The Art of Jewish Parenting | Raphael Genis | TEDxLingnanUniversitySalon

“A road for Happiness passes through self fulfilment”
Raphael introduces us to an innovative take on education. Bringing a new mindset to Chinese parents to help them provide their children with a healthier and happier environment to grow and flourish.
In 2015 Raphael launched Genis & Genius (G&G), aiming to build upon 2000 years of Jewish traditional educational mindset and wisdom, to expose Chinese parents into a new and innovative method to educate and raise their children at home. As so Chinese parents will be able to fuse together traditional values with innovative mindset to provide their children with a healthier and happier environment to grow and flourish.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@watchman35]

"Being a person of values is more important than being a person of success. Because values remain while success can disappear."

[@rafagenis1258]

This is what many people don't manage to understand

[@AV-sc7oh]

how true is that.

[@noname-zd6wu]

Yesss ! ❤

[@nepathyagurung]

Well said

[@morehn]

The difficulty is in applying that principle. It's easy to stick to values espoused and reiterated by the same group of people. It's much harder if you think that values could change, in principle, based on the culture around you. In Judaism, you can find values articulated and written down, analyzed, scrutinized, and preserved through peer pressure from the leaders to follow their lead. Where else can you find that? The average way to live is to live to enjoy yourself. It's very hard to live based on static values.

[@skim4264]

"The child needs three things - self acceptance, family acceptance, social acceptance." I had none of those three things..

[@Mr_M.]

Me neither

[@ringostarrs3rdwifeyxoxo869]

You can both find happiness within yourselves now.

[@gloryofthemessiah8771]

The acceptance of the Lord Jesus will cover all kinds of acceptances if you don't get them from a family, a work, a society...

[@funnypie7274]

You are socially accepted

[@rightisalwaysright4315]

@@gloryofthemessiah8771 keep Christ to urself

[@JESUSSavesWAKEUP]

It’s all about sense of belonging, purpose and community.

[@barnabydinosaurroadsafetyp3457]

self-importance beats love - indeed

[@JESUSSavesWAKEUP]

@@barnabydinosaurroadsafetyp3457 i do not agree

[@TheRachel145]

This was such an interesting and meaningful topic presented in such an enjoyable way! I want to hear more presentations from you!

[@kamranhanif2836]

u are preety

[@TheNoblot]

poetic . you are poetic.

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

5:03 is sadly relatable because a lot of cultures are honor based rather than value based... meaning values (such as happiness) are a means to an end, that end being honor...

[@salauddeensyed5295]

What a wonderful discourse ... I wish I heard this forty years ago. Thank you so much Sir. By the way I am 63.

[@rafagenis1258]

Thank you for your feedback

[@GrowthWisdomKnowledge]

Live in present ,that's it

[@ringostarrs3rdwifeyxoxo869]

Beautiful thank you for sharing.

[@MalistaChristy]

Thank you so much Mr. Raphael for the lesson! As a overseas chinese and a christian, this is exactly what i thought about the contrast between chinese culture and bible culture..jewish culture is Torah-centered..and i believe that it is the core reason why the method works! This video is gold. Thank you!

[@bengiarelum1418]

I genuinely loved your presentation❤

[@sagarkarhana3328]

Good & comprehensive video to know about child upbringing & real values of life. Thanks speaker 🔊 😃👍👍👍

[@36126128]

Indeed happiness breeds success not the other way round.

[@ten-ub4xd]

It's all about offering value, learn the skills necessary to make you indispensable and your never be poor

[@aman-tigray]

What a great PRESENTATION!!!

[@angelinagolosova8323]

Got straight to my heart - thank you very much! ברוך השם

[@kimilala1000]

Very good video Loved it !!!

[@jenithjohn6018]

well said...looking inside is the way to happiness...then all comes😊😊

[@Music-qm4pw]

Great speech! Hello from Uyghur to Jewish people!!!!

[@creestee08]

hows the reeducational camps going?

[@waseemahmed7919]

WoW , learnt a lot

[@GD01]

Love this!!!

[@w.t.fpipedreamwithhopefull5538]

Bad sound,Bad lighting... Should have opened with better information to grab audience.

[@eurofoot1519]

So nice.

[@CLIPNOVA]

Nice words

[@guardianGod009]

When he said that "in china a child is an investment" at 10:45. It hurts because most indian parents are same. the most depressing part is comparision with other children whose grades are good then yours... it get to a point where everyone is better than their own child. Comparision destroy child mental strength as he/she feel that may be fault lies within me....this types of feeling destroy child confident and he/she feel that no need to learn new things as i am doom to fail in it.

[@zark1688]

Stating Facts

[@zark1688]

Talking Out of Experience aren't we.

[@orangutangetiquette8962]

The sound is so awful it was imposible for me to get through this one

[@infavorofdemocracy5770]

Can any Jewish person verify if this is true? I’m Chinese but I don’t agree with everything he says; it’s quite biased. Our children are loved, cared for, and taught to be compassionate and emphatic. At least that’s what my family taught me.

[@Artistofun]

You'll never validate or refute such a wide arguments. You'll always find positive and negative examples of families for each of his point in any country and culture. From my experience what he is presenting as "jewish style" is an idealized picture of "how would ideal modern israeli parents raise their children".

[@ic9135]

As someone who is Jewish, I can absolutely verify that he is speaking the truth. Jewish values are drilled into Jewish children from a very young age. All of our values come from the torah and traditions including those which he speak of here.

[@streetscienceofficial8675]

You're Communist china no one trust you in America 🤣😂🤣 Komunist China is real suspicious agenda

[@mutualinduction139]

@@ic9135 how Zionist mentality ingrained

[@LehrBros]

Interesting!

[@nowtimesentertainment168]

one of the best videos on the internet

[@tinathompson683]

That voice.

[@shashwatarora4903]

3 idiots nahi dekhe kaa?

[@prabhattripathi4718]

Great lot to learn from it !!!!!

[@rafagenis1258]

Thank you...

[@morehn]

I was going to comment that this gentile did a looooot of research to be so on target but then he said he was Jewish, so it brought a smile to my face. He's on target. Funny accent. Sounds like a mixture of a few languages.

[@es8560]

Thank you for sharing the message, “ Happiness brings success.” => Message received ❤ Do what you love, love what you do!

[@mustafashots]

Bestttttttt talk

[@mehkhasur]

8:46 spot on 👍🏻

[@sabanoughani1624]

Why is he linking it to china so much?

[@gradychristian6414]

This is why i love TED critical thinking, btw im 18 years old XD

[@24.thomasdharmasandy73]

"mental confidence"

[@sakshiyadav304]

He said why we want children me😎single is best 🎉

[@lavlin1]

Hey man...your positive points about Jews were nice..I am an Indian who has some awareness about Chinese...China had a great civilisation...and they have a strong history.....don't undermine them...all are humanzz only who want their kids to be happy...meanwhile I loved ur statement happiness brings success

[@kc-wr1ui]

I love being Jewish

[@mlindalina1]

He wants to learn more so asks his mates and the internet...

[@hyenalaughingmatter8103]

what behind it? I think we all know it

[@Church2Mosque]

I bet everyone minus two would raise hands if he asked "Who has cats or dogs ? "

[@TheAdekrijger]

He is in China they eat those. And if you don't believe me Google it.

[@AmadeuShinChan]

:in the german-language: Mensch-means: person, therefore-nothing, that-one-becomes, but-one-IS-it/Mensch :parent=known, not-verb. :now-let-us-find-the-pokemons-together...

[@evm6177]

My Friend Raphael as an Asian have to admit u speak the facts - The Asians, most African countries, their people, their parents, their very governments are very very different from jews.. we hate our selves and thats why we carelessly over populate just to compete and show off against our egotistical neighbours! why else do u think arranged marriage exists in our part of the world.. we don't marry or have children with a clear future goal about our culture or values, infact our people think even that the choice of when to marry should be dictated and controlled than be a choice of free will or intelligent decision. We want happiness but don't believe in happiness first before success! meaning we are not happy with who we are at a basic level.

[@TheCritic9196]

But what does success mean to you and your culture? to Jews it means cultivation of a good character traits and contributing to the spiritual empowerment of the Jewish community; kindness, piety, righteousness etc

[@preciousbees5721]

Fear of the lord is the beginning of wisdom

[@upscaleavenue]

Fear is never the beginning of wisdom.

[@preciousbees5721]

@@upscaleavenue hallelujah

[@ToTo-fm4qk]

Thank you! I have Chinese parents, they are like this! Throw money at the child and hope for the best

[@Aeric80]

You’re lucky. Have you seen a parent that hope for the best come from the child but not willing to throw money?

[@coolboy5428]

That is god parenting.

[@LogicPak]

Lejacy😂👍🏼

[@yaikss]

I wanna have 1 too.. girls.. do you?

[@slick95112]

Chinese children go through so much psychological torture so sad!

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

Yeah... it's incredible the whole "tiger mom" was a trend at some point; I think that speaks about what people seek and value more in general: success.

[@monkey-trial...6578]

I want to be a Jewish kid! Wahhhhhhhh!! I hate the way I was raised! I was eaised by multi millionaires but they pretty much abandoned me to my own ideas, none of which were influenced by them wen I was young enough for it to do an good. I hate them!

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

At least with what you know now, you can live out and/or pass on... enjoy what you have now because the past is the past 😊

[@sandeepkumarj1641]

Chinese parents are better than Indian parents..😂

[@zark1688]

Yeah. At least the won't Compare you to Other Children Who bring better Grades then you like our parents in IND.

[@TheNoblot]

more news and more* Boeing's reputation has been stained by the 737 Max, and it's going to have to fight to convince people the plane is safe Benjamin Zhang 11 Apr 2019, 13:48

[@conniekor5216]

Hello Raphael, in your speech, you have mentioned that Chinese regard their kids as a kind of investment and cited that “养儿防老”. In my mind, you know some of the Chinese culture and your Chinese seems quite good. However, you maybe misunderstand or miss the vital and core value of the “养儿防老”. It doesn't simply mean that you invest much to your kids in order to get a better return in the future when you are old. You will get a better understanding if you really know the value and meaning of the “孝道”. Which is also very important in your own culture however the Chinese will place it in the number one place. And one more thing, you are not absolutely right is the way Chinese parents give their kids the best teachers, the best courses, the best environment, except the "love". No!! We pay the love and accompany not less than you do, to our kids. Our kids, of course, have their rights to choose, to make decisions. More importantly, we educate them via our actions and daily life. Thank you very much, Raphael! I have got a great learning from your speech.

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

I would love for you to break down those Chinese characters (since I do not know Chinese but would like to engage in the discussion). As far as what you said about paying love, would you say this collectively about the Chinese culture or just your household? I ask because my family is very close to what he described as the Chinese parenting style because it is honor based..

[@rafagenis1258]

Thank you for your kind feedback.... I Just shared my own opinion and perception from what I experience living in China.... Yet If there are some misunderstanding then I am sorry.

[@Schili888]

Scary dude

[@mohammadababneh3893]

Boring and the title is very deceiving, the speaker is merely theorizing without any substantial argument or even logic !

[@simplylife4121]

I did not like it at all. Worst presentation and out of the main topic too ..

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

I found it very on topic... what did you think the topic was?

[@darkcommando2488]

How does this guy is in here? He can't talk at all

[@swalinga1]

A finger pointing at the moon is not the moon...

[@Jelena.Derosa]

Try fixing your grammar before opening your mouth about someone else. And try listening to what he has to say instead of letting his accent interfere, it's very valuable. You will get no where in life doing this.

[@pedrobarbosaduarte3704]

Jews....

[@Dr.Naji.Chakib]

Great.but also teach them not to take other people home land it would be great.

[@shahidrafiquek.1734]

You are so confused dear. You should have some preparation before your presentation.

[@coolboy5428]

They should not be parents.

[@fornow-ru3bt]

who is this guy and what propaganda is he spreading?

[@thread5115]

This is blatant ignorance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Grotesque!! How could TED allow this to be in public circulation?!?!? He speaks to one Chinese Woman or maybe dozens and goes off on that tangent!!!! This is also anti-Semitic because he acts like he knows all Jewish parents.

[@electrizer]

What a waste of 17 minutes, my dear God... :/

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

Not to be rude but how was it a waste of time since you clicked on this video?

[@ryansami3688]

@@parepidemosproductions4741 to call you dense would be an understatement

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

@@ryansami3688 lol I'll take it!

[@axelp6521]

96 chinese parents don't like this video

[@Patriotpak1947]

Waste of time

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

Not to be rude but how was it a waste of time since you clicked on this video?

[@eddiedevriesz]

@@parepidemosproductions4741 let's find the answer together

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

@@eddiedevriesz lol how will we find an answer to someone else's opinion together?

[@eddiedevriesz]

@@parepidemosproductions4741 good question

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

@@eddiedevriesz maybe we start a school?

[@sammysam6210]

WARNING DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME HERE...

[@parepidemosproductions4741]

Not to be rude but how was it a waste of time since you clicked on this video?

[@narendrakarmacharya1564]

Weirdest Ted Talks ever. The guy couldnt justify his topic🥴