life and death is in the power of the tongue

[@webangel1913]

Riiiiiggghhtttt!!!!!!!

[@leilou19]

His mother thought going on this show was gonna "fix" him. Clay is uncomfortable in his skin and it has nothing to do with his father's infidelity. His body language is off.

[@millionairebree]

Thank youuu finally someone pointing out the obvious

[@door79]

🇰🇳I have not watched the show, but from what I am seeing in this interview video, he seems closeted 🇰🇳

[@millionairebree]

Definitely in the closet

[@debbies646]

It did do exactly what it was supposed to do - have him evaluate his life and his approach to relationships, and it did. This is a man who will be a better husband for who he ends up marrying. People are so quick to throw stones, until they are in the same position. This is a life-long commitment. We need to have more grace. Unless you're that little kid being taken along to witness your father betray your mother and keep it secret as a child - you can't pretend to know whonhe is. Relationships are supposed to be mirrors and no one is guaranteed to say I do or I don't. Leave this man alone. It wasn't meant to be for them right now - it's life!

[@Mitzie-px3hk]

What do u mean, it has nothing to do with him?

[@kat64470]

Tamra is asking all the right questions! Thanks TAM!

[@jackieselah]

I hope to see Clay and AD together. This experiment is such an expediated process that I think that Clay deserves grace... he's working on himself for issues that were put upon him. Blessings to them both. Don't listen to bitter broads in the comments sections.

[@pernicecartwright8420]

❤SO TRUE SIS

[@SonjaHodges-vw3zp]

Me too

[@ms.ajones7168]

🙌🏾 thank you!! Smh!

[@ms.ajones7168]

That's exactly what I just told someone. He has been transparent throughout the whole process He clearly said in the beginning about his conflict and what he experienced as a child with his father. AD saw the red flags she probably just had wishful thinking. I really would like to see them together I think they have love. For each other and they could work out. He also mentioned that He was interested in dating but AD really wanted to be married.

[@jackieselah]

@@ms.ajones7168 it bothers me that he is being bombarded with so much negativity. I would think that when the young man said that he wants to be a good husband and that he recognized that he needs help, that should have been nurtured. It came out at the reunion that he looked at Brett as an example..I mean c'mon 🥲. Alright, I'm done.

[@binge1804]

He didn't cry. He wasn't nervous, anxious, nothing. I hope she finds the man who is so enamored by her that he can't control himself at the altar. And I hope he finds the woman that makes him feel that way on his wedding day.

[@mwizasafaristourvlog8142]

Clay u lie, you using your parents story as an excuse….Go AD u deserve better

[@EricJohnsonresign]

You're a hater!

[@8mydaydream409]

​@@EricJohnsonresignClay is a hater of dark skinned women! Guarantee you if AD was white or light skinned, he would've had no problem marrying her!

[@mw87675]

That could be true! I had a man do that to me before I finally married my now husband. Always an excuse because of how his parent's marriage ended.

[@joannelg06]

He is STILL talking about why he loves her because of what she did for HIM! Not because of who SHE is.

[@gbbs9]

Thisss! And I have big respect for Clay. He admits he ddnt really love her like that. He was not ready.

[@amandalouis8318]

That part

[@kenishawatson3090]

He is giving me Derek Jackson vibes😂

[@Azul901]

Bruhhh I thought it was just me 😂

[@D_A_Marv]

Hahahahahahahahahah, yes, full of sh!t

[@ElleJae-b9q]

For sure

[@just-disgusted]

😂😂😂😂

[@YolandaTully-he4fq]

Exactly!

[@thatgirl_nay7049]

This man was not coming home! Clay stop playing in our faces. He still doesn’t want AD

[@darlainspires7013]

Exactly. He actually gives me vibes of maybe liking men too

[@iammeallday]

The negativity towards Clay gotta chill...people are hurt and broken it not pretty....could he have turned her down better yes was it painful yes did he save her a the experience of a bad marriage yes!!! Its moments when we think we ready for something to be faced with it and turn away because we are not ready!!!! Its human !!!

[@8mydaydream409]

Clay can go kick heavy boulders barefooted! He's a gaslighting colorist!

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

😂 keep the same energy when you run into someone like this personality.

[@demetria7076]

I hope this didn't do something mentally to AD it was ridiculous how this man embarrassed her on National Tv. But one thing I know is it was better to do it then than later. However, I feel like she was a sacrificial lamb for the shows ratings. They built her up to tear her down.

[@Themoment888]

She's doing interviews too. I'm sure they're both aware of the press tours that happen after.

[@RndmMcRndmnss]

HIS MINDSET WASN'T RIGHT!!!! 🤨🤨 HE SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN ON LIB!!!

[@k2kfitchannel944]

Agreed

[@8mydaydream409]

​@user-qp3wz9in1mYes we will let him be the gaslighting colorist that he is!

[@gbbs9]

Please Clay was waayyyy better than half the men this season.

[@jy3781]

Why give this man a platform? He’s just looking for fame .

[@jojosmooth999]

He knew wasnt going to get married and was about to say no t AD before the alter. I Could see it on the show and his body language in the wedding episode

[@latoyasims3634]

But why do at the alter though

[@nick-guillory]

That part.

[@morena1022]

Thank you. Dumping her ahead of time would have been more honorable.

[@marketiadavis9040]

Because they get charged $1,000 if they dont go to the alter. I guess protecting her from embarrassment in front of her family wasnt worth the money to him.

[@suzanne26slinger]

​@@marketiadavis9040I thought they get paid and when the recording stop the money stop.

[@marketiadavis9040]

@suzanne26slinger I was wrong.( I'm not a lawyer but) said they get charged 50,000 🤣 so if that's true I'm embarrassing somebody too lol but if it's just the money stops then there's no reason to put someone through that.

[@bertaseyeview9422]

I wish you all the best Clay.

[@tee_jay1130]

He absolutely knew before the altar he was leaning to no. I don’t believe him with the “Game Time” decision he claimed. I think the show wants the contestants to wait to get to the altar to say no for RATINGS. They need drama. The Jimmy and not Megan Fox breakup pre-altar was good drama but they would have preferred them be messier and dramatic and let all the wedding attendees waste their time and great outfits so the can pan the audience for reactions

[@TeefahXOXO]

Can’t really judge him cos but one thing I noticed is every time time he talks about why he loves AD he always defers to what she does for him…

[@gbbs9]

Thissss!! I have lot of respect for Clay, but he was not ready

[@TheNyakaat]

His only real fault was that he waited to the altar to say “I don’t “. Other than that, he is genuinely seeking healing and I love that.

[@marylenarouse856]

His momma is the truth baby.... I love her❤

[@silverbee3373]

But nevertheless she is not able or willing to see Clay´s true colours.

[@amethystsings]

He's blinking so much. He knew walking down the aisle he would say no. He knew when he asked her at dinner about what she would do if he said no. Asking her why it had to end there. He knew.

[@beverlyjones263]

Whose. Daddy aint cheated? Really????? That's the excuse we using now??? Back in the day men had a whole family down the street

[@kaheaisaac1]

A lot, and his father took him with with him to cheat as a child

[@violas97]

Notice whenever he is asked about AD and his feelings for her he only mentions what she has done for him... It's very rare that he actually mentions her personality or attributes. It's always "she put up with me, she lifts me up, she got me together" etc... like he loved that she loved him.. but what did HE do for HER????

[@gbbs9]

Thisss! I have big respect for Clay. But he did not see AD. And for that reason she dodged a bullet.

[@marianaya5824]

No. to the Clays of the world. Always...no.

[@D_A_Marv]

He’s such a great spokesman, steupessss

[@kelalexander4406]

😂😂😂😂

[@eii8794]

I watched every episode and knew this guy would not pull the trigger the more he talked and talked and talked lol!!

[@Stevenavocado]

Not the wearing white lmaoooo messy

[@TheAfricanPOV]

He blinks a lot. Never seen anything like it

[@hrf1954]

He's lying

[@catparksworld1329]

Lol he said it is due to his contact lenses

[@marriejames01]

I’ve seen it during the Charlie Adelson trial.

[@bmartin4549]

My eyes are dry as hell so even though he gets on my NERVES LOL, it’s prob just dry eye. It’s so bad, I blink so much when I have my contacts in.

[@Themoment888]

Tbh, I blink when I'm trying to think of what to say but I'm not lying. It's really just me overthinking how to get my point across. He also strikes me as a person who wants to speak properly.

[@thateclecticgal]

I still don’t believe him.

[@anjelenamcguire8335]

Me neither....

[@venusa4871]

He’s lying, that’s why😂

[@EricJohnsonresign]

You're a hater that's why!

[@tamidivine9590]

Girl he lying through his teeth 😂😂

[@briananellis]

this is what he wanted lol

[@NomsLoots]

Yup! For himself and wavesandy his company. I’m plugging it to support him 🤣💀

[@selfishgirlsgofirst]

exactly !!!😂😂😂

[@Natasha_beauty]

I love so much how you are not judging him, And is genuinely curious about what exactly he was thinking through that process

[@selfishgirlsgofirst]

he needs to be judge tho

[@nonikaallen2030]

If he wanted more of an emotional connection than physical, why was he in the pods asking AD to describe herself physically? 🤔😒

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

Because he was checking if she were light skinned

[@npmartymar]

It is so clear he is lying. And that this is damage control the amount of blinking his eyes was doing I almost referred him to an ophthalmologist. He sounds like someone scripted and doing damage control because what he did was nothing short of wrong. PERIODT

[@Evieleb44]

Thank you!! I’ve been saying this, I just don’t buy what he’s selling. I don’t trust Clay at all

[@bacheera1]

This information is not verified, but I saw somewhere that the members of the cast of Love is Blind need to get permission from the producers before they exit the show, otherwise they have to pay a fine or be sued for messing up the creativity of the show (or something along those lines). If that is true, maybe Clay told the producers that he is not ready to go to the altar, but the producers had another storyline that they wanted for the show.

[@gbbs9]

Yeah everybody gotta remember this is tv show. Seemed like more couples ended it before wedding day this season tho l

[@chosen9758]

I think most of us are not saying he shouldn't have rejected AD at altar but instead we are saying HE SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN CAST OR APPLIED FOR THE SHOW KNOWING HIW MESSED UP HE IS emotionally.

[@iamnainai]

I think we can give him some grace here because it’s an easy assumption to think you’re more ready for something than you are. Everyone has baggage and even IF he had an inkling he had some emotional baggage, he was living in the outside world so very easy to suppress or keep yourself busy. We even saw on the show he was constantly working and not coming home to AD so maybe busyness was his way of numbing out / coping before he joined the show. The pods were probably the first time ever he was forced to have no distractions (no phones, tv, work etc) and the realisation of what he was battling with was overwhelming to process in that short time frame and on national TV. So I extend grace because there is no perfect path to healing and no one is doing it perfectly. Everyone is just making the best decision with what they know ❤

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

@@iamnainaikeep the same energy when someone wastes your time 😂

[@danelecarter8660]

He’s never beating the went on the show for clout allegations because why are you on Tamron saying the same nothingness you’ve been saying? 🙄

[@gbbs9]

😂😂I have big respect for Clay and he absolutely clout chasing rn. This aired the day after the reunion?!

[@hopeislovely4467]

Bottom line--he just want exposure for fame!!!!

[@jdanielleuc]

Black women are always the ones to get hurt. We have to deal with everyone’s trauma. Clay’s mom got hurt and AD got hurt… Clay made a decision that hurt AD just like Clay’s dad made a decision that hurt his mom. It’s a never ending cycle no matter which route it goes.

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

Because honestly black women are not smart enough to avoid black men all together

[@mlsmth10]

There is something more here but I will keep it to myself since no one else said it.

[@Selah41st]

He gay

[@mlsmth10]

@@Selah41st I mean 🤷🏽‍♂️. It gives bi-sexual

[@Immeallday]

@@Selah41stpretty much lol

[@eii8794]

Exactly my thoughts

[@selfishgirlsgofirst]

​@Selah41s💀👀😂😂😂😂t

[@melzbeautycollections]

He blinks a lot lol 😂

[@marshawilliams4454]

I don't think he like women. You need to be truthful

[@michellewilliams5206]

Yes, he seems fruity, and feminine

[@lb1798]

9:34 Im glad he had "that talk" with his Dad...and that they arw on the path to healing also. #WeAreNotOurWorseDecision.

[@brittanymosley3649]

Clay learned and is growing. I watched for him and AD.I hope they work it out in the future. His mom is amazing!

[@fatudaniel7301]

He didn't marry her bcoz she isn't his type. Most black men prefer lighter skin women. What don't yall get? He used his dad's infidelity as an escape so he doesn't mary her bcoz he wasn't attracted to her

[@fatudaniel7301]

If a man loves you, nothing will stop him from marrying you. Nothing.

[@brittanymosley3649]

@@fatudaniel7301 I'm not disagreeing with that at all. It's happened with plenty of people though. It's not so black and white. Ppl say yes at the alter and still get divorced. Watever they decide I support. It's not for me or anyone to crucify him. God bless! Have a good one.

[@MelonyMejias-jb6bv]

​@@fatudaniel7301let women stay delusional

[@fatudaniel7301]

@@brittanymosley3649 no no no, Amber was nothing but good to him. Men will always put looks above everything else.

[@nsalimk1449]

Ad deserves to be on the show.......clay shouldn't be on the show period.......someone lost is chance to meet Ad on the show

[@anniesmith298]

She was on the Jennifer Hudson show. Did you check that out?

[@brittanyknol]

Who are you to say who deserves what lol. Check yourself. I give Clay grace for having the self awareness that a lot of people lack.

[@8mydaydream409]

​@@brittanyknolClay doesn't deserve grace because he's a lying colorist! He doesn't deserve to be on any show!

[@kandykaye9981]

Clay played this so well. 🤷‍♀️👏

[@bossladyhustles6637]

He was willing to publicly break someone’s heart in exchange for 2 mins of fame. Our society is shameless

[@seih6928]

Im not mad at his decision im mad that he didn’t wanting before the alter!! Thats not fair to AD. Wow unbelievable

[@joycurey8612]

Your mom put you on the wrong show. You should be on Love Island. You would fit right in😅

[@Pou1gie1]

@8:00 I think she is referring to Sherri Shepard

[@angelmushahf]

“Ok, body”

[@sisterfrennn]

😂😂😂😂

[@Lulu060986]

‘’You see the material’’ 🤦🏾‍♀️😭

[@selfishgirlsgofirst]

🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@charms85]

Disappointed!! Because it is trending doesn’t mean it is for the Tam Fam.

[@TGipson25]

People are missing the quick timeline in which these couples date. It is reckless to marry someone, and you are not sure. The initial emotions you feel when first dating someone are not the real deal it is a chemical response. Instead of bashing this man for not going through with it and damaging this woman way more in the marriage because he wasn't ready how about being thankful that he didn't go through with it. The truth hurts sometimes but it also sets you free, and he did just that for her and himself so that the man that is her husband can find her, and he can heal. I wish them both the best.

[@8mydaydream409]

I betcha Clay would have been "sure" he wanted to marry AD if she was light skinned or white! Clay is nothing but a lying colorist!

[@ChiefIce2]

Clay told AD he wasn’t ready and would prefer to continue to get to know and date her longer.

[@ms.ajones7168]

He sure did!

[@natasha007]

Which I thought was admirable and realistic but no one seems to mention that point.

[@dswannbeautyartist]

Exactly! But to the people in the back they are saying she’s not his type etc just projecting nonsense.

[@lynetteifill8493]

Why he wants to continue to date her, its only the body he wants....AD keep moving girl....

[@ms.ajones7168]

@@lynetteifill8493 i know that they both knew what kind of show it was before they came on but let's be realistic, they've only known each other for 6/8 weeks. I do remember him saying very early on, that he wouldn't mind just dating longer. Despite of what most people think, I really think he was struggling with this marriage thing, from the very beginning. Because he didn't seek out that show, they basically begged him to come on there and he finally agreed. But I really don't see anything wrong with them just dating Beyond the show, in my opinion.

[@mimih23]

I would have liked to have heard from Jodi Whatley......AD really doesn't need to do anything and she owes him nothing. Clay's why is his own issue that he needs to resolve within himself. In fact, is it really a problem for him though? he may have been impacted by his father's behavior but let's unpack what it really means to love someone. He didn't protect her heart. He waited until her most vulnerable state to publicly embarrass her. He is capable of making commitments in business however he struggles with interpersonal relationships. That's a lot of work that he has to do ON HIS OWN. Just leave AD alone.

[@SeyvenRoses]

This man has no romantic interest in women.

[@Selah41st]

True

[@kittenlover5498]

But what did he love about her that doesn’t involve her either doing something or being something for him?

[@myshastone899]

I am glad he told AD no. She deserves the best. I pray she finds someone genuine and in love with her and not her looks. I am grateful that he now knows he needs to heal. Hurt people hurt people. So I am glad that he allowed himself to grown so he will be the best him for his family when he is ready.

[@yojjjyoj1116]

Clay wants her back when he saw that Jimmy is interested

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

Bingo !

[@amandalouis8318]

He’s looking for validation. He knew he didn’t want to marry her.

[@angiellera]

Clay knew he wasn’t ready from the gate! Anyone who needs to know what a person looks like on a live is blind show know they are NOT ready! It just gaslighting after that point n the uncertainty throughout the process that showed he knew… my opinion he went on for different reasons

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

An apology without change is just manipulation. This man can talk all day long about his Daddy trauma, but the truth is in his actions. He's not changing, he's just saying words. Poor, poor, poor AD, I hope she cuts contact and moves on. Stop giving trifling men endless chances to hurt you!

[@tiffanypittman04]

I watched every episode of Love is Blind and Clay always talked mostly about ADs body. I can count on one hand the number of times he said something about her face. AD is not Clay's dream woman or his type looks wise. If she was, all that trauma talk would've been out the window and they would be married. I wonder what his exes look like. That would reveal his type.

[@marriejames01]

I guess I missed the talk about her face. That must have been one time? All I heard from him was about her body. He didn’t find her attractive at the reveal.

[@melc8388]

Finally someone had said it. Everyone has baggage, if that girl was his dream girl there's no way he letting her go. Men focus a lot of looks and women need to understand this

[@thandompm5ex]

💯

[@ilona_eco]

He knew he would say no

[@antoinettesinclair4176]

Clay, I give you respect for knowing, but still, AD deserves a man who was truthful. Plus, you are NOT your parents, man up, and stop hiding behind your parents' relationship. You hurt someone heart ❤️

[@marshawilliams4454]

The bride is very beautiful. It have nothing to do with skin color. He gay

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

Thank you because he wack

[@carolyneasley8980]

What's happening NOW is exactly what Clay wanted! Why is he even being interviewed???? This is why bad behavior is glamorized and monetized. Everyone is over hearing Clay's excuses and his daddy cheating and why he couldn't marry AD and blah blah biggedy blah! Not a good look Tamron.

[@medline5140]

I agree! Clay acts like he's grown, and a year is not enough. I believe he and his family should seek therapy because there's more work to be done. Also, I wish he would just leave AD alone because she deserves better! Clay was trauma-dumbing his issues on AD, and that is not love. AD needs to fully understand her worth and know exactly what she deserves in her next relationship.

[@brittanyknol]

Omg you people are exhausting! If only you took this amount of energy to work on yourself rather than projecting onto reality stars and their mishaps. As if you’re perfect. I give him credit for the self awareness that clearly lots of people lack. Everybody loves to act like they’re perfect🙄

[@carolyneasley8980]

@@brittanyknol First of all Clay is exhausting, crushing AD at the alter AFTER asking her to marry him isn't a "mishap" so those of us that disagree with his behavior are projecting?? So you're the therapist today? His so-called "self awareness" is mere manipulation, you are proof. And who's claiming perfection here? He came on the show, now he's on his " I hope Tyler Perry casts me" tour. This is a platform and we are all entitled to our opinions, aren't WE. 😊

[@ladyt33829]

They’re all getting interviewed now. Give him grace

[@brittanyknol]

@@carolyneasley8980 didn’t he tell her multiple times that he didn’t know if he was ready???? She had the warning signs & chose to ignore them. I used to be that girl but at some point you have to hold yourself accountable as well. Most guys don’t even have the self awareness to own up to their downfalls or even warn you that they have demons they are fighting.

[@lynetteifill8493]

If his parents trauma affected him, then DONT WASTE WOMEN TIME...I believe the producers should give couselling to all the participants before entering the Pods.....too many are wasting time and money.....

[@baycal2]

I love this man. He is real and honest. I respect him for not going through with something that is sacred. He has self awareness, and maybe that came about through the experiment, and meeting AD. Nevertheless, he used his head and was not selfish by marrying AD only to potentially hurt her later.

[@sheilabrown5632]

He is immature and not ready to get married, he needs to work on himself, his trauma and get counseling and healing needs to take place.

[@joxa1013]

If she's the love of his life, they should get married now! Otherwise, it's all talk to avoid backlash!

[@terrycrews1760]

Cringy AF for her to refer to Clay as “this kid”

[@dianeweekes7759]

And he was extremely transparent ease him up he's going through it to ❤😊

[@8mydaydream409]

Clay ain't going through nothing but his own colorism! If AD was white or light skinned, he would have married her period!

[@LalithoTheRedBorderCollie]

He hates dark skin women

[@VitaInDC]

To me, he has the demeanor of actor playing out a character in the show and the interviews. I don't have a sense that we've seen the real Clay.

[@smithkaren1387]

The pearl necklace he wearing brings out his femininity!

[@YolandaTully-he4fq]

Two words: “Media Trained.” He got on the show to make money, likely become an entertainer, and amp up his profile to attract more women. Don’t argue with me, that’s what I see.

[@KynSantay]

I like Clay, he seems like a genuine guy. As a black woman with a black dad and brother, I can’t help but give him grace for being transparent. I love AD even more for not settling. Two great people, unfortunately bad timing.

[@8mydaydream409]

Clay is not a good person, he's a lowdown colorist! If AD was white or light skinned, he would have gladly married her!