Caregiving for family is hard-here's how you can prepare | Grace Cheng | TEDxTinHauWomen

[@novasea3448]

Thank you. I'm a caregiver of my 79 year old mom. It's harder than university, it's harder than my first job, it's harder than my hardest job. And it's more than I expected especially negotiations to get her to go to the doctor with me. "Oh no it's just allergies", she says. Two weeks later after daily pushing we went to the hospital and she had pneumonia. I try and respect her individual wishes but it's getting harder to do that and keep her safe and healthy.

[@PeggyStewart-rv5ff]

I will N-E-V-E-R regret, taking care of my parents when they were struggling at the end of their lives. I was by my beloved Daddy's side, before & during him taking his last breath...it was DIFFICULT....but a blessing. He passed in October, 1995 at the young age of 72.😢 My mom was 12 year's younger than Dad. She passed away in November 2020😢, at 85 year's if age, a week before my 58th birthday. I took, was by her side, as she fell into eternal sleep. I will N-E-V-E-R regret having been there. Thankful to God 🙌 for blessing me with my earthly Dad & Mom. ✝️🙏🥰

[@eileendight5098]

It is very frustrating. I cared for my mother who had dementia until it was unsafe to leave her alone at all and I had to find a residence for her. I wouldn’t want to be a burden like that to my family. I’m 87 and will stay independent as long as possible.

[@novasea3448]

@@eileendight5098 I have the same independent streak. I want to help myself as much in advance too. I hope you have community support too with med appointment transport, food delivery, my brother even picks up my mom's laundry and returns it folded. I still haven't gotten my mom a social worker and she had her mini stroke in 2002. Too many hats to wear not enough emotional reserves to do anything with skill. It's totally reactive now instead of proactive. She thinks an advanced directive would cause her to need it. Which is very superstitious but it's hard to debate with her.

[@breindyweisz35]

Even though my mom was in a rehab the last few months of her life, the caregiving is still demanding. Everyone does what they can was our families motto. She had many medical issues to complicated to be brought home. But I made sure to care for myself and her. I went once a week. I really appreciated you sharing your journey. I feel less alone. Remember, one can only do what they can do not what they can't. Good luck in your parents.

[@almaroberts2933]

That was beautiful ❤️ I'm a caregiver for my family , mom was first, niece was second and now my brother. I am now the age of 67 and it's time for me to be my caregiver for self . I work really hard and I spend a lot of money to keep my health up to par . I do understand that I too can become a patient while caring for my love ones. Thank God I am still vibrant and youthful ❤

[@tabucutie]

This is so valid. It's really hard when the person you need to care for doesn't want to talk about end of life care or preferences. Really appreciate you sharing.

[@StaceyShaf]

Thank you for sharing your difficult & beautiful journey.

[@littlecherryful]

Being a career isn’t a choice , society doesn’t really help or understand. It’s always down to the women in any society .

[@vickimatthis6527]

Im care giving fo my pet cat. He is my only family. No he is not a human but a living soul . It's not easy. It's very expensive. But this is a true test of what we can do as humans . Compassion , Care , patience , Real Love. Thank you for being a strong women for your family

[@Prodigious1One]

I became a caregiver for my mother when I was 27. I had just finished my graduate degree. I never expected to take care of my mother. I wish that I had stayed near the house for university instead of traveling. It was hard for me to learn to live in my hometown instead of loving outside the USA like I wanted. However I learned to appreciate my hometown and my mom. We had some good times despite all her medical needs. I took care of her for eight years. She died in 2021. I'm grateful for the time that we had together. I often wanted to go back to normal, but I guess that God had a different plan.

[@itsvictoriaahn]

Thank you for sharing your story and persevering to share your experience through Agewhale so that our caregiving journeys will be more prepared 💛 Such an important topic as Hong Kong is forecasted to have 40% of the population be 65 years old and above by 2050

[@misslotuswisdom8545]

i started caregiving at 21 at home for one of my parents. Now in my 40s i am doing it again. Even if you put them in a nursing home and you are present you will stil need to be involved. Not many facilities provide adequate food or healthy enough food, the elders often times have accidents in clothes so you have to constantly buy clothes, you have to watch how their mental state changes due to alzheimers or demential... a lot of advocacy is involved. So even though the role changes to a certain extent it is still alot and friends don't want to be supportive at all. It is a difficult yet important role but it is true you become the second patient.

[@jenniferschneider6979]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.

[@SGKUser1972]

Being a caregiver for my spouse for ten years now, I 🙏🙏 for all of you

[@n0Drip]

Thank you for this message

[@dnbgirl8594]

I have the some storry like she and I really can rely. Thak you for the talk

[@zahraakbari6987]

That was a beautiful story of your caregiving journey, thank you 💚🦋

[@ObedMokua-vo3lm]

❤M.. I wish I attended... Like... So. Touching msgs.. Be blessed darlin

[@ladyd3806]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you❤💚

[@marbelietalagtag9013]

God bless you!❤

[@dawnshire2069]

Learn carwgiving for self, family and society.

[@AbdollahSabbar]

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through love & care. And say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your love & care as they did bring me up when I was young". - Quran (Al-Isra:24)

[@MsJellyBeanBean]

I'm on my journey - I mostly feel anger, frustration, and depression because I have NO choice but to be the caregiver. Can anyone offer me advice?

[@Yks_20257]

Lütfen Türkçe altyazılısını da ekleyin

[@safwanansari4229]

Wether you are a caregiver or normal person you should take care of your elders if you take care of your elders you will get the same treatment from your children

[@SammieHQ-og5ii]

Not a guarantee.

[@shanuedits6077]

Free Palestine🇵🇸

[@negril7446]

Yes Free Palestine till the wheels roll off!🍉

[@ankitshukla388]

They are facing whatever Allah wanted, as everything happens with Allah's wish ....so chill....🎉

[@dl57758]

GTH

[@shanuedits6077]

@@ankitshukla388 ha re gobarchatwa🤣

[@shanuedits6077]

@@dl57758 i can't go there that's for people like you💩💩

[@Howcome-t4y]

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[@bpscast]

Grandma is.kind of selfish person, isn't she.

[@novasea3448]

When your health fails, you will finally understand.

[@bpscast]

@novasea3448 no

[@circa1890]

No, Grandma not selfish, but her children should have stepped up, and not give the responsibility to the grand daughter.. 😢

[@bpscast]

@circa1890 Yes, that is right. The children should care for her.

[@KamilAhmed-np4ms]

Free palestine. Saported from bangladesh

[@itsvictoriaahn]

Thank you for sharing your story and persevering to share your experience through Agewhale so that our caregiving journeys will be more prepared 💛 Such an important topic as Hong Kong is forecasted to have 40% of the population be 65 years old and above by 2050