Teri Joseph: The Family ATM and Punching Bag.. Teri was NOT A VILLAIN

[@AlaysiasWorld]

I love that this generation see Teri for who she is…a logical, supportive and loving woman

[@SamDavidJr]

She was logical….she was NOT supportive, though. Lmao

[@chacha2321]

@@SamDavidJr why should she when nobody supported her. She was very supportive by fronting up cash for adults that needed to step up. I’m sorry, but everyone tried to humble that woman because she wouldn’t be a doormat. She could’ve supported her hubby more, but at the same time, she was used to ppl chasing dreams that she had to financially invest in. 😂 He wasn’t supportive by not understanding how stressed out she was and he slept with her cousin too. It’s funny how everything lands back on Terri. She deserved way better and y’all know that.

[@SamDavidJr]

@@chacha2321 I don’t deny that. I just said she wasn’t supportive. Out of all the characters, I understood and still understand Terri the most. But let’s call a spade a spade, she wasn’t supportive and I think THAT’S why they didn’t like her. She’ll support if it makes sense to HER. But if it doesn’t, like what her husband wanted, she didn’t support it.

[@chacha2321]

@@SamDavidJr I agree, at times she could’ve been more supportive but honestly they wanted her to always give money. I think she was less emotional because honestly they were cold towards her. The other sister always mouthed off to her. Let’s not forget big mama would laugh when Maxine would take digs at her. She also stole her bf and her hubby could’ve been more supportive and communicative too. I agreed with you but the man could’ve left. Idk, so many movies can capture a man being a provider but cold/ rigid but it’s accepted but a woman that’s logical hits different. They were always invalidating her feelings. Therefore, I can understand why she was kinda cold. I like some of your points though. However, each character had flaws and I think her being closed off was a defense mechanism. Lastly, they found the hidden money and they still didn’t pay her back. I can understand them paying for the home but financially or emotionally these ppl were entitled.

[@SamDavidJr]

@@chacha2321 I agree! He really could’ve left! Lmao, but I think Terri was more HARDENED…and I’ve been where she’s been (not financially) and trust me, it can harden the fuck out of you and turn you ANGRY! The crazy part is had she cut them off, financially, and maybe even physically, that would’ve released so much stress off of her chest….maybe? 🤷🏾

[@efghd2624]

I used to hate how her family would offer HER money. They really treated her like an ATM and wanted her to just go along with it. If that's family, no one needs it.

[@Princessdollamanda]

Yes! Like them all having a conversation and coming to her saying “we all discussed it and think you and Miles should pay for mamas house and we’ll pay you in installments” like excuse me WHAT?! How the h3!! do you have a discussion about someone else’s money like it’s yours? They really treated her terribly

[@Silly_u1908]

Or when Max told Bird that Teri would help her take care of her baby after she said she couldn’t afford it. Like what?! Edit: I forgot to add Kenny, Max’s husband and Teri’s ex, also asked her for money because they couldn’t afford their kids.

[@MPPharaoh]

Offer her money? Nah they always asked her for money lol. Terri shoulda cut the fam off and ran away 😂 she was done dirty whole movie.

[@lawrencericho3635]

@@MPPharaoh thank you. Cuz what? Lol

[@natashacaines3208]

Yep that was my mother Help everyone financially 😞 Robbed herself of a better life Now she is ill I don't see no one helping That's life

[@MichellaneousMe]

What irked me the most about the movie was the end. Secret money was being stashed by big mama and they used it to pay towards the house and squandered it everywhere else, but paying Teri back. Teri paying for the house and big mama's medical bills, and birds wedding and her salon??? And then they kept Faith and Miles around and Teri was just happy being there and single. I truly hated that HEA ending because it felt forced. I truly would hate to have a mom like big mama and sisters like Maxine and Bird. Teri should've left

[@khariahpayne]

Always hated the mean ass comment big mama said to Teri in the beginning too. Like why would you make a joke about this being her second marriage. Happily belittled her with a smirk and the sisters were humored.

[@dezinechic]

@@khariahpayne yeah while theyre all broke and begging. they were jealous and h8ted her.

[@jakimsingletary164]

@@khariahpayne Thank God I wasn’t the only one that noticed Momma Joe’s shade towards Terri on her being on Husband #2 with it also being at Max’s amusement as she and Momma Joe both laughed about it in Terri’s face. God don’t like ugly as Momma was told the next day by her doctor that she had to get her leg cut off and when that happened she was in a coma for weeks until her sadly death. Momma Joe reaped what she sorrow as her health deceased as she ignored the doctor’s orders oh what not to eat and to take her insulin.

[@callalilly4743]

Teri like most black sheep was thinking if I do this next thing, if I give more money they'll value me. That never happens, thats why you save yourself and bounce.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yes totally agree love your comment ❤

[@1_star_reviews]

Then they kept stealing her man too. First her little sister and then her little cousin. She couldn’t find loyalty anywhere

[@chacha2321]

@@1_star_reviews it was a clear sign that she needed to find her real soul tribe. The rest of em were meant for each other. They had low vibes and were leeching off of her.

[@jakimsingletary164]

@@1_star_reviews Miles and Kenny were like ATM’s as in Automatic Terri’s Men which her sister and cousin with they fast a** took. Family just took and took from her, her money and her men.

[@43cassy]

💯💯💯💯

[@Fraxinus_a]

The whole movie and family is toxic. I hate how this movie pushes a "family over all narrative," even if the family is horrible to you... just endure. It's a horrible message to push.

[@iconicallyiconic]

Absolutely terrible! as if just because someone is family it means they can treat you any kind of way and you’re supposed to forgive them. It’s toxic and there are so many families who think this way.

[@1_star_reviews]

It’s pretty normal is matriarchal societies to push the notion of family over everything.

[@nicolesherman8974]

Terri had imperfections like everyone else, but even her own mom didn’t have her back. She was under a lot of stress because no one didn’t want to help out.. smh

[@Princessdollamanda]

One thing I noticed with their mother was that she would always try to guilt Teri into taking care of her family because of how she had to provide FOR HER KIDS!! You’re their mother! It’s like she resented Teri, idk if she may have had her younger or what, but the anger should’ve went towards her husband and with a lot of the type of women their anger/resentment is misplaced and they take it out on their child. You basically want your child/children to feel guilty for what you as a parent are SUPPOSED TO DO! And like you said the reason they felt so comfortable disrespecting Teri is because their mother did it and she would always come down on Teri Everything you said was the truth especially about how they depict BW who are successful as “bougie” and of course the film was written by A BM

[@girl89kn]

Exactly 👆🏾 Who the film is written and directed by is the part that I was looking to see if this would be pointed out. It's from this particular BM's perspective. So, that makes sense with a lot of the pick-me energy going on in this film. #Justice4Teri Also, I'd love to see a modern rendition of this movie, in the update Teri decides to put herself first and cut off family for good, therefore ending the vicious cycle. This time directed by a Black woman instead, but one without the "pick-me-up energy" lens on too.

[@iconicallyiconic]

TALK ABOUT IT!!

[@kathiaserrano7740]

Always seen as “bougie” when really just self sufficient adults.

[@allencollins5666]

👆

[@jreaves17]

I can’t lie, I SCREAMED when you called Faith a raggedy vagabond😂😂😂 I haven’t heard that word since my SAT test 😂

[@yemio1005]

I had to rewind because I haven’t heard that word for so long as well😂😂😂

[@thegumbonetwork1421]

Teri literally had to watch her sister make a life with the boyfriend that left her for her sister. That alone would be tough to live around.

[@Brown.nbeautiful]

I really wonder how Teri mother allowed her sister I forgot her name 🤦🏾‍♀️ but how she allowed her to continue to date to the man that Teri was dating to the point that they got married and had kids and his ass was still around like that blows my mind like how could her mama allow that and not say anything

[@iconicallyiconic]

This! He wouldn’t have been allowed to ever step foot in my home and would have felt extremely uncomfortable anytime he came around, but she always sided with Maxine and would smile anytime Maxine would say something out of pocket to Teri so she didn’t care.

[@Brown.nbeautiful]

@@iconicallyiconic oh wow see now I am going to have to go back and peep because I swear I never caught that 😭 makes me wonder if the mom has some weird jealous streak against Terri because she was able to go off and have a career and not have to struggle dealing with a man and his B.S

[@Princessdollamanda]

@@iconicallyiconic yessss when Maxine started talking about her cooking and the mother gave a glance and smirk towards Max

[@TewasaSonko]

A so called “mother” encouraging this mess.

[@jakimsingletary164]

@@Princessdollamanda yeah the look in “Shut up, that was suppose to be our little secret” instead of it being “Shut the hell up about your sister”. Don’t get me started on them laughing and shading her on being on Husband #2. Momma was definitely the main Villain in looking the other way at Max’s shenanigans in shading Terri and stealing her boyfriend who is now Max’s husband in them having 3 kids as Momma Joe told Terri “Get over it”. The Villain in her just like the rest of the family in financially living off Terri’s money when this whole she had all that money hidden in her brother’s T.V. while denying it for years while alive. The Villain in playing favorites with Max, Bird and Cousin Faith who she took in after her sister died. When Faith ran up Momma Joe’s credit and her putting up her own house to post Faith’s bail after getting arrested, not once Momma Joe gave Faith no heat in her shenanigans while looking the other way like with Max. Messy family at its finest with Terri being treated like a stepchild and a Corner ATM machine as in Automatically Terri’s Money machine with no appreciation at all..

[@mzsbrown2844]

I was Teri in my family. I put myself through school and obtained an MBA from a reputable school. Did well in corporate America making a 6 figure salary. I got a lot of static from my family for not wanting to spend all of my money on issues that arise from their bad decisions. My children and I are considered stuck up and selfish. I’m also criticized when I defend us against shade that is constantly thrown my way. I cut most of my family out of my life once my parents and grand parents died and have never looked back. I finally have peace in my life.

[@mercedesharrison5550]

Terri of my family as well. Although it wasn’t money. They wanted my soul, time and servitude. Cut mine off too. Also have been called selfish by the most selfish people I’ve ever met in my life!

[@43cassy]

Good for you!✨

[@joshuamcdowell9745]

"I wasn't in the kitchen because mama and daddy kept my head in the books. That's why I'm a successful lawyer." That line explains a lot. The oldest daughter, Terri had the pressure to succeed while Maxine, the middle daughter, was only groomed to be a homemaker. The youngest daughter, Bird was the spoiled one. Big Mama didn't bothered to teach her anything not even to cook. Before she married Lem, she had men like Simuel who probably took care of her. You know, take her shopping when she wanted, expensive restaurants, fancy trips. She was like every rapper's baby mama and girlfriend. You should do a deep dive on the character Kimberly from the movie Madea's Big Happy Family.

[@TatiYatiii]

Great Analysis

[@crazymtfcrazyblue3142]

And the Grandma to me seem a bit jealous of Terri because she has successful career while the mom spent majority of her life being a maid to everyone and never had time to be her own personal life.

[@chacha2321]

@@crazymtfcrazyblue3142 absolutely, she wanted her to fly but not soar past her. She envisioned her being successful for the family’s benefit. She didn’t think how that would make her more determined and fierce. Big mama misplaced her anger/ insecurities on the wrong person. I know she grew up in a different era but some elements fell back on her personally. Women that make their entire life around being with a man usually are resentful and envious. They have to learn how to take accountability and move forward. I know several big mamas that are younger and older women that don’t have a personality outside of marriage. They over sacrifice themselves, they want praise and validation. At first, you think that they’re doing it because they love their family but apart of them are searching for something. They should seek out hobbies and try not to fill a void by having multiple kids. They should also work on being honest with their spouse. They talk trash about career women but won’t talk trash about career men.

[@crazymtfcrazyblue3142]

@@chacha2321 Yup cause I never took notice until I watched it as I got older how she would dig at Terri but not the other girls about their life.

[@hindenburg2006]

​@@crazymtfcrazyblue3142right?! Like, "You're already on husband number two😏" Whhhhy did she feel the need to point that out? Ugh, I respect my elders, but Big Mama was irritating🙄

[@thetruthandnothingbutthetr6484]

Bird should’ve asked Terri to mind her business when she was paying for her wedding and funding her business

[@Kenny-bu4uv]

SAY THAT ! THEY DONT MIND HER BEING IN THE BUSINESS WHEN SHE’S OPENING UP HER WALLET OR DIPPING INTO HER BANK ACCOUNT FOR THEM !

[@jakimsingletary164]

Bird and Lem got some nerve in blaming Terri for him going to jail when it was he who got himself put back there for a felony (knowing he was on probation) in pulling a gun on Cousin Blimp. Protecting himself or not, Blimp hit him with a glass bottle. Terri was only trying to help in thinking Lem beat up Bird with the shop door boarded after the glass shattered (Thanks to Lem) and Bird crying hysterically in the back, what would anybody do ? Rather it was a big misunderstanding or not. At the end Terri did try to apologize in feeling bad while making it right in having him bailed out and his 2nd strike sponged and this the thanks she gets. Now if it was Max who sent Blimp after Lem by mistake everyone would’ve easily forgiven her and shoved it under the rug. But for Terri it’s world war 3, some ungrateful family who did nothing but use and abuse her.

[@Ondolady]

Really hated the way Terri was treated. Like you said, she was the family ATM but constantly abused. Her sister hit on her current boyfriend, went on to marry him yet was seen as the kind and good one. The younger sister was downright silly.

[@apriljohnson7447]

That's actually a line from the movie ... automatically Teri's money

[@AmbitiousDesire101]

As a person who deals with an abusive and narcissistic mother, I can say this is 100% facts! These people are so broken that they will project their self doubt and issues onto you in order for you to identify with struggles and a self-concept that isn't even yours! It's sickening how in African American households we have glorified and glamorized these type of dynamics.

[@liljay3006]

It’s crazy to me how they treated her like trash and the black sheep but they always expect her to be their atm Machine

[@angelaholmes8888]

I really felt bad for teri she didn't deserve that

[@Morgan24_7]

I have a cousin who made the best decision EVER. She's educated, well off, and a go-getter. She was made task master. Do this, do that, pay for this and that. Handle this, take care of that. Honey. She and her husband packed up their children and moved to South Africa. If she isn't present, you can't run to her for everything. Call your son. I have another cousin that was just expected to be ALL things. You know when people think you're special and will be successful, they stick real close. Lol. He moved to Paris. Smart people.

[@FromPointAtoMe]

I remember watching Soul Food for the first time as a kid, my mom did not care for, complain the whole movie. My mom was the Teri of the family. She still loved her family but only from a distance, as soon as she was able to she moved two hours away. Far enough to be free but close enough just incase.

[@TeeTee-qv4jj]

This isn’t new to me. I been knew she wasn’t the villain in this movie like when i first saw it at the theater when it first came out. The way her sister went behind her back creeping with her boyfriend was just down right foul and then she married and had kids by him. Then another family member goes and sleeps with her husband and on top of that they wanted her and her husband to pay for everything like she’s the only 1 in the family that works. I couldn’t stand Vivica Fox’s character in this movie. Ugh😡

[@Silly_u1908]

Let’s not forget Max and Kenny also expected Teri to help them financially take care of their kids when Kenny was struggling. Wow the AUDACITY is ASTOUNDING!

[@badgyrl310]

Same. And I hated Vivica's character too. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@diamondsfursexpensivethings]

You really touched on a lot of important points, this was an incredible breakdown. It's so funny how Max was going off in the bathroom about how Lem had nothing but as soon as Teri tells her "i'm the one paying for this wedding" she tells her she's always making it about money like I'm sorry what??? She acted like she contributed in any way and these movies definitely love villainizing bw who like the finer things in life, have careers, money and have high standards and it's because they want to shame women into taking care of b (u) m $ who complain about either being a provider or a woman having her own because he wants her to be a 50/50 women but still wants to have control over her so he can feel like a "man" lmao

[@mindyourmanners3784]

Maxine really was a piece of work and the fact that this movie is based on a true story is even worse, and the guy who wrote this film showed exactly what he thought of women who didn't make men their end all be all, he villainized Teri like people in our community do to this day. They don't like introverted shy bw because then "we think, we're all that" (their insecurities) , they don't like bw that don't make being from the hood their entire personality, they think women who speak eloquently want to be "wh!t3" and are "stuck up" , if you're not a stereotypical bw then they make you the butt of jokes, pull you down to try and make themselves feel better because it helps them forget where they are for short amount of time, its nothing but projection. This was an excellent video and Teri most certainly deserved so much better than what she got from her supposed "family" 💞

[@mila.milaaj]

Yes yes yes!!!! If this isn't the truth idk what is, people really don't understand how insecure and pathet!c they look when telling someone "you think you're better" or "all that" like even if you feel that way you shouldn't say it out loud, it's heavy projection and it's why they stay where they are and don't progress, they just get worse as they get older

[@thetruesoulofanaquarius9302]

All of this. 💯 myself I have always been called mean and stuckup because I just keep to myself and stay out of mess. I have been dragged the most by black men because I am a darkskinned woman who refuse to be a $tereotype and black male wor$hipper.

[@hbassey]

💯💯💯

[@fontenotandco7609]

Justice for teri

[@colouredgal]

90s blk movies are so full of struggle love. Showing blk folks in struggle.

[@NorthPhilly-zr7xc]

I mean alot of black families are like that it's sad but reality

[@badgyrl310]

The struggle was real in the 90s.

[@monicaw22]

Terri was very disrespected 😢

[@Crynki09]

I’m screaming at Jennifer Hudson “insufficient fuuuuuuunds” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 So accurate 😂😂😂

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

The way I cackled at that part!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@leiiib]

The way Kenny smirked when they were fighting over him was so disgraceful and it’s how alottt of men think like “yeah I slept with both sisters” yet if a woman does it she’s every name under the sun. It’s DISGUSTING ON BOTH ENDS and I don’t trust men who are so xes crazed because you don’t know what they’re capable of. I also agree some men like to brush off that anger is an emotion and are extremely emotional lmaoo you don’t have to be crying to be an overly emotional human.A lot of them have zero emotional intelligence like breaking up stuff because one of their favorite teams have lost a game 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ronweaslyswand9575]

When you said Momma Joe is a pick me...they way I just laughed! I think I woke my neighbors 😂

[@sabrina.natalie]

When Teri said, “Everything I love, I lose” in the movie Soul Food - that resonated a little TOO DEEPLY.

[@teriverse]

JUSTICE FOR TERI!! 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣 She deserved better!

[@amcmee_]

Man even when I was a kid I understood Terri. Fuck that family!! She could of been happy, successful and thriving without them.

[@PHSDM104]

As I got older, I realized how much the Joseph family gaslit and manipulated Teri. What makes it worse, I identified with her! I'm a middle child but I've been pretty much taken for granted in my family for most of my life. Constantly giving of myself with no thanks, just criticism. Family sucks.

[@Apricityville]

Nah, Terry was giving like she was some other bank.. I work for JP Morgan, and we don't do loans 😆😆😆

[@Hi.Shadow]

I hate that I didn’t realize this about her character until I became an adult. Her family was trash. 💔

[@Risse14]

Now that I'm Grown I see mama Jo was definitely the problem. I used to feel she favored Max because she reminded her of herself. But I also see in a sense she may have also been doing that because she knew Max didn't have much going on for herself. Which is why she had to pump her head up telling her she's the "strong one".HOW?? Also, the tv series really revealed more of how mama Jo treated Terri the way she did because she was their daddy's twin physically & clearly his favorite. Oh & he was doing way more than gambling in the streets Overall I hope the TV series starts streaming soon. So everyone can see how Terri actually did get her justice with Kenny behind Max's back 😈. Also, see how Max did her a favor the tv series really proved Kenny wasn't shit.

[@mercedesharrison5550]

lol I never understood the mama referring to her as the strong one either 😂 glad it’s not just me.

[@Meeshee57]

I really hated how the they treated Teri. I feel like a lot of Black families and people treat successful, beautiful/handsome, and proper Black family members like they’re outcasts. They’ll run to them for money and the outcasted family member feels the need to be overly helpful in order to gain acceptance.

[@jakimsingletary164]

Not to mention taking in unwanted family members like Cousin Faith when Bird and Max didn’t want her around especially Max as she projected herself onto Faith in calling her a “Hoochie Mama”. Max knew her Karma (for stealing her own husband from Terri) was coming the moment Faith walked in during Sunday Dinner at Big Mama’s after Max’s past was revealed. Max turned the tables and told Terri to take Faith in because she can’t stay at her house as Terri facing Deja Vu all over again in Faith doing it Terri’s husband Miles while Max cheated her Karma.

[@dinkyboss]

In a lot of ways they are outcasts, in the black community

[@dionneking8]

Love terri, nobody worried about Terri's heart as max stole kenny and has had to watch their marriage ⚭ all this time

[@CyprianKieviets]

Honestly, watching this movie for the first few times it was such a sweet movie about family. However, now that I'm older, I wish this character just cut her family off and lived her best life

[@karlatyson12]

In therapy Teri would be considered the parentified child

[@apefaaa]

they hated her

[@ineedavaykation4016]

Such a beautiful take on the birth order hierarchy. I'm the oldest of 8, and your take on the dynamic and emotional toll it takes was spot on 💯

[@defiantlypinki1107]

Romanticizing struggle love to black women. 😑

[@leiiib]

Don’t they always 🙄 it’s like they believe bw don’t deserve love, nice things, or luxury. Look how many people got upset with BW in Luxury. They only bw to perpetuate negativity

[@problematic_fav]

Black struggle period!!!!

[@Princessdollamanda]

And you know only a certain type of person/people think this IS reality for everyone because they find nothing wrong with that behavior and grew up in it so when you condemn it they defend it. It’s a good thing so many women are waking up to how t0x!c some people in our community can be, especially when you don’t fit in with their stereotypes…. 🥱

[@Princessdollamanda]

They only want bw to identify with being in struggle, and if you notice it’s always the ones who perpetrate that behavior that make excuses for it 🥱

[@jovanbrown9673]

“Big Momma ya arm!!!” I’m sorry I couldn’t resist 😂😂😂😂

[@monascott1111]

😆😆😆

[@jakimsingletary164]

“Nobody’s cutting off my leg and that’s that” then she walked off while struggling slowly with her leg being in pain. *That entire line😂😂😂..

[@Mr738]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@jordanhadley8713]

Let’s talk about how Miles lasted 30 secs with Faith. Seems like Terri wasn’t even getting comfort at home.

[@HushTarot1111]

This was the realest breakdown right here! Terri was fed up being VOLUN-TOLD everything and high key Bigmama swept too much under the rug and the lil’ boy was in grown folks business too much

[@keirramichelle8644]

I need more smoke for Mama Jo it begins and ends with her. Where was the girl code when it came to Maxine dating Teri's boyfriend that really annoyed me

[@highlycaffinated4448]

Exactly. Mama Io was trifling to allow him to continue to come over after that.

[@nataliajohnson1990]

This was my mother and her family in a nutshell. Family will effffff you over in a heartbeat. I had to be older to understand these lessons. That's why I carry myself in a certain way with her family.

[@mila.milaaj]

When I watched this as a child I never could stand her family, even Ahmad annoyed me with how he was constantly in grown folks business, no one had her back. I really wish Teri would've stayed true to her F the Family feelings; they always guilted her into believing that putting herself first was wrong. The fact that they pulled that mess behind her back in order to get her to still take care of their moms house was cuhrazyy!! She was like an outsider amongst her own family

[@1_star_reviews]

Ohhh, he was always in grown folks business. I can’t stand little kids like him.

[@leelohaskin7941]

wasn't totally his fault lol they were having adult like conversations around him on the regular and he almost walked in on his uncle sleeping with his cousin​@@1_star_reviews

[@leelohaskin7941]

​@@1_star_reviews now that said I do get irked when due to all that, they start talking like grown people all the time tho

[@mercedesharrison5550]

Although I had no business watching Soul Food at seven years old. I have to say even at seven years old I never understood why they gave her so much grief. They were always acting like she was hard pressed, cold and irritating but they needed her to fix all of their problems. The mother was really messed up for never standing up for her once. She seemed sweet but that’s not sweet. Terri had breadwinners depression.

[@hyperiondragon]

During that era ppl like Terri were just supposed to grin and bear it. It’s kinda sad though that her story arc didn’t have closure either. What’s good for the collective will be good for her, the director chose. I don’t know if the Josephs had any other older generations of women like aunts, grandmother, cousins, etc (they probably did), but Terri is now the possible matriarch of the family. Maybe that could be good or bad for her.

[@al_ghul_girl]

The family was opportunitstic and ungrateful. Worse, Big Mama was just the same way and always enabled everyone's behavior and humbled Terri wrongly.

[@lovefromwonderland]

Literally no one apologized to this poor woman. Her sister AND her cousin stole her man and acted like she had no reason to be angry. And they constantly hit her up for money like she was a living bank. I would just about have a breakdown. She’s so strong. Seriously, Faith and Miles would not _live_ to see the next day if that were me. All hail Queen Teri.

[@iamthecocoacure6519]

My family could never play me. Idc who you are , I’ll spin off on you never to be heard from again. Me and my damn money !

[@hindenburg2006]

I always thought Teri got a raw deal. Maybe because I'm an eldest sister too...🙄

[@therealmarlonbellamy]

Thank you for this reaction. Rewatching this movie as an adult i’ve come to the realization that the family treated Terri like garbage. They used & abused her. The movie made Terri look like the villain because of her standoffish demeanor. The reason why she was negative Nancy was because Max stole her boyfriend & married him, the family made her pay for everything & her marriage was on the rocks. Max was a lowkey bum. Bird was probably still messing around with Simuel because she didn’t set any boundaries & she went behind her husband’s back to Simuel to get him a job. Fun fact: The late Whitney Houston & Halle Berry were considered for the role of Terri.

[@bapsbaby6441]

I need a sequel or something where Teri finally stands up to them on their toxic behavior. Everyone because all the adults in the family did her so wrong.

[@happygolucky8869]

You said it all. Teri was treated terribly by the whole family. she should have gotten all the money in the tv at the end and left the state and went no contact with her whole family.

[@tionak]

Oh this is my kind of content. I just scrolled and saw you did a video on Brandi from A Thin Line too!? I’m about to BINGE 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Diz_27]

The way i screamed at this reference 14:14 🤣. I was like he was in Waiting to Exhale doing the same thing to Angela Bassett's character.

[@jakimsingletary164]

And to his wife in Law and Order SVU in cheating with a “White Man” in giving her A.I.D.S. *Once a cheater always a cheater 🤦🏾‍♂️😂..

[@Diz_27]

@jakimsingletary164 damn I never seen that lmao definitely giving For Colored Girls vibes.

[@jakimsingletary164]

@@Diz_27 oh yeah. “Ain’t nobody bending me over “ “So you’re doing all the bending “ 😂😂😂..

[@Diz_27]

@@jakimsingletary164 TERRIBLE 🤣🤣🤣

[@jakimsingletary164]

@@Diz_27 Yeah except in Law and Order SVU, I bet Miles did all the bending. I wonder if Ghost is Miles son from his cheating with Cousin Faith or with his wife from SVU 😂😂😂..

[@Nita_Vibes101]

Family like this love to tell you to “mind your business” when you’re funding their entire existence seemingly unaware that your money IS your business. Don’t want somebody in your business stay out of their pockets. Simple. You’re not going to marry a bum then stay in my face w/your hand out. Terri needed strong boundaries with them and a lot of distance.

[@PepperJade93]

I agree that Terri deserved so much better. The ONLY thing i feel she was wrong about was her lack of support for her husband. But on the flipside, i dont think anyone bothered to teach Terri how to embrace her "womanhood" outside of being educated and having a career. Like so many older siblings, Terri was pushed to be successful, while Max and Bird experienced a more laid-back upbringing. But Mama Jo came from that old school way of thinking that pushed "family over everything" with no regard for how it was actually causing a lack of accountability. She should have never sent the girls on a date together, which ultimately ended up in Maxine stealing her sisters boyfriend, and she should have been forthcoming about the money she had put aside, instead of guilting Terri into paying for everything. She also should have never put Faith off on Terri; any woman, young or old, knows that you do not allow the wayward tramp into a married womans home. And she should have never, ever enlisted the help of a child to handle adult matters.

[@Nita_Vibes101]

"A fish rots from the head” saying comes to mind here. Every problem she faced seemed to trace back to her mother. Her tendencies to prioritize her family, no matter how toxic, coupled with her 'pickmeisha' behavior, took a toll on her oldest. While I do believe her husband was wrong to withdraw so much money from their joint account, I also agree that she needed more support for his dreams. But considering the immense work load she had to juggle and take responsibility for, it's understandable why she was on autopilot and so rigid. This is how people like Terri learn to maintain order and prevent themselves from going insane with so much their plate. And 😂 at “wayward tramp”

[@PepperJade93]

Here here!!! And yes...I couldn't stand how Mama Jo just threw Faith off on Terri...meanwhile she's got a huge house; if Faith needed somewhere to stay that bad, she should have stayed at the big house...shoot, make a pallet on the floor. 🤣 Terri was right to get in Faith's behind about her mooching off HER mother, only to leave them high and dry. Faith had a motive to go for Terri's husband because she felt some type of way towards Terri. I don't understand how Terri didn't snatch Faith up by her weave and drag her through Max's house at that party. 🤣🤣 And we need to discuss how trifling Max was and how incredibly stupid Bird was. "Bird" was a fitting name for that character because she was truly a chicken head. 🤣 Who enlists the help of an ex to help your felon HUSBAND get a job? Whew baby...just a dummy. 🤣🤣🤣

[@AneaceJanel]

It’s the Brandy Apart playing in the background!!! Soooo fitting ❤

[@qu33niemonroe64]

This movie taught me never to bring your cousin around your man

[@aaronjohnson7175]

Or sister

[@qu33niemonroe64]

@@aaronjohnson7175 yes

[@taylorperry1799]

That part!!! I’m watching everybody!!!

[@Thechristianbolton1]

Terri really deserved better, friends and family be the main ones to turn on you. First it was her ex boyfriend, then her husband, her cousin, she couldn’t catch a break.

[@PineapplesCoconut]

Teri should’ve cut her losses with the family and bounced. She didn’t owe them anything. They’re grown.

[@TamESQ]

Big Mama was painted as the sweet mother, but truthfully… she was no better. She liked to think she was neutral when it came to her daughters, but she wasn’t. She didn’t have her oldest daughter’s back.

[@LoveMinnie1102]

1000% apt. If you’re the black sheep, there’s no other way out but NO CONTACT or VERY LOW CONTACT! Their energy is toxic and really stops your blessings! Move away from them and run! You will never regret it!

[@taylorwaylor8965]

I remember during the pandemic there was a black twitter thread that said big mama was the villain of soul food😂. And it’s true! She never intervened when her daughters were bickering , and always expected Teri to be responsible and mature which she has always been. Then they wanna look at her like she’s crazy after she has an emotional breakdown, shes literally been the backbone of the family even when big mama was ailing she was concerned about the bigger picture while everybody else got to lean on each other m. I would just think a positive movie resolution would be instead of Terri catching an”attitude” and leaving their lunch meeting her sisters should’ve let bygones be bygones intentionally listened to her grievances and then Bird would tell them she’s pregnant. But noooo Maxine still gets to be the “keeping it real” supportive and compassionate sister. Terri should’ve cut everybody else in the family except Ahmad who admired his auntie.

[@kekeb3521]

And now a word from jennifer Hudson took me clean out lmfao!!!

[@tamraanderson4710]

These are all such valid points!

[@KiaFlow]

Great breakdown. I couldn't quite put my finger on why I didn't like this movie as an adult and you explained so eloquently why. This was the joint when it came out (I was a 6th grader and had to cover my eyes on certain parts) but now that I'm grown... This movie is a horrible cult classic.

[@Jayyahu15]

Terri was the victim the whole entire time. Honestly, The whole family was using her and was living off of her but when Terri had enough and was tired of them using her. They painted her out to be stuck up arrogant for not helping them. But they never wanted help pay or do anything, Terri wanted to sell the house because she was drained from all the years of them using her, financially and mentally. Overall, Terri was the victim and needed to cut her family off. Big Mama enabled Terri’s mistreatment and painted it as Terri being big headed and stuck up because she had money and has a successful career, and big mama turned a blind eye to Terri’s mistreatment And abuse done by the family.

[@TamESQ]

Bingo!

[@onlyalisaawilliams]

Girl I was very young when this movie came out, and aa a young teen I knew it was a hot fu€king mess. This movie was targeted to Black women to continue to mule,, Straight BS

[@OGseoulite]

Although I’m the youngest of my family, I deeply resonate with her character❤

[@kaarinaMoongo]

Being a mother doesn't make someone smarter, which is why people should start to first consider if something is okay even if their parents do it

[@kayellejay9608]

Vanessa was really working that hairstyle. I've always been a big fan of hers. Great actress and singer. My mom is the Terri in my family. I also have a cousin that gets treated like this. It is so crappy when a black woman has money all their family members want to do is put their hand out expecting money.

[@aliliv9384]

I cape for her so hard 😔 I wish she would moved away from them and let them suffer.

[@Nurse_Shelly44]

This channel is validating!!!!

[@Morgan24_7]

I never really thought of her as stuck up, just tired. Some people really have the mentality of when ONE of you made it WE ALL made it. They then lean on that one person drowning them. If the shoe were on the other foot, they would feel differently. The reality is Terry was done wrong and expected to just get over it. People like Terry should pack their bags and move far away if they can. Let them do it all without you.

[@Nishamama]

The “We see each other comment” about Faith and Maxine 😂☠️☠️. It’s crazy how as a child, it seemed like Terry was stuck up/not a team player when the whole time she was successful, beautiful, logical, with the right amount of compassion, despite what her family did to her. Like you, I wanted to see Terri flip the script and marry a successful man, stack even more money while chunking up the deuces to them. I’m so happy most of us are starting to see and call out a lot of the toxic messages that were fed to us as kids.

[@robind7352]

Terri's family did her dirty!!! 👀

[@deebee476]

I am glad more people saw the movie the way I saw it. I was livid when I first saw this movie. I couldn’t stand any of that family. Teri needed to move out of state and never speak to any of them again.

[@DarkCircles698]

I love the repeated use of the "Fuck the family" clip. 😂😂😂

[@riritheedon8967]

Sis I’m so sorry that I missed this episode I was alarmed but girlllll I was on Terri’s side when I was 11 years old like I hated how they all treated her I would’ve cut my family off after that 🥺🥺❤️

[@draeblack5665]

Preach! The moment they asked her to pay for a wedding after paying for a business after paying off another house all so an ex con with no job, no money, a gun, and violent tendencies can get married and live rent free in the house shes paying for I would have went straight 90s and said talk to the hand cause i aint listening ✋️

[@jericamitchell4353]

Finally! This my favorite movie I always quote “F” the family! I loved all the ladies in the movie including FAITH 😂

[@ameshamonique]

Thanks for reviewing this movie. I hated it and didn’t understand why it was so popular. The mother and sisters were garbage and used Teri constantly. She should have left them in the dust.

[@mercurianmessengertarot8851]

First born here your broke it down so well

[@TititoDeBologay]

I'm my family Teri, except I'm the middle child which, imo, is worse😅. Her husband was really the 40 year old SoundCloud rapper before it zcen existed

[@GeorgiaPeach1984]

Teri should've walked away from her ENTIRE family because they wanted her to accept their cousin who slept with her husband.

[@TamESQ]

Exactly! She’d already gone through her sister stealing her man and now her cousin was boning her next man.

[@crystalsherman8896]

I'm new to your channel. I always felt than and now that Terri was constantly disrespected by her family. I can relate to her on a lot of the things she dealt with in her family

[@michaeljoshua3909]

you are brilliant, ICONIC!!! GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS

[@shadowone01x99]

This was really nice. Please, please do a review for these TV SERIES.... Single Ladies, Girlfriends, Harlem, Sistas and Soul Food.

[@thecosmicblueautie]

What's more is that on the tv series, Teri had to be made to suffer an anxiety attack. It doesn't truly end dealing with the family.

[@MissSimone02]

9:42 omg, I'm a recovering addict. Nearly 5 years sober, and my family LOVEEEE to bring it up in arguments. I remember one time i was told, "I'm tired of caring for addicts in this family." Meanwhile, I was working, had my own place, was giving them money frequently. It's so disappointing and disrespectful.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Congratulations on your sobriety I'm so sorry that your family is treating you like that

[@AngelKiii]

Videos like these really inspire me to finally start making my own content because I have so much to share and discuss, just subscribed! 🤗 But for now I’ll share a snippet. It’s crazy to watch movies like this now when you’ve matured a bit more, understand the world better, or have been through your own experiences, like myself. Between Soul Food, Tyler Perry’s Big Happy Family and This Christmas, the boujie, pretentious, and snappy sister archetype is so played out. The way they paint these black women out to be is awful, with the exception of Kelli in “This Christmas”, because I absolutely love her and she embodies a hard-working, accountable, and empathetic woman, who's a girls girl, which we love. Especially when we found out the trauma and turmoil characters like Kimberly & Terri went through growing up. It's astounding to still hear that they stuck around and helped provide for their families, which Terri did or no matter how limited Kimberly tried to make it, none the less they still showed up. Then to have a mother like both of them did, Big Mama and Shirley, who painted themselves as the victims, when they really were the embodiment of narcissistic and pick-me, women/mothers, had to be grueling and is ultimately the cause of the rest of their family members treating them the way they did. Loved this video and thank you for opening up these kinds of discussions! 💗✨

[@trickknight2496]

Love that your playing the butterfly album in the background 🦋🐑🍯

[@odesiacreates]

They def treated her like the black sheep smh

[@Mrs.buildingblackwealth]

They treated terri like crap. I dont know why byrd married Lem, no job no money,

[@JamaicaBrown-hv3bn]

I am the black sheep in my family. And I went through what Terri went through. My boyfriend married my big sister. Whenever i get paid they call me. I cant even get my parents to watch any of my children for more than an hour, matter a fact keep for a weekends but when it comes to my other sisters children they have no problem. I am basically Terri in real life.

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

Distance yourself from them sis. Best wishes.

[@cassiedaniels7855]

As far as you know I'm an ATM... Automatically Terri's Money That line...😢

[@theerealinfluence]

Can we get a deep dive on SHARPAY EVANS from High school musical !?

[@angelaholmes8888]

Great idea

[@kareem0525]

Aye u did the vid!! Here for this!🙌🏼❤

[@countessD84]

When the movie came out, I was rooting for the kid, I nearly believed in the whole "family over everything" narrative, and thought Teri was a stuck-up ice queen. As an adult, however, my views of her, and her family, have completely changed. It took a long time to realize Teri was the true victim of the whole movie. Her whole family was all-take-and-no-give, except for disrespect, ingratitude, and BS. The movie would've been better if it ended with Teri severing all ties with her toxic af family and husband, and move on with her life being free from their burdens. Justice for Teri, indeed.

[@ArtbyAyanna]

I rewatched this movie not too long ago (haven’t seen it since a kid). And I agree they did Teri bad!