MEETING THE ENEMY A feminist comes to terms with the Men's Rights movement | Cassie Jaye | TEDxMarin

[@dreggory82]

She gets it, equality should not be about punishing the other side, it should be about lifting each other up.

[@benthayermath]

Yes.

[@scottsteiner359]

Literally men have been supporting and protecting women since ages . While women can't do anything for men .

[@victorrafih9238]

Scott Steiner that’s just straight up ignorance bro, cmon

[@vaclav_fejt]

@@scottsteiner359 Well, she's the prime example that they can and they do.

[@scottsteiner359]

@@plannetworld89 nah , I don't want women , I just want to focus on my career and earn lots of money . Maybe I'll also do some social work . But I'll never restrict myself to one woman . I'm that smartass .

[@TheBillNye]

“It’s not a contest, but I kept making it into one” Perfectly sums up the issues at hand

[@jaked924]

Never thought id agree with you. But here i do.

[@benjamin7670]

@@jaked924 Lol You have no idea how mutual that comment is...

[@APiccolo]

Either I'm too naive and just got whooshed or these guys just believed this is the actual Bill Nye. ...or even, I'm BIG TIME naive because this is the actual BN haha

[@DiscocheeseGaming]

Alexandre Piccini it’s a wooosh

[@alma8508]

Almost thought it was the real Bill Nye

[@francocruz1083]

When someone admits they’re wrong or are able to see the other persons point , they earn my full respect

[@boxscorestuffer6217]

Same here

[@Maribro4]

Agreed. People today are either too self righteous and won’t admit when they’re wrong even if they know it because they’re too proud, or they’re scared to admit they’re wrong because they’re taught that when someone is wrong they’re bad because being wrong is bad. There is nothing bad about being wrong, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes and are wrong about something. We need to spread that message more because it shouldn’t be such a rare thing to see people openly accept and admit they were wrong. I will always respect people who admit when they’re wrong or are able to see the other person’s point, i just wish it was more common

[@ryanrich06]

Ya, she wasted 10 years of her life with idiotic viewpoints.

[@darrientwyman1309]

Yeah but it still took her being around people who are dealing with issues and then she needed those issues re-enforced after years of research. Shorty just proves we will never understand eachother, much respect, but she really shows how long it takes for someone to use common sense.

[@glennmoyers4956]

She wasn't wrong, only misguided and brainwashed by leftist ideology

[@imAnonymous_19]

"Go outside, everything you see was built by a man, and everyone you see, was made by a woman." When it all comes together, it makes a very beautiful sentence.

[@eunomiac]

It really does! Though I'm pedantic so I'd remove the third comma: "Go outside, everything you see was built by a man, and everyone you see was made by a woman."

[@Haakonisak]

Everyone was made by a woman AND a man. Without a man a woman can't make anything but trouble.

[@imAnonymous_19]

@@eunomiac The presence of the third comma indicates the significance of the line as an eye opener towards current beliefs and expectations of hearing, the brief little pause the last comma provides provides a short amount of time for the listener to grasp the importance of the role of women in creating the creators. This concept somewhat defies expected statements regarding this topic. To further demonstrate the sheer beauty in the art of creation, be it in the first case or the second, a brief pause is provided before revealing the immense importance of women, and that's what the comma signifies. I generally don't overlook minor details, and this comment wasn't an exception. (Edited in a play of words with a repeat of the word 'provide' to humorously demonstrate attention to detail)

[@terrencelong6436]

No..that's incorrect,...apart from natures creations...everything and everyone you see was made by contrbutions from both man and woman.

[@imAnonymous_19]

@@terrencelong6436 It's a broad generalisation of the major role of men in construction and the role of a mother in parturition of a newborn offspring. As it's natural for a quote, this quote is generalised.

[@dontcare3293]

The fact she actually said "i wasnt actually listening to them. I was loooking for flaws" made me respect her. Not only she renewed her world view. But she also became honest of what she felt at that moment and was not ashamed of admitting her mistake.

[@brickplank_films5189]

sadly that is modern day society we look at people flaws we judge people by there race,ethnicity,likes,dislkes,opinions,gender instead of truly judging people by there character

[@jxslayz6663]

As one who has sinned, its best for us to help others who are lost in the sin we are now free from. It's the right thing to do.

[@shauryasinha7785]

The confirmation bias... is the worst of all

[@fishgaming9959]

@@brickplank_films5189 quite ironic

[@Aj-vz5ux]

@@brickplank_films5189 I am 2 years old and will never become a member Pen

[@zackjandali]

“We have to stop expecting to be offended” are the wisest words I’ve heard in a long time.

[@emaan6082]

Amen brother

[@dorothycampbell3]

Sorry I hadn't seen this sooner. We waste so much valuable time "wanting to be offended" 😞

[@morokeiboethia6749]

There are so many people who are absolutely addicted to victimization (always seeing themselves victims of injustice) that they want to be offended. There are tons of feminists who are addicted to this selfish/self centered mindset.

[@dorothycampbell3]

Zack, I never thought of it as an "addiction," but truth has been spoken.

[@scallen3841]

@@morokeiboethia6749 I think playing the victim is the easy out .

[@Phisim101]

"We have to stop expecting to be offended" - really hit the nail in the head with that line.

[@billsimms2511]

Yes, but we are going on the wrong direction. So many people are trying to look for sexism or racism everywhere

[@soph5423]

it odd to me how I've never looks at it that way, its kind of amazing how much that sentence changed my view in an instance

[@JMObyx]

@@billsimms2511 That's exactly the point, people are looking for war and conflict where there is none, The Left wants a fight, you can see it in every interaction with them.

[@CMT_Crabbles]

@@JMObyx Whats the left? I hear it everywhere and it just seems like political slang that everyone seems to get.

[@Lilgip234]

@@CMT_Crabbles it honestly goes both ways the left will also say oh he’s right it doesn’t matter but both sides have become extreme

[@R3GARnator]

I was falsely accused by a woman for turning her down, and this made me cry.

[@Momonga32]

Stay strong brother were in this together

[@nfymgeas4]

number one way to get that to happen in my experience is to reject them, speaking from experience.

[@lisahinton9682]

@R3GARnator Accused of what?

[@BigBananaBus]

what do you mean of what? XD its obvious lmao @@lisahinton9682

[@L333gok]

“The only thing that matters is me because I met one bad woman even though the majority of abusers are male”

[@Bmetamaximus]

From a father who escaped an abusive marriage but is still trying to save his son... Thank you!

[@lightningrain313]

I sincerely hope you get your son back!

[@jacksonbreece1066]

You go king

[@joshwilliams9248]

I feel you Brother. The court system is against us and its completely unfair. Best of luck...

[@MrDahQ]

Best of luck to you brother!

[@iuliastratulat5503]

if your wife is abusive I do hope you get your child, I would hate it for an abusive person to get the child. I am a woman and I don't care about the idea that a mother should get the child, he/she should be with the person that would take care of the well being of the small person as best as they can. good luck to you!

[@Valhalla1987]

"When one group is silenced, it's a problem for all of us.". Something I wish more people understood.

[@jorgecardenas4438]

JA JA JA JA

[@c.sstudios3060]

Tbh idc if far right folks would be silenced

[@josephreinhart8712]

@@c.sstudios3060 then why do you care so much?

[@brentbarfuss7900]

@@c.sstudios3060 Shush yo mouth soy boy

[@theiranxican7412]

@@c.sstudios3060 yeah well us fAr RiGhT eXtReMiStS don't need silence when you communist soybeans do just fine running your mouths like inept teeny boppers. Just saying...🤷‍♂️

[@Bubbles-od2zm]

“When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community.” What a sadly raw, honest statement.

[@peasant7214]

Still into effect in most communities, including some/most muslim communities whats the cure? :(

[@riteshbolane]

When Jon Snow considered the wildlings were human too , and shud be protected from the night king, he gave them shelter. In turn he was murdered by his brothers of the Nights Watch for supporting them. He never said he was switching sides, he just wanted the same side for all.

[@beneaththesurface1569]

Feminists are a community of deranged man bashers set in a society that already favors women. I have quit women and want nothing to do with them. The arrogance of being in a "movement" that wants to push men further off the cliff of inequality that is practiced against men should be enough for anybody.

[@sammyruncorn4165]

@@beneaththesurface1569 I feel sorry for you.

[@nbofddsrtre6216]

@@riteshbolane the one true king,The King in the North

[@ballroomdancer2010]

"We have to stop expecting to be offended, and we have to start truly, openly, and sincerely listening." This right there, would solve most hate crimes, Racism, sexism, classism, and most issues us as humans have with each other!

[@srinivasgogula7235]

"When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community " this is so true .

[@scarletwarlock3261]

Powerful but very true. Everyone around you hates this person or group. When you dig deeper and realize the monster you thought was there was actually not there but just a human. Your group starts to hate you because they believe that by seeing good in something bad then you are as bad as that accused person or group

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

But when will the enemy humanize you?

[@snowbind]

@@wyleecoyotee4252 Maybe they were never your enemy to begin with?

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@@snowbind ask the Red pill society that question how they feel about women, all women of all ages

[@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945]

History repeats itself

[@richardfrankenberg4268]

There is nothing that brings a tear to my eye and stirs my soul like when I see someone grow and admit fault. Humility.

[@KLOC2812]

Idno man, you seen those videos of soldiers coming home to their dogs? That stuff'll get you every time :P

[@Andrew-oj3pv]

Kial O'C Don’t get me going down that KZbin rabbit hole

[@Picklespit]

@@Andrew-oj3pv I can't get down another rabbit hole. I've just watched 5 ted talks in a row.

[@xmixaplix]

Yes well God knows how much damage she did before she became woke 🤔

[@richardfrankenberg4268]

@@xmixaplix God? You think God cares?? look around you.. Does it really look like a God cares what we do? People drop that name like they know it personally.. Like there is a 2 way convo going on.. Do you pay any mind to the ant crossing the side walk? Nope, so why would a god?? Are they sociopaths?? Because the behavior they have displayed says they are... God.. seriously?? God died once mankind started having IQs over 135..

[@ace_ofchaos9292]

When you dehumanize your enemy you feel more justified in attacking them.

[@j_freed]

This is what I think about reading on the Bolsheviks and Stalin's Russia, or when looking at the secret pictures taken in the Lodz Ghetto. Everything was done to remove people's humanity AND THEIR HOPE a little bit at a time so it appears less shocking to finally destroy them, and in fact they hardly resist. How else possible except by psychology. Different regimes, same intentional and gradual systemic dehumanization as today's (Way Too) Far Left. They want to wear you down so you give up and play along. Did you know right after Kristallnacht, some Jewish people immediately left notes and committed suicide? They were literally killed by the IDEA of their whole society they were part of for generations now rejecting them. *Political triumph of the Left and Right is really the murder of hope and the human spirit.*

[@myeyesaredrymylove]

Damn thats a banger quote!

[@Thleta]

Absolutely

[@whatami999]

It’s what the Nazis did to the Jews

[@jesusgod8060]

Kid you not this is the emeny

[@planseed]

I almost cried watching this because it hit so close to home. Thank you Cassie for having the courage to stand up for us, not many people do. I'm not a religious person but I see you as a saint. Wishing the best for you, yours and everyone.

[@princekazhila2003]

"as an interviewer you don't interrupt." there is something you dont see in today's mainstream media.

[@Vaguer_Weevil]

She was rather professional about it at the very least, externally anyway..

[@dr.c196]

Interview with Jordan Peterson.

[@Simon-cd1ui]

Sometimes its hard when populism is a thing and politicians are constantly lying in interviews. But in this case you’re right.

[@johndavis-fl8yj]

Because the main stream media has an agenda

[@nabahmadi5012]

Look up her interview in Australia... it was so bad. The media was trying to bring her Down.

[@markgcarroll]

Massive admiration for anyone standing up and saying they were wrong in their assumptions, and being willing to change their mind. In short supply these days.

[@justinhamilton2334]

I think one of the reasons why it is so rare is that we treat saying "I was wrong" as some sort of weakness or moral failing.

[@peacefulambiance9064]

It takes a strong heart to not fear backlash for admitting your mistake.

[@TeamPill]

@@justinhamilton2334 most definitely. People love to say that others should admit they are wrong more, yet will scrutinize or judge those who admit it in ways that make people not want to admit incorrectness/failures.

[@justinhoover7025]

Absolutely. Not only that, but understanding both sides and admitting mistakes makes you a more likely candidate to listen to. People who never admit they're wrong even when they are, have no merit.

[@sg2412]

It takes wisdom to recognise one's flaws, courage to accept them and a will to change them.

[@supersleepy6295]

This woman is so smart. She realized her bias and her dismissal and fixed it instead of justifying it. Bravo!

[@stefanos6505]

Italiano anche te?

[@Gyros-nr9ke]

@@stefanos6505 spaghetti?

[@stefanos6505]

@@Gyros-nr9ke Preferisco le costate.

[@john-paulsilke893]

It’s a beautiful thing to learn just how much you don’t know. I sincerely hope you returns to woman’s rights advocacy. It’s important to have such intellectual honesty in an adversary. Fight me and win on your merits means that you deserve the resources. It’s better to lose to honestly then to win because of communist propaganda. If woman’s rights needs such resources then by all means but if some other rights such as men’s rights need those resources then they should win.

[@andrechantiloupe5449]

That is wonderful. How many can?

[@justinh.1290]

Ask 10 men who they talk to or confide in when they’re down. The amount of men that respond with something like “no one, nobody cares” may astound you.

[@namtech425]

Oooh yes, being a man is a lonely road. And doing what we as men do, day in and day out will scare most women to their core, the amount of mental and physical strength required to be a man on a daily basis is surreal, but that being said - we make it look easy don't we lads?

[@hazelhazelton1346]

@@namtech425 We sure do, with a bit of help from Gordon, Johnnie, and Morgan...

[@bsallre]

We have to be there for each other

[@szaka9395]

​@@bsallre i know that feeling so good. I was alone for 15 years, im 33, and ironically my two best friends are very young ladys 24 and 26. I meet them 2-3 months ago. There was not one person, friend, brother, sister, mother, father i could talk like that with about life. I felt like my familly gave up on me for some reason. I am thanking God that i meet one of them and she introduced me to her friend. They literaly changed my life, saved me from sueside.

[@y.a.p8951]

​​@@namtech425 it's remind me of something. Did you by any chance come by the name of Dax? just asking 🙂

[@distractionbeast778]

When 3 of my 4 children were born, the hospital's policies would not allow me to be alone with them, including when my wife was sleeping. We were provably married, my wife even gave consent, but their policies still prohibited me based on the *possibility* that I was an abusive man. As a loving, religious, married and involved husband and father, I don't think I've ever felt as diminished in my life.

[@RRC6490]

John Michel wow! That’s just ridiculous, I’m sorry man

[@grumpyyellowfang3344]

Wow, that should shouldn't be illegal your wife even gave consent

[@ailurophile107]

That is absolutely heartbreaking. They shouldn't be allowed to split up families like that. I'm so sorry this happened to you. :(

[@ashleywilliams10]

Oh my god..

[@joshuatan942]

America?

[@it82298]

"We Have to STOP EXPECTING to be Offended, & WE have to START TRULY, Openly & Sincerely Listening" KILLED IT

[@ActivatedSpy06]

Wth I was scrolling threw comments and I hear her say “stop” as I saw the comment

[@akanecollazo6244]

@@ActivatedSpy06 omg the same thing just happened to me lmao

[@ActivatedSpy06]

@@akanecollazo6244 😂😂😂

[@joseangelsolano6145]

That's not going to happen, in this moment everyone gets offended by everything

[@mclion8135]

Nice profilpicture

[@normanwilliams2737]

“When you start to humanize the enemy. You become dehumanized by your community” Amazingly put.

[@harleyquiinnnn]

💯

[@nwinburn]

As a former liberal, liberals are experts at doing that.

[@govsecret536]

@@nwinburn Any group is. Look at what Trump supporters do to conservatives who don't like Trump.

[@danishdude6750]

@@govsecret536 What do they do?

[@williamhu9567]

This is why i'm always scared of discussing any social or political issue with anyone. The fear of being heavily judged by both sides discourages me from speaking up. I'm sure there's a great number of moderate political folks, but since the media grossly generalises left and right, they don't have a voice in the conversation.

[@ynotbloom]

The part about “wrongly accused” so rung a bell for me. Not often, but several times during my career. I saw how men and women claiming domestic violence victimhood were significantly treated differently. I will share the one that sticks in my crawl, the most, even after all these decades. As a Police Officer ( now retired) in a metro of nearly 200K pop at the time, I took & investigated a complaint of Domestic Violence-Related Kidnapping. The complainant gave a verbal and written account of how her ex-husband used the presence of wanting to work some things out, held her hostage and in fear of her life for hours until they happened to stop for a traffic signal near her mom’s house. There she claimed to have jumped out of the car and fled to Mom’s house. She gave vague times and locations (citing mental trauma) but an intimately detailed description of their clothes and car. Because of how our State & local laws & policies were written I was either to locate the subject & interview him (as in -functionally- locate & communicate with him within about half an hour), or put out an Apprehension Request on him (essentially jail him until either I or a Judge spoke to him). Even if I communicated with him, if there was even a reasonable possibility that the complainant was correct, he would still be jailed. I actually found him at home about 10 minutes after I finished speaking with the complainant. He was cooperative and came with me to the department for questioning. His account paralleled that of the complainant with significant differences. He gave very specific location and time information of their whereabouts for the evening and question. He stated that she had wanted to celebrate his birthday by going out that evening. He further said the night ended nicely with her, giving him a kiss goodbye in the car, getting out, and then actually running down the block as he left… To give him one more good night kiss through his driver window. I knew the locations given, and all were known to have excellent video security elements. Within 48 hours, I had obtained five, good quality to excellent quality video accounts of what occurred that evening evening - including (miraculously) an owner voluntarily submitted ring, doorbell, video of the , Chase and second good night kiss. In contacting the complainant back for a secondary interview, she double downed on her account, claiming that he had actually choked her in the car just before she jumped out and escaped. When I completed the investigation, I referred the complainant to the district attorneys office For two counts of filing a false police report, and one count of obstructing an officer (because the video evidence completely exonerated the subject, and completely contradicted the complaints story). The end result was the district attorney declined to press charges. In a quote off the record” conversation some months later, a secretary told me that the talk in the office was that it would not look good at election time to have charged a female, domestic violence complainant such charges. Further, I received a verbal and written “tongue, lashing“ from one of our detective captains regarding my investigation. I was specifically told that, instead of wasting my time, trying to prove the complaints guilt, I should have concentrated my efforts on, proving the subject was guilty. my options going forward were to either drop the batter, or risk being suspended for insubordination (putting both my and my family’s livelihood at risk). Yes - there is a significant discrepancy when it comes to how persons on this topic are treated in the legal and judiciary system: and it is not even handed.

[@zerocal76]

Jesus all of that is simply frightening. I had an ex once who even when she was 100% wrong would never admit to it and was cold until I'd apologize or stop being upset myself. I'm so glad all that ended. Be strong and wise men! Thank u for sharing the story sir 🙏

[@tile82]

That's just unbelievable and unfair. And we call this justice?

[@GianlucaTorromeo]

wow that justice system sucks.

[@mmmbbop9351]

Yep as someone who has been falsely accused I am due to appear in court on Friday for the announcement of the trial date. This system is terrible and I have to admit, if I see a woman in trouble or in need of help or anything, I just keep on walking now. My very biological need to protect women has been stripped out of me and I'm not the only one.

[@Hadgerz]

The Party dictates that a woman absolutely cannot be seen being charged for a false accusation, because that would look bad come election time. This is why you DON'T vote blue, no matter who.

[@GIGASHOT1997]

"I was told they were my enemy" Literally every war ever

[@Nemesis0513]

(Agonized screaming)

[@Nemesis0513]

@Just one more thing were you told to?

You are always the hero in your point of view

[@Hahny]

Realtalk

[@imamfn]

As a 1920's kid I can relate to this

[@juanjrocha]

This woman has simply gone to a higher level of understanding, she is far beyond a thought of gender, she is clear about the true sense of equality, she has my deepest respect.

[@fernwogteveril6935]

Well said

[@SantanuPaul27891]

Same

[@jairusjackson7799]

Well put.

[@Aj-vz5ux]

Death to the broom. . I want a vacuum cleaner

[@billystokes3917]

@@Aj-vz5ux Death to the broom! 🤣

[@natalianat9105]

I got attacked too by many so-called feminists because i stand up for men's rights too. Gender equality is acknowledge BOTH rights. I salute Cassie for this! Total wisdom. God bless you, dear ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@DenEz_TV]

Natalia, you are doing the right thing. ✅️

[@homiyarsachinwalla9424]

God bless you too !

[@roko2xz47]

individualist

[@hubristicmystic]

Big Brothers solution is to declare gender “a social construct” so this lovely lady’s statement “all people were birthed by a woman” is now transphobic and fact checked false. George Orwell warned us, it’s too late.

[@serowisd]

Humans like you are the only reason God still accept us lol

[@ClimbnFish]

Ugh having been falsely accused of abuse when in fact my ex was the one that was violent, this hit home. It took her own sister testifying against her for me to get custody of my kids. Ridiculous.

[@DiamondCraft2000]

sorry to hear that you had to deal with that :(

[@bplayerr1]

✊️

[@hmu05366]

Millennial women are generally nuts to be honest.

[@flipnap2112]

people dont want confirmation of the truth, they only want affirmation of their own beliefs

[@alexismisselyn3916]

it's a really common bias, should directly be taught in schools

[@shivanigautam7456]

and so you found it here, congrats.

[@thebluepineapplephoenix101]

wisdom

[@orbitingsentientsatellite4361]

teddy pendergrass well damn that exposes us all doesnt it

[@marksolidum832]

The hard thing about this issue is that most times our reality and our truth is defined by our own beliefs. So much so that truth and belief become interchangeable. So when someone is telling the truth, it's perceived by many as it's their truth or it's their beliefs. So essentially, confirmation of the truth doesn't mean much because which truth is it? Whose truth is it? That's where the issue is.

[@gregorflopinski9016]

This is healthy, listening to the other side is healthy. Don’t let the elite divide us

[@gemmahodson8300]

@@gplugt7960 how so?

[@tuckerhenrikson7709]

@@gplugt7960 How? He literally said to listen to the other side, which is what the woman speaking was encouraging...

[@AmphiStuG]

@@gplugt7960 Mate you might want to take the filter off for this one.

[@Jacob-zk1jy]

Both sides have some legitimate problems

[@thestretchy1539]

Your absolutely right you must know your enemies side of the story to be able to achieve a better future for our children and their children we must work together not again each other

[@scottkendrix6231]

It's a beautiful thing when someone, ANYONE, can stand up and say "I was wrong so now I want to put things right".

[@dorothycampbell3]

AMEN Scott Kendrix, it takes a strong person to admit when they're wrong. I despise the term, "Toxic Masculinity"

[@mattg6106]

@@dorothycampbell3 Toxic masculinity is maybe an over-used term by some groups in an attempt to demean others but it is an issue. More often than not it's an issue that negatively effects men. Men aren't allowed to show emotion or 'weakness' in a lot of cases or else they are ridiculed. This sort of thing can and does lead to issues of depression and misrepresentation. There are additional TED talks about the subject which are worth a watch.

[@ch1gga22]

Matt G in a lot of cases the fact that we don’t show emotion is the reason in general men are funnier than women as instead of just staring our feelings we put a filter on it via comedy so it doesn’t make us look weak

[@Deairejeffries81]

This woman is a great add to society

[@mkobd]

Matt G toxic masculinity is not real because it is a subjective idea and has no true definition. The definition changes from person to person therefore it’s just an Internet slang term that made it big time but will definitely fade away soon.

[@veermehta3066]

its been 6 year since the video is posted , still no change is there in society

[@rettenthetetlen8759]

It's disheartening to hear that there hasn't been much progress in addressing misandry despite the passage of time. It's important to continue raising awareness and advocating for equality and respect for all genders. Change can be slow, but every effort counts towards creating a more inclusive and understanding society. Keep speaking out against discrimination and promoting empathy and understanding.

[@BlatFlattery]

It’s actually worse with woke movement

[@hunter.5625]

@@BlatFlatteryway way worse now these feminists are fighting to give men in dresses better rights and privelage than actual woman….

[@L333gok]

Maybe because this woman is literally just a misogynist and a pick me, and everything she’s saying makes zero sense and is literally just made to distrust you from the fact that men are oppressing women. Nothing she said is true. She knows it isn’t. Women are still oppressed and men are the oppressors

[@alexxx4434]

Humans being silly humans, instead of sides working out a complex issue together people prefer to radicalize and declare enemies.

[@jimbojankerson5610]

Single father here. Closer to my DAUGHTER than she is with her mother. I woke up in the middle of the night during infancy not her. I was cheated on and abandoned then forced to pay child support in a JOINT custody agreement where I have her 50% of the time. I've been put through the ringer and continue to be and nobody cares. Glad to hear this. Men aren't always what society pretends they are. Respect to all the single moms out there no disrespect. Respect to all the good dads too.

[@ThePooppantsman]

I'm sorry my man and people wonder why we want to kill our exes haha

[@wrestlingyoutube8170]

This is dark

[@jasonsensation46]

I've had custody of my 2 children for nearly 2 years. We haven't received a single penny from their mother in child support. She cheated, she abused me and my children. If it was the other way around it would be whole different story. But on a brighter note I've met a lot of women since I've had them and they have all supported me and been great.

[@Avaritia_IV]

@Tessi simp my moms a single mom but my father was the one who cheated on her

[@karlsmith2570]

I feel you, brother I'm also a single dad to a daughter who, like your daughter, is closer to me than her mother, in fact, she doesn't even acknowledge her mother as being her mother, saying that "She doesn't deserve the title" and she's right Just like in your situation, I also was cheated on, or I suspected that she'd cheated on me at least, I ended up paying child support to her mother's Aunt and Uncle whom she'd surrendered her parental rights of our daughter to and prior to my being able to appear in court for custody of my daughter, I was arrested for a BS charge, which was eventually thrown out of court for lack of evidence and that was enough to make the lawyer representing me to tell me that she'd felt that my only options were: Voluntarily surrendering my parental rights to my daughter and still having the chance to have visitation with her Or Go to trial, get my parental rights taken from me anyway and never get to see her again

[@LargeLadCharles]

As cool as this is, the whole talk boils down to “I decided to actually listen to someone with a different opinion and changed my views based on new information”. It’s sad that this has to be glorified when it should just be the norm.

[@jelled.6784]

true story

[@deealfaro-baeza8314]

True

[@lostdapack]

Fr

[@Scizorsome]

Man the internet is a small place, eh?

[@icantpursuewhatimtrulypass7335]

Even so it is actually quite a challenge to let go of your ego the way she did.

[@usethefooorce]

I respect this woman for acknowledging her bias and having the humility to shed it.

[@adamjohns78]

usethefooorce agreed... one of few it seems...

[@SW-pb4ch]

@Peter Laughton ok mr incel

[@kevinvanderperre5921]

I believe we have found the other half of the issue

[@justanotherweirdo11]

Hopefully more women and men (like Peter in the coments) will do the same.

[@thatgaming1940]

@Peter Laughton Ok simp

[@Alex-sr3ez]

My then wife had Borderline Personality Disorder. This wasn’t just my personal opinion, she had been clinically diagnosed that way by no less than 3 separate physicians and clinical psychologists. Near the end of our 3-year marriage we got into one of many arguments and after about an hour and realizing we needed to stop and then come back and readdress the issue once we both calmed down, I told her I was going for a walk. She didn’t like this so she got in her SUV and followed me as I walked down the sidewalk in our neighborhood. She drove beside me on the road yelling for me to come back home. When I refused to stop telling her I’d be back in an hour she became enraged. She drove up on to the sidewalk and bumped me from behind with her vehicle. I then walked up away from the sidewalk and started walking across neighbor’s yards as it was a heavily treed neighborhood and I knew she couldn’t get to me while walking in the yards. She gave up and went home. After about 10 minutes I resumed walking on the sidewalk. All was well for about 30 minutes and then BAM she came up behind me and once again hit me with the bumper of her vehicle, this time knocking me down. I wasn’t seriously hurt other than my knees and hands getting scraped up from hitting the sidewalk. This was witnessed by a homeowner who then called the police. They asked me if I wanted to press charges and I (foolishly) said “no”. No action was taken against my ex. A few months later I filed for divorce after discovering she had cheated on me. We were legally separated pending divorce. One night she got drunk and and insisted that our previous agreement on division of furniture wasn’t fair to her (even though I agreed to her taking about 70% of it). Through texts I told her I wasn’t giving her anything else unless a judge ordered it. She got angry, drove over to my house, broke a window to get in and then refused to leave unless I gave her what she wanted. I called the police. They told me that because the house was still in both our names they couldn’t do anything. I filed a restraining order and then went to the county office of domestic violence to inquire about what resources they head to help me deal with an abusive spouse. They looked at me like I had 3 eyes and told me with a straight face that they don’t handle domestic violence for men.

[@intoHeck1964]

The real issue with society: people will oppose you without even knowing what you stand for. They will deny what you say without even hearing what you have to say.

[@mikeexits]

It's largely, if not all rooted in assumption. That and the inability to admit you're wrong. If you can admit when you're wrong and catch yourself when you assume something (whether true or not, but especially if not), you'll notice that conflicts that arise in your life will get nowhere near as bad as they were before being this way. If more people did that, emotionally charged arguments would be a lot more uncommon. Sadly much of modern culture promotes and incentivizes irrationality, hivemind mentality, and even psychological/emotional manipulation, if only subliminally.

[@PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945]

Then don't entertain them problem solved.

[@woswasdenni1914]

well they dont even know what they stand for themself

[@L0vetube1]

yeah, they just wanna be right in every situation... more than wanna be human...

[@Beerbottles123]

That's just society in general.

[@TheMeJustMe75]

My ex-wife used to turn in me in a second and then try to swing at me like a man. If something didn't go her way in life then she would yell and cuss at me. She did that to me in public. I finally filed for divorce and then she completely flipped. She was kind and wanted me to pull the divorce papers. When I refused she then told me that she would have me killed. I just looked at her, told her she had 5 days to pack up her stuff and get out. Long story short, she disappeared so she couldn't be served the divorce papers. She didn't even show up to court. Men get abused more often than people think.

[@TEAMGETHELP]

@藍染 惣右介Aizen Sousuke depends on state laws

[@trevorking2820]

Way to stand your ground 👍🏾

[@mercenary3353]

i would never commit just pump and dump

[@11lvr11]

I'm sorry that happened to you:(

[@VaultedPicks]

Thank you for sharing you story, I hope your doing better these days! Stay strong :)

[@acib3491]

I haven’t seen my two boys in almost 5 years despite having joint legal custody. I’ve spent a half million dollars in court with no success. You see, I’m the dad so I’m the bad guy. Men’s issues are real. So glad this lady had the guts to admit that.

[@Aaron-ln3ht]

This could really happen to anyone. I hope that you will find justice for your (and their) actions someday.

[@stephenjoseph5265]

I lost my two boys for 7 years but things have started to change. Hang in there. They need you, even if they don't know it yet. In modern western culture men lose custody battles.

[@saralomauyesu]

women are fighting their own ego. Nothing about men.

[@Aaron-ln3ht]

@@saralomauyesu I get where you're coming from but you have to remember that Not all women are like that, and men can be losers too.

[@ea2314]

She has been destroying men rights for years and just makes a video for views and suddenly is forgiven If a criminal admits to a crime it doesn't make him/her a better person

[@hadleys.4869]

The amount of compassion and empathy she is capable of is emotionally moving.

[@treelinehugger]

First, she used logic and facts to realize her views were mistaken. Only later did she become empathetic. The problem with our culture today is that facts and logic are seen as uncaring, even patriarchal. Our "education" institutions indoctrinate young minds into believing that feelings are what matter most. Our culture is the opposite of stoic, and this is the result of feminism.

[@charlesg7926]

She seems like a really, really good person imo. Beautiful inside and out

[@l1v1dsow26]

“It’s not a contest, but I kept making it into one.” bingo. I feel like so many people from both sides of this argument (as well as many others) need to realize this.

[@ALJ9000]

Yes. If people stop thinking only about themselves, everyone would be happy

[@mariana457]

I must admit, I have done that mistake as well 😬

[@thephilosopherwhojoked4249]

@@mariana457 The key to self improvement is acknowledging mistakes.

[@mariana457]

@@thephilosopherwhojoked4249 Thank you 😊

[@ashishgahalaut8121]

Yes💯

[@patrikjarvine8542]

Way way way way wayyyyy too many people look at mens rights as just ”anti-feminism” man these replies are getting old

[@wellDamnJamz]

at first I understood the critique because I only ever saw it used in response to women complaining about their rights. but over time I've seen more and more dudes and even women try to go up for men independent of anything to do with somebody else's ongoing convo, get smeared online, labeled and clowned. what started as genuine concern quickly shifted to something else.

[@wellDamnJamz]

@Stefon Palinic it's not a competition. People who frame it that way defeat the purpose of discussions about gender relations anyway. Women have advantages as do men. Although most of ours are based on person to person perception and not law like theirs. There is truth on both sides of the discussion. But both sides take the worst of the opposing side and frame it as the norm. That's why convos go nowhere.

[@wellDamnJamz]

And if you read my post you'll see my issue was the topic being "all lives matter"ed when nobody is heard that way. I can be critical of both sides because again it isn't a competition

[@chrisdee7931]

@@Plaky No feminazi is for extremists. Blindly.

[@preethiyadav2862]

Shutup you Sexist

[@marcb5594]

"Stop expecting to be offended " Great advice for me and everyone And Listen without interrupting is a gem

[@staus949]

could you imagine if the media would do this when they interview people that they don't agree with

[@nathanmyles1]

u said it

[@yannick9761]

That’s true. Just look at Jordan Peterson. He constantly gets interrupted by his hosts. They also always anticipate to be offended by what he says. They don’t listen but jump at every yap of something that out of context sounds anti-women like

[@Endlessfairytale]

Yup. If we only learn to truly listen it wouldn’t be hard to see and understand others and not just on this issue.

[@anthonyyoussef01]

Liverpool ❤❤

[@Money_Making_Mentality]

"Empowered Voices: A Journey Through Feminism" Great one. Pageturn Junction where to find. Loved it!!!

[@Emily-dw8wd]

I loved this one. Kept me Going!!!

[@Jacob-yp4th]

Made me think alot about rights for women. Great help!!

[@EleanorGray-iq5oz]

Thanks for this book for existing!!!

[@funch357]

The real enemy is EXTREMISM that completely shuts out the other side, regardless of which way you lean.

[@typ044]

Indeed, the truth is usually somewhere closer to the middle.

[@klaudinegarcia8932]

This!!!

[@A2goddess]

People like chanty binx and Alex Jones

[@kirbyarroyo2118]

@putalawea equisde stop

[@cmerks5]

Its called fascism

[@radiopilot850]

I fought to save my son from a life of drugs and poverty. I was told by Judge Remington that “ simply because You had a child out of wedlock it gives the woman the upper hand, in this case custody will remain with the mother” there is legitimate discrimination against men. I hired a female “mens rights” lawyer and have had my son for the last 15 years. Thank you for doing this Ted talk.

[@summydots]

Sorry it gets confusing because we can't see who's commenting, it took me a couple of tries to fully understand, you must be the father, who was able to have his son for last 15 yrs

[@smelly_code_odor_coder]

My childhood was essentially ruined and wasted because my mom got custody for similar reasons. My dad was both mentally and financially stable while my mom was far from it but my dad's lawyer told him it's not worth even trying to get custody as a male. Both I and my siblings have suffered because of my mom's choices, neglect, and abuse. We all eventually moved in with our dad but I can't help but obsess how differently and better my life could've gone had my dad raised us.

[@eldridgecoutinho2674]

Probably an irrelevant point but you did a great job by hiring a female lawyer. I think that helped Jonny Depp a little too. It shouldn't be the case buts thats how it seems to be now

[@nilnil12345]

Once during a college debate I spoke about Men's rights and I was stopped midway and made to apologise for daring to speak for men's issues as if it was somehow anti woman. I was villified and called a misogynist, sexist bigot by the same feminists who claim they care for gender equality. Totally sick mentality.

[@ok-sj7bx]

Are you male or female and where are you from if you don't mind me asking?

[@devonm042690]

@@ok-sj7bx Why does that matter?

[@clutx3116]

@@devonm042690 you have hit the nail on the head!

[@okplay9446]

@@ok-sj7bx Judging by his comment, he's probably a male student in an American college.

[@ya33a]

I was villified at work for suggesting that I wasn't able to access programs for support and when I suggested there was inequality in the process and workplace I was put on a performance review .... yes this whole debate is BS it's about mutual respect and rights, so long as some groups have more rights and opportunities than you do....

[@spoopythings]

This aged like fine wine

[@indridcold8433]

She has gained my respect. Her well spoken, calm, logical, presentation is a rarity today.

[@uk9383]

Its like listening to my slovene teacher

[@notalawyer9824]

She stated the facts

[@doboi8121]

It’s a trap!

[@norsefury74]

That's why the left has probably banished her. Because she's rational.

[@shadow-man8715]

Respect for her but she still has the power to screw you over just like any other woman.

[@TheIzaam]

"When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community". So true.

[@selftaughtpolyglot]

So true!!!!

[@selftaughtpolyglot]

Hey!! Did someone else said It or is it hers? So beautiful!! I love the thought.

[@TheIzaam]

@@selftaughtpolyglot It's hers

[@EinFelsbrocken]

Interestingly; this has been documented several times throughout history. Cases; where kings; generals; or other important people show empathy with the enemy; and immediately get spurned as a consequence. Seems we humans really like to double down on our bias..

[@igninis]

American history X...

[@tneighbors]

If she was met with hostility for saying this, imagine how a man would be treated who says the exact same thing. That's why you're not hearing this much.

[@SonofPerson]

Pretty sure she was publicly vilified and slandered for this. Her movie was mocked, subject to controversy, and banned on different platforms and different countries. Men need to realize we are under attack and actually always have been.

[@taliesin1977]

That's the problem with double standards. If feminists want to attain equality there are privileges that need to be given up in exchange for removing the disadvantages. Children are used as bargaining chips against men in divorce. Why? If a father is given 50% custody, he is expected to be grateful and willing to give up something else (usually money / property)... Why is that not a right? If not for the father's, then a right of the children?

[@SonofPerson]

You need magnesium. Ha! Indeed they were clowns. However, the insidious undertone is that they needed be nothing more. They still won the day, censorship still occurred, idiocy aside. And concerns for the rights and liberties of men were once again marginalized. If anything, their idiotic bating could’ve been catastrophic for men had not she handled herself so gracefully (an example we men should seek to emulate.) Underestimating our adversaries is a gift undeserved... And we have given enough of those already.

[@EphemeralProductions]

yep!

[@tea1019]

@@taliesin1977 what do you mean 'Why is that not a right?...'?

[@KaneA87]

She legitimately understands the problems both sodes face, wants to learn more, and would like all people to do better for everyone. Also, intelligent, focused, confident, and funny. Pretty much as close to perfect as it gets

[@ImnHazzz]

This is peak character development

[@SomeCowguy]

Pp... Erwin... P p...

[@ImnHazzz]

@@SomeCowguy pp

[@erenyeager8845]

@@ImnHazzz p p

[@erenyeager8845]

@@ImnHazzz i just used one of my google accounts to make this account

[@ImnHazzz]

@@erenyeager8845 ah i see

[@matthewjbarron]

“When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community.”

[@Rommy456]

Legendary Quot

[@pokaay3163]

Indeed, we are all humans

[@CallmeDaBreeze1971]

More profound words were ever spoken.

[@marshallfrench5493]

*only if your community is corrupt

[@drali230]

Uchiha Itachi

[@KC-wf7qt]

Did I just witness logic on the internet? Quick somebody pinch me

[@brandonchase7273]

Only illogical thing he probably witnessed was you ;)

[@chillmoney3858]

better ill like your comment

[@bailydekker9377]

*pinchy pinchy*

[@IvantheMusical]

And from a TedxTalk no less

[@fatcatsnuggleparty4272]

That's illegal. Everyone here shall be purged. ...Even me. I ... witnessed logic on the internet too. We'll start with me first.

[@mikeprata2976]

I’m a man. I got choked up listening to this. Hearing a woman acknowledge that my life is also hard was really meaningful to hear.

[@TheFallenScathed]

"Us versus them" has never, will never, can never, come to an unbiased or equal solution to any problem.

[@TheFallenScathed]

@Roy Batty lol your comment is a blanket statement, reread my comment... sure us vs them comes to a solution, but not an unbiased or equal one.

[@worldofdoom995]

"A house divided cannot stand." -Abraham Lincoln

[@TheFallenScathed]

I don't think you grasp what us vs them means or implies

[@MrHristoB]

@@worldofdoom995 spot on!!!! But it seems it's the agenda of the liberal lunatics, divided sosiety is much easier to manipulate. And with the state of the education system and the questionable quality of reporting in the so called mainstream media it seems all lines up just as they would like it...

[@Triple_J.1]

@@MrHristoB the "Liberal" lunatics? Us vs Them much. The Right Wing is perhaps MORE rabid and deranged than the left. If you count the fact the religious lunatics infiltrated the Republican party of Lincoln, and turned it into a hatefest that stands diametrically opposed to human rights. I've seen enough of the radical right, fully 100% of all Republicans believe to some degree or another in conspiracy theories created by Qanon, Alex Jones, Donald Trump, or any one of his government employees. Show me a single person who does not believe a single one of these lies, and I'll show you a person who would never vote R.

[@LzkLdg]

"Humanizing your enemy leads to your community dehumanizing you" Brilliant!!!

[@nathancarter2156]

She's Smarter and more human than you and people like you actually.

[@jakeplumber1373]

Calling them your enemy isnt really humanizing...

[@LzkLdg]

@jakeplumber1373 What was meant by that phrase is that if you seek to empathize and see the common shared positive traits of those who your community view as an enemy, than your community may turn on, and make an enemy out if you. Sometimes the words used aren't perfect, but if we listen carefully we can determine what the speaker is trying to communicate.

[@Caine_House]

​@@jakeplumber1373 How slow are you?

[@NINacide]

Norah Vincent tried what this lady tried but didn't make it through.

[@cloversonthehill]

I feel like the problem here is that everyone keeps calling it “men’s rights” or “women’s rights” when it’s honestly just “human rights” Also this video made me really happy thank you Edit: sweet Jesus I didn’t want to start a controversy I just wanted to post my opinion.

[@oliverlara5712]

Gender equal right seems a bit more accurate

[@Kaharris.96]

@Calum Tatum. Economic inequality is a pile of manure. If I own a company and you work for me, then you get paid accordingly to what you do for the company. It doesnt mean you make as much me. Understand?

[@Kaharris.96]

@Calum Tatum. Ok..what's your definition of income inequality? redistribution of wealth? Do tell.

[@wherethetatosat]

I think she actually covers this topic in her documentary. Because worldwide, "human rights" mostly just means women and children. I forgot the exact UN clause but nowhere does it explicitly mention men, but it does for women and children. Perhaps we need to be the first to change that, but I understand why she isn't using the phrase "human rights".

[@thestovietunion790]

As a bird, I feel very offended by the statement "human rights". Why can't it be just "rights" (not "bird's rights", either).

[@_Delta_P_]

My mom got mad at me about being against abortion because I said as a kid who was adopted I could have easily been an abortion. I also said that as a man I don’t have a say in weather or not a woman can just got and terminate the life of my unborn child. She immediately saw it as an attack on women’s rights.

[@clampy7987]

There *shouldn't* be an *enemy* in a fight for *equality*

[@potaterjim]

The enemy is _inequality_ If your answer to fighting it is to make more, the war will never end

[@michaelgerardi2126]

Only if you assume that feminists actually WANT "equality". That is a false assumption.

[@ashdoeslife1794]

Correct

[@thelegacyshow4248]

There shouldn't be a fight in the first place, it should be peaceful logical discussion...

[@nicholasmacdonald3147]

Then I guess it wouldn’t be a fight then

[@rebeccaatzenweiler373]

the power of admitting one's own prejudices and uninformed opinions. This is fantastic

[@Gyozafiend]

Rebecca Belacqua both this video and your comment deserve many more likes

[@-hasamastersdegreeinwumbol8565]

It takes guts

[@stevencash8867]

This is the only way for us to heal ourselves, as individuals and as a society. Polarization and superiority trips are never going to accomplish anything...

[@davidsteele2198]

Rebecca Belacqua hope is not dead

[@panzerraven4135]

That is amazing, thank you!

[@Ryan-eu3kp]

She is a very rare human, the one who can admit they were wrong.

[@garrettcooper471]

She's addressing the real problem. Lack of Understanding.

[@chrisdee3211]

Very true

[@luciensong7414]

magic trombone true...

[@Frizzles]

Not as rare as you think it is, people who know when they are wrong or can admit they are less influential that people who believe they are right.

[@Ryan-eu3kp]

@@Frizzles True

[@joefatalooch8057]

This program should be shown at every learning institution in the world. Absolutely the most brilliant and perfect synopsis of our age.

[@benjaminallen6469]

Unfortunately it never will be and I suspect there is a reason why it's a TEDx Talk and not just a TED Talk.

[@ChasingMySmoke]

Her red pill movie is life changing

[@DavidDiMuzio]

As a man I've always felt in the very back of my mind like my feelings don't matter as much. Even in a disagreement with a girl if the girl starts to cry I feel awful, as if "look what I've done." even if I know that deep down I'm feeling just as much emotional pain as they are. I've always felt like the pain that I feel must not matter as much because I'm not as good at outwardly expressing my emotions in ways such as tears. I've also been physically hit or at least slapped by almost every girl I've dated long term, yet I've never lifted a hand to a girl. Some of my male friends have told me the same, but it's something very strange to talk about. I've always known I could never "fight back" because if a guy shows physicality it's more "wrong" and I could easily go to jail. The documentary Cassie made really hit me hard. I'd call it a must watch no matter what your view point.

[@DarkSymphony777]

B G that's very true

[@dctfgltjatsmdssgmmrajl5572]

thats right and SUPERMAN is still better than goku in literally every single way, um wait wrong convo and wrong topic, lol, oops nvm haha

[@marcinpagorek3578]

Totally agree. It's surprising how many people will not make a big deal out of a girl hitting a guy, but if it's the other way around, then it's "domestic violence".

[@wendyb2438]

432 Productions: Are you saying that women shouldn't access the full range of emotions available to them because it makes you uncomfortable? We all should be allowed to feel our feelings. There's nothing manipulative about having and expressing genuine feelings.

[@jamieflett5650]

This is straight out of the Cathy Newman playbook. "Are you saying that ..." and then you distort what has been said.

[@HazeDays]

"We have to stop expecting to be offended" That right there.

[@WealthyThomas]

Haze Days hi is this young thing. I don't here 35 plus feeling intense about men or women. But seeing it everywhere can drive us zany lol

[@michaelbulls5872]

Amen, brother

[@paulpeartsmith]

Goes all ways. All ways.

[@damminers49]

Great quote!

[@vgloveforlife]

I'd like to see one MRA listen to a feminists and try not to get offended. And vice versa.

[@solidsnake9898]

Some men are good, some women are good. Some men are bad, some women are bad.

[@tenacious645]

Do you think love can bloom, even on a battlefield?

[@tenacious645]

Ayberk Tiras What you said was just an unnecessarily convoluted way of saying what the original poster said...

[@Jackiechan-ty7yp]

Nah fish are all bad even tuna! I hate cod and tuna so yeah

[@the500mphtortoise]

+Solid Snake IF SHE BREATHES SHE A THOT ALL WAHMEN ARE QUEEN

[@machida58]

Solid Snake Humans are just vehicles for DNA replication. Morality is irrelevant.

[@mohamaddahduli1829]

12:28 "It turns out I did meet my enemy while filming, it was my ego." That's powerful. Mad respect to this woman for her humbleness.

[@twiston43]

Humility.

[@nicholasleclerc1583]

@@twiston43 'beat me to it X D

[@dwang663]

Nicholas Leclerc haha same I was just about to reply that

[@ukko8457]

And now her ego is getting even bigger due to this

[@MrTmulhern92]

Kuuukko this not a very constructive comment. Would you agree with the statement “If she can maintain the sense of humility and compassion displayed in this presentation rather than allow the publicity associated with her projects to make make her more egotistical and vain that she would greatly contribute to an uptick in overall human rights”?

[@talk2gray1]

"I still support women's right, and I now care about men's rights as well" that was so touching to hear.

[@antdx316]

I dare all the girls to take cool whip pies to the face and put the video on youtube!!

[@jaredturney2782]

It is. We all deserve equal rights!!!!

[@kellyratana7348]

So basically you care about Humans rights, right?

[@redchimera7597]

That’s contradicting lol , it’s like you say I support misogynists but I also support feminists. The correct statement is “I support both men and women right”, that’s much more fair for both genders. Feminism is a wave of anger, hate, against men, and we can all see it clearly .

[@grenadeout562]

@@redchimera7597 How is it contradicting? You can care about anyone

[@magicalfrijoles6766]

The last time she hit me, I was holding our infant daughter. I went outside and called 911. The officer shows up and I walk back inside with him, still holding my daughter. The officer looks at my ex and says, "Did you hit him?" She admits she did. He says, "Was he holding the baby?" She admits I was. He turns to look at me and says, "Sir, you need to leave. Hand the child to her and come with me." He wasn't rude. He wasn't going to arrest me. But, it was made perfectly clear to me that being assaulted by a woman, even while holding my infant daughter, didn't matter to the Austin Police Department. If you are being abused by a woman, or she is endangering your children, then quietly hire the best lawyer you can. Even then, you will likely still receive standard visitation and experience parental alienation. But, it is the only chance you have. If you wait for her to hire a lawyer, or file for divorce/custody first, game over.

[@donovanumbra9704]

I think even better advice is to be very, very careful, and to thoroughly get to know a woman before you become intimate with her.

[@glennquagmire9737]

@@donovanumbra9704 better yet just don’t interact with them at all. problem solved

[@P.Whitestrake]

​@@glennquagmire9737 Or better yet, go to a mountain & live alone as a hermit.

[@Bill87762]

Pretty much exactly the same thing happened to me in the same area. She told the police she punched and tackled me- and I was taken away. She even had the gall to say she didn't want to press charges. I lost my job, had to move, lost my kids and now I am supposed to be happy to give over 30% of my income for kids I get to see once a month if I can afford it. In court it was pretty much just punishing me and rewarding her. After years of abuse she gets the kids and the money and I scrape by wondering if I pay rent late or miss another car payment. No justice. No compassion. No child's best interest- like that's the most ridiculous statement they always say.

[@endoobietv9954]

@@Bill87762 man I’m praying for you bro. I’m going threw the early stages of a very similar situation. Awready been to jail for a couple days for a false DV claim, straight up Amber Hearded me after physically abusing me more than once. Stole money out of my bank account & stole a phone I was trying to return that was $1500. Have to file a police report on both while also having all of my personal possessions sold and my 3 kids I have with her taken away. Haven’t seen them since the 2nd of April & I think of them every night. I can truly see why the suicide rate for men is so high. Women we love fail to ever trust us or have any compassion for what is going on with us mentally or emotionally. Many of them just think about themselves to the point to where they turn to narcissistic sociopaths. Many of them are born & don’t have fathers themselves which makes the situations even worse

[@steveroberts728]

Finally, a woman who admits that she was wrong.

[@mudhutproductions]

Three years of hindsight later, Cassie Jaye paid dearly for her blasphemy against Modern Feminism. She was bullied, threatened and deplatformed by guess who? Hint, it wasn't men.

[@jonathanferguson9226]

Oy vey, shut it down!

[@hugowerkman6228]

I'm sorry to hear that, Cassie Jaye sounds like a wise person that I and many others could learn a lot from.

[@djfreem6881]

not blasphemy if it's true

[@FarmersAreDummies]

VALID

[@bernardakoito]

@@djfreem6881 truth is blasphemy to those sjw

[@juanchotag2173]

She earned my full respect and admiration, because she recognized her flaws and worked around them, and thats not easy to do.

[@scuffedcovers2031]

I like your tank

[@sdv4675]

I don’t understand why people disliked this... they probably haven’t done the same thing she did yet

[@LocusSix]

@@sdv4675 that's pretty simple: they didn't understand the message of this Ted Talk.

[@tinytim9616]

Tunk

[@gv6095]

Damn, that ain't no aordinary tank either

[@magnumsherman6349]

As a man who is still trying to cope with a false accusation thank you

[@stroopeter]

I wish you the best from The Netherlands, eventually the good will overcome the bad.

[@beeman4266]

Just know that nobody cares about your feelings, stay strong man, shit's rough out here.. best of luck

[@nav7819]

wish you sm luck you will get through this!!

[@sam8742]

@@beeman4266 That first bit sounded demotivational

[@sam8742]

@@gladiammgtow4092 Hasn't that just become an incel women hate club?

[@joshualieberman138]

She said it very well. Equality is not about winning. It's not about one group over the other, but rather we all win when we are all treated with the same compassion, dignity and respect. I am a married father with three daughters. My whole life revolves around women and women's rights. I want my daughters to have everything the work to earn with gender be no obstacle. I also want men to be able to have all the things they work to earn without obstacle imposed based on their gender.

[@darshpathak1018]

Being a male, I wasn’t expecting something this positive towards men, mostly because of the bitterness against men. Sincerely, we need more women like you❤️

[@eren69marley]

Same

[@_.Ok.]

More people in general like them.

[@josephlatham7490]

aye

[@SmileFlame3]

Absolutely

[@Randomzeusin]

Yessir....🙋‍♂️

[@TeteBruleeFR]

I have great respect for that women. It takes a lots of guts to tell a story where you describe yourself as the vilain...

[@BihansGMVs]

TeteBruleeFR villain*

[@DriscolDevil]

She is a badass. She entered an opposing ideaology, and learned it instead of imediately dismissing it. I wish more people were like her.

[@jaydamalley3398]

@@DriscolDevil Men's rights advocacy is not an ideology, never mind the opposite of feminism. It's an opinion compatible with every ideology on the sane part of the political spectrum, be it progressivism, (social and classical) liberalism, conservatism, libertarianism, and everything in between. The only gender-ideology in existence is feminism.

[@BEAST-rd6wg]

Men have been saying this for years.... and what? It took a female to explain for people to somewhat acknowledge this? There's Another example....

[@shimy6461]

The hardest choices require the strongest will

[@pedroroque4084]

I wish people could see how we're being tricked into separation and hate culture... "Together we stand, divided we fall."

[@CM-og4vc]

I agree. watch The Social Dilemma. It will explain the divide

[@pedroroque4084]

@@CM-og4vc thanks. I Will check it out 🙂

[@AiLowithaHalo]

♥️

[@saketnaik1]

@@pedroroque4084 did you see it? All they're getting is hate, everybody is making it about politics.

[@EdithEsquivel]

When the elites wanted to separate workers they created racism. Now they are distracting us from real economic inequality by separating men from women

[@joelskoglund9619]

7 years later Not much have changed. But this has given me enough hope to get through the day knowing there are people out there that dont blame me for everything. That can show compassion even though I am a man suffering with mental illness. To everyone else hurting and are shown the door by your family and people around you. Do not give up because there are compassionate people out there that wont look down on you and will treat you as a human being. Thank you

[@willek1335]

100%. God jul

[@gershomgordon4685]

this woman should have been Captain Marvel

[@alexandert696]

Why, what's wrong with brie larseon

[@bye1551]

@@alexandert696 she's a narcissistic misandrist sjw that hates straight white men and thinks she's always right....

[@simpsbelongtothegulags3702]

She a biatch

[@westboundNinja1]

They should have left her in *Room*

[@AxiomaLibre]

@@alexandert696 you.

[@yidy1]

"In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act."

[@evilmonkeyfromchriscloset1211]

Orwell's quote

[@zonero174]

in the same vein I'm partial to Klavan's "in a kingdom of liers, It takes a Crazy man to tell the truth"

[@AmSeris]

@midgetydeath its just a quote its not supposed to be literal

[@johnhungerford6073]

But it rarely turns a profit...🤪

[@Ragitsu]

@midgetydeath "liberal deceit" ^ Moron detected.

[@alkane7876]

"When you start to humanize the enemy, your community might start to dehumanize you" This is an age-old truth. There are good people everywhere and we should never lose sight of that.

[@Cirithungul]

I love that a man wanting equality is automatically bad but a woman is a hero. Makes sense.

[@andrealy72]

Gaslighting Women are master and simp men follow like dogs

[@forcedgaming3102]

"When you start to humanize your enemy, you in turn may be dehumanized by your community" Damn

[@SilentEagle999]

Let's try not to be part of that community.

[@OfficialBrownieGER]

what an incredibly true statement

[@PhoenixGC89]

@@peterfazio512 at least she gets it now.

[@robertpreisser3547]

That was the most disheartening but honest line in the whole talk. Identity politics (and critical race theory) are designed to dehumanize anyone who holds different views, in an attempt to silence those views. Through shame and social pressure if possible, or through cancel culture and petitions to punish people by destroying their livelihoods if not.

[@voidastro4873]

I'm going to make sure that quote by her get's famous. Get's written in the History books. I'll make sure she's remembered as a revolutionary Gender Equality genius. Because she really is.

[@metallica3604]

"When you humanise your enemy you are dehumanised by your community"....what a qoute! 👏

[@Deairejeffries81]

Great ears brother

[@gbonkers666]

"When you understand your enemy, you are dehumanized by your community."

[@sparda9060]

Thats tribalism for you. You think your own group are heroes and your enemies are the villains. Your enemies also think the exact same way too.

[@whitetigerak]

This hit me in my feels when she got to the part about domestic abuse shelters. I was married to an abusive woman and when I hit my breaking point I tried to reach out for help, but every shelter I went to and every resource I contacted told me 'I'm so sorry, we are only equipped to assist women. You'll have to figure this out yourself."

[@Rocky-nc1cr]

Sorry to know about the stuff you have been through. But never lose hope, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

[@MasterGhostf]

i'd suggest suing them, but i don't know if you had the financial ability to do so.

[@joaoramos9952]

Sorry to know about that man, hope you're getting better. Never lose hope, u can make it out

[@madej5]

@@MasterGhostf oh boohoo I’ve been denied jobs to make money for my bills because it’s a “man’s job” I didn’t go suing anybody I just kept moving.

[@Dobviews]

Not only that but so many of our youth are fearful of coming to shelters for fear of theives, abusers, pimps etc. The things I have seen at shelters make my hair stand on end. I would like to see pod rooms that can lock and allow people to feel safe. I wish we took the concept of pod living and community gardening and mental health centers smashed them together and helped people meld back into society at their own pace and in a way they can sleep without one eye open and with their arms tied through their shoulder bags!

[@kumkumsharmavlogs7598]

Who is here after watching dhruv rathee feminism video 😂😂

[@pronob_chakraborty]

Meee

[@kumkumsharmavlogs7598]

@@pronob_chakraborty 👍

[@hardcore_hobo127]

"When you start to humanize your enemy, you may be de-humanized by your own group", this I think is the most important thing she said.

[@latequilera22]

so when will woman haters learn this?

[@jasminevirgil7777]

Girl shut up

[@REN-rp3np]

@@latequilera22 when they learn to put their ego aside, and decide to listen to our struggles. and we should do the same for them.

[@spiker1797]

This is probably the most frustrating thing I experience nowadays. Everything is so polarized and people make so many assumptions about you when you openly state your view on something.

[@cdubya586]

@@latequilera22 Curious if you actually listened to this talk? You are quite literally doing exactly the projection she finally realized she was guilty of.

[@mozes88]

What she is doing, a lot of people need to learn. This needs to be taught at schools to listen instead of building a wall around your opinion.

[@JR-yn1wk]

Wise words

[@monkiman2335]

Exactly my man

[@bali-b292]

Fr man

[@jesseherron6377]

Everything stems from politics and they want everyone divided. It’s such a shame. School curriculums are skewed and everything on tv is hate and a line drawn in the sand. We all need to come together! Hope everyone has a great day ❤️ Hopefully we can get back to life in the next 10 years lol

[@texomatex1]

It could probably be done once they get the help they need to deal with their wall. Our coping skills could use some help.

[@donder172]

Until this point, I wasn't even aware that men's right movements exist.

[@biikuajet]

Exactly my thought.

[@donder172]

@Caleb Pederson Men and boys have suffered much indeed. I can give many moments in history when this happened. Though to keep it short, I will say, look at the Lost Generation.

[@dronerfin80]

Its not politically correct so nobody cares

[@Ethan-Sailer]

Same

[@phinips6485]

Same here

[@omkapoor2373]

I watch this after watching Dhruv Rathee's video on feminists, he mentioned Cassie Jaye. It's wonderful so thank you, Dhruv and thank you mam🙏

[@HalETosis]

This is a great story of how 99.99% of problems go away if we can figure out how to listen to each other while putting our biases aside.

[@cobusbrits2]

Somehow the agenda for this day had been developing into how easily can I be offended. Gender inequality, race inequality, political indifferences, etc, it all comes down to the same thing. Wonder who is driving the agenda? Media is only the tool being used.

[@mathiasanscott4224]

The fact feminists call mens rights activists the enemy is proof some aspect of feminism is wrong since they dont care about the other side of the story

[@gameseeker6307]

But my opinion is better

[@noahtekulve2684]

​@@gameseeker6307 no, your opinion is wrong.

[@gameseeker6307]

@@noahtekulve2684 😭

[@PHATB0Y20]

His name was Earl Silverman, and he ran the only men’s shelter in Canada out of pocket. He took his own life in 2013 because of the strain

[@anotherhuman459]

RiP

[@mathewanderson7528]

That sucks, RIP😭

[@KevinM88TR11]

Terrible

[@mycutepetshrimp1532]

R.I.P.

[@EPsiEqualsHhatPsi]

RIP ''-( and the strain must have been severe. But to do this it probably wasn't just the strain - he probably was himself a wounded healer, a person touched by fire, like so many of the very best activists, including many wonderful feminists who are little talked about in this thread. I hope the Canadian mens' shelter project survived him?

[@pixelpudding3914]

“We have to stop expecting to be offended” Twitter and TikTok: *that wasn’t very cash money of you*

[@chumpychumpanzee2085]

@timber wolf im assuming youve never heard of the first amendment -_- (im not saying i like cancel culture, but you cant exactly shut someone up for expressing their views)

[@10dvvks.d.r.tharun15]

yea lol

[@megasbaladoros]

Twitter and Tictok: Hey! What do you have against our business plans?

[@bradgaines5091]

@@chumpychumpanzee2085 Unfortunately, the 1st amendment actually only applies to the government restricting speech. It technically doesn't apply to non-government organizations. So again technically Twitter and Facebook can ban whoever they want because they're not government. And the 1st Amendment could actually be used to prevent the government from stopping them from banning people. It takes the Supreme Court deciding to interpret the Constitution as saying they can't ban people to stop them. If this is actually what you meant and I misunderstood, this post would then be directed toward timber wolf.

[@chumpychumpanzee2085]

@@bradgaines5091 yea thats whut i meant

[@dmytros1273]

Thanks!

[@TEDx]

Thank you!

[@mirkwoodforest]

I'm glad that the internet exists. I'm 14 years old, and these kinds of videos really help me shape my understanding of what kind of person that I should be when I grow up. Thank you for helping me be a better person.

[@kkasfa1596]

Im 13 and i can agree with you.

[@wikiwoof9590]

Y’all are doing the right work. I have hope for the future.

[@darrenjones2933]

I wish you luck on your journey.

[@workconverseify]

Be safe on your journey of knowledge; there is a lot of misinformation purposely out there to lead you astray

[@shadowling77777]

Bless this comment thread

[@sashabonnie987654]

In Victoria, Australia, the state government website says: 'For women, who are the victims of family violence, there are support services available' etc. 'For men, who are, or are concerned about becoming family violence offenders, the following support services are available'.. etc. Broke my heart when I read it.

[@Internetbutthurt]

There is not an insignificant number of cases of domestic and psychological abuse by women against their husbands but its greatly under-reported due to the stigma.

[@AlaskaErik]

I don't know of any man who has any sympathy for a male who allows himself to be abused. I know I don't. That's why there aren't any men's shelters.

[@sihingpatrickquain6124]

Agreed. The campaign says, "There's no excuse for abuse." But, the propaganda is completely biased. It follows on the heels of, "To violence against women, Australia says no."

[@AlaskaErik]

@Jonathan Neufeld I'm not implying anything about women's shelters.

[@icecoldchilipreppers]

Everyone is sexist against men, especially other men, that's the problem. I also am disgusted by victimized men instead of being sympathetic like I would with most women... social problems bro.

[@cadenhenderson4322]

I think everyone should watch this video. NOBODY is immune to having a closed mind, but watching this does help.

[@AstridRuna]

Gods speed, brother.

[@c0dakw0lfgaang48]

💯💯

[@banjofangirl3458]

Oh god, have kpop stans always been a liability!?!?! I CAN'T SEE THE WLM TROLLING THE SAME WAY AGAIN GODDAMNIT

[@starvethebeast6480]

Indeed

[@leeholmes9962]

Well said mate 👍 💪 💛 ✌ 🇬🇧 👍

[@carolinebjerkelund767]

Coming to terms with your enemy does not mean submitting to your enemy.

[@alyssagamberella5194]

“We have to stop expecting to be offended” wow that’s deep

[@4337GLE]

Cool story babe, make me a sandwich

[@thepyjamallamaloewen7655]

Is that a quote or the Mariana’s Trench cuz that’s deep

[@standardloginname]

Might be better said "we need to stop looking for excuses to be angry" offence is an emotional reaction that logic and open mindedness tempers. We need to stop looking forward to being offended and wallowing in it.

[@rcookie5128]

WHAT? I'm offended!! How could ever DARE to expect me NOT to be offended! (sarcasm quite obviously)

[@raminahmed4476]

That line I feel expresses a lot of modern mindsets. People keep trying to be offended, which blinds any logical thinking and trying to understand the other person. It has probably existed for a while, but the media has been very influential in recent times, and this mindset is one of the sources of sjw's. They aren't necessarily bad, but you hear about a lot of them making a bad name for the whole movement because they believe in their own self-righteous ideals and that other people's opinions will and should offend them, so they can prove themselves right.