Why comfort will ruin your life | Bill Eckstrom | TEDxUniversityofNevada

[@fearlessandfar]

Hit the gym hard, eat the chili sauce, say hi to new people, and as Michael said, take cold shower. You can find discomfort in everyday. Powering through it changes your life. Great talk Bill Eckstrom. I'll watch this again!

[@mism847]

Will this really make you happier, or is this simply just suffering and pain disguised as happiness?

[@applesauce_0743]

@@mism847 the ability to push through the temporary pain teaches us more about ourselves than we could ever know from sitting in our proverbial easy chairs all our lives.

[@bradyfrazee4316]

@@mism847 Life is about how much pain one can endure. It can make you happy though. Going to the gym isn't comfortable but being healthy and looking good feels amazing.

[@jojo-fj7lw]

Uhm sir, chili sauce is my guilty pleasure smh

[@mcbueno9602]

Jii

[@fabiorachid3430]

I think there's a missing ingredient there: *purpose* . If you're just randomly making yourself uncomfortable, sure, you might grow, but you're likely to give up or go back to a deeper state of order/comfort than you were before. But getting yourself into discomfort *because* of something that actually matters to you, than you'll push through it. In Nietzsche's words, "He who was a why can bear almost any how". Think of soldiers facing probably death going to battle because they have the high purpose of defending their country, their family and friends. Does most doctors in the middle of the pandemic are out there in total discomfort just because it may bring them growth? No, they are doing it *to save lives* , the highest person a human being can have. Such high purpose is the only way for them to go risk their lives every day to take care of their patients. My biggest problem with TEDs like these is that they often leave out the details, the nuisance, the complexity of life and of human beings. The TED almost makes it sound like you should be throwing yourself into discomfort at all times, regardless of what, and that it's not too bad if you have breakdowns like his daughter, but it is bad. Growth and discomfort, specially if stimulated by other people, *must be made in a relationship with trust*, otherwise the person might feel bullied and even give up (chaos). Also: you don't have to be in discomfort all the time and in all ranges of your life. It's ok to feel comfortable and safe in some, and it's ok if you are so discomfortable that you had to take a step back, feel comfortable so you can try again. We are each complex and deep so there's no formula and equation that will fit everyone. 5 rings can't even begin to describe everything involved in growth. Put a certain amount of pressure on coal and it will make a diamond, but put too much pressure on the structure of a building and it will fall down. Life is just like that - there is no ready formula for it, each situation and individual require a different, perhaps unique approach. That's why it's hard for me to get into self-help: 99% of the time it lacks or purposely hides the complexity involved in life and in human beings. And I know TED talks aren't meant to last an hour but hey the lecturers could explicitly show that the subject has way more levels and degrees than what is being shown.

[@tripnotico]

Couldn't agree more with you! Thanx for sharing your thoughts

[@applepeel1662]

My main problem with traditional self help systems is that it always feels a little pretentious. At least I feel like that

[@alfredogoudet1162]

Absolutely. One piece of wisdom might give you a new view of things, but true change comes when one embraces the full journey of his/her life (which in and by itself is complex) and implements as much insights and strategies as possible; also through digging really deep into oneself. At least, and hopefully, what you learn in talks like these will help you understand your life faster than you would yourself, but in the end, the COMPLEX journey of life is yours to take, and some answers only you will be able to find.

[@fabiorachid3430]

@@w4rooster514 Thank you for the suggestion, I'll check out the book and podcast!

[@w4rooster514]

@@fabiorachid3430 cool! If you remember this thread, come back and tell me what you think about it! It’s changed my life!

[@nv-747]

I've built this new habit of reading comments after watching every video on KZbin because I get amazed by the creativity and humour people around the globe pour into these comments.

[@evavranici7645]

The best part of videos are its comments' gems haha

[@nv-747]

@@evavranici7645 true

[@praneshepicmindsets]

It was engineered to become a habit for us all. It was supposed to be addictive not only scrolling through videos but also scrolling through the comments. Stop spending more time on comments. I know our mind is curious and it wants others perspective and want to share its own view. But this is what is being utilised for us to hooked to this app longer. We need to be more mindful than ever. Good day.

[@dad4378]

@@praneshepicmindsets thank you.

[@dad4378]

@@praneshepicmindsets sir are you Indian?

[@graysonskweres6021]

My favorite quote ever is from a book called The Prophet. "The lust for comfort murders the passion of the soul, then walks grinning in the funeral."

[@zohaibs761]

Wow. Who is the author of this book?

[@johnmchugh1218]

@@zohaibs761 - Kahlil Gibran

[@christianjardin3110]

Great quote

[@christianjardin3110]

Amazing quote. Thank you

[@vwd3781]

Just like Satan our enemy who lures you to sin, then laughs at you when you do it.

[@ImGoingSupersonic]

Need cloudy days to appreciate the sunshine.

[@armartin0003]

You need order and disorder. Comfort and discomfort. Too much of either is a bad thing.

[@dialymail8513]

Adam Martin Yep completely agree with that, BALANCE between both is th key

[@jul9cuz]

So a well managed balanced life? Sounds like sage advice.

[@NetSkillNavigator]

u need to undergo discomfort for u to achieve comfortable lyf..

[@Sofie424]

Good point, Mary. Also, some comfortable things lead to discomfort. We need to consider both the current and future effects of our actions.

[@koranamudrovcic6603]

From what this video says, you need 3/4 of discomfort. That's the point.

[@doubleplusgoodful]

"The world promises you comfort, but you were not made for comfort. You were made for greatness." - Josef Ratzinger

[@themacocko6311]

Ego food 👎

[@jesuschristislord77733]

We were made for survival open world gameplay.

[@uraniumjoe]

@Elliot Rodger by "world", he meant civilization and the comforts society pushes, not "planet"

[@Kiery112]

Facts!

[@bendover2684]

God is this cringey

[@ethanbrunt7755]

The greatest explanation of this quote: “get comfortable being uncomfortable”

[@ZaWrldo]

One of my favorite KZbinrs tweeted this and it hit me. "There is no comfort in growth and there is no growth in comfort"

[@spacegirl7290]

His speech makes me to read more because when you read , you're actually challenging your comfortable mindset and that will certainly lead you to grow

[@MajorPayne175]

It's amazing how reading will open your mind to new ideas. They just come to you.

[@c-fin]

Wow. This really set things straight for me. We can only reach our full potential by engaging in discomfort. I'm 18 and this is what I needed to hear before entering the world as an adult.

[@top1percent424]

Connor Finerty It's not easy. There will be times when you'll want to quit and get back to being _comfortable_. Don't quit. I'm 21 and I've only known this for may be 1 year or so.

[@cuscof2]

You're young enough to take some big risks, and haven't yet accumulated enough stuff/social standing/emotional attachments/etc. to make it really difficult to step out of line. After high school I left the town where I grew up, worked as a theatre techie for a couple of years, lived with a bunch of hippies, hitchhiked across the country, and went to Peru. I had essentially no money, working mostly for minimum wage and sharing space with other people, and had an incredible time. I can't recommend this strongly enough; **GO HAVE ADVENTURES!!** The people who I knew that stayed in that northern Michigan town and did the safe thing? They're boring, stifled, unimaginative and unable to adapt to change. What you do now will make a difference in how you live the entire rest of your life, don't miss the chance!

[@c-fin]

Thanks for the replies.

[@sineadtbc3338]

+Connor Finerty Look up but look around you too

[@danpt2000]

Haah!! I graduated college in May 2001. I always knew life was tough. What kept me going was the desire to be financially independent. Yes, I wanted money. now that I have it, its like... ehhh... if I lose it, won't be all that big deal, can still make more.

[@KalpeshMange92]

Applauded alone in my room to this. THIS is what we need. Growth.

[@Ecsellinstitute]

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[@mikebee6633]

I did the same as well :)

[@jonathancarlospina1838]

same here

[@evaalordiahmusic]

I cried and applauding as i type this. no when im done typing

[@aalnouk]

OH GOD, I DID THE SAME!

[@mike4ty4]

Discomfort vs comfort -- the real trick is not so much which one as how you _react_ to them. Discomfort can either be reacted to as a motivator, or you can become fearful and withdraw into depression, timidity, or neuroticism. Comfort can either be reacted to with complacency, or you can take charge of the happiness it provides to be productive with a clear head and peace.

[@Messi10947]

mike4ty4 wow , that so true, comfort need not necessarily be bad

[@TheIllusionguy]

Its a true test if you can battle out the depression, and the hurricanes that set to ruin your life. Then you emerge as a strong individual, who has survived a storm, just how a sunny day and clear sky awaits you after a hurricane. That is comfort earned through discomfort, and its a cycle.

[@k.rlevine2051]

Exactly, the point is missed when "people" think he is advocating "discomfort": He is advocating reaching your full potential in life by changing and growing...

[@jstnhnh]

Agree 100%

[@LILHOMIECOOLKID]

Well said

[@PhoenixCrown]

Thanks Bill! Discomfort was forced on me when I was pushed out of my first job after 2 years. After 3 more jobs, I also realized I'm a bad employee... so I triggered discomfort myself and started my own accounting firm. Now, I help small businesses with their bookkeeping and financial advising and am much happier (though maybe not more comfortable)!

[@anuragjain464]

Hello phoenix, i am an CPA pursuing student, if you have any virtual internship please let me know.

[@oniichan7520]

yoww can you help me with your bookkeeping ? i wanted to learn

[@mehmet.albyrk]

Thanks for sharing your story of getting out of comfort zone.

[@elvirammdva]

I totally agree with the title of this video. If you want to succeed something in your life, you have to get out from your comfort zone.

[@SansPeine]

No. Fwck discomfort

[@D-J-Q]

This is what I understand about my experience and I think I can relate to this: Being in your comfort zone is not guaranteed security. Going out of it once in a while can give you potential for success.

[@CassandraBankson]

The most uncomfortable thing I've ever done, was take off my makeup and post the video on the internet, baring my acne to the world. It could ruin my career as a model. It stripped away a shield of image and my safety. It made me feel emotionally naked. And it was the catalyst to loving myself without makeup, and spreading the message of inner and outer beauty on my KZbin channel today. Being uncomfortable was the best thing that's ever happened to me.

[@bhataktiatma1080]

I that acne video was so inspiring. I came to know about you after that video went viral

[@stevenrix7277]

oh yes I remember that video

[@whateverthefuckiwant4289]

Late, i know, but i just need to add that as a plus you helped thousands of people ❤ Your toughness paid off in every way and I salute you for having the guts

[@craigjames8026]

Guys have to go through life without makeup and then prepare for losing their hair in later life. You've got it easy...

[@breght9881]

I subscribed to your channel...I don't regret it!

[@SystematicImbaPh]

Watching this during my break while I'm about to get fired. Feels good!!!

[@mabururozu5954]

This man knows how to make a simple topic sound extremely complex.

[@curious_one1156]

Nope. He rather tried to make us accept it.

[@ivaroaddogsitting6610]

I have been watching TED talks for a while. This is the best one I've seen so far. If all TED talks were half as good as this one, I would stop going to college and study TED talks all day

[@dt28469]

getting out of my confort zone has become a mantra for me! life changing desicion.

[@maxtamang9028]

what diff things did you start to do?

[@unit56productions]

Super Short Version: No pain, no gain.

[@intelligenceislikecommonse6263]

wildpartypeople everybody wants sunshine no body wants rain but you can't have a rainbow without a little rain

[@praketak47]

not super short version, super short biased version. Pain is pain.I think Discomfort is a lighter word. Discomfort is painfull for "many" people, it can contain a situation in which a person can attain understanding nature towards something, etc. Its ok man, no hard feelings but u took a "comfort" way of saying things. Discomfort is better word then pain. Period. If u want to give a better word, u r welcome. I wish u had discomforted urself atleast in the video that talks about discomfort. If what i said is wrong, correct me atleast in this video. I welcome it.

[@hybby]

wildpartypeople thanks for saving me 12 and a half minutes

[@steve5123456789]

Or chronic stress.

[@theultimatereductionist7592]

Then you have no business ridiculing ANYONE for being violent (so-called "criminals", "terrorists", protestors). Infinite hypocrisy lecturing to somebody that they should put up with physical pain, discomfort, violence but then ridiculing protesters who justified in violently overthrowing unjust governments.

[@nobody9621]

Listening to ted-talks is like having a real friend that is willing to share his/ her stories to us, whenever we feel down

[@michaelfuqua4394]

Had this belief in my mind forever. It’s hard to force yourself into discomfort but damn... it sure does pay off. Stay humble and protect your own path. Love and gratitude 🙏

[@SansPeine]

It doesn't pay off. I'll be comfortable as much as I want

[@Mmvexxx]

ive been pushed to my discomfort zone. my dad was diagnosed with ALS about 6 months ago. my gf walked out on my two months after. my life is in chaos at the moment trying to pull it together. but it has had its silver lining. ive become stronger in my faith and it has really center my priorities again. im trying to enjoy the time i have left with my father and also at the same time see where i can bring the most value to people with the gift God has given me

[@christiehobbs3827]

When I stepped out of my comfort zone, I found what I wanted in life and since have created a good life that I am able to share with others and help people to do the same "Blessed"

[@omer82752]

I remember my fathers frustration at me for being stubborn and not listening to his advice, but every generation has to make their own mistakes and learn the hard lessons which only pain and discomfort can teach!! So true what this presentation says about pain and learning, only through mistakes and necessity do we learn the valuable lessons of life. You appreciate success more if you have to struggle for it!!!

[@daveclow74]

I quit my safe job of 11 years, 1 week after getting the keys to our new house and whilst my wife was 5 months pregnant. That was uncomfortable, I questioned my own sanity many times. I left the safety zone to start my own business and it was the best thing I've ever done, a pivatol point in our lives. Ask yourself how safe your 'safe job' is when your boss can end it all tomorrow....

[@daveclow74]

@The Keene Team thanks very much, I hope things go well for you too. It's great to have support at home, the unsung heroes. I don't think you'll regret the decision to carry on with your business. The rewards will be far greater. It's only the beginning for you, too!

[@daveclow74]

@@alessandroraso4951 bicycles!

[@jeanlandais4516]

I feel like I needed to hear this too, thank you

[@unknown31203]

I need this at this moment

[@krutikatti7933]

I really needed to hear this today, thank you!

[@eleutheros]

Should watch this every morning. This is my all time favourite video. Watch it over and over and over.

[@TommyFamous]

Yes! 🙌🏼 It’s in our discomfort we find our true comfort through personal growth and evolution! If we all just stayed “within the lines of order,” we’d wither away into nothingness!

[@annaschott1274]

The "Growth Rings" put thoughts into words. Thank you Bill for sharing this idea not only worth sharing, but also worth implementing in my own life!

[@Cineenvenordquist]

Anna Schott Oh great, now he's going to send you a ton of broken telopause analogy based ads and nobody will finish their kitkat or coffee anymore because of the fashion.

[@voynich7119]

Lately I have been feeling like the "comfortable life", meaning sitting at home playing video games, watching KZbin, eating whatever I feel like at the moment, etc. has made me actually sad. I hate it. I hate standing still. It's the absolute worst. I need need noise, I need unpredictability, I need stuff happening. I need to just yeet myself out of my confort zone to be actually comfortable in my life.

[@mya632]

I agree with you. I love spontaneity. I hate routines because knowing what I'm going to be doing on a day to day basis is so boring. I too have been sitting at home watching TV and eating a lot of food, yet I'm unmotivated. The sitting has taken a toll on me not just physically, but mentally.

[@aytakgh5634]

Same 👌

[@timsheen1158]

It takes a lot of courage, but I feel the same

[@emad5406]

"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone"

[@faustin289]

You'll never feel comfortable sitting at home watching tv if you know the landlord will knock at the door and evict you anytime

[@Nadd108]

This is the missing piece of the puzzle, it is so simplistic but ignored mostly by the parents. Just amazing talk. Thanks

[@christophercarr5865]

There's no sense of "simplistic" that's positive. If something is simplistic it lacks something -- it's inadequate in some way because it's _too_ simple. "Simplistic" *doesn't* mean _pleasantly simple_ or something like that.

[@clevername8832]

The piece to which puzzle?

[@plusfour1]

What's that? Don't intervene, let them figure it out for themselves? Hard to do, pretty damn effective in my experience. My kids were babies until 2 yrs. Honestly, I didn't plan it that way, I just thought that my job as a parent was to teach them to be independent individuals by age 18

[@Blocphace]

This is an interesting talk by Bill. I so appreciate his position on this and sharing his thoughts. I Spent a large part of my younger days abused and neglected. Parents not being around, and spending time with other family members who were not hiding their discomfort with my presence. Some days Food was a luxury. I understand fully well that there are others who suffered a more severe fate. Having spent a majority of my life playing 'catch up', I've got to say it's taken a toll. At this point, I'm not ashamed to admit that I seek comfort and order in it's purest form.

[@audreym823]

thats actually a good thing. it means you’re leaving your comfort zone, as weird as it sounds. most people stay in or replicate bad situations because its comfortable and change is hard. im trying to avoid the same thing myself, because being the same type of miserable is easier than possibly introducing a new, different, scary miserable. the fact that you want better for yourself is good. that is the opposite of sticking with comfort

[@tahitihawaiiblue]

@@audreym823 great point 👍🏻

[@TheJigree1]

I also had a traumatic, chaotic childhood and sought growth and then finally sought only comfort. Only now I think I've taken it too far in seeking comfort and avoiding discomfort. I wonder how we find balance between pushing ourselves to grow and being in a state of comfort.

[@motv-independentthinkingfo3817]

I LOVED THIS TEDX! DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO GET COMFORTABLE! QUESTION AUTHORITY, SEEK POSITIVE CHANGE, DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF FROM ALL OF THE SUCCESS AND POTENTIAL GROWTH THAT YOU HAVE INSTILLED IN YOU THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE! I AM INSPIRED AND I AGREE WITH HIM💯🙏🏽❤

[@familyontheway3300]

Whom so ever watching this video, I wish you health, wealth and lot of happiness to you from the bottom of my heart.

[@patty3451]

I'm snapping my fingers on this one!!! Complacency has never been a friend. Thank you for this talk.

[@mojogroddomyzogrodamipodwa7897]

Leaving the comfort zone, that's my target from now on! Thank you

[@Kshesho]

I clicked on this video because the title made SO much sense to me. Comfort kept me from overcoming my Social Anxiety Disorder, living independent, and just being happy in life in general. Often times I now hear the phrase, "lean into discomfort." Probably the most difficult to face, but meaningful and powerful advice I've gotten.

[@nancythomas-wardm.b.a2993]

Don;t blame others for your position in life..be responsible for your own thoughts and decisions...shape yourself to be the best you can...never stop learning and sharing...gratitude for the life you have as over 1 million people don;t wake up in the morning!!! Thx Iman i just joined your program to realise having no regrets, leave a legacy......xn Oh yes avoid like the plague the 1.8 negative people above...

[@oscarmoxon]

This is in my top 10 TED talks of all time. I understand everything he's on about.

[@mhamdking4860]

+1

[@parthsalat]

The confidence with which he speaks is simply fantastic.

[@tristandrew5903]

Yes it makes puts me in great comfort

[@CalvinCambridge12]

For every great force there is an equally great opposing force. Love and hate. Happiness and Sadness. Comfort and Discomfort. Experience both forces for what they are and do not let the forces consume you and we'll be alright! Wish everyone the best on their journey!

[@TheBroknPezDispenser]

Everytime I go through severe life changing discomfort, I come back to this.

[@donbongo9298]

The way he says friends is just so warm

[@tobybromfield3664]

This is sooooo true! Like with learning a language, if you just do the things you can do you don't improve, but in reading difficult books, in going to new places, talking about new topics, doing new things, you have to adapt so you learn so much more. Like at the gym, if you do the same weights over 6 months you won't make much progress, but if you change it up, shock the muscles etc you have to adapt and so improve. It can be placed in so many situations.

[@suhaspathak6319]

Great speech, I know that comfort will destroy years and years in life. I was experienced it.

[@shanghai_city]

Thank you for this speech. I listened to this at the right moment in my career.

[@coachtammyspeaks]

THIS GAVE ME CHILLS! Thank you! So POWERFUL!

[@ArcaneThingOfBeauty]

Well said! In retrospect, for me the times where my life progressed were during the most stressful and uncomfortable times of my life. 😮‍💨

[@justiceforall6135]

"Choose complexity instead of order" great advice for growth.....

[@chillo5687]

The thing most “hustlers” don’t realize is that you don’t have to be working 24/7. If you did you would be the most uninteresting and boring person to be around since you’re constantly working. You have to have time to RELAX. And that’s OK. We’re all human and taking an hour to relax isn’t going to kill your chances for success, only mad people think otherwise.

[@slifer4912]

That's not what people came to hear.

[@azizhamid6480]

That's a defeatist mindset. You want to relax, relax. But dont complain about successful people then.

[@Hari-bz1mh]

@@azizhamid6480 No that's not a defeatist mindset. Learning comes from all forms. If my idea of working an hour less and using that to relax is to hear some new classical music, I'm learning. Successful people do relax, the difference between them and you is they know how to manage time better.

[@TheMusicLauncher]

@@azizhamid6480 your favorit football stars do breaks, your president is doing breaks etc. But breaks do mean that you did work before!!

[@saksham9170]

Lol relaxation is so important it's funny why people don't realise that

[@seanpayant9497]

Bill, thanks for sharing your experience and coaching us with your wisdom. Great Job! SP

[@badkarma1459]

It's interesting to me that this is spot on for fitness, diet, and weightlifting. The real trick is having the motivation to constantly and consistently push yourself into the growth zone. So few have the will power, focus and discipline to do this.

[@davidgoggins9585]

I first watched this video back a few months ago and lost interest 2 minutes in. I stumbled across the video again today, and this video is honestly life changing. Bill Eckstrom gave me the answers I was looking for. If you want to become a Master of Growth and achieve something more in this world then you must learn to love what sucks. "Growth only occurs in a state of discomfort." Therefore to master growth, you must live in discomfort.

[@bublikstudioproductions9686]

Ya coding every morning for me, on my BackEnd...

[@curious_one1156]

Those who have the comfort of discomfort given to them by mentors are lucky, specially in the childhood.

[@brant7173]

Without fear of death, nothing is complex. When you have nothing to lose, chaos becomes order.

[@arun.m0007]

Brant awesome man that is so true

[@brant7173]

MorTobXD people only try to predict the future out of self defense. Without fear of death, there's no need to predict the future, thus everything that happens in the future is all very much in the realm of expectation from the perspective of he who fears not.

[@FocusMrbjarke]

If you don't fear anything you probably can't grow much

[@ragnarlothbrok3849]

+Brant chaos isn't a pit, chaos is a ladder... :D

[@djasks2950]

Brant that seems like one of the worse orders. What if someone damaged their muscles every time they worked out? Theyre trying to grow the muscle but end up stunting it.

[@claudiofreitas910]

Great great Ted Talk. I go for it and recommend it to all of us. Too much comfort will take us to stagnation and eventually death, first mentally, then physically. I have known many people who always lived in the comfort zone. Today they continue their comfortable life ...in the cemetery...or in a jar.

[@kaveh8425]

Seeing inspiring TED talks >> change makes sense >> enthusiasm fades away >> continue as before - why someone wants "order"? so they can stop worrying about thing - why someone wants to "growth"? to grow to certain degree, financially and otherwise, so the can stop worrying about thing While the drive for "order" and "growth" is the same the outcome will be the same no matter what you do

[@Rainstorm121]

Your audience is huge. Some or if not, majority in this world were born into the complexity and all we do is to adapt and resilient to the surrounding harsh environment. We aren't leaving a discomfort to another discomfort state to grow, but rather still seeking the comfort state that you left for a better living experience! Thanks for sharing though!

[@echidnuttt9326]

I'm really amazed by how people assume that all We want is success, money, etc. Some people would rather go fishing on a Sunday than have meetings.

[@DP-yw4vk]

His advice doesnt necessarily only apply to careers. You can choose to apply it to whatever aspects of your life. Want to ask out that girl? Youve got to face the discomfort of making the first move and confront fear of rejection. You want better physical health? Youve got to face the discomfort of your muscles burning when exercising. Want to learn a language? Youve got to face the discomfort of speaking it out loud. We must all take the time to fish or enjoy a sunday roast, but if thats all A person did in life... boy what an uneventful story that would be

[@bunsenn5064]

@@DP-yw4vk But then again, some people don’t want eventful lives, so…

[@ЮрийКривчак]

@@DP-yw4vk Согласен с Вами

[@outsourceplug8937]

Amazing talk. I can totally relate. My mom getting evicted when I was 18 and telling me "Anthony, i'm sorry but wherever I go, you cannot come with me" was the best thing that ever happened to me.

[@KEN_DOES_IT]

Damn thats Deep, but a blessing

[@bignattyzacky8097]

dam man, 🙏🏼

[@ammumeme5789]

What happened after that?

[@outsourceplug8937]

@@ammumeme5789 That was 10 years ago, I was forced to figure out a solution or go homeless. Long story short, I came out on top and now I own a company with 40 employees and growing. I decided not to become a victim.

[@minglee9288]

@@outsourceplug8937 id like to have a talk with you

[@sheepleslayer586]

Still watched this, even though I "thought" I knew what it was about. Thought I did, I still heard it in a different way of thinking that expanded my knowledge of the topic.

[@ginaconcialdi4352]

Because of COVID, millions of people are experiencing CHAOS, CHANGE, and FEAR of the unknown. We have been forced to look in a different direction. I’ve used this scary time to find my passions, and it’s been a breath of fresh air. CHANGE IS GOOD!!!!

[@naulietje]

Three years ago i had to make my own ted talk and i chose this topic after watching this video. It's funny that after all these years I still remember every word. Really changed my life, thanks mr. Eckstrom.

[@archon3897]

This is a game changing talk. I've watched hundreds of these and this is major. First one I've liked on KZbin and first one I plan to share.

[@michellekatambala2]

So lovely

[@donaldwilson3579]

Well thank God I was born with General Anxiety Disorder & hypochondria. Haven't been comfortable once in 23 years ...

[@justafighter1346]

Hypochrondia is pain bleeding right?

[@AlessandroMarcolin]

that's too much of a good thing then

[@norway963]

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[@armpap1]

You seem to be in chaos ring.

[@MsCristina38]

I agree, you seem to be in the Chaos ring.

[@OEMM71]

I love TedxTalks in general, but this is the first one that made me write down many things for immediate introspection. Thank you very much for sharing your life experience. You bring hope and example that with determination, discipline, and faith, many awesome things are possible, no matter the time.

[@djaidanadege]

I'm so glad he called out Claudette!! So inspiring!

[@lonjemariesfashions5117]

I’m going to put this in my video library of one of my top 10 TEDx talks of all times this Gentlemen can bless you because he’s right!

[@khalidakram]

One of best talks I have listened to in the past 5 years! wow. It just makes sense!

[@adammalik5731]

The prevalence of comfort has had a detrimental impact on successive generations. The proliferation of modern devices and electronic conveniences has led people to opt for ease in their daily lives. For instance, individuals now have the ability to remotely turn off lights instead of walking to the wall switch, and they frequently choose to drive short distances rather than embracing the simplicity of walking. This prevailing comfort has resulted in societies becoming complacent about their progress and development. As a consequence, the hunger for achievement diminishes, and a sense of laziness takes root. Interestingly, it is discomfort that acts as a catalyst for change and growth. When faced with challenges, the brain is stimulated to devise innovative solutions that eventually lead to greater comfort. However, the quandary arises when individuals remain ensconced within their comfort zones. By doing so, they inadvertently stifle their personal and collective growth, impeding any transformative changes in their lives.

[@SansPeine]

Laziness is great. I'm looking to comfort as much as I can

[@jupiterscorner5423]

UPdated: I watched this months ago before I moved out and now I moved away across the country escaping my toxic father and I have grown as a person

[@AyushSharma-jp9wd]

I've been in stagnation and stuck pretty bad and this is what i really needed to hear, thanks I'll start getting discomfort from now on.

[@arlinegeorge6967]

Departure from the ordered life. So true. Loved your talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

[@davidwalmsley5941]

This is essentially Nietzsche: " That which does not kill us makes us stronger"

[@Da1RiSiN1sMoKe]

This is why I hate living in a small town. Everyone and everybody is bent on routines, taking the safe route, and driving in the slow lane. Any sort of attempt to take risks or to work hard to achieve your dreams a bit faster is viewed as cutting corners and being reckless. It's not the environment for someone that wants to better themselves. It's like Office Space for blue collar workers. You can make a decent living, but it's a dense and small fish bowl.

[@dbsk06]

Jakub Rosman you should get out then. Go to college out of stars

[@dbsk06]

State

[@josyangelyislanda118]

There's nothing wrong with that... People have different ways of being happy, not everyone one wants to be the wolf of wall street

[@joshuaallen8982]

@Jakub I understand your mentality. I escaped my small town to live in one of the most populated states. I can tell you personally these people are cut throat and miserable. The ones who aren't are business psychopaths and feel nothing at all. No body trusts or helps one another. The opportunities are plenty here. I have had amazing experiences and my eyes have been opened up to a new world. But I also realized it's foolish to think the grass is greener. I would like to find a place that is somewhere between small town and urban living. Because both have their pluses. Life is about finding out what truly makes you happy. What makes this hard is comparison. Comparison to who we think we should be. Comparison to who the world thinks we should be. Comparison of ourselves to other people. Find out what brings you happiness.

[@jul9cuz]

You just described humanity in general. Keep dancing Jakub.

[@AS-lu7gm]

i'm watching this video while comfortably laying in bed and eating some chips

[@JaydenLawson]

lol I'm in bed about to snooze zzzzzz

[@drummerschild6487]

thank you for the realness

[@MissOryxxx]

omg me too !!

[@shankarvaraprasad6806]

Man comfort mean not just watching this video :)

[@toshirotobgay6984]

LOL

[@j-the-isso2087]

Amen, Amen, Amen. This needs to be taught in schools.

[@steelcon58]

Wow. Love it! I was so uncomfortable in my comfy job that I quit. Last year. I’ve never felt better and I had no idea where I was going.

[@LessonsInLife]

You will become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Then you will stop fearing discomfort and you will open yourself up to some positive changes in your life. ;)

[@lowkeytarr6509]

🙏.

[@asiddiqi123]

Recursion.

[@SirLoochie444]

Amen 😌

[@olive4naito]

Or you become uncomfortable with being comfortable. Regular mental stimulation is craved.

[@jamespurcell548]

where does it end?

[@roons2424]

Boy I can tell by his circumference he still rolls in a lot of comfort

[@SlayPlenty]

He has to deal with much more stress than any employee when running a company.

[@ju9piter]

Yes, I had to walk away from my government job because it was horribly stagnant. And it was oddly chaotic at the same time. In short, It didn't have order OR complexity. I know that was the right decision at the time, and this talk helps me understand why.

[@benswanson2301]

I think it was put better a little while ago when Paul wrote God's power is made perfect in weakness. I haven't been fired. I have battled Parkinson's since I was in my early 30s. Glory to God. His grace is sufficient.

[@keysersoze9551]

Stay hungry! Never get comfortable. Very deep speech, great job!

[@GGGGoGetterGirl]

Stagnation will always stunt growth in your life. Keep seeking and keep improving!!! Cheers, GGG

[@TopEvt]

We grow and learn through our struggles. Comfort stagnates us. Great talk!

[@christinas.4342]

TopEvt The only struggles you'll ever have is to go from morbidly obese to simply obese and to score a date despite your social awkwardness.

[@haotang2638]

I can’t believe that being fired is the most discomfort he ever experienced- what a privilege

[@Sköt222]

Yes, people have had it worse but that doesn't diminish his own experience as less valid than theirs. If that's what you're implying. Discomfort is universal and shouldn't be gatekept.

[@richardhemingson3824]

Great talk and very true. Can't stress how much being uncomfortable makes you grow.

[@jeffdouglascreates]

That Bus Story. Awesome and you said Jesus. Amen.

[@success_chemistry]

That was so healing. Thank you for all the stress this has relieved me from.

[@explorewithCK]

"what makes you comfortable can ruin you, and only in a state of discomfort can you continually grow"

[@mangoyacho]

Such words of wisdom especially during the period when corona has turned our lives up side down. Thank you for sharing your insight.

[@nexx410]

7:59 My mother pushed me constantly and once I just couldn’t handle the stress and the incentive to push through faded to choosing comfort. I think it broke something inside of me then. I became untethered to life as I knew it because my motivation was coming from others and by myself I had nothing to strive for.

[@dwightbooker2224]

Crazy that this popped up to watch. I just recently moved to SD from NV to grow personally and professionally. Has been uncomfortable to this point in many facets but I'm learning and getting more then I wanted or expected.

[@domosjourney7545]

Needed this today. So grateful and thankful for Ms. Cloven' s mention!

[@rofu37]

Really enjoying the wisdom in these comments. Also, I appreciate that this speaker gave historical credit to Claudette Culver, who I was never taught about.

[@zainhummamy4272]

Incredible talk

[@sonyaberkenpas5071]

The example of the high school student in the 1950’s made his point crystal clear to me. Thanks for going “there” in a Ted Talk.

[@GianetanSekhon]

5:03 Well, this is exactly what I did after listening to this marvellous talk. I resigned from my very sercure job to trade it for a life of discomfort.

[@ZZ-pr2hy]

You missed the point here.

[@GianetanSekhon]

@@ZZ-pr2hy No I didn't. We don't have to copy every letter and word that is said but extrapolate the idea to our situation in our own way.