The Imposter Syndrome Paradox | Lisa and Richard Orbe'-Austin | TEDxDeerPark

[@malcomx8806]

Repeat: when you work as hard for yourself as you do for others you will be unstoppable.

[@authenticallyzenful]

When you make yourself a commodity not just a want… but a need. I had a I value me! Work hard to value me…

[@letthetrumpetsound7893]

Just thinking before I scrolled to comments (btw yours is the 1st one on my screen): 🤔 I will make a poster and hang it on the wall💯.

[@vidapolitica8366]

Start your own business

[@Doctorul]

Yes Malcom bet untiv we discover this "imposter" we feel guilty helping others because we think we help ourselves...but the fact is win-win

[@crystalheartstar]

I think a lot of us who end up with condition had very critical parents, who not only were hypercritical, they also told us that caring about ourselves is selfish. And selfishness is a deadly sin.

[@lelueste]

Oh, I so much agree. Here I am, impostor syndrome since a kid (they never realized it was serious and simply joked about how I shouldn't be insecure) and a people pleaser.

[@loxofluxe]

This hit home for me! I still struggle with perfectionism, which hinders my growth and progress 😩

[@BReelProductionz]

I'm in absolute tears and awe hearing this helpful presentation! I heard every.single.word and it did something transformative in me. I learned that sometimes we don't take our own good advice when we need it most. Im a big cheerleader and encourager of other, but not to myself. I often felt a positive compliment given to me was given in pity, not bcs I deserved it. I work extra hard or not enough and have often fallen into that imposter syndrome not knowingly. I guess i just needed to hear this articulated in a way that doesn't shame the volunerable feeling it gives. I DO need to work harder on ME and healing ME...but in a healthy way where I'm not masking my shortcomings as being a failure or overcompesating with empty positive affirmations. So much to unlearn and relearn, but hearing this presentation so eloquently verbalized, I feel I have a clearer view of what what I've been struggling with these past few years. Thank you!! 🙏🏽

[@WaterEight]

💛

[@ShelbyArtist]

I just realized that the reason I give out so much validation to others is because it’s what I’m needing. 🤔

[@rhiannalopez3805]

I’ve realized that I do it because I’m overcompensating for something that I never had but always desired for myself

[@RenzElRey]

Great TED Talk! Extremely relevant in a COVID age where many of us work remote and it’s difficult to set boundaries.

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Thank you so much!!

[@iamjdesigns]

Lisa and Richard are True professionals. I loved this Ted talk.

[@karanjadavid2178]

such a good ted talk. Cheers to all good managers that show appreciation for work done.

[@tracybenson6364]

Great talk. Recognizing the fact that you are not valued is important. And anger is a powerful emotion and can fuel action.

[@tffnyhenkel]

This is how I’m feeling right now. Thanks Lisa and Richard for putting words to how I’m feeling and a way out.

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!

[@heatherfork9977]

Excellent talk on the imposter syndrome. What she says about how a work culture with excessive expectations can fuel the imposter syndrome fits very well with the phenomenon in medicine. Many doctors suffer from the imposter syndrome and the culture of healthcare can feed into it. Thank you Lisa and Richard!

[@manelgharsalli3087]

Thank you so much for this great talk! The combinstion of impostor syndrom and a toxic work environment ( PhD supervisor in my case) can be so hard and lead to depressionand more ... so thank you so much for speaking out about it !

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Completely agree! There should be more protections in general, but definitely in academic environments where it is rife for exploitation.

[@mhharley]

Exactly!!!

[@talkingforwellness]

Excellent TED talk Lisa and Richard on a very important topic!

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Thanks so much, Nathilee!

[@lydiakumah8824]

Listening to this makes me cry, I know I am not a problem because I was made to think I was a problem for years and should have kept quiet about what I was going through. I want to know how to overcome the fear of going into the same situation in a new working environment

[@yourdreamstrategist]

@Lydiakumah8824 sending you well wishes. I think the way to not going into that same situation in a new working environment is to get clear about what was toxic about the last situation and write questions you can ask in your interviews about the place you're interviewing at and to ask yourself what's it going to take to see your worth. Even though Richard spoke life in Lisa constantly, Lisa had a hard time receiving it until she had a turning point. Maybe your tears are the same turning point? Are you ready to receive that you're an amazing woman that offers so much to this world not because of what you do, but simply because God created you that way and everything you do is an expression of how He intentionally created you? I believe in you. 🤗 ☺ Do you believe in you?

[@lydiakumah8824]

@@yourdreamstrategist I believe in me. Thank you very much for your response. I truly appreciate it

[@sunshine21911]

The best 12 minutes I’ve ever spent on KZbin!!!!

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Thank you! What a kind thing to say!! We appreciate it!

[@tismarkboham1717]

Definition: 6:36 Take action: 11:29

[@mhharley]

I can relate all too well to Lisa's story. I am just month's away from completing my MBA and I am having trouble with imposter syndrome for the 1st time in my life. 🤔

[@JenniferRingwald]

be super careful; I was expelled from mine after thinking I successfully graduated. It is hard to see mistakes and poor choices when prone to self sabotaging. It ruined me internally. Wish you the best!

[@JenniferRingwald]

oh oops, two years ago LOL! Hope things are well for you...

[@sharonmsiza7310]

Listening to this makes me feel like someone is retelling my story. Lisa's story is identical to mine!

[@officialcalvinwayman]

The beauty of good storytelling

[@lgaray7032]

I’m Lisa too! I did my dissertation and got my doc degree 😢

[@gauravverma7396]

It is beautifully symbolic and coincidental that the speakers didn't stand on the red circle (where speakers are supposed to stand on). It showed visually how a person with imposter syndrome feels about not belonging at the level where he/she is currently.

[@slaycj2413]

This was a much needed TED Talk topic. Thank you.

[@ellliiott]

Imposter syndrome is an indicator for growth. Lean in.

[@BMarquet]

I’m glad I was able to find this after I watched the IG Live on the Switch Pivot or Quit podcast

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Glad you found it, too! Hope you enjoyed it and found it useful!

[@StudyandwritewithmeRenee]

This basically just said prioritize self care, value your work even if has mistakes & others don’t give you recognition. It doesn’t say HOW. HOW to change. What comes first? Is it environmental change? (You said you hit a bottom and with support from partner quit and got out of that toxic environment) behavioral change? Cognitive change? Affective change? Which behavior, environment, cognitive or affective changes should be addressed and which first? This is nice that you happened to find this shift for yourself, but a Ted talk I would hope would enlighten others to understand a pathway to those changes not just the end result.

[@noahclark7603]

Some Ted talks just talk about subject or even simply the importance of the subject. And the portion about what to do to improve is less dense

[@bobbiecaress4736]

Thank you for posting this. I'm mentally ill and Lil bit lost onwhats right.

[@KyloG-G1228]

As we develop into adulthood ,there are tools that we will obtain from sources that provide support and guidance for the trajectory/ journey of life and death, for which is needed to assist in pivotal moments in needed times during your transition periods to knowledge and experience with understanding ones self, tools for life.

[@hikari8313]

Every word hits deep. I want to quit my job but i just cant. Idk where to start

[@manuelcisneros690]

Amazing! Currently dealing with this and this TED talk will help me make changes to my priorities and the way I perceive myself. Thank you Lisa and Richard

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!

[@kthommm]

I needed to hear this. Everything resonated with me. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@AnayawaN]

I have this problem. Got my PhD in 2018 and it still feels strange to use my title.

[@raynat-zoe6215]

You are worth it Dr Anayawa Nyambe! Yes Doctor !

[@TuNguyen-ec9tl]

It is amazing how we as human just like one another but yet try everything we can to bring others down instead of building each other up. I can resonate & quit my job not because I did not love what I do but because I did not want to give others the power of saying how much I worth based on how unwilling they are to match up the paid to my ability until they willing to match all and then more until I serve them another offer. This is not how company should retain talents. I did felt the anxiety of making mistakes for leaving afterward. But eventually, it is the best decision I have taken to ...free ...me....

[@davidcole4988]

Fantastic talk Lisa and my old NYU classmate Richard! Imposter Syndrome is insidious, especially amongst professionals of color. Another related issue, especially in grad school, is infantilization.

[@MerlininTaos]

Very good information! Inspiring! Well done!

[@luaskya4459]

Awesome Ted talk, thank you both!

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Thank you so much!!

[@d.i.a.5392]

I have this thanks to my PhD supervisor! Never will be forgiven.

[@hyelinnah8050]

Thank you for your talk🌹

[@tirespark]

i struggle with this deeply hopefully i can learn to overcome it

[@msprettykawaii950]

I've been with same company for 10 years, the pay is good but I'm undergrad and feel I don't deserve to work there. But it's a blessing to work there tbh

[@MmesomaMgboko]

Excellent collaboration ❤

[@CalligraphyArts]

Excellent presentation, thank you! I've seen it up close - how workplace culture breeds impostor syndrome. There's no room for psychological safety in the office, something we need to be fully productive.

[@opeyemiolasunkanmi9714]

Great speech

[@Mien177]

The problem isn't necessarily the person, it can also be the setting or culture.

[@Aisi555]

wow..this syndrome is effecting me for 25 years..

[@JoyFay]

Sounds like her old boss was a Narcissistic.

[@billiesimmons5598]

So interesting!

[@bubblesartgallery5081]

How can we fix it?

[@damarisdimushi6440]

awesome talk !I could relate 100%

[@Dynamictransitionsllp]

Thank you!!

[@bananerbug165]

The impostor has sabotaged the problem and made it even worse

[@aristideregnier4883]

where was it? Deer Park what?

[@pat6412]

how do get help I'm have the syndrome

[@KyloG-G1228]

All minds are connected through thought and resiliency with unrelenting strength from God, our lord, the creator of all that exist .

[@ohmcharan3019]

Sussy sus paradox

[@paolasegnini]

Am I the only one wondering what that man does there? I mean, it's her story. Right? Mmm

[@ozifirebrand]

He's a part of the story. They have a business together. He was a first hand recipient of her frustrations. He should infact be there😂

[@tonyanson1252]

THAT is what we call a partnership

[@paolasegnini]

@@ozifirebrand be there? Definitely. He's essential. I just would've loved to listen to her more, that's all.

[@GG7GodsGrace]

He experienced her actions, he’s a different perspective, she’s married so he went through this as well. This helps couples in the work that comes with marriage. Ups and downs❤

[@GG7GodsGrace]

@@tonyanson1252glory be to God

[@kiarntz]

❤

[@edwardchuang4224]

Amogus

[@Cliffhouse97]

We are trending away from meritocracy. So, the likelihood is that you are, in fact, an imposter and not the best person for the job.

[@ColterBrog]

This just sounds like a cheesy, and way too scripted, self-help snake oil speech. I don’t frequently downvote videos on KZbin… but what a pointless waste of time. Her salary was too high.

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