Dolph Lundgren | On healing and forgiveness | TEDxFulbrightSantaMonica

[@davidsavala7286]

Dolph Lundgren: Strong enough to be gentle.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

You both made me smile. ^-^

[@lolabunny6364]

❤

[@tatjana9229]

well said, essential

[@yyxy5798]

Wise words. .I suspect you are a gentle soul inside to. Salute you

[@joybeans10]

Absolutely.

[@babypinka]

"If you heal yourself, you can heal others" Dolph.

[@manojmathew5596]

Dolph sounded genuinely like a MAN who found himself, loved himself, and wanted to change others' lives.

[@xinnonfren2042]

This is my favorite Dolph Lundgren film right here.

[@draftsman3383]

Agreed

[@spaceman9599]

Nicely said. The real action hero

[@anonanon1934]

Well said.

[@carringtonlefayette8644]

I concur with your sentiment 100%. Australia.

[@sajmeister]

look at this big tough guy, you'd never believe that a man of such intelligence, physical prowess and achievements went through all this in his childhood. May he be blessed, such a sweet, smart, soft and gentle guy.

[@permacut2336]

He has a small penis rumour has it

[@sajmeister]

+mistermiah21 leave it dude that guy's a troll, see how he hasn't said anything after I trolled him back

[@Marrio49]

absoftitanium then you would be worse than your father

[@DancingSpiderman]

absoftitanium right on! I'd be all like " *I BREAK YOU.* "

[@almira.shakur.lawyer]

sajmeister +

[@TornadoOfSouls777]

Drago: " I will break you..." Dolph: " I will put you back together again.."

[@algallego]

"And then, I will forgive you for breaking."

[@blip1]

This is one of the greatest KZbin comments, ever.

[@Razgar_Voxel]

"If he dies he dies!"

[@morten1]

Ikea: "Hah our manuals makes you do the same"

[@adambrass5163]

Drago, Nov 21 2019: "Now I will try to break you again..."

[@BluesHarpJammin]

Kudos to Dolph Lundgren for telling his story. Respect.

[@DavidSmith-xk9lo]

Absolutely, Dutch. Very moving testimony.

[@timjoyalle318]

Respect

[@Tawadeb]

Big Respect to Dolph

[@italianstuddmuffin]

Dude has 2 undergraduates and a master's degree in engineering, plus a scholarship at MIT. Then became and actor. Damn if he isn't an interesting fellow.

[@ahmedshakib3883]

He is what Batman /Lex Luther would be like in real life , he has a high IQ and he is also a martial artist.

[@OlympusHeavyCavalry]

The most interesting man in the world perhaps LOL, Cheers :-)

[@glennbarnette6659]

Also has close to a 200 IQ

[@spiceup356]

@@glennbarnette6659 160

[@daywalkermike]

@@spiceup356 That´s still impressing. How is the percentage of people that have this IQ or higher ? Only 4 out of 1000 people I think.

[@AhmedalHijazi]

“When you heal yourself, you can heal others” -Dolph L

[@AeneasGemini]

You really can't though, you can help out a bit but ultimately people need to help themselves as nobody can make the decision for you

[@timomastosalo]

@@AeneasGemini But you can support someone willing to heal oneself, you have the tools through your own healing. That's what he meant - but it's easier to remember in such punchline formula. It's like the motto inside a book in the page before the introduction

[@angelf3365]

I can’t forgive myself for the things I have done

[@timomastosalo]

@@angelf3365 Ask God's forgiveness first. If you can believe he forgives you, then the self-forgiving also starts. Otherwise there would be no hope for those who have done more bad than good in their lives. But Jesus forgave the criminal on the cross next to him. He hadn't likely done much good in his life, or at least he had gone astray enough to be executed as a criminal. But he regretted, and Jesus saw this in his heart - and he was forgiven. Unlike the other on the other side of Jesus, who mocked them both, and was not forgiven, because he rejected the hand reaching out to help him. Wouldn't you forgive your kid, who has done a lot of bad, but comes to you regretting, and you see that in his/her eyes? Likewise God does for us. He cares for us. He sends some to tell you about this. If not me, then someone else reminds you of this. But you don't have to answer to me, if you think I'm a religious weirdo - by all means, keep your distance if you want. Just turn, run, to God - open the Bible where it speaks about Jesus.

[@markandrew4974]

@@timomastosalo Well Said!!! God Bless and Thank you 🙂

[@kan-zee]

Born in 1957 , at 55 started his journey (councelling/meditation) and at 60yrs old he is feeling freedom....Never to late to heal.

[@vivanprabhu7122]

this is 3 years old

[@sbentsen2714]

Wow so true! whew! so good

[@LadyVader33]

No. Never too late

[@Bronxbombers161]

Well said and thank you!!

[@stevegrydzyn6038]

So true, healing can begin at any age and time. God bless to all and any on this journey. Steve

[@justwait9822]

I never knew how smart Dolph is, Fulbright Scholarship to MIT for chemical engineering is insane.

[@TT-rz5td]

Whhhhhaaaaaaatttttttt???????!!!!!!! SERIOUSLY?!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Saratonin34]

He said that in one of the Expendables movies. I thought it was part of the script.

[@vince7735]

@Yeshua is Lord. Shut up, really

[@nokaoi6414]

Mog Wi right? That’s some “next level” type smarts ! Impressive!

[@dondressel4802]

Yes very amazing

[@stephanier6783]

He embodies the old adage "more than just a pretty face". He's right, compassionate, cares that he hurt people and cared enough to go back, apologize, and ask for forgiveness, and then has gone on to help people. Truly a decent human being.

[@madeasimmons9746]

Ivan had only 9 lines in Rocky 4. But he is the most memorable part of it.

[@johnsonben5979]

Hello my dear friend how are you doing today

[@anandkrishna7777]

@@johnsonben5979 Your friend died😢

[@jfkfjh6156]

Dolph Lundgren has to be the most perfect man... 6 feet 5 tall, super fit and muscular. insanely handsome, incredibly intelligent and also very masculine but at the same time humble and not afraid to show his emotions.

[@georgepeters335]

I'd say the perfect height for a man is about 6'2 but no more than 6'5". The heights of many well-known rock-stars, models, actors, and athletes that are considered attractive. Not to mention about 2/3rd s of all CEO's in the Fortune 500 companies are about 6'2 or taller.

[@winkyshy2]

what!!! no. perfect height is 6'2" 220 lbs....unless your a guy. then nvm

[@einarabelc5]

Jfkfj h You missed the point. He Is a real man!!! Even if he was on a wheel chair.

[@daveheel]

maybe part of that has to do with being a swede.

[@xtallyx1]

How can he be perfect, he killed Apollo Creed and didn't even care.

[@Kem1kal13]

Dolph Lundgren all up in my emotions like "If he cries...he cries"

[@LateNightViddys]

LOL...nice

[@jaffarmawanda9681]

this comment just killed me #LMAO!!! LOL

[@Wikingking]

You...I like you.

[@AUGguile]

Icon of Sin HAHAHA!...genious!

[@maxs6803]

I never respond in the comments, but that was brilliant to pass! Hilarious!

[@lorettaberman3545]

That took a lot of courage for Dolph to open up about his personal abusive life about him self. He is a sweet and caring warm hearted man.

[@PRSouthern]

This video bugged me for a long time for some reason and I think it’s because I realized Dolph seems to have really forgiven the past. You can tell he forgave his father at least. Dolph opens by telling us his father was abusive but later that he was a good guy and that he loved his father. I think he outgrew his trauma or at least accepted it. It’s almost like he pities the way his father was in terms of the abuse he took from his father, but knows there was some element of a good guy in there. I’m not at all condoning abuse just impressed with Dolph’s growth.

[@PetrCharousek]

@@PRSouthern very good point, I agree with your impressions.

[@azuesky_]

​@@PRSouthernyeah believe it or not no matter what fathers are always like our superheros as children. You see while describing the abuse he points out his positives like tall, handsome, big, intelligent, funny guy. Even though he had such bad memories with him, deep down we all want to impress our fathers and love them. Some of are lucky to get fathers who truly are heroes and worthy of being respected but some are unfortunately not so lucky, but even then deep down we hope that maybe if do this one thing we'll finally be loved. He did a recent talk years later where he goes more in detail and mentioned that all his academic successes drive behind them was to prove to his father how he was good enough, especially MIT, his dad was a big fan of MIT and getting there was another way to prove him wrong. Fortunately I was lucky enough to have a loving father but I have seen some bad fathers, and seen how badly children crave to be accepted. It is very similar with mothers too, children really need loving parents. If you had loving parents you really should be grateful about life, if not make sure to do better if and when you become one

[@ZeroControl]

When someone shares their soul , you can tell .

[@galegarson8703]

100%. Read "The Present" by Global Truth Project it talks about this!

[@dkelly6492]

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[@fiftypnce]

He comes across as a really, really nice guy. Respect.

[@EricJA921]

Fiftypence Nice guys finish last.

[@fiftypnce]

@@EricJA921 the second mouse gets the cheese

[@stevegrydzyn6038]

This is one really STRONG, nice guy. I saw his movies, but I never really knew how brave he was till now.

[@curtisscissons563]

You mean he was only ACTING as a bad guy??? NO!!!

[@randallpaul6559]

He Is a very nice man. I had no idea he went through this. He has connect to the universal ideas. I felt that when I met him in Rome

[@naynaynay324]

I heard someone say Lundgren was a tough guy. Didn't realize how tough until having seen this.

[@chrisweidner4768]

nay naynay I like the way you think.

[@TedAlvia]

Well said!

[@Jizzlewobbwtfcus]

Very intelligent analysis : ]

[@jerumd]

Domestic abuse toughens people.. My dad use to beat me too back in the Philippines as a kid when his drunk or, when i did something wrong.. Till i grew up and learning boxing and grappling from my school coach under my dad's nose.. So i gave my dad a bit of a sweet revenge out in our back yard after all the pain and misery he caused me and my brother over the years of abuse. I actually put my dad to sleep after a quick scuffle.. Woke up the following day all sober with a broken nose and fractured pinky asking for forgiveness..

[@ralphgoodman4670]

Darrell Finley I don't think you know what world class means. Low end kickboxing is not it. He wouldn't last a second.

[@PCRebel]

Dude this guy is so underrated. As an actor and human being

[@darrellgarrett72]

I always knew that Dolph was extremely intelligent, but I had no idea of the abuse and trauma he suffered at the hands of his father! I could really relate to his story and when brought up Fight, Flight or Freeze it really hit home for me! I am a retired US Army NCO who served multiple combat tours in Iraq and I suffer from PTSD and I think they should show this video to all PTSD Soldiers! Healing starts from within and before you can love someone else you must first love yourself!

[@jessiemangala6019]

Amen brother

[@Excalibur2112]

He has a Master's degree in Chemical Engineering! Of course, he is super intelligent.

[@libertyandpresencenow7252]

Look up somatic experiencing

[@charleslennon1]

@Da Nhl1 Roger that, "Doc B" Ist ID HHC 1/16 INF Mech Medical Platoon, Evac

[@AnthonySforza]

I'm actually inclined to agree. A lot of the guys I've seen come back (Or known from the military) and turn to things like suicide, it's not the "Trauma" it's the uselessness. The lack of purpose, so to speak.

[@robertwoollard4792]

Met Dolph in the UK at the end of 2017 and he was a true gent. Grade A guy with no arrogance at all. Couldn't get a better role model. Props Dolph.

[@chariotreign]

Awesome

[@AchtungBaby77]

Dolph always comes across as very genuine, kind and approachable in his interviews. You're a lucky fellow to have met him! 👍😊

[@danw1374]

Steven Seagal could learn a lot from him lol

[@scotnick59]

@@danw1374 He could learn a lot from most everyone.

[@godSPARDA1995]

What a great guy. We need more people like him on this world!

[@richardkelch2469]

Emre Özyurt So, we need more of his father then. It was a chain reaction to who he has become.

[@egepulat5444]

Flawed reasoning. It wasn't just his father who made him the man he is today. We all have our own traumas and fears. Lundgren's awakening came from hope, hoping for a better life and with that came the self-discovery. He could've also became an abusive person just like his father or became a drug addict to escape from his pain, but he didn't. So it isn't about what happened, it's about what you make of it.

[@richardkelch2469]

Ege Pulat He gave this story for money. I don't buy in. Not one person does anything good or bad decision on their own, without the environment forcing them to. His father was a natural sign. It's just that we live in a time where we don't understand signs well enough, yet. We will. It's all environmental nature that works in mysterious ways.

[@egepulat5444]

For me, your whole conception of living is corrupt and over dramatically pessimistic. Being self-centred and arrogant is of course a choice but it's never the ultimate truth.

[@viadharmawheel]

Yes

[@rahulkulkarni2611]

The fiercest guys in the world can be the most gentle ones in the world, I was literally sacred of this guy when I saw him as Ivan Drago in Rocky 4, but here he is, a calm and a wise man about life, it is absolutely amazing.

[@ahumandoing6813]

Ivan Drago doesn't need a boxing match. Ivan Drago needs therapy.

[@renatotadificil2004]

I knew this guy was a genius, but never imagined that he was a good talker. Excellent video.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

Eloquent and compassionate. In other words: wise and strong, respectively.

[@renatotadificil2004]

@Quill Inkwell thanks, man !

[@emilwestgaardhenriksen1715]

The man has a proven IQ of 160 the same as Albert E

[@thinhquanq.7019]

Because he's honest!!

[@moto6ixmoto83]

Emil Westgaard Henriksen IQ doesn’t mean anything when it comes to public speaking. I’ve met some very smart people with 130+ IQ who happened to be the weirdest and most non social people I’ve ever met.

[@SuperLEEEDWARDS]

My dad did the same UNTIL I turned 14 and had grown some from weight training with a guy down the road. So 1 of his usual day grumpy and ruthless days he went to swing 1 at me and i grabbed his hand and said hey I’m NOT 5 anymore and in THAT MOMENT with the look on his face i could tell he too had bn hit by his dad so I felt really sorry for him and gave him the biggest hug he had EVER HAD . To this day neither of us has ever brought it up because it’s just something for both of us so HEAL FROM SCOOBS UK.

[@geraldscarff8097]

Beautiful man...God bless you and all of yours..

[@NorzkenolZn]

I am swedish, and i am very proud of Dolph Lundgren, he is a very smart and strong person! We Swedes are happy to have him as a rolemodel. Atleast i am!

[@spreadthelove77]

NorzkenolZn Absolutely! The man is an inspiration

[@bluenotebigbends]

Yes and you should be. He is a really humble and intelligent human being. I watched he-man and rocky movies as a kid but just lately i've watched some interviews with him and i have learned to respect this guy. Greetings from Finland.

[@tribe8342]

I thought he was Russian?! My whole life was a lie -_-

[@IRosamelia]

T R I B E Just imagine how you'll feel when you learn the USSR is no more 🇷🇺

[@jannorris4140]

Im an American and im very proud of Sylvester Stallone. Sounds silly doesn't it?

[@pamboger3729]

Loved this. Buried trauma always bubbles up later in life. That delay in processing is damaging to your mental health. Getting through that requires professional help. It worked for me. God bless this man for his message.

[@edkeaton1085]

Dolph Lungren strikes me as a very interesting, articulate, and humble person when it comes to opening up about his past, the ups and downs in his life, and his humanitarian work outside of the film industry. He has more intelligence and integrity than most people care to give him credit for and if more people were as gracious as him the world would be a better place.

[@Brono25]

his IQ is in the 160's

[@brianreeves5209]

He was once asked "Why do you make all these bad films?"(paraphrasing) - His reply? "When someone offers you $100k for two weeks work......".

[@thomasdale6217]

Hear hear

[@redheat66]

very good comment

[@greenarrow5802]

Ed Keaton not as Oliver Queen / Stephen Amell

[@Zehahahaa]

i would of never thought that he was so gifted and emotional and to try to help others with issues , A very inspiring Man

[@kylewattssurfing3266]

Exaccctlyyy!!!!!

[@elisehirsty5666]

+Isaac Splinker ; You never would've thought that because he's incredibly, incredibly good looking?

[@Zehahahaa]

+elise hirsty it's not that but because in most of the Movies he's in he's portrayed very VERY different from his actual persona

[@elisehirsty5666]

+Isaac Splinker It was a zoolander reference and a joke. :)

[@redstarr9roman]

+elise hirsty I would say he's really, really good looking, and I bet he can also read good and do other things good too ;) lol.

[@DUARTE99]

Wow. I always had a lot of respect for Dolph but now that respect is through the roof.

[@Seaker24]

Exactly my thought too.

[@lisaleone2296]

Agreed. I've always been a fan because I knew he was a chem geek and very smart. Glad to hear he has made it through these dark times that you don't usually hear about.

[@iamasmurf1122]

Yeah mate amazing

[@nicolemitchell2477]

Jeff Duarte HEAR, HEAR!!!!!

[@LadyVader33]

Seeking help is strength, not weakness. What he's doing with that pain is truly the measure of a man

[@jimehrlich7389]

Jesus Christ this just spoke volumes to me.... I'm actually in shock over the realness of what he is saying.... I'm living it.... almost in tears.... so powerful

[@ddandrews825]

Absolutely inspiring! I always wondered why on earth somebody so good looking, physical and could act didn't become a hollywood success. Dolph has been struggling with his own demons. Not just he's recovering from his trauma, he's helping others as well. Absolutely Inspiring!

[@DancingSpiderman]

DD Andrews Yeah, Dolph is truly amazing and inspiring.

[@pwidner70]

I’m a huge Dolph Lundgren fan. But because of this, I respect him so much more. He is quite the role model in this morally corrupt world.

[@andrewsimpson5818]

This is sweet Dolph clearly loved Grace Jones she changed his life.

[@karateman2180]

Amazing, you take one look at Dolph and think WOW, he is handsome, obviously intelligent as can be, movie star and he has it all. Then you hear him tell his story and realize how damaged he was. Most people only see the incredible exterior and never realize what is going on inside someone's heart and soul. Beautiful story and so glad he has been able to heal and forgive.

[@lur3950]

Back in the 80's, he did a demonstration in a karate tournament in LA Calif. along with a lot of other celebrities. I was with the school that organized the tournament. I took a pic with Mr Lundgren. He was very kind and approachable. God, I never knew this man I took a picture with, was fighting his demons while I was fighting mine!!

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

Take a good listen: this is what a *strong and courageous man* sounds like.

[@kevintanza6968]

Dolph is saying some really important stuff here. What I don't understand why you take this moment to throw shade at men.

[@AeneasGemini]

Interesting how this guy talks about compassion and you're choosing to attack guys who aren't like him, Did you even listen to what he said?

[@predragdjedovic]

This is how sisy boy sound like. Just kidding. He is great. Full respect

[@piehound]

Of course he does . . . that's *your opinion.* But not everyone does nor can measure up to that particular model. There are other types of strength and manhood not as obvious. Nevertheless every human being has weaknesses no matter how strong they appear to be.

[@laraoneal7284]

Aylbdr Madison so true. This knowledge is so needed today. So much child abuse in our families everywhere. What a dear man. Thank you sir for sharing this CRUCIAL INFORMATION. Men especially need to hear this so that the stigma is removed from speaking on childhood abuse . Men have such a fear and stigma about revealing this.

[@minkles1330]

People have no idea how smart Dolph is.

[@Ahiga4545]

Paul Windsor We do now.

[@Aznmf]

He studied chemical engineering in college. Hes an engineer

[@jimmason7229]

Now that's a real man there. When all the dust settles he can still be compassionate, caring and has the ability to reach down and pick the crowd up. God bless you.

[@Tb-cl8hi]

You can't change what you can't acknowledge........heal yourself first so you can heal others.

[@lisaschultz6169]

Very well said.

[@varuno7560]

It is a remarkable quote.

[@juniorbarker1258]

Sure is..

[@AeneasGemini]

The second part of that is problematic, you can't change other people, their journey needs to be their own. Though I agree with the concept of dealing with your own issues

[@mariusm8595]

you can`t accept what you can`t understand .. love yourself in order to be loved and fight all your life for happy emotions and the rest will be history.

[@BROWNDIRTWARRIOR]

Brilliant, wow. Here's a man's man. So glad I stumbled on to this. I saw him enter Golds Gym Venice in the Summer of '84, I think it was, when he was training for Rocky. The man absolutely lit up the room with his presence. Now I see he was a true superstar in the making.

[@SudhirRaja23]

So true. Stumbled is the right word and yes it made me immensely happy. You can catch glimpses of that 'little Swedish boy' in his body language, specially at the very end of the talk. Loved it. Thanks to TEDx Talks.

[@sadbasturd99]

Lit up the room with his steroids lol. It still kills me the false hero worship of unfortunate morons.

[@davesworld7961]

Dolphin Lundgren has a 160 IQ with a master's degree in chemical engineering and honors from MIT.

[@juliancromwell6909]

Great talk. In the comments below I can see why 'sadbasturd99' is so called... So much negativity, and so much in need of healing and forgiveness himself.

[@AGC828]

Add...sadbasturd99 has no clue about steroid use. Nor does he know DL. What made this "sad" guy think DL is using? He's slim. Was never suddenly abnormally huge. Even when he was in Rocky 4 Dolph really wasn't huge. He was 6'4 muscular/lean. If Stallone really thought it was needed he could have asked Dolph to bulk up more. Have him trained by pro bodybuilders or Powerlifters. But they went for the build he had then. Wasn't that vascular even then. So, what drugs he might have use wasn't that much. Likely stopped (if he DID use) after R4...he was never "suddenly massive"...no signs of being on the gear...I thought he could have been bigger for R4. Dolph. On the surface looked like he had it all. Movie part in Rocky 4, dated Grace Jones, was an Euro Karate Champion, spent time in MIT studying chemical engineering (try getting into any professional program in any college...let alone MIT )...then goes on to help (be a part of) people who were victims of human traffic-ing. How many people that went through what he had as a child just end up crashing/burning? He could have gone the other way. Never "come back". Never felt the desire to fight for his life and achieve. Let alone help others.

[@experimenteight4550]

And I always thought Dolph Lundgren was created in a lab somewhere to advance the human race. Great to hear his story, really makes him seem humble (and human).

[@danfors1333]

It was all acting you know. He's that good of an actor. He got that supreme ability from being created in a lab.

[@Pertemba40]

Hahahahaha!!!!!

[@falleneldor]

Experiment Eight nah, just born on Eternia and bestoyed the Power of Grayskull is why Dolph is Master of his Universe. lol.

[@IrishKiddEire]

Ulrich Krieghund, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sikkinixxmc]

Ulrich Krieghund I'm literally laughing. So funny

[@Anthony-jp2zm]

Seeing things like this makes me forget my lost faith in humanity. Thank you Dolph

[@AdrianoMariaMaiello]

Standing ovation for Dolph.

[@aylbdrmadison1051]

+stands and claps.

[@doontpanic2297]

I grew up in 80s 90s and i can remember him only as a tough looking actor in violent movies. What I admire about TED is that people can share so many valuable experiences, emotions and stories. This talk took my breath away. I feel rather hopeless these days after all these attacks, info wars, mess on the internet creating mess in our souls but people like him awake the good old me inside me. What a great man, Dolph! Thank you so much for going such a long and painful way. Bravo.Bravo!

[@damienwilson2946]

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[@Mike-oz5pp]

Thank you Dolph, very inspiring

[@jakecowen1229]

I learned a similar thing as years ago I was physically abused by a mother suffering from severe mental illness and she had also been abused by her parents.. It took me a long long time to heal and in the end I looked after her in her last days.. I loved her dearly and learned to forgive.. we may never forget but if you carry around hate.. you own that hate, you have to wear it for ever.. until you have the strength to forgive.. then you realize that is how to love your self fully.. and then you can see clearly and love others

[@mathiasjohannesson9833]

Beautiful... And sooo true.

[@JSL2000]

20 years down the line, I stood in front of my ex-girlfriend. I had treated her dreadfully in a previous time. Verbally abusive, emotionally abusive, gas-lighting her. I stood in front of her, put my hand out, and I had one thing to say "I'm sorry". That day she gave me the greatest gift a person could ever give another human being - she gave me forgiveness.

[@ConnieStJohn-kp8hs]

⁰loo lip my by

[@carringtonlefayette8644]

Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. 💟

[@carringtonlefayette8644]

@Psy Crow Thank you ever so much.

[@myrnasharif499]

bravo Mr.Lundgreen, you' re one of the most person a kind and a feeling of being a human, When i watch your film i can see inside your heart being a gentelman, kind and sweet. i salute you. bless you. and your family. i am really one of the fan of ypurs. See in your coming film.

[@waynesergeant5820]

I hope my wife will forgive me! Our son( my youngest) deserves better! My oldest son is doing his MBA my youngest 18 is just maturing!

[@globetrotter2182]

What an amazing man Dolph Lundgren is. So brave to look inside himself and forgive those he hurt and his father. And he still looks incredible.

[@algallego]

It's not about forgiving those whom he hurt.. he sought forgiveness from those whom he hurt as well as being able to forgive those who hurt him.

[@RaikenXion]

I hope Grace and his ex-partner see this talk

[@arrv544]

A gentle giant. Kudos to you Mr. Lundgren

[@Johnwillbegone]

FATHERS LOVE YOUR CHILDREN

[@SpeedDemon-vm2lp]

I'm a widowed mom with two young boys but I am thankful they had a short time to have with their father.

[@theengineerish3r367]

@@SpeedDemon-vm2lp sorry to hear that. As a father, I'm sure you're a great mother and will compensate for that. Stay strong no matter, ane enjoy your time and the journey with your children. Best regards from Algeria.

[@SpeedDemon-vm2lp]

@@theengineerish3r367 I appreciate your kind words. I'm trying, both my boys are sick with the flu :(

[@theengineerish3r367]

@@SpeedDemon-vm2lp wow, I'm also a father of two boys :) and they are both battling flu too :( What a small world we are in! I hope they will get well soon especially with a caring and loving mother as you. May peace be upon them and you, Salam.

[@SpeedDemon-vm2lp]

@@theengineerish3r367 oh no ☹️. There's a lot going around, how old are yours? Mine are 7 and 10 years old and I am so glad I have boys and not girls 😂. I'm not sure I could handle all the drama... 😂

[@JEANBRUCEnocturbulous]

I am stunned how Dolph sum his life up in less than 10 minutes ! Saying do much in an short amount of time is unbelievable. What a strong message 😯

[@africanandproud6792]

Wow. Amazing. Best Ted talk ever. Notice there was no swearing or foul language, just a humble human being embracing his weaknesses and helping us learn how to deal with ours in the process . Top bloke this.

[@Atlantya]

African and Proud When has there ever been a lot of swearing in a TED Talk?

[@samiloom8565]

None

[@africanandproud6792]

@@Atlantya Search for Dwayne " The Rock" Johnson's and you will immediately know what I mean.

[@tristanlj3409]

@@africanandproud6792 you sure didn't watch that many Ted talks

[@MrPantss]

He truly is a Universal Soldier!

[@gberndt4music]

I too, was abused as a child. The hardest thing to do was to forgive my mother. She never accepted my forgiveness. But my conscience is clear and my life is better.

[@Youtube_Globetrotter]

My sister verbally abused, humiliated and taunted me, and sometime physically to. I got panic attacks from it at the age of 16.

[@jeffk1722]

Jerry, I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with that. I always thought that "forgiveness and healing" is generally good, but you still have to remove yourself from the person if they're habitually like that, right?

[@regaininglife9084]

I can't even discuss this with my mom. She is in denial and acts like nothing ever happened. The other thing is she has a huge problem with accepting responsibility she likes to shift the blame. I realize trying to get an acknowledgement, or some love and affection I never got, is like going to an empty well for water. I realize my mom probably has some trauma herself and never got help or came to grips with it. I guess the best way to look at it is to understand this and realize that the way I was abused was not personal but a disease passed on by family. She is a victim herself. What I want to do is no longer be angry and do not want to pass on these traits to anyone else. But, there is a deep sadness within me that I never really had a mom and no family really. It all could have been very different.

[@regaininglife9084]

Jeff K - You have to end the relationship and/or keep a distance with boundaries. You need to remove yourself from that environment and "system".

[@jeffk1722]

RegainingLife thanks for your input and advice. I'm sorry to hear about your abuse at the hands of your mom (or if you prefer, at the hands of the disease). Sounds like you're on the way toward healing.

[@shirleytatha8189]

When he started and the audience was all silent you could feel the emotion in that atmosphere. And even with such a sad story somehow he managed to make people laugh. Wow I am simply in awe

[@roseawen5961]

He is so sweet and kind and humble. What a good man!

[@samuelthechoosenone8590]

I feel like God is taking me in this path of healing and stumbled upon this video everything has a purpose in life.............

[@marsbars6596]

I hope you are doing well my friend don't ever give up on GOD He can reach you anytime anyplace anywhere!! I am living proof of that! We have access to GOD through our Lord Jesus Christ who died for us because he delighted in us! Ppl often times hear GOD, or Christ and automatically think it only applies to religious ppl but what they look deeper they will see that CHRIST IS GOD, he is the way the truth and the LIFE!! GOD bless you and keep on keeping on I hope you are doing well.

[@adriancaldwell]

Algorithm

[@chrisanderson9157]

Blessings

[@snldev]

@@adriancaldwell agreed. God used this person to watch specific things so this video could be recommended for this same person

[@drdeniz7]

God bless you brother!!!

[@natkam451]

We don't usually know famous people, we only think we do. All the info about them are mostly gossip & straight up lies made up by tabloids for money. But in reality many of them had a hard childhood and that's what pushed them towards success - famous actors, artists, athletes etc. In the end, we are all human beings with complex stories. At the age of 30, I'm just starting to live, after years of vegetation and suffering from bipolar depression. So glad I clicked on this video. Dolph Lundgren is very articulate, intelligent, charming, with a great sense of humor, he is very good storyteller and I absolutely adore his voice - so soothing ! Remember that it is never too late to bounce back and change your life, as Dolph said. Love & all the best, for all of You, from Poland

[@Brunette84]

Nat Kam we don't know ANYONE, not just about celebs

[@danjohnson1712]

Always though he was so cool in the 80s and did not realize how much he went through awesome speech.

[@grahamharper8114]

He has the POWER, to heal and forgive.

[@hugoberresford385]

Graham Harper So in reality he has the power of She-Ra's, right - instead of He-Man's?

[@jhonfamo8412]

Graham Harper to heal is a great power

[@marthahorton5350]

I had a huge crush on him as a kid. Some men just get better with age. Very inspiring story!

[@iamasmurf1122]

Martha Horton a good honest highly smart highly educated and very human and he speaks so calmly that is the inspiring bit 👍

[@ryanturner8577]

My fellow Swede making me proud. He seems like a great man and a great role model now. I hope to meet him someday

[@Underhills]

He's a former needle druggie. But he went clean, something Sly never did. He's still on the juice.

[@leokarlsson8044]

Guran Tot haha No!

[@sandikostrubala]

Han finns i Stockholm ibland. Jag såg honom på Drottninggatan 2 år sedan!

[@leokarlsson8044]

Guran Tot yes i am😂 vilket skit du pratar. Malmö är inte hela Sverige. och tvivlar kraftigt på den informationen.

[@leokarlsson8044]

Guran Tot haha vad får du allt ifrån😂 13% har utländsk härkomst i Sverige. mer är det inte👍 att några "ghetto" finns rör inte mig i ryggen. Tyskland hade ghetton under natzi tiden oxå.😉 Vi vet ju alla vad anhalten efter det var.. så du behöver inte oroa dig för vårt finna land Sverige 👍 Malmö blir antagligen nya Treblinka ska du se.. ha en riktigt trevligt dag. och bry dig inte om vad som händer här.. sitt ner i båten och njut av turen som komma skall..

[@MeditationalState]

Lost for words. What a phenomenal man 💙

[@technologytipstricks9185]

Yes Dolph Lundgren is the greatest I wish I could meet him in person he is such an inspiration to me!

[@galegarson8703]

He is the greatest. Sending love to all of you. My gift would be to try reading "The Present" by Global Truth Project. It changed my life!

[@knownstranger9296]

totally agreed with you

[@nickacelvn]

You took the words right out of my mouth.

[@microworkerize]

@@technologytipstricks9185 m

[@gigiingervaldt44]

was quite shocking and sad(his childhood) & that this plagued him for 30 years and he only came to terms with it only 3-5 years ago. Glad he has peace now though. Love you Dolph

[@gmccord1970]

Wow this is absolutely mind-blowing I clicked on this video and I had no idea that Dolph Lundgren had such a rough childhood this is all news to me. Mr Lundgren really seems like a good guy. Some of the nicest people still have internal suffering and struggles.

[@adelbertomuggler372]

380PPK you freaks need to find a shrink

[@latinainwpb]

@@adelbertomuggler372 actually, it looks like you're the one who really does.

[@rossdoman1049]

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[@vikkster5723]

I'm shocked he had a fullbright scholarship to MIT. I love this guy handsome, talented, smart and as made it through tough times. I love this guy.

[@ReadThis_]

In order to be a nice person, you HAVE TO HAVE BEEN through internal suffering and struggles.

[@pastorpresent1]

To see vulnerability in a classic tough guy, after a very hard life, is a miracle. Forgive others, forgive yourself. Good stuff. I am on a forgiveness journey now, and have discovered that I need to forgive myself first before I forgive others. Having done some of that, I find that I have less to forgive others for.

[@A_n_u_l_u]

Really rare if a well known person has a downed earth style like he has. Hat off! Huge respect to him!

[@funny-video-YouTube-channel]

Nice talk. He is right . The people in domestic abuse or abusive relationships have this kind of escapism mentality. They never settle, never are happy for long. Always run away form the pain or do not face issues. *Domestic violence is a life long issue.*

[@chrishowell9821]

You are so wrong, I had an unhappy childhood, I was beaten and mentally abused by my father, I am very happy in life, have everything I could ever need. I have settled and am always the one that tackles things head one, pain hurts if you let it. It all depends on the person and on if that person is going to let the past shape the future. There is always a way, I guess it is a case of different strokes for different folks. I had no idea Dolph had gone through what so many of us go through

[@MyITRcom]

I think what could help is letting people know how you made the shift? What helped you heal, gain a good attitude about life again? So many of us feel lost as to how you did this.

[@gshrdy5415]

No matter what , you need positive feed back at young age, many parents in Asia hit their children once in a while (constant hitting is a problem), lot of them grow up to be good, because if a child understands why parents are doing it, then there is no problem.

[@bossdemon]

It's not escape behaviour he meant to talk about. It's learned helplessness. Actually escaping is preferable to learned helplessness where you lie down and take the beating life gives you.

[@kellypatterson9456]

Chris Howell good for you. However, you are one in a million who believe you're good to go. Are you?

[@HarrietFitzgerald580]

My husband recommended this, he's a big action movie buff and I wasn't expecting much, I was humouring him in watching this. Am I ever glad I watched it! I cried. 💕

[@dolphlundgren3904]

Thanks for watching 😊.. so tell me how long have you been my fan.?

[@melissahowtonpoole.1120]

I had no idea Mr. Lundgren went through such a trying time. God Bless him for helping others.

[@dolphlundgren3904]

Thanks for watching 😊.. so tell me how long have you been my fan.?

[@gracie6512]

I suddenly was three yrs old again. This really "hit" home tonight. The family secret. It taught me to always be in survival mode. I don't trust blindly. I forgave a long-time ago & God blessed me with a great compassion and great love for young innocent children. I'm so grateful God led me to watch this tonight. What a great guy...I wouldn't have guessed❤

[@warrengouldthorpe5091]

He hasn't actually aged a day since rocky IV, and you've got to respect this man for talking about his past experiences

[@TheGoddamnJefe]

A real life hero after all.

[@marlinmr7]

That is for sure!

[@apolloravindran]

Utter surprise, who would have thought Dolph was such a educated individual!!!!!! Very inspiring...

[@alannewman7255]

Ravindran Arumugam hes a genius for real. not just saying that his IQ is 170

[@Marcinex]

From what i remember, he has finally done the Major in Chemical Engineering

[@irllcd13]

He has a genius level IQ.

[@shimmeringreflection]

not so sure about that -- can't find any evidence that Dolph did a proper IQ test and scored 'genius' anywhere

[@MrSvante88]

He graduated from school with a perfect grade, the highest one. Something very few accomplish. Some serious brain on this guy, which you might not think when you see all muscles.

[@hamptonmanufacturing3566]

Ive been watching this man in movies all my life... Great human...

[@ddtddt8493]

His voice in the beginning shook me. I have see this video many times but his trembling voice always puts tears in my eyes

[@jackedkerouac4414]

My voice gets like that too when I'm being completely forthright and vulnerable

[@fishbone08070]

I grew up with "tough love", I was actually more afraid of my mother than my father, I learned more out of fear than respect. But in my later years, I appreciated that a lot of the "disciplining" came more from love than malice. I forgave my parents because I'm sure they where raised with more discipline than they imparted on me, I took care of them both until they both recently passed. I didn't incorporate their methods in my ways but they taught me right from wrong. I miss them terribly and the last remaining years I had with them where full of healing and communication.

[@valeriyasnow6302]

❤

[@cocospatra]

What a wonderful person Mr.Lundgren is

[@greenarrow5802]

cocospatra Oliver Queen aka Stephen Amell is better

[@babbar123]

I can't imagine that a godly figure like Dolph was going through so much pain inside him over all these years. He is my idol for being so strong and coming out of that dark side like a knight. Respect

[@stonecoldhitman7662]

No matter how handsome / beautiful or famous someone is, we all will experience trauma in our lives. How we handle this trauma affects us and others. Learning to deal with it and turn these negatives into positives is very important. Thanks to Dolph Lundgren for sharing what he went through so it could help others. It has helped me.

[@sanjogagarwal1532]

You see he's not a machine. He's a man !!!

[@jeremiet2739]

Sanjog Agarwal haha!

[@paulsims4108]

A peace of iron

[@jakestevens7283]

But I see 3 of him on stage, which one should I focus on??

[@someonewillsuffice]

Jake Stevens Hit the one in the middle.

[@joscar062]

@@someonewillsuffice "Right, hit the one in the middle"

[@TheGilbalfas]

What a man!! Amazing in every way. True Hero. More big screen movie roles for this guy please.

[@alekskot9240]

Im speachless... This man deserves a huge hug, and a 2nd chance in big cinema! He has more to give to all of us than ever.

[@mega54321]

Wow. Huge respect for Mr. Lundgren. He is the real man.

[@stevenpatrickstone766]

The man is 60 and he looks better than I do.

[@henryhernandez3060]

He's 60??! Damn! He looks 30 or something!

[@cozettem8226]

He is still hot!

[@hansgrueber8169]

good genetics

[@Swaggmire215]

Damn dog thats not good lol

[@agostinogobbato3566]

Amazing

[@CurtHardacre]

Brilliant speech, such a top bloke.

[@kerryann1293]

Dolph is an inspection, I think we forget these “famous people “ suffer as we ordinary little people do, despite their advantages, it’s so lovely to hear his honesty, thank you Dolph x

[@siobhan28483]

Such a beautiful man. Inside and out. Loved him ever since I saw him in Rocky IV.

[@69Solo]

I want his son to win in Creed 2.

[@chauthenormalkid]

I always adore Dolph Lundgren. He has all the factors to become a great man. When I see his life, I just want to move on and try hard. I want to get the schoolarship just like him and he is my motivation to make my America become true. Therefore, thank you, my universal soldier. I wish I could meet my idol once in life. HPBD soon to him (3/11)!

[@ivantau9753]

Hey, he truly is inspiring. How is your life going and mowing to America? :)

[@valeriewilliams7104]

OMG ! DOLPH LUNDGREN ! This man is the definition of masculinity. I love his message. THANK YOU.

[@jsmcmxlvii]

Strength from adversity. This is why I think Dolph is so cool.

[@DrewNorton3712]

when people come forward and tell their story it is freeing for them and for others who can relate to their story! i did not expect to here this from dolph lundgren but many people can relate to these type of stories! this story is very helpful and encouraging!

[@CoolMikey81]

Same for me. Totally agree.

[@alexmetista]

I can totally relate. I went trough most of the phases he described, specially being physically and verbally abused through the childhood by my parents mostly my father. He passed away, but I forgave him a long time ago. I'm sorry to say it but the trauma can never be overcome. The memories still still make me feel unwanted and unworthy to be loved and appreciated.

[@faithhopelove9176]

alexmetista so sorry you had to go through. you are not alone. Take care.

[@primalcoach1]

I'm really sorry -- so sad.

[@richardrobinson1651]

Few people on this Earth are as cynical and conceited as me. But that was fantastic. Spoken with integrity, humility and in-effusive passion. Thankyou Mr Lundgren. A true gentleman and anathema to what any may think of the Hollywood tough guy stereo type. Thoughtful, articulate and deeply aware of this own frailties, yet not wanting of sympathy nor pity. Again sir, thankyou.

[@DoktorSick]

If i can change, you can changer ,we all can change - Rocky balboa

[@Aaron-ze1io]

Everybody* can change

[@omfgSHORYUKEN]

if he finished the speech with that it would've been pretty good

[@christopherb8307]

So if your a good person rocky would be asking of you to be bad

[@dongeraci8599]

@@christopherb8307 Not really. Rocky was referring SPECIFICALLY to his and the crowd's prejudice, hate, and xenophobia in the sentence just before the rest of this quote, so repeating himself would be redundant. But here goes..... "If I can change [my mind about your people], and you can change [your minds about my people], then everybody can change [their minds about other people]. " There ya go, I fixed it for ya. Also, *you're. Fixed that too =)

[@shugertits]

Well can somebody explain to me why they fixed/changed the original content? @ 5:42 there's a weird edit and voice-over. Anybody else notice? I wonder what he really said?

[@Bimashofer]

And the Oscar goes to Dolph for Love, Forgiveness & MORE Things that count in life. What a performance! God bless you! Fighting with your heart is the most powerful of your fights ever.

[@justicewillprevail1106]

He’s amazing. He definitely woke something in me. I suffer from ptsd, depression, panic attacks. But never seek help from counseling. He’s absolutely right. It was rooted from my childhood which I don’t talk about and just kept it hidden in me. This is why nothing seems to work. I’ve never dealt with the hurt and traumas from my past. Thank you for the great speech.

[@jimmyjames1474]

Try to find a good EMDR Therapist, it really works as well for PTSD in adults and children. :)

[@belent8336]

I'm so sorry for what you went through. I pray that you will find healing.

[@lindafukuyu5767]

I must say He's still looking good and in shape even though he's over 50. He takes good care of himself very well. Love Dolph Lundgren !

[@theoracle42]

I spare no words to insult people on KZbin when I see them doing ignorant or stupid things, and I'll spare none with you....bless you a thousand times for the good work you do. Please take care of yourself so you can continue to spread love to others

[@sunnyram7332]

The legendary Ivan drago....I will crush you”-who knew he was MIT chem engineer and fullbright scholar never judge a book by its cover!

[@joechin88]

He did not finish the course...he left after 1 month