Teachers VS. Gen Z & Alpha: How Bad Parenting, Social Media & Zero Discipline Ruined A Generation 😳

#teachers
#parenting
#genz
#genalpha
#teachersoftiktok
#tiktok
#iquitteaching
#quitteaching
#gentleparenting
#millenials
#education
#teaching
#classroommanagement
#generationz
#classroomcomedy

[@MsLEducation]

Preach! I also worked in a variety of school settings. I completed my student-teaching in a rural town, then spent the first 7 years of my career in a Title I school, and finally ended my career in a very affluent school district--one of the best rated schools in my state. I thought that getting hired in an affluent district would be the answer to my prayers. I thought I would *finally* be able to enjoy my teaching career now that I was in a good school. I didn't think behavior would be a problem. I thought the admin would support teachers. I thought parents would be involved by partnering with teachers. In other words, I thought it would be totally different from the Title I school. Oh, how wrong I was. I can say, with complete honesty, that the rural, Title I and affluent schools all have the exact same issues --just at different stages and were manifested in different ways. Across the board, there was student entitlement, parental bullying, feckless administrators that approached education as a customer service industry, and veteran teachers that told me to get out of this career before I got stuck! I can't tell you the number of veteran teachers, who were near the end of their careers, that told all of us young teachers to save ourselves before it was too late. They explained that they were too close to retirement to leave, but we were still young enough to jump ship. I, and thousands of other teachers across this nation, finally listened and put ourselves first. Hence, this mass teacher exodus that will only get worse in 2024. I'm grateful for every former teacher (like you) who is exposing just how bad things are. Everybody better listen up and take heed! I also want to share that I (like many people who dreamed of being a teacher since we were little ) thought that my youth, energy and enthusiasm would be enough to help fix the system. I thought that if I just rolled up my sleeves and poured everything into my job, it would be enough to have a fulfilling career. I was so wrong. Each year that I stayed in Education, the hard truth kept slapping me in the face. I had to finally acknowledge the reality of the situation, which is...we have a PARENTING and CULTURE problem in this society. You are 1000% correct! And those who are offended by this should really look within themselves, because chances are they are part of the problem. I guess I'm a fellow "boomer millennial" because I'm also in my 30s and just astonished at how low our society has fallen. When I was a kid, I never dreamed of seeing such lawlessness and degradation of basic values. I'm not saying everyone should be a saint, but like the young teacher said in her TikTok, 5 year olds singing Pound Town in a ballet class is a reflection of how BROKEN this society is. My goodness! It took 10 years of being a teacher to finally realize that no matter what I or other well-intentioned teachers did, we could not continue to carry the ills of society on our shoulders. We are tasked with being parents, parole officers, counselors, truancy officers, counselors, and mentors. IT'S TOO MUCH. Those of us that went into this profession with the best of intentions are finally leaving because we realize we're destroying our own lives and mental health...and for what? We certainly can't change what's happening to society as a whole. We clearly can't change the Education system because no one listens to us. Our expertise is completely disregarded. We are disrespected at every turn. Admin throws us under the bus because they want to placate parents and students (even in cases where the parents and students are clearly wrong). Parents demand grades that their kids haven't earned, which means these kids get pushed through the system even though they are functionally illiterate and innumerate. Students are completely entitled and are coddled to such an extent that I fear for the future of this country. Why would any teacher--especially if they are nowhere close to retirement--try to "hang on" when the system is clearly beyond repair at this point? Why would someone continue to give 110% every single day, only get 10% back (if that)? At some point, it's time to walk away. If you are a fellow teacher that has left the profession, congratulations! I am so happy for you. Please know that we understand you did the best that you could. I know, first hand, what teaching took out of you. As such, you are not a failure for quitting. You put yourself and your family first, which is to be commended! The kids who appreciated you and your teaching style will never forget the positive impact you made on their lives. Please hold on to that. I'm still on a journey of healing after my decade in the classroom, but what often gives me peace is knowing that it wasn't all a waste -- that there are students who are grateful that I was part of their life's story. For those of you who are not teachers, please watch all of the TikToks and KZbin videos of teachers explaining why they left. Not only should it scare the crap out of you, I hope it motivates you to take heed of all the warnings. Please share the videos to help wake people up to what's going on. Trish, keep making these videos!

[@zapatafa]

This is beautifully expressed. You mirror exactly my experience. Best wishes to you in your future pursuits.

[@sherene7]

This is 1000% spot on.

[@zakiya1635]

Everything you said is ABSOLUTELY correct. In fact, I also taught at two different title one schools and later an affluent school. In my experience the parents from the affluent school were the worst because the had money and thought that meant they were important and "owned" you as a teacher. I am in my second year of retirement and hung on those last five years. The result was high blood pressure. It was also affecting other areas for health. Since retirement my blood pressure is consistently lower. We have a crises indeed. There is also the added fact that a faction of leadership in this country don't believe in free public education and are working behind the scenes to end it.

[@GoldenLady1007]

That is HORRIBLE! I am appalled. We are in serious trouble as a society. 💛

[@rubysoho423]

Couldn’t have said it better myself ❤

[@candyarthur8568]

My son started high school this year. At parent teacher night, I found out that his math teacher cries every day. She was holding back tears as she came & thanked me for raising a respectable student. I had no idea it was this bad. My son has baked brownies & muffins to bring her, just because. Math is his least liked subject, but wants to brighten her day.

[@brooklynqueen7089]

You’re to be congratulated for raising a caring son.

[@TMeyer-ge5pj]

Thanks for your kindness. When I was a teacher, I used to cry every day. Then I became numb and didn't feel anything anymore. That's when I knew it was time for a career change. I just couldn't believe how many people stood by and let me take the fall fall for everything. Honestly, it was so traumatic. You never really get over an experience like that. I'll never be the same as I was before all that...im sure she will remember you and your son for the rest of her life.

[@dogmomofive7011]

We need more parents like you thank you. I have students like your son and they are a great gift to us teachers.

[@maritamuras8978]

I’ve had so many experiences where I have been blamed or thrown under the bus. My first year is a classic example. It didn’t matter if I was the teacher, Teacher Assistant, or substitute. It seems like there is a lot of cruel colleagues, parents, and administrators. To them, if you don’t go along with their program, then it must be your fault. Struggling with student discipline? It couldn’t POSSIBLY be anyone’s fault but yours. It didn’t matter if you had a group of parents already known for their constant complaints. It didn’t matter if your students were known for giving virtually every teacher a hard time and that the veteran teacher last year had problems with them as well. It didn’t matter that admin kept stuffing students in your class until they had the max amount allowed without giving you a full time aid (up to 24 students with a part time aid and 25 you must have a full time aid). Guess how many students I had by the end of the year? 24. It didn’t matter that you had the worst possible schedule (and a confusing one for the kids at that) that made it impossible to get things done. Oh. And you have to teach on a kinder level even though your kids are pre-k, but make it fun and include free centers and a nap. Try to find a way to meet with every kid every day in literacy centers. Did I mention they wanted the kids to be able to write sentences by the end of the year even though they were four and five years old!?? Oh. You have only one bathroom, but all of your kids will need to go at the exact same time. I received almost no support from admin. All the teachers felt like they were not allowed to send kids to the office. Admin didn’t like it when we had students sit out for recess or go to another classroom. They didn’t even like it when we changed their color. Even back then, this new generation had a hard time sitting for more than a few minutes at a time. Admin. sided with the parents almost every time. Despite all the odds, I still managed to get many of them where they needed to be. All this to say, I cried soooo many times that first year and I had to take the fall for things despite not everything being my fault.

[@shawnahall7246]

How sweet is he 😊

[@SarahR2D2]

Plato wasn't getting punched in the face by his students with parents supporting their children every step of the way.

[@Celisar1]

Exactly my thoughts. What they called bad back then is nothing compared to what’s going on now.

[@shawnahall7246]

Lol 😂

[@hirsch4155]

I haven’t found a verified academic source for that quote being of Plato in any case. The source is modern because it was said by a university president in 1967 (he claimed Plato said it). Plato wrote about youth but that exact quote , don’t know how he came up with it. I think the president said it because the 60s had a lot of riots.

[@BlackMaleSpirituality]

Another thing is that Plato wrote that well over 2,000 years ago. It’s interesting that people don’t think that things have decayed even more since then.

[@Coco-lz4gg]

@@hirsch4155 That quote did seem anachronistic.

[@Tolkienlady]

True story: I had an administrator tell me I had to start providing all supplies to my students such as pencils, notebook paper, erasers, etc etc or a parent was going to sue the school for not providing a "totally free and public education." I looked him straight in the eye and said, "Let me know what day and what courtroom." And I walked out. The parent DID sue, and of course...lost. Judge ruled that free and public education did NOT mean "supplies." Smh!!!!

[@hadeilhazam8647]

I'm shocked

[@friedrichjunzt]

Someone had the audacity to actually sue the School over pencils? And the Admin did not have the backbone to laugh the parents out of their Office?!

[@Dream_Luver]

This is why I homeschool and opt out of paying taxes for education in my neighborhood. They don't even pay for basic necessities in the promised free education. It wasnt you as a teacher's responsibility. The super is in charge of allocating funding and they are failing big time. The superintendent of Clark county where I live gets a salary of 15 million a year and teachers are making minimum wage and having to buy supplies.

[@mollygrace3068]

I agree that the school should be providing those supplies, but not that the school should make the teacher pay for it.

[@alwynwatson6119]

There is only one free source of education. The internet.

[@ak5659]

I started teaching in 90's. I saw two trends that made me wonder who was at the helm. 1. Technical programs were shut down so kids couldn't graduate HS with a credential to get a job in auto repair, electrical work, etc. Instead, everybody 'had to go to college' regardless of ability or interest. HS teachers warned this would be a problem down the road with unemployable young adults. They were ignored. And here we are with the results. 2. Special ed students were being mainstreamed with no thought as to how their behaviors would affect the classroom. Three students who constantly disrupt a classroom bring learning to a halt for the other students; apparently that wasn't an important enough issue to warrant consideration.

[@kris78787]

Exactly, 💯💯💯

[@QueenSorrow5150]

One we were scared of our mothers. What I loved about back then was the book a teacher gave you with the answer to your question. 😂 I learned how to program looking for one answer. 😊 As a mother it was non-stop arguing with the administration for a teacher. In my case I knew most kids families in my kids class. But then again they knew I didn't play. The good old days

[@nancy27c]

Agreed, but as a SPED teacher, they push us to put students in LREs. I don't always agree with the CSE decisions, but we have to go with the IEP set forth. Imagine our 12:1:1 or 15:1 rooms. I had kids in my 12:1:1 that did not have a 1 to 1 TA, even though their IEP called for it. Imagine now, I had 5 students in my 12:1:1 with that on their IEPs and only 2 aids. Half my kids were not even toileting themselves. So usually that left only one aid in my room at any given time. I also had 3 runners, so the door had to be constantly watched. Try to teach in that environment. And that's without the daily meltdowns. Lack of staff was a huge problem.

[@ayzc4164]

I totally agree with you especially the special ed kids. I feel bad for the teachers having to put up with special kid meltdowns. I think they should have special schools for them because most of them if they aren't too well off in social situations they go into groups homes. I've run some homes and some don't do well

[@nancy27c]

@@ayzc4164 I disagree, respectfully, but believe at times lack of staff with appropriate training and breaks/ compensation for non-teachers in those rooms need to be addressed. The TAs do a tremendous amount of work and are never rewarded accordingly. Schools have the capacity and ability but attitudes of people that think that students with disabilities should be hidden away in “Special Schools “ are wrong. I’ve had some of the most rewarding relationships with students in my SPED classroom that far rose above any in a reg ed class I’ve taught. And they have better senses of humor, for the most part.

[@indianagrandmary1298]

My daughter quit teaching after five years. She says the pandemic was the tipping point. She said the children were “feral”.

[@IdahoRanchGirl]

Excellent description for the youth of today.

[@MeowNow494]

Oh I believe it there’s a whole bunch of feral adults out here, and they have kids how could the kids be much better if that’s their example I live in an apartment complex and there are people here who just set their garbage outside the dumpster. And it’s not full. And it’s not little kids doing it I watch little boys struggle to get the bag into the dumpster but some feral adults think that bringing the bag to the dumpster is good enough. These people can’t even function and they are raising children and it’s frightening

[@sunninelson9138]

Sadly here in this small village in Montana, it's not just the kids and/or parents that are the issue. My son was misbehaving in class and another student came up to me at a birthday party and asked why my son (who has autism but it isn't a good excuse) screams all the time. I didn't know he was. I asked someone who worked with him in the IEP department and she said yes he does, he does it every day, but it's "nothing we can't handle". I said how am I supposed to correct that behavior and discuss it with him at home if I'm not being told about it? Apparently school is supposed to be a "safe space" for him and they wanted him to be comfortable with them. I told them I want a daily report of how often he acts up and descriptions of how he acts. He still has bad days but him being in 1st grade right now is so much better then when he was in Kindergarten. We just had a suicide last week of a high school boy from being bullied. Turns out the principal didn't want to tell on the kids that were bullying because he didn't want them to get their feelings hurt or get into trouble. That poor boy jumped in front of a train because he wasn't getting the help he needed from the faculty. I blame both parents and teachers at the local school here.

[@user-xr8zw2cm5i]

That's very sad. Because they will be totally dysfunctional, dependent adults. 😢

[@Patson20]

That's what happens when you have two generations of women who are physically incapable of having a normal stress response raising kids. They won't discipline and raise their kids because it causes stress which they can't deal with. Keep your daughters off the pill until they are adults people. Look up the academic papers and studies showing how the pill, if taken before the age of 19, permanently alters your brain chemistry and leads to permanent mental health issues. But even if you do take it after that age it causes it but only as long as you take it.

[@sherene7]

Parents are often scared of their children too.The behavior our young people are exhibiting these days is in my humble opinion - a matter of National Security.

[@GHO5tMod3]

Agreed

[@Guillhez]

call me crazy, but I think the anti-spanking discourse in recent years has played a significant role in this.. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t support kids being spanked regularly as a form of good parenting, but the discourse that equated any sort of physical discipline with abuse has been a disaster and absolutely paved the way for the “good vibes” parenting Trish was talking about. I believe these parents really do think they are forbidden to ever lay hands on their precious babies or else they’ll be seen as cruel evil monsters. That means that their precious babies can continuously cross every line imaginable and they never receive any kind of reprimand. Meanwhile these same parents pat themselves on the back because they think they’re adopting an “enlightened” parenting style by doing so. I taught 7-8 year old kids this semester for the first time in my life this year and my impression is that they are absolutely fearless and shameless in their misbehavior. Whenever I had to censure them in any way what stood out to me is how they don’t even flinch or take pause, or even worse sometimes, they just go on the offensive and become argumentative. I remember when I was a kid, getting called out by a teacher was terrifying. You’d immediately stop what you were doing and took one big gulp, while the rest of the class immediately fell silent. Not these kids. Truly the biggest “my buttocks have never felt the sting of mom’s open palms” energy.

[@Enchantress13_13]

⁠@@Guillhezyes I thought the same thing these kids have no respect and don’t expect consequences. My dad could give a look and I knew to stop the shit I was doing or I was gonna wish I did. He didn’t have to say a word. With one look my soul would leave my body😂

[@sherene7]

@@Guillhez the kids know their parents are afraid to discipline them - they have been positioned as authority figures at school and at home. And I agree with you about the spanking - in more and more instances the child puts their hands on the parent. It is hard though because let's say I'm a South Side Chicago or Baltimore parent - how can I effectively discipline my child if they have a violent reaction to censure and are possibly carrying a firearm.? It's unfortunate and way way far gone.

[@TheBerkeleyBeauty]

National security????

[@danieljohnson2349]

Narcissism and sociopathy are rising at an alarming rate , bad parenting is exactly why .

[@Liza-gd7jf]

its capitalism

[@afoote2871]

& too much screen time, too early!

[@themysteriousnavi6850]

​@@Liza-gd7jf you think Marxism will fix it?

[@katiemansfield973]

I had to get out. I’ve taught Gen X, millennials, Gen Z and Alpha. Alpha kids NEVER did anything wrong. Choking a classmate is okay at three years old? I had the authority to send the child home so I did. The parent complained to my boss and she didn’t back me and backed the parent instead. I’m so glad I quit.

[@mswinter3692]

😂 20 kids with 2 teachers for months & even just 1 sped kid.. that was tough. I taught 3 year Olds too. I prefer 4 year Olds. I completely understand you.

[@mandachris7146]

There is no such thing as alpha in humans

[@shoosh222]

⁠@@mandachris7146Alpha is just the name of that particular generation. Nobody’s calling individuals Alpha, just their generation.

[@Whoop.Der_it_is]

​@@mandachris7146 yes there is 😅 it's the president/prime minister/king or queen of your country. Hierarchy is a thing in humans too. We just don't like it.

[@anarchist_parable]

The crazy thing is that as a milennial parent who just is t having that in my household, you see these other parents refusing to teach their children boundaries and then feeling just as bullied and dejected as these teachers at home. I don't understand why parents don't think they have any authority.

[@ejake1]

There is not a teacher shortage. There is a money and respect shortage.

[@orlock20]

There isn't a money shortage, but a money distribution problem. The average per K-12 student in the U.S. is $15,800 or $474,000 per 30 student classroom.

[@shadyfox1758]

RE Money: Y wont you say it? Less admin = more funds available. Less curriculum changes = stable and refined learning (and, again, more funds). Limit digital interaction to specialty class/lab-only = stable and refined learning (and, again, more funds). RE Respect: U get it when you give it. To parents. U r supposed to exude authority over children. They are not your friends.

[@lucycat4305]

There is a two working parent problem. Children being raised by daycare and not parents is the problem.

[@Vinnie4206]

Very lack of parenting….. 💁🏽‍♀️

[@TheKim369]

@@lucycat4305 Wow that sure touched a nerve with me. My ex left the first year both kids were in school, and I understand that statistically that's a real common time for divorce. Lemmie back up, we were able to arrange life/work so that my kids never attended daycare. I was a very committed parent. But suddenly having to pay all the bills with half the money, and at the same time come up with the money for a lawyer and fairly frequent, child care because I couldn't tailor my hours to coordinate with a non existant partner, put a giant stress on every kind of resource. I was very lucky to be a college graduate with a decent job. The problem isn't women having opportunities outside the home and the protection that provides if they suddenly become single, (is that what you were driving at?) The problem is men having the legal and social freedom to walk away and distance themselves from their children on the basis of their ex being "unpleasant" or "difficult". A a society we accept that lame excuse, we shouldn't. The other problem is the lack of consequence. When I was in school you had consequences, I never heard of a school division being afraid of being sued or lowering expectations because parents were upset. If they didn't like it, they could send their kids to private school, which they couldn't afford, so they pressed their kids to stay out of trouble.

[@lgw3721]

All true. I just left my school using an exclusively “positive” approach to school discipline. In the last year I needed x-rays twice, was hit, kicked, punched, bitten drawing blood, been stabbed with pencils….and on and on. Consequences? Zero. The final straw was seeing a child punch a classmate in the head 3-4x per week and entirely excused as a “manifestation of disability”. Heartbreaking for the aggressor who is learning that hurting people is excusable, and for the victim who is being forced to share a classroom with someone who hurts her. I couldn’t watch it anymore. We need wholesale reform.

[@DepDawg]

That’s criminal! I’m so sorry for you and the girl being assaulted.

[@kris78787]

A lot of this also comes from ese kids who should never have been mainstreamed into regular classrooms. Some ese kids can, but many do not belong in a classroom with other kids, because they are violent.

[@randibass7558]

Yes, that's criminal!!

[@maritamuras8978]

Im a teacher. Once I complained about student discipline to my family and my dad, a retired juvenille probation officer, said that he didn’t think it was a good idea when some of the kids were mainstreamed into the classroom. This is coming from a retired juvenille probation officer who has to walk the fine line between tough love and giving kids a second chance. He did see change in some of the kids, but I’m sure he saw repeat offenders, too.

[@bgqueens6635]

This is HORRIFIC! I’m so sorry.

[@Sanakudou]

I’ve seen several recent studies on “iPad kids”, specifically on how the abnormalities of their early childhood has lead to seriously underdeveloped empathy, increased anger/proclivity for violence, with a very alarming increase of both subclinical and clinically diagnosed psychopathy in gen Alpha too. I feel like this could hold a lot of relevance to the awful students that teachers are now having to deal with 😥

[@hannaheye]

Some of the ingredients in the INSANE vacc*ine schedule have also been shown to cause serious abnormalities of emotional-social functioning of monkeys. Nobody wants to find out the truth of what it does to the brains of US school kids.

[@alistairogilvy7696]

A couple of decades or so ago, I became aware of the work of a researcher with the incredibly impressive name of Baroness Professor Susan Greenberg, who had drawn a strong correlation between screen culture and the rise of ADD & ADHD, and declining attention spans in young people. Very compelling. And a very plausible hypothesis.

[@reneesfoxynews6652]

Was just on the news.

[@reneesfoxynews6652]

Screen time sensory issues

[@marywynne7931]

I agree iPad kids are a societal issue, but I have to question the merits of that study. Gen Alpha isn't old enough to be diagnosed with sociopathy; you have to be at least 18. Though the rate of conduct disorders and oppositional defiance is staggering.

[@misterknightowlandco]

My first day as a middle school teacher, 2 years ago, a kid threw a desk at me after first hour… in my school experience as a kid in the 90’s… I had never seen that. I’ve busted kids for vaping in class, having sex in the bathroom, for assaulting me (I’m 6’1” 240 lbs and he was 5’5” and obviously stupid), and a millions of different things. I get yelled at for any type of discipline I’ve tried to install. Oh as far as the neighborhood things go… I teach in a rural town. A colleague of mine was attacked by a first grader (punched in the throat) on a Friday and the sub who filled in on Monday for her and guess what kid was still in class? The parents of the kid claimed racism and the kid got no punishment. HOMESCHOOL YOUR KIDS!

[@Patson20]

Homeschooling your kids only helps if you actually raise them. And if people did we wouldn't have this problem

[@uncletimo6059]

"for assaulting me (I’m 6’1” 240 lbs and he was 5’5” and obviously stupid)," yeah well..... next time the kid will "wise up" and bring a weapon, a knife or a gun, to school. school was bad when I was there decades ago - now it is basically prison rules in there.

[@ChaosTheoriesLux]

We had kids that would do stuff like that in the 90s, but there were separate classes for behavioral education.

[@believestthouthis7]

These horror stories from teachers make me think of the old movie, Dangerous Minds, except it's not just rebellious high schoolers in some neighborhoods, it's now everywhere, and in all age groups. I strongly agree with your suggestion to HOMESCHOOL. I can't imagine sending well-behaved, innocent children to school with wild children that don't just bully their peers, but that are now physically attacking teachers... We know what this kind of behavior leads to... Sadly some will have a future in the prison system. That's what parents are setting their children up for. A lifetime of thinking that they can get away with anything and there are no consequences. I blame the parents. It's their responsibility to raise their own children. Proverbs 22:6 KJV - Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

[@uncletimo6059]

@@believestthouthis7 "Sadly some will have a future in the prison system. " More happily, some will not survive long and have no future.

[@txspacemom765]

Former classroom teacher. I can teach your kids but you, the parent, have to raise them first. Kid needs accommodations? Great, let's do it! Kid doesn't want to even sit down and listen and throw the book at me, nope! And obviously, I am a working parent and I have never spanked my kid. My kid has manners and expectations. Imagine that!

[@iamoctonate]

Right. Abuse isn't required to discipline a kid. But disciplining a kid is 100% necessary.

[@Dr.Sharron]

They all seem to be ADHD🙄🙄🙄. Labels do not mean much nowadays because they are overused.

[@Ana-385]

My child learned children's rights in the first grade, came home and started telling me what a can't do to her. Take away the cell phone (right to communicate), forbid socializing with children (right to socialize), yell at her.. Children are left in real abusive families, and parents from ordinary families have social services pulled over their necks if the children complain at school. Fortunately, my daughter (after I explained) understood that with rights come responsibilities, but the school somehow missed that point.. 🤔

[@tulip811]

​@@Ana-385 ...Ehm y'all not giving your children "cell phones" .... They still exist and are cheap.... Your fault for getting them smart phones....

[@Ana-385]

@@tulip811 Ehm, why not? That was the only form of communication until we got home from work because we don't have a regular phone in the house. Why do you immediately think that means spending a ton of time on it? In addition, I didn't even say that my problem with her was about the phone, but she recited all the rights when she came home from school, so there is no room for a "your fault" comment.

[@annamariemiller3877]

Kids have not always been this way. I spent 32 years in the classroom. I never dealt with this behavior. It was the administration that drove me out and the expectations and work that increased consistently every year.

[@sabinekoch3448]

You are right. I’ve been in teaching for 44 years and have loved it but I do wonder what will happen in the future.

[@aaad3552]

Just cause they act differently doesn't mean they are different. Thinking children change in a short period of time is a complete delusion and being a teacher and know nothing about children show how fake the job is. Children have always been the same. U guys do nothing but repeat the book they are forced to learn even a caretaker might be better for children.

[@mistressravenlilyscreepybo5493]

They're creating a school to prison pipeline. This will be the cheapest form of labor and legal slavery. This has been in the works for years and it's been designed. It's not just here this is a global problem. Discipline prepares children for life. I'm not talking about throwing them about. Lack of discipline sets them up for failure thus creating monsters. Hold them and their parents responsible because if they're not, an entire generation, will be doomed. They will become antisocial, violent, entitled, delusional, etc. These kids are being raised on social media by parents too busy, tired or lazy either way it's not good.

[@daa5249]

​@@aaad3552 Do you have a brain in your head? Children have not always been the same. There was very little talking back when I was growing up and teachers were not quitting. I bet your a liberal that loves that idea of not holding kids or even criminals accountable for their actions.

[@Handlehandlehandle320]

⁠@@aaad3552you are the delusional one. If you enjoy a call to the authority of studies there are plenty to back it up. What kind of idiot thinks people haven’t changed?

[@emiliosanchez9406]

I’ve been at custodian at multiple levels of public school, and I can tell you in the past 3 to 4 years. The kids have gotten noticeably worse. Few kids have any respect for the adults in the building or their peers. They intentionally throw food around in the cafeteria and make messes it’s gotten to the point where I pick up The food and throw it back at them and make them clean it. I don’t care if I get in trouble.

[@kittenmittens4387]

Good! That's exactly what you should do! If my kid threw food on the wall, I would have no problem with you doing this. My parents were janitors for several years and taught me how important it was to clean up after myself in facilities. It also helped growing up between Japan and the US. In Japan, the kids are responsible for cleaning their own school. You make a mess, you get to deal with your classmates who have to clean it up! You also learn to stay clean because the messier the school, the longer you have to stay after school

[@emiliosanchez9406]

@@kittenmittens4387 we need some of that mentality in the United States for sure

[@doloreszombory9415]

YES! Kudos to you!

[@sayitaintso7544]

I was a school bus driver for 7 yrs. I quit in 2023 despite the driver shortage. Often it felt like I was driving a corrections bus to the state pen. There were good kids but many acted like inmates. There will always be shortages in school staff because parents and kids are often rotten to the core.

[@sterlingmoore4798]

No child left behind leaves everyone behind.

[@KoolK15]

That’s what I used to say! I called it “Every Child Left Behind”. Thank goodness I’m retired! Not good circumstances though, the students who were impossible won!

[@Smw006]

I'm an old millennial. I taught young millennials, Gen Z, and Gen Alpha. Gen Alpha is violent - verbally, emotionally, and physically in a way that is over the top and generalized across the board. I left teaching this year after multiple physical assaults from a Gen Alpha student and gaslighting from administrators.

[@natgoaway3101]

What are you doing now? Fellow old millennial wanting to get out but there aren’t many videos about life after teaching other than starting a KZbin channel (I have no interest in that).

[@Smw006]

@@natgoaway3101 I was a special education teacher for 16 years and a general education teacher for 8 years. My BA was in History with a minor in English and my MA was in SPED. My CAGS was in Ed. Administration. I've been able to parlay my skillset into an administrative role where I get to work in a cubicle without any loss of pay - indeed, I'm making over 25% more than I was as a teacher. What also helped me were all the jobs I held outside of teaching concomitant to being a teacher (because teaching didn't pay all the bills) - management roles and the like that allowed me to maintain business relevant skillsets and networks. If you let me know what you're working with and what you've been up to I can at least point you in the right direction.

[@clairejones624]

@natgoaway3101 Are there any jobs you are interested in doing?

[@penguinphysics]

I have 24 years of ridiculous stories that I have tried to compile and if I look at them over time, I can (very clearly) see how severe the decline of respect is from ALL sides. The teacher is the epicenter of all criticism: Kids hate the teachers, parents back the kids and undermine the teachers, (*SOME*) admins are often spineless and throw teachers under the bus, society blames teachers for all problems (and accuse us of stealing tax revenue for glorified babysitting), and the school board are so catatonic that they cannot make any decisions so they make teachers the scapegoat of all problems.

[@sergioparsijr.7742]

This is excellent! Well said...

[@adameanglin]

There's your EdD dissertation.

[@Ad-Lo]

But how do you explain all these teachers molesting students? Teachers also hold some blame, surely?

[@akc1739]

@@adameanglinBut for what job when so few want to go into teaching!

[@Darth_Bateman]

Welp, soon they won’t Have Teachers. Wait till the politicians get their hands on the adults these kids turn into. I can already see it. Convince them to close down schools to cut taxes , and a systematic scapegoating of public school teachers will occur. It will be SO easy too. Like all they have to do is point out how “little good” teachers did for them.

[@1SillyTilly]

Everything about this is 100% spot on! I’m in my 4th year of teaching middle school and I’ve had it. I’m sick of the constant arguing and managing 13/14 year olds who still act like 3rd graders. No Child Left Behind was the worst thing that ever could have been done to education-the kids have no motivation to try because they know they’ll get passed if they just sit and do nothing all year. They don’t care-so why should I?

[@mojeaux86]

Maybe because you're supposed to be the adult in the situation

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

​@@mojeaux86You obviously don't understand.

[@victoriasalcido2099]

America education committee: get rid of the no child left behind act! This is sad. The classroom environments are now circuses.

[@ajsway7134]

The thing about Gen Alpha is that they're savage but they are soooo sensitive. To be frank, my clapback and document game is strong. As a result, the students, parents, and admin already know what time it is with me. However, this profession is a toxic waste zone. These kids think they are equal to you because their parents precipitate this kind of unhealthy relationship with them. Admin are afraid of students and their parents and there is this undertone to cater to every single ridiculous, unrealistic and unnecessary complaint and/or adjustment. I'm not gonna be in it for much longer, it is a losing battle. However, i pray that everry teacher who leaves or stay find peace, joy and a place that allows them to do what they love with a substantial income. God bless ya'll and hold on; every storm must pass over.

[@uncletimo6059]

have you noticed that the (mostly black but really all races) so called thugs are very .... feminine? they do not look muscular, they do not look manly. they literally walk like girls (used to back in the day). and anything even slightly critical said to them results in a temper tantrum. and they will shoot you for "disrespect".

[@gerafinali4384]

Teacher in France here. Same situation. I blame popular psychology for it. They've blamed the parents for traumatising their kids whatever they do. They said that parents weren't listening to their kids enough, they made parents accept any crap from their kids. They were wrong.

[@saalvasam]

As a millennial having classes with Gen Z, this speaks so loud. Most of my colleagues report having “daddy issues” and “mommy issues”, and I suspect most of the so called “issues” are just parents not being perfect (because humans aren’t perfect!) and imposing boundaries. I know some of them went through sad things that no one should, but I have to stop and wonder what are “parents issues” to them. What does it mean. My parents were not perfect raising me, but in a way they were. They were trying their best. And I can’t ever blame them for what they couldn’t do, because I KNOW they love me so so so much and all they ever wanted for me was the best. It’s heartbreaking that some people don’t know this kind of love inside their own houses, but this is all so confusing to me. Nowadays “no” is considered abuse, so what are the standards? Where do we draw the line? How to differ from real abuse to just… you know, parenting? Getting angry at your child now is abuse. Saying no is abuse. Not let them do whatever they want is abuse. When, in reality, psychology does know that NOT SAYING NO is actually NEGLECT! And there are two ways to create psychopaths - one is through abuse, the type we usually imagine when saying the word (physical harm, emotional etc), and the other is by THE LACK OF LIMITS. No “no”, giving everything they want, etc. This will lead a generation with higher numbers of psychopaths, unfortunately.

[@alistairogilvy7696]

@saalvasam already has, I'm afraid - in a culture that allows them to hide in plain sight. American Psycho, for instance - the corporate culture of hiring 'people who are prepared to do whatever it takes to achieve the objective' was being scrutinised 30 years ago. And the world was still relatively sane then (relatively being the operative word here - the decline was by then quite apparent to this child of the late 60s). I'm actually referring to sociopaths as opposed to psychopaths, to clarify - but both are doubtless on the uptick..

[@jasongraham8250]

We need to accept the reality that for a lot of parents, kids are something that happened to them and they’re just doing time with them. They had their kids without thought and without a partner or a plan. They just stick an iPad in front of him/her and feed it Mac and Cheese.

[@stevennguyen4993]

That's every generation of parents, though. For most parents, even back then, kids "just happened". The part I agree with is how parents approach parenthood: negligence to raising them. Yes, kids are difficult, they're probably accidents, and you may end up with more than one. However, parents owe a responsibility to them and to society. Parents nowadays expect the school system to raise their own kids, even feed them to an extent.

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

​@@stevennguyen4993I disagree with the first part of your comment and wholeheartedly agree with the last part. I would like to add that the difference is the degree to which people take responsibility once they have kids. THAT is the big difference.

[@hippiebits2071]

​@@stevennguyen4993The problems got way worse after welfare reform. Prior to that you didn't see children coming into the world for the sole purpose of enabling mothers to collect benefits. In addition to that we really live in a society today that minimizes the importance of attentive parenting.

[@MAfanwoods37]

Sorry not so with majority of greatest generation or silent generation. This is a babyboomer n beyond issue. The younger the generation the worse it gets. Indoctrination via libtard schools ​@stevennguyen4993

[@MAfanwoods37]

​@@stevennguyen4993not true with older generations. This is major problem with boomers and below

[@teacherella1338]

Teacher from Germany here: it’s interesting to see that teachers in other countries struggle with discipline or the lack thereof in parenting as well. Our classes are mixed with regular student and special ed students. My personal experience is that parents do not parent anymore for whatever reasons. The kids lack a fundamental basis of empathy for others and they cannot put themselves in other people’s shoes. They are super sensitive but hurl out insults and/or hurt others physically casually (there is a game where kids actually insult each other for fun). Kids need to learn that they are part of a society and therefore need to behave accordingly. But that is something that’s not happening anymore. It’s just me me me all the time.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

This is true. So how do we begin to change it.

[@th6566]

I´m also a teacher in Germany and I feel the same, really. Only a few years back calling the parents about their child´s misbehaviour would have consequences. But now, when you say you´ll have to talk to their parents about their behaviour if they don´t stop doing xx, they´ll just shrug and say "go ahead then, they won´t do anything anyway" and they´re absolutely right. Consequences given by the school will even be challenged by the parents sometimes. In student-teacher-conversations about insults, fights etc. I´ve also noticed that more and more students absolutely don´t care if they hurt anyone, be it physically or emotionally.

[@mojeaux86]

You act like this is a new thing. I grew up playing a game where shouted slurs and tackled each other I'm 37. Teachers standing there in full view and earshot.

[@miriamcollins7587]

Wow - not Germany, too!!!! Your tiered education system was the envy of the world. 😢

[@th6566]

@@miriamcollins7587 really? I work in the lowest tier (Hauptschule) in a big city and I would say that tier mainly exists so the better-off can gatekeep their status quo.

[@purenkool2011]

I grew up fatherless. My stepfather was an evil violent creep. So my school days were lonely and isolating. I was depressed most years until I left home. But my H.S. teachers gave me that parenting warmth and affection. They cared about me. 🤓💐💐💐

[@kris78787]

I absolutely agree. I teach elementary and so many of the kids in my classes are absolutely disrespectful and rude. You can be the nicest teacher in the world and have top tier classroom management and these kid's attitudes and behaviors are still deplorable. I'm saddened for the well behaved, good students in my classes whose education is getting ruined by these out of control, disrespectful kids. Awful student behaviors is the number one reason I want to find a different career, and this is my 3rd year teaching.

[@callmeangie867]

I’m in my second year teaching. I’m not a classroom teacher, but I’m sticking around long enough to have enough years of experience to keep my retirement when I become of that age. That’s two more years. And I am finished. Because I’m not getting any younger and I want children of my own, but I do not dare try to juggle 200+ other kids along with my own. My family doesn’t deserve that.

[@kris78787]

​@@tacofacefart 1/2 of the teachers at my school left last year. Do you really think I'm the issue?

[@fremontpathfinder8463]

Teachers are getting bullied and then gaslit by admins and some "social justice" teachers. No these kids are different. I taught millennials and Gen Z. Millennials even in the hood were fine. Now I have an out of classroom position and am so relieved. I miss teaching but the cell phone has changed the dynamics. It is parents and no school discipline but also cell phone addiction. When you brought up shoplifting it really affected me because it is rampant now in my area to the point I mostly shop online. There is incredible peer pressure to conform.

[@TMeyer-ge5pj]

Omg don't even get me started on cell phones. I'm 27 and I'm on tik tok like everyone else. But kids don't need to me using phones at school ! I taught 2nd grade and there were kids filming videos in the bathrooms....

[@kathleenkirchoff9223]

Especially these social justice young teachers butting into experienced teachers classes only to later realize the kid is playing them and then treat the bad kid worse.

[@fremontpathfinder8463]

@@kathleenkirchoff9223 That is so on point.

[@nl3050]

This. The screens and the phones and tables and all that ideology and violence on streaming shows and the Internet are creating these behaviors. Millenials were depressed. We were not "fine". Educational system sucks since then and before and it needed to be improved urgently, but instead it was made much much worse. They even stopped praying at schools.

[@rosswatson9144]

I taught in Canada for decades now , but before that I taught a few years in Japan..the differences are astonishing. In Japan there was discipline and respect. Students wore uniforms, were given lots of homework and tests, were assessed and had great community and family support…the curriculum was set and uniform through the country… it was the antithesis of all that exists here..one wonders why we are so divergent..what could be learned by considering their practices… afterall the goal in both is to do the best job for our children..

[@christopherlay7953]

I get you but would you rather a system that works for the 95-99% of kids giving them a reasonable education while sacrificing a 1-5% of kids who can't keep up. Or have a system where the classroom is a shit show everyday for the next 12 years. Society was designed to cater to the majority, once we cater to the minority we end up as you see here@@Alice-Lantern

[@nl3050]

​@@Alice-Lanternthis is true. But some teachers just dream of "teaching" others since all they want is to get ppl sit and obey what they say. Thats the wrong dream if you ask me. Being a teacher is as hard and devoted as being a parent. This is why I think educational system as we know it is incorrect. Parents need to be with kids and teach them all the basics beyond 3yo, families need to construct a comunity and culture and then teens can chose to go to learn a profession. This was like this in past centuries, the educational system as we all know it started after industrial revolution , so its just indoctrination and its goal is to get both parents to work on the industry, destroying families and familiar small business.

[@Feedmeyoubastard_00]

Ya’ll really need to stop glorifying east-asian schools

[@KarenKennedy-lq8nt]

I saw a person with a shirt that said” Success for All” it sounds so good! Fair, Inclusive, but that’s the problem, You need to earn success, not just handed to you, and it’s from experiencing much struggle and failure.

[@Feedmeyoubastard_00]

Context?

[@mkaylor121]

Im so glad we didn't have social media while I was growing up. It has ruined this generation

[@jessweaver5713]

I’m in the U.K. and I’ve worked in education for 17 years. I left high school (GCSEs) in 2000, started work at an FE college (16-19) in 2007. I’ve worked as both a teacher and inclusive support at the same college. Behaviour and attitude has got worse. MUCH MUCH worse. Parents are lazy, entitled and mostly the source of their child’s problems. They forget that when the gave birth they have a responsibility. I’ve got a real attitude with them now. The teenagers are becoming really manipulative and nasty too.

[@poonyaTara]

No, we did not forget. We just live in a society that undermines our attempts to raise our children correctly.

[@Lolife86]

Not just that. Man teacher's do not get respected coz they can't do shit.Man I remember, my teachers used to slap us, when you get slapped early, you undersand you can't do everything you want.

[@xxxmaysilssss690]

⁠@@poonyaTarayeah, no. Society undermines child abuse. We *don’t* undermine fair punishments and discipline. Plus I’m sure the parents of iPad kids who give them everything they want really care what society thinks about their parenting (sarcasm). Parents have definitely forgotten.

[@poonyaTara]

@@xxxmaysilssss690 You have no clue, do you? I've never abused my children, and how dare you imply it when you don't even know me.

[@xxxmaysilssss690]

@@poonyaTara I never said you did “abuse children”. I SAID that you were flat out wrong and that parents aren’t discouraged from discipline at all. If you think that me saying “we don’t allow child abuse” is an allegation against you, then that’s your own problem and you have some issues to work out. I’ve never seen someone get so defensive over nothing lmao. Plus you never addressed anything else about my comment. Irrelevant.

[@ginawallace1230]

No respect,no discipline, no rules, no accountability ,no punishment, no responsibility.this generation is done for so sad. I pray for the teachers today.

[@Patson20]

You should be more concerned when these kids enter adulthood, the workforce, and vote. It's gonna make the late 80s early 90s crime wave look like Mr Roger's neighborhood

[@shaunmckenzie5509]

​@@Patson20You don't have to look far, it's already happening as gen z comes of age.

[@alwynwatson6119]

The problem is that teachers are dilly-dallying instead of whizzing through the content while going into more detail. That will make it fun for the ones who are interested whilst overwhelming and shaming the ones who are not. On top of that it would be possible to use the responsibility of needing to learn everything you need to solve every problem the world has to create discipline. Imagine how different schools would look if the terror of every single one of the world's problems provided consequences in the form of nightmares. They would study obsessively if someone made sure they woke up to just 1% of the world's suffering.

[@EVIESECOND]

“This system is unsustainable.” Nailed it‼️

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

This society is unsustainable!

[@Juliet42110]

I truly believe the worst thing ever for all humans has been social media with access everywhere via smart devices. Things really changed when smartphones came out and not just for the youth, but also for the old. Yes, some good has come from social media such as connecting with people you might never have met or raising money for those in need via crowd funding, but the bad far outweighs the good. My husband and I are both teachers and so many kids are truly messed up (in a variety of ways) by their addiction to tech. My parents political views have been radicalized by what they watch online and they have no idea the bubble they are in and they get angry if I even mention a different viewpoints. I was in the last generation without internet in every home and without cell phones (just before flip phones) and I'mm so thankful for the great childhood and high school experience I had. I don't envy the children of today one bit.

[@DisgruntledUSA]

👏👏👏 You are absolutely correct. You echoed what I posted a couple of days ago.

[@mssjbsf77]

What you said, Juliet!!! Thank you for articulating the issue; I often say the internet is the best and worst thing that ever happened.

[@kris78787]

​@@mssjbsf77yep it's a blessing and a curse

[@IdahoRanchGirl]

💯 agree. My mind will never be changed on social media ruining kids.

[@teeleetreasures5570]

I totally agree. It seems our technology has surpassed our humanity.

[@thedualtransition6070]

The result is the kind of "adults" I taught in a Masters course. Half of them (including the people educated in so-called "third world" nations) had proper emotional control and dedication to excellence and a great command of the English language, the other half could not deal with a grade below A- because they had been told they were ""wonderful" throughout their lives and never got proper feedback. Many of that second half would not have passed basic English grammar in the school I went to as a child, even though they "benefitted" from a full Canadian education - including Bachelors and even other Masters degrees. When I provided feedback on their work, they tried to manipulate me into just increasing their grade. When that didn't work they lodged complaints which the university backed without even reviewing their work to see if my criticism was warranted! What they did not understand is that actual businesses will not be so accommodating, we are creating legions of unemployable adults.

[@Darth_Bateman]

They’ll learn the hard way when the hunger sets in.

[@lilolmecj]

My sister in law taught in a masters program for Physical Therapy, and had the occasional PARENT call to try to negotiate grades. She is very nice, but absolutely no nonsense. She would simply say X is an adult. I am forbidden by law to discuss their position in their program with anyone but them. But even if it were legal, they are an adult. These would have been students 22 and up. Somewhere along the line our society has failed for a large number of young people and children. My friend’s daughter teaches second grade, a student knocked her over on purpose. She hit her hard against the wall and suffered a concussion. No consequences for the student.

[@ankavoskuilen1725]

I can't even imagine my parents would go to university when I was 22, to negotiate my grades. First: the grades were good so there was no need. Second: it would never have crossed their minds that that was a possibility. Third: they knew I was an adult and was responsible for my own actions. It is disgusting that the kid that gave the teacher a concussion faces no consequences! The kid now gets the message that it can get away with murder! And I mean that literally!

[@lilolmecj]

@@ankavoskuilen1725 I one hundred percent agree. The concept of discipline in human children should be external discipline is implemented to teach internal discipline. And no seven year old child should be allowed to intentionally attack another person, or animal without consequences to teach respect for other living beings. They only get larger and more dangerous without self control. And I don’t personally care what mental health diagnoses are created to make excuses for bad behavior. Undisciplined children grow into dangerous adults.

[@disposabull]

@@Darth_Bateman Shopping lifting is legal now, they won't learn, they will just be criminals.

[@stephanie1874]

Wow. I graduated from high school in 2003 and was part of the generation where if you got in trouble at school, you got in trouble at home. I had detention once and spent the entire time more worried about my dad picking me up than the punishment at school.

[@Sean-gj7vw]

All good points. Also, Imagine how slow and boring school must be when you're under the influence of tic toc, Adderall and social media influencers. We only had cable TV and Nintendo in the 80s and I was totally over stimulated by it. School was mind numbing in comparison. It has to be 10x worse for these children. It's no excuse for their behavior, but i still think it's another point worth considering.

[@natmurray3391]

Leave Adderall out of it. When used correctly it doesn’t over stimulate, it supplements naturally occurring low dopamine levels.

[@Cornbreadmuffin86]

I am not a teacher but I have encountered unruly disrespectful children and the parent is standing there allowing the behavior to go unchecked. I often wonder 💭 Do these parents really want their kids?

[@Coco-lz4gg]

Probably not. A lot of these kids are the product of their parents having poor self-control and are the byproduct of their sexual irresponsibility. Some mothers had a child to keep a no-good man around who left anyway. Some have kids to keep the generational welfare train going (kids in a middle school I taught in made plans to do this). Some mothers who are intellectually challenged were preyed on by men in the community who took advantage of them (with no consequences) and they in turn produced children who have the same problems as the mother. Being a mother is a full-time job. Being the teacher of a child with behavior problems is a full-time job on top of a full-time job. If you have a class of 25-30 of these children, you have more full-time jobs than is allowed for one person. Some of these parents will drop their kids off and then go right back to bed - they come to school in their pajamas! Unpopular opinion: If parents have kids to avoid work and to get a government check, their job should be to go to school with that misbehaving kid and sit in that class every day. They need to sign in at the front desk and at the end of the month, their attendance is proof that they worked before they are eligible for the money that hits their account. No disrespect to the parents who really need help from the government and are going to work every day and just need a little help. We see you! Parents with misbehaving children and who are not on public assistance should be required to volunteer or serve as substitute teachers (to replace the income loss from not being at work) to watch their kids while the teacher does their job. If something drastic is not done soon, public schools will turn private and none of these parents who rely on the schools for babysitting will be able to afford it. They think they have problems now. These parents need to make sure their kids are not at school every day terrorizing the building but go AWOL in the spring when standardized testing comes around. The atmosphere around testing is so regimental that teachers can lose their licenses if they don't fulfill certain requirements in administering it. Yet, these parents are so flippant about their kids' being present to take them. When 200-300 students don't show up during the testing window, non-classroom teachers get pulled from their responsibilities for the following two weeks to proctor makeup tests. The school's librarian, if pulled, can't start or finish their inventory of 6,000 books or the technology inventory for 600 Chromebooks or iPads, get reading lists compiled and distributed, or process old or broken equipment for the warehouse until those tests are over. Often the school library is used as a testing space for small groups who can't test in their regular classrooms. The librarian is also the one who gets the task of proctoring makeup tests since that's where the makeups are held. So at the end of the year when teachers are packing up to go home, guess who has to stay for a few more days or come in over the weekend to close out their libraries before they can turn their keys in?

[@appalachianwoman561]

A lot of them have those children for the welfare benefits, and I say this as someone who's not a parent, not a teacher but have very close connections to a family member that is a current teacher and a best friend who worked as the head of the local CPS, so I've heard terrible things. I live in a rural area, a poor rural, economically depressed area that used to be big when coal was king, this same area is also where oxycontin was released and created the current opioids epidemic. I see every single day in a property next door to me that is owned by a slumlord, because it was sold without the rest of us knowing it or we would have bought it as it's all single family homes with people that have owned and lived there for decades if not their entire lives. Well this property that is owned by a slumlord has a trailer that is unfit to live in on it, currently there's a deadbeat daddy with his 4 pre teen to teen sons living on it and he just lets them do whatever, including miss school all the time because daddy's inside getting high and could care less. The mother is in jail for making meth and their last place burned down, I suspect due to meth making. Well over the years I've seen it all, these people don't want their children all those kids are to them is more benefits and therefore more free money for them to be able to sit home on their butts, sleep all day, never work a job and live off the taxpayers. The kids go from cradle to the grave the burden of taxpayers. I've already identified the children next door out at all hours of the night, a few times even playing with a lighter (daddy smokes so it's easy to snatch one I'm sure) and lighting trash and other things on fire on the wooden porch. There's trash all over the place, the kids I've never even seen them in jackets even on the days it's below 20 degrees and I don't know how any of them survive or get sleep as all you hear every night is booming loud music and video games and I suspect it's more lazy deadbeat daddy than it is the kids as it happens even when they are at school. These people don't love their kids, they didn't want their kids, and the only reason they do the bare minimum is to keep getting welfare so they can continue their lazy leeching lifestyle.

[@queenbey6678]

Appalachianwoman you're talking out of your ass. There is no phenomenon of people having kids only for welfare benefits

[@mykaylajacques9816]

I had recently read an article that concluded that parents are either too tired to enforce discipline, or, they're so scared of failure in 1 way or another that they just freeze and give up. Then they give in to their kids wants and demands because gentle parents online encourage them too, and it's easier to solve whatever problem the kid is causing.you also have parents who are scared of messing up their kids like their parents may have, or who are scared their kids may not want a relationship with them. It's sad and pathetic how kids feelings are treated as the most important thing because of an adults insecurities

[@edu45678]

That is because no matter what you do to address behavior it's "abuse." Then later when kids are out of control, you were "neglectful."

[@Wren402]

When you have a class of 30+ students and 5 of them are constant behavior problems, unfortunately those 5 tend to take up all your time, attention, and energy. That leaves very little to give to the other 25 students who are better behaved and actually want to learn. I went home each day exhausted yet feeling like I’d let those 25 down. It has gotten much worse in the last 4-5 years. Over a 24 year career I went from loving the job to dreading it. I quit a year ago, and it’s the best decision I ever made.

[@DELLRS2012]

This!! These dynamics of 30+ kids and 3+ behavior kids in one classroom with one teacher is not reflected in the intervention research. They create a self reinforcing subgroup within the classroom. It is so real. I was a behavior kid and I’m so glad I was the only behavior kid in my elementary classes😂

[@Wren402]

When there are only a handful of kids with behavior problems per grade level the school can separate them so that each class only has one - two at most. Nowadays there are just too many to do that. I taught middle schoolers. When you have a several they tend to egg each other on or even compete. Sometimes kids who used to be respectful start acting out as well to be seen as cool.

[@KarenKennedy-lq8nt]

As a former teacher there are those kids that are so disruptive, you are glad when they are absent, take up all time, attention,

[@GuidedGlory123]

I left the classroom this past year to be a stay at home mom to my son. Whenever I get the urge to go back into the classroom, I just watch one of your videos and give myself a quick reality check. Thank you so much for what you do and keep speaking the truth on behalf of educators. God bless and happy new year.🎉

[@patriciamccabe1394]

So so true!!! My daughter is quitting teaching after about 12 years for these exact reasons. No respect from students, parents or administration. A sign of our times.

[@missgreeneyesx3512]

I worked in an after school club. I had a 6 year old running out because he didn't want to sit and do registration with the other children. As I tried to reason with him, he hit me in the face and gave me a bruised eye. No discipline was given. I was just told to write it down in the incident book. But nothing ever came of it. The issue is that it's always well what happened? How is the child feeling? Maybe we need to take a more soft approach... a year after this incident I got asked to manage another after school club with the same company to sort out the behavioural issues they were experiencing in that club, which I accepted. When the children in this club, aged between 5 and 11 years old were being too disorderly, I would get them all to sit down, and I would ask them to be silent for a minute and I would explain why we don't throw toys, or hit eachother. I gave up when my boss wasn't happy with me doing this and said why are you getting them to sit down? 🤦‍♀️

[@Ad-Lo]

Why are you getting them to sit down?! 😮

[@missgreeneyesx3512]

@Ad-Lo I know right

[@therealtoni]

stop the club

[@missgreeneyesx3512]

@@therealtoni I know I'm awful for asking my students to sit down

[@shawnahall7246]

What, wow!!!!

[@sandangels73]

Part of the problem is also the positive reinforcement techniques that schools began to embrace in the early 2000s. The problem child soon learns that they can be bad 99% of the time, but the second they want something, they can be good and will be the child chosen because its all about focusing on good behavior and not punishing bad behavior. This is not only an injustice to the good kids, but it also teaches the problem kids how to manipulate to get what they want. 🤷

[@wesleyweber8488]

My wife get so mad when the admins tell her to reward a kid for doing something they should do as in sit down. This is in the 5th grade. Half of them still don’t know how to add or subtract.

[@TooBrokeToAffordCoffee]

Yeah the point you made about private Christian schools being 10x worse are absolutely true!! I got bullied to the point where I was threatening to unalive myself, and I got kicked out for being suicidal but my bullies were protected!! My daughter will not be going to a Christian school!! Ps: the reason I was bullied was because I had epilepsy. Pps: the bullies weren’t just kids, they were teachers too!!

[@TeacherTherapy]

I'm so sorry that happened to you! 🥺❤🙏🏽

[@ripperrex7883]

I used to go to a private Christian school until my 11th grade year and switched to a public rural school. It wasn't perfect but the fellow students were a lot more friendly.

[@kelseystout8360]

Oh man, I went to a Christian school in the 90's and even then it was bad. I was bullied by my classmates and teachers and when my parents tried to get those responsible held accountable, they claimed I was lying and just trying to "stir up trouble". It was a pretty toxic school, and it was such a relief when my parents finally pulled me out of it.

[@Patson20]

I went to a private Christian school for early elementary over 20 years ago, and everyone was cliqueish and a bully. Holier than thou is real

[@ericmoore571]

A Catholic school?

[@bradwaye7782]

As a 20 year vet who gave it last June, I can say that this lady speaks the truth. Mic-drop worthy.

[@terriem3922]

No, I went to school in the 1960s and 70s. Teachers were respected. Even kids with discipline problems respected them and were quiet in class, after the first three "be quiet"s. Parents respected the teachers, and a teacher with 3 years experience could buy a condo. Now it is impossible.

[@shadyfox1758]

That was when your parent, your community, your government and your school worked together . There were less "administrators", no police officers titled as "resource officers" and fewer unions. Now? O boy.

[@lucycat4305]

Also, the teachers were "respectable".

[@autodogdact3313]

If we did anything wrong in the neighborhood or in school we would hear about it when we got home and we knew that. If a neighbor saw something they would call your mom and she would BELIEVE them, not just claim we were little angels. Also we would be outside all day during our free time. We had our own adventures, games and learning. I can fix things, I can build things, I can even find my way around without GPS, can you believe it?

[@TXTeacher1111]

I started teaching in 1987. I still teach today because I love it. There has been a drastic change in parents, and therefore students, over the decades. Because the parents are awful, so are their children. How am I still teaching? I left the ISDs and went to teach “underserved populations.” These are small schools who cater to kids in CPS, or in care for other reasons. I haven’t had more than 15 kids in my classroom in 10 years. Not having to deal with parents has been fantastic. I still answer to state TEKS. I still answer to state tests. I also still get paid well. I love what I do, and I’m so grateful I found a way to keep doing it. ❤

[@sharonnycum5414]

They are putting national guard in some schools. God please help the innocent children through this.

[@jenniferk2312]

I teach at a private college. The students age range is around 17 - 27. I was taken aside by the owner of the school about 2 months ago and was told that the students feel disrespected and offended that they have to learn lessons about the topic of the day. I was then told to teach much less as they didn't want to do anything but the "fun stuff". (I work in a school for training for the entertainment/film/fashion industries). The students are given diplomas as they fight about their poor marks, and the curriculum is constantly being reduced and made more and more basic because it is too hard for them. They are now even coming into the school dictating terms and conditions for the school, the staff and the faculty on how they want things done and taught to suit them. It never ceases to take my breath away!

[@MsJani70]

I'm a college professor and I'm so tired of students who refuse to do the work and parents who make excuses for their ADULT children's lack of accountability. I've taught in the US and now in South Africa and I see no difference in students' attitudes towards learning (ie. pretty much the same in both countries). This really does seem to be a global issue.

[@luisvilla799]

What do you teach in college and is it useless because that another thing we as educators don’t ask by college there should be no reason you have to be taken classes that are useless

[@soonahero]

Thanks for sharing the international perspective!

[@Krlowanigu-mg6eg]

Because it is a worldwide effect. The mass media propaganda is being full of woken and leftist psychology that created woke parents and enforced no accountability culture, the dream of any possible sociopaths, rampant narcissism and deviations.

[@StonedSammieSue]

@@luisvilla799lol nobody is forcing you to pay 80k on school. Let alone why would you pay that much money just to purposefully fail a class because you deem it unnecessary?

[@luisvilla799]

@@StonedSammieSue damn who paid that for school and what the hell are you talking about you have to be ignorant when I graduated college it’s was about 3500 a semester at Texas a&m

[@melissab3217]

I have some kids in my life that were raised without rules, and it's extremely stressful to be around them. They constantly overstep boundaries and break the rules, but the parents do nothing and sometimes even think it's "cute." I don't have them over at my house anymore because they would break something nearly every time or try to hit my cats. The mom always brings up having them sleep over in front of the kids, and I just remain silent - definitely not happening!

[@maritamuras8978]

Maybe she wants them to sleep over because she needs a break from them. If she needs a break though, the best thing she can do for herself is start correcting their behavior consistently.

[@maryl8753]

There is a disturbing YT channel ( well to me anyway) where a parent is posting their ( very cute) little girl's " antics". She's about 4 or 5 but she is basically an entrenched liar- like telling stories that her leg was taken off ( wasnt) and other really outrageous lies like she owns a house. Now, the mum can be heard saying (" was your leg really taken off" then laughing as the child doubles down on the lie. Clearly the mum thinks this is imaginative and entertaining- this child looks to me like a psychopath at an early age - she will not give up the lie. The mother clearly has no idea how bad this really is and she's showing the child approval by filming and posting it. Really disturbing

[@hannaheye]

@@maryl8753 I think filming and posting anything about your kid, consistently... is very disturbing. Period.

[@brendakmorales]

I started teaching in 1992 and retired last year (2023). There were always problem kids, but nothing like I saw in the last few years.

[@kimperez1393]

Thank you for the video! I’m a substitute teacher / aspiring teaching. I told my husband that the difference now compared to before, is that we’re currently teaching Millennial’s kids. The baby boomers are more strict, conservative and traditional therefore their kids were not as bratty! Millennial parents are not as disciplined, and now that we’re in the Internet age, parents are no longer parenting (because they’re burnt out or on social media) and allow their kids to do what they want (going on devices all day). So guess what.. the kids don’t want to be in school so they’ll give teachers a hard time.

[@danak2230]

I left teaching after 7 years. It broke my heart in many ways to leave, but it was unsustainable for me to stay. I was crying most days and stress eating the rest. I ran into someone I'd gone to college with and who also taught in my district not long after my last day teaching. When we realized we'd both left, we joked that it was like seeing a fellow cult member and feeling relieved that they'd also escaped.

[@marlan5470]

You shouldn't go into teaching because it's sustainable. Your heart should be in Improvement, not sustaining a bad situation. If you can't do what your heart tells you in order to make the world a better place, then there's no point in putting up with it. I hope you find private tutoring a more rewarding occupation, with interested parents and interested students. You can choose who to teach. You should not be subject to dictats.

[@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470]

Medicine is just as bad. It's society. 😢

[@user-do8dj4vd5n]

People think that there's always these different learning styles and approaches to teaching but no matter what approach you take kids are going to have to be able to sit down and shut up

[@lovensnugs2385]

In community college I had a history professor that showed us The Passion of Christ and apparently was reprimanded...we used to condemn child castration now we castrate our children....so insane how far things have degraded...😢

[@Jane-rc2rk]

The same is true in the UK. What is going on? Parents aren’t parenting. Society slams the profession. “Those that can, do; those that can’t, teach”. The British press is constantly undermining schools, from tenuous reports about infringement of rules to ungrateful teachers for unwanted gifts to parents objecting to school detentions. Parents come and argue that “my little Johnny wouldn’t do that “ in front of the child. Worse still, the profession is eating itself with teachers being bullied by the management team, experienced teachers placed on capability so that they can be seen to fail “support measures” and therefore managed out … I’ve given up now, after 33 years. It’s no better in private schools either … parents there think that as they pay for an education, that education can be bought; if I was parent of school aged children now I’d pull them out of school. I despair!

[@lindawarner7496]

You are right, but how about bringing God and His absolutes back into our world? Now, everyone gets to choose what is moral or right for himself! 10 Commandments back in schools.

[@Angbwillinspireu]

What do we expect, the parents act feral so the kids, by nature, are wild and untamed-it's the devolutionary turn of Humanity. My heart goes out to teachers.

[@nordictrekkie6447]

The biggest negative change I see in school discipline over the past 60 years (that really nobody in the know really debates) is not that kids and teens misbehave (for, it's true they always have and always will do that) it's that THE PARENTS/GUARDIANS AND THE SCHOOL ADMINISTRATORS NO LONGER SIDE WITH (nor help/lead) THE TEACHERS in trying to CORRECT student misbehavior when it occurs like they once did. Instead, too many parents today are too lazy, too self-absorbed, too narcissistic, or just simply too drug-addicted themselves to face or even care when their child has behavior issues. And the administrators are so frightened of these dysfunctional parents and their attorneys, that sadly, all too often, the school administration usually sides with the psycho parent against the teacher, to keep from getting sued and lose their chance to get promoted someday to the happy hunting-ground known as the "central office.". This was rare 60 years ago, but has increasingly become the norm. So, the poor teacher is now too often forced to parent, teach, and discipline the child WITHOUT THE POWER TO DO ANY OF THE THREE effectively. So, of course they quit. What the hell else can they do in a society that no longer has the resolve and love of truth necessary to completely commit to success any more? You end up creating a nation filled with lazy, manipulative, self-destructive sycophants and bureaucrats rather than one filled with virtuous leaders and competent and responsible tradesmen who take pride in themselves, their craft, and the strength and success of their community. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. And that hand needs to work WITH the teacher in helping to socialize and instruct the child, not indulge and ignore the child.

[@onahamilt2907]

AMEN.

[@jittmet7766]

This was happening in the 1960s. So much for progress.

[@nordictrekkie6447]

Yes. It kinda began after WWII, but really took off in the 1960's. It's a part of the slow decline of traditional Western values (and corresponding increase in drug use/abuse) in the West that began after WWII and has accelerated exponentially since. And Interestingly also coincides perfectly with the decline in regular church attendance in America that began around 1958. And yes, I was trained to be a history teacher, an impossible task in this past 30+ years of WOKE, sadly.@@jittmet7766

[@shadyfox1758]

You've made some points about American schools. However, most would very reasonably argue that the turning point occured when they made teachers government workers and not subject to parental/community disapproval. Which led to another crucial point ->allowing government workers to unionize. Which led to another crucial point => admitting school administration to the teachers union. There was civil war in the schools between admin and teachers. Guess who won (admittedly so far)? Give u a hint-it wasn't the teacher. TIP: Always follow the money; parents stopped caring once they did. The school (teacher and admin) and unions broke trust with parents decades ago by saying that they could be better parents and also by involving government and law enforcement. There were exceptions, but-you know. Parents are forced out of most school actions and activities-outright not informed-, especially those in lower economic situations. Parents are threatened with jailtime and forced child removal if they do not cease teaching their child their values-you know, because the school knows better. Remember those school and class bulletins that used to be sent to homes on the regular; they have been gone for a long time. Attentive parents have to literally hunt for information about what is going on in their childrens school environments-on a weekly basis. It's like pulling teeth.

[@nordictrekkie6447]

Yes, I would not disagree with your observation. There are indeed contributing sins in both camps, governmental and popular. And as in most any such feedback loop, it quickly becomes difficult to tell the chicken from the egg as to who is the most guilty. And so that fact quickly becomes practically irrelevant. For they both soon just feed off of each other's actions for excuses to continue their own agendas. But education, as a manipulative tool of a centralized, imperialistic government (for the task, originally, in our case, of pacification of dissidents like Anti-Federalists/ex-Confederates and Native Americans), was a major motivator behind the creation of the universal "free" public education, in the first place, after the end of the American Civil War. Public education in this country really was a result of post Civil War reconstruction policies in both North and South to foster a common set of political ideals and beliefs, coast to coast, as much as it was to meet the needs and desires of a newly industrialized society for literate laborers. Public schooling, as it has unfolded, IS a governing tool, and was essentially birthed as such in the 1870's. And I think it continues to be so now, more than ever. In fact, it seems, at least, nowadays teaching compliance to ever-shifting political agendas has, unabashedly, in some places, taken a priority over teaching life skills in not just the public schools, but, sadly, in the government funded universities as well. If this continues, it will be the undoing of both. For it's causing the American public, to the disbelief of my 56 year old, university educated mind (along with a collapsing standard of living), to finally lose faith in popular education as a positive personal and social good. That's unprecedented! And they are losing that faith at an amazingly fast pace. This is a fundamental shift in basic American values and it has occurred in just the past decade. It reminds me of how the French abandoned the Roman Catholic Church right before and during the French Revolution, because it had become the justifying tool of the oppressive government the People had then decided to remove. Ominous, perhaps. ??? Thank you for your prescient observations. @@shadyfox1758

[@BIade1]

Something we have to understand, is that with the rise of "good vibe parents"/absent parents and the rise of social medias that allow children to post content, we are allowing and encouraging children to raise children.

[@Allycat_8702]

Respect to ALL teachers because kids these days are horrible. I cannot imagine wat you'all go through. We thank u for ur service❤

[@DandLucy]

I'm no teacher- but I run an upscale boutique that is (sadly) very near a high school and middle school. The students are allowed to come to our shopping center for lunch. They're loud, they're sloppy and leave trash, throw food and drinks at each other or just at the wall. They're clueless- they block doorways or just stand in the road blocking cars. If you ask them to move they fly off the handle. We've had them throw their lunch at our windows then call their parent to come buy then new lunch and the parents DID IT ( this happend twice. Parent came in and apologized while their kid was outside eating the 2nd lunch...) no disciple from ANYONE. One boy actually grabbed a womans rear end in the parking lot, his friends filmed and posted it- still no repercussions. It really is gross. I feel for teachers 😢

[@Coco-lz4gg]

School libraries in my district stopped charging book fines years ago. It was one of the reasons that contributed to me quitting my job in 2022. It's a lot of work cataloging, repairing, and curating a balanced library when you have to buy the same books over and over and deal with the frustrations that other kids have when these books never come back for them to check out. The district librarian told us we could no longer require fines to be paid. The same was true for $500 iPads and replacement charging cords. When you're the one responsible for repairing and keeping an inventory of these for 600+ students it gets tiring. When do you have time to do your actual job?

[@AngelChristinaaa]

My daughter made the cheer team and one of the songs they used for half time was Doja Cat “Paint the town red” with no words bleeped. So glad we moved and now she’s in a much much better school. As a parent I can concur on everything ur saying. You’re the reason I moved my family away from a school environment we were in. Where the entire 2nd grade teacher mass quit and the remaining had no support from the higher up’s. It’s the parents, it’s societal culture that is leading this pandemic of the downfall of education.

[@julicrestani]

Teachers, I am so sorry to hear those huge problems and horrible situations you all are having in those recent years. 😢 I am a young mom, my son is 7yo and is attending a Waldorf school. There, they learn a lot about respecting teachers and others. We, as parents, are strongly involved during the daily activities at school. I am totally involved with group reading and cooking for the children. I know it is a diferent kind of school, but I believe that the connection between family and teacher is essential to keep the discipline and the respect (from both sides). I am really sad to see teachers being treated badly. We are so grateful for all teachers involved in our son’s journey. I hope the situation in other schools change in the future. ❤

[@abbiegibbs1785]

People are allowing their children to be brought up by strangers on the internet. It’s easier to throw an iPad or iPhone at the kid than it is to actually parent them. I’m not an ogre, I’ve never screamed at or hit my children, but they absolutely know what is expected of them. They are genuinely happier knowing the boundaries and we often get compliments from their teachers, friends and family (and even strangers sometimes) on their manners and behaviour.

[@MichelleGayScienceTeacher]

I have to agree with you. I travel for my job and I see all the time how the children are telling the parents what to do and they do it. So sad.

[@mikenixon2401]

I was a child in the 1950s and early 1960s. I just realize why people think of those days as ideal. Because our parents disciplined us. We were raised knowing our actions had consequences even in schools. Yes, bring back the board of education to put against the seat of learning when needed.

[@traestephens1890]

I graduated high school in 1996 and I can tell you it is not always been this way. In a class of 1000 I think there may have been 5 bullies total. And even they wouldn't dare talk back to a teacher. However when I was in school if you got out of line they could bust your butt with a paddle. And they would! So no it's not always been this way.

[@joziah7128]

Kids have not always been like this, these kids are demonic now a days. I used to want to be a teacher because I loved my teachers growing up and I believe it is one of the most underrated, undervalued and unappreciated careers now a days. Until I met these new age modern kids, they are definitely mean and believe they can do whatever they want. It's odd because it changed so fast, as a child I was disciplined to the point of being traumatized from abuse. Where as now a days these children barely can be yelled at.

[@jessitap11]

Its almost like a reaction to our childhoods - not wanting our kids to have the same childhood trauma. But that just messes them up as bad, just differently.

[@annar3068]

Demonic is totally correct. These kids are full of demons and instead of the gospel getting preached to them by parents, and then parents leading their kids into deliverance and commanding the demons to leave in Jesus name; parents stay rebellious and throw media on their kids to parent them. But then again, a lot of parents keep things like porn, witchcraft, and violence in their homes. Cleaning up ones soul starts at home/church, the school cant solve this.

[@vladimirofsvalbard9477]

Well, to be fair, they are being neglected. They still get yelled at, but there is absolutely no relationship between parent and child. "Here's an iPad; go away!"

[@b.j4348]

​@@vladimirofsvalbard9477I was born in 96 at 8 years old gifted a TV / PC Access and ignored completely BPD OCD ADHD PTSD etc it's really tough when you realise you don't know healthy relationships cause youve never had one. Can't learn what I don't know I didn't know. 27 struggling hard

[@vladimirofsvalbard9477]

@@b.j4348 I was born in 94'. I truly feel like a dodged a bullet. I got the wife and house in 2020 and I truly feel for younger people. First, I would really try to limit screen time. I don't type much anymore, but I try to simply listen to the material I select. Second, please don't go down the pharmaceutical route. Try a series of supplements that can really aid with anxiety, depression, etc. I would recommend (Neuro mag - Magnesium L Threonate) and (Ashwaghanda). Magnesium L-Threonate is a essential mineral that crosses the blood brain barrier and basically relaxes the nerves. Ashwaghanda is a Chinese root that reduces cortisol production in the body. Effectively taking any major 'edge' off and reducing anxiety. I take one of each every single day; makes a mega difference. No depression, no anxiety, and better focus. As for jobs, maybe go get a CDL-A. I worked for Anheuser Busch a few years back and they paid me $69,000 starting running a day-cab in Ohio. That same job pays $85,000 now. A good starter gig!

[@Uncle-Ruckus-]

My wife has an amazingly big heart and in a lot of ways, I'm jealous of her for it. That said, the other day, I had to explain to an almost forty year old woman why not every emotion someone has is valid. This is ESPECIALLY true with kids because they often don't know why they're even having the emotion, much less how to rationalize it. Kids need "no" like a horse needs reins.

[@TT-xz5sy]

Children will unalive their parents for saying “NO” these days.

[@emalynicole1006]

I say no all the time, especially to my step daughter because no one else will say it. I love saying no to her. I know it’s good for her too and I’ve heard her say she will kill or hit people for saying no to her. She doesn’t say that to me because I do not take shit.

[@elisabethjo]

I can only partly agree with you - having emotions is normal and se should teach our kids that they shouldn't beat themselves up for feeling disappointed or angry sometimes, as those feelings carry important information and constantly ignoring them and saying the emotion is "not valid" will make them mentally unwell. The bid thing is DEALING with negative emotions, and that is where some kids have serious problems. It is completely valid to be disappointed when you have to stop playing and go to bed for example, but screaming and throwing stuff is not a good way to express the emotion and deal with it. Also, dealing with emotions means not making others responsible for regulating them - that is the parents' job to teach a child how to regulate emotions, and later it is the responsibility of oneself to regulate feelings and deal with triggers, because it's simply impossible for the outside world to cater to all different people. So, NO, feelings are always valid, but YES, how we deal with them is not always the right way.

[@paulaplantita8458]

Invalidating a child's emotion will only exacerbate the situation. Validating is quite different from enabling. You can validate their feelings AND discipline at the same time (ie say no and STICK TO IT).

[@Uncle-Ruckus-]

@@paulaplantita8458 If someone thinks they have a winning lottery ticket and I point out it isn't, am I "invalidating" their happiness or was the emotion invalid to begin with? Not every emotion you have is valid, just like not every thought that crosses your mind is correct. If you can't deal with someone pointing this out, then you're WEAK.

[@joancross6473]

Yes! Well said! Thanks for speaking the truth. I left teaching at the end of the school year 2023. I have a commercial driver license and I completely changed my career to driving large vehicles. I never thought I would leave teaching but I am SO much healthier and happy. Your videos are helping me heal.

[@user-xr8zw2cm5i]

I'm loving these videos. I subscribed. My daughter is 6 y.o. and is very strong willed, not intimidated by adults or by anyone. Upon seeing this early on, I realized this can go left or right. I taught her to respect her teacher. I work with her teacher and her teacher loves her, tells me she's very diligent and sees her peers talking and she stays (on task). That's because I put the time in. Also, my daughter doesn't watch TV or music videos. We go out her dad takes her out and does valuable activities with her. And I monitor her on her iPad. A lot depends on what parents have in their home, and what they expose their kids to.

[@jaminschmitt]

TikTok challenge in destroying bathrooms resulted in almost every boys bathroom being locked. Student boys that needed to use the bathroom had to walk all the way to the other side of the school to find one that wasn’t locked. So rather than giving guilty students consequences everyone suffering was the solution in hopes that peer pressure from fellow classmates would help.

[@Darth_Bateman]

Bro , China is laughing their asses off. Their trick worked way too well.

[@07Flash11MRC]

The exact same thing happened in the school I taught. I had a bad feeling that destroying bathrooms had something to do with students challenging each other, but I had no idea it was a global phenomenon thanks to social media.

[@kris78787]

@@07Flash11MRC I'm a music teacher and they destroy instruments also. I've had to take several of my instruments away from the students for the entire year because they think it's funny to destroy school property

[@07Flash11MRC]

@@kris78787 Gosh, that really sucks. I'm so sorry. I was an English as a third language teacher, so this behavior didn't necesarily have an impact on me personally.

[@kris78787]

​@@07Flash11MRC yep it's so ridiculous and sad. They broke 2 of my marimbas and then wonder why we can't do anything fun anymore in music.

[@diadurrance6281]

Wow. You really hit the nail on the head. I have been retired from teaching for many years now, but I have to say that my fellow teachers and I saw this coming 25 years ago. If children run the show at home, they will be uncontrollable at school. I'm seeing this with my own grandchildren which is heartbreaking for me.

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

Your not alone in this. A friend has regretfully confided in me that she and her husband dread having their grandchildren visit bc they are so out of control. She feels guilty but can't take the stress.

[@earthstar7534]

My mother in law lives with us, we run a very tight ship and our kids are homeschooled/ co-op taught in offline setting except to a technology literacy course they get in the co-op. She has literally cried about how she struggles to have meaningful relationships with her other grandchildren because they are so wild.

[@earthstar7534]

@bluemarble46 I don't know, my brother in law is deployed with the Army 6 months a year and his Ex wife has been married and divorced 3 times since that I know of. We still have the boys come stay with us a few times a year, but unfortunately my husband has to take time off work to be home because the older boy who is 12 will beat the stuffing out of my mother in law and I. I think it has a lot to do with technology addiction withdrawal and sugar withdrawal. My children are 9 they have zero internet access not even streaming. No tablets or anything. They have a switch and a Playlist of movies and TV shows we curated but they have to finish their daily responsibilities and have eaten 3 meals in peace before they get it. We pick up their ipads and phones when they arrive because I don't play those games. Some stuff can't be unseen. The boys are 3, 6 and 12 all 3 have a phone and iPad that's completely open like wild west open. Last time they were with us was because their step father had done something to the middle boy and the children couldn't be in the home with them and their mother wasn't going to make him leave so they were sent to us while the courts handled the case. Ipads made neglectful parenting socially acceptable. My ex sister in law was at one time my friend, its how she met my husband's brother. She is often uplifted for putting herself and her "mental health" first. Its weird times we live in. I love my nephews and want the best for them, but I regret introducing her into my family. My brother in law is in the Mediterranean right now. He will be deployed for a year. Think if the boys are here longer than a few week this time we can actually help them. As of now I'm homeschooling them with no co-op classes because I can't trust them not to hit. I can't do that to the other kids who go there. It's very stressful because the oldest boy is bigger and taller than me and has punched me to get his way before. Sadly, I don't know how to fix that other than make sure he never gets his way through violence. It's very late in the game to be introducing discipline and boundaries though. He's already watching p*rn and the crazy violent stuff too. We went through his phone when he got here because we took it and his history was crazy.... nauseating... frightening. I don't even know if trying a mental health care facility could help him anymore. 12 is still just a baby.

[@heatherwarner2603]

My daughter is 5 and just started school . Public school has ruined her , she’s brought home some awful behaviors . I am really thinking about homeschooling . These parents need to handle their kids !

[@vickysplayreadings9584]

Thank you for speaking the truth on this public platform.Teachers have been silenced for so long and made to feel guilty if not responsible. Regarding student behavior in the classrooms. This has been going on for decades, but in recent years it has been so bad that teachers have been leaving the profession in droves. People have no idea what classrooms are like these days, particularly parents who believe that their angelic child is not exposed or part of what's happening in classrooms today. It's a real problem in this country and it needs to be addressed because it is and will continue to have a lasting effect.

[@user-wi8zg2ln2j]

i’m a swim instructor and these kids bring their rudeness to the pool 🏊 n front of the parents! i quit that job and just did life guarding

[@carltoncoleman454]

As someone with major depression and panic disorder, I know that I would have a nervous breakdown dealing with today's kids in the classroom. That's the reason why I initially accepted a high school math teacher position at an alternative learning school to never have met the employer to fill out paperwork which led to the offer being rescinded. My coworker accepted a position with that same school a year later as a counselor/registrar and she did not last a year. She ended up being terminated and the turnover for teachers at the school was almost 100%. I dodged a bullet!

[@stephaniewillis5500]

I planned to teach into my 60s but retired as soon as I reached the age plus years of service for full retirement. So I left the classroom after 29 years at age 51. I walked away from my dream job teaching 8th grade US history. I was at the top of my game, but physically and mentally I knew I couldn’t sustain what it took for success in the classroom. When school started August 2019, I already knew that would be my last year. I turned in resignation in January 2020. The pandemic hit, and I didn’t return to the classroom after spring break. I finished the year remotely, which was fine with me; my students were already experts at Google Classroom. Retirement is absolutely wonderful. I wanted to see what working in the real world is like so I got the neatest job with Amazon. Anyway…to those brave souls in the classroom trenches, I feel ya. You’re my people. I should still be in the classroom with you cuz I could teach the hell out of US history, but I just couldn’t do it anymore.

[@EVIESECOND]

From the time I began teaching until the time I retired, the students had completely changed. No consequences for bad behavior had the inmates running the asylum.

[@rebeccaa2433]

You have to ask yourself why aren’t their consequences for bad behavior? It’s all being done on purpose.

[@cindy2418]

If a parent disciplines the kids can report them to the school.

[@sherryburton7644]

I think they are getting the private prisons ready. Parents better wake up.

[@maritamuras8978]

I feel like administrators are afraid of getting sued or maybe of being in the wrong. What are your thoughts? Idk maybe there is some sort of mass conspiracy to get people to act badly as kids and then as adults to control society and get them to be dependent on the government. Sounds crazy but a lot of things in the past few years have been deemed crazy and later turned out to be true.

[@dr.strangelove5708]

@@sherryburton7644 I knew prison was in the mix but when you said private prison well that is motive.

[@Visitkarte]

@@cindy2418 You are mistaking abuse for “discipline”. That’s not how you raise decent children.

[@projectalice8119]

I cannot even fathom what it is like to be a teacher now. I’m surprised that there’s anyone even getting degrees in education at this point.

[@07Flash11MRC]

"getting degrees in education at this point": I think a lot still get degrees because they either have no idea what teaching is really like (these days) or they believe the lies that are being told about teachers being bad human beings and nothing being the children or the parents' fault.

[@hannaheye]

They often don't put you in a classroom until they've wasted years of your life and thousands of dollars. It's almost hilarious. If you want to be a teacher, just go sit in on a classroom for a day before you join a program!!!

[@Pterodactyl-kn3ve]

Being a teacher sounds like slow su!cid€.

[@BeMoreMd]

I am a Sub at an elementary school and live in the state where the teacher was shot by the 6 yr old student. Schools are such a hot mess it's unbelievable. My 10 yr old wants to be a teacher and hopefully she chooses another career path when it's time.

[@lisaupdyke6844]

I have my bachelors in secondary education, math, from the late 80’s. I wanted to be a teacher since I was five years old. I subbed in 5 local school districts for 4 years. Even in the early 90’s, student behavior was becoming difficult. I told myself that if I ever had children, I would not want them in the schools. I could not bring myself to apply for a permanent position teaching at the time. I just could not bring myself to do it. Later, I became a mom and I homeschooled my daughters all the way through 12th grade. They are now successful college students. It was very fulfilling. My daughters were in dance and sports. The behavior of their teammates was awful at times. I could not go into teaching today. I cannot imagine it. It is very sad and breaks my heart. Our society is a mess.

[@missmahnee]

You made such an important statement. These devices are extremely modern, perhaps slightly more than 10 years since we’ve had ubiquitous machine “friends”. It will take the PhD theses decades from now to truly understand what this means to the brain. They should immediately scan gen xers who did not develop with social media, before the dementia kicks in, and have it as control or comparison.

[@innocentnemesis3519]

Nah, Gen X and Boomers are just as addicted to smartphones and iPads as everyone else is. Why do you think Facebook became such a hot spot for right wingers and conspiracy theorists?

[@DepDawg]

That would make a great study

[@darlingdeb7010]

I fully support this!

[@RealDevastatia]

Funny how it takes Ph.D.s decades to learn things that are common sense to the average person, isn't it?

[@dr.kekyll2244]

@@RealDevastatia interesting. it's such common sense that no one gives their kids cell phones, right?

[@annetteellis2788]

I used to want to be a math tutor when I retired. Now? No way. I’m so thankful I grew up before social media.

[@rebeccaa2433]

You could really help a child working one on one with them, those seeking tutoring are often good kids. There are still a lot of good kids out there that get lumped in with some bad ones. It’s up to us to foster the ones who deserve and want to succeed.

[@AlysN1dr]

When you talk about "Good Vibes Parenting" it reminded me of a style of parenting in the late 80s - following the psychology of Alfred Adler - " Based on Adler’s theory, every person is an individual who was created in early childhood, by his or her early life experiences, which are made up of his or her relationships within the family. Adler thought that a misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Instead of trying to put pressure on the child to change their undesired behavior, you should help them feel valued, competent, and special." ...that is one snippet. My sister had a friend who adopted this style of parenting - she let her young daughter wear shoes that were too small for her feet bc she liked them, she let another child of hers wear sandals in the winter, again, bc she wanted to ... the idea was that the child would realize her toes were freezing and maybe choose to wear appropriate footwear the next day. Did the child resolve the problem on her own? Hell no!! So, the Adlerian method of parenting is now called ''good vibes" - my only response to that is what world are we living in??? Not disagreeing with the presenter teacher, but, you do know there was a yesterday that wasn't either centuries old or 60 years for that matter - so, same problem, different name.

[@vinauttv7167]

If you aren’t telling the truth about this! I’ve always said our kids are bad because school leaders are enabling the parents to be bad. Teachers’ hands are tied behind their backs and the kids run the schools. My wife works at a so-called “Christian” daycare and she can tell you some stories.

[@markholmphotography]

No surprise, two years ago, I was talking to an elementary school teacher at lunch. She said it was impossible to teach children because she is so busy dealing with child behavior, she can’t teach. Anyway this is a horrible trend that needs to change - but you do have to have the help of parents. And what makes me sad is I’ve seen it in my wife’s side of the family. The grandchildren of her son are horrid. Now her son tries to keep a lid on things but his ex wife - who is a very nice person and will help out BUT she lets her children do whatever they want. She treats them like adult friends not her children. They’re ( grandchildren) get tons of toys. They get more toys in a week than I got all year long as a child.

[@07Flash11MRC]

"She said it was impossible to teach children because she is so busy dealing with child behavior, she can’t teach.": I feel the same way. Parents expect teachers to raise their kids, but then complain that there is rarely any actual teaching happening.

[@kris78787]

@@07Flash11MRC same here, I teach elementary specials all grades. The kids attitudes are so awful. They talk back to you, are lazy, and complain about everything. There are only about 30% of the kids in each of my classes that are polite and well behaved. I feel so sorry for them that their education is getting ruined by these other disrespectful, out of control kids.

[@ednanieves8572]

Thank you my dear, retired teacher here. So refreshing to see a young intelligent teacher expressing what so many of us old fogies felt and were not able to say it.

[@miss-nomer]

You end on the note that we’ve got to do something about it. I would love to see a video where you address parents specifically and share your suggestions on how they can curb this awful behavior, especially since schools do nothing to stop it and peer pressure makes kids act out too.

[@user-cn3cb6sy5y]

I began subbing in 2020. Our school district needed subs during the pandemic, and my normal job had Fridays off. I decided to work at my son's junior high. What an eye-opening experience! If every parent could see what is happening daily, they would be astonished. It is exactly like you mentioned, and I see it only getting worse. I live in an affluent neighborhood where many parents don't believe their children are capable of these behaviors. Thank you for sharing your experiences....I share your videos with other parents because you articulate it so much better than I do.

[@gretchenthreet6750]

These trends started in the 1990's. The comment about a bad job consisting of a combination of high responsibility and low power really resonated with me. I experienced too many times being told to make the kids follow the rules, but if a kid chose to challenge my "authority", and if I did or said anything the kid didn't like, I was cast as the abusive monster, and the kid was treated like a victim whose self-esteem was under attack.

[@richardbulzacchelli6985]

At 15:40 she makes a point I stress very strongly in my own teaching when I discuss the principle of "subsidiarity." I point out that it's unjust, and an offense against human dignity, to assign responsibility without also granting the corresponding and proportionate responsibility over the same arena of action. And she's exactly right that that's exactly what tends to happen in the teaching profession today. Teachers have very little authority and a huge amount of responsibility. My experience teaching at the college level is quite different (still . . . for now?) but at the secondary level I would say that teachers should be regarded as being on the bottom side of a tremendous power imbalance. The students have more power than the teacher does, and there's a whole room full of them. In any other setting, the treatment to which teachers are often subject at the hands of their students would be classified as harassment, and we would take legal action to stop it. But teachers have only one recourse: to find a different job.

[@danelicker317]

I was a school kid back in the 1980s, and I'll never forget this one incident. I had an old lady teacher who was very shy and timid, and the kids thought they could screw off in her class. But one time, the class got so rowdy and out of control that she called the gym teacher. He came into the room, and she told him all the kids that were causing trouble, and he told us all to follow him. He took us to his office and had us line up by the door, and he took us in one at a time. When it was my turn, he made me put on a football helmet so my head wouldn't slam into the lockers. He then made me empty my pockets and grab my ankles. Then he took a paddle and whacked me in the back of the leg, and it stung like hell. When we all got our swat, he made us sign a book so that if we were called in again, we"d get 2 swats, and the number would keep increasing for each time. The lady never had a problem in her class again.

[@Missyb9497]

I work in a middle school and I see all these awful behaviors that you're describing. I have talked to the teacher I work under and I said that if there is no discipline or repercussions for their behavior, then the parents should have to pay for their child to go to an alternative school where they get the help they need to turn their behavior around and also therapy for the family so they can know how to raise their children. They need to teach their children right from wrong and they have to work hard to get the grades to pass. Unfortunately in our middle school and apparently a lot of schools, we just keep pushing them on even though they do NO WORK! I also feel that if they can't pass the grade that they're in, they have to do summer school, paid by the parents, or repeat the grade. I feel like if the behavior is bad enough and they're in middle school and high school, then their parents should pay for boot camp for their child and the parents have to go to parenting classes so they know how to raise their child. I know I'm going to get flack for this but honestly I'm so tired of the behaviors and no consequences for the kids. I'm honestly looking for another job because I'm so tired of the behaviors with absolutely no consequences. We need to change this around now before we have a generation of entitled adults that will do absolutely no work and expect anything and everything!! Also we need God and Jesus in our hearts, minds, words, and actions. I really think a lot of these kids aren't raised with a good foundation of morals. They're all about what they can get for themselves.

[@shawnahall7246]

Been saying what you said boot camp !!!

[@ace6285]

Communism in the near future

[@milaalt1141]

We were made to take a class on how to be more loving to the students. As I sat there I started thinking, "Wait a minute! Isn't this the job of the parents to teach their kids how to regulate their emotions?" Yes, we do need to keep it up but to be the first people to teach them?

[@rapunzelz5520]

This is why I am afraid of the state eventually taking over everything when it comes to kids. Remember Arne Duncan saying that schools should be open 12 to 14 hrs a day and 6 or 7 days a week.? A LOT of parents would be thrilled to have the state babysit and raise their kids. But some of us remember where that leads.

[@sorbabaric1]

What does love have to do with teaching ? And “unconditional love” is the excuse people use to abuse their family members and others, be mean, lazy, make bad decisions (over and over), and then say “but you’re supposed to allow my bad behavior to “accept me as I am” and “love me unconditionally “. As they use their family as their free maid, cook, chauffeur, and verbal and often physical punching bags.

[@AJ-oo9ck]

This is happening in juvenile detention centers also. Imagine being told to use "soft words" and maybe offer a massage ( I kid you not) to "kids" who are in lock up for rape and murder! We have a SERIOUS problem on our hands.

[@shadyfox1758]

Umm....parents aren't requiring you to do this. Please stop blaming them and take a look at your extremely overpaid administrators. You know, the administrators who receive and spend most of your funding and who are also a part of your union.

[@larryc8348]

"This system is unsustainable." Yes. That's what we teachers said daily, during my one-and-done year of teaching (2020-21!) And now we're seeing the fallout from it as these kids enter the workforce. A friend of mine manages a nice business. She told me the Gen Zers she hires are unable to focus, can't put down their phones, expect to be paid high salaries without having to earn them, and have an overwhelming sense of entitlement. What, exactly, are the companies of today and tomorrow going to do?

[@ChloesColdEars111]

When I was in school, in the mid 90's, it was actually the cool thing to be respectful to the teachers and staff, it was considered intelligent, mature, and admirable to be a kind, courteous, respectful young adult and to help others when needed, and I in turn, taught this to my own kids when I had them. We had those few that were nightmares, that didnt listen, that were violent, that didnt even show up most times, but they were disrespected by the others, they were looked down upon and treated like they treated others. I lived in an average city in Florida, it wasnt the same in other schools n our city however, it just seemed to be this way in the school I attended. I was very lucky, but I didnt finish, I quit and got my GED. I lived too far from the school and had some abrupt family issues that made it impossible at times to get to school and other times easier to skip, since I had no parents to guide me. I was on y own with my older brother who was a year older, we were 14 and 15 at the time my mom left but we still were good people, we still showed respect. I noticed once kids started calling child protective services on their parents after getting spanked, the parents became afraid to discipline them and it only got worse over time. Today, parents are giving their kids everything they want, no discipline at all, no repercussions for their actions, and if parents try to step up and hold the kids accountable, they get in trouble, so theyve become lazy parents who spoil the kids and dont seem to care what they do, as long as they are not crying or making the parents lives difficult, the parents are content with that. They think the kids will just learn to be a decent human being out of thin air when they need to be taught by example, they need to be raised seeing their parents be good people, saying please and thank you, helping others, showing respect, etc, or they will never do it themselves when they grow up their kids will be the same way, and I fear for these few good kids when they are grown up and living in a country full of bad selfish nasty entitled pricks